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Contents Understanding anger Responding to difficult behaviour Managing conflict Solving problems
Overview This module will give participants skills for dealing with some of the difficult issues young people experience and the behaviours they might present, such as anger and aggression. articipants are encouraged to be better prepared to support young people by learning strategies to deal with these behaviours, such as managing conflict and solving problems. Duration This module is designed to be completed in !" to #$ minutes. Learning outcomes %y the end of this session participants will have a greater understanding of some of the difficult emotions experienced by young people, and the expression of those emotions through behaviours that may be encountered within the mentoring relationship. articipants will have the strategies and techni&ues to deal with these situations. Resources 'andout (.) * 'ow we express anger 'andout (.+ * Managing difficult behaviour 'andout (., * Managing conflict 'andout (.- * roblem solving
"ctivit# This module will give participants skills for dealing with some of the difficult issues young people experience and the behaviours they might present, such as anger and aggression. articipants are encouraged to be better prepared to support young people by learning strategies to deal with these behaviours, such as managing conflict and solving problems. .xplain that the key to dealing with difficult behaviour is to understand the reason behind it. /efine passive, aggressive, indirect and assertive behaviours 0'andout (.)1 Refer participants to 'andout -.) for more detail on these behaviours
Understanding anger
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Activity: Understanding anger 5sk participants to write the names of five people they know and identify how these people deal with uncomfortable situations and9or conflict 0i.e. are they passive, aggressive, indirect or assertive41
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(rainstorm session) Sometimes mentors have to manage a young person2s anger and the difficult behaviour associated with it. 3hat are some of the ways you would respond to a young person displaying anger4 5cknowledge responses and highlight other ideas on 6Managing difficult behaviour2 0'andout (.+1
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[Optional] Activity: Difficult behaviour role play /ivide participants into pairs and use the following statements in a role*play scenario. Suggest participants use the strategies detailed above in their responses. 0!ctivity continued next page1
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[Optional] Activity: Difficult behaviour in Groups :f your mentoring program involves group activities, ask participant to discuss or role play what they might do if two young people begin arguing.
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Managing conflict
(rainstorm session) 3hat are some of the advantages and disadvantages of conflict4 'ighlight any additional advantages and disadvantages from the handout. Review the formula for managing conflict 0'andout (.,1 :ntroduce the problem*solving model 0'andout (.-1
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*roblem solving
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Activity: Managing conflict and problem solving This activity aims to provide an opportunity to put into action learnings from the conflict* resolution and problem*solving handouts. /ivide participants into pairs to role play problem*solving scenarios using the following case study. =ne participant is the young person and the other the mentor. 0>%? this activity could be done as a brainstorm session if participants struggle with role plays1. .ncourage participants to use the conflict* resolution and problem*solving handouts to assist them. 0!ctivity continued next page& 0!ctivity continued1 Case stud#) !mina is #' years old and came to !ustralia from Somalia #( months ago. She lives with her mother and three younger brothers in a housing estate flat. )ne day her mentor meets up with !mina, who is very upset. She says that she and a friend got matching tattoos at the weekend and that her mother is very angry and wants her to leave home. !mina doesn*t want to leave, and really wants her mum to understand that she lives in !ustralia Module Six: Conflict management and problem solving now and that things are different here. She asks her mentor what she should do.
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Many people, including young people, are angry because they feel used or pushed around. 5nger has a real purpose in our lives but needs to be managed, not ignored. 3hen you experience anger, your body goes into a fight*or*flight response@ that is, you want to attack or run away. 5nger can be expressed through the following behaviours.
*assive be aviour
Some people escape by being passive. They ignore their rights or allow others to violate them. They don2t express their needs, feeling and ideas. They allow others to choose or make decisions for them. Many people become resentful or angry with themselves. assive behaviour reduces self*esteem and is less likely to earn the respect of others. :t may invite others to exploit or bully the person who is displaying passive behaviour.
"ggressive be aviour
5ggressive behaviour can be triggered by extreme anger or anxiety. 5 person may be standing up for their rights, but in doing so they attack others, violate others2 rights, or force decisions on them. Aollowing aggressive behaviour, a person may experience guilt about dominating or humiliating another person, and the aggressor2s self*respect diminishes. Bonstant aggressive behaviour leads to ineffective relationships.
"ssertive be aviour
5ssertive people stand up for their rights without attacking or violating others2 rights. They make choices and decisions and give others the same right. 'ealthy self*assertion does not mean forcing opinions or decisions on others, or vice versa. 'aving been assertive, people feel calmer and their self*respect and confidence grow.)
5dapted from M)+,! Mentor Training Manual, Moorabbin, Cictoria? South /irections ;outh Service.
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"dditional tactics
5n angry person usually needs and benefits from more personal space. %ody language needs to match verbal language. 5 relaxed stance says the mentor is listening and calm. .ye contact shows interest and attention but staring can increase anxiety.
Summing up
The ability to not take on other people2s issues enables mentors to step back from difficult behaviour. :t allows them to see the behaviour for what it really is, while assisting the other person to understand their own behaviour. The young person may be exploring their values and might experience some conflict while sorting this out. 5n important way the mentor can assist is to negotiate with the young person about how they will treat each other, and to keep consistent expectations about behaviour within the mentoring relationship. .oung people need to -now t at t ere are) clear and fair expectations, and definite limits about acceptable behaviour conse&uences for inappropriate behaviours sometimes disagreements within relationships, which also provide opportunities for understanding and honesty without hostility.
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! message 6: don2t like things being said about me behind my back. :t doesn2t make either of us look good. lease don2t do that again.2 6: want to be able to do it myself. :f : get it wrong, so what4 eople learn by making mistakes.2+
5dapted from M)+,! Mentor Training Manual, Moorabbin, Cictoria? South /irections ;outh Service.
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Disadvantages of conflict) people can become hurt people can become angry people can become confused it can be scary it can stop people taking risks.
%olton, R., )#J(. eople Skills: -ow to !ssert .ourself, /isten to )thers, and ,esolve Conflicts, Alorida? Touchstone %ooks.
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Define t e problem
%egin with wants. 3hat does the young person want4 :f it2s a big problem, it may need to be broken down into sub*problems that can be looked at one at a time.
Evaluate t e possibilities
Go down the list of solutions, noting the pros and cons and the probable conse&uences of each one. 3rite them down if it helps.
Select t e solution
.xplore whether one solution emerges as the best option. /oes one clearly have more pros4 #- .lan the solution .xplore who will do what and by when. 5re there resources needed4 3ho will get them and how4 &- !mplement the plan /o it. :f it works, great. :f it doesn2t, figure out why, and start back at whichever step you need to.-
Case stud#
5mina is )# years old and came to 5ustralia from Somalia )J months ago. She lives with her mother and three younger brothers in a housing estate flat. =ne day you meet up with 5mina and she is very upset. She tells you that she and a friend got matching tattoos at the weekend and that her mother is very angry and wants her to leave home. 5mina doesn2t want to leave, and really wants her mum to understand that she lives in 5ustralia now and that things are different here. She asks you what she should do.
5dapted from the 6Gippsland Mentoring 5lliance Training ackage2, Trafalgar, C:B? Gippsland Mentoring 5lliance.
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