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Love, Marriage and Family

Author Unknown

Where in the world, are the Muslim youth getting their ideals about love, marriage and
family? Are we turning to the Qur'ân and the Sunnah of the Prophet SallAllâhu 'alayhi wa
sallam?
Unfortunately, we do not.

In the Indian subcontinent, we're turning to Indian films; In America and possibly the rest
of the world, we're turning to Hollywood.
Mumbai, a famous mainstream Indian film, features a Muslim girl who falls in love and
ultimately marries a Hindu boy. At the beginning of the film, she is shown in niqab [veil].
After her family refuses to allow their marriage, the girl runs away and does not speak to
them for six years. At the end her parents come to her and all are happy.

Hollywood, one of the largest influences in the world, plays a huge role in the formation
of concepts about love, marriage, and family. These films portray men and women who
are 'in love.' And yet, often times the individual they 'love' will be someone they just saw
or spoke to briefly. Suddenly, however they are willing to lose their spouse, their family,
their job, their life, and even their Lord. It is, therefore, more correct to say that they
make these sacrifices because their desires have become their god. Allâh speaks of these
people when He says:

Have you seen the one who takes as his god his own vain desire? Allâh knowing [him as
such] has left him astray, and sealed his hearing and his heart (and understanding), and
put a cover on his sight. Who, then, will guide him after Allâh (has withdrawn guidance)?
Will ye not then receive admonition?” (45:23)

But yet these very same people that Allâh has described in His book as most astray have
become our example and ideal. In 1998, Titanic, grossing more than 1 billion dollars in
sales worldwide, became the most popular movie across the globe. The story features a
young girl of age 17 who is engaged to be married. After meeting and ultimately falling
in love with another man, the young girl cheats on her fiancé and disobeys her mother.
Both the mother and the fiancé are shown as superficial in order to make her disloyalty
more acceptable.

The messages of these films are very penetrating. The most powerful message is: if you
sacrifice for 'love', all will be well in the end. In other words, if you disregard your
religion, your family, your God, following only your desires, you will be rewarded in the
end.

If we look to America, we can see the clear effects of these misshapen concepts. 'Why has
divorce reached the unprecedented rate of 40-60%?
The answer lies in the misconstrued definition of what true love and marriage actually is.
These movies feature the wedding as the end of the movie, and thus marriage is seen as
the end of a love story, rather than the beginning.

Does Piety Matter?

What effect does this have on our society, on our youth in particular, who are the victims
of these misconstrued ideals. What is the basis of the "love" portrayed in these movies?
What criterion will young Muslims affected by these images use when choosing a
spouse? Will they follow the Sunnah of the Prophet Sallallalhu 'alayhi wa sallam, who
says the one who marries for Dîn [religion and conduct] is blessed?
Or, will they base their choice on an empty, fleeting attraction disguised as “love"? If the
youth begin to choose their spouses based on this ephemeral emotion rather than on Dîn,
what effect will that have on the Ummah as a whole? Will not more families be broken
due to divorce and strife? Will more youth not be forced to cut ties with their families
(assuming they do not agree)?

Thus, we should be aware and guard ourselves and our children from this deceptive tool
of Satan. Allâh describes those people who only follow their desires numerous times
throughout the Qur'ân. Let us not be among those who Allâh describes as most astray and
let those not become our ideals.

"Who is more astray than one who follows his own lusts, devoid of guidance from Allâh?
For Allâh guides not people given to wrongdoing" [28: 50]

Source: http://www.masjidulmuttaqeen.org/article_056.html

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