a comic-strjp

memotr
about
being
a jolin
a comic-stci.p meft'loic
about being a john
CHESTER BROWN
DRA'WN k QYA&TER.LY
montreal
Also by Chester Brown:
ED THE HAPPY CLOWN (1989)
THE PlAYBOY (1992)
I NEVER LIKED YOU (1994)
THE LITTLE MAN (1998)
LOUIS RIEL (2003)
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Paying For It I Chester Brown.
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For Joe Matt.
He's a good friend
and a character
in -the following p g e s ~
but it's also appropriate
to dedkate this book to him
because
his au-tobiographical
comic-strips
were and are
an inspiration
for me.
Chester Brow.., is ..,ot of t..,is pta .... et. He iS prob01bfy
the of one of 01lien where they
Stick (A t"'eec;(Je il"' 01 ht.emDin WOWIDI...,'S G\bc:iome..., QI"!Ql
her. He is o. very advar1ceo ht.emo....,. YoCA
Ce>.n tell by o.t tf.,e photo of hiWJ. PAYING FOR IT
is e>. very e...,li9htenin9 book., o.s well as bein.!J enter
he is a very skillft.ol o.rtist ;.., wo.y. t..,
sure to MDIYIY people he's o. dry,. perso..., .
Notice how, throt.Agno&At the book_, his f01cial e)Cpres-
Sio.., is odwo.ys the His WYOCA'th is Q slit. He r'lever
his teet11, never 9ri..,s, ..,ever 9rimo.ces. TS,e
opposite of my portro.yo.ls of ..,yself. Chester Brow..,s
nelAtro.lity ;"" the world is_, in MY ctCAite
o.(;(.-nirOible. As JeSlAS so.'icl., "Be QS passers by.,
His o.rg&Aments for tl-te c01se in of t.enregt.c-
JOt.teoC. prostitt.ction seem er1tirely co9ent to ,.,e. W..,ose
busiYleH is it ;f 01. wome>.t"l WOI.r'ltS to cho.r9e tor sex ?
His prese..,t01tior1 of "" the uSIAOII argtA,.,.,ents "'9ai.., s t
prostittAtion 01ncA his to the..-n iS very effec.tive.
He s""ows the>.t the anti-prostitLAtio.., Qrgc .. u\o'1ents Dire all
bo.Hol OYl eit-1-ter the olot religious WJorodity
or knee-jerk libero.l> hG\If-bG\keol o.bo"'t pros
All the SMDirt 1-tool<ers I've know.., roH their
eyes in c:iesp01ir "'t liber-011 c:io-9oo<l(er.s' "tte,....,pts to
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INTRODUCTION
y ...... ""V -- v v "
" refo..-..,.... " tne ....... Not tno.t I've ever 1-lo..o( sex witn o.
pros t ittAte m yself. I've o.lwo.ys been t oo tiMid to try
it, 0"\'\Y sextAality is too quirky o.noC odd. It
.-,eeds o. s peciod t y pe of woma.., to o.ccept the w01.y I
o.m> or like the wo.y I o....,., , lrt tho.t Ches ter
Brown' s sexv.01/ &es ires 5ee. t"YY q_'-1ite " norm01f>" " MOR"
( ,.,.,;QlcHe of the roo..cJ. ). It' s 9reo.t the. wo.y l-Ie shows>
t-1-trotA9h the he o. re01f co..,..,oi$St'1Ar
;.., the wodcJ. of professio,.,o.l sex workers. All the ir1>telli-
9e..,t ,.,e.., I've knovv"' wl-to p01tt"o..,;zeo( prosti ttAtes
;.., thi s wo..y. So me were mo.rriec:i,,
some wet'"e. bo.chelors. DicJ..., 't mo.ke o.ny o(;ffere.,..ce.
The icle01. of me..-. poo.ying for sex is repello.l"'t to
the WOmOin> 0. thre01t to noi'Yie> foo.W?ily 0\.., Q(>
yes> the ideo.! of roMo..ntic love. The oo.vero.9e w o ...,o..,
rYitASf" bel ieve o.lf the .,e9o.ti ve .stori e s 01nd ;o(eo.s
p rostittAtio.., , BtAt oo.s Chester- poi .,t.s SLArely there is
o.s m'-t c h sorcAic( beho.vior o.wto"'9 mo.rriec:;( cotAples o.s
ta.,et'"e is ;.., tJ-te worl o( of prostitt-4tiot1. A"'d the n too_. so
mo.l"'y of the pro b I e..,.,s tho. t p/o.9u e pros ti'ttA t es o.re the
res..,.lt of society's scorn for the.., > to tne e x tent t'"ro.t ...
0\S the book shows> m",.,Y of theM ho.. ve to keep tl.,e; r
"wor k " o. secret_. eve.-, fro,., their fri e"'o(s, I h01d o.
f e m e f r i e., c:i who,. o.., e ., i 9 h t o. t d i n .., e r, c o., f e ss e d
H101t s he h01c::( c:io.,e "' e scort work for yeo.n,
LAI"'bek,.,ow..,st to her frie.,o(s_. o..nc::( I obs er vec:;( tho.t
everyone tho..,.3ht of her o. bit c;l;fferently thC'It,
Worne.., thoLA9ht less of her> I t1oti cecl,. o.s if she'Clf
co.,fessed to h"vi1"19 bee.., ;..,volved in so...,..,e sort of
c. rirni.,OII oo.ctivity. sowte of the ""' > then con s io(ereot
hero. loose wom01n,. fo.ir for coo. Sc.Ao.l sex .... o.l
coW'Ie-o., s. It ttArr,e.d o"t> ;.., f01.ct, th01t she wo.s o.
S('X'-4011 WOMOII'\ wJ.,o dic:J ho.ve Wl0\1'1Y COIS'-10.1
01ff01irs with me,. Bc..tt yoc..t c01n ..,ever tell o. book by
i t s cover > o"' tJ.,e S'-'rface s l-, e w01s "' s hy> ..,.,oc::(est ...
Se.lf-effo. ci "'S woMOin. You never wo..,.Jd' ve suspected
t&.,o..t s he'(;( ever been "' professio..,o./ sex work(>Y.
she rnovec:;( o'-tt of the o.re01. Al,.,ost oo.l( her
fe...-..01.le o.cq_c..tOiinfOirJces i rtcre01si n9/y s h..,...,..,ec::( 1-,e,.- o.s 01
"slc...ct " ""'o( "' home-wrecker> thotA!Jh sJ.,e see....,eot t'-te
n ices t Olno( sweetes t persot1> C.Or'ISC iE' r'ltioi.AS-1 no.rc:A.workio1!:J.
It wo. s "'' tc.Ao.lly. lo.ter_. we leo.r..,ed tho.t s he
beco..n-te 01 surro301te c.hild-be01rer for Some we01lt&.,y
DtA...,..,o who.t be co. me of her o.fter tho.t.
Well> enou9J.,. PAYING FoR IT is o. 9reCllt boo k ,.
rYtOiybe Chester 8ro"'m' s best wor-k to c:l01te.
R. ( rtAn'"lb
Febri.Ao..ry 201/
vi
I live. in TorOY1tO, So I ori9i..,G\IIy 9oin9 to begin
foreword by (QnG\oo.'s prostifc...ttio.., lo.ws,
btAt o. recent cotArt n.ding ho.s left the fo.te of those
lo.ws They I'YIO.Y or ..,o.y t1ot be cho.nging.
This is wi-IG\t ti-le le9G\I sitLAo.tion wo.s like d1AI"in9 the
cove yeo( by this me..,..,oil": "01Atccd("
wo.s le9AI - - tho.t .sex-workers were o.llowed to 90
to (). john'.s home or note I room. "11Co.ll" pro.stit IAtio..,
wo.s sex-workers were not o.llowed to work
OIAt of o. specific. loco.tion. They work i"'
brot'-lels, or OIAt of their ho...,.,es, or rent
to work in, Whe., the police ""' inco.ll loco.t io.,,
Q.nyone foLAf"\c;{ in there cotAid be o.rresteo( --
o.not t10I'Iprostit1Ates. In orO.er to d isc.o tArG\se s treet-
wc-lkers, there WC\S o.lso C\ l01w forbiotdin9
relo.teGI( solicitG\tion in ptAblic..
In 'this book I rec.orc{ every tii"Y''e I pG\icA for .sex lAp to
the en& of 2003 c-nc( every prostitAte I've ho.& sex with
si11ce tJ.,en.
Q""ite o. few of tJ.,e sex- worker.s I spe..,t time witn
opened lAp to me G\nd tolol me aboCAt tJ-teir fG\milie s,. their
c.hi/&hooc(s, their boyfrienots, o.no( other c-speds of their
lives. I wish I ho.c( the freecioi'Yl to ;..,c/tAde tho.t n1aterial
iYl tne followi..,9 pQ9es - - it woulol have bro1.A9ht- ti-le
wome"' t-o life QS f-<11 hLAmcvl bei..,9S ancl I'Yiac:le this a
better book. I'm o.SSCAI'l'1iY13 that o.ll of tl-1em wat1t to keep
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FOREWORD
sec..ret tl-te sex-for--money po.rt oF the;r- lives, so I
refro.il'1eol from pLAttins in per.sor1o.l tl-lo.t cot.Aio(
P-ote.r1tio.lly reveo.l their identities if o. frieno(,
fo.mily lover, or G\cqt...co.into.nce were to reo.o(
this memoir. When I snow HteWI giving deto.ils o.boi.At
tJ.,eir lives, the cieto.ifs o.re eit-her trivio.l or o.bout
mo.tters relo.teo( To their work -- the lo.tter being
you preSLAmo.bly woulo(n't tell fo...,..;/y G\nol fr-ieno(s who
diolr1't kl'tow yotA were o. prostitLAte , TI-le opi niol"' s I
the sex-workers pv.ttir19 forti, o.re pretty cowu,.,o..,. Ar1y
of the more id i o syncro.t ic views they express eo( to me,
I've. lt'.s o. sho.Yne -- I felt genLAine ().ffec.tion
for of these wome..., o.nd reo.lly wish tho.t tl-1is
no.Yro.tive 9o.ve o. better sense of their persor1o.li"ties.
The no.mes the prostitt..cte s we.,t by were all fo.ke .. of
C.o\Arse..,. bLAt I've c::ho.n9ec:i those ,.,o..,.,es even tney
cotAict be potentiaiCy reve01lir19. For exo.mple_. o. womc,,...,
mi9ht choose G\S her work-no.me the Vlo.me of "'
o.ctress she resembles, or tl-te no.me of o. fo.volArite
fie tiono.l ch01ro.c te ..-.
Alfowin9 for some cie.9ree of co.rtoon ex"9sero.tion>
l've cAro.wn Their bodies o.cctAro.tely, or as acciArCAtely o.s
my meYY?ory 0\llows. I 1-ro.ve odtereo( of their
boc;(ies if they coulo( potentio.lly reveo.l G\n identi ty--
for instCAVICe, I didr1't olr01w o.ny of the to.ttoos or
unust.to.l piercin9s tho.t some of them ho.d. I've ofiten
cnan9ed their ho.ir- Styfes, pc::.YticLAfG\rly if the hG\ir WG\S
C\rt'"011'19ed in o. distinctive wo.y. While yotA'd r"'ever k...,ow
it fro.-n my dr01win9s, some of these workin9-9irls olio(
howe. blond 1-Jo.ir. ( whether or not they were n<llttAra.l
blondes is C\ different mat"ter-.) I so.w womer1 of
VClriOI.A.S ethnic bo.c::k9rotAnc::h, b .... t I'Wl c::hoosin9 to not
ir1clico.'te who wo.s white_. or blo.ck, or hetd. another
skin co/otAr.
While I've n?colAnteo( the o.11d. conversatioi"'S
th01t lAp this 9rC\phic r1ovel in "' mo.n..,er- tn<llt's.
fo.ithf .... l to my memoYies, yotA snotAiol keep in
'tho.t me...,ory is r'IO't precise. I wot.Ald often
!;,er +1-te 9iSt of "' (0"1VerSCA'tion I with 0. frieno(
b"'t not where or whe,... it or wh01t we weYe
G\t the time. I kept "' recoro( of whe.., I saw -the
so I co.n VoVIch for the of -tJ:..tose
olo.tes .
1'..,_, 'to SOlve n"'OSt of W'1Y for Hte
o.fterworc:l, b .... t CAp-front here I do wo.11t to th01r1k The
CanC\ola (otAI'tcil F"or The Arts for 9eneroLASiy o.ssisti'n9
me fi...,OIVJc.iodly while I wrote C\nd drew this work.

B,-oW"7
t>ecel'\'1ber 2.010
viii
1
I love you as much os
ever; ond. I'm sure I'm
always 90in9 to love
you> bt.t1" . I 1-hink
l'wt falli1'19 in love
wi-th someo"'e
e lse.
CHAPTER 1
No. 1... at this poin-t I
jtAs t Wc;\nT t'o dQ'te hin'l.
I don''t even know if
he' ll be in-terest-ed
in wte.
I I hQven'-t
said onythin9 'to h ; ,.,...
yet. I don't i f h e's
9oin9 'to feel the
same Wc;\y or
not'.
And even ;f I do
end lAp (;\ sextAa I
rel(;\tionship witJ., hin'l,
I do.-,.t if that wi II
mec;\n I'll wan't to
stop hG\vin9 sex
with YOtA.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
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I love li vin9 with
you too. I'm so 9 l01d
I CQn be honest with
you 01bouf" 'tnis
sort of
stuff.
I didn' t say I feel goocf
01bout it, but I dont fee l
b01cl 01bout it.
You' re not
Qngry or
jealous or
anything ?
I'm feeling l;ke my
norm01 I, conf"en"t,
all- is-well- wi'th-
the- world
self.
No one feels '3ood when his
girlfriend 'tells him tha't
she's fallen in love with some
other '31.AY
Maybe th01t"
me01nS yo u
don' t really
love her.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
We' re perfectly suited
'to eo.cn other. She's 'the bes-t
9irlfriend I've ever nod.
Plus .. I find her enorrYtOtAsly
sextAo.l ly ottroctive -- o.lt-hOCA'3h
I'll -thor we ... rorely
hcwe sex onymore.
tho.t's not becouse MY
desi re h o.s dimin ished.
5
Just the foci" thot Sne WOIS
oble to tolk to me obotA't this
shows how much trtAst o.nol
openess there is between us.
Sne h01sn''t stG\rl"ed
hG\ving sex wit-h this
9lAY ye't, right" ?
I 01lrnost wenl" out" of my
mind wit-h je01lousy when
Kris StG\rt"ecA se)(
wii"h someone else ofter
w,e broke up.
CHAPTER 1
6
When they start
hG\ving THAT'S
when yOI.Ar je01lousy
will kick in.
And lot.Aise ho.d sex with 01
few other gc.Ays while we were
going ou't -- I definit-ely
fel-r jealous t-hen.
It's really horol I
don't" WQnt" -to send Justin
home in it--
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
- - G\nol ... well ... do you.
mind if he spends -the
night- here ?
Are yot..t st..tre ? This won't-
you. or anv-th i ""'3 ?
You.'re going t-o be able
to deal with i"t ?
Hey nice to mee-t yot.A.
lhGtnks for bein-:3 cool abou.t
me s"tGtyif'l9 the ni9h"t.
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CHAPTER 1
6
It acttAodly
wasn't terrible
a1" all.
~ A t you must
nave been
emo1"iol"'ally
devas'toted.
No. I'll admit I'm 0\ little
StArprised, because in similar
situations in the pas-t I HAVE
bee.,.. jealous. But not -this
time.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
If o.ny-thin9, I fel-t 90od. I've
never t-hou9nt of jeo.lousy os
o. positive emot-ion--
--well, i1' felt like I'd conctuered
some-thin9 ne9o.tive within
myself.
Jeo.lou sy is no-t no.tt.Aro.l -- its
lea,-ned beho.viot.Ar .
... so Sook-Yin osked me if it's
oko.y if Justin moves in o.nd
I soid
yeo.h.
9
-- so when I wo.s lyin9 tnere
listenin9 -to those sou.,ds. omd
I reo.lized I wo.sn't jeG\IOt.AS --
Bud it's not no.-turG\1 to no-t
feel jealous when something
like 1"ho.1" nG\ppens.
And you're 9oin9 to
c.ontinue t"o live tnere ?
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The three of yo!A
li ving in one
?
Who.t punishment ?
I'm no-t in o.ny
wo..y s ufferin9,
o..nd 1"11 be
so.ving money.
When -this whole Jt.es"tin "thin9
sto.rt"ed, didn'-t Soak-Yin brin9
up the possibili-ty -tho."t YOIA
t-wo might conTinue to ho..ve
se.xuG\1 reiG\"tionship?
tO
It's o. big plo.ce -- it
ho.s two bedrooms.
rYly
of the rent will
<30 down.
FreAdio.n nonsense.
If I'm no1"
CONSCIOUSlY
sufferin9,
then l'I'YI no-t
suffering.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
No, and I 'm pre tty sure that,
sexually, things are completely
over b e tween u.s.
living <All together in the SG\me
opartrne nt is a c tuolly greG\t".
I get- "to hear oil of 1"neir
"'rgurnents.
u
l'...n becoming more ond more
convinced -thot I never want
to have a girlfriend
ever again.
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Just you con
Sook-Yin Justin fi9hting ?
But EVERY couple fi9nts.
Before Justin entered tne
picture, Sook-Yin and I argued
like every other romarrtic
couple. Now we get alon9
great-.
For instonce, now I C<:;\n t<:;\t k
to her o.bout finding other
worn e..,
Gt"ttrG\ctive.
-- bu"t now were
not involved, thot's not"
threo.'tening anymore. We
con t01lk obout
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lheres no lo,..ger anyt"hin9 to
seriously arque about. f
just enjoy nG\nging out with
her os o friend.
A yeor o.go she would h<:;\ve
flipped out in o jealous
if I'd soid some other womon
was beautiful--
Now it's Justin who hG\s to
wotcl-1 l-lis tongue. 8ein<:3 the
friend iS better than
being the boyfriend.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
look a"t you G\nd. YYle -- we
ge-t along WG\Y better G\S
friends th01n we did G\S a
-- bv.t thQt
yeG\r you
were "'Y
girlfri end.
WOIS
hell.
romantic
couple.
It's SOI'rlet-ning "'bout the
of rom01nt-ic. love.
look o.t- how you fough-t-
with your last
boyfr ienc:A.
It 1-u"ppens even wit-h
nice people. 5oo#<-Yin
01 wonderful,

generous
person --
I hope. yov
dont I'Yiind me
SOiying SO --
I don' t think This ho.s
anyThing to do with
l'Y'IG\turity or lack of it.
Neither of you had
the excuse of being
eighteen.
-- bvt being in "' rom01ntic
rel01tionship brings up oall
her insecuri-ties.
l't does for
EVERYONE-- me
too.
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The people I've behQvecl
-the worst- to were my
girlfriends. E&\ch of you.
sow me &lt my
me&\nest Qnd
pett-est.
lonely ? No-t o.t all. I live
with Sook-Yin C\ncl Justin,
ond I'I"Yl C\IWC\YS h&\n9in9
OUT with
you C\ncl
Se-th Qncl
Joe.
I used to occept- -tha"t as
-tr-ue, but not- anymore.
Frie.,d'ship l ove and fC\mily
love con be 01s
fulf;I,Jinc:J as
romC\nTiC
love.
THAT'S tr-ue. But Qren' t you
lonely? It's been almost 01
yeQr since you C\nd
Sook-Yin
broke
up.
Our- cultt.Are pushes this
idea tho-t romC\n-tic love is
somehow more si9nificon"t
th01n other
fon.-.s of
love.
In the lon9 run they're
probC\bly uSuC\IIy MORE
ftAif;lling.
I've been thinkin9
about why I even
ever wo.n-ted to
ho.ve 9irlfriends.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
Aside fron-t love, -there were
three reG\SOnS why I wo.nted
-to hcwe gir-lfriends.
Two: I liked the ego-boost of
h01vin9 G\ WOn-tOin wo.nt to
hG\ve tho.t sort- of exclusive
reiGttionship with n-te.
You could nQve o ne-night
s-to.nds wit-h str01nqers or
something like -th01t.
I've only ever hG\d sex
with women I've been
romo.n"tico.lly involved
wit-h .
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One: it's
sociGllly expect ed -- guys
don't h01Ve 01re
considered t"o be losers.
Bu-t you don't- hG\ve
to hcwe 01 9irlfriend
-to h cwe
sex.
I don' t ho.ve the soci01l skills
necessary to pick up women
for CG\Suo.l sex.
So does ThQt meo-n you're
going -to be celibo.te for the
res t of your life?
CHAPTER 1
I've goT TWO COWipe"ting
desires - - ti-le desire -to nQ.ve
selC, vers us Ti-le desire to
NOT tlG\ve a girlfriend.
Mo.ybe at some point my
l-lorniness will drive me to
despercrte measures a,.,d I'll
be for ced l"o get anotner
9irlfriend.
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B"'t I'm noT -thQ.T despera-te
ye-t. For t"ne momenT I'm
enjoyin9 being single Too
mucn 1"0 9iVe in TO what
my penis wanTs.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
He's movin'3 ou-t? If you wo.n"t
ner bo.ck} here'S your d1o.nce.
Whether you've been waitin'3
for it Or no't, why not seize
'the opportunity now th01t" i t's
here ? 5ook-Yin's good-
lookin9 you love her.
BtAt the boyfrie..,d gets l01id.
Which iS more impor-tant:
sex or ovoidin9
fights?
t7
You think I've been living
wi-th Sook-Yin o.nd Just in
co.tAse I' ve been waiting
for rny chance ?
I'm enjoying being her friend.
Someone else can ho.ve t-he
boyfriend role.
H01vin9 01 girlfriend doesn'-t
mean you. ho.ve c;,uaron"teed
access to sex ort any a..,d
0111 times.
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Usw:.lly -there's G\ loT of sex
G\T beginning of -the
re/01-tionship -then it
drops off G\fter tho;t.
Even ort the end of otAr
reiG\tionship, 01nd I
were still n01vin9 sex
all -the time.
Even if yov.'re mosT
mG\rried people are s-till
howin'3 sex SOME of "the
time -- yov.re no't hG\ving
sex at G\11.
OkG\y, yov:ve '301" o. point. BuT
Sook-Yin wov.ldn't wG\nT to
9e1" romo.ntic01lly re-invol ved
'Wi"tn me G\nywG\y.
18
The longer <A couple has been
Toogether, -the tess sex
they're nG\Ving.
Tt-een yov. 9uys were the
except-ion. ThG\t's not now i"t
works for most- couples. As k
any mG\rriec:i '3V.Y
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
Ho.nd me the pro9ram,
J o e ? I wo.n"t "to see
who else iS o.ttending
"the conven-tion.
Why are Plo.yboy
Playma-tes
at-tending o.
comic- book
convenTion?
s.-.es no"t o. Plo.ymo.te.
She's posed for P/o.yboy bur
they've. ne ver put her in the
centre-fold. I don't know why
not -- she's c:30rgeous.
19
Where d id I plAT my program ?
I can' t find it.
Is there a picture
of her in +here ?
Let me see.
CHAPTER 1
Oh! There's Alley
booth --
there sne is.
lheres o si9n thot
what's soin9 on .... For fif-ty
she hu9s you, a
poloroic( iS
she si9ns it.
Bu-t let be rnortifiec(
if Qnyone me
doing it.
20
What's going on? line-up of
guys ... she's ntAgging 01:
9tAy ... ...
Why d.o I to my
picttAre taken with ner ?
I've 90t lots of photos o-F
ner
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
No, it's not the phot-o th01t
wG\nt - whG\t I reG\IIy WCllnt
to get next" to her.
I wonder now
much prost it-utes
cho.r9e?
l'rfl not" 0'3ellinst the
icleG\ of po.ying for sex.
Anti- prostitution
hG\ve never m01de
sense to me.
21
I'd. be p01yin9 f;ft"y dotl01rs
to hove ner put her o.rm
01round me. Am I tno"t
d.esperellte for ell womelln's
'touch?
For ellnother fifty-or -so
I could prob01bly p01y
01 prostittAte.
The mG\in reellson why hte
never been with G\ hooker is
because I wells worried th01t
it would ruin my chellnces
with G\ future g irlfri e nd.
CHAPTER 1
I'm o secretive pe rson -- if
I ever whored I wouldn' t be
oble to keep it to n1yse.lf.
Okoy, tnot wos 01 re01son
-the p01s t , blA"t now I'm
plonnin9 on no-t h01ving
onother gi rlfriend.
Thot's not 01 900d reoson .
I shouJdn'-t care whot other
people tni nk.
22
I'd hove to tell people lm
close to, and thot wotAid
inc/lAde ony future. 9idfrie.nds
I mi-:tnt no.ve.

Two yeors 01f-ter bre01king
lAP with Sook-Yin, why om
I still not" po.yin9
for sex?
Becouse worried o.bou"t
now it'll look to people -- I 'm
worried thot I'l l look
like o. loser.
MY LAST GIRLFRIEND
How it even work ?
Most who pick up
streetwQikers hQve
Since I don'-t how
would I 90 i+ ?
Anci then +here's the risk
lel solicit Q femQie cop
dis9uised QS a streetwol ker
and shed Qrrest me.
No, it's Qll too much - - I'll just
have to do without sex.
Z3
zs
Do you. m i nd if
1 ,.eG\o t-hG\ -t DG\n
SG\VG\9e book I
bou.9ht you. ?
CHAPTER 2
A 21 yeo.r- olol '3UY who's o
virgin QSI<S to go obout
nirin9 0 --
" Moke on oppointment to meet
i n G\ G\gree o.ble
locG\tion".
He mokes it sound
so SirYiple Qnol
str o.iqhtforword.
Moybe I SHOULD
poy for sex.
P;ckil"''3 up a s treetwG\Iker
would moke more
se..,se - - let be .uo--.-'
0
G\ble to see
if I find her

26
- - o.nd Don odvises hirYI to
phone on escort and "o.sk
wnG\t her
hou.rly
ro.te
iS".
' ' She'll know who.t yoiA want,
al"'d she'll know what to do.
Be respectful> let lead,
u s e condoms,.
ond tip the

BtAt escort ods don't hatve
P.hotogropns. How would I
know ;f o
porticCAiar
escort
i5 good-
looking
or
I"'Ot?
.
Okoy, I'm
determined - -
I'm
going to go
out ond
look for
nooker.
CARLA
I' ll leo.ve my wo.tlet here o.+
nome so f don'-t lose o.ny of
cords. I'll just plAt -the
money
in my
pocket.
Maybe I didn't brin'3 enough
money. Who.t if I'm supposed
"to po.y for o. hote I room too ?
21
how mtAch money I
sho<.Aid hrin'3 ?
I'll brin9 200
d o l l ~ r s Who.'t
if I 9e-t
robbed?
It's nine -- it's
surely +here
o.re
some
9irls
workin9
now.
200 dollo...-s probo.bly isn't
enOIA'3h for time wi-th o.
prostitute AND
for o hotel
rOOP'Yl.
CHAPTER 2
Well, I've o.lso
0..-t jQrViS
Street --
I'll Try
tnere.
leT me think .... When I wo.s
90in9 out wi-th louis e there
were olw01ys nookers
no.n9in9
ner opo.rtrnei"'T
buildin9 by
Co.dton
Street.
No one's tho.t
opo.rtrnenT buildin9. W!'l01t's
9oin9 on ? This iS werd.
28
... G\nd. I don't see o.ny
streetwo.lkers.
Workin9- 9irls olso ho.ng out
fortner eQST on Corlton in
CG\bbo9etown. Tho-t's Seth's

CARLA
ltei be emb01rro.ssin9 if he
wo.lkec:A by while I wo.s
nego"tio.tin'3 something, but-
l'm n.tnnin9 out of
op-tions.
Nope, no streetwodkers
i..-t C01bbo.9et"own.
lets to.ke o. closer look
o.t the escort o.ds.
29
Mo.ybe police pressure ho.s
driven them into other
nei9hborhoods. Mo.ybe
there wo.s o. r ecent police
cro.ckdown. Or mG\ybe I'm
just" too e01dy.
CHAPTER 2
I hcwe n'T Sook-Yin
I 'm -thinking of doing
this, s o I wouldn' t
coall- gid coming
-to OlAr
house.
Mo.ybe they
keep
of who's
po.yin9 for
sex. nr
CGIII fro""
Q po.y-
phone.
lO
I'll
to co.ll
o.ds tno.1"
so.y " in".
ShotAic( I CGIII
Who.t if the
cops ptAt
Glds
i n the
papers to
flu.sn
ou-t the
j o hns?
-
CARLA
5CAW YOIAr'" CAd, and f'rn
wonder-in9 l1ow much
YOIA chorge.
BlAt I
thG\t

It
SO lAnded
like I
decided
no-t to
see ner
beCOIIASe
of her
G\qe..
31
And
wher-e is
yoiAr --
where
ore yoLA
locO\ted?
I'm very ClttrC\cti ve -- 5- 6 --
pounds -- 35- C, 24-, 36.
ThG\-t tne tr ... tn,
why her feel bod
bein9 28?
CHAPTER 2
I'm beo.utiful
blonc:A - - very
sensuous --5-3--
36- D, 25, 37.
I hope
you don't
mind if I
G\Sk how
much you
wei9h
and how
old you
are.
By endin'3 with the
looks like I'm cheo.p
tho.n like
I didn' t
find her
description
of herself
appeo.ling.
32
Not o.t o. l l -- I'm
'2 3 o.nd wei'3h
130 pOI.Ands.
Hi St.e2y. I
SG\W your
acJ, and I'I'Yl
wonderin9 if
you could
give ....,e o
description
of
yourself.
130 sounds
like a bit
ynucrh for
Soi'Yleone
who's
5 - 3.
Yeoh,
+hot's the
better
way
to do
it.
CARLA
Would you l;ke
to he<Ar <About
them?
Could you o. l so
descr i be Carl o
f o r m e?
1'1\ay be I can trY. to 9 ive you
o. description from memory.
Let-s see ...
un ... 1
actuG\ Hy
haven't
r eG\IIy
met
Co. ria
yet.
workin9 later today.., but
we have several other beautiful
Sur e ... hold on a second ... I'm
S1Apposed. to heAve a wri tten
clescr;ption
of . . .. Where
iS i t?
Vlh . . .
She just s-tarted working here,
but I clicl see her brief I y
yes 'te rd ay.
She's very
beautiful,
in her
early
twenties,
I t hink ...
CHAPTER 2
We're in luxury condo
j __ and W_. There
I
bedrooms,
each
one has
its own
bathroom.
Whoever runs this place
probably tries to hire
women.
Oko.y> Co.rlo. see you at
three o'clock. Would you
l;ke to be with her
for hour?
And
it'S 120
for
half-
hour
and
200
for

hour.
And where are you.
locat"ed. and. how
n'HACh do you
c.harge?
A luxury condo .. ..
MaY.be at a brothel
like this there's
some kind of
"quality control".
Are you sure ? You'll hcwe to
to see her-- the other
91rls
ri9ht now.
Only your first is
needed, S-teve. you
been here before?
I'm $Orry. There must be
some mix- up. She won'T be

tAntil '+'30.
WotAicl you
l;ke to see
someone
else

CARLA
Okay, 90 to J_ and w_ a-r
three. There's a
there.
us
from
that

phone.
Why does it 'to be THIS
Do they kee p
an eye on
it 50 tho.'t
they can
size up
the johns
?
We have
I
other
girls
working
here.
Hi, this is S-teve - - I
h o.ve an opP.oin-tmen't
to see Carlo? I'm oi'
the corner of
J_ a nd
w_.
No, I wcu'l-t 1'o see
Carla. I'll wait
till lf:30 ..
Go to 3_
s __ . The
e ntry
code iS
583-6.
CHAPTER 2
36
No, my bike's in the other
direction, 01nd by H''le tin'le
w01lk b01ck to it" Qnd 9et it
lAnlocked I
COlAid be
..,OIIfWOIY to
s_.
CARLA
Wh01t if 01 bunch of 9t.AYS
are in the o.p01rtmen"t
o.nd "they mug
me?
/ ---
C2J u
/
Do.n So.vo.qe so.id "to "til). I
wonder how muc.n ? Ten
percen-t wot.'ld be 12
20 percent-
would
be
l't.
But I probably shouldn' 1" ge"t
my nopes up. lnis n"li9h"t
be o. reG\IIy
dis01ppoin"tin9
experience.
'51
CHAPTER 2
Hi Steve. We're on the
third floor. When you
9et t h e r e ~ there's o
locked door- with a
ntAmber- po.c(.
I'm sorry--
third floor:,
press S-6-J-2,
apo.r'tment
3-0-6.
5-6 1 2> then 90 to
oportmen't
306.
CARLA
There's
1-he
door
with
1-ne.
niA"'ber-
pQd.
CHAPTER 2
0
4-0
I wonder ;f she's new to
workin'3 as 01 prostiTute or
if she' s just new to this
particc..lar . . . I gues s this
is G\ brothel .
CARLA
41
Uh, G\ref"''i' yov.
forgetting
sornet,.,ing?
Damn -- I should nave hG\d
t,.,e money alreG\dv counted
al'\d set aside s o I wot.tldn't
be. fu..,...bling
G\round
in l'l'lY
wallet
like
this.
CHAPTER 2
Okay,. jus-t
make yourself
cow.fort-able.
I'll be ~ c k
soon.
M()ybe.
I shoufd
/e()s-t
tG\ke
off my
shoes.
CARLA
yourself

Does thot
meon I' m
supposed
-to -toke
my
clothes
off?
whQt if somethin9
nopP.ens Qnd I hQVe to
run? No:. ru
keep my
shoes on
for the
moment.
Does this
count QS
port of my
nQif- hour?
CHAPTER 2
Wow -- tho.t's so r1eo.t. I
co.r-toons. Do you meo.n,
on T-V ?
YotA write your stuff too?
You must
.o. I've been -told
mo.gnG\-t.on.
So> whG\t" kind of comics do
you dro.w ? 5ttAff like
o.nd
Bo.tmon?
So> would you
off with o
mo.sso.ge?
WritinSJ o.nd
dro.wing for o
living is greG\1".
Oko.y. Well> lets
COWiforto.ble
t-hen.
Who't would
like ? Me
o n the
botto....,?
CARLA
Should I
toke my
glo.sses
off? It's
going to
be weird
le Gwing
tnem
on> but
I wo.nt
"to see
wnot's
hoppenin'3.
CHAPTER Z
Let me puT
o l ittle
Astro9lide
on you.
104 forgo-tten how
omozin9ly f300d
it feels to
hG\ve sex !
B ~ t I've only
been i n her
obout ten
seconds !
Tl1iS NEVER
noppens --
1 At.WAYS
hut
lon9er
when I
weG\r G\
condom!
46
u ~ o h -- it feels TOO
90od! I'm obout
to come!
- - o c.er t oin omoun"t o f
couro9e to do this work --
you never know w hoT kind
of 9UY will
show
up --
CARLA
--blAt on the here
it suddenly occurred to .,.,e
thGlt you guys are in the
same position
we Glre.
Like, what if there's <3UY
hidin9 in the
who'll 'I'Y'Iuq or -- I don't
know -- tS,.,ere are all sorts
of
poss ibilities.
Why sne say ?
Could she tell now
nervous I
was whel"'
I showed
tAP.? Can
sne tell
it's my
first
tiYne

A tip? 40
dolfars ?
It's no-t
necessary --
You don'-t
have to
give I'Yle
anything
extra.
47
YolA don't know
kind of you
might be
into.
guts to walk
into a like
this.
I want" to.
thou-:Jh' I
didn't
very lon9
I was
totolly
1-laP.PY
with the
whole
experience.
CHAPTER 2
You.'r-e 01n 01n9e I -
"th01nks so
l'l'ltACh. I
just rnoveci
01nd th01t
eats up
money .. so
this will
really
come in
n ~ n c l y
Ar-e
you
goin9
to
come
see
me
again?
CARLA
I'm SCA.r-e, but you won't
know whcxt they're like
wnen you first cont<llcT
them--
H1<llnk you. Now
-tell me more
det"o.ils.
CHAPTER 2
30
I meo.n> I'm
sure most" of
-them Cllre nice
people--
-- o.nd
you don't
know ...
you know ..
who -th ey
associo.te
with.
Tn<llt's fine.
I thi..-.k you're
worryi..-.c:J for
nothin9, but I
underSt<llnd. I
wo..-.t bring o.ny
prost"itutes nere.
CARLA
I didn'T butt in front of you.
I lefT t he line you're in -- the
free-sex line -- ond I
wolked over to the
poyinq -for-sex
line.
51
I' ve gone wi-thouT
sex for longer
thon you l-1owe>
I'M the one who
should've been
next-.
Ws noT like I but-ted
line oheCild of
you.
You could wCillk over to the
pCilying-for-sex line Too. It
"'oves Q loT fo.ster.
CHAPTER 2
The n why even bother 9ettin9
oral ? A blow-job with o
condo.n
is no
fun.
sz
wos plenty hoppy with the
blow-job she c;tave me.
It felt ... odd, but not clinical.
And she wosn't cold. She
WG\S very
friendly
and
nice.
CARLA
53
d isturbin'3,
b ~ t it's
QISO
good
gossip.
CHAPTER 2
He was upset" but" not" for any
reason connected ~ o o moral
principal -- he's bother-ed
becaAse yoA're 9et-tin9 laid
anCi he's
not.
I'm no-t sure that I co.n
address it as on issue of
s imple ri9ht ond wron9. To
be honest it just seems
sod to me.
R i ~ h t Do YOU have an
opmion on the morality
of pr-ostitution ?
be /e9ol, bAt
that's not
the some
thin9 OS
saying it's
ri9ht.
One wot.Aid hcwe to know
how she views sex to know
whe-ther- or not" it's
sod for
her.
CARLA
For some women it
be terrible to hG\ve
sex for money --
Oko.y. some illustro.to,.s ho.'te
but the,.e ARE
illus"tro.-tors who like the
work. Yes, some
prosti-tu-tes
hG\te being
prostitu-tes --
I'm 90in9 "to cont-inue TO
see he..- for G\S long she
wo,.ks 01s 01
prostitute.
-- bu"t for o-thers Ws prob01bly
no worse thc.m
it iS for you I h01te h01vin9
"to dr01w an to
illustra-tion. illustr01"tions
-- but I'm sure thG\t
them like it -- or 01t
it" G\S no worse
thG\n G\ny other
job.
to mo.ke
money.
I wonder now things will
90 with me G\nd CG\rlCo\?
I wonder how long she's
to work ? How dose G\
r elationship will develop
between
us ?
CHAPTER 2
No, of course not-- it's just
we ire{. How clo you know
she doesn't j.,ove
a pimp?
M01ybe it's like 01 co-op
where they r-un i"t
collectively, or m01ybe 01
guy runs it.
I don't
know.
Well, I hope she goT' to
keep mos-t of -the money
I 901ve her; 01ncl I hope
no one's be i n'3
violenT'
with
her.
S6
Th01t doesn't
seem like
sornet..,il"19
you'cl d.o.
This cloesn't
m01ke you w01nt
to stop bein9 my
friencl, CJoes
it?
I ~ o n t . I clon't know
wl-101t her situation is.
S..,e works in 01n
01p01rtmen't
with
sever01l
other
women.
But you don't" w01n't' to
support 01 sys+em -th01t
enriches Q
-----""' pimp.
CARLA
It's wron9 for
someone who' s
38 to no.ve sex
with someone
who's
21 ?
S7
You know,
G\dv01nTG\9e of
someone in
on unf01ir
wo.y.
No, not neceSSG\rily. lr
would depencA on -the
circumsto.nces.
CHAPTER 2
S6
WhG\t
time?
I don't wG\nt to
ej"'cu.lo.te so
qu.ic.kly G\9Qin.
This t-ime t'll
jerk- off
o.t home
before 90in9
to the
brothel.
CARLA
39
CHAPTER 2
didn'T evel'\ wo.it
two weeks
betw e e..,
visits.
I don't
know if
if I con
o.fford
+no.t on G\
regular
bG\SiS.
-- 't. l60 dollars 01 yeG\r --
that's qCAite o. bit. Eve..-y
three weeks
WOCAid be
seventeen
times o

11 bet I anntAodly spe nt
o.boiAt tno.t rn1Ac"1 ;..,
relo.tion
to bei""'3
Sook-Yil"''S
boyfriend.
60
If I wen+
eve..-y two
weeks. -tho.t
WOIAid be
26 times
o yeor. ?.6
multi plied
by 160
dollars
- -
multipli e d by 11 e qt.tols
2,1 ZO d o llars o year.
t not 's more
mo.no9eo.ble.
didn' t hove s ex
onywhe..-e
ne01,.
seven1"een
times
i.., the
lo.s-t
that- she
WG\S my
9irffriend.
CARLA
61
CHAPTER 2
62
I - I'm s ony. Do
you -- s o u l ~ we use
more lubricant?
CARLA
63
IT'5 STARTING TO
HURT,
Y'KNOW .'
CHAPTER 2
6 4-
No, not today.
feel right
tGlkin9 it
tocioy.
CARLA
6S
look, Glt leas-t
"tGlke 1-lolf --
twenty
dolla..-s.
I did
e njOY
.-.nyself
for
mos -t
of -the
se ssion.
CHAPTER 2
Wh01.t hoppened there?
Why did she 01.sk why I
w01.s s"toppin'3 ? Wasn't it
obviou.s? I was p01.usin9
so t h ~
I didn't
COII'Yle
too
quickly.
Well, I do.,t hove to rnoke
+he decision right now.
I have three weeks to
fi9ur-e ou+
who"t I
waf'lt to
do.
66
Surely I'm r1ot the first
mar1 she's encoul"'tered
who does thot.
CARLA
The second. time I her,
we went throu9h G\ lot of
positions G\"'d the sex

twenty
minutes .
Obviously I WG\S tryin9 to do
the SG\rne tod.G\y. I guess,
for her, G\ hG\If- hour
session
doesn't
t'YleG\n
twenty
minu.tes
of
fu.ckin9.
In the future I'll try
limit myself to ten
minutes of
sex in
-thirty
minute
G\ppointment.
67
I'm co.H; ng
o.bot.AT Tir'IO..
How .-rH.ccn
does sne

69
Neu..-
C-
C\nc;(
R_.
Wh"T
T i me
CHAPTER 3
No, "todo.y'S no't
gooc:A for me.
How

70
She looks like
She'S in her
thirties,
she's no't
thin> she'S
rtot


she's no't
p,.etty.
You' re no't
Q cop ..
are
y o ~
ANGELINA
71
I 'll be rignT
bG\ck. MG\ke
yourself
corf\forn"ble.

I CG\n't hQve sex with her --
she's 11ot a.r a.ll sexCAally
G\ttrGlct'ive to me. 1
snotA
n01ve

7Z
Wny I co.re ;f I l-HArt'
her ? She
sne's 1"\0t in G\ny
like the
descript'iOI"l
in ner
ad.
' sJ-tould
WGllked O..WGly.
I Still
can.
Bu-t I
o.lreo.dy

her the
YYloney.
ANGELINA
WnQt?
Who
are o.ll
tne people
out there?
They weren't'
There before.
73
Don't" be
OlfrOlid. We'r e
just wom e ..... .
Come out
nere.
Fou r of tne"' are
una"ttr-Olctive, bur
t wo of -tnern CO\re
re allv. good
looking.
U._, , if yOI.A'd
no't, I
c.Qn pic.k one
of t ne otner
girls.

I' m
getti..,g the
imP.ression
thcu !one cA.; df"' 'T
ro be c.nosen.
ANGELINA
Don''t 9e't me wrong -- I
think you're otnd.
1 f"eodly WCAf'\'t to . v.l-t . you
k11ow,., be
il"'tima.te
wi-tn
you--
75
'lov. looked .. tAns.ure
ou:t 'there. If you.
want 'to do thiS l'ol
v.nde rst'a n d .
- - blA1' ;f you.'re
uncomfortable obot.At
"thiS, I CQn
pick one
of "the
other
9irls.
the Gtd WGtS Gt
descrip1'ior'l
of I-ter;
r'lO't
T;r1a.
CHAPTER 3
It looks like
t-he b,.-c:a is
S'TQying
on.
l'm 90ir'lg to WGlr'lt" to see
you Qgc:ain -- wl-tc:at" nc:ame
snoCA ld 1 01.sk fo,.- ?
76
t ~ cliffictAI't ftAckir'lg
her- she's rec:ally
dory.
Y e a h ~ I mec:an,
you don'T
no.ve to g;ve
me you.r
reQI
nc:ame --
just .. you.
kr'IOW>
your
working
nc:ame.
11
I wG\nt l"o see
09G\in_. bul"
l'wt G\ISO
CLArious
to see
the petite
18 yea,.- old
described
rtt "this
G\d. .
CHAPTER 4-
,..ecally cu;te,
bu't sli1e's so t;,.,y.
Sl-te COULD be
te, bC.A t s"-e c.oc.tfc:J.
also be younger.
It's ho.rO( 'to
-tell.
Do,.,t worry

tt-ley'll be
TO C\rnUSe
t..-.e.-nselves for
01 little wnile.
16
On7 ThG\T'S

frie,.,cts.
ViSi'ting.
Un
7
you're 18.
rign't ? I
no't
UNDER 1e,
are you ?
Her body'!>
kinciQ tfte
oppos it"e of
Ange I i nQ'S_.
but"
jus't as
QmQl:ing.
1 don' t" know,. I Hlink I' ve
go"t a pret"'ty h;g.., opinion
of myself. f f"hi..,k I've
901" G\
lot of
re.spect
for
I-f.
ANNE
79
I WG\S 1"ellil'l9 ""'Y S"tep-
W!Other G\bou1" yOu.r
whoril'l9 and sne WG\S
<iiS9U.Sf"eci. She
SQiGf, "He'S
obviously
no
self-
respect." --"
81
CHAPTER 5
62
li" ' S G\
....,onster
in o.
mini- skir't!
BACK TO ANGELINA
Th ere's ~ tube of lubric:Qn"t
on -tho.'t Cho.ir --
Do you.
remember
Y Y ~ e
S'teve.
How long
ho.ve yot.A
lived in
Toronro ?
CHAPTER. S
How 1
not notice
tnQt ? 1
1
followed
her reo.d.
in not
speQking
mu.cn.
Tne nex1' time you. come
'to see me, you. should
bri..-.g n-le one. I lASed
'to l;ke Archie comics.
6$
comic.- books ?
Tho.'t'S
awesome.
st .... ff's quire d;Herenr
from A,..ch;e, bu.'t I'll
bring yOtA
s omet-hing.
CHAPTER 6
l o ~ A r reol no.n1e
iS C:hest"er ? Wnots
This non1e?
too-;s Rye-el
66
Before I
show it" t"o
you I
sl-loulc:A
expfoin --
He led "two rebellions
Qgoinst" t-he Conod;on
government" it'l -the
nineTeent-h
cent"urY-. Yov.
probably
stv.d;ed h;s
STory in
history
closs
in
s<.hool .
&ACK TOANNE
Oh yeoh.
Q. funny
version
of t-he
story?
I've bee .... thi..,king obov.t
Tho-r com ........ enl' your
step-I'Yiom
rYlode
obou't
me.
61
Yeoh, he's s-till
And why iS he
Becou.se
1-le got-
rejected.
Be co use
he needs
sorneo..,e
TO be
in Jove
w i T ~ \
him.
WithotAT
voice
so.ying
" I love
you> " l-Ie
fo.lls
O.P.O.rt.
Tl-'IG\'t'S
why
people
.--eeGt "to be
11"1 r o mG\ntic.
re IG\tions .,..ips - -
The guy who
respect
is the
gv.y who
Gtoesn' t"
need "to
be in o.
r"OMG\r"'t"iC
love
relo.tionship.
The fo.c.t' t"'o."t you're
r"'"\o..king o. b ig deG\1
G\bOtAT rr"'Y
s-rep-mom's
co.....,ment
mo.kes
.....,e
"t-hink
m01.ybe
sne
wo.s
righ"f.
CHAPTER 6
86
they're insectAre -- t-rhey
r"'eed "to nG\ve
so ..... eone

tho.t they're
IOVG\ble.
The 9t.A.lf who's po..ying for
sex iSn'T using seXIAG\1
reiGlt"ionships to
snore vp
o.
ego.
Well, 1 guess it's possible
-tl-lere MIGHT be peopte
in rOn1GII.r"'t"iC
reiG\tionsh ipS
for o"tner
reo.sons.
:SACK TO ANNE
89
Tner-e's
O.Yiorl-ter
girl wno
works
here--
if you
WO.YIT to
see ner
sometime,
it's oko.y
wi-th
me.
Her- fac.e i s reas onably
attractive, but "those
boobs look t-oo fake
for n'lY lrkin9.
9 1
HARDER .'
fASTER .'
OH
GOD.'
LIKE
THAT!
fASTER.'
CHAPTER 7
9Z
Snes
obviously
really
caref ... l - -
"this ;s
ver-y
tnorough
iYISpectiOr't.
Fine.
She
WQS
n;ce ..
but"
-those
fake
breasts
were

Yot..cr feel
-the way breasts
snot.Aid. Yov:re never
going
to get

i
are
yov.?
CHAPTER 8
I do"''t know. They' re
as firon as
-they once
wer-e -- I
can 'tell a
difference.
You
shouldn't--
your
brec;\sts
are
perfect.
whCllt" we do --
comic-books
like.
"thiS.
BACK TOANNE
95
All you needed -ro so.y
wo.s one yes. No
wGls neces.so.ry.
Yov. didn't ho.ve -to show
her yo tAr comic.
She ASkEP me -to give her
one of ""'Y comic.S. So I
go.ve ...,er -the -first
;ssv.e of Re' .
CHAPTER 8
I G4i Gtn'f" WQnt "to ptAT ner on
-the spot ;f sne d;ddr l;ke
it. She WQS
probQbly
being
di,:?lomotic
in no't
so.y<ng
Qny-t&,;ng.
96
No. It's .-.o"t nc:;uo( "to
imQgine -thQI"t sne
migh-t no't nQve
"tnQT much
interes-t
i.-. nis'tory
QnO
-therefore
wov.loll"''t
ho.ve
found a
inl'eresting.
I'd. rtQVe -to know. I'd
nQVe O.Skeo( ner.
lodking -- 9ettin9 To know
-the girls o bit-- it'" jtAst
odds "to -the w"iole
ideo: ;f you
WQn't o
sextAo.l
experience
tnQ't'S noT
cold ClncA
impersono.t --
experience--
mo.kes i-t
seenn Jess
cold. Qnd.
impersono.J.
97
CHAPTER 9
Heres Ot'le for
Q girl nQmed.
Sus01n. ine


indicOites
tl-'lo't
works
in 'the
s01me

<AS
C01rlo..
don't look
wo.y I WQS
expect-ing
yOt..A "1"0
took.
Wno:t tit-s ! She's go-r -the
body of o. c.f<ASSic PIQyboy

And s he's
got Qn
oko.y fcu:e
-too. No't
greOit ..
bu-t
oko.y.
She's licking <AI'ld sucki1119
my bo.IIS -- I wish
sne would.,t- d.o
-tho"t. l't seef'l"ls
unso.f'e. But- it
would feel
<Awkward
to tell
her 'to
stop.
96
How did expec.t
me -ro look ?
SUSAN
lhey F ~ L reo.l, bVt"t they
look too gooc< to be -true.
99
No, they fel-t o d ~ -- yours
feer ... breo.st-l;ke.
CHAPTER 9
I'm looking o. web-site
wl-eere johns wril"e rev;ews
of prostit-utes.
Ex01c:tly -- it's like movie
reviews or book reviews.
I wov.l c:l
ko.ve
tno .... ghr
tho.t most"
johns
wot..d dr1't
want 'to
be pt..tblic
aboi.At this
Stt..tff.
Anyw01y, I'm trying
to figt.Are Ov.l" 0111 'the
GFE

Girl-
Friend-
Ex perie"lc.e --
F- S
Fu.II-
Servic.e,
whic h
meo."ls
sex--
tOO
Yeo.h, l;ke, which girls CAre
pretty, which ones o.re c.Agly,
wno.'t they'll do sexually_.
o.tl t-no.t sort" of stuff.
There Olre o. whole bunch
of these prostitu'te-review
web- si-res. I so.w o.n Qd for
On, -this is 0111
QI"'OnymOIAS --
+ .... e guys
use foke
nomes.
- - bc.At I co.n't fi<3c.Are
wno.'t o. 8 8 8 J
iS - - I .. it's
obviously
some SOI"''t
of blow-job
but I
co.,'t
figure
OV.'t
those
first
two Bs.
Ol"'e in
Now ..
01nof
-tn011"
one
led
me to
o-tl-lers.
SUSAN
TnQr "'"'kes
condom less
Tneres o.
review of
CAn Ant'le
on here--
1 wonder
if it's
o.bOI.A't
"the
Anne
l ' r'Y'I
seeing.
'toned. til'1y boc:X.
Smo.ll boobs.
Doesn't
kiSS. C-BJ.
Howe
ho.ol
better."
How co.n tnis
be dtS.'ttArbtng
for someone
I'""' c:A;S'tlArbecA
-thGit I waTch
SO I'YH.ACh
who
WQ'TGh>eS
porn
(;\I mos-t

hours
0.
G(Qy?
porn.
on
the oTher hanoi,
expect a
of... privGI c y and
diScret ion
fro...., their
johns --
don' t
they?
tOt
"Moved on to F-S d099Y
Sne st(;\rted reQIIy
juicey o.nc:;(
t'Y'IOOining.
Flipped
her over
o.ru;(
S'tc;\r'Ted --
,oT To defenc:A porn, bLOT
-there iS somethit"19 a bit cA; fferenT
GlbOI.At thiS.
Well , ;t's no-r
like tnese
reviews
01re
printin9
-the
9irls'
reQI
nQmes.
The wornen i n
por n know
t haT whaT
They're c:;(oing
iS for
COnSIA....., pTiO,.
don'T know. It
seems ...
seecAy or
Somethin9.
She
WellS, li ke,
" Jt.AS f" -t,-y
it- ell few
cAClyS -- if
yot.A don'-t
like i'f>
yotA
'\LA if". "
103
A
f,-;e,...ot
of mine
WellS
doin9
i1;. 01nCI
s..,e
convinced
""e
"try if".
I worked
G\"t -the
ploc.e she
worked
for .-nQybe
Cl hOIIf-yeG\r
before t

working
nere wi1"h
At'YtellncAQ.
CHAPTER tO
l hey're I; ke I'Y'IOvie rev;ews ..
only tl-tey're abotAt ... girls
J;ke
I read thi s one site co.tted
-the Toronto Escor-r Review
Bo01rd yeo.h,. there
o.re severo.! t'eviews of
yotA on
there .
104

I've
never
hec:Arci
Glbot.AT
this. Are
-there
t"'eviews
of n-1e ?
I wrote one of the...., . t
only SOlid good 't h ings
01bot.At of course .
All of yot.Ar reviews
are posi'tive.
&ACK TOANNE
Diol you check
revrew
web-site
-tnQt 1
"fold you
obou"'t?
No ... noT
ArYlG\rtoiG\ -- 't .. 'HS
friend
iS ot the
I
t'o
work.
She's -the
o.,e who
con'llincecl
me -to
work
there.
She so.id, '' On my god,. I'm
reOI.d.ing S'ft.Aff o.bot.At you
I never knew ou1ol never
-ro kt"'ow."
105
stAre if I WOlrt"feci
1"o r-eG\ol reviews
<llbou"f me> so I
G\Skeol o

of mi..,e.
wno's
01-1 1 thir1k
yotA n'te..,tio..,ec:.f
her before.
Q.SO
;.., tnis

"to reod
the""'
for Yl'le.
She.
looked
G\t -the.
reviews
for rYle,
G\nd she
rotd. ....,e
bosicolly
w hG\T
1"he. 9tAYS
wrore..
I guess SOWle of -the
9tAYS be pretty
e)(plic.it in their
olescnptions. TnCA't's
\A.IYtQ"t it"
SOtAnole.ol
l;ke. from
wn"'-r my

so;ot. So I
dioln''t 90
on t,.,e.
Sit-e.
CHAPTER 10
No> I Think iT
would rrtOike rrte

But I
9tASS
i"t'S
9000

be

o.bout
on
there.
Wnen

work
'"' 'the
evel'lin9S>
very
often
ti-le
9UYS
atre
drunk.
106
Ye01n, ;f -the 9-tys are
writ; n9 good "things o.bou.T
you.> wh;c:.h they 011 re in
your case> then
Wov.ld you
prefer ;t-
;f we go't

0.1' Q
d;fferent-
"time of
do.y?
a's free
Ci\averTiSing
fof' you.
I don't' like drunk client's --
they're 'the wors't. Those
9t.tys wan bi9 pen;ses.
1 wis"'
all
clients
were
like
you.
&ACK TOANNE
I'm 9IO\d TO see .so ...... eone. 1
was beginning TO tlrtink
the world hao forgot'ten
"""e.
I wish
I WOIS.
FebrtAo.rie s
are
always
slow.
10'1
cio.-t' t"
do tnat
I will
your
in.
Who.'t you. SQid e 01rl ier
Qbov.t FebruQ.ries
being slow -- i't implies
tho..'t you.' ve been doing
this work for more
1"nQn one
Fe brt.AQry.
CHAPTER 10
I 9uess it's rt.otde to press
01 l01dy on 01 q_uestion
rel01ted to her 01ge, but ..
well ... yo<.A're StApposed.
-to be
18.
In f01ct, when I fir$"t SOIW
yotA .. I w01s worried.
yo<.A ..,...ig"'t be YOCAnger. I
w01sn''t SCAre ;f t shoCAid
y or ,---.,.-,rl
no't.
Ye01h, they ..,...01ke
Olppointme..,ts,. but'
when I open the
door Olrtd
tl-ley
OIC. tCAC).IIy
see Wle ...
they
m01ke
excAses --
I've 011 WQ.yS ().SSU rned.
that they d;d...,'t find """e
orttretctive ... but mCi\ybe 'the
re011
reason
they
lef-t
wo.s
'COl CASe
"they
thought
I wo.s
unoleroge.
106
Well, I COin see why you
cloim to be 18 - - yot..t
certatinly
look like
'IOtA
COI..(Id
be.
I wos considering it. I'"""
g latd I of COI.Arse, bu't
1 w01s worr ied -rhat't yotA
migh't be
tAnoleroge .
--like, "Oh, I've got -r-o go to
tJo\e bonk-matcn;ne TO get"
money.,"
01nd.
then
they
dOrt'"t'
COn'\e
ba-.ck.
CCi\n'-t be bec01use you're
unatt"trOict;ve. And you
certCi\irdy m011'cn
'the desc.roption
in your
Qd.
:BACK TOANNE
109
11-lelt" I"YYokes ......,e feet
bett"er. I know , ......, not"
,_....,..._.every guy's
-type> but"
you still
f e e l ~
bit b ~ d
when it
see n-1 s
tike.
youre
being
rejected.
111
yOU 9iVe n'le 0
descrip-tio n of ?
I'm 22, 110

IVe got an
o.thletic
I
look l;ke
a model,
, ,., Q very
sensuc:d
person.
CHAPTER 11
I don''t wa n"t
"tO buy c:tnot-her
donut> so I'm
going to be
outside on 'the
r'IOr'th-ec:tst
corner.
t12
Chestel'", J'm sol'"ry-- so..,.,e-thi ng
CC\,....,..,e I.Ap. I'll be t,_,ere soon .
Give me ten more
OkGly> bu't
I've been
"'Glnging
out- il'l the
doYlu"t
shoP. -roo
1011'19
now.
lnG\t- guy keeps looking o't
me. Is he G\ cop ? 1$ this
some kincA of
sting?
WENDY
How I"Y''tACh
longer iS
she 9onnCA
be? r
should
jUST
leove
now.
A bit" on -tlrle el-l Side.--
bod -teet-h-- t1o"t ""91y, blAT
not" re01lly
gooc(-
looki""9
ei-ther.
Do I
wonT
t"o
wolk
QWGI'y ?
I'J'VI so
sorry
for
be i n<3o

I wos
h01vin9
problems
wi-th "''1 IGI'neUord.
I'm SO sorry.
un.., would you
7"' __ .,. mind giving ""'e
+he money now ? I need
;t- "to the desk-clerk
tt3

she
seei'Yis
frie..,dly,
Qnd it's not
like she's
hic(eOI.AS.
CHAPTER 11
YeCln, I'"'
for -the roo .........
then I'll come
ge-t you.
I don'-t
VJG\nt +he
desk- clerk
to see
you.
Af-ter I' ve pGllid for +he
room, I' ll le-t you in
._ __
Side- door:
Oh, you know ? It's
okay. Why don't you jus-t
Col'Y'Ie in
wii'h
l'l'1e ?
tH:
So I'"' s upposed
-to ou-t
nere by tn<:At
door?
And
could
you
WG\it
over
by

door?
J'"" going
-to go in
-the front
entre-nee
wh;le
you
St()y
nere.
\ . _.
"
WENDY
He
thot,\gh"t
you
were my
boyfriet"''d.
115
Oh, you know
w ~ t ? I forgot-
to bring
condoms.
Thi s is t ~ r n i n i n -to a
bit of 01 n01ssre. I -think
I'm just
90in9 to 90
horne.
CHAPTER 11
116
Are you sure
I con't' dO
anything for
yotA?
I was il'l
sue h a
ru sJ,>
Olo'ld
'tOciC\y
has
been
such o
cra-zy
day
for
me.
WENDY
117
119
GlfWGlyS
so
quie"t
w,_.,en
you
COI'Yie.
It-'s
nG\rd
-to
t-e II
when
yoi.A're
f;n;sl-,ecA.
CHAPTER 12
Hey, i-t
looks l;ke.
some one's
on 1-,er
period.
Relax, I ' m
noT bothered
by Q little
blood.
'lolA t.Ase one of those
men$Tri.AQI spon9es .. right
1 promise
l'l'VI not
90in9 -to
write.
about"
-this on
Terb.
120
l&-,e very firs1' G(Qy I did.
-this work I 901" nny period
ri9ht" before. my f;rsr
customer arrived. .
&ACK TOANNE
I freaki..,q ou-r and
" I CGln'f' do is ! " Bt.A"t
ol"'e of the other girts
gave me a s po..,ge.
Bc..-t then the enoC of
the day I couldn' -t get it"
ou-t -- it" was stuck
i n
-there .
Are there ever times when
something really dramatic
is about to happen il"l tne
soap you' re
watc'-'iing --
121
It WG\S -the first" time
t.ASed one, al"'d I was
worried -that" s o""'e
blood
would
COWle

Q.nyway,
but it
workeo(
fine.
I was panicking--
"On ""Y god, nr never get"
this sponge out!" But of
course 1 did get iT
Even"tw"lly.
Wha-t do
you do
be-tween
cl ients ?
Do you
ge-t
bored
CHAPTER 12
Isn't -th0\1" A bit. No-r
O\nnoyin9? rectlly.
Amc;\noG\'S
wo<t-chin9
and she fills me
on wh(;\tever
I YYliSS.
122
T..,e
few 'times
I've seen
Anne I' ve
felt
ofterwQrds.
&ACK TOANNE
Are the people who believe
in roma nTic tove righT ?
Do yo(,( n eeol
SOn"te SOrT of
comrnitrnen1"
for a sexual
relationship
to stay
satisfying?
lZ3
-
-.
CHAPTER tz
There it iS G\'3G\in -- -thG\"t'
emp-ty feeling. MQ.ybe
1 jus-t neevt
-to see

else.
If J'I'YI in 01 criSiS, s houlo(n't
I feel like in 01 cr;s; s ?
I'm persOnG\IIy
!:ml'mr. ......... _ work-wise I'""
proo(u.ctive --
124
- - G\nd G\S fo.r o.s sex-
life goes, l'wt enjoyil"'l'3 it'.
Wheres 1-he criSiS ? This
iSn't' G\ crisis, it's the
wisdowt of G\ge.

BACK TOANNE
After- all these year-s I now
r-ecognize w"'a"t makes me
ho.ppy G\na hG\ve
my l ife accordin9ly.
Romantic. love iS bulls'-tit;
anol l'n-t no"t going -to
any mor-e t;wte chaSil'lg if.
T"'is is a
del;cate subjec-t
for- SOMEbody.
t25
Yeah ... uh ... It's
nice 'to meet-... yo<.c.
121
l't doesn't-
sound like
you
noi'Yie
me.-noriz.ed
yet-. J 9uess
yov..
ho.ven' i"
been
working
here
l ong.
I hoven-t? I
me01n .. . uh ...
who"t?
Is she on
drugs? She
seen1s kind
of
of i"t.
CHAPTER 13
IZ8
I CQn' t" -- I don'-t--
CG\n't find .-ny
pGln"t ies. f had
tnern before
1"1-le
las-t
guy

WG\S
here--
It wouldl'l''t su,-prise me.
1 heG\r t-l-lo1' t-ne re G\re lots
of pQnty-fet-isa.,;s-ts
out "there.
DIANE
129
Th01nl<s, bv.t"
Da.-.;e lie's
one I w01nt"
-to see. I'll
CG\11 bG\ck on
MondG\y.
13t
DG\nielle's no't ;..,
toc:l<>y. Sl-le'fl be
' " on
blAt we hcwe
several other
girls working
tod.o.y.
CHAPTER 14
Three yea.rs. Bu't I t!a.ven' t"
been here -tho.t whole
-time. I off
cloi ng ou.t"ca.IIS.
It's less iSolo.ting workilflg
;.., o plo.ce li ke this wi"tJ.l
other girl s .
132
How long
h"'ve yot.A
been doing
'this
work?
I mo.de more money
d.oin9 out-calls
"thon I do Why?
working here,
bLAt I prefer
being here.
Anot ;.., be-t w e e"' cl ient"s
we ca.n wa.t'ch T-V or
u.se the computer. Ws
much nicer wo.y
of workin9.
DANIELLE
133
Are yotA
?
I'm
enjoying
""Y
sex- life
w01y too
rnvch
t"o be
jeolovs.
Take
;t
easy,
Sook-

l'n-t
not"

"to
thiS
vnu.c h

contact".
Are you 90nno
V101ve lunch wi-th
u.s,. Sook-Y;n ?
How's Sook-Yin
get-t-ing o./on9
with her new
boyfriend?
Are you. stilt
get-t;ng <Along
witl, Sook-'lin ?
CHAPTER 14
U t i ~ girl
was Kindo.
Silent' o.nd
SCAlf en
before
we got'
undressed,
but' now
she's going
wtlcl!
135
TH15 15
THE ~ S T
BLOW- JOP>
OF M'V
Uf!
CHAPTER tS
136
S&.,es

pfOICing
her hoir
over
her
foe e.
JOLENE
Who't o contros't --
so energe-tic
while sucking
"'"Y cock.
bu't
now
it 's
l i ke
she's
de d .
lnste01d I'll jus't
moke 01n effor-t
to come 015
q,tAickly
G\S I
COin.
I gc,cess she wos
to get "'"e
come duri ng
The blow-job
so tho t I l"r--'--r:::i.L
would..,'"t
fuck her.
137
139
Y e C h ~ I' ve been
bc.csy Wi-th ThiS
Qno( 'tho1" -- work
and wha"f- not'.
MQybe -the reCAson
I'd been feelin9
ernp'ty CAf'ter
seei"'9 ner
WG\S ThG\'t
I'd been
seeing
her too
often.
CHAPTER 16
ti-0
Sc.ratc"'
Tho"t
theory.
1'..-n
feelin9
e l'l'\ Pr-y
019GHn.
11-l
Unfriendly
no't very >
P,ret-'ty _. no
blow-job--
th;s is Chester -- I ho.ve
"'"' appoin'trYtent f o r
twe lve?
I',.., in my car
r ight now,
o n ..ny w ay.
I'll be ther-e
i n t- wet1ty
m ; n LAtes --
ca ., yotA
wai t ?
' r-- . .
--
/ -
. D-.
/ . .. /
/
Hi ,.,.....
sorry for keepi""9 you
wt:liting -- +..,ere were
SOWle unexpected
tn"ffic problems.
CHAPTER 18
No+
+nQt-
fQr--
I live
in w_.
I wan+ To WliJ"'iwtize +he
chGtnce t..,Gtt one of ""Y
clients will be someone
I know.
GWENDOLYN
wo.s very
friendl y
before
the sex
started>
but
now her
fo.ce is
like on
i"'po.ssive
mosk.
01 pros1'i'tu"te who's not
going "to put on o show
pretending
f'o enjoy Qn
experience
-thaf'
she's not
enjoyi ng.
I-t's
honest.
A legit
massoge parlour
oro.
rub-and-1"ug ?
14-5
Anci s he'S t"'Ot o.
sound. -- she's not oc-ting
like she's enjoying -th is.
CHAPTER 18
It's tess work to jus"t
ho.ve. sex wi-th the guys
ins-teo.cA of ""O.SSG\'3in9
them.
And
you
n'lo.ke.
more
money
t-oo.
I noticed you cho.n9ed your
o.d. "to reo.cA,
"9entlernen All of my
over "thir'ty friends o.re in
Why? their twenties.
I wo.n"t to
rno.ke sure
tho.t none of
thew. codf
me.
Ho.ve
you
ever
ho.d
No, but I ho.d o. close
COl II. A guy phoned
ond I hiS
voice -- he wo.s o.n
ex-boyfriend of 01
client
who
turned
out
to be
someone
you
knew?
l'l"'ine.
14-6
I diS9uised n1y
voice and told him
I chQr9e 600 for
o. ho.lf-hour.
GWENDOLYN
lhis iS ""Y fift-h
-time wi't,., her,
Qnd her feo\ce
is still
like 01
WIOISk
durin9
sex.
~
Not G\S
beG\'-t"tiful
G\S
Gwendolyn
bu-t s-till
G\"t"tractive,
and w h ~
o boo4y - -
she is
S"tG\cked!
Yov. brov.9h1"
o book--
whG\ t G\re you
r-eG\ding?
J49
Oh. Does
JohnSon
think -the
Civil WG\r
stort ed
over
slavery
or
t01rrifs?
CHAPTER 19
150
Not this c;\901in.
I should
tell her -to
s top. Bu-t.
like with
tho."t '3irl
StASOin, ~
feel
awkw01rcA
aboi.At
it.
And
you use


wJ-.en
you.

-there?
ALEXIS
J5f
-- no di99ing for
g o l d ~ no dinin9
at t'he Y --
153
Here are 1'he
rt.Aies: no
kiSSing on
rnou t 1-1--
- - a ~ d we lASe a condo"'
for everyrni..,g inclt.Adit"19
the blow-job.
I s t'nQr fine ?
CHAPTER 20
not 9e"t1"ing an erection.
This c:tirl jus't isn't
turning
me on.
No, it's me. I come too easily,
so before I have sex I
masturbate so i'hat I'll be
C\ble to IC\St
longer,
bur
doing
i'hC\t
can r'Ylake
it more
diffic.,.lt
to ge'ii' on
erec-tion.
l5t
Is ;t me ? You don't
find me o'ttroctive.
If I nQdn'"t
jerked
off rigJ,t
before
COmin'3
over
here>
I'd
hQ.ve
9otten
an
erec.rion
easily.
ThC\t n"''okes
me feel a bi-t
bet1er.
lS5
You give
me or01l >
t-he.., we
howe
sex.
CHAPTER 21
Why DID
I 9ive her
01 -tip ?
lS6
Tnol"''ks for
trying, blAt
it looks
like
J'Wl not
going
to be
o.ble -to
get o.n
e..-ection.
151
She's CV\te i ~ n
on ove..-o.ge
wo.y blAT
not I'Y'IY
type. A ' ~
-thiS iS ...,.. _ _,,
o. very
Yl"''edioc..-e
blow-job.
I feel
like I've
let you
down--
J,ike I
didn'-t
do I'YlY
job
properly.
CHAPTER 22
l't reolly wo.sn'-r your fo.v.lt.
I rno.de The rnis'to.ke of
jerking o f f . m ~ ~
before
COI'ning
over.
'lov.
see, I
corne
TOO
eo.s;ly,
so
before--
158
W e l l ~ things Qre
9etting serious
wi+n S ~ e v e
lS9
-- Qnd weve been "tGiking
o.bot.tT hi"" I"YYOVir'lg in ,ere.
Bv.T .. you
know ..
it's o.
Srrto.ll
house,
Ql'\d,
well .. .
I feel
-rerr ible
asking
this--
CHAPTER
It'S
I

I'll

lookit"tg
for
O.f"'other

TO
live.
- - he Ci\Ssured ""e -th01t
he'll be to pc::Ay me
regulc::Arl y for I'll
be living
for CA bit --
160
I think I CQn 01fford.
to buy Q plotce.
There' s
,-ow- house for
SGlle rignt n eQr
5ook-Y;ns.
-I'd hove
to geT a.
mort901'3e.
TI-le.
dOWt"t-

will
wipe
OUT ""'>'
5otVi
bv.1' I
co. tied
Cl-lriS --
-- btA1' I sholA lei be to
m01ke it. And if I get re01lly
desperQte> Sook-Yin Sc::Ays
she'd lend me money.
THE MOVE
The
she could.
do ? It's not"
like s he's
done
Qnyt"hing
wrong
here.
It's complerely understc;\nd.oble
thot' sne would. Wc;\nf TO
live in her own house
wi-th her new
boyfriend. 01nd.
WITHOUT on
ex- boyfrienol
hc;\nging
orounol
oil the.
"time.
-----
161
I coiled. you
yesteroiCAy
obou-t-
Qrronging (;\
n"'OrtgCAge --
l'n'l 90in9 1"o
Sook- Yin ...
I
I
I
CHAPTER ~
t6Z
THE MOVE
163
CHAPTER
I'm depressed becQu.se
no-t going to be living
Sook-Yin
o.n y more.
W"'y
would
-thinking
Qbout'
living by
l'nyself
mQke
me
no.ppy?
And living on
one's own
can 1-lQve G\
peo.ceful.
MediTQ'tive
q_w"l it'y.

As much o.s I like
Sook- Yin, -tnis
is HER
house--
hc;wing
""Y own
plo.ce
w i ll
give

feeling
of
sect.4ri-ty.
And I'll be Qb#e
1'0 YJQVe OUtCQfl
prostirutes
come -to
me-- I
won' T
ho.ve
1'0 90
OU't TO
i nCQifS
o.nymore.
THE MOVE
I've been depressed beco.use
I've been focusin'3 on the
po.st and how
1
wo.s
Jivin'3
witn
5ook:-Yin.
It's smal l
but
cosy.
165
Ho.ving my own
iS be
pret1"y good.
Mo.ybe I con work W'y way
out of t-his depression by
blockin9 out tnou9hts of
the po.st and
focusin'3
instead
on now
greo.t
ho.vinc:3
W'Y own
place
will
be.
CHAPTER 2:5
166
I wonder
if
Gwendolyn
,.--.,...
1
"",___ woulcA
do
outc01ll
sessions?
167
think I COin Qfford
to st01 r't see i n9
prostitutes
01901in.
I 9uess I'll
l-\01ve -to see
someone
else.
I'll 90 over to
Terb and
see ;f -the,.-e
are any
reviews
of her.
CHAPTER 24
166
There are.
They're o.ll
good.
Everyone.
-thinks
she's
greo.t.
If / '"" 90in9 to '-leAve o.
prostitute come h r ~ I'd
bette,.. clean up this
place.
JENNA
169
CHAPTER 24
She's o.ctuo.lly
tne .,.,outh!
This is the
first tin'le o
P.rosti"tute
no.s


sure enou'3h, it
l;ke
she's about
to put
condo.,., less
cock in
her
YnOtAth.
170
Accordin9 to the
reviews on Terb>
she 9ives her
clie .... ts bo.re
back blow
jobs.
ThQt WG\S
incredible-
the best
sex J've
ever pG\id
for.
o.heQd. The "towels tho.t
are pi led up o.re
all cleG\n--
u se
wnic.l-\ever
one you
wont.
JENNA
171
I feel e1ll
9iddy
01nd
excited.
173
I -thoughT I wos going -to see
Jenno ogoin, bu-t this gir-l
ki-tty hos
been
get-'ting
reolly
good
r-eviews, -
onc:l she's
o lot- less
expensive
-than
Jenn01.
CHAPTER 2S
7 ~
Come on,
I'm worth it.
I promise
you won't be
disappointed.
l7S
Twen"ty
,.,.;nutes
have
passed
G\nd
weve
spen"t
t-he
whole
t-iw.e
TG\Ikil'l9 --
--bu1' in t,.,is
SitUG\"tion I
think
CAnything
will
hG\P.pen
unless
I "tG\ke
'the

CHAPTER 26
176
--and
I 've Or"'ly
P.CAicl
fo,. G\
hCAif- hour.
D<"n

wrot-e
-thCAt- one
should
''leT her
leCAd"--
Your
driver
callecf.
He.
wants
you to
CQif
hi m .
LARISSA
177
co ... Jd you have her
call me when she
gets out ?
Who.t were
YOIA doin9
before?

live in one.
apG\rTmenT
and work
OIAt of 0.
differenT
one.
CHAPTER 26
l7{)
-3reG\'t. It's o.
con"e"' i en't.
Wnen I s o.w o.
I'd 90 To ner
o.pCU'"Tn"'enT.
And often it's more Tho.n
one woman working ouT
of the SOin'le o.po.r'tmenT.
LARISSA
And it's rare for johns -to
be violenT. There's probably
more violence in

cont"O!ining

couples
thG\n i n
G\P.G\r"T'
1'h01t
prostituTes
work
OUT of".
They' re creeps. Wno
knows wnar -tj,ey're
cap01ble of ?
I 'M one of -those
yov. really
-tl-tink
d1ildren
o.ren'-t
so.fe with
me in.
elevo.-tors ?
I'll ber I'WI close
the typic.OII
john ;s l;ke.
I'll be-t o.
lo-t of johns
ore rnild-

in-trovert"s--
179
Whe-tner johns are violent
or it would dis-turb me
to have
the we
WG\Ikin3
in the
same
hG\IIWG\y
G\S me.
If I a I'd be
worried abouT wh01T would

if she
in
-the
elevator
G\S one
of those.
9uys.
I know YOU'RE
oko.y, buT you' re
no-t -the -typical
guy who po.ys
for
s e x.
You can'-t d e ny +no-t
there are johns who
do Terrible +hings
-to prostitu-tes--
beo.-t t-hen'l,
even
kill
+hem.
CHAPTER. 26
Tninking tl-lot" kind of guy
represent-s ti-le t"ypicol john
is l ;ke thinking
t-hot
quys who
beot or
murder
t-heir
wives are
f'ypicol

And you do tho.t despit-e t-he
foct thot one of your best
frienots iS o. john. You of
o/1 people
should
o
more
open
""'ind
obout
this.
And then some
knew were
doinq t"his
work, and
f"hey were
mo.kinq
LOTS of
money.
so I
si"o.rted
doing
if".
160
I guess I ho.d the
friends. I had
some friends
who were
doncinq in

so I
started
do.ncing.
I f;ke this better.
I hat-ed ho.vinq to
nustle in dubs.
LARISSA
You know> +he girls
qo from guy "to guy
osking if -they
by donees. If
hustle ? you. were refllfly
G1'3gressive you could
"'lQke o lot of
money.
And of-ten I'd feel
if Q guy
soid I could
give him 01
dance. he'd
be so.ying
yes just
beco.u.se
l-Ie fel-t
sorry for
me--
-- SO I kt"'OW -tho't
who like petite
girlS wi'th
smoll boobs
ore phoning
t'Yle. If'
doesn'-t
bring up
+he same
ki..-.d of
insecUJrity.
161
But I wosn''t
I'"" o.ctt.tolly
kind of shY.,
so I ho-ted
J.1oving
-to keep
going up
to guys
ond
pester
them.
-- a..-.d tho"t reolly he'd
ro+her hove o
donee from 01 .----.,...n
blonde with
big boobs.
Thi S work is
- -
mv od so.ys
who"t I
look
like--
And -the
one-on-one

j ust see""s
more
relaxed
ancl nice
in o.
Si'tuo'tion
like this
"thQn
if' did in
the clubs.
When I WQS o kid, I
didn't know what"
sex wos> let o.lone
prostitution.
CHAPTER 26
I com' t" remember w.,o:t I
-thou:Jh"t of pros-ti-tunon
when I teen.
Well. don' t
you owe
1t "to
person
you were
't"hen t'o
live t-ne
life he
would
"-o.ve
wo...-.ted
you to
lead ?'
I wo.nted "to be
a poleon"'tologist
when I was Q
kid.
As on I hove ZERO
interest in paleontology. l'..n
not going
t'o become a
pofeo,.,t'olog ist
now -to
fulf;ll a
childhood
wt-tirn --
tho.t'
would be

162
If you
could
looked
the future
am. seen
you
would.
Q
whoremon9er;
wouldn't you
nQVe been
horrified ?
Do I owe "to my youn9er
self t-o drop career as
o. o.nd qo "to
university "to st'udy
paleo..-.tology ?
Sure, I ferven-tly
believed in
romantic love
wJ..en f wos
01 kid--
LARISSA
-- blAt I'd hClld no a.c.tuCAI
experiences with sex or
rornCllnce. I believed in

love
bec<Ause
""'Y
culture
WellS
telling
me to
believe
in it - -
-- I'm in o. better
assess it- th01.., I
I wa.s 01
teenCAger.
Now I
CClln see
thQt -the
romCAntic.
love
ideol s
CAc.tu<AIIy
evil.
Think of a.ll the single
people who long for love
a.nd oare misera.bfe becCAuse
-they c01n'-t find it.
Righ"t, <:And then they're
happy for "' little
h;le -- a. few mon-ths
or years-- until
reality hits--

-- and because everyo"'e
CAround. me believed. ;.., it.
Now thCAt
I'm older
and I've
acttAClllly
been
-through
the
roma..,tic
love mill
sever"' I
times--
Roma.ntic love couses
t"?10re misery thCAn
hCAppiness.
Mo.ny of the,., go their
whole lives in tnCll"t
miserable s ta.te.
- - and. tl-ten they're miserClble.
They think they're mis erable
becCluse they're with the
wron9
person
instead of
reolizing
that the
romontic
love ideo/
itself is
impossible.
CHAPTER. 26
It's impossible for one person
to meet" all of our emol'ional
ond sexual needs.
Covples who remain
nappy to9ether -for
tne lon<3 t"er"' 01re
very rare.
It's natural for us To
experience lovin9 f eelin9s
for many people and "to
experience sexual desire
for many
people.
And I ho.ven'-t even
ment-ioned yet t-he
that" ensues .-------\
when
couples
break up.
Rorno.n"tiC
love
COH.ASeS
more
misery
tj.,G\n
h01ppi,.,ess.
Time
to make a,.,
appoin-tmenT
To see
lariSSQ.
Tha-t's Q
diSCllppoinTment".
I wonder
where sne's
disappeared
164
to. I hope.
she's
ok01y.
165
The pho'to of 9irl
Arlene looks bu't'
there 01re no
reviews of
her on
Terb.
Are +he
pho"to'3ra phs
on your
web-si"te
reol ?
CHAPTER 27
166
If t-he
9irl wno
snows up
doesn' -t
look l ike
t-he 9irl
in -the
photo9raph>
I'll send r r a : : ~ r
her
bock.
l+'s noT +he 9irf in The
pho"to, but s h e's still
cu-re. She looks youn9.
ARLENE
Yot.A
l;ke
the
9irf ?
You
wOint
to
send
her
back ?
167
We II> s"'e's
not" -the
same Sirl
OS -ta.,e
one in
ta.,e p h o t o ~
but I l ike
her-- sne
COin
st"oy.
If I'm not hurting her; whY-
does she keep soying "ow"?
6y her faciQI expression it
lOOKS like
she's in
poin.
CHAPTER 27
ThQt she seems "to be in pQin
iS kind of 01 "turn-on for me,
bu-t I G\lso f eel bG\d for her.
186
l'rY1
9onnG\
cut
-thi s
short
01nd
come
quickly.
A,-e you
90if'19
to be
keep;.-,g
Y.OUr
bro
Or'l . ~
169
Those o.re
beo.urifuf.
E.veryrhing
o.bOI.At'
you is
l:)eo.u.Tift.AI.
She's rn01kin9 eye- con"t01c"t
with n1e
durin9 "the
sex - - 1'10
ot-her-
prostitut-e
tho.t I've
bee,
with
ho.s
done
tho."t.
CHAPTER 26
190
EDITH
Did
you
J.(eep
your
bro
on
with
tJ,em ?
Witl-l two of -them
I mono.geol t-o
keep it on.
ShoCA I d prosti-tution be
legalized or should it be
decriminolizeol?
Ri9ht, and decrimino.li zotion
would meo.n
prostitution
would
not be
regulo.ted.
191
le9Gllizo.tion
would meon
regulotion,
right ?
Yeah, I think
;t should. be
regulated.
Well,
prostitt.tte s
mo.ke
money-- it's
o.
so it
should be
re9CAiated.
Not cllll wows
money are
regulat-ed.
We make
money as
car-toonists,
but"
carTooning
isn' t
regulated.
Okoy, uh, i t should be
regulo."ted To prevent
violence
againsT
prostituTes . ..
Re9ulo.tion
woulci mean
licencing - -
not all
prosti"tute s
would
won't to
geT
licences.
Re9uloteol pros t itutes
hire priVQ'te security
01nd go to
the cops.
Wom@:n in
the blac k
mot'ke't
wouldn' t
be Qble
to do
either.
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192
You have "to hcwe o
REASON 1"0 regulaTe
so...,e:tl-t i ng.
How would le9olizotion
prevenT violence
o.ny better t-han
decriminalization ?
As a
,.esul1',
mClny of
them woulc:A
worf< in
-the blacf<
morke1'.
Unoler le9o.liz.ation,
r e 9ulo.1'ed
gi rls
would be
safer, but
the block
market
ones
would be
vulnerable
to
violence.
Und.er d.ecri r"Y'linG\1 i zG\1"ion,
ALL pros-titu-tes could hire
securi-ty
01nd ger
help from
-the police.
AU.
prosti"tu"tes
would be
SOifer.
S-T-Ds G\re G\ISO
spreG\d Through
unpG\id CG\StAG\1
sex -- should -the
governmen-t
reguiG\te
one-
nogh't-
s't01nols?
Th01-t sor-t
of regu/01-tion
would be
difficul-t -to
enforce, bu-t
th01"t'S ALSO
true of
re9ul01-ting
prosti'tution.
-- so if you' re reodly
concerned G\bou-t the
spreod of 5-T-l>s, then
it'S unpG\id
CG\SUCllf
sex H,Oit
should
be your
primG\ry
regulotory
focus .. not
poid sex.
EDITH
193
WhG\T G\bOUT
heG\Ith?
prosTitution
spreG\ds
S-T-Ds.
.-
UnpG\id. extrG\-YY'IOiritGII
sex is illegod
in n'lG\ny
G\re01c; of the
world, so
of" course
re9uiG\tin9
i-t is
possible.
And
-there's
more unpG\id
cosuG\1 sex
going on
thG\n pG\id
sex--
But you're not
obout S-T-Ds,
you're jus-t
usin9 i'hem
OIS G\n
excuse to
juSTify
regul01ting
pros-tituTion.
CHAPTER 28
If yotA con
Q bosic
civil right"
for two
consen-ting
odults "to
be able to
hQve sex in
o.n unpo.id
situo."tion --
But getting pQid - - mokin9
money --
ThQt's the

Pros1"i1"u"tion
is a business
o.nd.
businesses
CQn be
reguloted.
Does 'the fo.c:t tho.'t we
get pc:Aicl for our comics
-toke o.woy our righ't 'to
self-expression?
S..,ould we ho.ve to ge't
licences to wrfte o.nd
dro.w?
Moking
money
should not
nego"te the
co...-toonist's
C.iVi I
..-;ghts.
194-
-- then you should be
oble to see tho:t it's o.lso
o civil right" in po.id
situo."tions.
Self-expression is Q bQs;;c
civil right. You o.nd
I write
Qno dro.w
comic-books,
o.nd our
publisher
po.ys us
money.
Should -the
governmen"t
the
right 'to
censor our
work
beco.use
we moke
I'YIOney
from
it?
And I'YIO.king money should
not negoTe o whore's
rig..,t To choose To ho.ve
sex Wi'th o.ny consen'tin9
o.dult she
wonts 'to
o.nd for
who."tever
reo son

won'ts to.
She s..,ou.ld
licence
-to be
G\ble -to
hG\ve sex
G\nd t"o
be G\ble
to mG\ke
money.
ljlAST
wQnt to
rnG\ke
sure H,o.t
prost itutes
are qetting
medico. I
CG\re .
EDITH
t9S
There should. be no IQwS
or re<3uiG\tions thG\t
vioiG\te our
fundo.mentG\1
rignts.
HeQitn CG\re is free i n
Co.nG\dG\ -- they CG\n get G\ny
..-nedicG\1 CG\re they w01nt.
You. wo.nt
medicG\I
treG\-tmen-t
-to be
FORCED
on
prost i tutes ?
Yeo.h,
but -they
don't all
go to
doctors
on G\
reguiG\r
basi S.
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Medical treo.'tment should
always be voh.cnto.ry -- it
should never be forced
on anyone.
-- whether it's a
sexu01l situation
whether ii"'s ...
Yes> btxt we're -tolking
o.bout -the right" of -the
i ndividual
to make
choices,
including
potentially
unheoltl-ly
ones.
196
C ~ I I Y I down. co.lrn down --
he's o. good person. He:s
just" talkin'3
off i"he top
of hiS heaCI.
This isn' t
somethin9
he'S qiven
o. lot o-f
"thought
to.
Each individual shoulcl
be able to choose for
1-limself or l-1erself
the level
of heo.hh
risk they
want to
l-ake in o.
porticulo.r
situa-tion --
EDITH
don'"t think
rom01n1'ic.
-- love unites people
in sympo.t"Yiy o.nd
unders-to.ndif'\<.3
o.nd .-no.kes
t-he world o.
better plo.ce
"to live in.
Who.t's the
o.lternotive?
love
iS Q
900d
t-hing.
197
Who.t o.bou"t you ? Do
ho.ve o. 9irlfriend ?
Bu"t love .. it ... it binds
people to9ether. Romo.n"tic.
love, or
t-he love
tho.'t
P.o.ren'ts
ho.ve for
their
children,
or love
be-tween
friends--
love iS about snarin9,
caril"'9, and 9ivin9.
ROMANTIC
love ;s about
ownin9,
hoardin9,
ond
jealou.sy.
When a mother hQS
severol d'lildren, she
loves all
of them.
When you
~ - l o v e
many
friends ,
you
can
love
all of
them.
I think it encoura9es a
certain type of "thinkin9 :
the desire
to owrn
ar1other
P.erson.
It's the
impulse
that
s lo.very
9rew
out
of.
- - bt.A't they develop
of the some
rnen"tol root.
I know I've
feH i1' witn
9irlfriends --
" She's
M&NE. "
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196
I think it's +he exclus ionary
nature of romal"'1"ic. love
thOit mOikes
;t different
from
other
kinds
of
love.
I' m not sayin9
they' re the same
thin9 - -
But ... btAt
slowery
was
forced on
people--
romantic.
love iS
volunto.rily
entered
into.
I don' t" nowe
ownership
wi'tn my
friends--
1 know
they have
other
frier1d. s.
EDITH
AncA I don'-t ho.ve
of ownership
with you.
I know thG\1"
prosti1"utes
hG\ve
other
clients--
+nG\-t
yov:re
not

didn'T meat.n
TO- - -to
offend
you-- I-- I
don't see
prostitution
G\S o
nego-tive
-thine;,.
You' re p01ying
TIME with
yol.4, NOT TO
hove sex
with you.
guys you've seen
o.s o.n escor-t,
were t"i-1ere
o.ny who
you didn'-t
ho.ve sex
wi-th?
199
I'm no-t o. pros-ti-tu."te - - I'm
escor1", You I'Wt
G\ prosti-tute ?
If I ho.ve sex
durin9 -the
P.Oid for; if's
becC\use I
c hoose t"o,
no-t becouse
you' re
poyin9 Yl'le
1"0.
know, uh,
the usuo.l
defini-tion--
thot -- I
meo.n - - ;.f
one is poid
for hovin'3
sex> one
is
considered>
CAh ...
CHAPTER 28
-the so.me perso.., I
wo.s te .... yeo.rs
o.go .. 01..,d , .,..,
VERY different
from "the
person I
wo.s twenty
yeo.rs ogo.
-- those "two people 01re
<:JOin<:J to cho..-,ge., ond it's
tremendot.Asly
unlikely th01t
+h.eyre going
'to d1o.nge
in exoc.tly
"the s01rne
WOlyS.
-- no m01tter how
compatible they
were o.t the
be9i11n i nc:5
of t-heir
relationship.
200
So,. yeo.h... there
o.re rom01"'"tic.
couples wh.o o.re
o.bsolutely
right for eo.ch
ot"her o.t t-his
mome"'"t ;..,
time- -
more likely th01t
they'll ch01nge
;..,to people
who ore
t"o
eo.ch
other--
Yes,. bt.At yOI.A con TRY to
contint.Ae to undersf"o.nd
your portner. And lf
you love him
or h.er --
EDITH
-- you'd be
TO
rl"'Oike that
effort.
Love
In The
Wes-tern
World by
Denis de
Rouc;3e monT.
201
If I the r igl-rt guy I'd be
hoppy to do t.,e work. It
tokes work to get onything
worthwhile in l ife..
It's interestinc;3.
Romantic love
poetry only
-to
become
ROPt.clar
in the
twelfth
century.
At oround the s ome time,
olso '" southern Frt;lnc.e, the
Cotnor religion wos bein'3
suppressed by the Co:tholic
(hurd
CHAPTER 28
tne troubadours
of love for a
partie ular woman, it-
Syi'Tibolized
t he love
+he\t
one was
supposed
to he\ve
for the
divine.
- - Ql"''d, as this new form of
poetry became popular, it"
9raduodly chQn9ed the WQy
men omd women reiQt"eO.
t-o eQch ot-ner:
It wasn' t Q reason "to 9et
married. People 9ot
married for prQgma-tic
reQSOns--
202
He tninks some
went t-he\t
the were
secretly CG\the\rs.
Of r'Ylost people
didn't understQnd -the
Syi'Tibolic level --
What -- love
didt'l't" exist before
-the twelf-th
cent"u ry ?
-- family connections, child-
reorin-:3, money, land,
house)iold manaqer'Ylent --
-that' sort of thine:!
love
widely seen as reatson -ro
9et until the
1'welf1"h centtAry.
But I can thil"'k of
exo.mples of romo.l"'tic love
before the twelfth
ceYtttAry.
-the s-tory of
o.nd Helen is o perfect
exo..-nple. Their love
bro1.A9ht +hem fleetil'l9
happiness - -
-- it seen foolish,
not some'thin'3 to build 01
permQnent refQ'tionship on.
EDITH
203
Then spre01d
the pernicious ide01
01round Europe

the world.
Like I
romO\l'ltic love
existed before
"the 'twelfth
centtAry, but
it
ideatlized. --
--but w01s diSOtStrous in the
long rtAn. WQS "the
rom01ntic love Wc::;\S
seen prior 'to i'he
tweH+h
cen'tt.try - -
CHAPTER 28
If there is
one, I don't
r-emer'Y'Iber
it.
Like most"
cot.Aples
at +hot"
time, they
probably
WOt.Aid
I-t ave
mar-ri ect
for
pragmatic
reasons.
-- blAT onc. e yot.A were
married it was seen as a
900d -thing TO develop 01
stron'3 emotiOt"'al bond
with yot.Ar
spouse, as
Odyssev.s
Olnd
Pel"lelope
diet.
I'm noT SCAyinq romantic love
never hapP.et"'ed. Here and
there a few colAples fell in
love and go1" l'Yiarried,
blAt -they
were tl-te
exceptions.
Z04-
IT was
seen as
foolisl-1
to
m 01,. r y
-for
love - -
I'm s ure i f I knew Ol.,cienT
litera'tlAre bet-ter I 'd be able
to come lAP wi-th examples
w ~ r romanc:.e led 'to
marriage.
We tenet -to think +hat
romOII"ltic love 1-t01s ancient"
roots, blAt" it's only gained
widespread 01cceptance ;,.,
the lost few
htAndrect
years.
This time
she's no-t
n'"!Oikin9
e ye-
contoct-.
EDITH
Do yo.Ar- friends know -that
yov work Otn escorT ?
My friends
cue very
shel-tered.
Tl1ey would
be very
j ud9..-nental
about this.
zos
throw
barrier between you G\nc:i
yoCAr frie.r-tds ?
I think
i f I told
the f'l'l,
-there'd be
an even
bigger
bOtrrier
be-tween
us.
And quite
frOtnkly,
if one of
my friends
-told. rne.
s"'e. was
workin9
as G\n
escort', I'd
-think
less of
her.
money I
9e-t, it's
okay.
O.-,ty
01bOlAT
-two
pe rc.en-t
of -the
cl ient5
ore bOtc:i
the rest
are
nce.
Hi> IC:4 like to make
an appoi.-,tment
to see EdiTh.
Z.0 7
She's older
hopinq for --

thir'ties --
b.._.'t she's


CHAPTER Z9
Sne seems
nice, bu-t her
Qccen-t is
prett-y thick --
co.-n.-nunic.Qtion
between us
iS kindo.
difficult.
Z06
I'm Ches-ter.
-tQke YOtAr
COQT. Do
you WQn't
some-thirt,9
-to drink .
I've. go"t
juice or
sof-t
drinks.
Z09
This o..,es older "too ..
but" s he's prettier
"thon
-the
lost
one,
Qnd
s he's
901" Q
swee-t-
smile.
CHAPTER :;o
ZtO
She
hQSn'"t
picked
up her
r'Yloney
ye't.
DENISE
Tho:t wQS reolly
enjoYoble. Ano
she seems
SrrlG\rT.
And . . .
Qrlc:L.
9env.ine.
zu
Ill HI lUI IIIII
IIIII Ill IIIII
'"' "' 1111
II Ill 1 Ill I lilt
CHAPTER ~ 0
of -the other prostittAtes
t've met hove h01d good
l'o like. to
see Denise
ogo;.,, bt.At
I con'1'
righT
now.
persortQiities.
blAT
something
OlbOIAT
this one
goes
beyond
t h a ~ t
Now I hQve no tif'Yle 'to l-tove
sex because tne Riel book's
been pt.Abl is hed 01nd lm bt.ASY
promotin9
iT.
Zl2
I h01ven' t nG\d sex Since I SOIW
Denise b01ck ;.,
I WOIS
thinkinq of
seeinq her
01901i n :. bu't
rn01ybe I' ll
check t o
see who
else is
OIVG\il01bJe.
Zl3
At tne
the book
iS winding
down. I
think I
time.
to ge't
'to9e'ther
with
prostituTe.
This girl
breOIS"tS
01nd 01
sliYn
fi9ure.
le't'S
see
wh011"
her
reviews
ore
like.
Thank yotA. I worked
01t o rn01ssoge porlot..tr
for o few years.
CHAPTER ~
Zlt
I loved it. I was
of money, I
likeol -tne
9irls I
workeol
witn, I
liked I'YIY
re9tAiar
clien"t5 --
NANCY
- - anci I WG\S comfort"G\ble with
the work. I mosturbG\tecl the
9lAYS -- I dicln't h01ve sex with
them. ,.---rl h.""'"' ____ _..
But you'd
rather be
workin13
at t-he
rYIG\SSa9e
pGir lot.t,. ?
ZtS
The cops
raided the
01nd
arrested
me. I
vowed
that I 'd
never be
arrested
Gl<3oin. I
qt..cit the
mossoge
porlour - -
Escorting's
but"
yes, I'd
rother be
be b01ck
at tne
I'YlOISSOIJe
P"'"lot.tr.
217
PQrT of me.
Denise
OlgQin,
but -this
girl
Millie
J-'IQS
positive
r v i w s ~
Qnd her
photos
look
good ...
JACKPOT! She's even more
beQuTifuf thOln Gwendolyn.'
She's rQdi Oin1'!
CHAPTER 32
Wo\Aid. you
mind no't
"tnr\ASting
into ....... e so
for? Yov.r
penis is too
big for
me.
Ye.oh.. it' ll be
autobiogrophicof. It's
90inc.3 to be obou"t
my t>xpe.rie"ces
poying ~ r sex.
Reotly! Tno't snoufd
be irrterest"ing.
J"D reo.d o book
like. tho.'t.
218
219
Should
1 see Millie
or Denise
nex-t ?
On -the
o-ther . . Q n d ~
Denise is
bett-er in
bed. And
she IS
pretty.
But she's not
cas stunni n'3
o.s Millie.
And Millie.
doesn't
c.hcarge o.s
vnuc:n
money as
Denise
does.
Of
J remei'Tlber
you, Chester.
Actually,
I've been
seeing you
i n the
meclio. .

But I thi.-,k
I prefer
Denise's
vnor-e gentle
persono.lity.
220
Anal
Millie's ver-y
bubbly and
friendly.
Hi De .... ise, it's
Chester 8ro\llm -- I
don't kf"low if you
ren'lel'l'lber
me. I SQw
you Q
few times
tost?
year.
Yoi.A're 9ettir19
quite a bit of
attention fol"
you,.. new book.
s.
Tha nk vou.
Are you
still
working?
Would we
be o.ble to
see eac.h
other
1"odo.y?
BACK TO MONOGAMY
Yes, I'm still
working -- I'd
Jove to get
together.
Who.t
time
is good
for
you?
Probobly. But I won't s now
your foce. ond I won't-
write about- any of your
pe.rso,nal
s-tuf'f.
221
Okay. blAt put me in
os little as possible.
This is what- love
is: if you like someone 01
whole lo-t AND you're'
sexually


-them>

rornon"'tic
1 ove.
CHAPTER
Fo.ce = you re
i.-. love -- romo.n"tic
love -- with
De.-.ise.
She soid tho."t if you like
someone o. lo1" AND yotA're
sexuo.Hy o.ttro.cted
'then
+ho.ts

love.
Most people prob01bly do
wont' 'their romo.ntic.
love- po.rtner to be
mort09CUrlOI..AS o.nd botAnd by
o. COI"Y''miti"Y''ent'.
222
for romGIIntic
I ove is o.bout
How 01re
yotA cAefi>" in9
rom01nt'ic
love?
possion.
A strong
e,.,ot'ion
H101t ... V\h .
leo.ds people
to wo.nt'
life-mon9
mon090II"Y'')'.
8lAt t-h01t doesn' t meo.n th01t'
those conditions DEFINE
romOIJ'lt'ic love for mOS1"
people. Let's
im019ine 01
colAple who
ore sexuolly
i nvolved --
BACK TO MONOGAMY
JG\ne -- Gh1d
for eo.ch
They're writing
poems for
eG\cn other,.
giving
pe:t-n01mes
to eo.ch
other---
Now, JG\ck and Jo.ne hQVe
NOT '"o.de. life- long
commifment
to eo.ch
ot-her--
Even s.o, most people in our
socie-ty would so.y thG\t
Jo.c k and. Jo.ne G\re G\
romol"lltic-love- couple.
-- no-t whet-.,er -they hG\ve.
sex wit-h other people or
whether
+hey
promise
to be
together
forever.
223
-- lflolding n01nds
time -- 0111
thG\t stuff.
And .. most"

-they're
pfASSiOnOI"te --
intensely in
love.
-- G\nd they DO openly
honestly
h01ve sex
with other
01nd.
g irls --
they' re
no-t
keeping
thG\t G\
secret.
It's the inte..-.sity of -the
emotion G\nd how -they
express
it to
eG\ch o ther
th<llt
defines
the.-n G\S G\
romo.n"tiC
couple--
CHAPTER 33
- G\nd. I don't neceSSG\rily
see romG\nTic love OIS o.
problem if it's experienced
ou-tside of
o. committed
mono9o.mous
frG\mework.
Possessive
81At YOI.A're
You' ve been monogomoi.As
with ... wno.-t'S herr-__ _. . .....,
nG\rne OI'3G\in ? Penise.
224:
Mono901.-ny 01nd commitment
G\re closely o.ssocioted
with rom01ntic
love, buT
they don'T
HAVE to 90
to9e-ther
So if I'"" not G\gG\inst
rorYJOin"tic
wh01t' do I
oppose ?
'loiA' ve been monogo.mous
wit-h Denise for ... how
m01ny ye01rS
h01s it been?
BACK TO MONOGAMY
And.. sP,.,e's been mono9"'mous
wi-th me. for severol yeQrs
now. But there's no
comw.itme.nt. She doesn'-t
own me--
l 'rvl sex wi-th Denise
becOitASe I WANT to.> 1'101"
beco.Ase I o.
Yn01rrio9e vow to her or
beco.CAse
s he'd. get
jeo.lous
;f I 5QW
someone
else..
She UKES me.> bc.A-t I'm
pre+ty sure she wouldn'T
use +he word love to
ciescribe she
feels o.bou"t
zzs
- - ond I clon'r own her. If
s he oid sex
with o-ther guys a9o.in, it
wouldn'T
bother
me.
OkQy, I love her.
I.An like people
tr01ppecl in
possessive monogo.rny,
You love.
ner -- does s6-le
love you?
I'm in 01
position -to
respond
TO my
sexAo.Hy-
relo.ted
emo-tions.
She doesn't feet
PASSION for me -- we' re
friends.
CHAPTER
I wouldt"''t"

rerne,....bered
the nome.
If you keep
seeing t-he
S(jlrne womon
over 01nd
over.
But- Denise proved th01"t
w01sn'-t 1'ri.Ae. I've been
see in9 her for WAY
I onge r thon I
Anne--
Z26
Just" havi""9 sex
with w .... ores. it
seems ... empty
TO yOIA?
I'd enjoy -t._.e sex> bu"t
o.fterw(jlrd I'd feel. ..
unSG\tisfied. So I
TO think rno.')!be
TOr
sex does
become
o hollow
experience.
I figured, if I repeo.-t with
any os os
I did with Anne, I'll feel
empty agQin.
- - and I never feel empty
a-fter being with her. If
01ny-thing 1 feel t-he
opposite -- I feel full.
BACK TO MONOGAMY
lJh ...
something
like thot. It's
SOW'Iethil"'9
beyond mere
sexuol
so.tisf<llc"tion.
Denise is <lin
CUTl(liZ j 1"1'3
person.
Anne me sexually
not in otner woys,
even though she w01s
pleasan-t 01nd I i ke01ble.
So paying for sex isn'-t o.n
empty experience if youre
paying -the right person
for 5ex.
ZZ7
/.-t o. recent" cornters"'tion witl-1 " frienol, I mentionec:t
tnc:\t "De.,..ise" is no lon9er CA prostitAte. He objecteo(>
"WhO\t" olo yot..t me"n? Of coCArse she's o. prostittAte --
yoCA're P"Yin9 ner for sex." I poi.-ttec:A oAt th"t she's
rYIOr1090\n-tOCAS with 1"11e Q.no( thO\t nO\Ve
with n-1"'ltiple men. My frienol co"'nterec;l.> " Th"t 's not
the c4ic.tionCAry c;{efil"'ition. '' I otidn't know wh"t the
clic.tiono.ry otefinitior1 woAiol be, I reo.c.heoC over to
my copy of tl1e GAGE CANADIAN DICTIONARY. Accoro(in3 to
+1-to.t source > 01. prostitAte is "o. girt or wom0\t1
01.ccepts ,..,o..,ey to en9o.9e it'1 sex"'"' o.cts wit-h me..,." I
the "men" o.s I reo.ol +he po..SSG\9E.> to
my frienoL He concecJ.ed.. the point.
lO\ter ... I pic.ked. LAp my WEBSTER'S --it d..efinecl. "
pros'titt.tte O.S SOWieone who nOI.S "prol"niSC.CAOt.tS" sex for
money. Not 01.1/ aictior1CAries 0.9ree -- ta.,e COLLINS CANAD-
IAN DICTIONARY CAno( the CONCISE OXFORD ENGLISH DICTIONARY
both cno..ro..c teri ze G\ prostitt..tte o.s someot"'e who hats sex
for po..yment, bt..tt neitner spec.ifies o.nythin9 o.bo""'t
tne "'"'mber of sexuG\1 po..rtners.
Js "Denise" still 01. pt'"ostit"'te '?A"" I still 01. jol-1..,?
Two people G\f"E.' it-1 01. mo..,ogCAWIOtAS sexc.Ac:d refO\tiOr1Ship
tl-u:l\t ' s for yeo..r.s . They co.re for eo.ch other
( even if t&.,ey S"Y they're ; .., love"). One of
t-he two G\Hists the ot-1-,er fi..,o.nciodly . . WI-tO\.t clo yoA
co..ll StAch o. relct"tionship?
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AFTERWORD
I don't CCAre whCAt you CAS, The
si3nificG\n't thing to me is oCAr reiCAtionship
snoc..tld not be 0\<;30\in st the IO\w. We sl.,otAid be cd lowe&
to nQ.ve sex> G\nc.( I shotAid be 0\llowE'ol to give he,.-
money.
"Denise" isn't tl-te only perso., ciepic.t(>c;( in this book
whom I love : My brother 6orc:Aon Brown lives in QtAebec
City cv1& livecA there throu9hoCAt 'the yeCArs covered in
these po.ges, whic.h rnO\y expiO\in why he's 0111ly i., two
scenes. ( The fint po.nel he's ;.,., is 57=2.) 1111 2000, the
9'-"Y with the hG\t
1
Seth, move& to 6tAelph ( "' Sn-1G\II
city o.bol-'t G\11'1 hot.Ar-G\nd.-G\-hodf Ci\WO\Y fror"n Toro111to ). He
comes i111to tl-,e big c.ity 0111 occ01sion, so we still see
eG\c.n ot&.,er pretty freqCAently. Joe MO\tt movecA to los
An9eles ;.,., 2003:> 01111c:A Kris N01k0\W1'-"YOI movecl to V0\111CotA-
ver in 200I.t:> so I cion't see them blAt I still tCAik
to tne......, o., tne pho..,e quite often. ( Kris's first pG\n('l is
a:s.) I'W1 9lo.d th01.t Sook-Yin lee still lives in Toronto
thCAt we get" to spend o.. lot of tirv'le to9e-the,.-.
When I fin i sheol olrO\wi ng PAVINu FOR IT, I let ti-le
0\.bove-me..,tionec:.( six people reCAd it. I wO\S worried
tnG\t of them mi9ht WG\'1t me to c.h01.n9e
thin9s - - their CActions, their diG\Io9t.te.> the WG\y I drew
tnem -- bt.At no..,e of the six CASkeci me to oo.lter CA
lit1e or word.. TnCi\t cAoes..,'t me01.111 t11ey were CAll
nG\ppy wi'th their I c;iic;A 1"ell then-t
thOit r Wot.tld 9ive theW'I Spatce i111 the book to h0o.ve
their- SCi\y, Only Seth took me '-4p on tho..t offer. His
notes abo'-4t ti-le scenes he's in G\re in AppenO.ix 23.
I Catllec:i JCASti., Peroff to let him kr10W t'-tOo.t ne'> ;.,
the book o..111d to CASk hii'YI if he WC"Anted to see 1-1is
sce..,es. ( He "PPE'Gus in pG\nels 7:5 a.,c:( 1:6.) He fine
with being G\ c:htllrO\cter in the story btAt SG\i& 1-te
WCAnteo( f"o experiei"'C the 9r"Cl\phic-novef in itS finc-sheo(
pri..,te-ot forvn.
Not o.ll of my fr-iends o.re chG\ro.c. te rs in this wteWlo i r.
1he following friel'ldS helped wte ;.., so.-..,e WOIY in creo.tin9
it: Mo.rk Askwitl-1
7
Peter 8irkemoe, A.,toneiiG\ Brion,
Rob i.., Go.t'lev, Jeet Hee r, JG\S01'1 Kieffer, D01ve l G\.PP:> G\ m
litovitz> Co.thG\ri111e liCA, Nick Mo.o.,.-,cAG\9> MG\rc NgCAi,
Mo.gdOt WojtyrOo., Etno.n Rilly, Zo.c.h Worto.,, Do.ve SiYYI *,
lim S/0\t"er, Sit.t To., .Jol-1.., Tt'Oin, JG\f'YleS TtArner, Colin
Upton,. 01n("). TCAnio. VCAn Spyk. None of ti-lese people
<A<3t'ee with CAll of the opiniOt'IS ( express i111 here 0.1'1&
sovne c:Aiso.<3ree with most of wh01.t I SO\y. ihese frit>l'lcAS
helpe& by beir19 willit19 to c4isct.tss o,nd deb01te t-he
topics of" love G\ll"lc4 with me. They c.dso
nelped in VO\YiOCAS other WOI.YS -- pointing OCAt if"'lpor-
fOint books to reG\0., proofreG\olil'19, mo.ki1119 desr9vt
su99e stio..,.s, d i H CA ss in9 0\pproCA<. ht>s to cirOo."'-' in9 > a..,cA
;.., mowty other w01.ys. I tho.nk thef'Yl o.ll.
Ano( thOo.nks to everyone 01t Dro..wvt A111d. GuG\rterty,
J>Oo.,-tict.Aio.r/y Chris 0/ivero.s> Pe99Y BCArl"lS> C"And 1o..,..,
Devlin.
230
APPENDIX 1
THE NORMALIZATION
OF PROSTITUTION
Prostitt-ttion is jCAst for,., of ci.ortir'\9.
Tl-lere is regtAio.tory o r le9od fr01mework for
d01ting . Nothing ho.ppens ci.CArin.9 p01iot c:l01tes
t-h01t doesn't n 01 ppen in <Ar'lpaid &ates. Frol"Yl 01 le9o.l
perspec. t ive tney be see., icie..,ticOII. No
regt.tlo.t ory or le901l fr01rnework is ne cess01ry for p01io(
clOitir'lg.
WhO\t I we're moving towo.ro( is o. time when
givin9 01not receiving money iS pO\rt of -t"'e give-
of sex t.Acd o.ct ivity. It won't be wh01 t eve ryo11e
cioe.s., but it wi II becoi'Y'Ie so com mo.., th01t no one II
think it oc:lot, disgusting_. o r LAI1t.ASu.o.l ;f 011e C40LAit ( m a le
or fe..,.,o. l e) pays C\11other OldtAlt ( mo.le o r femc.le) for
sex. It wil l be seen o.s normt:AI.
I believe Hlo.t., if prostitc.Ation is it.s
rtormodizo.tiot"l will h01ppe.., re/o.ti ve ly 'tc.Ai ckly -- with i n 01
few
Wl-te11 I was born, in 1960
7
l-tomo.sext.AOIIit y w01s
seen o.s "sick" G\not aiS9LASt ing. It wo.s ille9011 to en301je ;..,
howtosexc.Aod activity ;.., 'this <oCAntry ( a.nci probobfy 0111 of
231
APPENDICES
the other "western" cotAI"ltrieS ). In Pierr-e TrCLAdeo.v.
;.., Ca.na.c:AO\. Otlo,er
COI.Antries beg"'.., to ao the SO.rYI thi1'19. *" The re.svdt>
forty-5omething yeo.rs is tl-10\t nomose xv.o. l;ty ho.s
bec.ome norr'l'lo.liz.eoC for most people in " the ''. It's no
lon9e.r widely SE>en o.s Sic k or cliS9LASting.
APPENDIX 2
SEXUAL RIGHTS


You. weren' t
born o. jon..,.
Prosti tLAte s
aren't born
prostittAte s.
to prost i ttAtion.
Go.y s hc:we o.
right to ho.ve
go.y sex
beco.use they' re
borYI 90\y.
Prostit(..(tes o.ncl
johns clo.., ' t
ho.ve the
sextAo.l ri9hts
th01t 9o.ys
no. ve.
let 's 5"Y tl,o.t in o. few ye("(rs 9eneticists
will be <Able to poi..,t to o. spec.ific. 9e..,e whic.n
people to sexu.o.l l y desire rYJemben of tl-,eir ow.., 9ender:
o. "9"'Y 9e11e". '* Both sicAes in the n o.tCAre-verstAS-11tAr t (..(re
debo.te o.clf'Ylit tho.t both o,..,o( in-born c. ho.r-
CH.t er-istic.s infltAence so eve., if there i s a
g<Ay gene IA.Ihicl-, is res ponsible for ..-nost howrosex(.(a(
beho.vioc,..cr, tl-1ere will probo.bly be CAt leo. st G\ few hoWJo-
sextAo. l s who clon' t ho.ve the gene_. who go..y
throCA9n the influence of Hteir enviro..,wtent. Let 's .so.y
it OV\t fl-,o.t 99 % of the popCA/GI.t"ion
V.o.ve the 9ene 0\VIc.A. I Ofo don' t. If 90\Y r-i9l-1t s 01.re predi -
co.tecl o.., being born who..t c:Ao we clo if we
discover thoo.t 0\ few 90\YS were not born 9C\Y ? Do we
soo.y thC\t they clon' t howe the ri_91--tt to h01ve ga.y sex ?
Do we force t hem to howe hete...-osextAo.l sex ?
Jf G\. ( who IA.I().S born fesbi01n) is good f,..-;e..,c;(s
with 01 go.y rl'l0\1'1 ( wo.s bor.., go.y) Olno( they
dec;cJ.e. to hO\ve sex to9ether jt...cst to see who.t wtoo. l e - etnd-
(oit CAS is like_, o..re they doin9 Sowtethinc:.i ..,.,or-c;..lly
wrons? Is the lesbicn1 only o.llowed to ho.ve sex with
WOW1en ? Is the 91..\Y only 0\lloweol t o no.ve sex with
Wl"1 ? No .. tl-, c.t lesbic.n her go. y mo.le po.l ho..ve
every rigl-lt to sex to9ether-. Their- in-born sex(,(01l
orientatio.-,s don't cAetel'",..,ii"'Te who 01llowee{ to
232
APPENDICES
howe se)( with -- those o..-iento.tioi'IS c;.(ol'l't lii'Ylit their
sexLAO\I ri9hts,
Go..y ri.snts predic<ll.teo( Ol'l bein9 born 901y or-
"""'"i"'.9 the ri9ht gene. Cio.y C\re predicated on
cl-1oice etrtd COnSt?Ylt, If yoiA're 0\ t'VlQYl yov. (().,.., fiYJcA
Oll'loth.er who conse...,ts to howe sex it's.
ft..tO\t COI"''HI"'t th<At SiVeS yoi.A the ri.9nt to howe 5e:x
wit'-1 him.
Ge.,etics C\re irrelev<i'nt w'-1er1 it co mes to sexv.a(
90\)' rishts 01..-e bo.seo{ on c.V7oice c.tl"'ot
so C\re prostittAtiovt ri_sV'Its, @ ri.9hts
cu-e bc:tsed o,., c.hoice c:tno( co11se...,t.
APPENDIX 3
MORE ON THE
NORMALIZATION OF PROSTITUTION
It mo.y be o(;fficLAI't for people who ho.ven't 9iven tne
m<i'tter thov.9ht to pictc .. ue who.t """ to"kin.9
o.botAt.
let 's so.y t""<At prostittAtion is ; ...... te ......
yeo.rs. Now let 's jurYip o.l1eo.c:J. to the yeo.r 20SO. A yo""'""9
w om o. n w o r k s i ..., o. n t s hop -- I e t 's c G\ II "" e r I'll c.,.. y. A
yotAI'19 rr\CU\ "'"'""o 0\lso works there o{ecio(es to c:tsk l'll"'ry
OtAt on G\ o(o.te. ihey've k,.,ow.., eo.c."" other- seve..-0'11
vno ...... t-hs G\...,cJ s,..,e likes him_, so she so.ys yes, c:tcld;ll'19
+1-lo.t> if he wc.tnts to ho.ve sex with her> it' ll cost G\n
OlmotAnt of I'Yloney tho.t she spec.ifies. He fi11o\
this snocki""'9 --it's "' comrnon reqt.Aest in sitiAo.t-io,.,
like this. Tney 90 OIAt to dinner "',o( then no.ve sex
either his G\PG\rtmel"'''t or ners. He po.ys her tne
spec.ifiec).. price. The next d.o.y> MC\ry tells her- friends
<"AbotAt the cA"te . They G\ll sex for money too, so
.., o.., e of the I"YY "' r- e s no c. k eo< . M"' ..- y t e 11 s h e .-- mot 11 e r.
She's l"'ot .shocked eitV.er - -she still 9ets pG\icA for se)C'
""enetf. Most people ; ...... this fiAtiAre society hG\ve pC4ic.A-
se)( leo.st occo.sio...,o.lly. There G\re still 0\ few people
who believe in possessive t'Vl01'109G\......,y 0\nd.. 2.!!.!Y l-1cwe
sex if tl-ley fo.tl in love wi"th someo..,e> blAt """ost people
in 2080 see thC\"t C4S weirc:J._, olcA-fG\shio ...... eot beho.viour.
A mio(c:Ate -o.9ed 9LAY who c:.lso works "t the hc.t"t sa.,op
o.pproo.<nes Mo.r-y S1A99ests " cAo.te. Sne'.s not inter-
esteo( il'1 old.er me...,> so she politely declines. There's
1'10 expectc.ttion t'-lc:.t she h01s to ho.ve sex wit"' 0\nyone
wl-1o hatS t'Vlo..,ey. If Mo.ry o.cq_IAire.s el"'oLA_s"" frie.,cAs-
who-pOiy-for-sex> she'll be C\ble to q_t.Ait the hG\t
shop bLAt I the I"YY01'1ey she mO\kes from
sex 11icely StApplevnents her incoi'Y1e. No o ...... e wotAid see
M01ry OIS 01 sltAt for hC4vit19 I'YltAitiple .sex-po.rtYJers -- it'.s
see., C\S normod to ho.ve mt.Aitiple sexp"rt...,ers.
WhO\t 0\botAt love? MCi\ry feeli1"'19S
233
APPENDICES
for o,....e or Ci\ll of l-Ie r fr;e...,ch- who-pc:Ay- for"- s e)(.
( Beir19 pCi\i& for sex doesn't prec:luc;(e the possibiliTy thCi\t
o,.,e coiAio( love the perso., Or s"'e mi9l-lt- ho.ve
o. sext.Ao.l frie...,o( she loves who cioesn't P"'Y her for- sex.
Mo.ybe she po.ys hiovt. ( It's co,..,.,,.,o..., for- wome"" to po.y
me.., for sex i..., this society.) Or mCi\ybe no money
c.h0.1"19E'S nGIII"!OS 0\t Qll in thCi\t po.rtictAio.r r-eiGIIti01'1S,hlp.
BecCAlAS it's 11or..,..,o.l 01noC l"''othi...,9 is secretive
o.bout it,., Mo.ry co.n J..to.ve podd-sex wit.., people she
knows -- tl.-ter-e is,.,'t the so.wte .-,eeci to se01rch for
who might btAy or self sex. This to.kes o.
good. de011 of the risk out of ti-le G\c.tivity. Perho.ps
in this pr-eciicteot worlc:J. of 2080 there will still be
streetwo.lkers o.ncA who howe po.ic;(-.se)(
with str01nger.s> bL.tt rY10St people will WOI..,.,. to l-'1etve
some prior con...,ec"t-io"" witl-1 the +l-tey get
;..,to b ecl with> just 0\S most people liked th01t betck in
20 II.
W!.,e"" yot-"""'9 people 01re toiDC tJ..,01t bo.ck in 2011 l-tCAvin.9
sex for mo..,ey wo.s seen o.s o. Sh01_,ef"'l tl-1i""C3> it will
see., bi'lo.rre to the...,.,, "It wo.s ille90\l ? Why? lt's
SO ... l'lOr"...,..,OII , "
How likely is it th 0\t this w iII be the wo.y thi ""'9S ore
in 2080 ? Not likely o.t o.ll beco.IASe 9overnments CAren't
o.boiAt to decr;,...,;...,OIIiz.e prostitiAtio...,,

YOU OWN YOUR, BODY
Your boc.ty iS yotAr property. CAS you own property
like books o.nd. cfothes
7
yo"' own yOIAr" bocJy. You shotAfot
no.ve the riglo,t to G(o whO\tever- yoL.t wc::....,t" with your
bociy ( other property you own ) etS lo.-19 0\S yotA
the property right.s of others. (By whicl--t I me01n:
yoCA d.o.,'t or stec.tl el se 's property> or use
frc;tucl or thre01ts of force to it,., c;t,.,o( yoc.A don't
use pnysicod for-ce to mo.ke Someone cio something
they do.,'t wo.nt to d.o.)
If yo"' re.spec.t the property rigJ..lts of others cmc( treCo\t
them with courtesy, G\ moro.l life.
' I wCi\nt to hcwe sex
with you becettASe
yotA'f( give me
mo11ey.
I w01nt to sex
with you
l love yolA.
To me,., st01tement A is OIS mor01l etS stCAtement 8.
APPENDICES
APPENDIX 5
JOHNS DON'T BUY WOMEN
JonYIS b(;(y womel"'\.
No m o"'"' shoulcl nove
the ri9ht"
to o
When I bu.y .somethin9 -- SG\y>
o. book -- I to. k e it nome Ci\no<
9et to keep it for- o.s long o.s I
wo.nt. I OWV1 it. When I ho.o( GH1
oppointment" with Ci\ prostitute,
I c(id. not bLAy her. I pC\icl to howe
sex with I-ter. Afterwo.r-ol, we'c(
port compo..-1y. I didn't 9et to
keep her-- I didn't own her.
APPENDIX 6
POWER
Pt"ostitc.Atio"' is Wf""OY1'3
it gives "' mG\n
se.xLAod power over 0\
wol't"'Oin . TV.e
jonn gets
to d.i c: tCo\ te
wh01t
h01ppe,s .
JtAs't as m"'le prostitt.Ates
c:io > fe mode pro .s tit ute s hG\ve
their rules -- whG\t they
will o.ncA won't cAo with
cl i et1tS. Some wi I( hG\ve
voginCi\l sex bi.At won't- 9ive
orG\1. Others only fello.te. *
Some let johns perforii'Yl
, .... ...,nilin9lAS on the.,..,, others
clot1't. Some kiss, some won't.
A..,o. it's t1ot jtAst
Ci\bO&At r"tAfeS - - prostit(;(tes cJ.o nCi\ve SeXIAC\1 power in
their inter-Ci\ctions witl-t their- clients.
ity is power. Wne.., o. rnon thinks Ci\ worn011'1 is o.ttrG\c-
tive, ne wa..,-ts to pleo.se her. Also, sex-workers '"'..,
oncA Gto speo.k tAP if" they do,..,'t- like whot's ho.ppe..,ing .
"Millie's" req_c..cest i.., pGlnel is o..., exCi\.-nple. I
remernber o. sin-tiiG\r incic(ent- wit., "A.-,ne":
Chester_, my le9s G\re 9ettir19
tireci. CotA.Id we
positions ? ----
Of
235
APPENDICES
A few months 0190 "Denise" told me thO\t I WO\S bein9 0\
bit too 0\99ressive sexuO\\Iy> so I toneO. d.own wh01t I
wo.s &oin9.
Are there jerky jol-lt'lS wno WOLdo( clisrec;sOir"o( 00. pro-.ti-
tCAte's ..,.,;&-coitod req_CAest or St..1<3<3esrion? I'I'YI s(Are t-heYe
0\re. B CA't there a.,-e odso 9lAYS who igno,..e
req_Ae.sts 0\.-td SCA99estions in unpOtid sexLA0\1 sitCAo.tions>
so ;f we pede;( sex bec.o.w>e soi'Yle 9""YS o.re
;.., beo(, we sYioLAid c.rirVlinodize 1Anpa.id sex for
ti-le scv'Yle rea.son.
Here's o. sex- wo,..ker on tl-,e SV\bjec.t:
My clients a.re invGH''"io.bly polite.[ ... ] I control wl1c;4t
I wisl, to do o..-,o( set my whic'-1 o.re C\lwc.tys
respec.teo(. [ ... l]n four- yea.r.s C\t va.rious 019enc.ies>
I CO\n reme...,.,loer only onc.e l-101.ving to s/a.p o. m01.n
who WtH too insistent. ( He wcH
ov.t the. O.oor
Prostitutes a,,-en't passive pAppets> a.nol most joh.-, s
0\l"en't c:Aic.to.tors.
APPENDIX 7
MONEY!s INFLUENCE
0\ womO\n to hoo.ve 5ex wher1
.she otherwise WOtAidn't wa.nt to.
If tho.t mea.ns tho.t the infl""ence of money is b01c:(,
the.-, it odso wteo.n.s th01.t love i s bad. Mc..ny
people in love relo.tion.ships howe sex they don't wo.nt
to hO\ve.
Z36
I don/t to
h ewe sex with
this 9Lty_, bt.At
I neeot the
APPENDICES
I don't want to
hcwe sex ri9nt
now, btAt he's VY\Y
boyfrieVJo(_, o."'cA
I love hii"YY, so
I will.
I no /on9er fee I
for ,.,.,Y
hLASbC\nd_, bLAt
for- tne sake of
ot.Ar m G\rri019e
I 'll 1-1o.ve sex
with 1-Jim.
Tl-Jcue is no W'IOrod c;A;fferel"lce between the above three
c.irc.ut'Y'Isto.nces.
APPENDIX 8
SELF-RESPECT
be i IIE'9011
it dest,-oys tne
se lf- respect
of
prostitt-\te s.
prior to
the revoltAtiol'l
exper-ie.-,ceot
c;.(epr$Sion> .9'-'ilt,. c:u1d
bei....,.9 9oo.y.
That doesn't t&.,c..t
is w,-ong,
it meo.t1S tl-tc..t) c..t a
certc..i"" point ;.., 'ti n1e,
nowro.sexlAo.lity WC4.S
.. o.ncl 9o.ys ;....,terncdizec;{ the 90.y-ne9o.tive
values of tne C1..4ltt.Are tney lived i.,, Today, mal"ly prosti-
tvdes .intern01/ize the wnoril'19 iS- bo.o( C\ftitl.t(de of the
cultu,-e. we live ;.,.,. TJ..to.t doesn't meC\n th01t sex-work is
bo.c;{ , it me01...., s we howe to for iT who. t we c;{i o( for
dec.rivninalize it.
Not o.ll prostittAtes internc..lize t-he Ylesative ctAitlAral
v01l"'es re9o.r-ding paiot sex-- ma11y c/0\iWI to like the
work, a,cl even that it iWlproveo( their self-esteevn.
Pnyflis LtAW1C\VJ wrote:
wv. el"l I first fo\"' it} I nC\d I'Y'ILAC.Yl WI Ore
se lf respec.t o.no( self worth H101.., I ever hac;{
be f o,.. e . I f e I t a p pre c i t e d. [*]
According to Jo.VIe of New York:
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Before I starteci esc.or-ti...,.9, I C\ few hoy-
fr-ieno(s [ .... ] They weren't shy C\boLAt floo.t
tellit19 me that I c(idn''t look 9ood because I was
too tel(( O.V'H:l too thil"l. [ ... fv7]ost of [my cfieYifS] helpeo(
leo.r..-t two very important thi..-t9S: that I oo.m
beC\utifi.AI jiASt tt.,e way I o.m_. -tno.t I'YlY p/eo.-
SI.-\re iS too. WV1en I st01rteo( workin9, I
met o.ll tl1ese [ c.lie...,ts] who tl,otAght I WetS
9orgeo1As, model-like_, even. They loveo( my Sma ll
breo.sts O.Ylcl impossibly Jon9 less. They tola me I
wa.s bec.ttAtifiAI over etnd over 0\90\i..-t LAI"ltil I

AY1o.Nicole of Berkeley_. (o.li forniCA> ""/dresses a
p01rt ic tA letY john :
TnroLA.9h I'Y\Y sessio..,s with yotA_, 1 hG\ve C\CC(IAireo(
il"'voo.ltAC\ble self-esteem in r-e9C\ro(s to my body, sex
appeo.l_, C\no< service. I hoo.ve '3rown as a sexvtal
bein9 not OV11y it-1 My profession, bLAt in my re0\1
life o.s well. [**]
VeroY'IiCc.t Monet s tho.t:
Sex work 1-tG\S bee.., ernpowerin9 and liber0\tin9
for WI. My self-estee,.,., l-1as improved. clr-astic-
C\IIy ;,., tne last six ye01rs since I enterec:i Hte
se)( indiAstry. [ ... ] I .,of" by sex. I
not C'\ reSOlArt:e or property CG\1'1 bt
clevodLAeci. t"hrou9h use. I arYt no't hlArt by .SIAC:h
terms 0\S "sfCAt" or "whore." I prouclfy o.ssert
I G\rYI both. [<t<J
APPENDIX 9
CHOICE
Whe"' they confro .... t wl--ro ciO\im to
howe freely chosen their- profession) (AnTi - pr-os.t-itutior1is.ts
( wl.,o 0\re oft en ) are pLAt ;.., ti-le posit-ion of
looki..-rg like they're tryin9 to restr-ict the fy-eeclom of co.
9ro"'p of woVVlen. Severed of t11ese howe
dec.ioCecA thO\t the ov.t of this q_IAo.noCO\ry is to o.ssert
tho.t c(..,oic.e is t1ot possible when it comes to sex- work.
Sheil"' Jeffr-eys, C\ feWii..-tis-t, o.r-gues this;..., ner book
THE IDEA OF PROSTITUTION :
T!-,e worol c.l-toice is vtot etppropriate for- C4 w/.,ose
., c.VIoi c e " is between Jow-p01i & se rvice work whi c h aoes
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not fit ;..., with c.hild-co.Y"e, 0.11d the cho..,ce of "' bette.--
income with more flexible l.,olH"S HtroCAgh the vio/c .. tio..,
of her body. [Jeffreys .. pp. 155, 156.]
Tnis womo.., m'-'y .,ot feel HtC\t pt'oStitution
is o. viol01tio..,. Sowte wome..., would, otner.s Mor-e
to the poi.,t, i f it's r'lot possible for c::u-1 o.ttr01c.tive si r1.9/e
mom to c. l.,oose between work o.nol prostittAtio..,_.
Hte., why o.re there o.ttractive Single mother.s wi1o work
a.t wti1'1iW'ItA"""' - wo.9e jobs? Some wo.....,en CG\...,'t tl-te
thoc..cgJ..-at of hG\vi..-t_9 with so they
choose +he clrudge,.y of working for low po.y. Meo..,(...Vhile_.
there Qre. o ther moms who c. hoose sex-work over /ow
wo._9es o..,o( o.re hG\ppy to be o.ble to the
cirCCAWlStG\11C()S thc..t their chilolren live i n . Jf two people
fcc.ce the so.me pro bleW\ o.nll( mo.ke two d i ffer-e., t olec..i sio,s
0\bOIAt how to solve tJ.tG\f thel"' c.hoic.es are being
mO\ole , That does 11' t I'YlO.n the c hoic.es 01r-e eo. sy ,. blAt o.
c h oice is stilt o. choi ce,
Wne., 9i rl s howe bee.., H?>< tAO./Iy o.buseol ;.., c. V! i ld
OtS wowten ofte11 ho.ve, it is no.rd to see
them hc:wi..,g C\ reo.ll y free c.hoic.e. (Jeffr eys, p. /53.]
thiVlk were steppin9 do.n9erous ter-r it o ry vvhe.,
we st(;(r-t so.yin.9 certo.in CAO.ults Qre not o.lloweol to
choices beca.Ase they ho.d bG\ol childhoods. If
wo...,.,en-who -were- QbtAsec:Ain - c.hi lot hood o.ren' t co.-npete.,t
to mo.ke the c.hoic.e to e..,9019e i n paid-sex, then o.r-e t&-,ey
competent to rno.ke other sexulll choices ? Re9<:4Yo/f en of
who.t h01ppe..,ed to the.., ;., c. nilc:lhood_. (:\c::fults shoulo(
l-tawe the ri9hi to make sex ual choices_. inc.lc .. u:lin9
tho.t SV!eilo. wov.ld olisCApprove of.
Whe...., prostitLttecA won1en themselves tASe the. lo.n9u-
o.9e of " choice '', they e. G\., be see.., to be
in what o( e vi" n c. y so c. i o I o 9 is t .s c c.d I '' n e At r G\ I is i....., 3
tec. h....,iqLtes ". Sociologists use thi.s ter-m To describe
title w"'y ; ...., s oc.i" lf y despiseol G\noC mG\r9inaliSE'd
9roups cr-eo.te r-o.t iono.li s"tion.s whic.h e...,"ble the..,..,
to StArVive their- St.Ac. ""' tech-
niqLteS WlCIY be ei'Ylployec:l beca.tAse the
tive m(:\y be the pO\infi.A I one of self-
r Jeffreys, p. 1371
let's tho.t oprnrol"' with the folf owi n9
writtel"' by two wowten who o.re o r were sex-wor kers.
I c.CAn f o r the first time ;, I'YIY life tho.t I love
my job. It 's the leCAst exploited I ever been
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.A A 'VYV VA .A vv A ../\/' v v 'V 'V '\rv ...,......,A Av .AA.,.A..,/\
at work, for Ctdeqt..H"te mo11ey this -time. [ ... ] I'm
e" e .-, Cl b I e to e n j o y t he w or k i t s e I f., not j us 't its
an& have to C\11 body
types c.o.s lo..,9 C\S t"'ey're clean C\n& kino( [. j
It ho.s C\ll coWie d.own to choice for me. I cnose to
see some C\nd I chose not to see others. I
chose whO\t sexCAO\I o.ctivities I was williY19 to
engo.ge in for po.y C\Yld I c"'ose what not" ''on
menu., I ""'Y bOIAndo.ries C\1'1o( I
honored. the CAniq_CAe sexv.ality of tt]
Jeffreys SCAyS tho.t" prostitv.tes like these Otre r01tional-
i-z.i119 01nd th01t tney o.ctiAOtlly feel self-co..,tempt. u..,/ess
Jeffreys is o.lle9ing she psycl.-tic powers) s ne
can't know if 01 pC\rtictAicu prostitc.Ate feels self-contempt.
Wnen yoLA howe to resort to claiming to know what yoiAr-
icleolo9iCal oppo1o1en'ts secretly feelin_g , yoi.A've riAn
OtAt of goocl argiAments.
To see how d.esper01te Jeffreys co.11 get, re01d. the
following:
Oppress ion CO\ I'lnot eff ec. t i vely be 90.CA9eo( o.ccord. i "'9
to the ote9ree of si11ce eve.-, il"' slo.very
tnere was conseVIt if consent is as
ir1o.bility to see, or feel enti tled to,., o.ny
[Jeffreys,., p. 135 . ]
Jeffreys is SCArely the ovtly person on the plo.net who
G(efines cot-tse..,t 'this wo.y.
A penon is botA..,o( in heco.vy iron chOtins. /, thett
is no to bei1o19 bot..tnol by
<:ho.iVIS_, bt.1t thc:.t 1o1ot mean that the persoV'I is
COV1SentinCJ to beiVI_g boCAnoL Not an alternOI-
tive t ,o o. sitCAation not mea.., thett yotA 01re
ci-looSiVlg to be in thG\t sitCAC\tion. YotA face c.hoi<:es
wl-te.., yoc.A hcwe o.lterVlo.tive s ( like the o..,e betwee"' a
low-wa9e job prostitLA'tion ). Slcwes didn't choose
to be s laves.
Feminists netve that choice iS poHible
it comes to o. ot;fferent, ol;ffict..tlt St..tbject
a.bortion. The fei'Y\inist position ( 01nol I G\gree with
it) is tho.t woMe.., own t"'eiY bodies 01no( the,..efore
ec..c.h ho.s the ri.9ht to cnoose to get 0.1'1 o.bortiol'l
i f s "' e 9 e t s p r e 9 .., .., t . T h i s ; 5 c c. II e cl b e ; n 9 .. p r o- dt o i c. e. ''.
shoiA/o( be co..,sistent on the SCAbjec.t of
choice. If 0\ woman has the ri9ht to c.hoose to h owe c.n
abortion, she shotA/o( etlso netve the rigltlt to to
sex for money. It's her body> it's her ri.9nt.

APPENDICES
APPENDIX tO
VIOLENCE
Jeffreys o.n& some ot,..,er feWiinists co..,te""al that +'-te
r-elationsl,ip betwee"" G\. pro$tit&-cte CA.no( "' jo'-'"' is
Cc violenT Jeffreys quotes Evelina. uiobbe :
P r o s t i t (;( t i on i s s e x o I o. b (;( s e b e ca u s e pro s -t ; t u t e s a.,.. e
to 0.r1y l"lCAI"''\ber of C\c.ts tho.t ;.., o...,y
otket"" context, teet ogG\it'lSt ony other womGtn_.
woi.Aiol be /Qbellec( c.tsso.ultive oY., at ti-le veYy le(;(st>
GH1c:i coerced . [=f<]
It' s my irYlpressiot1> o.ccot..c..,ts by joi-1"1S o.nd
prostitt..ctes> thO\t pO\iol-sex is uSlAO\IIy pretty mt..ccn the
so.me as unpO\id- sex. Certc.inly I did
sexiAa.l wit&1 o. pro.stitt.ete thett I ho.oln' t olone wit'-1 my
9 i r I fri eno(s. The thi n9s I like sexuaHy G\re ( o.s fa..- QS I
CG\1'1 9ettl-ler) pretty nort'l'lal O."''ol not c:.t o.ll ki..,ky. ( Not
I tl1i"' k tho.t ki1o1ky se:>c bet wee..., co"'sent-i...,9 o.of..,.lts
is wron9.) My girlfrie..,ds c;(;o(,., ' t experience sex wit-h
n1e o.s or OISSa.tAitive., so it's not trLAe th01t t,..,e
sex I no.c:A wit,., prostitutes WOI.Aiol) "in o.ny otner
context> [with] other wom01n> [ ... ] be lo.belleo(
". Did prostitlAtes like ho.vin9 seX' with me
the wo.y Yny girlfrienols did? No., probo.bly Bt-ot
ti1C\t 's not Jeffreys; G\nol Giobbe's point. Even ;f th01t
WCi\S their- point> it WOlAio( be G\ leG\p fo so.y
becOiuse someoll'le iSn't enjoyirt9 01 .SE')C(;(Q I ef1C.OlAV1ter>
they're therefo...-e experier1ci"'S it c:u o.ss(;(ultive or
coeYcive,
Jeffreys sees h01rc;{SSI'Yient o.s "' form of sex&AO\I
violence.*"'* SI-te 9ives exo.mples of sex hCArass..,e""t:
[ ... )leering., menQcin9
7
steering 01nof sexLAo.l
[ .. ] whistles> LASe of innvtertdo o.no(
gossip> sexi.AOII joking., propositioning[ ... ]
lAnWa.nteot proX'ivnity [ . .. Jeffr-eys, p, 26't. J
lookit19 o.t tho.t list., it becomes cleGtr how Jeffreys
co.n -think th01t prostitlAtion is 01. forM of viofe.,..c.e . SV1e
o(oesn't lASe tf,e woro( ''violence" tne w01y other people
do. If yotA know th01t by .st01ndivt9 close to someone
mo.king tl-ten1 uncomforto.ble, then it's inconsi-
derO\te Olnc( rLAde to COYltinue to StO\nd ;.., their- proxi-
mity. Still> th01.t doe.5n' t make " lAit1WGH"'teol proximity''
violent. SexlAG\I jokes CO\n be i nsel"\sitive ., btAt jokes
C\re111't "' forVYl of violence.
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lr n-1o..y be thc;.t Ylot o..ll jol-lns
violent>
still be kept i lle9AI
Not p,-ostitLAtes
violence* btAt_,
yes> mGh"'Y do. ThAt
metH"' thO\t
prostittAtion shoi.Aiol be
; ltesc.l . When t01.xi
beCAIAS
prostitutes do
I y
e..,c.o.Anter
viol e.-,ce.
H1e ri9ht to c;(etermil"le
C\t'YlOLAY1t of risk ne-or-ske is
driver is or
shot> no ot1e
thAt cJrivil'19 C\ CO\b
sl--totAid be c r imi 11alized.
EC\c.h pers o,., sl-1oCA /c.(
for- him-or- Y'Ier.self' the
willing to for C\
po.rticc...dAr job.
Also_, keepi1119 prost i ttAtion tl.,e problerYI
worse., ..,ot better.
Tho.t john beAt
s tole
my WlOI1ey.
I Wetnt to
cedi the
police --
- - btAt WOLA/o( c;(I""CtW t-heir
0\tte...,tion to
t"'e fetc:t tV!ett
I' m rt.Annin9
ilfe9et l ;..,cc;.ll
operAtio...,
ot..tt of this
01 par"tmef"''t.
Dec.rirni'1aliz.i119 will make it more likely thCAt
sex- worker wotAid report this sort of c.r i me. Of
c(ecriminodiz.ation wor1t completely irraclicG\t
violence blAt it will sive the....., an
option to ae01l with thG\t violence.
APPENDIX 11
SEXVAL OBJECTIFICATION
be ilfe9o.l becAvtse
it e..,<ot.uo.9e s rne,., to objec.tify
WOVI"len .
Sl-teilo. Jeffl'"eys c{efines sexLAo.l o.s o.
fot'"l"'"\ of e t"V1 o t i onod indiffe,..e...,ce . *Is it WYOI"\9 for people
who o...-e indifferent to eo.cC., other to hC\ve
se')( ? S&,otAic:i we n-to.ke CAnpo. io(. one-night-stands illegcd ?
I o.c:tLAo.lly do..,'t think prostitlo\tion cloes e11c:oc..trA9e
ernotiono.l Any time Ct. john s to.r-ts to for9et
thO\t he's cieetl i "'9 wi-th f"eo.l people, o.n incio(ent ho.ppens
like the one I show in po.nels 60=8 to 66=z which brin9s
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the 91AY bo.ck to tlie tho.t l,e's i.., beet with
whose he h"s to t"ke ;..,to o.ccoLAnt.
Tl-ler-e be it"'se..,sitive jol-t11s wl,o ft\il to recos-
niz.e cespo..,sibi/ity_. btAt I don't thi..,k it's P"Y;..,g for
sex thCAt the....,., to be inse..,sitive.
I feh G\ vo.riety of emotion"! to the sex-
workers I SOIW. I WG\S never covnpletel y ei'Yiotionc:dly
to 0\ny of thei'YI. I WO\S less concerned G\boiAt
wh"t they felt whe.., they dic<,t seei'Yl to CG\r-e wh"t 1
felt. "Yvette"' ( CJ-t01pter 17) wot.Aio< be ".,.. exao.mple, blAt I
s t i II i n' t w".., t he r to fee I b" c;( I y "'bolA t o lA r en colA n t e r.
Mo<;.t of the prostittAtes I w01s with I felt o. t leao. s t some
o.ffection for. Severed of thewt I reao.lly liked. A few of
f 9E>ntAi..,ely respected.. With emotion01l
is t}-Je opposite of whao.t I feel. If po.yin9
for sex co.t.Ases ao. I'Y'IO\n to feel il"'cre01si.,9ly eMotio.-,<AIIy
inct i ffere..,t to the women he's hcwin9 sex with> the..,
by ti-Je ti.-ne I seei..,9 '' De,ise"> I sho.Aid..,'t hcwe
bee.-, ao.ble to howe ao.ny to her.
I think it 1'Y1i9ht be possible pao.ying for sex cotAiot
le01d. " I'Y'IG\..., 'to 9re01te.- ei'Yiotio..,"l se..,sitivity> ao.t leo.st
for some J"oJ.,..,s -- those w&.,o o.re ope.., to the
tlo-!ao.t tl,ey mi9ht hawe thi..,gs they coCAid be leQrnil"19 from
enCOIAt'1ters with sex-workerS,
APPENDIX 12
HUMAN TRAFFICKING
AND SEX-SLAVES
There see""'s to be so.....,e conf<Asio"' t\bo"'t tJ.,e ter.....,
Whe.., I originCAIIy heG\rcA it severt\ l years
it refer-red. to tn:A.nsporti..,9 ""'i9rt\..,tS across ille9ally.
LG\tely I've het\r-ol and seen the expceHiot'l inter-c.ha..,ge
o.bly with ''pimpin9" as if they mean the sa,e thi..,g. There
o.re tit'rleS wlo,en certain t..-01ffic.kers tlo,i..,gs t'-101t
Sii'Yii l t\r to WheAt pi ...... ps olo .. btAt I see no rE.>G\SOI"l to biCAr the
so going to ho/o( to the origii"!CAI ..,.,eao...,ing
of h ... m"'.., tr<>.ffic.ki..,9 for this
Most people who o.re tr01fficked to be trOt.fficked.
They're poor cov.ntries G\nct want to c.o,......e to richer
eitner for tne ecol"lo..,.,ic. opporttA..,ities or
tney WC4..,t to trCAvel. Some of them h01ve b01ot e)(periences
while bei"'9 --others don't 01..,c:A o.re h01ppy
tJ,ere's o. to 9et to where they "'-'G\nt to go.*
11"1 tJ.,e mo.jority of J.itAmOin hao.s noth-
in3 to d.o with prostitl.o\tion. ( Accoroling to one Sot.Arce>
"j lAs t 4 perc e.., t [ of t r 01 f f i c k i n 9 ] in v o I v e s t h e s e X'
". 1,., ti1e CO\Ses where is
i.,volvecl_. WlOo.ny of the woWien choose to be tr01fficked
knowiVIg they'll be worki..,9 o.s prostitLAtes il"' the COIAI'1try
tl--ley'll be to. So..,..,e O.o l'tot m01ke thCAt choic.e a.-,o(
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APPENDICES
o.re for-cecl to work pt'ostitt.Ates Ol9G\i"'1St their will. For
the SG\ke of c.lc;trity 1'...,., 90in.9 to use. the tenYI "sex- SIG\ve"
to r'efer to trG\ffickec{ fe...,.,odes who o.re forcecA to I-1G\ve

To j1Ad9e by C(ccents, foi.Ar- of the pr-os.tit"'tes I s"'w
were n o t born i n C c.. n o, : "A n 3 e I i n ., ( C h c.. p t e r 3 )
"Amc..ndOl" ( Cho.pter 1 ), "Arlene'' ( (hOlpter 21 ),
'' L01v.r01'' ( 29 ). ( I consid.e,- whether- G\ny of t-hese
women were sex-st01ves ;..., the r"totes sectio...,,) The IG\st
of the foi.Ar WG\S -- I so.w her on December 12th
2002. J wc..sn't <;\WG\re of the existence of se)(-SI01ver'"y in
v.nti I I heo.ro( 01.n interview the .SlAbject
on C-S-C R01.c:Aio on Dec.e..,.,ber 16th

so i t ..,ever
even o cc t.U reo( to me to won de r if ':An 9 e I i n o.",
"A...,.,G\nc;(01", "Arle.,e"> GVlo "LouArO\" were sex-slo.ves. If t
ever cJ.o find myself with 01 foreign- born prostitt.Ate
019o.in, """' sure I' ll o.sk I'Yiyself if she's bee..., forcec;.( to cto
the work, If I hc:we stro..,9 re-o.sons to SlASpect thO\t she
h01s been, l'lf 01.sk if there' s o.nythin9 I c01n c:Ao to help
her 01.nci will of-fer to co.H the police on her behO\If. As
o. joh.., who's ..,ot o.nc;.L is open o.nd "otAt''
0\botAt" p01yin9 for sex I no.ve more options
o.boV\t how I COI.Aic:i nelp in SCAC:h si ttAO.fions. MOII"\y johi"\S>
worrieol o.boAt their wives fincti..-.g otAt> woAid.-,'t wo. .... t
to the cops.
P"Y for sex <;\re
cre"'tir19 a
demCAnd. for
sex- 510\ves.
to stop
vtem01nd. we h<Ave.
to c ri mi I"''CI I i l. e
p01ying for sex.
It sl-1o&Aid be
i to be
01 john.
let's SGli.Y 01 cert01in shoe coW!pOiny IA.S5 sl01ve IQbour to
"""'nv.f01ct1Are its shoes -- sl-lotAio( we crimi"''o.li-ze the weo.r-
;...,9 of snoes in order to stem the dern01nd for SIOive-
mc.c*e shoes? No, shoes <;\no( c re01ting "' clemanc(
for shoes is not in itself wron9_, and. ma.,Afc.cttAring
snoes is not wrong when free conse"'t- to d.o i-t.
This hypothetico.l shoe c:ovnp01ny wov.(o( probCAbly contr<Act
oi.At the work -- tl-,ose contro.ctor-s o.YJo( G\1"\yone 01t the
comp01..,y who wa.s a.wo.re of the slo.very shotAIO. be the
people helc{ legc.dly for the problem_, not
p1Arc:ho.sers of the shoes_, wJ.to woc-4lcln't know OlhotAt the
siCAves .
I o.o.,' t wc.tnt to hCAve sex with sex-slo.ves. When I hi,-e
a. I hope thc.tt sf.1e's "'fr-ee perso.., who h01s
c:l-loH"' the work. If I foi.A.-,o( OIAt tnCAt (;\ I hG\o(
hired. WG\S 01 I wo"'lot be willing to try to help
her. Most joh.,s don't w01..,t to hir-e .sex-siCAves, There is
Si.9111ificG\nt conStAr>'1er cleW101not for PtAnisl-1il"l.9
johns for soMet-hing we c;.(on' t wo.nt 0\r"lc,{ c{o..,'t know-
APPENDICES
in9fy in is mispto. c.in9 the -- especio.Hy
when .. in Co...,o.c<o., t""e n-,G\_jority of pros titAtes o.re not
sex-.slcwes .. .so tn01t joht"lS co..., be reo. soY1o. b/y cert0lil1
most of the tii"'Yle we're with sex- workers w"'ro
howe c nos en rhe profession.
A point: if we cri m i nali ze the ptArc.V.otse of
sexlAal ... Hten police will 90 into trac.k-
;..,9 O.l"lol identifying jol-'!ns . Those wov./d
be better ;..-, trCo\c.k i.-"19 .se)( - s/o.vers o....,o(
free.iV'l.9 .se)(-s lo.ves.
IF we licence fei"V\o.le
we'll be o.ble to mo.ke Sl..\re tho.t
only wome.,-who-ho.ve-
th e - le go. I- right- -to-
work-in- (Oin0\()(01.
work CAS
prostitvctes.
We'll be 01ble to
icte.,tify who
tl-1 e
People wl1o rno.ke this 01re ignorin9 01 big
f01ctor: +S.,e bl<llck If s are
li c.e..,ce d, n-1ost prostittAtes will c.noose to
work ;..., the l:J/o.c.k lic.enc.e s. (Prostitutes
YlOI Ve. STf"01'19 reo.SoYIS for protec.tit19 their priv01cy, potr""tiCIA-
Io.rl y f,-o m ri-te 9over.,,.,..e.,t, whic.h h01<; NEVER wot'"ked ;.,
tkeir- bes t it1tft>sts .) TV.e black market bec.on1e
-- too large to be COt"ltrolleO.. SeX- slowes WOIAic.( be
forcec,( to work ;,., t""e blo.ck m01rket, rtot in legOll
brothels. Nevertheless, the of i..,
t!-te mo.rker wol-\lcA be free w""o
c. ""o ose -the work. lc.le...,tifying whic.'-1 proHif"t.Ates ;..,
-the bl01.ck I"'YlOirket 01.re cirize..,s which 01re
iII e .901.1- irn rn i 9 ro.nrs- wl-to- might - be-sex- SI Qve s wo lAIc;.( be
never-enc<ing 01n& very expensive to.sk for the
0\t.Athorities. lic.e..,c i "'9 wot.Aic:i m01.ke it no e01.sier to
SelC'-S io.ves it is now.
o..-, Top of t h c:-t_, OIS I've elsewl-,et'"e in this book ..
tl-te ;c(eo. of lice..,c.iV'lg conse..,svc01l sex between c-.dv.lts is OI.YI
offe..,sive restriction on SelC'I.A<lll civi l ri9nts. Two
(On Sen ting QcliAffS ,Si-tOCAiol YIOt neeo( to OI.Cq_Uire 01. 90VY"t1
ment-i H!Aeol. dOU4WleV'lt" to hOI.ve Se)(. Freei..--g .sex- sloo.ves
.sl-totAic.l be 01 priority for OI.Ar IC\w e,forc.e.,._,e..,t offic.er.s,
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biA't in OltteWtpting to o(o so tney shoc..tlc( nOive to
withi.., p01r<:Hn eten thO\t respect the civil r igl-lt s o f the
Citizenry ( jc..tst t-ne polic.e nO\Ve to opero.te WithiYl
tnose wl-ten ti-ley with other- ) .
APPENDIX 13
PIMPING
Why o.re yotA
o...,ry
fore i9n- born
women o.s
sex-slo.ves?
Co.nad.ial"' woi'Yle..,
who CH "E.> forc.ed by
pimps to h o.ve
pG\ic( -sex o. re o.lso
sex - siG\vE.>s ..
It's wide ly eo t wheYl 01 pi """P w01nts to
lc..tre 01 ir1to prostitc..ttiol'l> he does..-1t' lASe
forc.e - he romou1ce!> I-ter. If he's SIAe<essf"'l" s he sees
him OIS her boyfr-iencA .. This iSI'l"t s/01very, it 's 01
.. I don' t ht:we 01 problem with
between o.d .... tts .. If o.
be01ts o. prostit"'te, I hope she choose to Jeo.ve
tne 91AY o.nd 9et the police to o.rrest for-
bt-tt I thil'lk sl-le 1-lo.s the right to sto.y with J..,;..,..,
;f she wo.nts to.
Co.n01dio.n woWten o.re ro.rely e>.r'loi forceol.
into prostitCAtion the wo.y some femade i lle9CAI i rnr'Yli-
o.re . This is in lo.r9e po.rt beCCiliASe it's eo.sie,..
for Co..no.dio.n women to esc01pe .. A Co.no.oi01n WOI'YIO.I'\
w'-'o w01s kiolno.ppeol 01nol. into
with;.,., probo-.bly hesi't01te to CCilll the
Co-.no-.olio-.11 polic.e if she 9ot her ho-.nols o.., 01 pi-lone --
sy,..,potnetic john with Q cellphone be on
esc01pe opportt-tnit-y .. ( I don't howe o. cell-pnone, bt-tt
the seK- worker.s who COir'Yle to my Glportment wot-tlcl
if they col.Aid lASe Wty phone> Qnci I
G\lw01ys let them.) On the other h01,.,d> o.n ill egG\ I
n-1i9ht worry th01t the pol ice in (o. ..,O\GlO\ 01.re.
o.s c.or..-"'pt 0\S the ones bO\c.k ; ,., her '-'tome c.ot-tntry. She
coiAicA. howe. concer,.,s bei"19 ol.eporteoL She nni91-tt
not eve.-, tn01t the emer.9enc:y ni.Amber- is 9 -H . A
probtA.bly tA.ISo c01ll or
frie11&s for help. An i lle9o.l f01..,..,ily 01,.,cA
friencls on 0.111other- continent. As for Co.11a
women be ins kid."'"PP'-'ot in 01 f o..-eis n c:oi.A..,try it
colAIO. 11apper"' ;.., o. colAntry l ike wher e every
penon woiAid be o.t r-isk, beAt i t if ever
ho.ppe..,s ;., COI.Antri es with kit"'o\ of to""r-ist ;..,o(l.o4stry.
The there o(o..,'t wo. r1t tlo,ose to""r-ist
9oi..,9 Qwo.y .. BtA.ol tl1i 119S OCCC4Sio ..... ally ho.ppen to (CAnO\&io.n
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APPENDICES
totA.rists ;.., forei9n bc..\t if Co.no.ciio..., wo.....,en wer-e
r-e9c..\IOtrfy Olrt<i syste.....,<l<tico.lly bei"'9 ki<ino.ppeol ;.., 01. p(;\rti-
CCAio.r- C.Oc..\rttry_,. it woc..\lc( be 1'10ti c.e<:l( C\nci Ot" 9ovel'n....,ent
CAnol. medio. woCAIG( st01rt wo.rni..,g people to o.voiol. H1(;\t
c:Hea. of tl1e wor/c(.
Jol-1ns co.., be reo.sorto.bly certo.i.., t'-1<At if o.
o. Co.n01olio..., o.cce..,t.,. she is not <A sex-s/o.ve.
How m0111y of the sex- workers I so.w ho.o( piW1pS ? Five
of tl-te"" told me enoi.J(91-t 01.bo1At their l ives in enougl-t
deto.i( th01t I wo.s co11Vi11ceol. tl-tey c{;c(.., ' t ho.ve pi,.,.,ps. As
for the rest_, I don't know. If's worth notin<J tho.t m01ny
work witl-1o'-At piW1pS, o.nd tho.t inco.ll
otA.tcodl worken 01.re less likely t'-101n str-eetw01.lkers to
1-l<Ave pi,..,.,ps.
APPENDIX
EXPlOITATION
1'1ot o.ll prostitCAtes
sl01ves .. but
tl-ley 01re o.ll

People cue exploited wl-len
they' re not compe..,-
Sc-Atec( for tn e work tne y
do. Yes ... some
01.re when I'Ylos,t
or <?.II of their money is
to.ke.., by pi....,ps, bt..ct ..,ct
o.H 01.re

"Denise" beg"'.., working OI.S 01. pr-ostitt.tte she
wo.s o.n She c.hose to cJ.o so .... 1'10 pimp or tro..ffic-
ker foYced. ner. She ChOlrgec( over $ 200 CAn l1o1Ar. Tke
mo..,ey she eo.,-..,eo( wo.s hen Cl\lone -- si-te dicA,t to
split it with o.nyo11e . After few whe.., she
d.ecic.lecJ. she wo.nted to qlAit prostittAtiol'l> 11oboc.Ay
forced to co..,tir1LAE' to work -- the detisiot"' Wc;\S
hers o. l oYIE' to mo.ke. I do.,' t S' now o.nyone (01Aio(
look o.t tnose fo..c.ts o...,d conc. l""c;(e thC\t her co..,ditioYl
WC\S siwtilo.r- to slcwery oy tn01t sl1e w01s e:xploiteo(. Sl-1e
w'-'S o....,o( is o. fr-ee perso.,, mo.kin9 c.hoic.es t1011"
se11se to 1-ler.
APPENDIX 15
THE COMMERCIALIZATION
OF THE SACRED

Sex. i:s so.cred..
It s noiA ldn't be
com mere io.li zed.
APPENDICES
If commenio.lizo.tioY'l of the SC<creo(
i s w r o VI g , t h ..-. yo LA 'd bet t e r t e II
c. hLAHhes to stop po.ssing the collc-
tiot1 o.ncA bookstores to s top
selliVI9 tl-te Bible . Speo.kin9 of book-
stores .. I love reo.cAin.9 -- I see tl-te
trai"'SifYiiSSion of know/ed.ge
wisclow, in print o. sa.creo( ().cti-
vity. )'...., 9lo.d. thCAt we've COI'Yimer-c.il-
the Olno(
of books Oll'l& them eo.sy to It's beco.I.A.se I
cl o see: sex a.s so.c.reo( etnd potentio.lly spirit'-IOll tho.t I
be I i eve i VI co wtme rc iod i l. in 9 it O.l"'d. VYIO\ ki ""'9 this potent i 01 lly
holy more eo.si(y G\V01ilo.ble to o.ll. CommerciCAii-
'ZOitiovr is not sowtethi.-tg diSgi.A.stitotg tha.t contG\V"'ina.tes. It's
jCASt o. wy of m01kiY19 9oocls o.nol services 0\Sily 0\Vo.il-
o.ble,. whether those goods o..,o( se,-vices o.re reli9ioCAs_,
sexv.o.l> or botl, a.t ti-le SO\me
APPENDIX t6
NEVADA
The profeHion is !egad o.ne'i i lf'l Nevo.d.01. Sex-
workers o.re licenced Q...,o( howe to work ;., brothels.
My hostil:ty to c:.u"d prostitCAtio..,
<3rew 5trolf'l9er while I reQ.c/.. Ale )Co. AI bert's
MUSTANG RANCH AND ITS WOMEN. S&.,e did her reseoe.rc.lo1
in Nev01d0\ bo.c.k in 'the blAt I tJ.,o.t tJ..,e
ki.,cJ of control the stO\te's prostitt.ttes howe 'to ptAt'
with iis mt..cch oliffe.re..,t .-tow.
The mobility of the sex- workers Q.t the MlAsta.ng
WC\S limi ted. --for the t\mOtAI'It of time t'-tey were
011 sci-1eolt..de ( which be d.Oly5 or weeks) they h01d
to sleep 0\t the brothel. They were not o.llowecA. to 90
home o.t the e..,o( of a. shift. p. Lts.) They ofte..,
see their children for weeks o.t o. tin-1e. (Albert,
P 't5.)
Brothel l'Vlt\1'1CA.9ement o.nd lo.w e..,fo,-c.emet1t [ ... ] try
to limit conto.ct with loco.( comi'1'1CAni-
ties. M1A.sto.Y'l9 RCi\.nch,. for exo...,..,ple, req_<.cired. 01
n.-tr1ner> or to o.ccomp"'r'lY prostitlAte5 on
errc.tnch to town o.t the wome..,s ow., eX'pense --
$ 5-.$ 10 per or stop. r Albert, pp. Ltr. ]
EG\cn bedroo,...,. wo.s equipped witJ.t (). nid.delf'l intercom
systei'YI tho.t cashiers tAseot to eQ.vesdrop on wcmens
[. Albert> p. Lt1. ]
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APPENDICES
\M1 C\ YlYI OIAn<: e ol 1'00""'1
seQrc.J..,es [. AI bert, p. 't1.]
Whe., o.. womo..Y'I refused C\ cu-.tomer willi..,, to
tl-te ho""se miYiimtAP"Yl_, YY1CAY1o..3eme..,t expec.teG{ o..
reo...soY'IOlble ex CIAH ( e.g._, he refc.Aseo( to wec:v 01.
co..,c(om ). WJ,ile [ o. prostitCAte] woCAic.l. 11egoti0lte \.,er
ow.., cotAio( ro...ise 1-1er prices to c(eter
1Anappe01.liY19 elAstomers, mcv10l9e,...,ent wot..tiG{ ,..o.i s e
its eye brows if sne this too ofteYI.
p. 't9.]
Openly "' book while for clie...,ts to show
lAP w"'s not C41fowed. (Albert_, p. 150.) lelephoVIe t..tse was
restricteo(. ( Albert_, p.1B.)*
Whet-1 I Albert'.s book I wo...s o..lreo...c(y seei..,9
" Den i s e a.., d I en o e G( tA p know i .., 9 q tA i t e o. b ; t b o tAt
her life. I cotAic.l.n't help blAt co...,trast "De..,ise's" free-
dom witl1 the restrictEd. lives of the Nevo.c.I.O\
sex-workers.
I dor1't wo..nt to reveo..l wl-tether or 11ot "Denise" ho.s kiols,
!.f she does, she wotA.Id howe been o..ble to live with theWI
dtA.rin9 the yeo..rs si1e worked "'s C\ At the enol of
+11e do.y she got to s leep in her ow.., bee( ( or wl1o..tever
beoL sne chose to sleep in). She hC\of the mobility of "' resCAiccr
(C\nccc;(io..n citizen -- she Q.ic(n't nect "riAnner'' to o.c(ornp""'Y
ner- wl-len she went shoppit'19> or we"nt to movie, or whcct-
ever-. Her nesotio..tions witt., her clients we,-e. their
o..lo11e -- no o11e wccs in o.., then-,. No one
seo.rc.hes of her home. She ( ccnof o(;of)
to see clieVJtS ;f she to. She dic:lt1't need to
explccin or justify her reo.sons "to I''YHH101.9ernent --there LVo.s
no mo.no..gWInt. Betweel"l c.li ent!. she coCA/o( reo.o( o.. book. No
o11e restric.tecl her C\ccess to the telepho11e.
(o..,o(itio..,s o..t other Nevc.cofcc brothels could be even worse
H101.t1 the o1-1es o.t the MtA.Stctng:
For' exGt,..,ple,. the owr1e" of cc. brothel in sov.ther..,
Nevo..c!o. o..lle9edly c.o11fiscated woW'Ien's peno..,ccl SlApplies
( co..,Joi'YI s .. ny Ions) o..nd required the,.,., to
replArc.ho..se everythin9 c::tirec.tly fro,...., the brothel C\t
infl01tec( prices> like shccre croppet"s or Wli..,eo bLAying
f,-o...., the compo.ny store. A.,d. "his'' working 9irls hOle;{ to
blAy their meods 0. lo.. co.rte f,..o...,., the brothel kitchen>
where slccbs of cost $ 2> cc box of froz:e.., vege-
to.bles $ 5, a not o. J.1o.,.., bv.1'".9r- $ 1 [ ... ]. "The own e..- took
<Act t01_se of the f o.ct we were con f; n eo( to Y1 is
brothel>" o..,e prostit"'te to me. "Nothin9 wccs
free. E ve,.yth wccs overpriced. ['' A I bert> p. 6Z .]
Those who tou"t -tne o.dvanta9es of the Nevo..da lice..,ci.,9
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APPENDICES
system t'"eQIIy tnov.9h't Clhou.t the difference
between livln9 In ""' oppressive si'ttAC\tior"l C\nc:A living in
f.--eedorn.
Pros'titv.tes shotAid be to set lAP brothels> bv.r
the Nev01dC\ syster'Yl i .S evil. A11y govel'ni"Ylent s c.heWie "to
lic.en.ce 5ex wov.ld be evil.
It rn01.y be t(!Jle
th01t some pros-
titv.tes choose
the p,-ofessio..,,
b v. t wh o.t 01bov.t
pr"osti'tu.tes who
o.re 01.ddi c.ted.
to c.trtAgS ?
APPENDIX t7
DRUGS
Ad.d. i c. t ioYI is "
dise"se. - - these
don' t
c. hoos e to be.
Cldcl i c:ted, C\nc;(
prostitlAtion is
the
only wo.y they
1-l"ve of rCAi sing
110l.A<3h W10I"' y
to blAy drv.ss .
They'r'"e vtot
cnooSil"'<;:s to be
sex-worke.--s,.
tl-!ey're fo.--cecl
by cirCt..trYlStG\nce
to hcwe sex
for MOI'ley.
Is adcl.ic.tio.., o. diSeC\s e ? Dr Jeffrey Sc..hOtle..-
Qrg!Jle S HtC\t it 's l'tOt in book ADDICTION IS A CHOICE.
Po.tl1olo9y [ .. . J rectt.cires "'"' ic;(e..,ti f i 01ble odter01tion in
bodily ti'>St..\e> o. ch01t19 in -the cells of tne body> for
cliseo.se ciCA.ssifico.tion. No sv.cl-1 i&entifio.ble
losv ko.s been folA...,ol. iVI t).,e bodies of J,e0o.vy c;(,.-ink-
ers o...,& drlA9 1.\Sers. Thic, jw;tifi es the view
thQt addidion is ...,ot 01. physic" I cAiseo.se. [ ... ] \he
pv.t01tive d.iseo.se Cellfed o.dd.ictio.., is di019noseoC.
solely by in the forn-1 of c ondt.(ct, 11ever by
si9ns, thCA.t i s, by physic<:\( evid.e..,ce in the po.tient's
body. [ SchCA.Ier:, p.l6. ]
I deny Htelt there is St.(Ch tl1in9 QS "o.cloict iot-t ", i,.,
the sel'lse of o. clelibero.te C\nol. cons ciot..tS coArse of
o.ction whic.h the person /iter011!y CQnt"'oT stop oloi""9
Actorclin9 to my view of the world> the heroil'1
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APPENDICES
ad.aic.t ca.., stop ;..,jec.ti...,g himself witL-1 heroin> tl-we
alcol-wol o.cAdict ca.., stop 1-!imself fro..., swallowi.,9
.. so forth. People are responsible for
ti-leir &eliberate at"lo( cot"lsciotAS behcwior,
[ Sci-lCAietS p. XV. J
Scno"er points ot.At m01ny cue able to quit
5tApposeaUy addictive drtA9S .. beAt ratl-ler thcH'I see t-his
as evide...,c.e. th01t people can choose to do or not cAo
these Q.rtAgs ... propone..,ts of ( Schafer calls) "the
'involv.nto.ry acAd.ic.tio"'' cia;...., th01t those who
continue to do 'the c;.(rtAgs are the o...,es wl.,o hGwe
oiSeQ.Se of
Notice H101t o.ctord.iY'lg to this way of thinking ..
atA.ods d.e,.,onstrate iYlc:>.bility to mOike a c.hoic.e
Sii"Y'\ply by m01.king the ''wrong" choice .. the one we
tt-rey ma<ie. [ Sch01ler; p. xv.]
It's bac( fo.-- yoAr body ;f yoCA c.hoose to smoke
C.YC4.Ck or injec.t heroin> but it's your body 01r1d
ho.ve tJ.,e rigJ.,t to do yoCA w01..,t witn it ( irtdlAdi..,9
tAnhecdthy thilf"I9S) so /on'3 01.S yoCA respect the property
rigi-'lts of otl-ler.s.
APPENDIX 18
MARRIAGE
weQ.ke..,s tne ;...,stitution
of MG\rri019e.
Yes, it O.oes. I d.o,.,'t 11owe o. problerY'I witl1 tho.t
Sir1<.e I thirtk "'10.rf"i019 iS 0\.., evil I hope tho.t
fewer people will see posseHive ,...,o..,o<J"'""Y as a..,
Yov. be in " s eX lAG\ I rel01.tionsl-lip witn o. pG\rti <.IAIO.r
rtot becG\uSe yoCA MG\de 01 vow G\t so..,.,e point iO"'
the past> right-tf"low-in-tne-prese..,t yot.A
to be ;.., 01 sextA01I relo.tion s hi p wltl1 thO\t persor1
.ZSl
APPENDICES
What o bout el-l i /cAre.,
7
We neec( marrioo.ge
bec<Avcse we ..,eed c.
so(.iod stnHttAre in
which
chilcAren
can be
r01i se&.
Eve.., if 01t1ot
fidelity ciisG\ppeoo.r
fro,.,., soc.iety, people
still woo.,.,t to noo.ve
most poHe,.,ts
love their cl-tilctre,>
jCASt G\S t'VlOSt p01rE.'I"ltS do
now. If mo.rrio.ge colloo.pses>
new socioo.l Oll'lol le901l
will arise. Perhc-Aps,
it1steoo.d of 01 mcHrio.ge
co,.,troo.c.t, prospective pl).rents
WOI.Aio( Si<JI"l 01 cnilol-ro.ising (OI'ltt"OICt tl-t01t spell
OI.At wl-lo.t .sort of StApport 01t1c.C ecul-1 provide
for the kicA.
APPENDIX 19
TAXATION
Prosti'tiAtes
sho u l<ll
po.y
ro.xe s.
I nOive 011'1 extreme tCJt.ke OYI
TrtAdeOivc'S stoo.temel"\t
tn"'t "TJ.,e stoo.te has 110 plo.<e ;.,
the becArooms of the l'lCAtior-t " *
( 01s lo..-.9 <u the people ;.., i-1--.ose
be&rooms 01.re co.., se,.,til'19
). It 's not ti-le
Jvcstic.e 01nol l01w enforceYnent
s houlo(l"'''t be in tJ.,ere> NO brO\nCh of 9overnt'Ylel'\t s hould
be ;.., those beolrooi'Y'Is -- tho.t ti-le TO\)( Dep01rt-
Wlel'1t. l11cot'Vle eoo.rnecA SeXIAO\I 01 c. tivities should not
be tO\xec.(. Sex is too too s01crecA. -- people
t1ot h01.ve to e:xpose their beol-lives to the
pryirtg eyes of t01x- collecti..,9 bureo.vcc.rO\ts.
ProstitJ.A.tio., is o.
b<Asit<1eSS --
are to.xeol.
Reli9io1.AS 9et t01.x breCikS c(espite the fo.ct th01t
tl1ey 9e.,e,.o.te i>'lcome. We see tl1eir btASirtess iderttities o.s
secoi'IGtG\ry to their" prim01ry so.c.red iderttities. Prost'itvction
shoulo( be see., OIS scureo( Ol"ld only secondarily
GIS 01 business. lndeeol> we shotA/d..,'t see it OIS o.
b&ASil1eSS G\t 0111. Perno.ps we sJ.,oulo( see the ...,.,o.,ey to
prostittAtes GIS not pC\yments.
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APPENDIX 20
STREETWALKING
I think tho.t wl--te.., people are on privo.te property they
SnotAid- be from 90Ver.,t'YI(>nt it1terfer-ence Cine(
o.s loVJ9 as they're t"'espec.tin9 +he. property
ri_shts of others. BlAt o.., P.1Ablic property ( side-
WCA.Iks> ptAblic etc. ) I o(o think th01t o. 9reo.ter-
of regtAio.tion is justifieO.. For eXQ.f'nple> I see
nothin9 wrol"''9 with COWlpellins people to obey tr-o.ffic.-
Si3t101ls. More relevo.nt to the topic o.t h01t1d is wl-tere yotA
COli'\ in btAsi..,ess. Obviow;ly I aon't tki01k it 's wron9 for
o. btAsi..,ess-person to sell tl-ti..,gs on privo.te property ( typi-
co.lly o. storefront either ow..,eot or renteot by the b!Asiness-
person ). 8tAt selling thivt.9S on p1Ablic property is clif:fer-ent.
If we let G\Ylyone set CAp S01les-st01r1d5 or to.bles on P"'"blic
property
7
"there WOCAld. be Ot/1 sorts of probl1'115. For one
thin9> the woCAio( qCAiddy fill 1Ap witJ..t btAsiness-
people lookiVI9 to o.void the cos-t of ownin9 or re..,ti..,g
storefro...,ts, o.ncA o.ll of their- to.bles ClncA sto.nols wotAic(
9et ;.., the wo.y of pecAestrio.t1s. For G\nother-> withotAt the
c.le01..-fy ol.efi..-,ea owt1ership of property the pr-ivo.te
pr-o,erty provides> there WotAiol be ttArf- wa.r-s.
Hey! I
set t.cp my tCAble
on this cort1er!
Sorry, po.l .' Tnis
is pCAbl;c prop-
erty -- yot.t don't
ow..-, this spot
7
o.nal I 9ot here
fi,. s t
Tho.t so.id> I alo think tho.t people vvno hcwe o. "I'Ylobile. '
bw;iness t-ho.t c01.., be coYJaltActeo( on two legs> witlrl no
or to.bles) shoiAio( be o.llowec( to sell goods or
servic.es on the street. Tne Toronto writer Cro.d.. KiloO.ney
solO. his books on the street for rYtOIVIY
inco..,veniencil'lg Q.nyo..,e. ':/< To me> these 01re t-1-te rele-
vo.V"'t q:CAestio..-,s re9o.ra(in9 streetwo.lkers
CD "ShoiAid we let- pros titl..(tes wodk or sto.no( ot1 sic(e-
wo.lks ?" W.ell> of cotAY"Se -- everyone who's not" il'l jo.il
or IAno(er holAs e shol..(/o( be 01llowecl to t.HE?
sio(e wo.l k s .
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@ "ShotAid ta.,ey be "!lowed to tQI. Ik to people?" Well>
of cot.o'"Se -- it's a Sin-tple mo.ttey of free speed.,,
shoulo(...,t howe
the right
to verbaHy
1-,G\rQI.SS
people .
str-eet solicito.Tio.,
wil l mo.ke
prost ;tution
mor-e
visi ble.
Being asked if I wa.,t o.
blow-job foy twenty bLAcks is
not hG\t'c.tSSVVlel"ff-
1
it' s just a
q_LAestion . If prostitt,tf e
wor1'-t to.ke no for G\n G\11Swer-
C4nc:A follows me dow.., t ne
street .. r'epeo.t edly offe ring
I-ter- servic(S
1
tl-r"'t's
prolole,.,.,.
the pr-ice of I ivi119
in free soc.-rety. Yo "' hc:we
to be tolerant of other-
people o.s lo..-,s as tJ.,eyre
not h "rYYI ir19 o.r1yo...,e a no(
9oiY1S o.boCAt their
btASiness in " reo.sol'tetbly
c.ivil G\VlcA polite way. 1.-,
tne po.st/ the sight of two
rnen h o ldin.9 h"no(s or- kissir1g in pAblic woulc:i h"ve bee..,
V\psettir19 to mc.tny people . Now th"t 9"Y
wic;{ely "ccepted> homophobes ho.ve to toler01te seeit19
9"'Y beho.viotAr in pAblic. . HoW'Iof'hobes o(o.-7t like b tAt
that's the pYice o f livin9 ;.., o. f,-ee society,
APPENDIX 21
MALE PROSTITUTION
AYiti - pr-oHitutioni!>ts are foc.useol o., why women
snotAic:ln' t be prostitAtes, They i 9no..-e the existence of
prostitAtes o.r1ti-prostitt.Atio11 argi.A
rne .... ts WOIAiol sou....,c:L Yiolict,t(OtAS' ;f Olpplieol to mel1. As G\
CI.AittAr"e we see me..., "s bei"'S ;.., contYo l of their sexu01/it y>
so we 01.cc.ept th"t me"' coo.n choose sex-work. We'r e not
thoo.t o. moo.11 is pAttin9 hiYY1self i.-, o. pote11ti01.lly
risky sitiAO\tio.., we accept the>.t me.., do thoo.t,
A...,ti pro-.t i tc.ctior"'i s t s hG\ve i stic o.ttittAde
towoo.ra< wome.-,.
APPENDIX 22
LICENCING ANJ> WORKING AT HOME
I've c;..lreo.cly ,.,ac:ie poi.,ts si rni laY to the following o 111 es --
Glpolo 9 i z e for sound i "'.9 re petitiO lAS> b .... t I WG\nt to e...,.,phOI-
Sioze why it's wYong to co11Str01il"' "pr"ostitAte's
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If it mau-'lo(o.tory for prostih.ctes to J.tawe
lic: er1ces to work.> 1-1ot Ct./1 of t&.t.en"' will bother- to O.C<:ti.Aire
tl-1ose lice..,ces. If sometnil19 bo.d no.ppei1S TO c::\1'1 CA1'1licel'l-
c.ec:l Se>c-wor-ker ( like_, if G\ joi-tn be"'tS l-\ii'YI-Or-1-Jer) ne-or-
SI-1e wiff be less likely to co.ll the police
She won' t WQnt to o.c:lmi t to worki rrs 01. li.ce11ce .
Sex-worker-s shotAio( c::\ISo howe the ri9ht to work ov.t of
tl-teir 1-lomes foy tl-te SG\me r-eo.son. It's prob01bly so.fer for-
prostitc.Ates to work coiiE'c.tively it1 b"-!T if we
Wt"'ke tho.t tl-te only le901l optiot1, the"e be
who choose to work OI.At of their homes,. 01.-tot if they 9et
beCAt v.p> 'they'll be less likely to ' "'" the cops they
wo.-t't wo.nt to report tno.t they' re worki.-19 rlle90\lly o.t
home.
I wo..,t every prostitt.Ate wl-ro is tl-te victim of 01 crime
to be o.b/e to co.ll the police witl-rotAt fec::\ri119 the>.t
there mi9nt be Y1e901tive co1'1Se'f.tAel1ce s for .-.ot hc:wi""9 tl,e
rig I-tt po.per-work or for wor kil'19 in the " wro..,9" plc::\ce _
APPENDIX Z3
SETH'S NOTES
As I rnentio..,eGI. i n tne Seth l101s writte..,
notes re9o.rc;.(in9 soVYle of the He,es 1-te's i11.
PANELS I0:3, 't 1 mCAy nowe believec:( C.het wo.s repres -
sin9 the expected emotiot1S b01ck then,. l'YIY
opinio"" n01s 01ltered. over the yeo.r s. I ofteYl
jokingly refer to Chet o.s "the robot". In posin9
01 q v. est ion to i YY1 I m i 9 h t q_ tA i p,. '' P e r-1-1 a p s I
shotAio4. o.sk 0\ person who 1-to.s G\CttAo.l htA..,..,O\n
ei'Yiotiol'ls i11steo.cl. " The is, Chester seems
to ho.ve o. v ery liVYlited ewtotiono.l r"G4nge
c:AreGA to most" people . There does seer'Yl to be
Sot'Y'Iethins wro..,g with hir'l'l . He' s defiYlitely 01n
oc;{c.(bo.ll. Th01t saic.(, he is o.lso the kindest,
gentle st O.l'lc:l c:;(eeply thotAghtftAI ocAdbo. ,tl
know. Ped1c::\PS he is SOYYlethiV19 in nis
ei"YYotioYlo.l mo.ket.Ap, perho.ps not. Who co.n so.y
who.t is n"'tCAr-011 c::\t1d wl-tO\t is leo.rnecl
l'lf s01y tnis -- he reQIIy doesn't o.ppeo.r to be
ccu1't o.rsc.Ae with tno.t.
81:5- 88; 6
Chet's pretty no.rc.( on the ideo. of romc..n-
tic rel01tionsnips . I 019ree with him th01t for the
VYlOSt po.r-t they 01re c;(;ffi c tAit to m01int01in. Look
o.rou11c:A tne o.11c;( yo(..( wilf see th01t people
ho.ve 01 hc::\rot time finO. i 119 I"Yleo.ni,..,9ftAI 0111ol positive
Jo..,g romCAI'ltic rel01tio1'1SI-tips. Th"'t so.ic.( , I 'm
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APPENDICES
not so cynicod QS he. Chet_, I StAspec t, t-hinks it is
esse.,..tiQIIy ii'V'Ipossible . WI-Jile tne G\re cel"'fCAi.,ly
o.g at ins t vvt o s t co I.A. pIes> the r e cue pIe t'\ t y of ex a..., pIes
of lo.,9 ICA.stin9 sood pQirings. If yotA G\Sk it is
more o. prob/erv1 of ""tAWIQI"'' no.tt.-\re thQ"1 rowu"ntic.
love. People jtASt co.., 't get o.lon9 with eo.cl-, other
;., ge.,er"l. Why sl-totAiol romQnce or mcu-rio.f3e be
o.ny c.{ifferent ? For thG\t mo.tter> most people
CCl.n' t rno.int01in lo..,g lo.sti119 friendships either.
C""et Qnc( I ho.shed this o<At W"tore tho..., o.
fe,w tirYies . He mo.into.ins it is tJ.,e sextAo.l elerv1e..,t
thatt mostly co.LAses the tro<Able . I olisG\gree .
....--'-----.

I don't reco./1 the specific excl-1o.n9e, bLA.t I
probo.bly dirJ vvto.ke this remo.d'( - - I Saty <A lot of
u..,fotAno(ec( o.nol meo.YI thi..,3S Still, I dotAbt Chet
wo.s o.c.tv.o.lly ho.vin9 o. crisis. Robots
c.<on' t k(we micA-life crises.
l' rYI not in this scene, blAt I co..., ' t resist
notil"''9 tho.t the ioleo. of Cl-lester Brown o..,o( Joe
Mo.tt O.isct..ess ir1..9 t,_,e. nOit<Are of rorYio..,tic love i s
not !Anlike two blinot Wlen pG\il"'ting Ot StAnset.
l<)l:3- 197 : 2 First where is converso.tio..,
t"' K;.., 9 pI o. c e, C he t ? I ..,_, 9 tA e s sin 9 t h e I o b by o f o.
hote I.
Seconolly, I suspec.t Chet is lettivtg Wle off
li9htly her-e. The q_lAo.lity of my o.rgVlment wCAS
probo.bly even t&.-wo..-. who.t 1-le 's r-eporteo( in
these po.ges. I wo<Aio(.,'t hawe h<Ao( well 3roundeo(
o.., tkese mo.ttef's ba.c.k +hen. Anol I
opinions would be l'Y\tACVI better
j..,f'or....,ec(. Tho.t so.icl., I "'o thi...,k Chet CoWleS off
"' little better here tho..., he probo.bly wot.-\la in
reo.l life. He's ctefi.-.itely the "voice of reG\Son" o...,
these P"l3es, a.nc( I ha.ve my o(ot.Abh tJ..,att most
people come with +ho.t opinion if
they'c:A. ever ho.c( " 9ooo( sol i c.l o.rgLA.ment wi'tJ-1
Chester in the rea.l worlo(. He's certo.i.,ly set ;.., nis
wo.ys -- he's thou9ht his positiol"l ov.t well> he's
to it. No cJ.otAbt o..botAt t,_,o.t. BlAt often
nis opiniol'l is 0. little too for my tatstes - -
"'little too tieoC. to the libertcu- i G\t1 po.rty-/ine atboc..tt
the SG\nc.tity of property ri9hts. lt .s G\ bit of o.
broken listenit1'3 to tl-tese G\Y9lA.I'Vle.,ts over
o...-. o( over I 9otto. so.y, it tires me otA t . I
reo.lly cotAict.,'t 9i v e o.. sl-lit o.boVlt most of these
isstAes . ( ' rYl btASY I'Vlopil"''g o.bout the po.st,. folks - - I
olo .,t n "'ve to reo.o( every new book o.., the
ethics of (Vlt some s lo.ck if I co...,e off
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APPENDICES
looki"'9 illi11for""'ed here! A"'d yes > b(). ckect
corner I likely v.tter- tho.t SttApic;(
line CAboVtt SW'Ioki1'1.9. ,_...._._ _____
W'-'o ? Mo.ybe he's right.
KY1owing (net nQS bee.., G\ f(>O.rl"lil"'g for me.
He's torc.E.>o( Wle to c.o.,sider rn01ny
positions I woulc;( not hc:we given ml.Ac:J, thot-glf'1t
to otherwise. Disp""ti119 issv.es with hii'Yl ho.s
n e I p e d t'Y1 e to t hi"' k ...,., ore c: r it; ( o.ll y. It 's bee.,
gooo( for me. It's to.v.sJ,t VY\E.> to ct(;(estio., Yf'lY ow11
OlHIA..,.,ptions . I SIASpect thG\t if I J.o.o.ol oo. better
memory I wov.lot be e,.y,\c>arrasseol by the many
jerk_. reG\ctionary cowp1o1en ts I 1-to.ve uno(o"' bt-
ecA. Iy mG\cie to hi..,., over ti-te yeo.rs re9etrc{ing love
o.nol The tr-uth is., if I hAo( 0\ prob-
lem with Chet 's ;..,volve.,.,e..,t witJ, prost i ttAtes ;,
the pG\st I hoo.ve certai..,(y gotte.-, over it. Pr-osti-
tut-ion mo.y .,o't work for every mo...,_. btAt it
works for J,;.....,,
The fu..,...,y tl--lit19 Abowt Chester OtAt of
all the .....,en I k ..... ow 1-te's q_uite possibly the o11e
I t-hi..,k mG\ke the I'Y10 St boy-
frie..,o( or hv.sbGu-,o( for (;{ wol'r1C41"1 . ., yet he
is the ot'le who +he It 's 01 ft-..,..,y
world.
ZS7
I covER J My pLAblishers this book to be co.llec;(
PAYING FOR IT. I cion' t like the title - - tl-1ere's an irvtplied
G!olAble- meGH1i..,g. It S1A3CJSts tho.t not only I po.yins
for se>t o.lso po.ying for being o. joht't it'l so..,..,e
..,on- .....,oneto.ry wo.y. Mo...,y wolAicl th01t there' s o.n
e.,...,otioi"'Clll cost -- 'tho.t johns o.re so.d lo..,ely. There's
o. pote..,tiG\1 heClllth cost if Of"'e co...,tro.cts o. sexCAo.lly
tro....,s"""ittec;( diseo.se. There' s o. lego.l cost if one is
o. r r e st e d . I f on e i s "o lA t e at '', t h e ..., o .., e co 1.4 I d I o s e o .., e
job odso SlAffer the sociO\I cost of los;...,g OYle' s
fr-ie..,c.ts o.nc;( fo.mily. I ho.ven' t bee.., "po.ying for it " in
O.t1Y of those WG\y.S. I'm very fG\r froW'I bei...,9 so.d or
lonely, I ho.ven' t Cc;tCAght G\n S-T-P, I no.ven' t bee11
arrested, I ho.veYl ' t lost my co.reer, QYld mv friends o.nd
fG\W'Iily hG\ven''t rejected me ( o.ftJ,otA9h I ou;;l.mit
tho.t I still ho.ven' t tolat m y step-mom).
So fOir> I've bee..., p01yin9 ;.., o.,ry -tl.,e Ol"'e se .... se . ( s;,,e
this is o. r'Yle"'toir, "so fG\r " is 0111 -tho.-t's relevo.nt,)
BCA.t let wte be cleo.r """Y pCAblisher.s did not
force the title on I chose to 9ive in to who.t- they
WG\t1ted. If" I ho.d i...,sisted, they woCAIQ( howe odlowec:A
me to plAt who.tever worot s I Watntt>d on the cover. I
Jove o.nc:A res pec t Chris o.nd Peggy atnd reo.lize thOtt
this is "' at;f"f'ictAft book to rno.rket.
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NOTES
PANEl. 9:
5
is nG\tCArod, bc,.(t t11oo.t doesn' t meo.n
th01t I"'IOt feelin9 jeG\IoiAS iS not n01t1Arod. It's probo.bly
better to fr01wte the rv101tter ;..., r-el01tio"' to rYJe>.t&Arity.
It's ii'Yll't'lG\tiAre to be it's mOit&Are to not- feel
jeo.lov.s.
I c01n't re01lly clefencl tl--te positiol"1 thCAt
jeo.lot..esy iS leo.r..,ec::A.-1 I do thil"1k oLAr c&AitLAre el"1co&Ar-
0.9eS the reG\ctio..,. An ex01.mple of G\ cLAitLAre tho.t
oiS(OIAr"0.9eS it is the Moso C&AittAre of Hii'Y'ICAIOI.YOII"'l
CYiinCA. [..., Coli HLAO.'S book G\botAt the .Moso (A SOCIiY
WITHOLAT FATHERS OR HUSBANDS)., he reports G\
converso.tiot'l 1-,e ho.d witJ., two yol..\n9
['' W)e c::A.o.., ' t know how to be jeo.lotAS. ''
" He s r i 9 h t ! '' 1-, is f r i e n ol in t e r j e c t e c:C A ..., to
ex:ple>.in himsE.>If he ''Girls belong to every-
one. Whoever wo.nts CG\n visit them. Thel'e is
l-1othit19 to be. jeG\IoLAS e>.boLAt ." [ Hc,.(G\> p. 213. ]
Fror'Yl YG\n9 Er-c.he NonntA' S memoir G\botAt lAp
C\S 01 Moso girl (LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):
we feel SlAc.'-1 pG\SSiorts
1
we rYILASt
jeo.loLAsy CA.-..cA. envy [ .... ] In fYioso eyes-1 ..,o one is
n1ore th01l"l G\ jeG\IoLAs lover [ . .. , N)obody
i111 Moso (OlAntry todCAy co.n rec01ll [ ... ] 01 trtAiy
u9ly fi9l1t between [ ... ]jilted lovers. [Yo.ng , p. 69.]
broc..(gV!f" '-'P the StAbjec.t
7
I shoc.Aicl explc:\ill"' tl-'le>.r
Moso 5exu01l ptutners c:Aon''t t.ASLAe>.lly live to,9etnef'. At
..,;9ht t,..e men go visit tl,eir- girlfrie,ds ( ""ho live
w'itJ, 'their I'YIOtner.S ). 1"1 tne mOrl"lirtg, tJ..re I'Yien
rettArn horne. ( The men o.lso live with their
mothers.) Ac,orc:Air19 to Christine M01thietA ( who
c.o-wrote LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):
[T]hey howe diSCOII'decl [ ... ] Tl-le Moso
CAc(vocc..te [their J mo.terno.l WC\y of life G\S t&.,e
possible
7
o.nd the most likely to foster
h"' ppiness 01n 0. hC\ rmony. Vis i tir19 rel01tioll"' ship S-1
they s01y, keep rele>.tiot1s betweeY'I ..,.,en 01r1c:f
women ptAre o.ncl joyfAI-1 o.ncl people who live ;..,
m01terno.l 11oLAses c(o not fi9ht like
mo.rriect people c(o. We CC\n trlAst th01t they o.re
spe01kil"l9 fro..., e.xperie..,ce, beCGllAse mor1y Moso
noo.ve tried I'YI01rri01<,3e.1 lAnder preSSlAre frorYl the
Comvn&A..,iSt Ot.lAthorities, 011110. most goo.ve I.Ap.
( Y01.n9.> p. zao. 1
For those of yoLA o.re interested in leo.rni1119
oo.botAt this the more ree>.ci01ble of the two
260
NOTES
above-me.-,tlonecl books is LEAVING MOTHER LAt-<.
it'.s more reao(able -- I fou...,o( it

jta:s-
23
=
3
I we wer-e G\ttel"'o'.ir'lg -the bi,g SeA.., Oieqo
COI'Ylic - book (011Ventiol"'. I oepic.t then'\> bt.At also
sharin9 tne hotel room witl-t u.s were fellow cartool1-
ists Joe Sacco> Ac;(riO\n Tomine> Chris Oliveros.
( Cl,-is is also one of the publishers of this book.) I
c(on't thi..,k there were more thG\..., two beds in the
rOOVYI. ( I don't slept with whowt.)
I '20:
3
I I tl-link Ms WO\S charging $50 for
tnose Si9nec:l poiO\roids> bv.t I'm not 100 percer1t

12s=2-26='t I p.6o.
l
26
:
6
I Escort pr"int ;.., Toro11to in 1999 di&..,'t he>.ve
pi-lotos. SoWle OYl-line 0\o(S pr"obably d.i&? I wasn't
o.ware of tneir e>c i ste..,ce yet. Wl1e11 I clio( o(isc.over them
short while they werel'l't co..,vel'lient, It cou.l&
take five or more for o11e photo to
the c.on1pv.ter ofte..-. crash as it to plAt
the iVYJase tosether. It G\ few year$ befot"e br-ow-
sin9 online escort o.ds becamQ eG\sy.
}
30
:
6
I I've never heo..rcA of the police c.J.oi..,9 anyti-1il'l<3
like this. My is o.-, d is pfoty l,t-re.
I
31
:
6
j )'.., cotpCAble of fi.,di..-..9 worYter'l who o.r-e
older "th01..., 28 c:tttr01ctive . ( Witl-lou.t ner e><Olct
"De11i se" is severCAI year-.s beyo..,a( 28.) My thinki.-,9
here WG\S 'thG\1'.> si..,ce I cou.lo(.,'t see photos of the
prostitCAtes
7
...,>' odds of findin9 someone
were 9reater if I SO\W y0lAr19er won1en. Ther-e are
wo""'e"' who are fif-ty who CAre bv.t they' re a
SWlod I pene,tG\ge of t-he ole fe WlG\Ies- who-
popv.lc.'tio., -- there "'lore wo..,e.., ;..., the
fe es - "'->ho- are-twe..,ty popvtfa tiol'l.
l
3
't'
8
I I o.polo9ize 'to O.r'lyo.-,e nOIY'Ylea( St-eve
I
35
; 4-.>
5
I No, they weren't WC\tc.i-1iV19 me. Johr1s will
0\ppc:He.,t(y son-1etimes m01ke Olppointrne..,ts 01ncA ll"'ever
snow u.p, Prostitt.Ates who work. WOII"'t to 9ive
their" to G\S few people o.s possible --they
only to give the o.olc:lress to 9v.ys tNho
reG\IIy _30il'1<3 to show u.p . If 0\ jol-tn WQS co.llin9 from
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tl-lCAt wo.s close to the incodl) it
inc.reo.seo( the odc;{s tno.t he wotAic( o.cttACAIIy o.rrive
Since o.t he wo.s in tne nei9nborhooc.l. (This
prO\ctic.e wo.s commo.., o.t t-he tii'Yle. I wove/c.(
t-hC\T johns o.re now expecteo( to lASe their
ce 1/- phones. )
I 'f'f:lt I I'm breaking Do.n rtAle "let- her
leo.&''. E.vel"t thow3h I WOI.nt > I
h01ve let "Co.rlo." <3ive me one. Th01t WOIS prob-
o.bly '-ter w01y of eoo.sing ii'1TO physico.! intim01<:y with
o.s little o.wkwo.ro(ness o.s possible.
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I Yes, tho.t's wh01t I re01lly s01io(,
I 't
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J Tippin9: I ert&e& "'P tAStAo./ly o. $30 tip
when l WG\S n01ppy with " prostit"'te's service. ("Denise"
tells me tho.t I"YlOiny jonns a>cln' t tip her, bi.At those who
ciic.t typiccdly 901ve $ 10 or $ 20. It seeW'I like o.n insiCj
l"'ific01nt G\mo"'nt, blAt she eve.., the $ 10
tips.)
.BecG\\..\Se indepe.-,c;tent sex-workers 9et to keep 0111 of the
money,. wni/e escorts-who-work- for-0111-0.9ency ho.ve to 9ive
"o.nywhere from 35 -to 50 per cent'' of the fee to the
G\9ency ( Me lo.ren, p. 52 ), Sol'Yle johnS no.ve the
o.r9'-'I'Yient tno.t o.9e..,cy-escorts be tipped.) blAt 1"\ot-
This reo.so..,in3 i9nores the fo.t.t inole-
pe..,c;Ae..,ts no.ve expe..,ses thOit O.<je..,(y- escorts c.(o..,t foloiVe.
Also, Cl.S self-ernployecA bi.ASiness - people, inc:iepe,dents
tirYie-consl.o(rnin9 &tAties to deo.l ( A..,o( time .!2
money.) Depenolin9 on vo.rioiAS fo.ctors> incAepenoCe..,ts
mo.y or mo.y not rno.ke more money .. btAt tippin9 sho1.AioCt1't
be tr"yin9 to eqt.co.lize thi,gs betwee.., olifferent
sorts of sex-workers -- it's o. 9estl.o(re tho.t lets CA...,
prostitt..tte know tlo,o.t yot.c enjoyea tne tiWle
yot.c spe..,t- to9ether.
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l I fi9t..tr-eo( tho."t YY\ost reo.ders wot.cloC
StG\ncA., leo.st ;,_, o. 9ener01l wo.y, I by
''the here_, bLAt Sook-Yin ho.s toto( tho.t-
she's pt.cz.z.led by these po.t1els, o.nc.( since there's no
reo.son to be coy or rl'lysterioc...s) I'll explo.in.
Every time I so.w o.n o.ttrCA.ctive womo.n,. I wo.nteGI. to
wo.lk lAp to 1-ler o.nc;A try to initio.te some sort of inter-
CA.ction. I V.SlAo.lly tne confiolence to do so.
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No I
she woc.Afcln't
me
botherin9
her.
Tho$e f'rectt.tent inner ba.'ttles to "' lot of tension. I ro.rely
I.Vhic.h to the lo
rvlV.Self for to do o.nythin9 G\nc.( for missing
pote.,tiG\1 addin9 to the
WO\S the fo.ct H1o.t sometimes o.+trc:H.tive women
(often complete stn:"nger.s) wotAict flirt with I"Yle or
try eve., Ynore direct to 9et my
the yoLAng woman w'-lo yelled o.t me on
t .., e s t r e e t > " Yo I.A r e c. I.A t e ! '' G\ n t h e ,., n ; b e h ; n h e r
friend, G\nd the o...,e who .-ne in G\ record.
store wl-lat WIY fO\vorite bCAnol WG\S_, G\..,ot tne o..,e ;..,
the SlAbway wl.-to to k11ow the book I
WG\5 reo.di119 -- I 9ive mO\ny .-nore exG\mpfes.
Tl-tOtt sort of tning h<:Appe11ed to me q_t-tite often I
wo.s yotAnger. BecG\I.ASe I W().S socio.lly G\wkw<:Arc.t I
Sc.id the wrong thiY19 ( or 110thiY19 G\t ().lr ) G\nd
n o t h i ..., g o f s ; C3 .., ; f i c"' .., c e w o "' f o( h o. p p e .., . I 'cl. co .., de W) ,.,
Mysel-f for blowi..,9 ().!( those opportv...,ities> I
obsesseo( G\bov.t
l wo.sn't even o.wo.re 0\ll of tho.t felt like G\
bv.ro<en tAntil I WG\Ikeo( ov.t of thG\t brothel G\nd so.w
o.n womo.n o..., the stree+ o...,o( reo.li-zeol I
felt no inner- tension whet-her or not I shoc.-.lo(
tG\Ik to her. Of cou.rse I shot-tfci,.,'t --she wo.s Q stro.n9er.
WJ.,y I worry -tho.t I WO\$ O.l'l opportv.nity
to pote..,tio.lly hG\ve sex? sex beo.v.tihd
wo,.,e.., WG\S eQSy to 9et. Sc..tddenly
7
it dioln't ma.tter -tl-l01t,.
ye01n 'before, o. yov...,:1 worno.n 1-JG\d yelled o.t
rn e, " Yo v. r e c ""t e ! " Ol n ot I 'c.( j u.s t k e p t w o. I k i .., w i t h o "' t
todkin9 to her. StAodenlv tl--tose sorts of memories
we,.. e..,. t me rn or i e s of miss e c;( o p port"' nit; e s -- they were
thi..,9S thCi\t ho.ve 9one wron9. Who.t if leA ta.lkeot
to tnOlt "YotA're cv.te ! " 9irl G\..,o( we'o( end.eQ( tAp in o.
o.no( (c:J. sto.yec;.( I.Anha.ppily thfv.l
to he17. o.nd I'd ..,ever visited the brothel tho.t 10( jtA<..t
wo.lked OI.At of? In thG\t mornent I WG\SVI't
0\ny G\Ctio..,s or to G\Ct> c.not I wo.sn't
worrying whether or not to tG\Ik to Ql'ly of the
wome.., wo.lki..,9 by me on tne
lnsteG\d I wc.s lookin;, to G\ of seYtAG\1
SO\tisf01.c.tion.
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And, c:\S I wrote: Tne bCA.rden hc:\S never retc . .u'nec:4.
I St:zJ TJ.tere G\re two weekly newsp01per.s in Toro11to that
print eHort .. NOW C\nd EYE. AlthotAgh I mention
oYlly NOW in the comic-strip, I o.lso regt-tlo.r/y perLAsec(
the o.ds ;,... EYE.
I J Joe WOCA.I()( like me to note .. while he is
cheC(p> tl-lo.t's not why ne isl"''t C\ john. He WOCAI(i(n't
po.y for sex eve"' if he wo.s ric.h, becC\t-tse .. despite his
repCAtOition, he's very romo.n'ti<. Whic.h is trCAe -- Wty
portr01yC\I of Joe d-oesn't properly convey his ror:t'!Oint"i.
5 ic;(e.
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w01y it- looks i"' Ch01pter 1. ThC\t ' s beco.CA.se it
1., the f01ll of 1998, Sook-Yin o.nc( I t'Yioveo{
froWl O.t'l o.po.rtment to 0. SWlC\11 YlO\ASe Htc),t she bOIA.9ht.
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:7 I Jt-tst to W'lake it c.lear - -si-te wo.s the
tip .. not the fee foy ti-le 1-,o.lf-hotAr.
I 6 =
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- 8 't: 3 J W o. s "An 9 e I in o... C\ sex- .s I 01 v e ? S he
worked in o.n incG\11 brothel --this is -the preferreot
workivts venCAe for sex-SIC\vers becC\CASe it 9ives therv1
the most co,.,trof over the sex-slo.ves. ( Perri..,,.. pp. LtS ..
't 6. ) "A..., 9 e I;,.., o.' s " he sit 01 t ion c:\ boCA t 9 e tt; n 9 (A p w n e n I
cl-lose her ( 13=1- is StA9c;sestive --she wo.s
the wC\y o...,e expect "' sex- s/C\ve to o.ct : reiA<-
to....,tly. On the other it's possible she wo.s..,'t reltAc-
trA...,t beAt jCAst cor1ftAseo( since sl-1e ciicA..,'t speo.k Er19lisl-1.
A..,()( ..,.., ""'Y prostitlAtes who choose the work C4ho
to work i., brothels since tl-tey're seen o.s beil'19 s(;l,fer
tha.., worki119 o"' the streets., or Ol.(t of o..,e's home .. or
G<o j n 9 0 tAt c. 01 rr s.
TJ.,ere o.re two other fo.ctors to co..,sio(er: ''Tit'lo."
,., ci t h e " t'YI o.., s t e r i 1"1 l"t"l ; ,., i - s k; r t '' f r o I'Yl C h C( p t e ..- 5.)
who I'm going to co.ll "A...,selino. II ", lmc:\9ine yoc.A're C\
sex- who's rt...tnl'ling brothel C4ncA you hc:\ve
some 1.u1o.ttt'"active wome..., workin9 for yotA
SOWle beC\tA.tifvtl wornen. (As I me,.,tion in pane/
there were two good-lookin9 lo.oies in t-V.e plo.ce -the
first tin1e I The seconcA time, I SC(W yet o.
thirc;.{ beo.CAt y there.) Sex-slo.vers prestAmo.bly co.re
c;\loOtA't m01kivt9 mo..,ey, l"'ot the feeli.,gs of the
sex-slaves. If yo CA. wo.n teo( to maxi mi z. e yo LA r prof its ..
wl-to wot.Alc.( yot.A to 9reet jor,.,ns o.t the o(oor :
uno.ttractive sex-SIC\ves or- beo.utiftAI ones? If yoiA lASe
tl-te CA.no.ttro.ctive OY\es .. there's o. goocl chO\nce the
9uys wi II leo.ve wi thOIAt eve t'l wa I k i n9 in_. so obvi oCA-
sly yoi.A'c( lAse tl,e C(ttYC(ctive wome,., to flAre ti-le: Wlen
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Yet tl-u:\t noq>pe..,ed.. The first time
I there> piOiin-et..,c(-c("'mpy "Ti1101." Ol.t'1Swerec( the
door_. 01.nc-J tne time it WG\S ':An9elin01. li ''> who
WG\S fiCAt - ot..tt" u9ly. lt5 n01rd to be SlAr"e betsed o..-, only
two experieYices .. btA't it looks like the piCAce. w01.s bein9
rtA.n by someo"'le with 01.., e9c::d i t01ri01n bent - -they were
letti"'l9 t'-1e IA.r1G\ttractive women h01.ve C\n snot
c:t.t" 9etti"'l9 c.f;e..,ts. Act'-'t"AIIy_. for-.9e't the who - 9ot-to-
01.nswer-t,...,e-ofoor-- issue -- I c01n' t im01.9i"'le th01t sex-
SIG\ver.s hcwe bothered to kid.n01p "An9eli"'a Ir ':
Sl1e WG\Sn't someone who might hcwe been G\ttrCActive
G\t one point -- sV!e had c/e01rly 011 w01ys bee.., very
otiffictA.It-to- look- G\t. No"'le of +his P.roves tnat ti-le place
was not r"IAn by sex- sl01vers> bAt it seems tA.t"'l i kely thCAt
it w01s , s i11ce whoever - r01n - the- brothel doesn ' t s ee..,., to
n01ve of t'YlOney G\ S their O"'lfy cons i cler01tion .
..
2
I It mCAy seem odc4 H101t I n01dY1' t
"A "'l9 e I i.., 01 's '' i "'l 01 b i I i t y to s p e 01. k E "'l gl is h ct tA. r i ,., 9 o u r f i r s t
session. As yotA see on p019es 14 to 16> l"nost of WlY
01. ttempt s to ted k to her were met with the t c.vo- wo ret
r-eply, "It 's okCAy." I took th01.t CAS "'"' H101t
she w01nt to t01lk. I try to be se11sitive. to tne
CtAeS tn01t sexworker 9ives. I'll Olt'l effort
to st01rt 01 conveY"SG\tion .. blAt if 01 \AJOW'IGu., doesn' t
to WG\nt to chat;> I ' ll sJ,.,IAt lAp.
Wnile "Anselin01'' seemeol t . c;(lArin9
o\Ar first Hssion .. she WG\S very sweet 01not lovi n9 tne
sec.ond time ol.espite J.,e,- obviotA.s of se)CAOII
excitement. I wish l 'o\ been oa.ble to see her more.
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/ 1 "'sec4 ..,.,Y Ye01l n01me witJ., pr-ostitiAtes f,-oi'Y\ this
point on.
My 9r"o.phic. novel lOI.AIS RIEL w01.s seriodi"Z.eol in te..,
24 -p019e ''comic book" befoYe it WO\S rele01sect
CA.S o. book ;.,., 2003. This tne first of the
pCAI"YYpi-llets -- it w01s P"'blisheol ;.., Jt.t11e 1999.
I 86 = 1 I The ri9""t prontAnci01tio..., is LOO-ee ree- e.L.
I C)l:l-
92
:7 I "AWlCo\nOG\
01
spoke witn G\ forei9n CA((E.'r1t. WCiiS
sne C>. sex- sl01ve? Wi-leYl I pno..,ed her to oa.sk if we coulol
9et togetney-, she cJ.iGL...,'t s01.y yes . When I
l ' o( OllreCAcly seeto'l "Anne", m01ole I'Yle wCAit
while she with her work-m01te . Only CA.fter
"Anne" l-10\cl SOI. icl I WOIS oko.y c:J.id tne Ol.ppointMe...,t 9et
booked. . The ii"YYpression I set is tn01t sex-sl01ves 01re not
G\lloweol to be picky Ol.b o tA.t their cliel"'tS G\nc;(
WOtAfcA.., ' t set to book their own o.ppointments. A..-ro(
cAovt' t see wny se)C-SICAvers wotAicl set I-ter tAP ;.., t&.,e
Sort of ivtCG\11 sittA.Oition sne WOIS in with "Anne"> who
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wo.s not tro.ffic.keol.. ("Anne" SOI.id. she WOI.S born 11ere
01.nc;( cert01.inly .seen"'eol. 01....,o( sot.otnol.eol. (G\no.c:A-
iOI.n.) I wovcfd think 'th01.t sex-slo.ver.s wov./o( wo.n't to
iso/o.te sex-slo.ves 01.w01.y froWI (OI.Vlao.ol.ic...n prostitL4tes>
wl-lo ...,.,i9ht> throiAgh intero.ction> develop
sympG\thy for- ti-le forei9n girls o....,o(, o.s o. restAit> might
wo.t"lt to help the.-n.
\too'!- IOIB j

b . . It'
... e we -s1te 11"'1 ctv.est1o.., 1S terb.<:OI.. s G\
vo.lv.o.lble of informo.tion for joJ.11'1S wl-to live in
Torovtto or visit it,
These review-sites 01.re covttrover-sio.l for prostittAtes.
S PR EA D MAGA Z IN> wl-tic.h is written by sex- workers,
ro.n pro 01.nd con pieces on tl-te St.otbject in tV.eir
2009 isst.(e. (Vol. 5,.. isst.(e 1.) Kelly of WG1.sl-tin9toYl, DC
wrote :
AVly bt.otsinessperson knows there's no better o.olver-
tisement tl-!0\n woro( of t'Y'JOt.(th> ano( [. .. ] ti.,ese sites
Co\re wovtol.erfiA/ ov.tlets for ex01.ctly tV.o.t type of
free ao.d.vertisi""<3 [ ... ] I cAon't even p01.y for o.o(verti-
si ,n9 since I 9et new clients every tirv1e
so...,.,eone wrires o. new review. [ P. 20.]
Nettao.lie of So.n Fr01ncisco hao.ot 01. very cl.ifferen't opi"1i01"1 :
Seeing the il"ltimc-Ate d.et01ils of my encoiA!"''ter with
o. client mo.kes me feel otiS9tASting, no wtOitter
now posi'tively the el<perience.
She. institAtec.( l"lo-review policy.
Withol.o\t o.llowing reviews> I fino( I better 0\ble
to offer 01. 1-\niqlAe> speciao.l l<perie!"''ce to e01ch
cl i ent I con"'e in co.,t<:lct witl-t. I olon't l101.ve specific
tnin9s to live v.p to> o.nol. O.I"Y'' o.ble to re/ao.x> enjoy
rnyself> o.not v.ltimo.tely offer o. better tit'Yle to
both p"'rties. While it 's th01.t I o(o...,' t 9et o.s
1-ligl-t 01. volv.me ao.s I [ whe ..... I o./lowed reviews L
I mCAch prefer spendin9 my tin'\e with ti.,e few
m en who w i If to. k e o. c h o.., c e . [ P. 2 1. ]
Botn vvot'Yle..., 1-to.d more to sao.y on the St.otbjec.t -- l'rYI jt-tst
printi""9 these el<cerpts to 9ive o. sense of the G(ebo.te.
By 1rhe wo.y> SPREAD is worth chec.kin9 ov.t wl.,ether"
yotA're sellin9 sex or bt.(yil"\9 it. I'm odwao.ys h01ppy to
o. new issv.e . The web-site is
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/ The expression is '' bo.re - b01.ck blow-job''>
so Joe wo.s close. He's now emb"'no.ssed. i-1-tao.t he d;ol.,'t
9tAess correctly, bv.t I don't thil"lk he shotAicA be. He got
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"the ri9nt meG\1'1in9> ;f not the wor-d.in9> anc:;( J'a(
been ptAzzlin9 over the il"litiods for least fifteen
mintAtes witV! no S'-'<<ess> ""'hile Joe 01ble to come
lAp witJ, VIis SLA9qestion in'lmecli<Ately.
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- loBI I This wCAs how I tne topic. of her
CAge > tnere we.-e other" reCASOt"\S why I thotAsV!t- s he
o l cJ.er. $1--je tolol me vcH iotAS d.eto.ils her
life> G\nc:A sorvle of those seemeo<
1..u1less s,.,e older than eighteen.
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I Tnis scene t-akes place in the brothel
t h t " ., ( C h a pte r Z ) w or k e & in , "J o I e n e " ( C h o. p -
ter 15) ano( "Myr-c. " ( Ch<Apter Z2. ) also workeol there.
lzs:s, tl9=1 I " Diane " did not 1-lairy mole. She
a pr-oblei'Yl tl-101t I'I'Vl 90in9 to be deli ber01tely va9LAe
( jtASt a.s I wo.s vOI<;lLAe o.bolAt the loco.tion of the
non-e>c:istent rYJole ). let's just so.y thO\t this problem
w01s hinder-in<J my C\bility to fincl her sextA01IIy attr"'c. -
tive7 o.nc.( slfle cotAio( eo.sily have ole01lt witl-1 the problen1
so t"'e"'t" it wotAicl.,'t h01.ve bee"' as notice<Able i t wCAs .
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I Th01t the best blow-job of my I ife I I
met " Denise".
l
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: 'f- J I odwCAyS CG\rry "' book with me
7
this wc.s
the book I wo.s C\t the time . I do reme...,..,ber
t n CAt S ""san/ A I ex i s " o. s k e c;( o. q_ LA est ion t h t in cJ i c "'t e c.l Q
kr'lowlec;.(ge of Ameri cG\n history beyoncA whG\t
person woLAid k.-,ow, I c;.(on't remember
wh01t the q_tAe stion w01s .
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I Why ci icin' t l reco9nize her ? She hG\d
different l-101ir-style . More si-te wo.s
cliff erently. The first time I so.w her> G\lthotA<_3h she wCA s
polite, she wo.s o.lso &et01cheo< o.no( o(istQnt. The second
time she WG\S wtlACn more frie..,dly.
This c.hG\pter- is set in the SC\me brothel tho.t
''Do.nielle" ( Cho.pter ll.t) workeG{ in.
/ reG\d 01. book clo.imed tl-t01t " h01lf G\ncA
is 01 cort1mon e)(pression ;.., tne worlt:A of
tiol'"\. This my first o.nd lo.st o.tte....,pt to lASe the
expression.
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I Sook- Yin wotAicl like rYJe to m01ke it cleG\r
it WCAS Steve who wG\S conc:er..,ecf OlboCAt my
j.., the hotASe , O.ncl he OISkeo( ner to SIA99est tl-tG\t I f i r1cA
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NOTES
o.notV.er plo. c. e to live . Steve's o. 9ooG( 91AY ou1o( I tAt1der-
why wo.s unc.ornforto.ble wit 1-t the icl.eo. of
howit-19 Gin e)(-boyfrie...,G( of Sook- Yi.,'s livi"'9 witlo, the two
of the YY'I,

lt I " 6weno4oly...," o....,o( I o4icA 9et bo.ck in to&Ac.lo, o. few

year!. lo.ter terb.co. . (There's o. privO\te
syste....., on the site.) Sl-1e hoped l'o be willit19 to sto.rt
seei.,g her o.9o.in. I wo&Aid nO\.ve bee11 eo.::ter to cJ.o
blAt by tir-ne I wo.s seei"'9 "De...,ise" o.11ot felt
to her, So_. with ,.-esret,., I tolo "uiAI11-
clolyn" tno.t I cot..tldn't see her.
(Yes, I the wore( there . I do feel
(OI'VlrnittecA. to "DeVJise ". 8tAt feelin9 co.-.,.,.."""ittecl is
o(;fferent fro""' ho.ving 01 sto-.tec.(
or proMise. Tho.t feel i n9 n1iglo,t c.h0\t19e with t i me ,., or it
might not -- I oot"''t kl"'ow. I reco9Y'Iize tho.t emotions
o.re.,'t necessar-ily pet'"mo..,ent. TV.e relo.tionship I have
with " De.., ise" will conti.,I.Ae for o.s lot19 o.s we both wo..,1"
it to co...,tint..te. )
ltro.
1
I None of the inco.ll - 9'irls kissee;( me on the Ynot.Ath,
most of ti-re OIAtco.ll-girls I know why there
wo.s o. c;(ifference.
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I Si Ynilo.rly,.. I neve r 9ot the ir-npression tho.t o...,y of
the >nco.ll-sirls I so.w wot.Aid ho.ve been wil/it"19 to 9ive
me 01 blow-job, while o.t leo.st three of the
O&Atc.o.ll - 9irls wot..tl& ho.ve c;(one so if I ho.cin't
(The other two were " KiHy" "Lo.riss01.".)
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: '2 I K..-is tho.t it w01.S11't cleo.r why I
never SC-\w "Jenn01." C\qOiil"'. The explo.nO\.tion is in this
pC\nel -- she WQS too expensive. At $ 300 holAr,., she
WG\S 'ti-le most c.ostly p,..ost i tt..\te I so.w, I wo.s reo.lly
ho.ppy with he..- beAt I couldn't' CAfforal it 01'1 o.
regtAio.r be\Sis. It's o.lso worth t"'otins -tho.t I wc:;..s jlAst C\S
ho.ppy oli.Ari"'S ...,.,Y lo.ter encot.Anters witl-1 ' 'lo.rissc:;.. '',
"l:c;tith ,,> Qn d " De.., i se", even thow3n they o.ll c ho.rgeol
leH. My best sext..to.l experie11c.es with were
with those foi.Ar yot..tn9 woYY'Ien. ( Tl-1e sex conti.,""'e s to
be 9 r e Q t w it h '' D e n ; s e ''. )
I ..,ot weo.rin9 9lo.He.s in t-l-1i.s po..,el. I
conto.c.t-le.,ses C\ short while before seeing " kitty "
be9o.., weQrin9 when I wG\S with prostitt.Ates. I did
write clrc:;..w 01 few p01.Y'Iels to show thi s,., b1.1t I editecA
them otAt-.
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NOTES
Wo.s "Arlene" o. sex-slo.ve? She didl"l ' t
seei'V'l like one -- she w oo. s very cneerftAI o.no( o.ttentive.
Also) sex- .slo.ves CAre less likely to be Set'lt on o u.tcc.lls . ,.,
hiS book INVISIBLE. CHAINS> Benjo.rnin Perr-in expiC4ins
wny:
( Outca II e]scort services mo.y provide the woi'Yien
with o. measu.re of temporary increo.s in9
the r-isk tho.r they flee [ . Per"r-in_, pp. 45> 't6. ]
Wl1i/e Perrir'l does 9ive o.t1 exOIWtple of o.n oLAtcOIII ;..,
whid., ti-'le prostittAte wo.s o. sex- s/o.ve, she wo.s OltComp-
O.I"lied to tl-te john's note! roowt "by" coAple of bCArly
m e , . " ( P. 1 ; 't. ) No b tA r I y m e n o. c c o ..,., p 01 n i e ol "A r I e "' e ".
\ l9J:3 - I91 :
2
lin nis notes ( Appe.,cAi)(' 23 ), Seth 01\ks
this conver.so.ti o.., took e . The lo9ue ito1
this sc eYle is bo.sed o.., rYIY rYle.,ories of two
conv erso.tiol"''s we no.d tho.t I'v e mo.shec( to9ether o.s oY'Ie.
I co.11''t rei'Ylember when the f irs t convers o.tion
bu.t I remewtber where= lhe Keg Resto.lAro..,t o..,
Chc..crc.h S<treet. Seti-'l 's wife To.nia. wo..s with lAS_, o.l"'lo( she
also took po.rt in the discussion. The seco...,c( co,ve..--
so.tion took plo.ce o.., Mo.rch 30th 2007. Ch..-is Wo.r-e
wo.s visitiYI9 o.nc:{ 9CA"e. G\ to.lk o.t the Uto1ivers:ty Of
Torot'l'to. The school pu.t up (C.,ris i.., G\ 01'1 (.O.wtp!AS.
Seth o.nd. I were ho.vtgin9 OC.At wirh Chris it"' the livivt9-
room of tlo,i s 1-tou. s e. He left to c.Lo .so"""et,_,i...,9 -- per""G:\PS
-- o,...,o( Se.th G\nd. I sot ;..,to the se<oncl conver-
SG:\tio..,. Tlo,e setti..,9 ;.., these po.nels is bo.seo( o"" """Y
( il'le>. CCtAro.te ) MWlory of who.t tho.T l i vin9-
rooi'YI lookec.( like. ChriS rejoineo( u.s o.t Sotrne poi..,t
b.At c.licl..,' t po.rticipo.te i11 tV!e excho.r1ge u..,til we>
s w i tc.l-led topics.
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NOTES
This is now I responcl.ed. to Seth's
st<"te,.,ent in po...,el The rest of the word-b01lloon$
I wrote for in this scene reflect ti-,e """'Y I
re.....,e..,..,ber the co.-.ver-sCA.tioi'\S 90in9. Still, whO\t
Seth writes ;, Appenc(i x 23 is v01lid.; "Chet <omes off
o. little better here tha.., he ;.., real
I if e . '' J.., s lA r e I expressed. I'Yl y point s ""o,.. e "'w k w cA I y
in the ctiHI..(SSio.-.s. Anc:A those c:Aiscc...cssio"'s
hCA.ve bee.., more like o(eb"'tes -- Seth wo&Aid. ho.ve been
more in opposing wh01t I wOlS .so.yi.,g.

191
!
2
J While Seth said this,., he w01sn't actCAodly
SW1okin9 when he said i t. ( 81At he probably lit lAP
within twe..,ty minCAtes.)
jt98 :
2
-a I A hcrther point OlboCAt the exciiASio.-.G\ry nO.fCAre
of poHessive mono901rny : it Cc:i\tAses If yotA're
in " po!>Sessive relG\tionship you
yotArse If sexu01lly o.tt """"'tee:( to other- HlG\1"1- yoCAr-
rom"'"'ti<.-pOirt.-.er o.t 01 p01rty (or work,., or whereveY )
7
CAl'tcA yourself wishil'\9 you cotAic( cHt on this
0\tti'"CA.C tion, blAt yotA c01n' t beCOIIA$ yoi.A're in o. I'Y101'10901rn-
0tA5 rel01tionsnip> you're likely to feel Th01t
resentme.-.t LAP resU\Its in t'-1e sort of melo-
fights in possessive I"Y''ono9-
<Amy. T&-tose sorts of i.-.tense, 1-teCA.vily eW1ot"ion01l fi3nts
o..r-e r01re between .. o11e of the recHoi"'S is
bec01tAse there's less reset'lt""'le.-.t betwee..,
yoCA COl..-. no.ve O.S W'IG\ny fyjenc.ls 0\S yoc...c Want--
it 's 11ot reiG\tio., s J.,ip. If the soc.ic:AI <ode sac-ci
coCAicA hGwe Ol'lly ot1e frieno( > resentme11ts between
frie.-,d.s woCAio( it1cre"se. ( Tl1is is o. generc:A(
S'-'r-e tl-tet"e 01re en1otiono.lly mo.t.AYe people wJ.,o k.,ow how
to tJ.,eiY resentW'Ie..,t s or who never feel the
eWlotion to be9i.-. with. A.,c:A. people who ho.ve
9etti1'19 IG\icl. mi9ht feel less rese.-.t""'e""t ;.., rnono901"""'o1AS
reiOitio.,ships H101n people who don't l,c:Ave tJ.,"'t cAifficCAity.)
l
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1
I It m01y see...,., l ike f bei..,9 cruel by forcing
"Ec.(ith" to 01chnit tho.t s&-te WC\S h01ving sex with 0111 of
her c.(jel1fS O.ncf... th01t fJ.,erefore _, by implication> Sne C:.H. fiA -
0\1/y wo.s G\ prostiti.Ate . The tJ.,in9 is, siven the O\Y91ArYient
she I cliO...,'t know whG\t her WOIAid be. I
OICttAOII' Iy think I'YlOiybe she wasn't h01.ving sex
with o.ll ner c lient.s.
I
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:
8
I TJ.,e 1-teres y> C\ brc..nol of
ti<"..,ity en1bro.cin9 toler01.-.ce poverty> rose to
proi"Y''i.,e.-,ce in t11e .-nidolle of tr.,e twelfth
centtAry [. O'Sl-1e01, p. 7. J
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NOTES
For +l-Ie the worlc:J wo.s not the h01ndi -
work of o. good gocL It w'-toHy the of
o. fon:e of iW'Im0111ent in o.ll tl-1ir19S, M01tter
wcH corrv.pt, there fore lrr el to so. I vo.'tion,
little if 0\ny h"cA to be paic.< to tt.,e
rco.te systems set v.p to bv.lly people i11to obeyins
the ..,.,""' with the si-lo.rpest swore(, the
wG\IIet, or tl.,e big9est stic.k of il'lc.ens e. Worldly
o.tAt,.,ority WG\S "'frG\v.o(
7
Olno( worldly 0\v.thority
bOlseol on some O.ivine SOinc.tion, StAc.n 015 tl,e.
Cl-lv.rc.h do.imeo(, wo.s olAtri9VIt hypoc.risy.
The goc.l o(eseYving of Co.th01r worship w01s
god. of l ight, who rtAiec.t t'-'le it"tvisible, the ethereo. l,
the spiritCAal domG\in; this 90d> v.lflco,.,cerned with
the tvto.terio.l, Simply Gficl,., ' t co.f'e iF yoCA 9ot ;,.,to
bed before getting ho.ot "' Jew or
for " fr"ienot , tre"teol r .. H?VI and wo..,.,en cH
el:lv.011s, or d ie). o.nythi ,.,9 else co..,tr01ry to ti-le
i,.,gs of ti-le wteo(ievod It w01s '-'P to tl-1e ;,.,o(i-
( I'YlO.t"\ or to dec.ic.le whether he or
she was wilfi,.,9 to renoCAnce the n-1o.terio.l for o.
life of If not, o..,e keep retv.r-
nit19 to this world -- t'-tO\t is, be rei'1COIP101teol - -
'"'"til reo.dy t-o a life StAffic.iently spotle-.s
to o.llow 01ccession, G\t to t"'e so. me. bliss.f'-'1
sto.te ol"'e experienceo( G\S ccn G\ngel prior to
..... 3 been te""pteot ov.t of he01.ve.., o.t the begin-
ni,.,g of t iMe. To be then,
so.int. To be wo.s to live> a..,o(
O.CjOii,.,> Ol'l this corrlApt Eo.rth. Hell w01s 1-lere .. not-
it"\ sovne horrific: o.fterliFe v.p by
to s c 01 r e p eo pIe o tAt of their w its.
f O'S pp. 10, II . J
,,., the Co.tnolic dec:.lo.rec;( o. c. rv.s01ote
"9o.ins t the C01thcus. The heresy wo.s finodly c.r-tAsheot ,..,
12 Cf4.
I zoz : 2 ..
3
I R01A9e..,.,ont, Book n.> Cho.pters 6-10.
Wo.s ti-lere G\ con,.,ectio.., between the trov.b01c:Aov. r s
o..,o( tJ.,e C01t-ho.rs ? r..,., not we/1-verseo( e,.,ov.gh in +l-te
sv.bjects to .SOIY witJ., co..,fic.lence whet11er RotA9e-.onT
wo.s rig&.,t or wrong o,., t1-1is mo.tter,
I '2..0
2
:
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I Wnile cot.Artly love WG\ S in Hte o(evel-
opme,.,t of t"'e concept of rorvto.ll"'t ic love, prob01bly
o.s ;,.,.,porto.nt wo..s the of whG\t C. Stephen
co..l ls " ennobli,.,9 love" in book of the .so.me
ti+le. He defi..,es it o.s "o. love thO\t
responds to the ' virtlAe,' the ' mG\jest y,' the ch01rism01> ti-le
so.intlineSS, of tJ,e beloveJ., to SOI"YTE' ir1ner force of Qv-th-
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NOTES
ority or- or- SOtnc.tity. " ( p. Lt.) 'Thi s wo.s
o. forn'l of love tho.t fo..- other men. p,.-ior to
tl1e <.e""tiAry,.. if wo.'> coMW'!only helievec.( ti-Jo.t ' '+he love
of rYlen for WOrYlen COI.Aic.( t'\ot ent"'oble> Sirtce SXtACldity
wo.s its no.ti.Arod f"'lfiiiW'Ient . love G\1"1o( of men
for wo..,..,e"" t'-l<At clc:.cimed 'virt<Ae' G\no( i n11ocen'e inevitG\
bly SLASpicio., , " ( J01e9er> p. 1,) Jo.e9er points OIAt
th<At e)(pressions of intel"'lse frienolshiplove betwee.., I'Yien
were very common froM 0\t'lCient times LAp 111ntil the
opmen't of cotArtly love. AlthoLA9h these friendsJ,ips were
vtot seXIA0\1> the e)(p.--ession of this fo,..""' of love WG\S so
eff<Asive th01t it reseYYlblec wh01t we c01ll rorYIC4ntic. love,
J01e'3er- co..,tevtc:As tho.t> in I-ter letters to Abelo.rd, Heloi se
( CG\ . AD 1090 1163) wo.s the first to 01pply "ennob,/i..,9
I o v e '' to 01 sex lA 0\ I reI <At ion s 1-1 i p between 01 m 01"" 01 n cA 01
WOI'YIGU'1 ,
The defe..,se of pG\SSion01te love is 01 creo.tio.-, of
Heloise.[ . . ) She co..,strtAc.teo< o. virtt.Ao(..(S sexLA:o.l
pO\Hion of tl-te ele...,.,e.-,ts of e.-,nobli..,9 love: self
lessness> p1Arity of ;..,tention> love of merit> ptArity
of love>
She is the Qrchitect of c,. hi.91-ler l01w of love
.SO\nctio.-,ing sexLAOtlity [. JC"Aeger-> p. 169.)
( Heloise WOlS the premO\ritC41 sex thC4t she
C\ n (;.( A be I 0. r 11 C\ Q( e Ylj 0 y e I s h e h o( ., 0 t w C\ n t d t 0
m01rry A be l01ro( be c o.IA se she w01s QfrO\ io( thc;..t ...,.,c;..r.--i C\9e
c.testr-oy their love. She w01s right. ) The
of AbeiC4Y"d. cocA Heloise becc.ti'Yie f01rno1AS> 01no(
wl-ze11 co..,binec::4 the poptAio.rity of co<Artly /ove-
poe.t,..y> infi<Aenceot n-1en 0\t'lo wo...,.,en to to
other in 01 w01y. ( This> in infiiAe..,ceo(
now men t'"el01ted to eo.c.h other. Accorolin!J to
expressions of "ennoblins love " between me"" O.iecJ.. off
0\S n1ode-GIInd- fem01le /ovelitero.t<Are. becC\me.
This doesn't meo.n thC4t re9t..d01r people .st01r-teo(
I'YIC\rryi11g for love The ideo. perc..oiO\te-d. in
E tAropeGIIn liten:"t<Are for next few centuries, and.
people beco.me srOicll.o\01/ly MOre receptive to it.
I thir1k whel\t reel\lly be901r1 the poptAIC\rity of MC\Hy
ing for love WO\S +he rise of the rom01ntic. novel in
tl-1e IBth ( be9innin9 with the S<Access o.c.ross
E<Arope of SOirYIIAe/ PAMELA> pCAb/isheol in
1740 ).
By tl'1e enol. of the 1100s perso nC\I of pC4rt..,ers
l-lco.c::4 re pl01cecJ. G11rr01n9ec:i DIS 01 5ocic;d
0\nc:i were encoi.ArG\sed to 1'1"10\rr-y for
love . [Coontz., pp. 145- l't6. ]
Z7Z
NOTES
lhe new norms of the love - batsed.> inti...,ao.te mCA.rr"i -
not fodl into platce o.ll o.t onc.e b<At were
o.c:J.opted o.t different rO\teS in vo.riO<AS re9i01'1S G\.f'lol.
so<.i0\1 <jroCAps. /n tl,e celebro.tior1 of the
love mo.tc.h reatc.hed 01. fever pitch o.s eatrly ats tl,e
1160s- o.nol. 1110s> while tl-1e French were still
cot'Yl...,_,e.,tin9 on the l'lovelty of "mG\.rrio.9e by fCA.sci-
.. ;,.. the mid- IBOOs . Mo.Y'Iy
fao.wtilies did. not o.O.opt the lflW norms of mo.rito.l
IY'ItimOtcy CAvttil the tweY'Itieth centtAry.
[Coontz> p. 141. ]
for love sto.rteol. to 9o.in wio(espreao.ol. o.ccep-
tOIY'IC. ;.., the 18th centLAry. I O.on' t think it wats o. coinci-
c).el'lce tho.t o.t the Satme tiYl'le OtAr mocJ.ern concept of
''the prostittAte" wo.s forl'VliY'Ig, From LOtAro. Mo.rlo.
A9ustln' s SEX AT THE MARGINS :
[T]here no wore;). or concept whic.l-1 signifieo(
exc.ltAsively the sode of sextAo.l services IAntil t-,t.,e
[ lo.te rgth centv.ry ]. '' Whorins" refer-reo( to se><tAo.l
relo.tio.--.s o<At of I'Ylo.rriO\ge o.Y'Io( co,...noted ivn.,.,or-
odity or promiH tA ity with OIA t tV!e i .--.vo/ve me.-. t of
moY'Iey> anc) the word whore wo.s <Aseo( 'to bro.>1ol
0\ny wom01n who stepped. o<Atsiole
botAnolO\ries of r-especto.bility. [ Al31AStll"l> p. 101. ]
Money WQS vrot ac defivring c.ho.ro.cteri5tic of proHit<A-
tio.., ;.., tl-te pre-moc-Jern .. AgCAStln's book
1 be'30IY1 to woY'Icler- if it's o. Modern to sepcHOtte
' 'trO\cle " of o. sexv."'l reiO\tionsnip from "l"loYT-
t r "'c{ e " o. spec. t s CAn 0. if> i Yl o. t t em p tin 9 to d. o so> we
0\ren't o.r-bitr-CAry boCAI'1C;(o.ries. It looks obvi-
O<AS to tA.S ;.., the 21st ce'1t1Ary t"'"t prostittAtion is o.
forWl of comWter-ciod tr01.de O.l"lcJ. r'OWlCAvttic. love.
"'...,o(. W1o.rrio.C3e ho.ve nothivt9 to do with trQ.cle. Bc..tt
prior to the 18th cent<Ary, o,.,e n:;\rely mo.rriecl for love-- it
wo.s WliAC.h more COMWIOf'l to mo.rry for money.
ll't froi"Yl the eC"Arly Middle A9es throtA9h
the eishteenth the dowry at wife
with I-ter C"At rn01rri01.9e wats often the
big<jest infusion of goods> or l"'nol 0\ rno.Y'I
ever o.<q<Aire. Finc:Aing h<Asb"'nol wo.s
IASv.OIIIy the most in"'portG\nt investmet'lt "'
wOWl0\1"1 mOtke ;., her eco.-,oMic ftAture.
[ Coontz> p. 6. ]
mQf"ly people still mo.rry for I"Yloney - - it's
tO\boo to ope..,ly o.cA.....,it it now. Even whe,... it 's vtot the
prirnOtry reo.son for ... wrost people e .... tering into
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NOTES
mQtriWJony &o co,-si&er" ti-le SitCAG\tio.., of the
persova they're mG\rryi.-,g.
It's Q(So worth pointing OCAt ti-lett., o.siofe fro..,., ro.pe
( whic"' iS DlboCAt to.kin9 withoCAf givit13 CAI"''yfj.,jng )_...Sex
iS o.lwo.ys C4boCAt trG\cA.e : "I WG\nt to 9ive yoA physic01\
pleo.sL<re becG\CASe I wG\.,t physic01l in retCA.,.....,.,".,
or, ''I'll h"'ve sex witl-1 yoCA beccu.cse I wQnt "ffectio.-,'".,
or., "YoCA ccvt fCAc.k n-,e for 200 dol/o.rs." It's G\11
1
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:
1
I At1tiquity h01s left no recoro( of G\n experience
o.ki.., to the love of TrisfQn Qno( lseCAit. It is well
know., the Greeks G\r1d Romans looked on
love o.s " si(..kness [ ... ] whe.,ever it we.-,t, no
mQ\tter how little, ti-le sel'lSCAG\I pleasc.Are
w&.,ic.n WOIS considered to be its nG\tCAro.l expression.
cG\IIS love "G\ frerny ". 1-\G\ve
it wo.s G\ rno.cAne !IS .... ThCAS those wL-to G\re in love
I"'"'CASt be for9ive.., G\S tnoCAgh ilL" [ RoCA<3e""'ol'lt_. p.60.]
203
:8- 20't : l I C01rtoo11ist Eric. SJ.t01..,ower h"'s bee.., retell-
the story of ti-le cu "' series of
1'1ovets. Acc.oro(i.,g to the first volCArn'l!, AGf.. OF BRONZE: A
THOUSAND .SHIPS, Odysse1AS l-\01d. wanted to rnG\rry Helen
blAt insteG\d WG\$ 9iven her cotASin ... Penelope, CAS o. sort
of prize. J trAH tho.t ShG\nower is
tkC4t ovr some G\1"\cie,.,t versio,., of the tG\Ie, or 01t le01$t
isn't- contf'adic.ti"''g the ori9it1al SOCAr<es. (The book isn't
po.git101teoL If t&.,e first po.9e H101t stetrts the story is
po.9e o"'e> t&.,e.., the relevo...,t p"'ss"'9es re9G\ro(in9 0c;(ys-
SfCAS cu-1cA Penelope G\re 011 po.9es 126 o.1>1a 135.)
l11cidently, I've bee.., e..,joyit1g the AGE OF BRONZE.
ser-ies. I hope ShCA.nower mG\nG\ges to finish it.
\-zoct:l J We fi"'c( isoiClltec;L recorcJ.s of love exper-
ienc.ecA by spol.-\ses o.mong tne o.nc.ie..,t Hebrews,
(,reeks> G\r'lci Ron-1Q1'1S . SCAt si..,ce o.rra..,geo(
rO\.ther H1"'n love l'l1G\rri019es .. were t11e ,.,or..,., ;..,
premode?rY1 tii'Yles, brioles 9roOl'nS cAicA .-,ot enter
I'Y'lG\rriG\9 with tl-te expec..t01tion of "fovin9" eo.c.h
other G\S we LH''lc;(erstOI..,o( t11e term. [Yo.lorYY, p. xvi.]
jzott:'t l1 believect for G\ wl1ile thett there eve ..,o pre-12tl1-
cent""ry works H1Qt conto.i11 cho.ro.c.ters wl-'!o
first fC41l in love the,., 9et rno.rriec.t. This is o.l,.,.,ost
trtAe, hCAt not qt.cite. Re01ding THE SEVEN BASIC PLOTS by
Christopher Booke.,.., I co.rne o.cross o. reference to the
G\ncie..,t Greek novel DAPHNIS AND CHLOE by Long\.\s
(co.. the 21"1d or 3rol A-D). Booker's c:Aesc.ription
it'tolicc:.tes tlo,Qt it's 01bo1At "' who I'YlQrry
274
NOTES
ti-tey've fo.llen in love. I went OIAt o.not pic.keo( LAp 0111
tro...,slo.rion - - 8oof.<er is ri9nt. Accoro(i,.,9 to 'the
intr-ocl1Ac.tiol1 ;., my c.opy of t>APHNIS AND CHLOE .. tV.ere o.re
ot&-ler s i rnilo.r- Greek o.no( lO\tin works fr-ol"'\'1 tl-tis periocJ..
[ .. p. x.] It th01t they oicJ.1t peYSCAo.cA.e people
i11 0.11y si91'tific01nt l'tiAWiber-s to ptAt m01rrio.ge-for-love
into prCAc.tice.
I 201 : z-
20
8 '
1
I WCI\s 01 s ex-slowe? D1Aring oiAr-
post-coi to.l co .. wersO\tion, "Lo.IAro." told. rYTe o.bot.At 01 trip
jLAst to.ken bo.c.k to her l-lomelo.ncA o..,c-J how she'cJ.
visiteci I-ter fo.,.,.,ily while there. Tho.t indico..tes to 1"11E' o.
greo.ter clesree of mobility o.no'. fr-eedoi"YY tho...,., o..,e
woll\lc.l e)Cpec.t o. s ex-slo.ve to ho.ve .
I
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'
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I J',..., 01ot o. teetoto.tler, blAt it's ro.r-e thO\t I drink
""'Y k i no( of odcohol .. so I 11ever ho.ve G\t"'y <At
l
2 I 0 : 6 - 2 II : '2. I ,. D . " _, , b ,_ . L
e1'11Se c.<oec,n t re..,.,em er t.-"s n01ppe'"'"".9
After she reo.o( tl-le book? si-te a.skecJ. .. ''Reo.lly? I for9ot to
pic.k LAP the mol'1ey th01t first ?" Yes,. she d.icJ. .
Misto.kes like tho.t co..., h01ppe11. A few yeo...-s lo.ter- I
forgot to plAt the money OIAt .. which lea< to rt-u.A.ttAod
embar-r-OISS..,.,ent. Sl-1e wo.s eWibetrrCAsseo< to 1-towe to o.sk
for it .. et11d I wo..s eP'I"''bo.r-retssto( I dicAn't WG\1'1t
he,.- to think tl-to.t ICA. been tryin9 to 9et a.wo.y with not
I 11ow ho.ve "' check- list of thit"'gS to r-eP'I"''e..,ber
to a<o before "Denise'' CAr-rives -- a.t the top of ti1e list it
SO.yS, "money Ot.At".
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J It P'I'701Y seem h01rc;t to believe tho.t I wc.o work-
ins so th01t I coiAio(n'r spetre o.n hoLAr or two
mo..,tJ., to see 01 All I COin S<"AY is .. tho.t wa.s
Hre 11eo.o-spa.ce I w01s ;., , I coLAio( howe pG\ic:l for se)C
G\ More timeS in 2003 011""10 Still nGI\Ve rYIO.c(e the
pLAblico.tion c.tea.dline for LOUIS RIEL Gl\110. of
P'I"''Y c.ttAties .. blAt I wo.s in StACh o. po.nickeo(
st01te tha.t- I felt- like I dio(n't h01ve o., extrO\ ,..,;..,lAte.
I'm ;.., o. s;..,.,;lo..r po..nickeot StO\te. o..s I finish this book.
Tl-te reo.son why I '""' hCAvil'19 sex (i(t.Aring this
c rc.Anc.h is ""'Y rela.tio11ship witl-t
"Denise" is too f;,...,..,ly esto.blished ;"' my life.
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:a I Wnen 1 first met Sook- Yi., .. she br-Oiic:{ed. 1-ler
like this most of the tiwte. Over- tl-,e yeo.rs sl-1e 9ro.dlAetlly
so. By 2008 sne wot.Alo( not ho.ve wort"'' her
1-1 o. i r i.., t-1-1 is sty I e .
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I I t'"eW'Ie""'1bE'I" the point uorGl in this
c.onversG\tion, b"'t ..,ot ex01ctly how 1-,e it. He
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ciid. not LASe "'"" im"''='in01ry cov.ple J01ck 01nol J01ne to
d01rify wh01t he WCAS .S01yin9.
( 6y the w01y_, my brother is Ylot himself ;.., 0111 open
J01ck-omoi - Jcv1e sltt.tO\tion. He's i, 01
rnono9c.molAS ,-e/01tlon s hip.)
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't I I' ve fG\ile& to convey how 01mv.sect Seth WC"AS

w '-1 e.., I "'c4 mitt eo( t h C\ t I I o v e. "0 en is e ". Set.., 0\, d. I were
01c.tv.G\1fy sitti119 ;, 01 rest01v.r"'n't on Gv.ee.., Street G\t the
- - Terroni.
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1='31 po.rt of the conversOt.t-iol'l neve..--
h01ppe...,ed. When I c;trew tl.,ese P"'..,els I h01cA only told
"Deni se" 01bov.t feelin9 th01t e""ptil"'ess.
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I The d01.te CAt the bottoW\ of this p01r1el - -June 1th
2010 -- is w'-'e.., I t""'ov.ght I WO\S finis hec:i cA r01wit1g the
book. A feCAJ ol01ys l01ter I re<Ad. the wl.,ole work throv.gh
0111oC I '-'01ppy wita-. t'-le resAit. I n01d to cl.o - -
ec;(iting ov.t POII"lels Q.nd. O.rC\wing ..,e"" o.-,es. By
9 t,_, I J., C\ ot 01 v e n i o n o f t h e s to r y t 1.,"' t I w"' s a.,"' p pie ,-
with.
I AFTERWORD * I Fellow cao.r+oonist D01ve Sin"! stopped
resO\rcAi1'19 n"'e o.s 01, friend in 2008 beCOIIAS I ref&AseoC
to sig.., an ;.-,ternet petitio.-, tJ.Jat set up thO\t
"Dc:we Sit'Yl is 11ot o. miso9yr"tist." I cAon't o9ree
witl-t his opinion tl-tao.t womeY'I 01.r-e intelfec.ttAG\Ity
i..,ferior to mer1_, b""t my o.ffec.tio"' G\no< r-espect for
hi.,., remo.in U(nd'lo.t'lged.
I APPENt>IX I " I Tl-1e wo.y I' ve phrG\sed this misl-'lt seem
to ir'l'lply otl-ter- coiAntrie s folfoweol. leo.ci
in COI.rlCAc::ACA """'S o.c.tiAcdly
follo"Vin9 E..,giOI.nct' s le01.c::A. ( p. 191. )
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} I i1cwe no stro.-,9 opinion on the connectio.-,
between 9enes "'"'c::A sex"'"'' prefere...,ce. It woi.A.Icil"l' t
s v. r p r is e ""'e if there is " "9 C\ y 9 e, e "_, 01n ci it w o lA I o("' ' t
sv.rpri se me if there isn' t one.
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1<' I If yo""'re wonoCerin9 wf.-\y I dic;(n't encow1ter
C"Any prostitv.tes wl1o o""'Y 901ve o,-C4(> it's beca.v.se they
n"!O.de it cleo.r in their <llci S wha.t f-he t10.ttAre of their
service wo.s. I k"'e"" I wo.ntec:A. more thO\..., a blow-job>
so I oioln't COlli the orCAI-OI'lly s e>c-worke rs.
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I Amy, "A 'Profess i on01l lover ' Spea.ks ", NATIO-
NAL POST> JlAiy 15 tl, 2006.
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I s J., o "" I c;( d ..,..., i t t n 01 t I r e c::u ,. 01.., 9 e o( t h e o r cJ. e r o f the
q_Aote -- tJ.,e "[1]., folAt" yeetr"S" section atppeatrS before
the ''My clients" section ;.., Amy's esso.y.
A. 8 *
p .. l'lO ..
A. 8 **
J<'\ne <'\no( "De01r SPREAD,
Wi..,ter 200S, p. IS.
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J Mo11et, p. 221.
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.,.. I " Letters", EYE WE.KLY
( Toronto)> M<'\rc.h I st p. 5.
'A. 9 "'* I M ...
( _ onet,.. p. 2.20.
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* I Jeffreys_. pp. 260, 261.
is quotir19 f,...on1 p019e 159 of "' 1991 pAblicQ-
tion> RAPE. AI\ID SEXUAL ASSAUlT m : A RESEARCH HAND-
8001<, eclitecA. by Ann Wolpert BAr9ess.
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** I " Denise" tells me tho.t she enjoys hcwin.9 sex
with me. M<'\r1y of yoA this will thil"''k
she's bei..,9 less thQI.., hot1est with me. Peoo..,QIIIy, I
believe her, btAt I she prob01bly enjoys se.x
w it&-, me I e H t "'\(j\ n s h e h o. s e ..,j oy e i t wit h the
norr - p<'\yin9 se)(IAOd po.rtners she's nOI.o( "',o( "thOit, if I
wo.s...,'t po.yir19 she woAidn't co..,tinlAe to 90 to becA
with me.
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L work o.., tl-te effects v.po, woW'Ien
of .se.x"'o.l violen,e, St.Ac.h o.s ro.pe, ;..,cest .. seXA<'\ I
"'Qretssment Qlnc( ro.pe , CO.I"l be lAseft.Aily
to tne effects of prostitv.tion.
[Jeffreys, p. 268. ]
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MG\,.,V ho.ve developed Hreel"'i1"19
sys'tems tho.t suc<essft.AIIy filter' out viole.., t cv.stomer.s.
For i11st<'\nce .. one ;..,depe..,o.e..,'t To,.on'to CG\II9irl rectt.Aires
tho.t "New clie..,ts must provide either o. r'o.l no.,..,.,e c-tnci
work l"tCAmber or two refere..,ces frorM otl-ter
respec.tecl C<'\ 11 9ids. '' ( Mclo.ren .. p. 56.)
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* I Here's the c.ontext in which Sheil01 Jeffr-eys
o.sso<.io.tec:A objectific<'\tion with ernotiOI1G\I i1'1c:Aif-
fe,...e..,<e. This is 1-,er efi..,itio.-, of prostitutio,., :
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NOTES
MG\Ie seXtAG\1 d-t01r01c by tl1ree
efe,..,.,e..,t.s v01rio1ASiy b01rter_.
i,.,o(;ffere..,ce. Any 1"1'1011"1 is 01 prostitiAtiol"t
01buse,.. who
7
for the pl.4rposes of his sexc.AOII so.tis-
fO\c tion
7
or i ntermitte..,tly rec:;(uc.es
o...,other beit'1S to &. sexc.Aod object by the
use of or other merce...,o.ry
[Jeffreys .. p.lt.]
" Pros t i t t i o t'1 01 bus e r " is o. t e r .,., she ._. s e s in t e rc 11 01 n <J e "' b I y
with "jol1n",
Jeffreys is Austro.li01n -- Qoes the worol '' h&.ve
G\ YY1>0111in9 in AtAstY01/i01 ? Here in (o.nOIQ(OI it
refers to tr01ole Money.
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* l The best book I've re01c< 01bo1At tl"01ff ick in.9
01t1c;;( sex-work is Mo.rio. A9u stln's SeX AT THE.
MARC,INS. She Yec.o9nizes th01t most tro.ffickecA people
c:;(o..,t see themselves 01s helpleH victirv1S. RE>so.rolin,9
their o(ebt - bo..,c.lo.<3e .. s he quotes o. Coll.4W"'bio....,
tY01ffickeo< il'lto SpAin:
I never co,.,siderecA it to be debt. For ,..,e it wo..s
like o. fo.votAr th01t they c;;(icA for me.
[ A<3tAStin., p. 3lt.]
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<-Jt- l A,.,c;(rew Rosetto.., review of .SEX TRAFFICKING..,
ecCiteO. by SiclcAh01rth l-<01ro. ., SPREAD> Fotll Z009_. p. 59.
The sto.tistic comes from K01r01> wi-Jo sees
prostittAtiol'l ets 01 form of exploit01tion.
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*'*' The s how WOIS SOtANDS LikE CANADA_, hosted by
S \1el019h Ro9ers. The interview were 8enjo.min
Perrin 01no< De tee ti ve uoi"'G(OI'\ Me I loc. n.
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* I 1'1"1'1 StAre ti1At ;,., I'YIOSt w01ys tl-'le licenc.ec.{ pros-
of C\re si mil()lrly COI'\trollec4. ..,ow_. blAt ;..,
01 time w"'e.., o.l rY1oSt everyo.-,e l-10\s C4 cell-pho..,e I woncCer
if telepho11e use ; .., t"'e brothels is restric.te"
the wo.y it w01s ;..., the
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Then c01me the H101t mat.rked
[ PieYre] Tr"'cA.e01u's pc...tblic emer9e,.,c.e o.s the [ ... 1
c&.-.C4risw.at.tic. fi<JtAre th01t 01 C01n01do.
seeki.-,g. E01rly in Dece..,ber [ 1967] -- o..,ly c:Lo.ys
01fter [ (01n01c<i01"1 Prime Ministel"'] lester
h01o( format.lly nis 0\t IOist --
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broLA9nt before the Hov.se of o.
c;4ivorce reform bill o,nc;( sever"'! CArne..,c;A.-nenf"S to
the Crimll"'"'l (ooe liber-odizi..,9 l"'ws on abortion
homosexCAcdity. This over..,Ot.v.l of le9iS-
lo.tion ho.O. bee,., wo.y ;.., the
De po.r't>'Y1eYit for ye"'rs. !)tAt' TrtAdeav. mcu:ie the
c.n01.119es his own by telli,.,g the tefevisio.-.
c: 01. wt e n:ll. s o v. t s; c;( e the H o v. s e '' l J.t e. s to. t e h 01. s .., o pI 01. c. e
;.., the bedroovns of the n01.tion. " Thc:lt this icAeo.
w01.s borrowed. direc.tly froWI 01.., ecAitoriod writte..,
by M01.rtin O' Mo\lley th01t week for THE GLOBE AND
MAIL we ..... t t.H1vtotic.eol. Deliver-eol by o.. Wli.,ister of
the Cr-own weo.ri..,g o. le01ther coat sportin9
o. (CAE!SDir h01.ircv.t, it h01o( o.n elec.trifyi"'9 effec.t
o., the ptAblic iW101.9ivt01tio.., , It expressed. o. wio(ely
felt need to brin9 (0\t"lrAdOI. v.p to 0.01te ;.., o. vv01y
th01.t every boc(y co&.AI& CAnc;(erS.tDII"'o(, Here wo.s 01
WlOII"' wJ,o WQS willing to oeclcue himself il'1 opposi-
tiOI'\ to the est01.blishec:A order_, o. wtOI.I'l vvho WG\S
SO\yir'l9 tho.t C"'nOI.GtQ did vtot hc.we to be o. Vic.torian
o. WIIASetA..,.., of i&eo.s.
( Clo.r-kso.,_, pp. 101, 108.]
w01.s the.., the rni.,ister of jtAStic.e. This is
wl-10\t ..,e 0\<. ttADIIIy SOI.io to the 01bove tele-
vision co-...,..,ero.s Dece...,ber 21st 1961.:
To-.ke thi..,9 on I thi11k the
view we t01.ke here is th01t there's ..,o platc.e for- the
st.o.te ;., the of the t'lOitiot'l. I thi11k ithOtt'
vvho.ts do..,e ;,., privo.te betwee.., does.., ' 't
c:o..,ce,..., the Cril'l'1il'1011 Code. Whe.., it be(omes pLAblic
t h i s ; s 01. c::{ ; f f e r e..., t .,., o. t t e r., or w h e .., it r e I 01 te s to
...,;.,ors this is .o. olifferent l'l'10ttter.
[ p. 199.]
He becO\vne ti-le pri.,.,e ...,;..,;ster in 1968.
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* ) I hi9hly Cro.ot e>.l..4tobio-
grc..phic0\l novels EXCREMENT (Charnel HotAse_, 1988) "'"'Gt
PUTRID SCtAM ( CJ,o.rnel 1991 ).
they're both OtAt of prif'lt_, bc.-tt peri-1ap.s yoi.A COtY\ finoC
copies.
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