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CONTENTS
Candlelighting: Friday, May 23, 7:56 p.m.
Shabbat ends: Saturday, May 24, 9:03 p.m.
Worlds oldest man lives on
Upper West Side, eats matzah balls
Alexander Imich has held
the title of the worlds oldest
man for the past month.
It is a dangerous claim
to fame; his predecessor,
Arturo Licata of Italy, held
the position for only a little
more than seven months
before dying eight days be-
fore what would have been his 112th
birthday.
Mr. Imich, however, who turned 111
on February 4, has survived danger-
ous situations before.
As a 15 year old in Poland, he
drove trucks for the army in the fight
against the Bolsheviks in 1918.
After earning a PhD in zoology in
Krakow in 1929, he couldnt find a job
because of anti-semitism so he
switched to chemistry.
His first wife ran off with another
man so he married a friend of hers,
Wela.
During World War II,
he and Wela fled to So-
viet Biaystok. He found
work as a chemist, but
he and Wela refused
Soviet citizenship, so
they were deported to a
labor camp.
In 1951, they immigrat-
ed to the United States.
He worked as a chem-
ist and she as a psy-
chotherapist. When she
died in 1986, he moved
into her office suite on
the Upper West Side,
near Fairway.
In 1992, he published
an anthology, Incred-
ible Tales of the Paranormal:
Documented Accounts of
Poltergeist, Levitations, Phan-
toms, and Other Phenomena.
He told the New York Times
that his interest dates back to
his 20s, when he was fasci-
nated with a Polish medium
whose sances reportedly
called up the dead.
His father lived till his 90s, and in
one interview he credited good genes
for his longevity.
But in another interview, he cred-
ited not having children, not drinking
alcohol, quitting smoking, playing
many sports, and a diet inspired by
Eastern mystics who disdain food.
His diet reportedly includes mat-
zah balls, gefilte fish, chicken noodle
soup, Ritz crackers, scrambled eggs,
chocolate, and ice cream.
LARRY YUDELSON
Israeli mikvahs going solar
Deputy Religious Services Minister Eli
Ben-Dahan wants Israels mikvahs to be
greener and cleaner at least when it
comes to energy use.
Rabbi Ben-Dahan has instructed the
countrys state-funded religious councils
to switch to solar energy to heat their
mikvahs, in order to reduce pollution
and energy costs. In the overcast winter
months, mikvah facilities will use a back-
up system of gas-powered heating.
The objective is to make religious
services more innovative and more invit-
ing, Rabbi Ben-Dahan said. Even in
terms of environmental protection, we
aim to prevent pollution and to reduce
the expenses so that we can redirect the
funds to adding additional new services
and expanding the basket of services
available to every citizen. JNS.ORG
Phony Mandela interpreter
mock-signs for Israeli ad campaign
Genius move or tasteless
advertising campaign?
The jury (social media)
is debating the audience-
grabbing move Israeli start-
up LiveLens has served up
by hiring disgraced phony
sign-language interpreter
Thamsanqa Jantjie for a
new ad campaign.
Users on Facebook and
comment platforms are
trading barbs over whether
the mentally ill South Afri-
can imposter from Nelson
Mandelas memorial service should
have been cast in the commercial for
live video streaming.
We decided that the guy who had
the worst live show ever would be the
best person, LiveLens CEO Max Blu-
vband told NBC News while justifying
the decision.
LiveLens is promoting a new app
that lets users click a button and
instantly share a streaming video on
Facebook.
The company hired a Zulu-speak-
ing journalist to visit Jantjie in the
psychiatric hospital at which hes
incarcerated and got him released for
one day to shoot the marketing cam-
paign. Reports say the ad was shot in
just a few hours.
In the ad, Jantjie pokes fun at him-
self for not really knowing how to
sign, apologizes to the world for the
embarrassment, and then reminds
viewers that the most interesting
things happen live.
We saw him with our own eyes;
hes a normal guy, Sefi Shaked,
LiveLens marketing manager, has
been quoted as saying in many re-
ports. Now he can have the closure
and earn some money from it. Its
morally right. We see it as sort of a
sad story with a happy ending.
The National Association of the
Deaf in the United States didnt quite
agree. The group issued a statement
saying it expresses outrage and
disappointment that any company
would think it appropriate to hire and
portray any individual who has be-
come synonymous with mockery of
sign-language interpreting based on
his extremely offensive actions at the
funeral of Nelson Mandela.
Comments on social media sites
show mixed reactions. Some people
are very happy to see Jantjie getting
a second chance. Others are utterly
confused by the move and are siding
with NAD.
LiveLens, meanwhile, says it is sur-
prised by the feedback.
We never thought our video ad
would gather so much interest from
people, the company posted on its
Facebook page. There is absolutely
no disrespect meant at deaf people
or anyone! The interpreter was star-
ring before on SNL, Jay Leno and
others. Its also ok to give people a
2nd chance. Thamsanqa is mentally
ill and admitted several times he
made a mistake that day. Should he
be banned for life? Please share your
thoughts.
You can judge for yourself by
searching for Livelens on YouTube.
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Jantjie interpreting for President Obama at
Mandelas funeral.
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In 2003, the press
was full of reports that
Michael and his wife,
actress Catherine Zeta-
Jones, were flying to
Wales, her homeland,
to have their young son
and daughter baptized
at a charming Roman
Catholic chapel. A raft of
celebs was supposed to
attend. This event was
called off mysteriously at
the last minute.
I was, frankly, sur-
prised, when the New
York Post reported on
May 8 that Michael told
guests at a party cel-
ebrating a new book by
his friend, producer JER-
RY BRUCKHEIMER, that
he injured his leg the pre-
vious week while danc-
ing at the bar mitzvah of
his son, DYLAN, 13.
Clearly, there is a fam-
ily story here how
Dylan came to become
bar mitzvah. But I dont
know it. Still, I would bet
big money that Dylans
Jewish grandfather
is schepping nachas.
By the way, Michael
Douglas and Catherine
Zeta-Jones, who pub-
licly announced a trial
separation last summer,
are now officially back
together.
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Adam Sandler
WILL THEY BLEND?
Adam and Drew
pair up again
Kirk Douglas
Simon Kinberg Bryan Singer
My opinion: ADAM
SANDLER, now
47, made a couple
of crude but still re-
ally funny comedies at
the start of his career,
like The Waterboy
(1998). He also made a
few dramas (like Span-
glish) with very good
directors intelligent
films, but they didnt
quite work. But I agree
with critics that almost
all his comedies since
1998 have been crude,
with few funny moments
(even though many were
box office smashes). The
exceptions are the two
charming films he made
with Drew Barrymore
The Wedding Singer
and 50 First Dates.
The pair has chemistry.
So, heres hoping that
Blended doesnt end
this streak. Adam and
Drew play single parents
who go on a bad blind
date, but by coincidence
later end up sharing a
suite at an African resort
for a week.
By the way, Barrymore,
39, and her husband, art
consultant WILL KOPEL-
MAN, 35, who wed in a
Jewish ceremony in 2012,
had their second child,
FRANCES BARRYMORE
KOPELMAN, last month.
(Their daughter OLIVE
was born in September
2012.) On the down side,
Barrymore recently told
an interviewer that she
had decided that conver-
sion to Judaism was a
bigger undertaking than
she previously thought
and she wasnt convert-
ing. Just before her wed-
ding, she told a couple
of reporters that she was
seriously interested in
converting.
The Marvel comic se-
ries X-Men has become
a mega-profitable movie
franchise. X-Men: Days
of Future Past is the
seventh X-Man film since
the series began in 2000.
It is billed as the ultimate
X-Men ensemble in that
the characters from the
first movies join those in
later flicks. One con-
stant is Hugh Jackman
as Logan/Wolverine. The
script is co-written by
SIMON KINBERG, 40,
and BRYAN SINGER, 48,
directs.
Acting legend
KIRK DOUGLAS,
now 97, became
an observant Jew in 1991.
He celebrated his sec-
ond bar mitzvah in 1999,
when he was 83. In 2012,
13 years later, he had his
third bar mitzvah.
However, his most
famous son, MICHAEL
DOUGLAS, 69, while
respectful of his fathers
faith, always has made
it clear that he was
half Jewish and firmly
secular. (To his credit,
Michael has participated
in a number of Jewish
cultural things, like nar-
rating several documen-
HBO tackles
Normal Heart
On Sunday, HBO is presenting a new ilm version
of The Normal Heart, the 1985 Tony-award winning
largely autobiographical play by LARRY KRAMER,
now 78. The main character based on Kramer is Ned
Weeks, a Jewish writer who struggles, during the early
days of the AIDS crisis, to put together an organization
that will combat the indifference of the government and
even some gay leaders to the growing HIV/AIDS crisis.
Mark Ruffalo plays Weeks, with Julia Roberts and Jim Par-
sons playing other big parts.
TV Guide recently declared their love (their word)
for Wendi McLendon-Covey, the actress who plays the
mom/wife on the ABC series The Goldbergs. Why do
they love her? Because: She spins one of the mustiest
clichs the overbearing Jewish mother into some-
thing fresh and revelatory. I ind this interesting in that
an entire season of the series has been shown, and so far
as I know I might have missed something the Gold-
berg family never has been identiied as explicitly Jewish.
The whole show seems like a twist on the usual pattern,
in which characters seem very Jewish, but are never
identiied, flat-out, as Jewish. We now have a show about
a family with a very Jewish name but no Jewish con-
tent. TV continues to drive Jewish viewers crazy.
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I expected everything in Amer-
ica to be big, but not that big, said
Yuval Calderone, 17, one of the 10
Israeli members of the young lead-
ership delegation that recently met
with peers in North Jersey through
the NNJ Federation-sponsored Part-
nership2Gether, a people-to-people
exchange with the northern Israeli
city of Nahariya.
The buildings and the food it
was all very big, said the awed first-
time visitor. It was so much fun, and
I got to know a new culture. You can
see the teenagers there are so much
like us they love music and hang-
ing out.
From May 2 to May 8, the young
ambassadors hosted by local fami-
lies made presentations to students
at the Gerrard Berman Day School in
Oakland, New Milford High School,
the Frisch School, the Bergen County
High School of Jewish Studies, Para-
mus High School, and the Paramus
Jewish Community Center. They
participated in Yom Hazikaron and
Yom Haatzmaut events and met with
U.N. Deputy Ambassador from Israel
David Roet, representatives from the
Israel advocacy group Stand With Us,
and community leaders.
A lot of people want to know about
Israel, and it was amazing to tell peo-
ple things they didnt know and to see
in their eyes how they are learning,
Yuval said. We need to protect our
country by telling the world what it
really is about.
The Young Leadership program
identifies budding teen leaders on
both sides of the ocean, grooms them
through a course (in North Jersey, it
is held at BCHSJS in Paramus), and
enables them to get acquainted via Face-
book, Skype and other means. This is the
second year that 10 of the 30 Israelis and
10 of the 20 Americans in the program
are visiting each other in person. The
New Jersey residents will go to Nahariya
in December.
Despite the expense, We felt it was a
priority, because the future of the Amer-
ican-Israeli relationship in the Jewish
community depends on really getting
to know each other as people, Martha
Cohen, northern New Jerseys P2Gether
chair, said.
That has to start from the high school
stage, if not before. A lot of people cant
afford to travel internationally, so we
wanted to make sure our kids in Naha-
riya and North Jersey have the opportu-
nity to connect socially and through the
dynamic of education. We always have
a Shabbaton for the kids to have con-
centrated time together and get a sense
of knowing each other from all angles,
because that will cement their future
relationship.
In addition to school presentations,
the Israelis participated in a program at
the J-ADD home in Leonia for adults with
developmental disabilities, and they gar-
dened at the home of a Westwood Holo-
caust survivor through the federations
Bonim program. They had time to shop
at Garden State Plaza and the Bergen
Town Center, and they explored Times
Square and Rockefeller Center with their
new friends.
The visit was successful in every
which way, said BCHSJSs principal, Bess
Adler. It is particularly impactful for the
Americans to make connections with the
Israelis, and that is our overarching goal
because few of our kids have personal
connections to Israel. The news is all
about bashing Israel left and right, and
its difficult for our kids to see Israel as
anything but an aggressor. This program
has enabled us to put a face on Israel.
Susan Penn, head of the federations
Community Task Force, said the meeting
with New Milford High School history
students none of them Jewish was
especially memorable.
This was the first time these stu-
dents had ever met teens from Israel,
and their questions were remark-
able, she said. They wanted to
know about the army and how long
they serve and how they prepare,
and whether they get paid. The Israe-
lis were quite articulate and passion-
ate about how excited they were to
serve their country. You could tell
this was something the Americans
didnt expect to hear. They could not
believe that these teens view serving
their country as a highlight of their
lives.
Yuval noticed that in this respect,
the gulf between Israeli and Ameri-
can teenagers is wide. His impression
is that Israelis mature earlier because
they face compulsory military service
at 18, while Americans get to be kids
much longer. And U.S. teens, particu-
larly in the suburban Northeast, tend
to have little understanding of mili-
tary matters.
People dont know much about
the army that you can be many
other things, such as a mechanic or a
driver or social worker, and not just a
fighter, he said.
Ms. Cohen said the tables will be
turned when the young leadership
ambassadors from New Jersey are
hosted in Nahariya. When our kids
go there, they bring a new dimension
to the Israeli understanding of who
American Jews are, she said.
Gali Avraham, 17, said she is looking
forward to seeing her new American
friends again. We have already been
in touch a few times since we left, and
Im waiting to see them in December.
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Letter from Israel: Memorial Day
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN
I usually speak with my son in New York
on Friday mornings, so when his number
popped up on caller ID a
couple of Sundays ago, I
felt a flutter of anxiety
until I heard him wishing
me a happy Mothers Day.
Mothers Day? Oh, right.
Living in Israel for nearly
seven years, my awareness
of Hallmark holidays has
faded almost as much as
the Mothers Day artworks
my children brought home
from Moriah eons ago though I did hang
these sentimental treasures in our house
in Maaleh Adumim.
While some secular holidays are gain-
ing popularity in Israel especially Valen-
tines Day, which is strange since we have
our own Jewish version on Tu BAv every
summer the only one that most Ameri-
can olim seem to hang onto for eternity
is Thanksgiving. In December, unless you
happen to be in Haifa, the Christian Quar-
ter of Jerusalem, or Nazareth, youd forget
there is such a thing as Christmas.
Labor Day, Columbus Day, Presidents
Day all those Monday holidays are off
my radar until I try reaching Americans at
work on those days.
We have our own Inde-
pendence Day in Israel
complete with ceremonies,
fireworks, and cookouts
and I get much more emo-
tional about it than I ever
did on July Fourth, even
though I was raised to be
a proud American and can
sing every number from
1776 by heart.
Nevertheless, we and
our children always greatly anticipated
U.S. Independence Day. We lived near
Queen Anne Road in Teaneck, where the
annual parade passes by. Schmoozing with
neighbors on the sidewalk that morning
was a highlight of the year, and the pic-
tures we snapped marked the growth of
our progeny from one July to the next.
A couple of times, our sons marched
down Queen Anne Road as Cub Scouts.
My husband, a Teaneck Volunteer Ambu-
lance Corps member, drove an ambulance
in the procession. It was plain goofy fun to
watch the stilt-walking Uncle Sam or catch
a candy tossed by a politician. By the end
of the parade, our faces were tired from
grinning and our arms ached from waving.
I really do miss that experience.
Memorial Day (or as my grandmother
used to call it, Decoration Day) is not noted
on my Israeli desk calendar, of course, but
it is more meaningful to me these days.
The idea of pausing to reflect on the fallen
soldiers who sacrificed their young lives
so that I might enjoy peaceful freedom is
a good and universal value.
The musical 1776 focuses on members of the Continental Congress as they
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No school like home
Conference taking place in Englewood for those outside the mainstream
LARRY YUDELSON
Y
ael Aldrich of Indianapolis irst
started thinking of home school-
ing when her irst child was
about 3 years old.
The advantages were obvious to her:
More time with her child. More control over
the curriculum.
Then, when her oldest, Gavriel Tzvi, was
6, the family went to Japan for a year, where
her husband, Daniel, now a professor of
political science at Purdue University in
Indiana, was a visiting professor.
Japanese public schools werent attrac-
tive. They are very conformist and bul-
lying is part of the environment, Ms.
Aldrich said. And we nixed the interna-
tional schools, because the days are long
and tuition is about $25,000 a year.
So she researched home schooling a lit-
tle, found that it was possible, and took a
bunch of schoolbooks to Japan, where she
put her career as a fundraiser for a Jewish
organization on hold to home school her
children.
That year went smoothly, and when the
family returned to the United States and
moved to Indiana, they decided to continue.
Now, theyre in their sixth year of home
schooling. Gavriel Tzvi will become bar
mitzvah this summer, and his 10-year-old
brother, Yaakov, and 7-year-old sister, Yehu-
dis, are being home schooled as well. (Their
4-year-old brother, Dov Ber, is at home
with them, but is not yet receiving formal
education.)
And Ms. Aldrich has become a leader in
the Jewish home schooling community,
coordinating the ifth annual Torah Home
Schooling Conference, taking place Sunday
at the Moriah School in Englewood.
Topics to be addressed range from pro-
viding a preschool education to getting
home-schooled children into college.
The conference is for people who have
been doing it for years and want a shot in
the arm, she said, and for people who
have a child who is three years old and want
to learn more.
For the veterans, it provides a chance to
look at curricula and to gain community
for what can be a lonely enterprise.
It is an enterprise that is not without some
stigma in the Orthodox community.
(In a possible sign of a reluctance to go
public as a home schooler, one Bergen
County home-schooling parent whom Ms.
Aldrich had identiied as likely to talk to the
Jewish Standard declined.)
Perhaps its not a surprise that its
controversial.
The Orthodox Jewish community has
invested a great deal in its educational
system.
Home school parents sometimes have a
very hard time dealing with the peer pres-
sure to put their kids in school, Ms. Aldrich
said. Youre swimming against a tide, that
99.9 percent of the people in your syna-
gogue are sending their kids to some day
school, and because youre not, youre out
of the loop for a lot of things. People think
they may be ostracized or viliied for some
people thats a reason not to home school.
She knows families who have moved to
Baltimore for its more friendly attitude.
She estimates there are 70 or 80 Orthodox
home schooling families there.
And she has heard horror stories about
people shunned in their synagogues. Its
hard in a one-synagogue community, if peo-
ple think youre off your rocker and doing
a disservice to the Jewish community, she
said.
According to the Department of Educa-
tion, in 2012 there were about 1.7 million
students being home schooled in the United
States, representing about 3.4 percent of the
school-aged population.
Ms. Aldrich estimates that there are prob-
ably two or three thousand Jewish home-
schooling families in America. In the irst
ive years after the Yahoo list she helps run
for Jewish homeschoolers was created, 300
families joined it. Last year, another 125
signed up.
Earlier Jewish home-schooling confer-
ences have attracted between 100 to 120
people.
This one, so far, has fewer. Its the irst not
being held in Baltimore, and she wonders
whether New Jersey and New York may be
less hospitable.
You guys have a lot of educational
choices, she said. Possibly theres a larger
amount of conformity. When youre out-of-
town meaning not in the New York met-
ropolitan area youre already a little bit
weird, so why not home school?
Fortunately, her children arent
ostracized.
They have friends in the day school, she
said. They play after school and on Sunday
and Shabbos. On Shabbos, our house is one
of the fun places to be. Its packed with kids
after lunch.
Her children are able to make friends in
extracurricular activities they might not
have time to pursue were they to attend a
day school.
My oldest son is just shy of a black belt in
kendo, Japanese fencing. Hes probably the
highest ranking non-Japanese child in the
sport in the U.S. Hes able to do that because
he can stay up to 10 oclock several nights a
week, and able to have lessons during the
school day. I can always rearrange school to
it schedules.
Theres flexibility to days off in the mid-
dle of the week, to stay up late, to sleep in,
to rearrange our children.
Another reason for home schooling is we
want our children to be a team. We call our-
selves Team Aldrich. When a family sends
their kids to an educational institution, they
dont see the kids so often. A lot of my non-
home schooling friends complain that they
wish they had more influence on their kids.
We continue to have influence on our kids.
There are online courses for home-
schooled students, and now there are some
programs with Jewish content, but Ms.
Aldrich is opposed to her children having
too much screen time.
For secular studies, I dont use comput-
ers for any of the education. I adhere to a
Torah Home Schooling Conference
When: Sunday, May 25,
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Where: The Moriah School, 53 S.
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Interfaith panel examines moral issues in Franklin Lake shul
JOANNE PALMER
A lie is a lie, right?
Its black and white, isnt it?
And in that case, there should be no
difference between the way different
faith groups define or allow lies. Its all
bad, no?
Of course, if it were that easy, there
would be no reason for Rabbi Joseph
Prouser of Temple Emanuel of North
Jersey to host the panel he has planned
for Tuesday night at the shul in Franklin
Lakes. And there certainly would be no
reason to include representatives of four
religious groups Jewish, Roman Cath-
olic, Russian Orthodox, and Mormon.
(Although the three last groups all are
Christian, the differences in doctrine and
practice between them are huge.)
To moor what could be an extremely
abstract conversation to American real-
ity, the panel, formally called How Much
Truth Is Enough? is anchored firmly
to American history. It is part of a new
series Rabbi Prouser is calling Moral Lit-
eracy, and coincides with the 40th anni-
versary of Watergate, the scandal based
around a so-called third-rate burglary
where the president and his men meted
out melded bits of truth and lies in a
strategy they called a modified limited
hangout.
We have been 40 years in the wilder-
ness, and now we are ready to examine
these issues, he said. Although he is not
sure exactly where the discussion will go,
Im sure that WikiLeaks will be promi-
nent among the subjects we discuss, he
said. How much truth does the govern-
ment really owe its people? Panelists
will look at medical issues. And of course
well delve into personal relationships. In
our own daily relationships, what are the
parameters of truth and honesty?
I will ask the panelists to draw a dis-
tinction between honesty and integrity,
he said. He has given them a chapter from
a book by Steve Carter called Integrity.
Carter writes that sometimes having
integrity in your relationship requires a
modification of truth in the most literal
sense. Sometimes you have to part from
raw honesty to develop integrity in a
relationship. That analysis of human
behavior will be included in the evenings
debate.
He is interested in the panel, Rabbi
Prouser continued, because examining
current pressing moral issues through a
religious lens really emphasizes the rel-
evance that our religious tradition has
in the lives of contemporary Jews. And
why the extra fillip of interfaith vantage
points? First, he has a personal rela-
tionship with each of the panelists, and
knows each one to be not only learned
but also smart and interesting. And I
think that when Jewish tradition enters
the marketplace of ideas, we come out
of it with a stronger appreciation and
respect for its perspective.
I dont think anyone will come out of
a panel discussion discredited, he added
quickly. But I think that in examining
the moral tradition that our faith offers,
we can only strengthen our understand-
ing by entering into discussion with other
faiths.
Archpriest Eric G. Tosi of Syosset, N.Y.,
an U.S. Army veteran and the secretary
of the Orthodox church in America, now
lives in Syosset, but grew up in Passaic.
He is his churchs chief administrative
officer.
His church, he said, is heir to the
Russian Orthodox church, and it came
to this country in 1794 through Alaska,
which at that point belonged to Russia.
When Alaska became part of the United
States, the churchs headquarters moved
down to more accessible and comfort-
able San Francisco, making it one of the
only churches to come east through the
West Coast, Father Eric said. Its ranks
were augmented by the massive waves
of immigration from eastern Europe; we
are familiar with the Jews who made up
much of those waves, but others who
crossed the same seas at the same time
were Eastern Rite Christian and found
their way to the Orthodox church in
America.
There are 14 different independent
ethnically based Orthodox churches in
America, he added; each has its own
structure, but they share one theology.
He will look at the question of truth-
telling through an Orthodox back-
ground, which is first and foremost bib-
lically based but also patristic, Father
Eric said. Patristic means that the tradi-
tion draws heavily from the early church
fathers, he explained; the Orthodox
church shares its early fathers with the
Roman Catholic church, from which it
split in 1054.
He is planning to rely on the work of St.
John Chrysostom, who lived in the fourth
century C.E. He has a whole chapter on
lying, Father Eric said. He actually does
say that there are certain circumstances
in which lying is acceptable. It has to do
with salvation.
He says that we always should be
forthright and honest but there are
cases in which its important not to have
people fall because you are telling the
truth. There are times when a person
must be shielded from the terrible truth
of his situation, because the abject terror
and grief that would result would keep
him from saving himself and his soul.
In the Old Testament, Abraham lied
about Sarah being his sister. Jacob lied
about Esau.
But it has to be understood that it is
never clear-cut, and that when you do
it when you lie you are taking it on
yourself for the betterment of the other
person. Not surprisingly, this is a par-
ticularly Christian concept, he agreed.
He told the story of a Russian Orthodox
nun, Maria Skobtsova, otherwise known
as Mother Maria of Paris, who hid Jews in
her house and then went to her death at
Dachau to save them. You are taking on
the consequences of that lie. Its on you,
Father Eric said.
The Rev. Donald Hummel, like Father
Eric, knows Rabbi Prouser through their
work for the Boy Scouts of America. A
Roman Catholic priest, Father Hummel,
who has had a long career teaching at the
high school and college levels, and whose
subjects have ranged from social justice,
at one end of the continuum, to criminal
justice at the other, now is a chaplain and
teacher at Paramus Catholic High School.
He said that interfaith work takes a
lot of sensitivity; words are loaded with
different meanings for different groups.
The word ecumenical, for example,
comes from the Greek word for house,
and implies a certain insider-ness. Most
ecumenical groups include many Chris-
tian denominations but are confined to
the Christian world, Father Hummel said.
Truth and integrity are pretty broad
concepts, he said. There are many ways
we can approach them. Im a Roman
Catholic priest, so Im approaching them
from a Christian perspective. But each
panelists view of truth and integrity also
necessarily is filtered through his or her
own life experiences, which makes the
mix even more interesting, he said.
Joel Wiest, Toy R Uss senior vice
president for finance, also is young mans
stake president and a former stake presi-
dent and bishop for the Church of Jesus
Christ of Latter-Day Saints. He will offer
the Mormon view.
The Jewish perspective on the panel
will be presented by Dr. Ora Horn
Prouser, who is the vice president and
academic dean of the Academy for Jew-
ish Religion in Yonkers N.Y. Dr. Prouser,
who is married to Rabbi Prouser, earned
From left, the Rev. Donald Hummel, Dr. Ora Horn Prouser, Archpriest Eric Tosi, Joel Wiest, and Rabbi Joseph Prouser
In our own daily
relationships,
what are the
parameters of
truth and
honesty?
RABBI JOSEPH PROUSER
I came to
the conclusion
that lying or
deception is
successful in the
Bible when it is
used by the
weaker party.
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a doctorate in Bible from the Jewish Theological
Seminary. Her dissertation, fittingly enough, was
on the phenomenology of the lie.
Lies are fascinating, Dr. Prouser said, because it
goes beyond being an ethical issue its also a cul-
tural and narrative issue.
Biblical characters often tell lies to advance the
narrative. The prime example of that is Jacob and
Isaac; the lie that Jacob told his brother Esau is the
necessary springboard into the rest of the Bible. If he
had not told that lie, Jacobs story would have ended
almost before it began. Why was lying comfortable
for them? Why do those elements appear with no
apparent disapproval? The Bibles legal sections
specify that lying is unacceptable, she added, and so
does the wisdom literature, but the stories do not.
Characters in the Bible do not lie often, she added;
thats why their lies are taken seriously. They are
rare and therefore unexpected.
I came to the conclusion that lying or deception is
successful in the Bible when it is used by the weaker
party, she said. It is very much a tool of the weak.
It is not successful when it is used by the stronger
party. Jacob can fool Esau; Abraham can tell Pha-
raoh that Sarah is his sister, not his wife, and that
will keep them safe.
The metaphor is clear.
Despite our deep-seated if irrational view of our
people and the land of Israel as being important
being central, in fact, to human history in fact,
Israel has always been tiny, Dr. Prouser said, and
there never have been many of us, either as Israelites
or more recently as Jews. Here they were with this
idea, the covenant, the blessing, yet they were noth-
ing. So a constant motif is the idea that things are not
always as they appear.
The one who looks small actually is great. The
one who looks weak is powerful but not powerful
in an obvious way.
The exile in Babylonia had no land, no Temple,
and here they are, still saying that theyre the chosen
ones. How do you get away with that? It is because
things are not always as they appear.
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Tips for fighting campus anti-Israel activity
Local groups combine to give advice for college students and parents
BESS ADLER
If you have been paying attention to the
news lately, you know that anti-Israel sen-
timent and activity on college campuses is
growing. Many of these hate-based initia-
tives pass the 3D anti-Semitism litmus
test developed by Nathan Sharansky and
adopted by the U.S. State Department.
They are the new face of anti-Semitism our
teens must be prepared to counter as they
head off to college.
For example, mock eviction notices
were slipped under some colleges dorm
room doors by pro-Palestinian groups
who say that forced evictions are part of
Israels apartheid policies ... to cleanse
the region of its Arab population. Lie-
filled Israeli Apartheid Week campaigns
have become annual campus events. The
Boycott Divestment and Sanctions move-
ment is trying to gain a foothold on cam-
pus as well, led by student groups such as
Students for Justice in Palestine as well as
by pro-Palestinian community groups and
even some high profile anti-Zionist Jews
like Max Blumenthal.
At the University of Michigan, this anti-
Israel coalition forced the Student Coun-
cil to vote on a resolution calling for the
University to divest from companies that
invest or operate businesses in Israel,
staging sit-ins and threatening council
members to influence their vote albeit
unsuccessfully.
This week, the University of California
schools were the focus of controversy,
when anti-Israel groups at UCLA tried to
get student council candidates to sign a
pledge that they wouldnt go on trips to
Israel sponsored by certain Jewish organi-
zations. And closer to home, the right-wing
Anti-Zionist Never Again for Anyone
tour made a stop at Rutgers University to
link atrocities committed at Auschwitz to
the plight of Palestinians in Gaza.
Perhaps more insidious are cases where
visiting scholars, community leaders,
and even university professors use their
lecterns to espouse anti-Israel propa-
ganda, spinning it to look like academic
research.
Unfortunately, Jewish students are
not always sure how to respond to anti-
Israel foment on campus, or even if they
should respond, and many times they feel
unequipped to speak up against the tide of
hate they encounter.
Last week, the Bergen County High
School of Jewish Studies hosted an eve-
ning program for parents and college-
bound teens in the community. The eve-
ning was a follow-up to the schools yearly
Stand Up with Israel schoolwide pro-
gram. Co-sponsored by ZOA, StandWi-
thUs, the Jewish Federation of Northern
New Jersey, and the Kaplen JCC on the
Palisades, the program was designed to
bring awareness of these troubling cam-
pus events to a wider audience, and to
teach parents and students how they can
respond. More than one hundred people
teens and adults attended.
Below are the eight scenarios StandWi-
thUs presented to the students, along with
some specific advice on how to fight back:
Encountering problems with a pro-
fessor espousing anti-Israel propaganda
is especially difficult because challenging
a professor could affect your class grade.
Among the options offered were to ask
the professor clarifying questions espe-
cially if you dont want to out yourself as
a pro-Israeli advocate or to ask the pro-
fessor respectfully to cite his or her infor-
mation sources. Or you can meet with the
professor privately after class to express
your concerns. You also can go to the
head of the department and explain that
youre hearing a very one-sided argu-
ment in class.
If there is an anti-Israel group such
as SJP that brings a hate-filled speaker to
campus, how do you counter it? Options
include attending the lecture with a group
of friends and asking questions in a polite
and non-inflammatory way; bringing in
your own pro-Israel speaker as a coun-
termeasure; promoting or helping to run
other pro-Israel events; or writing an arti-
cle in the school newspaper (or publish-
ing a blog or on social media) about the
event and its bias.
During Israel Apart-
hei d Week, a yearly
event on college cam-
puses across the country,
mock Apartheid Walls
are brought to campuses
to whip up anti-Israel sen-
timent. Suggestions to counter it include
hosting a seminar to explain how Israel
isnt an apartheid state; going directly to
the administration of the university and
complaining that the anti-Israel activists
are engaging in hate speech; handing out
sweets (or cups of SodaStream drinks)
with a fun fact about Israel; and having
a public display with positive messages
about Israel.
What do you do when your student
government tries to get a university to
divest from Israel? Suggestions are to
boycott the boycott with the help of the
local Hillel house; draft a new bill to com-
bat the bill offered; and prepare and hand
out a point-by-point review of the anti-
Israel rhetoric refuting them with facts
and figures.
When the school newspaper publishes
an article about the brutality of the Jew-
ish state, or the IDF is demonized, what is
a student to do? Among the suggestions
offered were to send a letter to the editor,
write an op-ed, or bring IDF soldiers to the
campus to give lectures and put a human
face on those people who are being called
aggressors.
What do you do if one of your room-
mates comments at dinner that Israel
should return to the Green Line, and
people around the table nod and agree?
You can ask clarifying questions to the
speaker, ask where they got their infor-
mation, and also share positive, personal
stories about Israel.
When an anti-Israel group plans to
show anti-Israel films, especially if it is
sponsored by one of the schools depart-
ments, and students are given extra credit
if they attend, how do you respond? You
can host your own pro-
Israel movie night and dis-
cussion, and write to the
school newspaper about
the bias being portrayed.
A new thing on cam-
puses this year is the
open Hillel, which advo-
cates bringing in anti-Israel
speakers to campus. To
combat this phenomenon,
you can bring your friends
to the events they sponsor
and respectfully ask clari-
fying questions (see the
second entry); maintain
your own pro-Israel groups
(or create one if none cur-
rently exist on campus);
talk to the leadership in
your community and craft a support state-
ment to the tradition Hillel organization;
and tell Hillel that you dont support it
being an open Hillel.
While the situation certainly is upset-
ting, there are many resources to enlist
for help so you dont feel like youre fight-
ing back alone. Contact the campus Hillel
and organizations like StandWithUs (www.
standwithus.com), and the ZOA (www.zoa.
org), among others. Check out their web-
sites for materials and fact sheets, and
reach out to them for assistance to deal
with particular situations that arise on
your college campus or your childs.
Finally, as was encouraged by one of the
college students speaking at our event,
Jewish college-bound students should
make sure they know the history and facts
of the Israeli-Palestinian peace talks and
conflicts. This way they can zoom out to
provide compelling arguments and con-
text when Israels detractors hurl false
claims and misleading sound-bites.
Beginning next year at BCHSJS, our elec-
tive course Israel on the College Campus
will become a mandatory course for all
graduating seniors, to give them the tools
and confidence to fight back against anti-
Israel/anti-Semitism on campus.
Bess Adler is the principal of the Bergen
County High School of Jewish Studies.
At Fight Back, Jake Binstein, a graduating senior at Rutgers Univer-
sity, Jake Haber, a BCHSJS alumnus and freshman at the University of
Michigan, and Laura Adkins, an NYU sophomore, talked about anti-
Israel campaigns they have encountered on their own campuses.
Bess Adler is the prin-
cipal of the Bergen
County High School of
Jewish Studies.
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Young Israelis denied U.S. tourist visas;
local relatives react with disbelief
JOANNE PALMER
G
eoffrey Lewiss son is getting
married this weekend.
The South African-born Mr.
Lewis and his wife, Karen, live
in Tenafly, where his three children, Larry,
Kira, and Amy, grew up; but his family, dis-
persed by the Holocaust and freed to fol-
low opportunities where they led, sprawls
across four continents.
Because a wedding is a celebration not
only of romantic love but also of family, its
not just about the couple, but about their
roots, and about the hope for the eventual
flowering of their love into more branches
on the family tree.
That means that its also a reunion. Every-
one is invited, and everyone who can travel
makes the pilgrimage; the chuppah is sym-
bolic not only of the home the couple will
create but also of the extended family itself.
But its not so easy.
Travelers need documents to enter coun-
tries not their own. Israelis need visas to
enter the United States. Israelis who want
to come here for family celebrations need
tourist visas.
The U. S. State Department has been
denying tourist visas to Israelis particu-
larly young ones at unusually high rates.
According to the departments own figures,
the refusal rate was 9.7 percent last year; in
2007, it was 2.5 percent. In 2013, 32 percent
of 21- to 26-year-old Israelis were refused
visas. Refusal rates for would-be visitors
from other countries are not nearly as high.
The State Department has acknowledged
the problem and said it would try to fix it;
many politicians, including New York Sena-
tor Charles Schumer and Representative
Nita Lowey, are on it.
But action has not followed talk.
Mr. Lewis is livid. Three of his Israeli
nieces and nephews will not be at the wed-
ding. They were not able to get tourist visas.
There seem to be two overall prob-
lems. One is a fear that Israelis might be
spies a high number of Israeli intelli-
gence officers have been denied entry.
The other, the issue that disrupted Mr.
Lewiss relatives trip, is a fear that young
Israelis are storming in to take over all the
kiosks in all the malls from coast to coast,
Larry Lewis and Corina Platon are getting married this weekend; some Israeli cous-
ins will not be there because they could not get U.S. tourist visas. GEOFFREY LEWIS
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a Dead Sea-product-pushing invasion.
That is not true, Mr. Lewis said.
Its bizarre, he continued. Four
months before the wedding, his young
relatives applied to the Israeli embassy
in Tel Aviv for visas. I sent them copies
of the wedding invitation proof that it
will be held at the New York Botanical
Gardens, which we had printed early
just for this reason and a letter from
me, offering to put up a substantial finan-
cial bond that I was prepared to forfeit
if these three young Israelis overstayed
their visas.
They applied four times. Not only were
the visas denied the first time, they were
denied the second time, the third time,
and finally the fourth time, Mr. Lewis said.
Each time, the United States embassy was
more than happy to take the $170 per per-
son application fee.
If the United States embassy is that short
of money to cover their operating costs, ask
for donations from the public at large. Dont
ask young Israelis to pay fees for applica-
tions you are going to deny in any event.
As a result of the refusal, he continued,
Some smug manager at the United
States embassy will have the thrill of hav-
ing met a denial quota to meet his supe-
riors demands, and one family wont be
able to celebrate another chapter in the
circle of life together.
And the lack of common sense of seichel,
as he put it also angers him. Youve got 10
people from Israel traveling together for a
wedding, and then, at the end of the wed-
ding, you really think three of them are going
to slip off and work at a mall?
Dalia Sakai of Paramus had a similar
experience.
She does understand the problem, she
said. I know a lot of kids who come here
and stay here, and it isnt right, she said.
But her 21-year-old cousin was denied a visa,
and that is wrong too, she feels.
She tried twice, once this year and once
last year, Ms. Sakai said. The American
person who interviewed her looked at her
and said, Im so sorry. If you were married,
youd be able to get a visa.
I emailed a note saying that Im a teacher,
Im off for the summer, and I hoped that my
cousin could come to America and spend
time with me and my family. It didnt help.
And she does have a job, and the people
there, at her job, wrote a note saying that we
are allowing her to leave for six weeks, and
we expect her back. That didnt help either.
My daughter is turning 21 this summer.
The two of them wanted to spend time
together, do things together. I never thought
it would be a problem. I always have cous-
ins, uncles, and aunts come over all the
time. It never was a problem.
Americas doors should be open, Ms.
Sakai said.
The United States offers a visa waiver pro-
gram allowing citizens of countries accepted
into the program to enter without a tour-
ist visa. Israel is not part of the program;
there is a working group that has convened
to examine the possibility that it might be
included, but there are some problems
that must be overcome first, according to
Julia Frifeld, assistant secretary of state for
legislative affairs, the Jewish Telegraphic
Agency reported. One is the mall situation;
the other is U.S. allegations that Israel dis-
criminates against Arab-Americans in their
attempts to visit Israel.
According to Shahar Azani, the spokes-
person for Israels consulate general in New
York, We are in the process of negotiations
with the United States to include Israel in
the U.S. Visa Waiver Program. Until that
happens, Israelis are dependent on deci-
sions made by the Consular Department of
the U.S. Department of State to be issued a
visa, similar to citizens of other countries
around the world.
That is cold comfort to Mr. Lewis.
We are small fry, but this is the kind of
thing that leads people to devalue what
the government does, he said. Its not
asking the government to pay for any-
thing. It is just asking the government
to do what we pay our taxes to do and
thats to facilitate things.
Last year, he said, his older daughter mar-
ried an Israeli. The couple lives in New York,
but the wedding was in Israel. Everyone was
able to go. It was fantastic.
My younger daughter at this point has no
intention of getting married any time soon,
he continued. But when she does, Ill tell
her not to get married in this country.
Not only were
the visas denied
the rst time,
they were denied
the second time,
the third time,
and nally the
fourth time.
GEOFFREY LEWIS
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Chabad dinner set for June 1
Chabad of NWBC Frank-
lin Lakes is hosting its 14th
anniversary gala dinner
and evening of entertain-
ment. It will honor Frank-
lin Lakes residents Carol
and Bill Kurtzer and Paul
and Ronnie Beckoff-Borins.
The Sunday, June 1 dinner
at the New York Country
Club in New Hempstead,
N.Y., will include a new
Torah dedication, a cock-
tail reception, and a pro-
duction of Circumcise Me by Yisrael
Campbell, an Orthodox-convert come-
dian dubbed the Matisyahu of comedy.
Journal ads and reservations can be placed
online at www.galadinner.org or by calling
(201) 848-0449.
Ohel carnival for siblings
of special needs children
Last month, more than 100 peo-
ple attended Ohels Sibshops
carnival as part of its annual Sib
Day celebration in Brooklyn.
The carnival was for children
with disabilities, their siblings,
friends, family, and volunteers.
In two years, the Sibshop pro-
gram at Ohels Childrens Home
and Family Services has grown
throughout the New York area.
The program empowers and
enables children and teens with
siblings who have a develop-
mental disability, allowing them
to share their concerns and
feelings among their peers, develop
friendships, and just have fun.
Participants received red clown
noses and created their own paper
clown mouths. Once dressed up, they
took pictures in a photo booth and
Giggles the Clown was among those
entertaining.
Ohel Bais Ezra runs monthly sep-
arate boys and girls groups for 6- to
11-year-olds in Brooklyn and Far Rock-
away. Ohel provides supportive hous-
ing, treatment, care coordination,
education, and outreach to elevate
lives and strengthen individuals and
communities in New Jersey, New York
City, Long Island, Florida, California,
and worldwide on the web. Call (718)
686-3491 or email chayale_green-
wald@ohelfamily.org.
BPY begins chesed project
for Jewish soldiers overseas
Kindergartners at Ben Porat Yosef
embarked on a chesed project to
enhance the Shabbat experience for
Jewish-Americans in the armed forces
who are serving overseas. The children
made special items and bought oth-
ers to assemble care packages, which
included challah, grape juice, candles,
and a challah board and cover, as well
as bsamim (spices to help mark the
end of Shabbat). As part of the learning
experience, the children also met with
Beverly Wolfer-Nerenberg, the founder
of MSAWI (Major Stuart Anthony Wolfer
Institute). That organization collects and
sends care packages to Jewish soldiers in
Kuwait, Afghanistan, and Iraq. As part of
her visit, Ms. Wolfer-Nerenberg brought
uniforms and objects used by the sol-
diers for the students to explore.
Four on RTMA hockey team
play in yeshiva all-star game
Four top Jewish Educational Center, Rav
Teitz Mesivta Academy (RTMA) Thun-
der hockey players played in the Yeshiva
Hockey League All-Star game last week at
the Torah Academy of Bergen County in
Teaneck.
The game was in memory of Esther
Semmelman, the mother of TABC stu-
dent David Semmelman, to raise tzedakah
(charity) in her memory to benefit i-Shine,
a Chai Lifeline afterschool program for
children dealing with serious illness or loss
in the family. During her many years of
struggling with breast cancer, she attended
his hockey games, cheering on the team,
encouraging positive middot (good ethics)
and a sense of sportsmanship.
For the game, top players from two
yeshiva high school divisions combined to
play an East (Brooklyn and Long Island) vs.
West (New Jersey and New York City) match.
RTMA won both the JV and Varsity games.
Abe Foxman receives honorary degree
Abraham Foxman was the
keynote speaker at Suffolk
University Law Schools
commencement ceremony
on May 17 at the Citi Per-
forming Arts Center-Wang
Theatre in Bostons The-
atre District. He was also
among the universitys
honorary degree recipi-
ents. The ADL national
director told the law school
graduates to use their legal
expertise to recognize
injustice and to be coura-
geous enough to speak out
against bias.
Israeli author and lecturer
coming to shul in Teaneck
Dr. Micah Goodman of Hebrew
University will discuss The Col-
lapse of Israels Secular-Religious
Divide and the Emergence of
a New Zionist Paradigm, on
Sunday, June 1, at 8:45 p.m., at
Congregation Rinat Yisrael in
Teaneck.
Dr. Goodman, a senior fellow
at the Shalom Hartman Institute
in Jerusalem, is a leading voice in
Israel and North America on Zion-
ism, Judaism, the Bible, and a variety of
issues facing contemporary world Jewry.
He lectures overseas and at Israels lead-
ing universities and is the author of
Secrets of the Guide to the Perplexed
and The Dream of the Kuzari.
In addition, he is
the creator and direc-
tor of the Ein Prat
Academy for Lead-
ership, a transfor-
mative beit midrash
where young post-
army Israelis in their
20s from across the
religious and politi-
cal spectrum come
together to l earn
Torah, Zionism, and leadership training.
He also hosts a popular weekly show on
Israel televisions Channel 2.
The shul is located at 389 W. Engle-
wood Ave. For information, call (201)
837-2795.
Dr. Micah Goodman
Bill and Carol Kurtzer Paul and Ronnie
Beckoff-Borins
U.S. Senator Edward Markey (D-Mass.), left,
Abraham Foxman, national director of the Anti-
Defamation League, and Cedric Cromwell, Tribal
Council chair of the Mashpee Wampanoag, received
honorary degrees from Suffolk University Law
School.
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Tikkun Leil Shavuot
SHAVUOT the holiday that marks
the giving of the Torah, when the
Israelites massed at the bottom of
Mount Sinai to the sound of lightning
and the vision of thunder begins at
sundown on Tuesday, June 3. We have
inherited the tradition of Tikkun Leil
Shavuot all-night Torah study hon-
oring that anniversary. Here is a list
of synagogues, accurate as of press
time, that feature late night Torah
study that evening. (Note that tradi-
tion dictates that we eat dairy foods
on Shavuot, and cheesecake, as the
list makes clear, features heavily dur-
ing this holiday.)
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But like most of my generation, I
had no personal connection, no spe-
cific grave to visit. I am not proud to
admit that I never attended a Memorial
Day ceremony at Teanecks municipal
green, five minutes from my house.
Unfortunately, Memorial Day was much
more about sales, swimming, and bar-
becues than memorials.
Coming three weeks before U.S.
Memorial Day (at least it did this year),
Israels Memorial Yom Hazikaron is
intensely personal. Everything comes
to a halt when a siren wails for two
minutes at dusk and again in the morn-
ing throughout this little country, so
heartbreakingly soaked in the blood of
soldiers and civilians who are not at all
nameless or faceless.
In Maaleh Adumim I always walk
the five minutes to our neighborhoods
Yom Hazikaron tekes (ceremony). How
could I not honor the memory of that
neighbors father, that ones brother,
that ones teacher, uncle, wife, in-law,
cousin, best friend, or child?
This Yom Hazikaron, I emailed Dan
Mokady to say I was thinking of him.
Dan, a retired Israeli fighter pilot and
proprietor of a skydiving business and
civilian aircraft museum at Habonim
Beach south of Haifa, was only a few
years old when his father, Rafi, died in
the 1967 Six-Day War.
Dans sister made a documentary,
If You Pull North, revealing how
their father was left wounded in the
Golan Heights for several days (you
can watch a trailer with English sub-
titles at https://www.youtube.com/
watch?v=d0J4ir6iuE0). I went to the
premiere at the Jerusalem Cinemate-
que a couple of years ago with Barbara
Casden, a fellow migr from Teaneck.
I was casually acquainted with Dan and
had never met his mother or siblings,
yet I felt an instant kinship. On Yom
Hazikaron I wanted him to know his
father was not forgotten, and he appre-
ciated my note.
My heightened awareness of Yom
Hazikaron heightens my awareness
of Memorial Day in America as well.
Ive become sensitized to the idea of
national mourning for specific individ-
uals whose loss may or may not have
changed the face of history but cer-
tainly changed those they left behind.
Theres no memorial siren in Amer-
ica, but a day off from work affords an
opportunity to spend a few minutes
directing our thoughts to fallen sol-
diers, terror victims and bereaved fam-
ilies on both sides of the ocean.
Letter
FROM PAGE 7
philosophy called classical education.
Its a good old-fashioned education, of
the late 1800s and early 1900s. Its very
heavy on a very strict and simple view of
the three Rs. We do a lot of reading, a lot
of math, nothing fancy.
We dont use too many textbooks; we
try to use as many primary sources as
possible.
And in that classical mode, her oldest
two children are learning Latin (using a
self-taught home schooling curriculum
that boasts of its vibrant, rich, fun dif-
ference), in addition to Japanese and
Hebrew.
For Jewish studies, we more or less
follow what their peers would be doing in
school. My oldest does Gemara four days
a week with the rabbi in the synagogue,
and reviews with his father and myself.
The oldest two do Mishna with my hus-
band or myself. My daughter just started
Chumash this year.
As a professor with classes scheduled
only three days a week, Dr. Aldrich is avail-
able to teach his children on Tuesdays and
Thursdays.
Teaching one or two or three or even
four is easier than teaching a whole class,
Ms. Aldrich said. My oldest is in school
from about 9 to around 3 or 3:30; it com-
pares to a regular school day, but my kid
gets a lot more subjects.
It doesnt mean they sit there all day
long. They can wander off. I sometimes
have to corral children back to the table.
My children are not angels. Theyre regu-
lar children.
My youngests school day can be com-
pressed to an hour and a half. She has a lot
more time to play, read, color, play with
her dolls, all things a 7-year-old girl wants
to do, she said.
Home schooling is a Jewish tradition,
Ms. Aldrich continued. If you read the
hagiographies of the great Jewish sages,
many were taught at home by tutors or
their father or mother.
As for what it takes to be a home
schooler to be your childrens tutor
You can learn on the job. A lot of
things are self-taught or scripted. You
dont have to be an educator to teach
your children.
A lot of educators say their training
and experience in the classroom did not
prepare them in the least to home school
their children.
You have to really care about your
children and be willing to do the
research and speak to people who are
doing it, she said.
Home schooling
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Bergeneld, Congregation Ohr Ha
Torah (Orthodox)
When: Begins midnight and ends at
Shacharit the next morning
What: Five classes throughout
the night taught by Rabbi Zvi
Sobolofsky; independent learning
available.
Refreshments.
Emerson, Congregation Bnai Israel
(Conservative)
When: 7:30 p.m.
What: Rabbi Debra Orenstein
invites the synagogue community,
as well as friends from local area
shuls and churches, to an interfaith
learning session and conversation
about Shavuot.
Topics: Questions under
consideration include Can
revelation or theophany be
deliberately cultivated? and How
can one hear from and experience
the Divine and the Holy on Shavuot
and every day?
Refreshments: Dairy desserts,
including cheesecake.
Franklin Lakes, Barnert Temple
(Reform)
When: 10 p.m. to midnight
What: Midnight at the Oasis,
a Shavuot study session, taught
by Rabbi Elyse Frishman. Yizkor
service to follow at 7:30 the next
morning.
Refreshment: Cheesecake and
more
Ridgewood, Temple Israel and JCC
(Conservative)
When: 8 p.m.
What: Erev Shavuot evening
services will be followed by a late-
night marathon study session, led
by Rabbi David J. Fine, focusing on
the laws about the Torah scroll.
Refreshments: Cheesecake and
coffee.
River Edge, Temple Avodat Shalom
(Reform)
Sparks from Sinai is a joint
learning session sponsored by
Temple Avodat Shalom of River
Edge, Temple Israel of Cliffside
Park, Temple Emeth of Teaneck,
Temple Beth El of Closter, Temple
Sinai of Tenafly, and Temple Beth Or
of Washington Township.
When: 9 p.m. until after midnight;
Shavuot morning service at 10 a.m.
on Wednesday.
What: Leaders and members of
the participating congregations
will share brief presentations on a
variety of edgy and controversial
topics, grounded in text from
Torah and Jewish tradition. Each
hour will feature four or five
different presentations, and then
an opportunity for the audience to
comment and ask questions of the
presenters.
Topics: Some lecture titles include:
Its all about me - how coveting
has become the communal sin
of the 21st century, What does
it mean to see the human being
in one another, How Jewish
are the concepts of giving back
and coexistence? and Should
worshipping at the Wall in
Jerusalem be considered a form of
idolatry?
Refreshments: Cheesecake
Teaneck, Jewish Center of Teaneck
(Orthodox)
When: 9:30 pm
What: Rabbi Lawrence Zierler
will lead a disuccsion of the first
commandment, examining God
in history and the concept of a
personal God.
Refreshments: The talk will be
preceded by a gourmet meal and
cheesecake dessert. Cost: $25 per
person. RSVP no later than May 27.
(201) 833-0515, ext. 200.
Tenay, Lubavitch on the Palisades
(Chabad)
When: 10:30p.m 1 a.m,
1 a.m. 4 a.m.
Topics: Discover The Ethics of
Insider Trading and The Ethics of
CEO Compensation based on
Maimonides and Jewish law, and
study the 613 Mitzvot with Rabbi
Mordechai Shain.
Refreshments: Cheesecake and ice
cream
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KEEPING THE FAITH
Lest we forget
to remember
E
arlier this month, on May 17, the United
States marked the 60th anniversary of the his-
toric decision by the U.S. Supreme Court, in
Oliver Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka,
Kans., that declared separate educational facilities [to be]
inherently unequal, and therefore unconstitutional.
That decision kick-started a half-century-old but as yet
moribund national movement that led to the Civil Rights
Act of 1964. The act, whose 50th anniversary will be cel-
ebrated on July 2, did not end racial segregation and other
forms of discrimination against minorities in this country
entirely, but it was a major step forward.
Jews and blacks both tend to forget that we once
marched side by side in that struggle for equality not just
because it was the correct course to take, a good enough
reason by itself, but because we were among those most
discriminated against.
From 1776 to this very day,
the battle has raged to make
this a Christian nation, and
if at all possible, to make it a
white Christian nation.
In the republics earliest
days, states adopted all kinds
of laws to exclude non-Chris-
tians, not just non-whites.
For example, in 1808, a Jew,
Jacob Henry, won a seat in
the North Carolina House of
Commons. When he tried
to take that seat at the beginning of 1809, he was told he
could not because North Carolina law required all office-
holders to believe in the Christian Bible.
Are you prepared to plunge at once from sublime
heights of moral legislation into the dark and gloomy cav-
erns of superstitious ignorance? Mr. Henry asked the
House of Commons the day it refused to seat him. Will
you drive from your shores and from the shelter of your
constitution all who do not lay their oblations on the same
altar, observe the same ritual, and subscribe to the same
dogmas...?
The religion I profess inculcates every duty which man
owes to his fellow men; it enjoins upon its votaries the
practice of every virtue and the detestation of every vice;
it teaches them to hope for the favor of heaven exactly
Shammai Engelmayer is rabbi of Temple Israel
Community Center | Congregation Heichal Yisrael in
Cliffside Park and Temple Beth El of North Bergen.
JS-20*
Good basketball news
M
aybe its going to take
a basketball team to
unify Israel.
Okay, so maybe its
not as important as the recent ADL
study showing that about 25 percent
of people around the world hold
some anti-Semitic beliefs.
Nor is it as important as failed
peace talks between Israel and the
Palestinians.
And after a couple of weeks of
watching Los Angeles Clippers owner
Donald Sterling dig himself in ever
deeper, at last we can feel proud about
Jews and a basketball game.
On Sunday night, Maccabi Electra
Tel Aviv surprised even its own fans
when it won the Euroleague bas-
ketball final, against Real Madrid
96-86. Israeli media described
the game, played in Milan, as a
nail-biting victory.
Israelis were surprised by the
mere fact that Israels best-known
basketball team made it to the final
four of the Euroleague tournament
this year. Winning the entire tourna-
ment shocked everyone, including
the players.
Israeli fans are calling the vic-
tory the greatest win in the teams
history.
For one evening at least, most
Israelis who seem to be divided
about everything, from politics to
religion to the rights of women to
drafting charedim into the IDF
could agree that their favorite col-
ors are their teams yellow and blue.
Maccabi last won the coveted Euro-
pean championship with consecutive
wins in 2004 and 2005. This year,
more than 10,000 Israelis went to
Milan to see the team do it again.
Sure, we know that Israelis face
many complicated issues. But for
this one night in a Milan arena, Mac-
cabi Electra Tel Aviv brought this
often divided country together.
If only that could be achieved off
of the basketball court.
- PJ
Pope Francis in Israel
S
o a rabbi, a sheik, and a
priest go to Israel
Okay, so the priest is
the chief priest, the Arch-
bishop of Rome, Pope Francis, and
the rabbi and the imam are two
old friends from Argentina, Rabbi
Abraham Skorka and Sheik Omar
Abboud. (Rabbi Skorka, the former
rector of the Latin American Rab-
binical Seminary in Buenos Aires,
co-wrote a book with the pope when
he was still Cardinal Jorge Bergoglio,
and Sheik Omar Abboud is a former
secretary-general of the Islamic Cen-
ter of Argentina.)
And the situation is not a joke but
something both real and good.
Pope Francis is going to Jordan,
the West Bank, and Jerusalem this
week; he will visit places sacred to
Jews and Muslims as well as to Chris-
tians. His visit, the fourth made by
a pope to the Jewish states, comes
50 years after Pope Paul VI toured;
that pope helped reconcile Eastern
Rite and Roman Catholics, but he
did not once use the word Israel
as he breathed the countrys air and
stood in its pure golden light.
Each visit since then has improved
the relationship between Catholics
and Jews. Granted, there has been
a chasm between us, but the tec-
tonic motions have been drawing
us slowly closer.
Three local rabbis Shmuel
Goldin, Eugene Korn, and Noam
Marans all have met with Pope
Francis, and each one has been
moved by the popes sincerity,
goodness, humility, and charisma.
He is the real thing, each of them
has said.
That allows us to hope that this
visit, too, will be something real.
Of course the visit by a pope who
presides over an institution with
enough of its own problems to keep
him busy can provide nothing
more solid or long-lasting than the
memory of a goodwill gesture, but
the gesture is powerful.
-JP
Each visit
since then has
improved the
relationship
between
Catholics and
Jews.
At last we
can feel
proud about
Jews and a
basketball
game.
Shammai
Engelmayer
KEEPING THE FAITH
Lest we forget
to remember
E
arlier this month, on May 17, the United
States marked the 60th anniversary of the his-
toric decision by the U.S. Supreme Court, in
Oliver Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka,
Kans., that declared separate educational facilities [to be]
inherently unequal, and therefore unconstitutional.
That decision kick-started a half-century-old but as yet
moribund national movement that led to the Civil Rights
Act of 1964. The act, whose 50th anniversary will be cel-
ebrated on July 2, did not end racial segregation and other
forms of discrimination against minorities in this country
entirely, but it was a major step forward.
Jews and blacks both tend to forget that we once
marched side by side in that struggle for equality not just
because it was the correct course to take, a good enough
reason by itself, but because we were among those most
discriminated against.
From 1776 to this very day,
the battle has raged to make
this a Christian nation, and
if at all possible, to make it a
white Christian nation.
In the republics earliest
days, states adopted all kinds
of laws to exclude non-Chris-
tians, not just non-whites.
For example, in 1808, a Jew,
Jacob Henry, won a seat in
the North Carolina House of
Commons. When he tried
to take that seat at the beginning of 1809, he was told he
could not because North Carolina law required all office-
holders to believe in the Christian Bible.
Are you prepared to plunge at once from sublime
heights of moral legislation into the dark and gloomy cav-
erns of superstitious ignorance? Mr. Henry asked the
House of Commons the day it refused to seat him. Will
you drive from your shores and from the shelter of your
constitution all who do not lay their oblations on the same
altar, observe the same ritual, and subscribe to the same
dogmas...?
The religion I profess inculcates every duty which man
owes to his fellow men; it enjoins upon its votaries the
practice of every virtue and the detestation of every vice;
it teaches them to hope for the favor of heaven exactly
Opinion
in proportion as their lives have been directed by
just, honorable, and beneficent maxims. This, then,
gentlemen, is my creed.
Jacob Henry was seated, but the law went
unchanged for another 60 years.
Then there are the so-called Blue Laws, for which
Bergen County has the distinction of being the last
great holdout in the nation. The late Chief Justice
Earl Warren defended this obnoxious category
of legislation in a 1961 decision, arguing that such
laws had as their stated goal the better observation
and keeping holy the Lords Day, commonly called
Sunday.
America was a land of opportunity for Jews, that
is undeniable, but it also was a frightening place for
us. Signs all over our nation attested to that. One
kind of sign was Leo Frank hanging from a tree out-
side an Atlanta jail in August 1915, lynched by an ex-
governor of Georgia, a superior court judge, several
Georgia mayors, and the son of U.S. senator who
were publicly encouraged to do so by a onetime vice
presidential candidate who soon would become a
U.S. senator.
Other signs were more common: No Jews, blacks,
or Catholics allowed. No Jews, blacks, or women
allowed. No Jews, blacks, or dogs allowed. At the
University of Southern California, there were signs
all over the campus that read, No Jews, blacks, or
Orientals allowed.
The common thread for all of such signs was No
Jews or blacks. Everything else was regional.
Brown v. Board of Education helped pushed the
civil rights movement into high gear, but the move-
ment had been around since the start of the 20th
century, and Jews played a very significant role in it
from the very beginning.
The leading civil rights organization in this
country, the NAACP, was founded in 1911 in signifi-
cant part by Jews, who also helped fund it. Among
them were Sears president Julius Rosenwald; the
social and political activist and communal leader
Henry Moskowitz (he would go on to help found
the League of New York Theaters); Henry Street
Settlement founder Lillian Wald; and Rabbis Emil
Hirsch and Stephen Wise. One hundred years ago,
in 1914, the NAACP elected a Jew, Columbia Uni-
versity Professor Emeritus Joel Spingarn, to be its
chairman. He brought other Jews onto the NAACP
board, including the banker and philanthropist
Jacob Schiff.
During the 1960s, nearly half the countrys civil
rights lawyers were Jewish; more than half the
white civil rights workers were Jewish. And, of
course, Andrew Goodman and Michael Schwerner,
two of the three young men killed in Mississippi
50 years ago on June 21, 1964, in the midst of the
Freedom Summer, were Jewish. The third, James
Chaney, was black.
The civil rights movement worked for us a lot
more quickly than it did for blacks, not because the
white world liked Jews better than they liked black
people (white supremacists still do not include us
in their definition of white), but because most of us
could pass for white.
So many anniversaries: Spingarns leadership of
the NAACP (100 years); Brown v. Board of Education
(60 years); Freedom Summer and the murders of
Goodman, Schwerner, and Chaney (50 years); the
Civil Rights Act of 1964 (50 years). So many anni-
versaries, yet they go by almost unnoticed in our
community.
How sad is that?
JS-21*
Moms Guide to Life
T
o my endless surprise, two of my chil-
dren are graduating this spring, one
from eighth grade, one from high
school.
How did this happen? In my heart, were still
looking at houses, choosing what town to move to,
then a babysitter, next a grammar school.
The high-schooler was my first. With her arrival,
I, a girl who never played with dolls, who never
babysat, a girl whose only concerns were art, mov-
ies, and books, had to learn how to change a dia-
per, how to push little limbs into stretchies, how
to finagle a stroller bearing a sleeping infant down
the subway steps or up a set of brownstone stairs,
how to care for a helpless little human being day and night. As
she slept, I watched her, marveling as traces of relatives features
and expressions crossed her face, then departed.
Overnight, I shed all semblance of self-consciousness or dignity.
There were spontaneous parades around the dining room while
we clanged on pots and pans to the tune of When the Saints
Come Marching In; I sprawled on Brooklyn sidewalks while she
traced my outline with colored chalk; to comfort her, I sang The
Itsy Bitsy Spider aloud on trains and airplanes, heedless of how
many strangers were listening. She taught me how to play.
As for my graduating eighth grader he was my constant com-
panion for our early years in Teaneck. With my first two, there
were daily trips to the playground in Park Slope as we walked the
10 blocks home from nursery school. But Number 3 was born
right before our big move. He accompanied me on countless
trips to hardware stores, furniture stores, paint supply stores,
and gardening centers, good-naturedly approaching each chore
like it was an adventure. I spent the early shock-filled hours of
9/11 curled up on his bedroom floor, watching the twin towers
fall as he built his own towers with wooden blocks. With him at
my side, I learned how to drive, painted the house, watched a
hundred of my older childrens baseball and soccer games from
the distance of the playground.
To me, all that happened just yesterday. But my curly-haired
toddlers are taller than I am now, with their own interests and
friends and skills and tastes and opinions and slang, moving fur-
ther out into the world and away from me. In this short span of
adult time, Ive stayed pretty much the same, while they have
grown to undreamt-of heights. They have acquired wings.
What do I have that I can give them? What advice? What
wisdom? How do I teach them to be aware of dan-
ger while simultaneously encouraging them to
embrace experience? How do I pass over my sys-
tem of faith and beliefs while also training them to
see a thing from all sides, to ask good questions?
This Mothers Day fell a day after the anniver-
sary of my moms birthday. As we always do for
her birthday and yahrtzeit, we met at a restaurant
in the city, my brothers, my sister, and me, to share
good food and memories. We remembered Moms
deeds, her words, her sense of humor, all shaped
by a hard life, and complicated by the disasters and
disruption of the Holocaust.
We remembered her gleeful smile, her bound-
less good spirits, her childlike wonder. And then it came to me. I
knew what I would tell my new graduates.
Moms Guide to Life
1. A difficult start in life shouldnt keep you from having a good
life. You are the master of your own fate.
2. Be a good listener.
3. Learn how to cook at least one thing, anything, very well.
4. Dont mix a shirt that has one kind of pattern with pants that
have a different kind of pattern. This is best left to experts.
5. Stand up for your rights.
6. Help people who would never tell you that they need help.
7. Look at all the sides in a story before you make any judgments.
8. Bite back those first words that rise to your lips when youre
angry. Think of another way to say it.
9. Read, read, read. Then read some more.
10. If you want kids to play your game, you might have to play
their game first.
11. You will not need this one for a few years, but Im telling you
anyway: Give your children independence in order for them to
grow. Whether you like it or not.
12. Learn how to tell a good story.
13. Treat all people with respect.
14. Be a good friend.
15. Happiness is about being happy with what you already have.
16. Remember only the good things.
Helen Maryles Shankmans short fiction has appeared in many
publications, including The Kenyon Review and JewishFiction.net.
Her debut novel, The Color of Light, is available on Amazon. She
lives in Teaneck.
Helen
Maryles
Shankman
A view from the pew
O
ne of the blessings of retirement, after
40 years of leading worship, has been
the opportunity to worship, study,
and participate in communal activi-
ties in many different communities across Juda-
isms streams, both in America and in Israel.
One of the lessons I learned through my rabbin-
ate and confirmed this year is that unity does not
demand unanimity. Rather, we need to both toler-
ate and respect the differences in observance and
opinion that exist within our Jewish community.
This year, we celebrated the 25th anniversary of
Operation Exodus, through which 1.8 million Jews
were able to emigrate from the Soviet Union. And we continue
to celebrate the rebirth of Jewish communal life that has taken
place for the more than one million Jews who chose to remain
in Ukraine, in Russia, or in other states created from the for-
mer Soviet Union. This miracle took place only because Amer-
ican Jewry and the Jews of the State of Israel worked together
in harmony, ignoring party lines and religious
differences.
Tragically, over the last quarter century, reli-
gious conflict and partisan politics within our Jew-
ish community has made it harder for Jews with
differing opinions to talk to rather than at each
other. While the same can be said for American
society as a whole, and for the global community
of nations as well, the lack of civility and the frat-
ricidal conflicts within the Jewish community are
things we American Jews can ill afford, as the Pew
Study of American Jewish life points out.
Locally, our northern New Jersey Jewish com-
munity is rich in diversity. We have a healthy mix of Jews rooted
in the former Soviet Union, Israeli-born Jews, and Jews whose
American roots go back one and even two centuries. We have
a multiplicity of synagogues across the streams, and a structure
of communal institutions that are the envy of our neighbors of
Rabbi Neal
Borovitz
SEE PEW PAGE 22
Opinion
JS-22*
A new gauge of global anti-Semitism
T
he Anti-Defamation
Leagues Global 100
Index of Anti-Semi-
tism is the broadest
public opinion survey of atti-
tudes toward Jews ever con-
ducted. It is one of the most
important efforts we have
undertaken in our history as
an organization.
The survey was conducted in
more than 100 countries and
territories, and 53,100 people
were interviewed, representing 4 billion
adults around the world.
Our basic findings were sobering: More
than one-quarter of the people surveyed
(26 percent) harbor anti-Semitic attitudes.
The stereotypes receiving the most sup-
port worldwide were those questioning
the loyalty of Jews and those asserting
excessive Jewish power and influence.
And despite decades of efforts to promote
Holocaust awareness, only 33 percent of
those surveyed are aware of the Holocaust
and believe that it is described accurately
by historians.
We approach this project with a sense
of pride but also humility, knowing that it
provides direction rather than definitive
answers. The survey will form a baseline
for further consideration of anti-Semitism
and Holocaust awareness.
Most importantly, we hope that the
survey will begin conversations among
governments, scholars, NGOs, and oth-
ers around the world on attitudes toward
Jews, and lead to new ini-
tiatives to counteract these
pernicious attitudes. In
this regard, a few com-
ments are in order.
Fi rst, we recogni ze
that polling public opin-
ion, however important a
barometer of the state of
anti-Semitism in a particu-
lar country, is only one fac-
tor. Other indicators, such
as how many anti-Semitic
incidents there are, how secure the Jewish
community feels, how anti-Semitism plays
out in politics, culture, entertainment and
religion, all are elements in assessing the
extent of anti-Semitism in a particular
society.
In polling anti-Semitic attitudes, this sur-
vey plays an important role in setting the
stage for the broader discussion of anti-
Semitism in varying societies.
Second, as the organization primarily
responsible for dealing with anti-Semitism,
ADL frequently encounters comments sug-
gesting we have a vested interest in finding
anti-Semitism. With this global survey we
do not seek to exaggerate how much anti-
Semitism there is in the world; rather, we
want to document empirically how things
actually are.
Indeed, one of the many fascinating
aspects of this poll is the positive side of
the story, highlighted by countries where
anti-Semitic attitudes are absent or rela-
tively minor. We see that in several Asian
countries, including Laos, Vietnam and
the Philippines. We see lower numbers in
several West European countries, such as
Sweden and the Netherlands. And, in gen-
eral, English-speaking countries have sig-
nificantly better attitudes than the world
at large toward Jews.
These positive findings are important.
They show how varied attitudes are and
suggest the need for further investigation
to determine what common factors bring
people in some countries to have more
positive attitudes toward Jews.
Third, over the years questions have
been raised about ADLs methodology in
assessing attitudes through similar poll-
ing. ADL polling is based on an index of
anti-Semitism developed back in the 1960s
by academics from the University of Cali-
fornia, Berkeley. They looked at 11 classic
stereotypes about Jews statements about
Jewish power and influence, Jewish loy-
alty, and personal traits.
The index we used in the Global 100 is
based on these 11 stereotypes. Our analy-
sis rests on the idea that if someone agrees
with six or more of these stereotypes, he
or she is deemed to have anti-Semitic atti-
tudes. The strength of this methodology is
its high bar: It does not rest on agreeing
with any one statement. But agreeing to
six or more of these age-old anti-Semitic
assertions makes clear a respondents
biased attitude toward Jews.
Moreover, these 11 statements are not
random. These are stereotypes that repre-
sent the main anti-Jewish canards through
the millennia.
Fourth, there is the question of the
relationship between attitudes toward
Israel and attitudes toward Jews. It is evi-
dent that the Middle East conflict matters
with regard to anti-Semitism. However,
from our findings in the survey, it is not
clear whether the Middle East conflict is
the cause or the excuse for anti-Semitism.
Either way, the high numbers of those who
harbor anti-Semitic attitudes in the Middle
East and North Africa are a challenge to
the region and the international com-
munity going forward.
When it comes to religious factors
affecting anti-Semitic attitudes, Muslims
have significantly higher anti-Semitic atti-
tudes overall than do members of other
religions. If, however, we only look at the
countries outside of the Middle East and
North Africa, the numbers for anti-Semitic
attitudes for Muslims are still higher than
those among Christians but not signifi-
cantly so.
For the ADL, this survey is an impor-
tant beginning. The conversations that
will ensue, in governments and in civil
society, will ultimately be the test of the
impact of this worldwide poll. We trust
it will provide a better understanding of
global anti-Semitism and its global reach,
and will lead to serious efforts to address
this worldwide problem. JTA WIRE SERVICE
Abraham H. Foxman of Bergen County
is the national director of the Anti-
Defamation League.
Abraham H.
Foxman
other ethnic backgrounds and different faith
communities, despite the myriad problems
facing them. The troubling view, as I see it
from my seat in the pew, is that our grow-
ing inability to work together on projects
not only threatens the long-term viability of
our communal institutions, it also threatens
our viability as a community, and weakens
our communal voice in support of Israel and
Jews around the world.
On the national level, I firmly believe that
the decision to reject J Streets application for
membership in the Conference of Presidents
of Major American Jewish Organizations was
a grievous mistake. The conference loses
credibility with the American government
and with other groups to whom it claims to
speak in the name of the American Jewish
community when an organization the size of
J Street, with 180,000 followers, is excluded.
When we demand unanimity in the name
of unity, we weaken ourselves and alienate
members of our extended Jewish family.
One of the most challenging results of the
Pew study of American Jewry was that we
have to find more diverse ways to reach new
generations of American Jews. I hope, as I
wrote in a recent letter that appeared in the
Standard, that the Presidents Conference
reconsiders its decision.
Locally, I am gladdened by the increased
participation of Jews across the religious
streams in many of our Jewish federation
activities, including programs that have been
co-sponsored this past year by the Berrie Fel-
lows and the Jewish Community Relations
Council. However, I am concerned about the
future of the Florence Melton School of Adult
Jewish Education, which has been sponsored
by our federation for many years. The fed-
eration has decided to end its sponsorship
of Melton in June.
This intensive Jewish learning program
has provided a unique opportunity for teach-
ers from across the Jewish political and reli-
gious spectrum to teach Jews from a variety
of backgrounds in an intensive 30-week per
year two-year program over the past two
decades. Many of the Melton graduates have
gone on to become lay teachers and lay lead-
ers in their congregations and our communal
Jewish agencies. Moreover, Melton students
from different backgrounds have often kept
in contact with each other and have served
as a bridge across the religious divide that too
often their own rabbis were unable or unwill-
ing to cross. I hope that everyone reading
this column will encourage their synagogue
or JCC to join in a new partnership being ini-
tiated by members of the North Jersey Board
of Rabbis to restructure and retain the Melton
program for our community as well as to sup-
port the federations new education initiative.
There is a connection between American
and Israeli Jewrys ability to act in concert and
unity, although not unanimity, in the mira-
cle of the Soviet Jewry movement, and the
divide in American Jewry that is so evident
right here in our own local community. On
the one hand, we are confronted by the dan-
gers of assimilation detailed in the Pew study.
On the other hand, we are confronted by
the dangers of continuing anti-Semitism, as
expressed overtly in a detailed new ADL sur-
vey, and covertly through the BDS (Boycott
Disinvestment and Sanction) movement. To
overcome both dangers, we must keep open
the current pathways of intergroup engage-
ment of the kind the Melton study program
provides. We must encourage dialogue on
issues of Jewish concern across both partisan
political divides and the religious streams.
During the weeks between Passover and
Shavuot, we are directed by tradition to
study Tractate Avot of the Mishna, better
known as Pirke Avot, Ethics of the Fathers.
There we find a teaching from a rabbi
named Tarfon, who taught: The time is
short and the task of redeeming the world
is great! Even if we do not live to see its
completion, we are nonetheless required
to work toward it.
This Shabbat, we begin the study of the
fourth Book of Torah, called Numbers in
English and Bemidbar In the Wilderness
in Hebrew. As we count the numbers
of Israelites in the wilderness sojourn,
we must begin to count ourselves among
those numbers who are willing to respect
the tribal differences that today we call
Reform, Orthodox, Conservative, Recon-
structionist, Israeli, American, Russian,
and so forth. And we must also answer the
question first posed by Cain with an affir-
mative YES. I am my brothers keeper
and my sisters, as well.
Neal Borovitz is rabbi emeritus of Avodat
Shalom of River Edge, chair of the intergroup
relations committee of the Jewish Community
Relations Council of the Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jersey, and a member of the
federations board.
Pew
FROM PAGE 21
Letters
JS-23
The French and the Jews
Ben Cohens opinion column (A fearsome test for
French Jews, May 16) was both the best of times
and the worst of times. (Hats off to Charles Dick-
ens.) It was commendable that Mr. Cohen now real-
izes and reports that the French Jewish community
is strong and surviving. His meeting with CRIF lead-
ers parallels the same message that I heard from
leaders of the French Masorti community last sum-
mer. Their view is that Frances problems are not
unusual, that anti-Semitism pervades other parts of
the world, and that for the most part, the lives of
French Jews go on in a normal manner, just as ours
do. Thats the good news.
The worst of times was that the Standards pre-
sentation was implicitly racist. The picture of the
French comedian shows a grimacing, hateful person
of color. While it may be true that Dieudonne (liter-
ally, God-given) Mbala Mbala is filled with hate, an
image like this does nothing more than to incite and
exacerbate racial tension and hatred. It has no place
in a Jewish publication.
The French Jewish community is the third largest
on earth. In the aftermath of the Shoah, France has
become the de facto center of Jewish life in West-
ern Europe. It is arguable that Jewish life in England
(and certainly in Ireland) is less hospitable than on
the other side of La Manche (aka the English Chan-
nel). It is incontrovertible that anti-Semitism is more
endemic in places like Sweden and Hungary. Whats
more, the last two French administrations (Sarcozy
and Hollande) have been extremely supportive of
their Jewish community. Hollandes statements
about Drancy and collective French guilt are a testa-
ment to morality and truth. Most recently, Frances
position on Iran makes American foreign policy mak-
ers look like naive appeasers.
So why all this continued focus on France as the
seat of European Jew-hatred? I suspect that it has to
do with the Anglo outlook that permeates Ameri-
can society. All things French are suspect, ergo anti-
Semitism in France must be worse than anywhere
else on the planet. The French certainly have a part
in the creation of anti-Francism. But it takes two
sides to make this work, the hater and the hated.
Lets resolve to not engage in hateful attitudes. And
if, God forbid, there is a shooting at a JCC here, or
a skinhead rally, lets hope that the French do not
jump down our American throats. It would be only
fair of them to do so.
Eric Weis
Wayne
Its always our fault
Ron Kampeas May 9 article, Whose fault is it?
reminds me of a story that explains whose fault it is.
Off in the not-too-distant future, the world finally
has come up with a solution of how best to handle
Jewish issues on the planet Earth. They build mas-
sive space ships, fill them with all kinds of supplies,
and ship all the Jews off to the other side of the moon.
About 25 years later, a delegation from Earth travels
to the other side of the moon. After the perfunctory
salutations, the Jewish leader asks the delegation what
their mission here on the moon might be. The leader
begins to tell the Jews that men and women of Earth
are dying in the thousands from new ailments. There
are no remedies. Businesses are failing in the billions
of dollars because there is no guidance. Morals and
ethics are concepts that havent been used in a quarter
of a century. In short, Earths human population is self
destructing and its all the fault of the Jews.
The Roman emperor Hadrian lived almost 2,000 years
ago. He had all the riches of the world at his beck and call.
He hated the Jewish people. In one story, he punishes a
Jew who failed to greet him, and then punishes another
Jew who wished him well. When asked what the logic was
for his punishing both men, he replied: You wish to give
me advice on how to kill my enemies?
The Jews always will be blamed. There is never a good
reason and there is never a way to get around it or away
from it. Jewish hatred is millennia old and will not end
anytime soon. It is hate for the sake of hate. So if the world
body hates us anyway, then we may as well do what we
need to do to safeguard our own lives by ourselves and for
ourselves and to hell with what anyone thinks.
I would rather be alive and safe because I have been
protected by Jews then living with a false illusion of safety
from those who appear to be my friends.
Varda Hager
Teaneck
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LARRY YUDELSON
I
ts a fair bet that the most prolific
author living in Teaneck if not all
Bergen County boasts rabbinic
ordination, a medical degree, and
an impressive chasidic pedigree.
Rabbi Abraham Twerski has written 70
books, most shelved in the self-help/psy-
chology sections. Some are Jewish in focus
but others are not, including a series fea-
turing his psychological advice illustrated
with Peanuts cartoons. His latest, The
Rabbi and the Nuns, is a memoir with
a strong helping of psychology, because it
chronicles his career as a psychiatrist, with
particular emphasis on his twenty years at
St. Francis Hospital in Pittsburgh.
How does a rabbi end up heading psy-
chiatric services at a Catholic hospital
managed by nuns, let alone counseling
nuns and priests?
In this case, by wanting to fill the very
large shoes of his father, Rabbi Jacob
Twerski.
The senior Rabbi Twerski immigrated
to America in 1927. Scion of a chasidic
dynasty going back to the 18th century (his
ancestor Rabbi Menachem Nachum Twer-
ski was a student of the Baal Shem Tov,
and he held court in the Ukranian town
of Chernobyl), he first planned to settle in
Chicago. But a cousin had preceded him
by a year, so instead he moved to Milwau-
kee. No reason to confuse the community
with two rabbis Twerski.
Milwaukee had a Jewish community
whose population was estimated at 25,000
compared to more than 300,000 Jews
in Chicago.
Unlike the chasidic rabbis who settled
in Brooklyn after the Holocaust and rec-
reated chasidic courts in the old country
image, Rabbi Jacob Twerski became a pro-
totypical American clergyman to an Amer-
icanizing community. (In the chasidic
fashion, however, he married a cousin,
Devorah Leah Halberstam, daughter of the
second Bobov rebbe, Rabbi Ben Zion Hal-
berstam, who was murdered by the Nazis.)
Abraham Twerski tells how during the
Second World War, his father frequently
would visit a family whose son, who was
serving in the Air Force, had been reported
missing in Europe.
He wanted to cheer them up, to give
them the strength to believe that their
Max was alive, his son said. It turned out
that the flier had been shot down and was
a prisoner of war.
When the flyer came home, he found
a stack of letters my father had written
him. Before he went to visit Maxs family,
my father wrote him a letter, to convince
himself that the boy was alive. Only once
he believed it could he visit. He told the
family, What do you think I am, a fool? Im
writing a letter to somebody whos alive.
I learned from that to convince some-
one of something you have to believe it
yourself.
Thats the kind of intuitive seichel
Rabbi, doctor, author, shrink
Teanecks Rabbi Abraham Twerski, M.D.
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wisdom my father had,
he said. He was a very empa-
thetic person, very charis-
matic. He had a way of get-
ting people to feel good about
themselves. I tried to pick it
up from him.
The younger Twerski was born in 1930.
He was educated in Milwaukees public
schools Milwaukees Hillel Academy
day school didnt open until 1960 and
then he spent his high school years at the
Chicago yeshiva that is now known as the
Hebrew Theological College, and was
ordained there. Then he returned to Mil-
waukee, and in 1951 he started working
as his fathers assistant. The next year he
married Goldie Flusberg. His uncle, acting
as shadchen, set them up, and the couple
got engaged after their second date.
He had a way of getting people to feel
good about themselves, Rabbi Twerski
said of his father. I tried to pick it up from
him. One time I came to a patients room
in Mount Sinai Hospital. The patient said,
Your father came to me yesterday. After
surgery, I was in such pain. When your
father came in, the pain left. I came home
and told my wife, Im not going to be able
to follow that act. I dont have that kind of
ability.
There was another problem with the
rabbinate: The postwar era had seen the
rise of psychology and psychiatry.
I realized people were not going to
see me for counseling like they had my
father, Rabbi Twerski said. What was I
going to be doing as a rabbi? Bar mitzvahs
and weddings and unveilings and funer-
als. Thats not what I wanted to do with
myself. If I wanted to be like my father, I
had to become a psychologist or psychi-
atrist. My father agreed and I went to
medical school.
In The Rabbi and the Nun, Rabbi
Twerski details some of the obstacles
he overcame in getting through medical
school. He was able to go to Marquette
Universitys medical school because it had
just moved to a five-day-a-week schedule.
Even without Saturday classes, the medi-
cal school had a Jewish quota accepting
only four Jews in his class of 102. He pored
over his textbooks during summer vaca-
tion to prepare to miss classes for the fall
holiday season and passed the course.
Another course actually was held on Shab-
bat at the instructors insistence. Rabbi
Twerski had asked a friend to make him
a carbon copy of his class notes but he
discovered that the notes covered only a
third of each lecture. It turned out the lec-
turer was putting the class to sleep. Rabbi
Twerski, who had to rely on the textbook
and not the lectures, ended up scoring at
the top in the class.
In 1959, the graduation of a rabbi from
a medical school was newsworthy enough
that Time magazine ran a story, titled
Rabbi in White, which reported that to
keep the Torah as an Orthodox Jew for six
years of studies in Milwaukees Roman
Catholic Marquette University was some-
thing like running a sack race, an egg race
and an army obstacle course at the same
time.
After graduating medical school, Rabbi
Twerski went to the University of Pitts-
burgh for his psychiatric training. The
program taught orthodox Freudian psy-
chology; Rabbi Twerski wasnt convinced
by the doctrine and its ideal treatment
years of daily therapy sessions. He tells
how his father ridiculed the notion with
the old Jewish joke of the Polish landowner
who loved his pet dog, and threatened to
expel the Jews from his estate after being
If I wanted to be
like my father, I
had to become a
psychologist or
psychiatrist.
At his middle school
graduation.
Abe Twersky was on a Little
League team in Milwaukee.
Rabbi Abraham Twerski, his wife, Goldie, and three of their four children.
Celebrating
with his mother
when he finished
medical school.
His graduation
was reported by
Time magazine,
which dubbed
him the rabbi in
white.
Rabbi Twerskis
newest book, his
70th, tells tales of his
life as a psychiatrist
in a Catholic
hospital.
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and kept it from him. One Jew promised to teach the
nobles dog to talk if only the Jews could remain but
warned that it would take six years for the dog to learn.
The landowner agreed.
The other Jews turned to the Jew who had agreed to
teach the dog. Youre crazy. How are you going to teach
the dog to talk?
Look, he said. Six years is a long time. Maybe the
dog will die. Maybe I will die. Maybe the landowner will
die. Maybe something else will happen. In the mean-
time, we dont have to move.
It was the same with long-term psychological treat-
ment, his father told him.
Any treatment that lasts for five years, you cant take
credit for. So many things may happen that will change
the person, Rabbi Twerski said his father told him.
I never did treatment for five years, he said.
After his three years of training, he spent two years
on staff at a state hospital. Then he expected to join the
faculty at the University of Pittsburgh. Instead, he was
asked to take over the psychiatric department at Pitts-
burghs St. Francis Hospital, which hadnt been able to
hold onto a director.
He was willing to give it a try but there was that mat-
ter of his being an Orthodox Jew.
I told them they needed someone who is available
seven days a week, 24 hours a day, he said. I cant be
reached from sundown on Friday.
The hospitals chief executive was a nun, Sister Adele
Meiser. Sister Adele was unfazed by the rabbis religious
needs. Dr. Twerski, we would never think of calling you
on your sabbath, she told him.
In fact, being religious put him in good graces with the
Catholics. The Pittsburgh diocese turned to him to lead
a team of psychologists to help the nuns who ran the
hospital, as well the dioceses other clergy and members
of religious orders.
I cant sent them to an average psychiatrist, the
bishop told him. He might attack their religion.
The reforms that resulted from Vatican II presented
a particular challenge to members of religious orders.
The rules that governed their lives had changed. Nuns
no longer had to wear habits. They were allowed more
choice in their assignments. While some welcomed the
reforms, others, particularly those who had been in the
Clockwise, from far left,
his grandfather, Rabbi
Yehuda Leib Twerski; his
great grandfather, Rabbi
Mordechai Dov Twerski; his
maternal grandfather, Rabbi
Benzion Halberstam; and
posing with his father, Rabbi
Jacob Twerski.
Playing ping pong at the Gateway Rehabilitation center he founded.
Rabbi Twerskis books on practical psychology, illustrated with Peanuts and other cartoon characters, are
popular around the world.
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hold onto a director.
He was willing to give it a try but there was that mat-
ter of his being an Orthodox Jew.
I told them they needed someone who is available
seven days a week, 24 hours a day, he said. I cant be
reached from sundown on Friday.
The hospitals chief executive was a nun, Sister Adele
Meiser. Sister Adele was unfazed by the rabbis religious
needs. Dr. Twerski, we would never think of calling you
on your sabbath, she told him.
In fact, being religious put him in good graces with the
Catholics. The Pittsburgh diocese turned to him to lead
a team of psychologists to help the nuns who ran the
hospital, as well the dioceses other clergy and members
of religious orders.
I cant sent them to an average psychiatrist, the
bishop told him. He might attack their religion.
The reforms that resulted from Vatican II presented
a particular challenge to members of religious orders.
The rules that governed their lives had changed. Nuns
no longer had to wear habits. They were allowed more
choice in their assignments. While some welcomed the
reforms, others, particularly those who had been in the
order for many years, feared them.
There were few sisters who left,
Rabbi Twerski said. There were a few
we helped to make the adjustments
needed to stay in the convent. There
were some who were aged 40 or over
who said, This isnt what I asked for, but
to leave now doesnt make much sense.
Im not marriageable. We had to deal
with this feeling of anger at the church
and the changes.
He encouraged the church to make a
change in the way it treated the nuns.
I found out that if a sister left the con-
vent she was called a fugitive. I told the
cardinal thats not fair. This woman gave
20 years of her life to the convent and
now shes going to be called a fugitive?
So the convent issued an order that the
term fugitive is not to be used again, he
said.
Rabbi Twerski became friends with
the dioceses bishop, John Wright, who
was appointed a cardinal and moved to
Rome in 1969. This friendship proved
useful when Rabbi Twerski had to treat
an alcoholic priest whose addiction sent
him to the intensive care unit, where he
spent five days and received last rites.
The day he came out of intensive care,
he started drinking mouthwash.
You have absolutely no self control,
Rabbi Twerski told him. If you take a
drop of alcohol youre going to die from
alcoholism. I have to put you on Anta-
buse, a medicine that makes it impos-
sible to drink alcohol.
Can I say mass? asked the priest.
Use grape juice, the rabbi said.
No, it must be wine, the priest
insisted.
So Rabbi Twerski called the Vatican
and asked Cardinal Wright for a dispen-
sation for the priest to use grape juice for
the mass.
Rabbi, the cardinal said, I will per-
sonally hand carry the request to the
Holy Father.
The next day the cardinal called with a
new dispensation: Alcoholic priests may
use grape juice.
Tell the Pope he did a mitzvah, the
rabbi told him.
Rabbi Twerski used to tease the nuns
about the changes that were taking
place. They took it quite well, he said.
In a toy store I picked up a little statue
of a nun, the old-fashioned kind, and
I put it in my office with a sign saying
museum of ancient history.
One of his most fascinating psycholog-
ical cases concerned a nun who couldnt
get over her depression.
She came with her superior. The
superior said to the sister, Have you told
our doctor about Elaine? and she burst
out crying.
She tells me the story that when she
was 12 years old, she had a little sister
who was 3 or 4. Their mother left the
house and told her to take care of Elaine.
I wanted to have girlfriends over. My
mother said I couldnt have girlfriends
over unless I cleaned the house. I was
working down in the cellar. Elaine was
standing at the head of the steps. She
said, come play with me. I said I cant.
She wanted me to play with her. I went
out and we played tag. She ran around
the house and I ran after her.
She was holding a collapsed rubber
balloon in her teeth and she aspirated
it and asphyxiated and died. She died
in my arms and I feel so guilty and Ive
never been able to get over it. Ive con-
fessed it a hundred time. The priests
have told me: Stop confessing it, youve
done nothing wrong, its a freak acci-
dent, the nun said.
She had seen other psychiatrists but
Playing ping pong at the Gateway Rehabilitation center he founded.
Rabbi Twerskis books on practical psychology, illustrated with Peanuts and other cartoon characters, are
popular around the world.
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never told them the story.
The only thing Rabbi Twerski could
think of doing was hypnotizing her,
regressing her to the day when the inci-
dent happened, and extirpating the
memory so that as far she knew, it never
happened. Its a crazy thing to do, he
realized. He called the leading expert on
hypnosis and told him his plan.
He said, Dr. Twerski, thats an insane
thing to do. I said, I got the idea from your
book.
The nun proved a good candidate for
hypnosis.
I regressed her back to the day. What
she initially told me was that she was play-
ing tag with Elaine.
When she repeated it while under hyp-
nosis, she said Elaine had thrown a rug at
her, so she ran after her to hit her.
I saw where the trouble was.
But then something fortunate hap-
pened. She is relating this story under hyp-
nosis, and says, Then Elaine is running
into the alley and I say stop, stop!
I said, Why did you say stop?
She said, She might be hit by a car.
I said, Sister, you wanted to punish
her, but you didnt want her to die. I went
over that phrase about twenty times. Then
she went on and described the scene of
how the child asphyxiated.
When I brought her out, her first words
were I wanted to punish her but I didnt
want her to die.
The fact she was running after Elaine to
hit her and the fact that Elaine died were
brought together in her mind. I separated
the two. She recovered beautifully.
Rather than removing her memory
of that day as he had planned, he had
restored it. Either way, it was a victory for
hypnosis.
If Rabbi Twerski had to preach only
one psychological principle, however,
it wouldnt be the power of hypno-
sis, nor even the power of the Twelve
Step approach developed by Alcoholics
Anonymous.
His key principle would be the impor-
tance of self esteem.
Im hung up on the concept that every
person, unless he has made an effort to
overcome it, walks around with feelings
of inferiority he has no business having,
he said. Its a contributing factor in every
emotional issues.
You might think, What about a guy
whos an egotist, who thinks hes Gods gift
to the world? Theres an interesting state-
ment by Rabbeinu Yonah thats Rabbi
Yonah of Girona, the 13th century author
of Gates of Repentance, an ethical guide
still studied in Orthodox circles who
says a vain person is really suffering from
low self-esteem but trying to compensate
by acting superior to others.
Rabbi Twerski said he had a beautiful
childhood and loving parents, but became
an overachiever to compensate for my
feelings of inferiority.
Looking back, he can remembers being
7 or 8 years old and trying to show off, an
act he now attributes to lack of self esteem.
He discovered this lack in himself after
his third year at St. Francis Hospital. Every
night, he would be awakened several times
to make urgent emergency room deci-
sions. So he decided it was time for a real
two-week vacation, so he could just sit in
a room and close the blinds. He and his
wife ended up at in Hot Springs, Arkansas,
in December. The town was closed down.
He checked into the spa and prepared to
take the mineral baths for his aching back.
I got into the whirlpool and the atten-
dant gave me two glasses of hot water to
drink. I felt it was a mechaye a revital-
ization. I wasnt reachable by anybody.
This was Gan Eden. Paradise.
After five minutes, he got out of the
whirlpool to go for a massage.
He was told: You cant get the rub-
down until you stay in the whirlpool for
20 minutes.
Eager for his rubdown, he returned to
the whirlpool. But he couldnt relax.
I went back in for 15 more minutes of
absolute hell. I had taken 3 years of con-
stant stress at St. Francis but I couldnt tol-
erate more than five minutes of Gan Eden.
That for me was an awakening, he said.
He discussed this with a psychologist
friend, who told him: If you ask people
what they do for relaxation, theyll tell you
what they do to relax. Thats not relax-
ation. Thats diversion. Relaxation means
doing nothing. In that whirlpool, they
take away all of your diversions from you.
There was nothing to look at, nobody to
talk with. You were left in the immediate
Rather than
removing her
memory of that
day as he had
planned, he had
restored it.
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company of yourself.
Obviously you couldnt tolerate it. There must be
something you hate about yourself, Rabbi Twerski
was told.
So I began this search to get to know myself, of
self-awareness.
At that time I had become involved with treating
alcoholics. I went to meetings of Alcoholics Anony-
mous. The fourth step of the 12-step program is to do
a moral inventory. I did it six times over a year and a
half. It helped me get in touch with parts of my self
that I didnt know and didnt like, he said.
Having discovered that he really didnt like himself,
he then worked to accept himself and came to realize
there are some negative things about me, but thats
OK.
He also came to realize that people having unwar-
ranted feelings of inadequacy is the major problem in
psychology.
This was certainly his experience when he worked
with alcohol and drug abusers. St. Francis was Pitts-
burghs de facto public hospital. Sister Adele, despite
her masters degree in administration, ran the hospital
like a nun, not like an MBA. She wouldnt turn away
anyone who needed hospitalization. The result was a
very full detox unit, which was the fancy term for a
drunk tank.
Drunks came in, dried out, got three meals it was
a revolving door, Rabbi Twerski said.
The hospital wasnt changing people, he realized.
We need to give them a foothold of sobriety before
they go back out.
The solution: A residential rehabilitation center,
Gateway, that opened in 1972.
In 1980 Rabbi Twerski left the hospital to focus on
Gateway.
He retired from full-time work there in 1995, but
he has continued to teach the staff through monthly
visits. In honor of his 80th birthday in 2011, Gateway
renamed the inpatient detoxification wing at its main
campus Abes Place.
After his retirement, he moved to Monsey, N.Y.; his
wife had died and he remarried a woman he had met
at a meeting of Nefesh International, an organization
of Orthodox mental health professionals.
It didnt make sense for Gail to move to Pittsburgh,
so I moved to Monsey, and then after about 10 years to
Teaneck, where she has children and grandchildren.
(He also has four children of his own.)
He rarely sees patients now. Sometimes for con-
sultation as a favor for somebody. He finds Teaneck
beautiful. Its a town where Im left alone. I can do
my studying, I can do my writing. Nobody bugs me.
If I have to drive, I drive around these few blocks of
town, he said.
But hes not planning on being here much longer.
He and his wife have begun planning to move to Israel,
where he has two grandchildren and ten great grand-
children, next year when he turns 85. And he has also
started working on another book, with the tentative
title: The Road to 90.
If I have my mothers genes, I can make it to 95,
he said.
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More than the cherry on top for ice cream
Celebrating Mistakes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
Teaching resilience and building confidence
Mind Your Manners. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
Going to restaurants with your children
50 States of Ice Cream . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10
Book celebrates the sweet treat nationwide
Car Games. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Keeping busy on the long ride
Advice to the New Graduate . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
Tips for the real world
Camp Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14
Making a stay-at-home summer
Keep Reading and Writing. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
Fun ways to keep skills going over summer
Heading Off Summertime Injuries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
What to do to keep safe
Financial Literacy for Youngsters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
Making money matter to children
Generation G. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
Growing up tales from grandpa
Jewish Marriage Wisdom. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Seven tips to keep the bond strong
Rubiks Cube Exhibition . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22
The worlds greatest puzzle game celebrated
Simchas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
Celebrations of milestones
Gallery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
Photographs of our community
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ew, a needle pulling thread.
Not only was The Sound of Music the frst movie that ever I
saw at the grand and glorious Radio City Music Hall, but my favor-
ite flm for a long time, perhaps even still. And that line Sew (So) in the
iconic Julie Andrews teach-em-to-sing song Do-Re-Me still conjures
up images of being young and delighted by that pun.
You see, Sew, a needle pulling thread is quite a part of my child-
hood memory. When she frst came to this country, my mother was
a seamstress. Her job, in what was then her frst American home in
Detroit, was working in a factory and sewing the linings into coats. Her
profciency, and I believe her interest in sewing carried on throughout
the years.
There was never a pair of pants that couldnt be altered, hemmed,
tapered or fxed in some way. The table sewing machine that sat in the
basement opened up the possibility of all sorts of (discount) shopping.
While my mother confned most of her talent to tailoring, there were
fashion creations that she made for me. The gauchos with a bolero vest
in a thick blue fabric (I paired it with a red, white and blue macram
belt perfect for assembly day when I was both patriotic and chic),
the lime green skirt and vest combo, another chic look for an older
elementary kid.
And then there was the chiffon dress that my mother made from
a dress of hers. (An homage to Julie Andrews who
made the childrens play clothes from some old
drapes in her room.)
That was my mothers thing. She tried to make
it mine, but alas, to no avail. She patiently tried to
get me to sew a straight line using a gingham print
pattern as a guide, but I could not be one with the
sewing machine.
When I was sewing, the stitching was even more
jagged than my nerves.
I think about my mothers sewing acumen es-
pecially now when I remember that in addition to
the cute outfts, my mother was at the ready to sew my costumes for
the various productions that Id been a part of. There was the gingham
skirt for the fourth-grade play when I was part of the chorus for the Wild
West. There were the harem pants for ninth-grade sing when I played
the comic relief in a high-school production. And the next year, there
was the lemon yellow taffeta sweetheart-neck number that I, as Bertha,
the moll of the lead gangster, wore in our production that took place in
gangland Chicago, circa 1920s.
Now that Shaina, our daughter, is going to take the stage again as
Tinkerbell in a production of Peter Pan, I feel bereft that I cant swirl a
piece of fabric into a green confection of a costume.
So I scan the stores for the right look.
Problem. Tinkerbell is such a costumed role, that a poofy skirt and
shirt, even if adorned with wings, doesnt cut it, so to speak.
Those wonderful fabric stores in the one-time shmatte district of
Manhattan tug at me. If I could do to this fabric what my mother did to
a scrap of fabric, how great that would be.
So creativity calls for piecing together this and that to make a cos-
tume that would make the character come alive.
In the end, I go online and fnd a costume company that has a
speedy delivery for a great and recognizable look, and I know that my
Tinkerbell will not only fy, but will soar.
Cheers,
musings from the editor
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RAC HE L HA R K HA M
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ts June. There goes another school
year. Summer is fnally here. Sum-
mer is fun. Summer is hot. Summer
is long days and late nights. Summer is
sweet and juicy fresh fruit. Summer is ice
cream.
A quick trip to the supermarket in
the summer is a mini-adventure. There
are all those hybrid varieties of sum-
mertime fruit like peaches, plums, nec-
tarines, apricots to discover. Relief can
be found from the swelter outside with
a visit to the freezer section. Its amaz-
ing how each summer seems to produce
even more wonderful icy treats than the
one before. Its not just the new ice cream
favors like red velvet cake or caramel
core, its also the array of frozen des-
serts: Sorbet that tastes like the freshest,
ripest, and coldest mango youve ever
enjoyed. Coconut milk-based ice cream,
which is dairy-free and still unbelievably
smooth and creamy.
Pick up a carton of the favor you
fnd most intriguing, or most delicious
and refreshing, or which harkens back
the most memories. If theres a special
going on, pick a second carton. Then if
you can motivate yourself, make your
frozen treat into lavish dessert with one
of these toppings.
The Choco-Coco Magic Fudge sauce
is made with coconut milk. If you want
to keep it dairy-free, you can use pareve
dark chocolate (Scharffen Berger is a
great option). This thick sauce tastes
faintly of coconut and salted caramel. As
it cools on the ice cream, it hardens to an
almost magic shell-like consistency.
For an Israeli/Mizrachi inspired sun-
dae, spoon some tehina over vanilla ice
cream and then drizzle with silan (date
syrup that can be found in most kosher
supermarkets or the middle eastern
section of many gourmet shops). If you
dont have silan, honey will work well,
too. For a crunchy bite and a sweet and
nutty favor, you can make a sheet of ses-
ame-honey brittle to crumble over this
halvah-favored dessert. The most amaz-
ing thing about this dessert is that it is
dairy-free if using soy or nut-milk based
ice cream.
When youre in serious need of
refreshment, the Strawberry Mango
Mint Salsa is just the thing to serve in a
chilled glass on top of sorbet. Its juicy,
sweet, limey, with an invigorating lift of
chopped mint. The favors are fun, cool
and sunny at the same time. That is my
wish for this summer that it is fun, sunny
and cool, too.
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Strawberry, Mango, Mint Fruit Salsa
4 tablespoons of fresh lime juice
(about 2 small limes)
cup water
4 to 5 tablespoons sugar
1 pint strawberries, stemmed and chopped
1 mango, peeled and chopped
cup mint, nely chopped
1. In a small saucepan combine the lime juice, water, and
sugar, bring to a boil and then reduce to a simmer for
approximately 3 minutes or until the liquid gets thick and
syrupy. Remove from heat and let cool.
2. Throw together chopped strawberries and mangos in a
medium-sized bowl. Pour the cooled syrup over the fruits
and gently toss. Gently fold in the fresh chopped mint.
Makes 3 cups of fruit salsa
Choco-Coco Magic Fudge Sauce
1 14 ounce can of full-fat coconut milk
cup rmly packed brown sugar
teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon vanilla
cup chocolate chips
1. Pour coconut milk into a medium-sized heavy bottom
saucepan. Over medium heat stir in brown sugar and vanil-
la. Allow to come to a boil, stirring every so often.
2. Cook for 15 minutes until it reduces and thickens and is a
rich caramel color. Remove from heat and mix in chocolate
chips until theyve completely melted into the sauce.
Makes approximately 1 cup
Sesame Honey Brittle
cup honey
cup sugar
2 teaspoons salt
2 tablespoons water
1 cup toasted sesame seeds
1 to 2 teaspoons toasted sesame oil
teaspoon baking soda
1. Spread parchment paper over the surface of a baking
tray.
2. Combine the honey, sugar, salt and water in a medium-
sized saucepan and bring to a boil over high heat.
3. Allow to boil for 5 minutes. Then stir in sesame seeds
and sesame oil.
4. Remove from heat and mix in baking soda. It will bubble
and appear uffy. Carefully pour onto prepared tray, and
spread evenly.
5. Allow to cool in refrigerator for 30 minutes. When ready
to serve, break brittle into pieces or chop coarsely and
sprinkle over your ice cream.
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Celebrating Mistakes
Teaches Youngsters Resilience
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I
n our home when someone makes a
mistake spills the juice, breaks a
glass, or oversleeps we often jok-
ingly say, Its a good thing we celebrate
mistakes in our family... It sounds silly
but it usually works to break the tension
of the minor (and sometimes major)
oops that come along with family life.
Adults need to let children make
mistakes and learn from them. We need
to watch them struggle with and settle
their own problems. We also need to let
them do as much as they can for them-
selves and treat children responsibly so
they can function on their own.
It is hard to let children make their
own mistakes. We feel, If they would
just listen to us then they would not
have to suffer from their mistakes. Al-
lowing them to do for themselves some-
times makes more work for us. If I pour
the juice it wont spill.
But learning to recognize our mis-
takes, repair them and grow from them
is essential for children. We want to
protect our children, but if they arent
allowed to make mistakes they can be-
come fearful of making the smallest de-
cisions, hesitant to solve problems and
afraid to try new experiences.
We want to promote resilience in our
children. Resilient children make mis-
takes, get up, brush themselves off and
move on.
Here are fve ways to help children
celebrate mistakes:
1. Embrace mistakes.
Remind children often: No one is per-
fect and Everyone makes mistakes. It
is part of how we learn. This teaches
children to keep a good attitude about
their errors, and theyll be less fearful of
making mistakes.
2. Remind children of what theyve
already accomplished:
Children should take note of their ac-
complishments so that can see how far
they have come, without focusing on
the mistakes they may have made on
the way. When you were a baby, you
couldnt walk. And look at you now! You
run so fast, I can hardly keep up with
you.
3. Ensucourage inventiveness.
Last summer, my son rode his bike to his
job. He complained that his backpack
kept on banging against the wheel of his
bike. It was driving him crazy. He took
an old backpack and tried to refashion
the straps so that his bag wouldnt hang
down so low and reach the wheels of his
bike. He was using scissors. It seemed to
me that he was ruining this backpack but
I kept my mouth shut. After a few unsuc-
cessful attempts, he came to the same
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the way. When you were a baby, you
couldnt walk. And look at you now! You
run so fast, I can hardly keep up with
you.
3. Ensucourage inventiveness.
Last summer, my son rode his bike to his
job. He complained that his backpack
kept on banging against the wheel of his
bike. It was driving him crazy. He took
an old backpack and tried to refashion
the straps so that his bag wouldnt hang
down so low and reach the wheels of his
bike. He was using scissors. It seemed to
me that he was ruining this backpack but
I kept my mouth shut. After a few unsuc-
cessful attempts, he came to the same
conclusion. I think I made it worse.
Instead of berating him for his at-
tempt, I knew that this was the perfect
opportunity to applaud his efforts in
trying to fnd a solution to his problem.
I said, I am glad you tried. You know it
took Thomas Edison over 1,000 attempts
to make the light bulb. Im also glad that
you used an old back pack and not your
new one.
It is so hard to keep ourselves from
butting in with criticism and advice.
But we need to hang back and think of
ways to respond that promotes resil-
ience in our children. We can teach chil-
dren that little failures are opportunities
for growth and that effort should be
celebrated.
4. Tell stories of failures that were
really successes.
Many successful people relate that their
mistakes and failures were valuable les-
sons. Their diffcult and oftentimes pain-
ful experiences shaped their future in
powerful ways. This is a worthy attitude
to adopt. Collect stories about failures
that were the impetus for great achieve-
ments and share them with your clients
and students.
One teacher I know enjoys telling
children the story of the invention of the
telephone. She has her class read the fol-
lowing story:
Bell enjoyed the work of the German
physicist Hermann Von Helmholtz. In his
book, written in German, Von Helmholtz
stated that, vowel sounds could be pro-
duced using electrical tuning forks and
resonators. Bell could not read German
very well so he thought that Von Helm-
holtz had said that vowel sounds could
be transmitted over wire. This misun-
derstanding changed the world. Alexan-
der Graham Bell said, It gave me conf-
dence. If I had been able to read German,
I might never have begun my experi-
ments in electricity.
5. Be honest about your
own mistakes:
Parents can share their mistakes with
children and what they learned from
those errors. Yesterday we were sup-
posed to read two books and I only read
one. Today I am going to make that up
to you. I thought that you were com-
ing out of bed just because, but you were
trying to let me know that Sara was hurt.
That was my mistake.
Teaching children to celebrate mis-
takes goes a long way in promoting re-
silience in children and helping them
celebrate life to its fullest.
Adina Soclof is the director of parent outreach
for A+ Solutions facilitating workshops based
on How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen
so Kids will Talk and Siblings Without
Rivalry. She also runs ParentingSimply.com.
Visit her at www.parentingsimply.com.
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About
Serving Up Manners on the Menu
DE NI S E Y E A R I A N
D
ining out should be a delightful en-
deavor designed to give families a
reprieve from cooking responsi-
bilities. But for some, eating out is more
trouble that its worth. Each moment
spent waiting for the food to arrive can
propel energetic youngsters toward an
explosion of impatience and frustration.
To avoid mealtime meltdowns and make
the most of your restaurant experiences,
experts suggest practicing and planning
before leaving home.
If your at-home dinners are quiet
and good behaviors are expected, chil-
dren are going to take what they learn
with them into other environments,
says Vicky Kelly, a social worker spe-
cializing in child development. One
thing parents can do is to create family
restaurant night is to eat in the dining
room and dim the lights. Or make it a
full-blown activity by having your child
write or draw out menus, create a cen-
terpiece and help with dinner prepara-
tions. Either way, use these opportuni-
ties to talk about manners and good
behaviors while dining out.
Family mealtimes are one way to ma-
terialize skills. Childs play is another.
My two youngest girls like to do tea
parties, so incorporating manners and
play goes hand in hand, says Robin Gil-
lis of her children, ages 18, 6 and 5. We
practice saying, Please, Thank you,
Could you please pass this? I also got
a tea party book and read it to them.
Both of these experiences have been
instrumental in preparing them for what
to expect and utilizing their manners in
public and at home.
Once your child has been primed
and somewhat polished, choose an eat-
ing establishment based on what you
know. Amy Richardson learned this the
hard way.
When our girls were [ages] 4 and 1,
we took them to a buffet-style restau-
rant, and what a disaster that was! says
Richardson of Andrea, age 6 and Tionna,
age 3. At the time, Tionna just started
walking and wanted to take off and go
everywhere. And since there were end-
less choices, I took them with me to get
the food. We spent the entire meal up
and down. It was totally chaotic. After
that we decided to avoid buffets until
the girls were older.
Another key consideration is timing.
Choose a time when your child is
at his bestone in sync with his regu-
lar routine, says local parent educator
Whitney Williams. If at home you eat
dinner at 5 p.m. and youre going out at
8 p.m., it could be a diffcult experience.
If possible, pick a late lunch or early din-
ner time frame. This will help you avoid
the crowds and give your child time to
wind down before starting his bedtime
routine.
Before entering the restaurant, brief
your child on behavioral expectations.
You dont have to go through the
entire list of to-dos. Highlight the im-
portant rules and state expectations in a
positive manner, says Kelly. Instead of
saying, No yelling, try, Use inside voic-
es. Also if you explain why you want your
child to demonstrate certain behaviors,
he may be more likely to comply.
Once your family is seated, place or-
ders quickly. If your child is old enough,
let him choose and order his own meal.
For fnicky eaters its a good idea to
pick restaurants where the kids menus
have pictures so your child knows ex-
actly what hes ordering, says Williams.
Macaroni and cheese at a restaurant
may be completely different than what
you would make at home.
This may also be an opportune time
to let your child try new foods. But make
it a family affair so food isnt wasted.
If the girls want to try something,
we usually get it ourselves and let them
taste it, says Richardson. The last time
we went out, I got Brussels sprouts and
Tionna actually polished them off.
While waiting for the food to arrive,
engage your child in conversation. Fo-
cus on topics of interest to everyone.
Save puzzles and games you may have
brought along for when restlessness
sets in. Keep light snacks on hand too,
and pull them out if your child is over-
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Mind Your Manners
Practice makes perfect. Model and teach proper man-
ners and behaviors at home through family dinners, in-
house restaurant nights or tea parties. For tea parties,
encourage your child to play the adult role with a doll
or teddy bear to reinforce what shes learning about
manners. With in-house restaurant nights, let your child
help plan the menu, prepare the food and decorate the
table. Be sure to incorporate a variety of restaurant set-
tings into your endeavor.
Choose chow time. Pick a dining time when restau-
rants arent busy and your child is at his best. If you
go during the dinner hour and cant make reservations,
build in time for waiting.
Sum up social graces. Brief your child on behav-
ioral expectations just before entering the restaurant. If
he is a preschooler, reviewing rules may not be effective
so look for opportunities during dinner to catch him
being good and offer praise.
Stake out seats. Ask for a table or booth near the
bathroom, or one off to the side near the entry door, in
case you need a quick exit. Booths provide a sense of
enclosure and large tables give children room to spread
out. Sit next to your child so you can help him with food
or handle misbehaviors without raising your voice.
Survey for safety. Remove any cutlery, candles or
glass items from the table.
Map out menus. Check online for the restaurants
menu or have one faxed to you before you leave home
to cut down on ordering time. For fnicky eaters, a
childs menu with pictures is best so he knows exactly
what hes ordering.
Avoid interruptions. Once you have ordered food,
take your child to the bathroom to alleviate dinner
interruptions.
Time it right. If you need to cut up your childs food
or help him eat, ask if his meal can be served fve to ten
minutes before yours arrives.
SOS supplies. Tote along a bag of items such as a
bib, baby wipes, child-sized utensils and a spill-proof
cup in case you need them. If paper placemats are not
available, bring disposable stick-in-place placemats to
protect your child from germs on tabletop surfaces.
Also bring small food items and quiet games to pass
time.
Stave off hunger. Pull out raisins, small cereal bits,
fruit snacks or cheese cubes for your child to munch
on if he gets hungry and the meal has not been served.
Engage and entertain. While you are waiting for
the food to arrive, engage your child in conversations
that will be of interest to everyone. Play games such as
I spy, What am I? and What do you see? to keep
him guessing and pass the time. Anticipate restlessness
and pull out puzzles, games and/or crayons to keep him
occupied.
Sample or share. When trying new foods, let your
child sample a shared appetizer or eat from his parents
plate rather than order a dish that may not be eaten.
Purposeful praise. When you see your child using
good manners and behaviors, offer praise, as this will
encourage him to continue.
Intervention alert. Watch for signs your child is
getting agitated and intervene before the situation esca-
lates. Take him to a private setting until he calms down.
Then re-invite him to join the dining experience.
Shape up or ship out. If your child is disruptive
to the point of meltdown, go to the car until he settles
down or get the food to go. When he calms down, tell
him dining out is a privilege and if he isnt able to han-
dle it he will have to forgo the experience for a while.
ly hungry or the food is taking a while.
Most important, praise good behaviors
along the way.
Positive affrmation is a key element
to keeping my kids on track, says Gillis.
When I catch the girls demonstrating
behaviors I want to see, I acknowledge
it. Ultimately, I know they want to please
me so my words go a long way.
If despite best-laid plans and prepa-
rations your child misbehaves, redirect
his attention. Or fnd a private setting
until he calms down. Then re-invite him
back into the experience. You may even
offer an incentive when you get home,
such as reading a book or taking a quick
trip to the park.
If your child is disruptive to the
point of a meltdown, go to the car un-
til he settles down or get the food to
go, says Kelly. When he calms down
tell him dining out is a privilege and if
he isnt able to handle it he will have to
forgo the experience for a while.
Denise Yearian is the former editor of two
parenting magazines and the mother of
three children.
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About
Serving Up Manners on the Menu
he may be more likely to comply.
Once your family is seated, place or-
ders quickly. If your child is old enough,
let him choose and order his own meal.
For fnicky eaters its a good idea to
pick restaurants where the kids menus
have pictures so your child knows ex-
actly what hes ordering, says Williams.
Macaroni and cheese at a restaurant
may be completely different than what
you would make at home.
This may also be an opportune time
to let your child try new foods. But make
it a family affair so food isnt wasted.
If the girls want to try something,
we usually get it ourselves and let them
taste it, says Richardson. The last time
we went out, I got Brussels sprouts and
Tionna actually polished them off.
While waiting for the food to arrive,
engage your child in conversation. Fo-
cus on topics of interest to everyone.
Save puzzles and games you may have
brought along for when restlessness
sets in. Keep light snacks on hand too,
and pull them out if your child is over-
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We All Scream for Ice Cream
from Here to Everywhere
HE I DI MA E B RAT T
W
hen it comes to ice cream,
there are a few important
things to remember.
First, its good eating all year round.
Second, it inspires passion and
memories.
Passion for a particular favor and
memories conjured up by those favors,
and the feelings that come with every
lick.
Lindsay Clendaniel, an ice cream
afcionado, took her passion for favor
and memory through the United States
and has compiled a celebratory book,
Scoop Adventures: The Best Ice Cream
of the 50 States (Page Street Publishing).
Clendaniel, an inveterate ice cream
maker and blogger, shares the recipes
she picked during her travels across
the country sampling
ice cream from specialty
shops and restaurants
for her blog, scoopadven-
tures.com.
I wanted to fnd other
people with a passion for
ice cream as strong, and
perhaps as crazy as mine,
says Clendaniel. She not
only found that but she
also found favors that
are as unique as the regions they came
from, such as Seaport Salty Swirl Ice
Cream in a shop in Mystic, Conn. From
a spot in Miami Fla., she found Abuela
Maria Ice Cream, which gets a tropical
taste from guava paste and guava jam.
And Sweet Basil Ice Cream came from
a store in Princeton, N.J.
Green, as in the basil, is
a ftting color for the Gar-
den State.
Throughout my
search for the best ice
cream recipes in the
country, I was constantly
inspired by unique favor
ideas, says Clendaniel,
whose road trip can be
brought into the kitchens
of anyone inclined to make their own ice
cream.
One need not criss cross the coun-
try for ice cream satisfaction. Those
who want the scoop can fnd a sweet
treat at a local shop like Englewoods Ice
Cream on Grand, which is gearing up for
the season. On the menu such favorites
favors such as tried-and-true chocolate,
coffee, pistachio, maple walnut, butter
pecan, coconut, strawberry and rum-
raisin among others, says Syed Rizvi.
For children, says Rizvi, there are
always the favors of candy and cookies,
like cotton candy and cookie monster,
which is made from a mix of Oreo cook-
ies, chocolate cookie crunch and cookie
dough.
How come ice cream never goes out
of style?
Because it does magic, says Rizvi.
Ice cream can pick you up. Ice cream
can calm you down. It is the ultimate in
cool comfort food.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our
Children.
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book cover.
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f your family is traveling in the car
this summer, keep boredom at
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academic skills with these in-
novative suggestions.
1. Fortunately, unfortu-
nately. Create a story that
goes back and forth from
good to bad. The frst person
may say, There once was
a girl who lived in a castle
The next person continues with, Unfor-
tunately and comes up with bad news
such as, The castle was attacked by a
dragon Then the next person says,
Fortunately and adds something good
to the story, and so on until it reaches a
happy ending.
2. Animal amusements. Name an ani-
mal then have the next person think of a
different animal whose name begins with
the last sound or letter of the proceeding
animal. For example, if the frst person
says, Tiger, the second person could
say, Rhinoceros, and the third person
could say, Snake. This activity could be
done with sports teams, music groups,
movies whatever your childs interest is.
3. Practice makes perfect. Buy a small
white board with an attached marker so
your kids can practice writing letters and
numbers, drawing pictures or playing
simple games. These boards are mag-
netic so bring along magnetic letters and
numbers for little ones to practice count-
ing and spelling words. Also put one letter
on a page that corresponds to the place
you are traveling to then add short words
and pictures that begin with that letter. If
you are going to Tennessee, make a T
page so your children can trace the letter
and color the page. Give them pipe clean-
ers to try to shape letters too.
4. Count me in! Put a new spin on the
Twenty Questions game by including
numbers. Pick a number then have your
kids ask: Is it odd or even? Greater
than fve? For younger children choose
a number between one and ten; for older
ones up the ante with larger fgures and
more diffcult questions: Is it a factor of
two? Divisible by fve?
5. Tally it up. Watch for numbers on
road signs and write them down. After
youve found fve different fgures add
them up. Or have two people put both
hands behind their backs, then quickly
bring them forward to show any number
of fngers they want. The frst person to
add all the fngers correctly and shout out
the answer wins. For older children, step
up the challenge by incorporating sub-
traction, multiplication or division into
these games.
6. Writing refections. Encourage
your children to write a journal entry for
each day of the trip and include superla-
tives: the best part of the day, worst part,
something unexpected. List
them as bullets or write them
in sentences and paragraphs.
Punctuate certain items
through illustrations. If
you have preschoolers,
record their words and let
them draw correspond-
ing pictures. Make it into
a scrapbook by including
small items collected or pur-
chased along the way.
7. Book discussions. Listen to a book
on CD and discuss the plot, characters
and setting. Turn off the CD at critical
points and discuss what will happen next:
Are you feeling uneasy about this? What
do you think of that character? How do
you think the story will end? If you are
visiting a historic site, fnd books with the
setting in that location.
8. Simply stated. Print out a blank
copy of the United States with the states
outlined. As you travel, look for license
plates from each state and color that
state in. Or attach points to each state.
Ones local to this region could be worth
one point. Further away, fve points. Ha-
waii or Alaska, ffteen points. Whoever
has the most points at the end of the trip
wins. Also fnd a map of the region you are
visiting and draw the route for your kids
to follow along. Maps can be printed off
by logging onto www.nationalgeographic.
com/xpeditions/atlas.
9. Scavenger hunt. Divide the game
into three parts: city, suburbs and rural.
Under each section write or draw pic-
tures of things for your children to look
for then they can check it off as you trav-
el. For the city it might be a bus or a red
light. For the country it could be a cow,
barn, pond or forest. For the suburbs, a
Walmart, post offce or delivery van.
10. Rhyming ramble. Play rhyming
rounds by starting with a word such as
Ball. Everyone comes up with words
that rhyme until the list is exhausted.
Then move on to a new word.
11. Word scramble. On a piece of pa-
per write the city and state of your des-
tination and see how many words your
children can make using those letters.
Offer incentives for words that use more
than three letters.
12. Science savvy. If your children are
interested in a particular facet of nature
such as rocks or birds, pick up a small
feld guide before you leave home. When
you stop at a rest area, look for those
types of nature items and compare it
with whats in the book: Is this an igne-
ous, sedimentary or metamorphic rock?
What kinds of bird did this feather came
from?
Denise Yearian is the former editor of two
parenting magazines and the mother of three
children.
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Words of Advice for the Graduate
to Prepare for the Real World
Y
ouve fretted about your childs fu-
ture from kindergarten on. Youve
zoom-focused on homework and
grades, worried that he wouldnt have
the study skills and discipline to make it
once he got out from under your thumb,
and spent sleepless nights worrying he
wasnt making the most of his college
education. Now that that he or she is
fnally ready to graduate, the last thing
you want is for your child to stall at the
real-world starting line after all the hard
work he and you have put in.
You know that the economy is scar-
ier than ever and jobs are hard to come
by, and you also know that a lot has
changed since you sent out your frst r-
sum. So what eleventh-hour advice can
you give your child to ensure that hell
make it as an adult (and not end up liv-
ing in your basement forever)?
Ben Carpenter has some ideas.
I know from experience how nerve-
wracking it can be to watch a child leave
the nest, especially when theres so
much about the real world he or she has
yet to learn, says Ben Carpenter, author
of the new book The Bigs: The Secrets
Nobody Tells Students and Young Pro-
fessionals About How to Find a Great Job,
Do a Great Job, Start a Business, and Live
a Happy Life (Wiley). Ill never forget the
panic I felt when I realized that while my
daughter Avery had received a top-notch
academic education, she had no clue
how the working world, well, worked.
After a yearlong job search, Carpen-
ter says, Avery fnally received a promis-
ing job offer in her feld of choice. Then
she sent him an email with the subject
line, Is this okay to send? Until her hor-
rifed dad stopped her, Avery was about
to ask her new boss for a later start
date so shed have more time to tie up
loose ends (i.e., move out of her par-
ents home and into her own apartment).
Yikes, right?
Fortunately, I was able to redirect Av-
ery before she inadvertently did any dam-
age, Carpenter says. But this instance
really underscored to me how important
it is that we parents actively guide our
graduates through this uncertain time.
Here, he shares advice to pass on
to your graduate before diplomas are
handed out:
Do what youre good at, not what
you love. Much of the career advice
thats doled out these days encourages
young people to follow their dreams
and feed their passion. Sure, you want
your child to enjoy his career, but you
also want him to become and remain sol-
vent instead of holding out for the per-
fect job that might never materialize.
Try out different felds when youre
young. For most people, it generally
takes at least a few tries to fnd the
best feld, company, and/or position
from which to build a career. Just think
about the number of times youve
changed jobs over the years. If your ex-
perience was anything like Carpenters,
youll probably agree that your rookie
years when youre young and before
you have children are the ideal time
to aggressively seek out the best match
for your personality and talents.
Always ask yourself, Whats my
edge? In other words, what makes you
unique and different? Why should other
people pay attention to you? What do
you have to offer? What gives you an
edge over the competition?
Think of your boss and your compa-
ny before yourself. This principle was the
driving force behind Carpenters insis-
tence that his daughter not ask her new
boss for a later start date, and it extends
well beyond the frst day of work. Make
sure your graduate understands that
when youre a rookie in the big leagues,
you have to prove that youre going to be
an asset to the team, not a drain on its re-
sources or a liability for the coach. Often,
that means putting your bosss wants
and needs ahead of your own.
Be creative and bold. To the dismay
of many graduates and their parents, the
days of being handed a job just because
you have a diploma are long gone. There
are millions of job seekers with the
same qualifcations as your child, so if
you want her to receive one of a limited
number of opportunities, shell need to
stand out.
My point is, the tougher the situa-
tion, the less your child has to lose so
the more radical her actions should be,
he clarifes. The worst that can happen
is that your child doesnt get the job.
Comfort and success rarely go hand
in hand. In his book, Carpenter writes
about liking and respecting his frst real
boss, The Professor (so named for his
resemblance to the Professor on Gil-
ligans Island), tremendously. However,
the more he learned while at the job,
the more determined Carpenter became
to move on. While The Professor was a
great teacher and salesman, he wasnt
fully engaged in his career. And none
of his other colleagues seemed very
amped up about their jobs, either.
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f youre not sending your child to a for-
mal camp for the entire summer but
dont want to see him or her whittle
away idle time, why not try your own fam-
ily summer camp? All it takes is a little
imagination and a few good ideas. Here
are fve, simple week-long themes to get
you started.
ANIMAL HOUSE
1. Take a trip to the zoo. Before leav-
ing home, get on the zoos website to
explore kid-friendly web pages and be-
come familiar with exhibits, demonstra-
tions and programs. After your visit, cre-
ate a personalized zoo adventure book
by having your child write about and
illustrate the days events.
2. Create animal masks from paper
plates, paint and yarn.
3. Learn how to make origami birds.
4. Make an animal collage using old
magazines.
5. Draw an animal shape then use differ-
ent materials such as fur, fabric, yarn or
beads to create a textured animal.
6. Log onto www.aslpro.com to learn
hand signs for different zoo animals.
7. Create an edible zoo scene. Spread va-
nilla pudding inside a cookie sheet. Use
animal crackers, stick pretzels, string
licorice, mini-marshmallows and other
small food items to embellish the setting.
DIG DEEP
1. Visit a natural history museum to ex-
plore fossil exhibits.
2. Find books and videos at the library
on this subject. Or search out kid-friend-
ly websites such as www.fossilsforkids.
com or check out www.amnh.org.
3. Create fossil impressions with plaster
and nature items.
4. Collect clean chicken or beef bones.
Cover bones with petroleum jelly and
bury them in a pan of plaster. When it
hardens, have your child dig through
the plaster with a spoon to unearth
the bones.
5. Bury miscellaneous items in a sand-
flled kiddy pool and dig in. Or make
a trip to the beach to search for trea-
sures hidden beneath the sand.
6. Write and illustrate an adventure
on what you might fnd if you were a
paleontologist.
FIDDLE WITH PHOTOGRAPHY
1. Take two dozen photographs each day
on the following themes. Use a photo ed-
iting program to alter select images. At
weeks end, choose the best image from
each theme and create a photo album.
2. Forms of light: sun, lamp, fashlight,
fre, etc.
3. Unique perspectives: a bug, dog, TV,
piano, etc.
4. Different dimensions: the sky, a feld,
concert hall, etc.
5. Objects in motion: people, automo-
biles, balls, etc.
6. Textures: fabric, brick, wood, etc.
7. Portraits: Capture images that bring
out one of your subjects physical fea-
tures or an aspect of his personality.
ARTFUL ADVENTURES
1. Visit a local art museum. Before leav-
ing home, learn about special exhibits
and family programs. When you go, stim-
ulate thinking by asking your child ques-
tions about what he sees and having him
look for and count shapes and objects in
paintings. At home try these:
2. Create abstract art by taping paper to
the bottom of a fat pan. Squirt paint ran-
domly around the paper then roll a mar-
ble through it. Log onto www.jackson-
pollock.org to learn about this abstract
artist and try splatter painting with your
mouse.
3. Carve a soap sculpture by whittling
a bar of white soap with a plastic but-
ter knife. Mold your own sculpture with
homemade bakers clay. Create three-di-
mensional art using cereal boxes, straws,
wires and other recyclables.
4. Use a pencil to create a design impres-
sion on the backside of a Styrofoam meat
tray. Spread paint over the design then
place paper over top to make prints.
5. Sketch a portrait of yourself using a
mirror. Sit across from a sibling and draw
one another. Create a collage portrait by
drawing an oval head and cutting out fa-
cial features from magazines.
EYE ON THE ENVIRONMENT
1. Visit a local park for a nature hike.
Take along a feld guide to help you iden-
tify trees, plants, fowers, insects and/or
birds.
2. Make leaf, fower and bark rubbings
with paper and crayons.
3. Preserve animal tracks. Pour plaster
into track indentations, let it harden
then carefully remove the surrounding
dirt. Turn tracks into paperweights or
refrigerator magnets.
4. Find a caterpillar in its natural environ-
ment then recreate its habitat in a glass
jar. Observe it at various stages of its
lifespan and record observations. When
the insect emerges from its cocoon, re-
lease it into the environment and write
a creative story about the caterpillars
experience.
5. Visit a nearby bay or stream and view
creatures below waters surface with a
homemade aquascope. Remove both
ends of a coffee can and cover rims with
duct tape. Place plastic food wrap over
one end and secure it with rubber bands.
Seal around the outer edges of the plas-
tic with tape.
6. Have a backyard campout. Cook din-
ner and roast marshmallows over an
open fre. Look at stars and identify con-
stellations. Listen and determine what
insect and animal sounds you hear.
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ways to keep your children reading and writing all sum-
mer long.
1. Ignite their interest. One key to sparking chil-
drens interests in reading is to fnd out which subjects
and genres they enjoy. If your child likes videogames,
get a book on programming. If its sports or mysteries,
fnd authors who specialize in those areas. Carry this
over to writing by encouraging your child to create a
new sport. What would the rules be? Or he or she can
create a new dinosaur breed? What would its name be
and what would it eat? If your child likes mysteries, sug-
gest he or she write an alternative ending to a story he
has just read.
2. A family affair. Dont assume your children are
motivated to read by themselves. Rally their interest in
reading by reading to them. Children like to hear about
heroes older than they are, but those books may be
above their reading level. If your child is old enough,
read a few paragraphs, pages or a chapter and then
have him read to you.
3. Box up boredom. Turn those books into box
projects. After your child reads a book, encourage him
or her to create a diorama of their favorite characters
room, home or a scene where the story takes place.
Your child also could make an identity box flled with
a characters belongings. For example, what things
would the fctional character Encyclopedia Brown put
into his box? A larger box makes a great puppet stage.
Have your child make simple puppets from various ma-
terials and create a box stage to reenact the story.
4. Awesome authors. Pick an author your child en-
joys and have him or her read several of his books to
compare and contrast themes and characters. Take
this one step further by discovering the authors life
too. This will give your child insight on where story and
character ideas originated. How a character may have
taken on the attributes of someone the author knew.
Many authors have websites where children can email
questions and get responses. Some even have exten-
sion activities for their books.
5. Newspaper novelties. Reading the newspaper
seems like such an adult thing to do, but with a little
creativity it can be a non-threatening experience. Give
your preschooler a crayon and have him or her circle
certain letters in headlines, all the As, for example.
If he or she knows the entire alphabet, your child can
circle all 26 letters in order. Your older child may en-
joy cutting out fve unrelated pictures and creating a
story that somehow connects them all. Dont forget to
read articles that take in your childs interests, such as
sports or animals.
6. Audio adventures. If you dont have a lot of time
to sit and read to your child, there are a number of au-
dio books in several different genres you can listen to
in the car. As you do, stop at a cliffhanger and speculate
about what is going to happen next. This keeps the fam-
ily dialogue going and makes it a shared endeavor.
7. Discovery diary. The writing process doesnt
have to be long to be fruitful, but it does need to be
fun. At the start of summer, let your child purchase a
journal to log summer discoveries. As you take trips
to various places such as museums or science centers,
have your child write a little bit about what he learned.
A discovery made while at the store or a new food he
tried at the restaurant can be a journal entry too. By
summers end he will have logged a storehouse of new
adventures.
8. Want to piggyback? One really popular type of
poetry is called Piggyback Poetry. This is where the
author has taken a well-known song or poem, such as
Take me out to the Ballgame and translated it into
something new such as, Take me out of the Bathtub,
using the same rhythm and cadence. Have your child
pick out a song or poem he enjoys and write his own
piggyback. Novel paper, pens and pencils may inspire
him to embellish his work and create a keepsake.
9. Acting adventures. Have your child write an ad-
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ter. How will the character conduct himself in the ad-
venture? Then create a backyard theater with friends
or siblings and put on a production. Another idea is to
do a spoof of a movie or TV show, something silly and
fun. Bring out the video recorder so your child can view
the fnished project.
10. Tap into trips. If youre going on vacation, have
your child help plan the trip. Pick up a few travel books
and let him or her research the sites. Also look for ma-
terials that talk about the destinations history. Some
places, such as Williamsburg, may even have fction
stories associated with them and would be a timely
read. Staying local? Challenge your child to use a trip
to a nearby theme park to research and compare those
roller coasters with others around the country. Or
check out what is happening at local museums, science
centers or live theaters. Many of these topics can be
used as springboards for reading and learning more.
11. Make it count. Tally and record what he reads.
Have your child keep a list of book titles he has read
throughout the summer. This encourages him or her
to set and attain reading goals. To help your child syn-
thesize what he has read, have him or her write a few
sentences stating what character he liked best and why.
12. Awesome art. Look for a connection between
artwork and text. When your child is drawing and writ-
ing, make sure details match. If, for example, the pic-
ture has a beach umbrella in it, have the child include
it in his writing.
13. All the worlds a stage. Dramatize it. When read-
ing to your child, have him act out certain scene. For
example, when you read, Then the thunder rolled,
your child can makes the noise of thunder. And she
fell asleep and he or she acts like he is sleeping. This
uses your childs imagination and makes the story
come alive.
14. Dear diary. Keep a summer discovery diary.
Have your child record new things he learns during
trips to the zoo, museum, beach, even a store or restau-
rant. By summers end he will have logged a storehouse
of new adventures.
15. Star power. Use Hollywood to inspire reading. If
a movie is coming out that parallels a book, read the
book then watch the movie and compare and contrast
the two.
16. Support a soldier. Have your child to write to a
soldier overseas. This not only develops letter-writing
skills, it helps your child learn empathy and compas-
sion. Use an Internet search engine and type in pen pal
a soldier for organizations that sponsor this activity.
17. Close the generation gap. Make writing an in-
tergenerational experience. Have your child write out
a list of questions about his grandparents life growing
up, such as what he did on vacation, clothes he wore,
music that was popular. Then he can interview his or
her grandparent, record the answers and learn a little
family history.
18. News you can use. Create a family newsletter.
Have your child write a newsletter with creative stories
on what everyone in the family has been doing. Mail
this out to friends and relatives you dont often see.
19. Love that library. How about enrolling your child
into a summer library program or a bookstore-reading
program? Many bookstores, such as Barnes & Noble
have programs that are incentives to children complet-
ing a number of books during the summer months.
20. Be a role model. Does your child see you
plugged into the iPad or tethered to your laptop, or
does he or she see you poring over books, newspapers
and the sort? If you want your children to be readers,
be a reader yourself. Role modeling is a powerful way
of teaching your children well.
Denise Yearian is the former editor of two parenting maga-
zines and the mother of three children.
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7 million Americans who suffers from excessive sweat-
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describes a degree of sweating that is over and above
what is needed to regulate body temperature.
Hyperhidrosis can happen all over the body or only
in specifc parts. The hands, feet, armpits and the groin
area are the most active regions of perspiration. How-
ever, any part of the body can be affected by hyperhi-
drosis. The condition can start during adolescence or
even before, and it appears that there is a genetic pre-
disposition to the disorder.
Sweaty palms and feet can cause embarrassment
and limit ones job choices, relationships, and ability
to function normally in society. Excessive sweating can
also interfere with everyday activities, such as driving,
taking tests, and holding objects. Facial blushing can
cause anxiety and embarrassment, making it diffcult to
speak in front of others or engage in normal activities
such as extracurricular programs or sports. The condi-
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cially when they involve shaking hands.
The good news is that, in many cases, treatments
are available to control hyperhidrosis. The treatments,
available at centers such as Valley Hospitals Hyper-
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PEDIATRICS
Keeping Summertime Injuries
at Bay at Best
S
ummertime means summer fun,
but unfortunately, it sometimes
also could mean summertime inju-
ries. Youngsters are out and about play-
ing hard and playing hard in the heat. To
keep the summer fun for children and as
free of problems as possible, About Our
Children consulted with Dr. Peter Lee,
director of Valley Hospitals Pediatric
Emergency Department for some good
advice.
Q: What are the most prevalent med-
ical problems facing youngsters during
the summer?
A: Several injuries can happen in the
course of the summer. Soft tissue inju-
ries include cuts, scrapes, bruises; or-
thopedic injuries include sprains, strains
and broken bones; head injuries include
falls, direct trauma; and burns include
sunburn, and burns from fre pits, bar-
beques, freworks. The heat of summer
can also increase injuries. Heat-related
injuries include muscle cramps, heat ex-
haustion and heat stroke. Other injuries
might include bites, strings, envenom-
ations, drowning and near-drowning.
Q: What is your best advice for pre-
venting the summertime trauma that ac-
companies the increase of sports during
the summer months?
A: Trauma related sports injuries
will always occur, as long as the sports
and activities have participants. But cer-
tain measures can help minimize injury
or heat related illnesses. Drinking plenty
of fuids and taking breaks, along with
avoiding the midday heat, can help pre-
vent serious heat-related illness. Wear-
ing protective gear is very important,
especially for contact or collision sports.
Warming up and cooling down after ac-
tivity are vital to help prevent injury and
minimize muscular spasms and strains.
Of course, supervision with appropri-
ate staff, such as coaches, trainers, as-
sistants, is important. Also, it sounds
obvious, but avoiding unnecessary risk
is important in many cases to prevent
traumatic injuries.
Q: What is your best advice for
preventing summertime heat-related
injuries?
A: Listen for heat advisories, use
sunscreen and protective eyewear, drink
plenty of fuids and limit strenuous ac-
tivity in the midday. If you participate in
outdoor activities during the day, take
plenty of breaks and stop all activity if
signs of discomfort or illness develop.
Q: Many youngsters are away for
the summer at sleep-away camp. While
camps are staffed with personnel and
hospitals are located around the camp,
how should a parent best handle an out-
of-town summer injury?
A: Most camps have very good staff,
including counselors, administrators
and medical staff. Most, if not all, camps
have nurses available. Some even have
physicians on site. Of course, it is anxiety
provoking if you were to get a call from
your childs sleep-away camp informing
you of an injury or illness to your child.
A responsible camp will know what they
can and cannot treat on premises, and
what needs to be referred to a regional
medical center. If your child requires
the services of a hospital or Emergency
Department and the choice is available,
I would advise having them seen at a
facility that has expertise with pediatric
patients, such as a separate pediatric
ER. Of course, when considering send-
ing your child to a sleep-away camp, it
would be prudent to know the surround-
ings and medical care available, espe-
cially if your child has chronic medical
conditions.
How to Treat
Summertime Medical Emergencies
Injuries:
Soft tissue injuries: cuts, scrapes,
bruises A First aid, cleansing of wounds.
Deeper wounds must be evaluated by
your doctor or the ER.
Orthopedic injuries: Sprains, strains
and broken bones A Ice, pain medica-
tion, wrap. Must seek medical attention for
signicant pain, swelling or deformity.
Head injuries: falls, direct trauma A
You can observe child at home with
direction by your pediatrician if he or
she appears well. If there is persistent
headache, nausea, vomiting, dizziness or
change in behavior, seek medical atten-
tion.
Burns: sunburn, re pits, barbeques,
reworks. A Apply cool compresses or
running water to the burn quickly. Avoid
application of ice. First-degree burns are
treated as minor burns unless they are
large and involve the face, groin, hands or
feet. You should consult with your physi-
cian. Deeper burns should be evaluated by
a medical professional. As a preventative
measure, children should stay away from
re pits and barbeques.
Heat related illnesses:
Muscle cramps A Rest, cool down, drink
uids. Contact doctor if the symptoms
persist for more than one hour.
Heat exhaustion A Similar to treatment
of heat cramps, although observation is
key and the patient should go to the ER if
their symptoms do not quickly improve.
Heat stroke A Medical emergency: Go
to the Emergency Department.
Bites, stings, envenomations: local
wound care A Consult with your physi-
cian to determine any further care. Seek
immediate medical attention if there is
signicant redness, swelling or pain.
Drowning, near-drowning A Medical
emergency. Must be seen in the
Emergency Department.
Source: Dr. Peter Lee, Director of
Valley Hospitals Pediatric Emergency
Department.
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At Kearny Federal Savings Bank, the fnancial institu-
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For its elementary students, the bank has formal
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its youngster members. The Kirby Kangaroo Club, for
instance, is a savings program. For older students will of-
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and a free checking account, again all to learn the tools
that they youngsters will need and the skills to handle
their money. The credit union also subsidizes a fnancial
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At Valley National Bank the youngest customers are
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able to have a monitored checking account. A new mobile
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randpa, look.
Yehuda held out his 10-year-old fst and slow-
ly opened it. Inside, wriggling like a worm, was a
baby bird. Suddenly I became aware of a screeching all
around us. It was the mother, fitting frantically from
branch to branch of the tree outside the house. Then I
spotted the nest.
Yehuda, you took the bird out of the nest. Its going
to die.
He put it back. To my amazement, the bird lived
and fedged in the coming weeks
Grandpa, look.
In the front yard was the hollowed out remains of
a tree stump. I squinted and there amidst the saw dust
and leaves was a tiny toad. Yehuda was caring for it. He
seemed to be at one with animals.
Yehuda longed for a pet. He wanted a dog, which
was ruled out because of his mothers allergy to animal
fur. His next choice was a lizard, especially a bearded
dragon. He learned about their behavior, their tem-
perature tolerance, their diet. He saved his money. His
parents found a 75-gallon tank on sale so they bought it
to await the arrival of Beardie.
But then Chewy arrived, a dwarf rabbit, white with
brown splotches that had been willed to them from a
neighbor. Chewy, short for Chewbacca of Star Wars
fame, was housed in the basement.
Yehuda and his sister took charge, cleaning the
cage, providing new cedar chips every week, keeping
the dish flled with rabbit chow, ensuring there was wa-
ter in the bottle and a sprinkling of alfalfa in the cage.
Yehuda took the rabbit out each week for a romp
in the back yard. It hopped around, into bushes, pok-
ing into a nearby plot and back again. Yehuda stalked
Chewy between the trees, up and down the slop-
ping lawn. Finally, he closed in and carried the rabbit
squirming back to the cage.
Yehuda, you like animals, dont you?
Yeah, Im going to be a forest ranger.
Thats a good job, but youll never get rich.
Well, my wife will be a dermatologist.
Yehuda had it fgured out -- a pleasurable job for
him and a prosperous wife to supplement the income.
But then he apparently decided not to rely only on a
spouse to provide lifes comforts.
Yehuda has gone into business, his father
announced.
Each day Yehuda brought a supply of candy bars to
school and sold them to his ffth grade classmates until
it was decided this was not appropriate for a yeshiva.
So instead, the enterprising Yehuda sold his wares on
the school bus. It was a thriving business. He expanded
and supplemented the candy bars with honey buns.
Where do you get your merchandise? I asked.
Sorry, Grandpa, thats confdential,
Yehuda was not all business and animal care. He
was also a skier, a wall climber, a roller coaster fanatic
and a Lego freak. He also had a temper as evidenced by
the smashed window in his room.
He is, in fact, a high-energy person. On skis, he just
Growing Up with Grandpa
Waiting in the Wings
cared about speed. On his second day on the mountain,
he crashed into a fence. When his two older siblings
switched from skis to snowboards, he did too, and he
kept up with them. When he was eight years old, we
took him to Busch Gardens, but he had no use for the
calm sedentary attractions.
I just want to ride roller coasters, he declared, and
the wilder, more frightening the better. They were more
than I could tolerate, so we decided to let him ride
alone, and we would meet him at the exit. Then Tim ap-
peared, a New York City police offcer retired with a gun
shot wound disability. He, too, had a passion for riding
Growing Up continued on p. 20
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Growing Up with Grandpa
Waiting in the Wings
hair-raising roller coasters, and he trav-
eled around the country doing so.
He can ride with me. So Tim and Ye-
huda buckled themselves into the Loch
Ness Monster with its 114-foot drop,
looping at 60 miles per hour around
65-degree curves. After that, they went
on the Griffon, the Big Bad Wolf and
Apollos Chariot, while Tims wife and Ye-
hudas grandparents watched in shock
and awe.
When Yehudas tenth birthday ap-
proached, we wanted to do something
special a wall-climbing party for him
and his friends. The climbing empo-
rium had walls for all levels of exper-
tise from the novice to the would-be
Hillarys and Tenzings. Each climber was
strapped into a harness attached to a
rope controlled by a skilled belayer,
who protected the climber from falling.
Yehuda briskly climbed the novice and
intermediate walls, and then, for an ex-
tra challenge, did it all again blindfolded.
Meanwhile, the 75-gallon tank await-
ed the bearded dragon, whose arrival
was inexplicably delayed, but the tank
was put to good use anyway. Yehuda
and his kid brother used it as the setting
to build a phantasmagoria of Lego struc-
tures so enthralling that they decided to
charge a viewing fee.
Though Yehuda was a person of
varied and intense interests, he neglect-
ed one particular area schoolwork.
Homework, was an intolerable chore.
His mother described the problem.
He needed a change of pace. Something
didnt feel right. He seemed stressed out,
unhappy. Homework felt like a battle of
wills. The sparkle in his eyes had dimin-
ished. It was painful to watch him wilt
like a fower that hadnt been watered
properly.
It was decided that the change of
pace would be school at home with Ye-
hudas mother as his teacher. Yehuda
had never known her in this role. At
frst there was resistance, his mother
said. There were mornings when we
walked out on each other.
She followed the advice of some
other home school mothers to give the
arrangement time. Their schedule was
an effcient Monday through Thursday
schedule for math, English and history.
Hebrew was tutored privately. Friday
was reserved for Shabbos chores, and
Sunday was catch-up for lessons they
may have missed. Electronic games
were hidden, but fun not ruled out. There
were visits to a farm, a museum, gym-
nastics, canoeing on the Chesapeake.
A major change took place, said
his mother. He wants to learn. He be-
gan writing for the fun of it. He attends a
Shabbos shiur. I didnt prod him. He will
go back to school because he wants to.
He misses his school friends.
Yehuda did go back to school. He
was an outstanding student.
Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen
Record in New Jersey, then the New York
Herald Tribune where he was City Hall
bureau chief. Later, he was a public infor-
mation ofcer for the New York City Transit
Authority and editor of one of its employee
publications.
The author and his grandson, Yehuda.
Growing Up continued
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THOUGH
YEHUDA WAS A
PERSON OF VAR-
IED AND INTENSE
INTERESTS, HE
NEGLECTED ONE
PARTICULAR
AREA SCHOOL-
WORK.
HOMEWORK,
WAS AN INTOLER-
ABLE CHORE.
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Seven Days of Jewish Wisdom
to Build a Stronger Marriage
S L OV I E J UNGR E I S - WOL F F
W
ith hearts full of sadness we
have decided to separate.
Gwyneth Paltrow announced
her conscious uncoupling from hus-
band Chris Martin on her website Goop.
Paltrow has been candid about the
diffculty of marriage in the past. Its
hard being married, she said. You go
through great times, you go through
terrible times. Were the same as any
couple.
Whether you are a famous celeb-
rity or an ordinary couple, keeping your
marriage alive can be a struggle. Creat-
ing a happy life together takes sweat.
It requires introspection, courage and
commitment.
Torahs wisdom provides a path for
us to build a home flled with love. How
much effort we put into the journey is
our choice. When a marriage is coasting
along or feels stuck, I am often asked if
one partner can really make a difference.
The answer quite simply is yes. If a
husband or wife decides to nourish the
relationship, there is a renewed sense
of hope. The energy in the home grows
positive. True, it may take time, but our
spouse will eventually mirror our emo-
tions. If you offer love, you will strength-
en your bond. If you generate pain, you
will probably discover more pain. If you
withdraw emotionally, the void will over-
come you.
For the next seven days be inspired
to love. Drawing upon Torah wisdom for
each day, here is a concrete seven-day
plan of action to empower you to love.
In one week you will discover that you
have the inner strength to climb from
the promise of love to genuine daily
practice, moving from a place of frus-
trated dreams to a more joyous reality.
DAY ONE: SMILE
Shammai says, receive each person with
a cheerful face (Ethics of the Fathers, 1:
15).
When you see your spouse for the
frst time in the morning, give a smile.
When evening comes and you see each
other again, greet your partner with a
pleasant face. Even if you had a lousy
day there was a problem in the offce,
your sons principal called, and there
is a leak in your bathroom dont lose
your smile. A smile warms the heart. It
shows our husband that we are happy
to see him. It relays to our wife that we
are glad to be here.
The way we wake up to each other
can set a tone for the day. A grumpy look
creates a sour mood. Morning or night,
be careful that the frst moments you
see each other you do not convey stress
and pressure. For a house to be a haven,
it must be a place of joy. Our faces proj-
ect a feeling of warmth and pleasure or
aloofness and distaste.
Today be the frst to smile. Commu-
nicate tenderness. Create joy.
DAY TWO: GIVE PLEASURE
Love others as you love yourself (Le-
viticus 19:18).
Instead of asking what has he done
for me lately, ask what can I do to show
my love? Dont wait for your spouse to
initiate good feeling, today you be the
one to bring pleasure to your relation-
ship. The best way to do this is by think-
ing what it is that you would want and
then just do it for your spouse. Make a
surprise breakfast, bring home a favor-
ite treat, offer to take on a carpool, run
an errand, set up a date night any-
thing to show that you care.
How would you want your spouse to
treat you? Give emotional support. Give
undivided attention. Give of your time.
Give the gift of love. This is the key to
create a stronger bond.
Today put new energy into your re-
lationship and do an act of kindness for
your spouse.
DAY THREE: SPEAK KINDLY
Death and Life are in the power of the
tongue (Proverbs, 18: 21).
Words create. Words devastate. With
one word we can encourage dreams, cre-
ate joy, inspire hope and soothe wounds.
And with one word we can inject hatred,
cause grief, destroy desire and demolish
self-esteem. Today speak with kindness
and dignity even when you disagree.
Challenge yourself to stay away from
saying things like are you nuts? whats
your problem?, and cant you do any-
thing right? Determine that you will stop
shaming and embarrassing your partner.
Instead of using put downs or dwelling
on past hurts, extend words of gratitude.
DAY FOUR: BE SILENT
A protective fence for wisdom is silence
(Ethics of the Fathers, 3:17).
There are times that it is better to
hold your tongue than to respond. An-
ger can bring a person to say things
he doesnt mean. Rage can cause deep
regret. Silence takes you to a place of
wisdom. You can review your words
and think before you act. Many couples
tell me that they dont even remember
how the awful argument started. If only
someone would have remained silent,
the situation would not have spiraled
out of control.
Today think before you speak. If you
are about to erupt in impatience or an-
ger, hold yourself back. Curb negative
comments. If you are provoked, fnd the
strength to keep silent.
DAY FIVE: BE A FRIEND
Acquire for yourself a friend (Ethics of
the Fathers, 1:6).
See your spouse as your best friend.
Best friends are loyal to one another.
They share each others secrets but do
not reveal them to others. True friend-
ship means we dont gossip or complain
about our spouse. We revel in each oth-
ers success and are not indifferent or
uncaring when there is pain. We believe
in each other. Friends enjoy each others
company and are sure to make time for
one another. Laughter is a large part of
life together. A good friend is accepting
of shortcomings because the focus is on
what is right about the person instead of
what is wrong.
Do something today that will ex-
press your friendship for your spouse.
Be thoughtful. Challenge yourself to con-
fde in your spouse. Make your spouse
feel safe with you. Show that you trust
and are trustworthy.
DAY SIX: RESPECT
Who is honored? He who honors others
(Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1).
Respect is the bedrock of marriage.
Too often we believe that if we show
respect, we will seem vulnerable. We re-
strain ourselves from displaying honor
and instead wait to see how our spouse
will honor us frst. We lose out on a great
opportunity to express our love through
consideration.
When you are sitting at a meal with
your spouse, turn off your iPhone. If
your wife asks you to do something,
dont keep pushing her off. When your
husband makes a comment, stop rolling
your eyes.
Your challenge today is to fnd a way
to show honor to your spouse. Com-
municate respect through your actions
and words. Watch your tone and facial
expressions. Be courageous and express
feelings of admiration and affection.
DAY SEVEN: SEEK PEACE
Be among the disciples of Aaron, loving
peace and pursuing peace (Ethics of
the Fathers, 1:12).
What is your goal? You want to build
a home flled with serenity. When there
is war in marriage, even if you prevail,
you lose. There are no winners in this
battle. You must decide to seek peace.
The fnal challenge is to pursue
peace. Can you give in to your spouse
for the purpose of shalom bayit, peace
in the home? Can you hear your part-
ners side and put yourself in the place
of another? Be the frst to say Im sor-
ry? Dont harden your heart and refuse
to forgive. Let it go. Free yourself from
the burden of having always to be right.
It is true; marriage can be hard. But
it is also the greatest gift, the most awe-
some opportunity to discover true love.
May we all fnd the strength and courage
to grow and give today so that when to-
morrow arrives our homes will be flled
with blessing.
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting and
couples coach and the author of Raising a
Child with Soul, (St. Martins Press).
Reprinted with permission of Aish.com.
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continues to inspire young and old alike.
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puzzle. With highly interactive physical and digital
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of people everywhere on Earth?
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and Rubik, and will be on view at the Jersey City Mu-
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seven years.
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ity, the Cube has connected people everywhere. Speed-
cubers travel the globe to meet one another. Game
designers trade secrets and collaborate on puzzles. Mu-
sicians and magicians share their Cube-inspired tracks
and tricks online.
Originally named the Magic Cube by Rubik, the puz-
zle was licensed by him to be sold by Ideal Toy Corp.
in 1980 through German businessman Tibor Laczi and
Seven Towns founder Tom Kremer. That same year it
won the German Game of the Year special award for
Best Puzzle that year. As of January 2009, 350 million
cubes had been sold worldwide.
In a classic Rubiks Cube, each of the six faces is
covered by nine stickers, each of one of six solid colors
(white, red, blue, orange, green, and yellow; in currently
sold models, white is opposite yellow, blue is opposite
green, and orange is opposite red, and the red, white
and blue are arranged in that order in a clockwise ar-
rangement. An internal pivot mechanism enables each
face to turn independently, thus mixing up the colors.
For the puzzle to be solved, each face must be returned
to consisting of one color.
Although the Rubiks Cube reached its height of
mainstream popularity in the 1980s, many speedcu-
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and compete for the fastest times in various categories.
Since 2003, The World Cube Association, the Rubiks
Cubes international governing body, has organized
competitions and kept the offcial world records.
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Bnai mitzvah
STEFFANI AISENMAN
Steffani Aisenman, daughter
of Lori and Craig Aisenman of
Hillsdale, celebrated becom-
ing a bat mitzvah on May 10
at Congregation Bnai Israel
in Emerson.
ALEXA BOLNICK
Alexa Bolnick, daughter of
Jaimie and Michael Bolnick of
Oakland and sister of Ryan,
celebrated becoming a bat
mitzvah on May 10 at Temple
Beth Rishon in Wyckoff.
MATTHEW BURSTEIN
Matthew Burstein, son of
Cynthia and Steven Burstein
of Harrington Park, celebrat-
ed becoming a bar mitzvah
on May 3 at Temple Beth El
of Northern Valley in Closter.
JUSTIN COHEN
Justin Cohen, son of Jennifer
and Mitchell Cohen of
Fair Lawn, twin brother of
Zachary, and brother of
Sydney, celebrated becoming
a bar mitzvah on May 3 at
the Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
Congregation Bnai Israel.
ZACHARY COHEN
Zachary Cohen, son of
Jennifer and Mitchell Cohen
of Fair Lawn, twin brother of
Justin, and brother of Sydney,
celebrated becoming a bar
mitzvah on May 3 at the
Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
Congregation Bnai Israel.
SAMANTHA COHN
Samantha Cohn, daughter of
Jill and Phil Cohn of Hillsdale
and sister of Joshua, cele-
brated becoming a bat mitz-
vah on May 3 at Temple Beth
Or in Washington Township.
WILLIAM COOK
William Cook, son of
Phylisse and Steve Cook of
Washington Township and
brother of Andrew, celebrat-
ed becoming a bar mitzvah
on April 26 at Temple Beth
Or in Washington Township.
JAKE DIAMOND
Jake Diamond, son of
Robin and Ivan Diamond
of Paramus and brother
of Shoshanna, celebrated
becoming a bar mitzvah on
May 17 at Congregation Beth
Sholom in Teaneck.
BRIAN FEILER
Brian Feiler, son of Larry and
Debra Feiler of River Vale
and brother of Matthew and
Robbie, celebrated becom-
ing a bar mitzvah on May 10
at Temple Emanuel of the
Pascack Valley in Woodcliff
Lake.
ZACHARY FRUCHT
Zachary Frucht, son of
Leslie and Leonard Frucht
of Fair Lawn and brother of
Benjamin, celebrated becom-
ing a bar mitzvah on April
26 at the Fair Lawn Jewish
Center/Congregation Bnai
Israel.
MAX GARFINKLE
Max Garnkle, son of
Christina and Neil Garnkle
of Fair Lawn, and brother of
Benjamin, celebrated becom-
ing a bar mitzvah on May
17 at the Fair Lawn Jewish
Center/Congregation Bnai
Israel.
Simchas
JULIAN
GOLDMAN-BROWN
Julian Goldman-Brown,
son of Lauren and Joshua
Goldman Brown of Piermont,
N.Y., and brother of Adrian
and Nathaniel, celebrated
April 26 at Congregation
Beth Sholom in Teaneck.
JASON GORDON
Jason Gordon, son of Laurie
and Richard Gordon of
Wyckoff and brother of
Harrison, celebrated becom-
17 at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.
JOSEPH GROSSMAN
Joseph Grossman, son of
Liz and Seth Grossman
of Ridgewood, celebrated
May 10 at Temple Israel and
Jewish Community Center in
Ridgewood.
HANNAH KEEN
Hannah Keen, daughter of
Rachel and Robert Keen of
Ridgewood and sister of Evan,
Beth Or in Washington
Township.
HAILEY KRAFT
Hailey Kraft, daughter of Jill
and David Kraft of River Vale
and sister of Avery, celebrat-
ed becoming a bat mitzvah
on May 10 at Temple Emeth
in Teaneck.
GIORGIA LEVY
Giorgia Levy, daughter of
Daniela and Michael Levy of
Ridgewood and sister of Julia,
Beth Or in Washington
Township.
JORDAN MARCUS
Jordan Marcus, son of Blake
and Andrew Marcus of
Hillsdale and twin brother of
Mason, celebrated becom-
26 at Temple Emanuel of
the Pascack Valley, Woodcliff
Lake.
MASON MARCUS
Mason Marcus, son of Blake
and Andrew Marcus of
Hillsdale and twin brother of
Jordan, celebrated becom-
26 at Temple Emanuel of
the Pascack Valley, Woodcliff
Lake.
BRIAN MERSON
Brian Merson, son of Tara
and Steven Merson of
Woodcliff Lake, celebrated
May 3 at Temple Emanuel
of the Pascack Valley in
Woodcliff Lake.
WILLIAM MILUN
William Milun, son of Lisa
and Ashley Milun of Teaneck
and brother of Lewis and
David, celebrated becoming
a bar mitzvah on May 3 at
Congregation Beth Sholom in
Teaneck.
JUSTIN PECORE
Justin Pecore, son of Jill and
Douglas Pecore of Wyckoff
and brother of Camryn, cele-
brated becoming a bar mitz-
vah on May 10 at Temple
Beth Rishon in Wyckoff.
SAMUEL PINTEL
Samuel Pintel, son of Laura
and Joshua Pintel of Glen
Rock and brother of Lexie
and Taylor, celebrated
May 10 at the Fair Lawn
Jewish Center/Congregation
Bnai Israel.
IVY POLESOVSKY
Ivy Polesovsky, daughter
of Jeannie Polesovsky of
Oakland and sister of Mia
and Ian, celebrated becom-
ing a bat mitzvah on April
26 at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.
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RACHEL SCHOEMAN
Rachel Schoeman, daugh-
ter of Deborah and David
Schoeman of Tenay, and
sister of Lily, celebrated
becoming a bat mitzvah on
May 10 at Temple Sinai in
Tenay.
JESSICA SEIDMAN
Jessica Seidman, daughter
of Lori and Aron Seidman
of Ridgewood and sister
of Samantha, celebrated
becoming a bat mitzvah on
May 3 at Temple Beth Or in
Washington Township.
DUSTIN ROSENFELD
Dustin Rosenfeld, son of
Stacey and Ira Rosenfeld of
Haworth, celebrated becom-
17 at Temple Beth El of
Northern Valley in Closter.
THOMAS WERTHEIMER
Thomas Wertheimer, son of
Sarah Wertheimer Lopez
and James Lopez of Lake
Hiawatha, and grandson of
Karen and Ron Wertheimer
of Teaneck, celebrated
May 17 at Temple Emeth in
Teaneck.
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1. Rabbi Shelley Kniaz of Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack Valley leads a
TorahHome session for the Loskant
family of Allendale and friends from
surrounding towns. The children range
from age 3 - 5. Families may keep the
Torah in their home for up to a week
with a variety of special activities. Here
is Eric Loskant.
2. At Temple Sinais Sinai Federation
of Temple Youth meeting on April 28,
the Brotherhood presented a $1,168
check to the Temple Sinai Youth Fund.
Pictured (from l. to r.) Youth Director
Anat Katzir, Jonah Pasternak, Matt
Horbacewicz, Rachel Jacobus, Brad
Schusell, Brotherhood President David
Klein, Rabbi Jordan Millstein, Rabbinic
Intern/Youth Director Jonah Zinn, and
Noah Rosenberg (missing: Roman
Broszkowski, Liam Waxman, Sky Bolkin,
Molly Friedman, and Ryan Ratty).
3. Gerrard Berman Day School 8th
graders visited the Kotel, lunched
in Beduoin tents, climbed Masada,
celebrated Yom HaZikaron at Mount
Hertzl, rafted down the Jordan river,
explored Ben Yehuda Street and so
much more during their two week
trip to the Holy Land. The schools
annual 8th grade trip to Israel is the
culmination of an engaging Judaic
studies program that starts in Early
Childhood. The students have been
chronicling their adventures in daily
emails to the student body.
4. Students from The Elisabeth Morrow
School took first and second place
in the 2014 Mathleague.org state
championship contest, which took
place April 28. The competition, which
was held at the school, involved over
150 students from 15 schools, each of
whom had participated in a Mathleague.
org contest during the past year.
Twenty-three EMS students from third
through sixth grade participated in the
competition. Sixth-grader Cameron Woo
of Closter achieved the highest score of
any student in the competition.
5. Youngsters from Glen Rock Jewish
Centers Teen HERO social action group
held a food drive at Kilroys in Glen Rock
to benefit the Center for Food Action.
Teen HERO is open to GRJC members
from 7th graders to 12th graders.
6. Graduates of Eternal Flame program
of Valley Chabad are pictured with
Youth Directors Rabbi Yosef and Mrs.
Estie Orenstein, left, Diane Herzog and
Michael Leob, center, and Valley Chabad
Director Rabbi Dov Drizin, right.
7. It was an all-day celebration of Yom
Haatzmaut, Israels Independence Day,
at Rockland Jewish Academy when 30
rabbinical students from Riverdales Yeshivat
Chovevei Torah joined the fun. Led by Jordan
Soffer, whose mother teaches preschoolers at
RJA, the YCT students planned and presented
a trip through Israels varied cities and
regions, incorporating activities and education
at each station.
8. When Israel turned 66 on May 6th, the
children in the Temple Emeth Early Childhood
Center were right there to celebrate. They
enjoyed an outdoor cafe in Tel Aviv where
they listened to Israeli music and snacked on
pita and hummus.
9. Mother Earth visits Barnert Temple
Preschool & Kindergarten to teach the
children about composting, gardening,
recycling, and the importance of worms.
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Going for Fore and More at
Tappan Golf Center
Tis the season to get outside and get your tee up with a fun game of miniature golf or
go-karting at the lush Tappan Golf Center in Tappan, N.Y. The facility is a great place for
families looking for an outdoor and affordable activity, says Tappan Golf Center manager
Dorothy Cho. For instance, the miniature golf is a full 18-hole game that takes about
an hour to complete and costs
only $6 for adults and $5 for
children. In addition, there is
also fun with go-karting and a
double decker driving range. The
center can also accommodate
childrens birthday parties for
up to 30 celebrants. Tappan
Golf Center, 116 Route 303,
Tappan, N.Y. 845-359-0642,
www.clostergolfcenter.com
Lions and Tigers and Bears, Oh
My! The Circus in Wayne
Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, step right up. The Kelly Miller Circus rolls into town
Sunday, June 22 for two shows, noon and 4 p.m., on the grounds of the Bergen County
YJCC. This traditional tented circus features elephants, tigers, camels, ponies and a cast
of stars, including aerialists, acrobats and clowns. Owned and produced by John Ringling
North II, the Kelly Miller Circus celebrates its 76th year. The event is a fundraiser for
the Bergen County YJCC. Advance-sale tickets $10 for adults, $6 for children are avail-
able at the YJCC and online at www.yjcc.org. Bergen County YJCC, 605 Pascack Road,
Township of Washington 201-666-6610.
Canine Adventure with
Clifford
the Big Red Dog
Board the Birdwell Island ferry and
visit the world of Clifford, Americas
beloved big red dog at a new exhibi-
tion at the Liberty Science Center.
Inspired by the PBS show, the exhibi-
tion offers adventures, which reinforce
Cliffords Big Ideas 10 life lessons
designed to help youngsters, includ-
ing sharing, playing fair, believing
in yourself and helping others. The
exhibition also includes a chance
to visit Cliffords favorite places and
play with friends. Visitors can explore
Cliffords doghouse, climb up a nine-
foot Clifford and slide down his tail,
just like Emily Elizabeth does. Liberty
Science Center, Liberty State Park,
222 Jersey City Boulevard, Jersey
City. 201-200-1000, www.lsc.org.
Golden Anniversary
Parade for Israel
Its easy to think of 50
reasons to celebrate
Israel, the theme of this
years 50th anniversary
of the Celebrate Israel
Parade. The annual
march of support, which
draws tens of thousands
of supporters, began in
1964 with thousands of
people who walked down
Riverside Drive to show
support for the young
State of Israel. From this
impromptu walk the
Salute to Israel Parade
along Fifth Avenue had
evolved. In 2011 it was
renamed Celebrate Israel
Parade. This year again, tens of thousands of participants from
schools, to organizations and individuals, will proudly show support come rain
or shine on Sunday, June 1 from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. The parade route runs along
Fifth Avenue from 57th to 74th Street in Manhattan.
To Our Readers: To Our Readers: This calendar is a day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, its a
good idea to call to verify details before you go.
To Add Your Event to Our Calendar
Send it to:
Calendar Editor
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1086 Teaneck Road
Teaneck, NJ 0766 AboutOCaol.com
or fax it to: 201-833-4959
Deadline for Summer issue (published June 20):
Tuesday, June17
Monday, May 26
Color Me Fun Family Run/Walk: Hosted
by Yeshivat Noam for the entire community.
From 9 a.m. to 11 a.m. at Yeshivat Noam, 70
W. Century Road, Paramus. This will be the
most colorful, the most memorable and the
messiest family tness experience. Register
online at www.yeshivatnoam.org or email
colormefun@yeshivatnoam.org.
Wednesday, May 28
Infant & Child Safety Class: Valley Hospital
offers a class that includes safety tips from poison
prevention to childproong a home. 7 to 9:30.
$50 per couple. The Dorothy B. Kraft Center, 15
Essex Road, Paramus. 201-291-6151.
Thursday, May 29
Womens Health Lecture: Dr. Noah Goldman, a
gynecologic oncologist at Valley Hospital to speak
on Your Passport to Gynecologic Health from
7 to 8:30 p.m. at The Ridgewood Public Library,
125 N. Maple Ave., Ridgewood.
Friday, May 30
You Are What You Eat: A well symposium with
medical and nutritional experts who will dispel
myths about sound nutrition. 11:30 a.m. recep-
tion followed by lunch at noon and program at
12:30 p.m. $50. Kaplen JCC on the Palisades,
411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenay, 201-408-1405 or
well@jccotp.org.
Saturday, May 31
Summer Day Camp Sampler: Summer Play
School Preschool Camp for ages 2-5 will be run-
ning a Camp Sampler from 10 a.m. to noon White
Pines Day Camp (Traditional Day Camp, Summer
Sports Academy, and Performing Arts Specialty
Camp) for ages 2 to15, will be running a Camp
Sampler from 1 to 4:30 p.m. Free. Wayne YWCA,
1 Pike Drive, Wayne. 973-595-0100.
Sunday, June 1
Rummage Sale: The Sisterhood of Temple Beth
El will hold its rummage sale with bargains galore
from 10 a.m. to noon and 1 to 3 p.m. Temple
Beth El, 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-
768-5112.
Torah and Tea: Jewish Womens Circle invites all
women and girls ages 9 and older to an evening
of art, fun and inspiration. Learn about ower
drying. $10. 7:30 p.m. Chabad of Passaic County,
194 Ratzer Road, Wayne. 973-694-6274,
chanig@optonline.net.
Musical Petting Zoo: The Thurnauer School of
Music showcases itself and offers sample music
classes for free from 1 to 3 p.m. Families can
try various instruments in an effort to register
for the upcoming season. Thurnauer School of
Music at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades, 411 E.
Clinton Ave., Tenay. 201-569-7900 ext. 375,
thurnauer@jccotp.org.
Kids in Action: The last program of the sea-
son with a special trip. From 1 to 2:30 p.m.
$10 per child. Light lunch served. The Chabad
Center, 194 Ratzer Road, Wayne. RSVP Chani at
chanig@optonline.net,, 973-694-6274.
Celebrate Israel Parade: Its easy to think of
50 reasons to celebrate Israel, the theme of this
years 50th anniversary of the Celebrate Israel
Parade. The annual march of support will take
place rain or shine from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. The
parade route runs along Fifth Avenue from 57th
to 74th Street in Manhattan.
Monday, June 2
Masterpiece Monday at the Jewish Museum:
Family gallery tours at from 3:30 to 4:30 p.m. for
ages 4 to 7. Explore the galleries with sketching,
art activities and more. The Jewish Museum,
Tuesday, June 3
Shavuot Services at Temple Israel & JCC: The
community is invited to 8 p.m. services followed
by a late night study session. Services continue
Wednesday and Thursday 9 a.m. Temple Israel of
Ridgewood, 475 Grove St., Ridgewood. 201-444-
9320.
Shavuot Services at Temple Emanuel of the
Pascack Valley: 8 p.m. services followed by a
night of study. Services on Wednesday 9:30 a.m.
service and 8 p.m. service. Thursday at 9:30 a.m.
Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley, 87
Overlook Drive, Woodcliff Lake, 201-391-0801.
Wednesday, June 4
Chabad Shavuot Dinner: Chabad of Passaic
County will host a community Shavuot dinner at
5:30 p.m. Enjoy a dairy buffet and ice cream des-
sert and hear the Ten Commandments. $10 cost.
The Chabad Center, 194 Ratzer Road, Wayne.
Shavuot Service in Closter: Temple Beth El
invites the community for a Shavuot morn-
ing service 10:30 a.m. Temple Beth El, 221
Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201 768-5112.
Friday, June 6
Family Shabbat at Temple Emeth: Shabbat
services starting at 7:30 p.m. Temple Emeth,
1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck. 201-833-1322,
www.emeth.org.
Saturday, June 7
What is Cord Blood Banking: The Valley
Hospital Center offers a class to learn about col-
lection and storage of stem cells found in your
newborns umbilical cord. Noon to 1 p.m. at
Destination Maternitys Learning Studio, 35 Plaza
on Westbound Route 4, Paramus. 201-291-6151,
www.ValleyHealth.com.
Hatha Yoga in the Gardens: Yoga outdoors in
the gardens of Wave Hill. Free class. Free admis-
sion to the gardens, 11 a.m. to 12:15 p.m. Wave
Hill, W. 249 St. and Independence Avenue, the
Bronx.
Sunday, June 8
Street Fair in Nanuet: More than 150 vendors
will be on hand for the rst Street Fair in the
hamlet of Nanuet, in Rockland County N.Y. The
fair, sponsored by the Great Nanuet Chamber
of Commerce, will be held from 10 a.m. to
5 p.m. and will run the course of Main Street
from the Stop & Shop to Prospect Street.
www.nanuetchamber.com
Egg Roll and Egg Cream Festival: Celebrate
Jewish and Chinese culture at the crossroads of
the Lower East Side and Chinatown in Manhattan.
From noon to 4 p.m. on Eldridge St. between
Canal and Division Streets. Marvel at Chinese
opera and acrobatics while listening to klezmer
music and learning Yiddish. 212-219-0302,
www.eldridgestreet.org.
Almost Summer Celebration: Join kiddie rocker
Brady Rymer and the Little Band that Could and
interactive performances by Native American
hoop dance Marie McKinney-Ponce and Play Me
a Story. The celebration will take place in Wagner
Park adjacent to the Museum of Jewish Heritage
A Living Memorial to the Holocaust, which
co-sponsors the event from 11 a.m to 2 p.m.
Museum of Jewish Heritage: A Living Memorial to
the Holocaust, Edmond J. Safra Plaza, 36 Battery
Place, Manhattan.
Wednesday, June 11
Healthy Meals in a Snap: Dietitian Natalie Nachef
will be at the Wayne YMCA at 1 p.m. to teach how
to put healthy meals together quickly. Free, but
RSVPs are necessary. Y is at 1 Pike Drive, Wayne.
973-595-0100.
Thursday, June 12
Beatles 50th Anniversary Tribute: bergenPAC
presents 1964 The Tribute, 50th anniversary
of the Beatles coming to America tour. 8 p.m.,
bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt St., Englewood.
201-227-1030, www.ticketmaster.com,
www.bergenpac.org,
Friday, June 13
Tot Shabbat in Closter: Temple Beth El invites
families to a Tot Shabbat at 5:15 p.m. Tot
Shabbat is open to all nursery school age children
and features song, stories, and crafts. Temple Beth
El, 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-768-
5112.
Family Shabbat in Closter: Family Shabbat
Service with BETY (Beth El Youth Group), camp
send-off, and blessings for high school seniors at
6:45 pm. Temple Beth El, 221 Schraalenburgh
Road, Closter. 201-768-5112.
Saturday, June 14
Conference for Fathers of Special Needs
Children: Statewide conference 8:30 a.m.
to 3:30 p.m. RSE&G Childrens Specialized
Hospital, Auditoriums 1 & 2, 200 Somerset St.,
New Brunswick. Registration, fathersconfer-
ence2014.eventbrite.com. 609-665-2696,
deepas@spannj.org.
Monday, June 16
Museum Mile Festival: New York Citys big-
gest art block party offering free access to
nine museums from the Metropolitan Museum
of Art to the Guggenheim at 6 to 9 p.m. on
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See Sunday, June 1, Thurnauer School of Music
Brady Rhymer and the Little Band That Could, see Sunday, June 8
the Holocaust, Edmond J. Safra Plaza, 36 Battery
Place, Manhattan.
Wednesday, June 11
Healthy Meals in a Snap: Dietitian Natalie Nachef
will be at the Wayne YMCA at 1 p.m. to teach how
to put healthy meals together quickly. Free, but
RSVPs are necessary. Y is at 1 Pike Drive, Wayne.
973-595-0100.
Thursday, June 12
Beatles 50th Anniversary Tribute: bergenPAC
presents 1964 The Tribute, 50th anniversary
of the Beatles coming to America tour. 8 p.m.,
bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt St., Englewood.
201-227-1030, www.ticketmaster.com,
www.bergenpac.org,
Friday, June 13
Tot Shabbat in Closter: Temple Beth El invites
families to a Tot Shabbat at 5:15 p.m. Tot
Shabbat is open to all nursery school age children
and features song, stories, and crafts. Temple Beth
El, 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-768-
5112.
Family Shabbat in Closter: Family Shabbat
Service with BETY (Beth El Youth Group), camp
send-off, and blessings for high school seniors at
6:45 pm. Temple Beth El, 221 Schraalenburgh
Road, Closter. 201-768-5112.
Saturday, June 14
Conference for Fathers of Special Needs
Children: Statewide conference 8:30 a.m.
to 3:30 p.m. RSE&G Childrens Specialized
Hospital, Auditoriums 1 & 2, 200 Somerset St.,
New Brunswick. Registration, fathersconfer-
ence2014.eventbrite.com. 609-665-2696,
deepas@spannj.org.
Monday, June 16
Museum Mile Festival: New York Citys big-
gest art block party offering free access to
nine museums from the Metropolitan Museum
of Art to the Guggenheim at 6 to 9 p.m. on
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PARTY
973-661-9368
Fifth Avenue between 82 and 105 Streets
in Manhattan. Along the way, enjoy music,
art and entertainment.212-606-2296,
www.museummilefestival.org.
Saturday, June 21
Coney Island Mermaid Parade: Coney Island
Boardwalk between W. 21 and W. 10 Streets,
Coney Island, Brooklyn. Free. 1 p.m. The parade
includes King Neptune, oats, marching bands
and of course, mermaids galore. 718-372-5159,
www.coneyisland.com.
Sunday June 22
Circus at Bergen Y: The Kelly Miller Circus
will hold two shows at noon and 4 p.m. on the
grounds of the Bergen County YJCC, 605 Pascack
Road. Township of Washington. Advance tickets
are $10 for adults, $6 for children. 201-666-
6610, www.yjcc.org.
Sharks at the Museum: American Museum
of Natural History presents its Milstein Science
Series: Sharks at 11 a.m. and 4 p.m. Free with
admission. Milstein Hall of Ocean Life, American
Museum of Natural History, 79th Street and
Central Park West, Manhattan. www.amnh.org.
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Summer Fun with Shalom Yeladim
Shalom Yeladim is promising another
great summer at its three convenient lo-
cations. Warm and experienced teachers
are qualifed to meet the changing needs
of children, ages 6 weeks through 5 years
old. The summer camp includes weekly
Shabbat parties, water play/swimming,
arts & crafts, nature and gardening, bak-
ing, gym and outdoor play, feld trips and
many more exciting activities. All loca-
tions offer extended hours and a catered
hot lunch program. Check it out at www.
ShalomYeladim.com.
Baby & Me Yoga
The Valley Hospitals Center for Family
Education is offering a program entitled
Baby & Me Yoga. This program is
designed for mothers and their babies,
approximately 6 weeks to 1 year. The
program will be held on Monday, June
2, 9, 16, 23 and 30 or Wednesday, June
4, 11, 18 and 25 from noon to 1 p.m.
This program will be held at the Desti-
nation Maternitys Learning Studio, 35
Plaza on Westbound Route 4, Paramus
on Mondays, and Wednesdays. www.
ValleyHealth.com/FamilyEducation,
201-291-6151.
Aquatics Open House at the YJCC
The Bergen County YJCC invites the
entire community to an Aquatics Open
House on Sunday, June 1 from 11 a.m. to
2 p.m. The Open House will showcase
the YJCCs aquatics program and staff.
Sample a private or semi-private swim
lesson, from mommy & me through
teens, 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Try an aquacise
class, 11 to 11:30 a.m. Learn about the
YJCCs swim lessons for individuals with
special needs and see a sample lesson,
noon to 1 p.m. See a demonstration by
the YJCC Bergen Sharks swim team,
including racing, diving, fip turns and
more, noon to 2 p.m.
The YJCCs facility at 605 Pas-
cack Road, Township of Washington,
201-666-6610.
JCC Musical Theater Camp
Center Stage, the JCCs full-day musi-
cal theater camp, is now registering
9-14-year-old students for a fabulous
two-week adventure in acting, improv,
movement and song that will culminate
in a Broadway-style musical production
of South Pacifc Premier, where all camp
participants will have the opportunity
to develop their talent and stage pres-
ence and experience the pleasures of
performing at a very high level. The
camp will also offer scenery and lighting
experience for those who are interested
in these aspects of theater, and will
include swimming in the JCC Olympic-
sized pool for the last hour of the day.
The camp is open to members of all
ages and nonmembers ages 10 and up.
Price of two-week session includes DVD
of performance. Fees per session: $725
JCC members, $870 nonmembers. Lunch
option $75, Early drop-off 8:30-9:20 a.m.:
$95/$120. www.jccotp.org or call school
of Performing Arts, 411 E. Clinton Ave.,
Tenafy, 201-408-1493.
bergenPAC-JCC Performance Intensive
This exciting summer musical theater
intensive for intermediate-advanced
students culminates in a New York City
cabaret theater performance as well as a
performance at bergenPAC. Participants
gain professional skill development in
singing, acting, improvisational comedy
and movement and learn how to over-
come stage fright and enjoy perform-
ing. For youngsters ages 9 through 17.
From July 1 to 20, 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.
Interview/Audition required. Extended
day optional. Course fee includes two
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JCC members, $1,195 nonmembers. For
further information and to register, visit
the JCC website at www.jccotp.org or call
the School of Performing Arts, 411 East
Clinton Ave in Tenafy, at 201-408-1493.
Create and Bounce
Create and Bounce is an art camp for
children that combines exciting art proj-
ects with structured physical activity.
Children will work on different fun art
and craft projects each day from canvas
painting to clay. We also bring in some
spectacular guests from magicians and
performers to petting zoos and change
lesson themes each week to ensure
every day is different.
Weekly sessions are three days and
are offered for eight consecutive weeks
this summer.
Bounce U, 70 Eisenhower Drive, Para-
mus, 201-843-5880, www.bounceU.com/
Paramus.
Full Day Kindergarten at Barnert Temple
Barnert Temple Preschool & Family Cen-
ter invites Jewish and Interfaith parents
who have a child entering Kindergarten
in the Fall of 2014 to tour its school and
watch its Kindergarten class in ac-
tion. Theyll learn about programming,
curriculum and the benefts of a small
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that one-on-one attention can make to a
childs success.
Barnert offers the option of a full-day
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and Friday until 3 pm and Tuesday and
Thursday until 12:30 pm. There is also
an afternoon-only Kindergarten Explora-
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Babyccino Sessions
Chabad of Passaic County will be starting
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ages 0-30 months. Babyccino classes
will be held on the lower level of the
Chabad Center, located at 194 Ratzer
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973-694-6274.
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Iraqi Jewish archive belongs in America
W
hen I last wrote about the
archive of Jewish treasures
from Iraq rescued by U.S.
forces in Baghdad in 2003,
I noted that the prevalent opinion among
Iraqi Jews a community from which I hail
on my fathers side was that the books,
photographs, scrolls, writings, and commu-
nal documents in this extraordinary collec-
tion should remain in America, rather than
being returned to Iraq.
I argued that while this view couldnt be
faulted on legal or moral grounds, I nonethe-
less wished that the situation were different,
and that Iraq could celebrate its Jewish heri-
tage as European countries like Poland and
Germany do.
Since the vexed question of who owns
this collection, known as the Iraqi Jewish
Archive, remains a live one, I want to outline
some further thoughts on
the issue. But before I do,
its worth summarizing
the current state of dis-
cussions over the archive
between the U.S. and Iraqi
governments.
The Jewi sh artifacts
had been set to return to
Iraq this June, in accor-
dance with a 2003 U.S.-
Iraq agreement that said
the materials would return to Iraq after
their restoration in America was com-
plete. But in a major development on
May 14, Lukman Faily, the Iraqi ambas-
sador to the U.S., said in a statement
that the government of Iraq had autho-
rized him to extend the exhibition of
the materials in the U.S. The decision,
Faily explained, was based on the rec-
ognition that the exhibit has led to an
increase of understanding between Iraq
and United States and a greater recogni-
tion of the diverse heritage of Iraq.
Not mentioned was another, per-
haps more pertinent, consideration:
the archive has been the subject of an
intense political battle in America that
may end up in the courts. The key rea-
son for this is the fact that the archive
was seized by Saddam Husseins feared
Mukhabarat secret police from a Bagh-
dad synagogue in 1984, a good three
decades after the vast majority of Jews
had been driven out of Iraq. If the archive
were stolen by the Baathist regime, then
the present Iraqi government cannot
claim unambiguous own-
ership of it; indeed, theres
a strong case to be made
that the true owner is the
Iraqi Jewish community,
through its representative
organizations.
That was certainly the
thrust behind the U.S. Sen-
ate resolution passed in
February, which strongly
recommends that the
original agreement between the Ameri-
can and Iraqi authorities to return the
archive to Iraq be negotiated afresh. Crit-
ically, that resolution asserted that the
Iraqi Jewish Archive should be housed
in a location that is accessible to schol-
ars and to Iraqi Jews and their descen-
dants a position that would preclude
the permanent location of the archive
in Iraq itself, given that virtually no
Jews remain there and that none of the
descendants of those Iraqi Jews expelled
in the 1940s and 50s plan on returning
to that country anytime soon.
The prospect of legal procedures can
be added to the political pressure. At
a New York conference on the archive
at the end of March, lawyer Nat Lewin
urged action before the archive was
returned to Iraq, conident that such an
appeal by Iraqi Jews would meet with a
sympathetic hearing in America. More-
over, as observed by Point of No Return,
the superlative blog focused on Jewish
communities from Arab countries, legal
scholars agree that theres a strong case
This 1092 haggadah was recovered from the Mukhabarat, Saddam Husseins
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for keeping the archive on American soil, since the
understanding between the Americans and the Iraqis
reached in 2003 does not have the force of an interna-
tional treaty. Under the 1909 Hague Convention, the
U.S. considered itself committed to helping the occu-
pied nationIraqprotect its property, said Point of
No Return. But the current statutes did not take into
account cases where the property belonged to a reli-
gious minority.
Against this background, its tempting to think that
the archive will remain in the United States, either
through rolling extensions to which the Iraqi gov-
ernment consents or with a more permanent agree-
ment. Hence, I return to the question I asked in this
column last September: In an ideal world, wouldnt
the archive return to Iraq, safe in the knowledge that
what is being shown belongs to our community, and
that we are sharing it with the other ethnic and reli-
gious groups among whom we lived?
In that same piece, I acknowledged that another
reality prevails: anti-Semitism is rife in Iraq, which
means that an honest reckoning of the fate of its Jew-
ish community simply isnt possible certainly not in
the way that Germany has faced up to its responsibil-
ity for the Holocaust. Sadly, that same reality has been
conirmed by the much-discussed new Anti-Defama-
tion League survey of anti-Semitism in 100 countries
around the world.
Ambassador Faily said on May 14 that it is impor-
tant for Iraq to recover this precious piece of our
cultural heritage that documents an era of our coun-
trys history. But save for the Palestinians in the
West Bank and Gaza, anti-Semitic sentiments are
more entrenched in Iraq than in any other coun-
try on earth. Seventy percent of Iraqis believe
that Jews are responsible for most of the worlds
wars, while 81 percent think that People hate Jews
because of the way Jews behave. Eradicating this
poison is an immense task, certainly not one that
can be resolved by placing the archive on display
in a country that loathes the community it por-
trays. Not to mention the very credible fear that the
archive could be lost or destroyed, given Iraqs per-
ilous security situation.
The conclusion, then, is obvious, but Ill state it any-
way. Keep the Iraqi Jewish Archive here: where its
respected, where its avidly studied, and where its safe.
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mention Israel, even as the presumed
Republican presidential hopeful criti-
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By contrast, one of Mr. Christies
likely rivals for the Republican nomina-
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on stage about his many trips to Israel,
during which he crossed the Jordan
River and peered over the Golan
Heights into Syria.
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our commitment to a strong Israel,
Governor Perry said. Israel has a right
to exist as a Jewish state! The cause of
good shall triumph over evil.
(He also told Mr. Christie that he had
landed in your wonderful city, appar-
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national Airport.)
In the lineup of pro-Israel activists and
Republicans, Mr. Penn stood out not just
for his Hollywood credentials but for
his left-wing politics. The actor, whom
Rabbi Boteach described as Holly-
woods foremost humanitarian, was an
outspoken critic of President George W.
Bush and was friends with Venezuelas
late president Hugo Chavez.
Penn said his ties to Venezuela
helped him secure the freedom of
Jacob Ostreicher, an American Jewish
businessman imprisoned in Bolivia
for 18 months. Mr. Ostreicher, who
was accused of money laundering but
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maintained his innocence presented
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During the presentation, Mr. Ost-
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other things, giving him an all-night
back rub and stocking his refrigerator
with kosher food.
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Mr. Ostreicher, who described himself
as politically to the right of conserva-
tive pundit Sean Hannity, Mr. Penn
emphasized that it was not because
my fathers family is Jewish and Im
committed to insular, tribal protec-
tion. Rather, he said, Mr. Ostreicher
was railroaded by a corrupt Boliv-
ian judiciary and trapped in a place
where I had regional access.
Mr. Penn was the only speaker to
mention the Palestinians. He referred
to the West Bank as undeclared ter-
ritories, noted that the ranks of those
unjustly imprisoned around the world
include Palestinians, and said that the
label of anti-Semitism is too often
used to discredit dialogue.
The eclectic program also featured a
tribute by Rabbi Boteach and his nine
children, honoring his wife, Debbie,
and a call for the audience to make
financial pledges via text message.
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RON KAMPEAS
WASHINGTON A month before her foreign policy
autobiography, Hard Choices, hits the bookstores, Hill-
ary Rodham Clinton made an easy choice: She pitched
her diplomatic credentials to a friendly Jewish audience.
Ms. Clintons speech to the American Jewish Commit-
tee on May 14 was meant to send a signal to the pro-Israel
community that a Clinton presidency would smooth
over tensions ruffled by the Obama White House, insid-
ers say. So while she broadly defended Obama adminis-
tration policies, she also suggested areas where she had
differences with the president, such as on Iran.
President Obama has said that the odds of reaching a
comprehensive agreement are no more than 50-50, Ms.
Clinton said, referring to the U.S.-led talks between the
major powers and Iran on the latters nuclear program.
I personally am skeptical that the Iranians will fol-
low through and deliver. Ive seen many false hopes
dashed over the years, she said. We will have to be
tough, clear-eyed and ready to walk away and increase
the pressure if need be.
No deal is better than a bad deal, she continued.
From my perspective, we cannot and should not
accept any agreement that endangers Israel or our own
national security.
Robert Wexler, the former Democratic congressman
from Florida who in early 2007 became the first major
Jewish politician to join the Obama campaign, said the
differences Ms. Clinton is emphasizing reflected not
just her worldview, but also the changed foreign pol-
icy reality she heads into should she announce for the
presidency.
President Obama, in terms of foreign policy, was
elected to end the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. That
was his primary charge, said Mr. Wexler, who now
heads the Center for Middle East Peace. The expecta-
tions the American people would have for a President
Hillary Clinton would be different. The calling may be
to reassert to a degree of American leadership, which is
entirely consistent with Secretary Clintons worldview.
Aaron David Miller, a former Middle East negotia-
tor under a succession of Republicans and Democrats,
including Bill Clinton, said that Hillary Clinton was a
good soldier for Obamas bid to transform the world,
but also demonstrated understanding that her boss may
have overreached.
She understood the world was not a transformative
place, it was transactional, said Dr. Miller, now vice
president at the Wilson Center, a foreign policy think
tank. In that respect she was much more hawkish on
Syria, where Ms. Clinton joined calls for a U.S. strike
on the Assad regime to contain the bloody civil war. Mr.
Obama opted to seek authorization for a strike from
Congress, and then abandoned the option when it was
clear he lacked support.
On Israel-Palestinians she knew it was not going any-
where, Dr. Miller said. If the president wanted her to
focus on it, she did it in a rhetorical way, but she had no
interest in being a linchpin.
That, Dr. Miller said, was in contrast to John Kerry,
her successor, who made the revival of Israeli-Palestin-
ian talks a centerpiece of his policy only to see them col-
lapse last month.
The June 10 release of Hard Choices is widely per-
ceived as Ms. Clintons opening salvo for a 2016 run for
the Democratic presidential nod, the prize Mr. Obama
took from her in the bitter 2008 primary season. As
her Jewish campaign goes forward, a source close to
Ms. Clinton said, she and others close to her will subtly
introduce three areas of Middle East policy in which her
2008 differences with Mr. Obama were validated over
time.
They include two postures that got her into trouble
with the Democratic base in 2008 and helped contrib-
ute to her defeat: Her stated opposition during the pri-
maries to meeting with Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, then
Irans president, and her support as a U.S. senator from
New York for legislation that would have designated
Irans Islamic Revolutionary Guards Corps as a terror-
ist group.
Mr. Obama said during the campaign that he would
meet with Mr. Ahmadinejad, seen as a Holocaust denier
and seeker of Israels destruction. Mr. Obamas cam-
paign also mercilessly ripped Ms. Clinton for backing
the Revolutionary Guards designation, likening it to her
support for the legislation used by President George W.
Bush to go to war with Iraq.
The third difference to be highlighted is Ms. Clintons
opposition during the 08 campaign to participating in
Durban II, the 2009 reprise of the 2001 U.N. anti-racism
conference that devolved into an anti-Israel free-for-all.
Obama would not commit to boycotting the 09 confer-
ence during the campaign.
In each case, the source argued, Ms. Clinton was vin-
dicated. Mr. Ahmadinejad ignored Mr. Obamas spring
2009 call for dialogue with Irans leadership. The legis-
lative bid to designate the Revolutionary Guards as ter-
rorist did not pass, but the guards were implicated in
the violent repression of mass Iranian protests follow-
ing the contested 2009 presidential election and were
accused of torturing and raping men and women in pris-
ons around Iran.
As for Durban II, the Obama administration at first
sought avenues through which U.S. participation would
prevent an anti-Israel tone, but eventually conceded
this was unlikely and chose not to participate. The per-
son who made the decision was Samantha Power, then
a National Security Council member, who had derided
Hillary Rodham Clinton speaks at the American
Jewish Committees Global Forum on May 14.
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BALTIMORE The initial meeting of first-
year Detroit Tigers manager Brad Ausmus
and his second baseman Ian Kinsler, newly
traded from the Texas Rangers, was some-
thing very rare: a Jewish player reporting to
a Jewish manager.
Ausmus was raised the same way I was,
Kinsler learned, with one Jewish parent and
an upbringing in which Judaism wasnt
something that was completely ingrained in
our lives, the 31-year-old Arizona native said
in his pronounced Texas twang.
The chat also covered Ausmus experiences
piloting Israels World Baseball Classic entry in
2012, his only previous managerial job.
Both have settled in quickly in Detroit,
helping to lift the Tigers to the best record
in Major League Baseball as of last week-
end. Batting leadoff, Kinsler carries a .300
average and stands among the American
League leaders in runs and hits.
They join Cy Young award-winning
pitcher Max Scherzer as Jews on the roster.
Tigers fan Morris Amitay, AIPACs for-
mer executive director, who came to watch
Detroit sweep the three-game series here,
said he cant help but kvell over the combi-
nation of Jewish manager and player.
Heres a team that had Hank Greenberg,
and now its gone back to its Jewish roots,
he said.
Kinsler wears number 3; the 5 he wore for
Texas had been retired by Detroit to honor
Greenberg, its Hall of Fame first baseman
from 1930 to 1946.
A uniform-always-dirty player, Kinsler
draws ire from opponents and admiration
from teammates. Hes a welcome sparkplug
for a team that has ridden power hitting and
dominant starting pitching to three consecu-
tive A.L. Championship Series and the 2012
World Series.
In eight seasons with the Rangers, Kin-
sler was a three-time All-Star who helped
the Western Division club reach the World
Series in 2010 and 2011. In postseason play,
his average is .311.
His November 20 trade for first baseman
Echoes of Greenberg
Tigers roaring with Jewish duo Ausmus and Kinsler
Prince Fielder was a little bit shocking,
he acknowledged while dressing for a
recent game here. But playing for Detroit
is awesome, he added.
Ausmus was hired two weeks before
the trade.
Sitting in his Camden Yards office dur-
ing a trip to Baltimore to play the Ori-
oles, Ausmus said his experience with
the Israeli team provided a little bit
of a glimpse into how managers build
rapport with players and cultivate club-
house camaraderie.
In terms of preparation, I dont know
that theres a ton of parallel because
theres so much more information [avail-
able] on major league players than there
is on WBC players in fact, sometimes
even no information on WBC players,
he said. I guess that in some regards
you learn to make decisions you dont
really want to make [to cut players].
The experience didnt necessarily
place him on the major league manag-
ing track, Ausmus said.
There are only 30 managerial jobs.
Theres no guarantee youre going to get
one of those, he said. Id thought of it,
but I never assumed it.
A priority heading into 2014 was get-
ting to know his Tigers as people and
players. Six weeks into the season, Aus-
mus said, nothing has surprised him.
That could be because of his playing
experience toiling for four teams, includ-
ing the Tigers, in 18 years, and winning
three Gold Gloves at catcher, the think-
ing mans position.
Those parallels between the jobs are
apparent, Ausmus said.
As a catcher, youre planning ahead,
youre strategizing, youre dealing with
a pitching staff, he said. You also know
what its like to be an everyday player.
As a catcher, it gives you a pretty good
feel for what you would come across as
a manager, for what the players are think-
ing, whats going through their minds,
what emotions theyre feeling.
Given his short time with Team Israel,
Ausmus figured he certainly didnt have
any impact on several players subse-
quently reaching the majors, but added,
Im happy for them.
Thats a sentiment the Tigers echo
about working alongside Kinsler and
Ausmus, at 45 a generation younger than
his retired predecessor, the crusty Jim
Leyland.
Pitching coach Jeff Jones said Ausmus is
very low-key, doesnt panic, doesnt get
excited when things dont go right, and is
extremely prepared. All-Star pitcher Justin
Verlander said his new manager is more
relaxed on the bench and totally differ-
ent than Leyland, with whom he remains
close.
Kinsler, he said, brought a new dimen-
sion to the Tigers: speed. (Kinslers 177
steals set a Rangers record.)
Its been a lot of fun to watch. I love the
way he plays the game, Verlander said. I
hated the way he played the game when
he was with the Rangers and we had to
play against him. Thats a sign of respect.
Told of Verlanders description, Kinsler
was pleased.
Thats the kind of player I want to be,
he said. I like to cause problems. If youre
not noticed, then youre not doing some-
thing right.
Off the field, a synagogue in suburban
Bloomfield Hills, Mich., has invited Kin-
sler to enroll his two children in its sum-
mer program. In Texas, Kinsler said, his
daughter Rian attended a JCC of Dallas
program.
Judaism is definitely something I want
to teach them about, he said, adding that
his wife, a Catholic, is supportive. To
have that knowledge is important.
JTA WIRE SERVICE
Detroit Tigers first-year manager Brad
Ausmus, a player for 18 seasons, throwing
batting practice before a game against the
Baltimore Orioles on May 13.
PHOTOS BY HILLEL KUTTLER
Ian Kinsler is thriving in his
first couple of months in
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For Astros Josh Zeid, road to The Show
has been an excellent adventure

HILLEL KUTTLER
BALTIMORE A recent game against
the Baltimore Orioles provided Houston
Astros pitcher Josh Zeid a microcosm of
his up-and-down tenure in organized base-
ball and with the club over the past several
months.
Entering a 2-2 game in the seventh
inning, with two runners on and two outs,
Zeid struck out Manny Machado to end the
threat. But he allowed a leadoff homer to
Nelson Cruz on his first pitch of the next
inning before retiring the side.
Houston rallied for two runs in the top
of the ninth, putting Zeid in position to
gain the win. But facing other relievers,
Baltimore tied the score in the bottom of
the inning and won in the 10th.
Within a 20-minute span, it was pretty
intense, Zeid said the following morning,
sitting near the Astros on-deck circle.
You have such an emotional high, and
then you have one quick, mechanical-
mental lapse. Thats the thing in the major
leagues: One bad pitch can lose the game
in a heartbeat.
Zeids path to the majors has zigzagged
much like the Baltimore sequence.
The Astros promoted the right-hander
from AAA Oklahoma City last July, but
he didnt make the team out of spring
training. Zeid, 27, was back shortly after
the season launched, on April 8, but was
demoted two days later, and then rejoined
the Astros in Detroit nearly a month after
that.
In college, after being named Gatorade
Connecticut High School Player of the
Year, he pitched sparingly at Vanderbilt
before transferring to Tulane. In 2009
he was drafted in the 10th round by the
Philadelphia Phillies, but was traded two
years later to the Astros. Six months before
reaching the majors, Zeid married Steph-
anie Tiedemann, whom he had met at
Vanderbilt.
He also played for the Israeli team trying
to qualify for the 2012 World Baseball Clas-
sic, where his manager was current Tigers
skipper Brad Ausmus.
Its been a pretty interesting journey,
said Zeid, who flashes a near-constant
smile on his bearded face.
His mother, Karen, has been docu-
menting every step. Since her sons base-
ball abilities took off when he was a high
schooler in New Haven, she has written
entries in journals covering each peak and
valley 15 books and counting that no
one has been allowed to read.
In March, she and her husband, Ira,
drove to Philadelphia to attend the open-
ing of the National Museum of American
Jewish Historys exhibition on Jews and
baseball. Two Zeid items are displayed
there: a baseball-themed white kippah she
painted and gave to guests attending her
sons bar mitzvah and the lineup card from
his first major league game.
The couple and their daughter, Emily,
were here to watch Zeids roller-coaster
game and the one on Mothers Day, when
the Astros won but he did not pitch. His
grandparents and other relatives were on
hand, too, for the extra-inning loss.
To see his dream become a reality, to
see his hard work, his determination, pay
off you always want your childs dreams
fulfilled, Karen Zeid said at the Mothers
Day game as she sat behind home plate
with other Astros families.
Hes taken us on a journey with him,
she said.
Jarred Cosart, who was pitching for the
Astros that day, also has been along for the
ride. The two played together in the Phil-
lies system before their trade to Houston.
A row in front of the Zeids, Cosarts
mother, Cindy, turned around to display a
smartphone photo of Cosart at Zeids wed-
ding; he was the best man. Cosarts par-
ents attended, too.
Astros pitching coach Brent Strom says
Zeid is an aggressive pitcher who com-
petes extremely well, adding that Zeids
cerebral approach will help him learn
from failures like Cruzs homer.
His ability to make the adjustment is
going to be key, Strom said. I see him
doing it. Hes an intelligent young man
with a passion for pitching.
Strom says Zeid is a very valuable part
of our future, in my mind. Hes here now,
and I expect him to stay.
Contributions from Zeid and anyone
else are desperately needed on a young
team experiencing growing pains. The
Astros are last in the American League
West and were on pace to match last years
51-111 record, the worst in major league
baseball. Houstons bullpen stands second-
worst in runs allowed per game and blown
saves.
In a conversation with JTA at the Astros
Minute Maid Park, Zeid discussed the joy
of reaching the majors and striving to
improve. He recalled attending baseball
camps at Yale, where an alumnus and
fellow Jewish pitcher, current Red Sox
reliever Craig Breslow, offered instruction.
Zeid told of going from being Connecti-
cuts elite pitching prospect to going virtu-
ally unused at Vanderbilt to nearly scrap-
ping baseball for law school at Tulane.
It humbles you, he said. Its a slow
process of how to heal from that. It still
reminds me that I have to work harder
than anyone else.
The baseball pressures eased at Tulane,
Zeid said, after he put greater focus on his
studies as a senior and attained a 3.7 GPA.
His enhanced production for the Green
Wave led to his being drafted what he
called the coolest thing on the face of the
planet.
Zeid is four credits short of a degree in
English and political science. He intends to
graduate one offseason or post-baseball.
While some figure that playing for the
Astros is demoralizing, Zeid begged to
differ.
Theres no better place, if youre a
young player, to be than the Houston
Astros, he had said in the earlier conver-
sation. The future is bright. Im serious.
Back in Baltimore, Zeid echoed his opti-
mism from October.
We have a very strong group of guys,
character-wise [and] the talent to win
some close games, but the ball hasnt been
rolling the right way as of yet, he said at
Camden Yards. There are still over a hun-
dred games left in the season, and any-
thing can really happen. Thats why you
play the game. TA WIRE SERVICE
Josh Zeid has had an up-and-down career, but he and the Astros think the future
looks bright for improvement.
Karen Zeid, right, with husband Ira
and daughter Emily at the Astros
game against the Orioles in Baltimore
on May 11, has chronicled her sons
roller-coaster baseball journey with a
journal. HILLEL KUTTLER
Gallery
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n 1 The JCC of Fort Lee/Congre-
gation Gesher Shalom hosted
Blue and White: The Story of
Israel featuring Zamira Chenn.
The program included songs and
stories of Israel. PHOTO PROVIDED
n 2 Rabbi Kenneth Brander, vice
president for university and com-
munity life at Yeshiva University
and the David Mitzner Dean of the
Center for the Jewish Future, at
left, with Rabbi David Baruch Lau,
the Ashkenazi chief rabbi of Israel,
and YU President Richard M. Joel.
In addition to YU, Rabbi Lau also
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ish organizations and institutions,
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in Teaneck, in his first official visit
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ish Academy held its aleph sid-
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1 2
3
4 5
6 7
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dam Family Endowment. COURTESY NNJJA
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resident Renee Kleinberg, seated. Diane
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Teen brothers Zach and Josh Kauderer,
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nary trip to Israel during the schools Yom
Haatzmaut celebration. COURTESY GAN YALDENU
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ebrated double 25th anniversaries last month
at The Big Event at Preakness Hills Country
Club in Wayne. The celebration marked both
Sara Loschs 25th anniversary as the shuls pre-
school director and the 25th anniversary of the
Preschool and Family Center. COURTESY BARNERT
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Dvar Torah
T
his weeks Torah portion, Bemidbar, begins
the book of the same name, meaning in the
desert or in the wilderness. In English, the
book is called Numbers, because it begins
with a census.
Our Torah portion covers the military census, the holy
tasks of the Levite clans, and the positioning of tribes
for both travel and rest. Four families among the Levites
surrounded the tabernacle to the north, south, east, and
west, respectively. Then, in a wider, outer formation, the
remaining tribes took their places on the four sides.
The center was occupied by the sanctuary the lit-
eral and figurative core of community. Each tribe had
its leader, its flag, its location in short, its own identity.
At the same time, each tribe was part of a pattern and a
people. Any absence or shift would disturb the balance
of the whole.
This Torah portion, so full of details and numbers,
is also an apt introduction to the broad themes of the
book. Can people be counted (upon) for military and
communal service? Can each individual and group find
our own independent expression, while still supporting
and playing a vital role in the wider community?
Over the course of Bemidbar, the Israelites repeat-
edly complain, rebel against divine and human author-
ity, become embroiled in political conflicts, lust after
physical comforts, and want
to give up. Sound familiar?
Those same tendencies can
be observed, at least occa-
sionally, in Jewish communi-
ties today.
The opening of Numbers
suggests that, despite the
chaos we create, there is a
holy order to things. There
is a way of organizing the
organized Jewish commu-
nity so that each person,
each tribe has a rightful and
respected place in it.
In the Beginning, God
created the Heavens and the Earth. In the Wilderness,
we created Community, under the tutelage of God and
Moses. We learned to distinguish self-interested power-
grabs (Korach, Datan, and Aviram, Num. 16) from
healthy aspirations for participation (Machlah, Noa,
Choglah, Milcah, and Tirzah, Num. 27) and leadership
(Eldad and Medad, Num. 11: 26-29). We learned to trust
God and each other.
Its common to describe the time in the wilderness
as the adolescence of the Jewish people. We wanted
our independence except when we wanted Moses to
do everything for us. We thought we could succeed for
and by ourselves, yet we depended from day to day on
our Parent for food. We thought we were the center;
we hadnt yet truly understood that, to be fulfilled, we
would have to put the Ark and the Tablets at the center.
Jeremiah portrayed the years in the wilderness as a
kind of honeymoon. I remember the affection of your
youth, the love of your nuptials, how you walked after
Me in the desert [bamidbar] in a land that was not sown
( Jer. 2:2). Given the dissent and rebellion in the desert,
you might accuse Jeremiah of rewriting history. But you
could say instead that Jeremiah is seeing those desert
years in the fullness of perspective. Like an older couple
reflecting on their first years of marriage, he remembers
the arguments and the struggles to feed the family, but
he accounts the early days, in retrospect, as pure. We
had nothing but each other. We learned to know and to trust
each other. Those were the years that shaped us.
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angst or to newly-wedded bliss) too literally. The point is: Build-
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and bliss. Those formative years are full of outsized arguments,
as well as outsized idealism. Teens, newly-weds, and humans
in general, wish for control and independence and, simulta-
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Rabbi Debra
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Israel, Emerson,
Conservative
Bemidbar: In the wilderness
know that about ourselves, that we cultivate inter-depen-
dence, and that we respect both ourselves and the Other.
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(bemidbar) because Torah is wild and free. So are people.
God didnt want to tame us in the desert, but to help us find
our place in relation to everyone else who is finding theirs.
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tibutes to
6. Lichtenstein and others
10. Many Passover recipes call for them
14. Sage who started learning Torah at age
40
15. Fleischer and Emanuel
16. Quality of those who took refuge at
Masada
17. United Synagogue Youth Israel ___
19. Bush adviser Karl who worked alongside
Josh Bolten
20. Part of the carefree refrain of the
Yiddish song Dos Lid fun der
Goldener Pave
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oldest man after Methuselah
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Finkielkraut
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31. Suffix with Ess
32. He said, Say goodnight, Gracie
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orders of the Talmud
35. ___ for the Omer (way to keep count)
36. Ner ___ (synagogue feature)
37. The Egyptian magicians had some that
got swallowed
40. Author of nearly 1,000 books, mostly
on Judaism
42. Seat on the bimah, perhaps
43. Michael Dells are famous
45. The floor of the synagogue in Curacao
is covered with it
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47. Uzi Gal may have said this when he
invented a new kind of gun
48. Israeli cartoon ___ Bones
49. 1982 Dustin Hoffman title role
50. Stage in the life of a certain non-kosher
critter
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community
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60. Hammerstein and Rombergs Softly,
___ a Morning Sunrise
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62. ___ Moishy and the Mitzvah Men
63. Turn into a shaliach
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10. ___-Nehemiah
11. Billionaire backer of liberal causes
12. Yielded during peace talks
13. ___ hammer (one translation of
Maccabee)
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21. Kind of image davka sold by Davka
22. Savtas husband
23. It comes before Tishrei
24. Creator of The West Wing and
Sports Night
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27. A bissel
30. Latke beginner
33. Star of The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
(1947)
34. Chabad likes to do it in public with
menorahs
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38. Geonic period year
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41. Agency that investigated the
Agriprocessors kosher slaughterhouse
42. Prop used by Paul Newmans character
in The Hustler
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Ms. Clinton as a monster during the
campaign and championed engagement
in international forums.
Ms. Clinton will face fierce resistance
from Republicans to any bid to differ-
entiate herself from Mr. Obama. Repub-
licans in the U.S. House of Representa-
tives already are investigating her role in
securing the consulate in Benghazi, Libya,
before and after the September 2012 attack
that left four Americans dead.
In her AJC speech, Ms. Clinton said she
helped shepherd sanctions through Con-
gress that set the stage for the pressures on
Iran that brought about Iranian President
Hassan Rouhanis election in 2010.
Senator Mark Kirk (R-Ill.), a key sponsor
of those sanctions, derided the claim.
The fact is the Obama administration
has opposed sanctions against Iran led by
Senator Menendez and me every step of
the way, as was thoroughly documented
at the time, Mr. Kirk said in an email to
JTA, referring to Robert Menendez (D-N.J).
I agree with Secretary Clinton that U.S.
sanctions have proven successful, but it
was the Congress, not the White House,
that led the way.
At the time, Obama administration offi-
cials said they wanted to delay the sanc-
tions until they were undergirded by U.N.
Security Council sanctions, a sequence
Ms. Clinton noted in her speech. After the
Security Council resolutions were in place,
Mr. Obama green-lighted the congressio-
nal sanctions.
Steven Rabinowitz, a publicist who
works with Jewish and Democratic groups,
said Ms. Clinton might have work to do in
a pro-Israel community that had avidly
embraced her during her Senate career.
I hope people can draw the distinc-
tion between Hillary the person who we
know and love and Hillary the loyal secre-
tary of state for the guy who beat her and
embraced her, Mr. Rabinowitz said.
Judging from the reaction to her AJC
speech, Ms. Clinton is on her way. Mat-
thew Bronfman, a member of the groups
executive council, spoke right after she
did.
Thank you Madam Secretary, and
speaking of hard choices, we know you
have a hard choice to make coming up
soon, and speaking on behalf of AJC we
hope you make the right one, he said.
The crowd whooped its delight.
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FROM PAGE 34
BRIEFS
IDF chief deeply concerned about reserves
as effects of budget cuts are felt
Israel Defense Forces Chief of Staff Lt.
Gen. Benny Gantz said Monday that he is
deeply concerned about the readiness of
the reserves at the present time, as well as
in the foreseeable future.
Gantz has warned that the budget cuts
already imposed on the military, and
the Israeli Finance Ministrys refusal to
approve additional funds, will spell a seri-
ous blow to reservists training and the
IDFs overall emergency readiness.
Speaking at a ceremony honoring out-
standing reservists, Gantz said the IDF
has made the regular forces training its
top priority not because reservists are
unnecessary or unimportant, but because
of [budgetary] constraints, Israel Hayom
reported.
We are dealing with an unprecedented
and highly complex human resources
challenge and it may have dramatic effects
on the IDF, he said. JNS.ORG
Israel celebrates as Maccabi Tel Aviv wins
European basketball title in Milan
Israeli underdog Maccabi Tel Aviv won
its sixth European basketball title on
Sunday, with a 98-86 victory over Real
Madrid in Milan.
After the final buzzer sounded, Mac-
cabi players and coaches celebrated on
the court while the more than 9,000
Maccabi fans who made the trip to Milan
cheered on ecstatically in the stands.
Back in Tel Aviv, the victory set off
Revelry in the streets, with thousands
of people filling Rabin Square. During
the game, bars throughout the city were
packed with fans watching the action on
large screens.
Both Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin
Netanyahu and President Shimon Peres
called Maccabi coach David Blatt on Sun-
day night to congratulate him on the
win. The 90-year-old Peres joked that
the game almost gave him a heart attack.
Guard Tyrese Rice led Maccabi with
26 points, 21 of which came in the fourth
quarter and overtime. Rice, who hit the
game-winning shot in Maccabis semifi-
nal victory over CSKA Moscow on Friday,
was named the MVP of the 2014 Eurole-
ague Final Four. JNS.ORG
Arts & Culture
JS-45*
FDR and the Jews
JONATHAN E. LAZARUS
I
n January 1933, Adolph Hitler brow-
beat and bluffed his way to the chan-
cellorship of Germany. Weeks later,
Franklin Delano Roosevelt took the
oath for the irst of four terms as president
of the United States.
Neither could imagine they would soon
face off as leaders of the free and fascist
worlds. That juxtaposition lasted until
early 1945, when the president was felled
by a cerebral hemorrhage and the Nazi dic-
tator took his life in a Berlin redoubt.
During the intervening 12 years, the pair
stood at the center of cataclysmic events,
with the very outcome of Western civiliza-
tion at stake. No two men could have been
more diametrically opposite in their per-
sonal, political, moral, or ethical dimen-
sions, and in no sphere were these traits
more striking than in their worldview and
their treatment of the Jews.
While Hitlers unspeakable record in
this regard has been amply documented
and denounced, Roosevelts is still being
tallied, a subject of itting and extended
debate among scholars, ideologues, and
the extended Jewish community. Middle
ground is a rare commodity here, but
American University professors Richard
Breitman and Allan J. Lichtman attempt to
stake out just such territory in FDR and
the Jews, published last year by Belknap/
Harvard University Press.
The two historians meticulously ana-
lyze and explicate FDRs personal feelings
and appraisal of the Jews as a people; his
political calculus and penchant for secrecy
in the way he dealt with them as he did
with all of his constituencies; and the per-
sistent allegations about what he knew of
the Final Solution, when he knew it, and
whether he did enough to combat it.
Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lichtman also dis-
sect two of the most contentious accusa-
tions against Roosevelt: that he callously
prevented the docking in the United States
of the SS St. Louis after the German vessel
transporting more than 900 Jewish refu-
gees was turned away by Cuba in 1939, and
that he failed to order the bombing of gas
chambers or the railroads leading to them
in 1944, when it seemed feasible to do so.
Their proile of the enigmatic Hudson
Valley patrician and master of the Machi-
avellian arts who forever refashioned
the presidency is thoughtful, crisp, and
unapologetic. If there are any judgments
to render on arguably one of the top three
chief executives in U.S. history (Lincoln
and Washington are the oth-
ers; readers are free to rank
them), Dr. Breitman and Dr.
Lichtman do so with balance
and dispassion, showing a sure feel for the
fraught, unprecedented situations of the
1930s and 40s.
FDR clearly exceeded all of his predeces-
sors in support from Jews. He reciprocated
by appointing them to key positions during
his governorship of New York and the presi-
dency. Fully 15 percent of his choices were
Jewish, an astounding number for the time.
He also nominated a second Jewish justice
to the Supreme Court (Felix Frank-
furter joined Louis Brandeis after Benja-
min Cardozos death) and was so openly
groundbreaking that his programs were
derisively dubbed the Jew Deal.
Perhaps this was due to Roosevelt being
shielded to some extent from the anti-
Semitism of his privileged class by par-
ents who instilled tolerant attitudes for
President Franklin Delano Roosevelt meets with leaders of the Jewish
Welfare Board.
Professors Richard Breitman and Allan J. Lichtman, co-authors of
FDR and the Jews.
SEE FDR PAGE 48
The two historians
meticulously
analyze and
explicate FDRs
personal feelings
and appraisal of
the Jews as
a people.
Calendar
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Friday
MAY 23
Shabbat in Teaneck: The
Jewish Center of Teaneck
offers Carlebach-style
davening, 7 p.m. 70
Sterling Place. (201) 833-
0515 or www.jcot.org.
Saturday
MAY 24
Shabbat in Teaneck: The
Jewish Center of Teaneck
offers services at 9 a.m.;
next, Rabbi Lawrence
Zierler discusses To
Serve and Protect: Stop
and Frisk Revisited and
Revised and the Role
of Law Enforcement in
Society as part of the
Three Cs Cholent,
Cugel, and Conversation.
Kinder Shul for 3- to
8-year-olds while parents
attend services, 10:30-
11:45. 70 Sterling Place.
(201) 833-0515 or www.
jcot.org.
Sunday
MAY 25
Movie in Bayonne:
Temple Emanu-El
screens Jewtopia as
part of its spring movie
festival. Coffee, cake, and
schmooze, 9 a.m.; film
at 9:30. 735 Kennedy
Boulevard. (201) 436-
4499.
Tuesday
MAY 27
Blood drive in Teaneck:
Holy Name Medical
Center holds a blood
drive with New Jersey
Blood Services, a division
of New York Blood
Center, in the hospital
parking lot, 1-7 p.m. 718
Teaneck Road. (800)
933-2566 or www.
nybloodcenter.org.
Hadassah meets: Tri
Boro Hadassah meets
at the JCC of Paramus/
Congregation Beth
Tikvah to hear Bruce
Prince, owner of the
Teaneck General Store,
discuss fair trade and
coffee, and Alex Michelini
talk about trees and
Joyce Kilmer, 1 p.m.
Refreshments. East 304
Midland Ave. (201) 384-
8005.
Film in Ridgewood:
The Ridgewood Public
Library screens The
Lady in Number 6,
this years Academy
Award-winner for best
documentary short,
7 p.m., followed by a
discussion led by Rabbi
Dr. David J. Fine of
Ridgewoods Temple
Israel. The 38-minute film
is about the life of Alice
Herz-Sommer, a 110-year
old Holocaust survivor
who died in February. 125
N. Maple Ave. (201) 670-
5600.
Thursday
MAY 29
Celebrating Israel in
Fort Lee: The JCC of
Fort Lee/Congregation
Gesher Shalom
continues its Celebrate
Israel Month with a
symposium, New York
State of Mind/Jewish
State of Mind Raising
Jewish Children in a
Diverse Landscape,
7:30 p.m. 1449 Anderson
Ave. (201) 947-1735 or
anat@geshershalom.org.
Beth Kramer
Jewish identity through
film: Temple Beth El
of Northern Valley in
Closter begins a new
adult ed series led by
Beth Kramer, the shuls
director of education and
a fourth year rabbinical
student, 7:30 p.m. Two
short films with be
screened and discussed.
221 Schraalenburgh
Road. (201) 768-5112 or
www.tbenv.org.
Friday
MAY 30
Shabbat in Glen
Rock: The Glen Rock
Jewish Center holds a
family Shabbat service,
5:30 p.m., followed by a
catered dinner at 6. 682
Harristown Road. (201)
652-6624.
Shabbat in Closter:
Temple Beth El offers
services led by Rabbi
David S. Widzer and
Cantor Rica Timman with
the Shabbat Unplugged
Band, 7:30 p.m. 221
Schraalenburgh Road.
(201) 768-5112 or www.
tbenv.org.
Sharon Keller
Shabbat in Englewood:
Congregation Kol
HaNeshamah hosts a
Shabbaton with guest
scholar-in-residence Dr.
Sharon Keller, on the
premises of St Pauls
Church, 113 Engle St.,
Englewood. Dr. Keller,
author/lecturer/professor
of Bible and Ancient
Near East, centers her
presentations on From
Passover to Shavuot: Sex,
Murder, and More Sex.
On Friday night, she will
speak at 9 p.m., and will
be at the teen Shabbat
caf during Shabbat
morning services at
11 a.m. Dr. Keller will
speak again at 1:15 p.m.
(201) 816-1611, rsvp@khnj.
org, or www.khnj.org.
Sunday
JUNE 1
Rummage sale in
Closter: The sisterhood
of Temple Beth El
of Northern Valley
holds its semi-annual
rummage sale, 10 a.m.-
noon and 1-3 p.m. 221
Schraalenburgh Road.
(201) 768-5112.
Finishing the Torah in
Woodcliff Lake: Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack
Valley completes its
two-year Torah writing
project with a community
celebration, 1:45 p.m. The
last of the text will be
inscribed by the shuls
rabbi emeritus, Andr
Ungar. Refreshments.
87 Overlook Drive. (201)
391-0801.
Flower making for
women: The Jewish
Womens Circle of
the Chabad Center of
Passaic County offers
an evening of art, fun,
and inspiration, creating
flower arrangements
and gathering dairy
recipes for Shavuot, at
the Chabad Center of
Passaic County in Wayne,
7:30 p.m. For those 9
and older. $10. 194 Ratzer
Road. (973) 694-6274 or
jewishwayne.com.
Monday
JUNE 2
Book discussion: The
Fair Lawn Jewish Center/
Congregation Bnai Israel
holds its Book and
Lunch program with
a discussion by Ilene
Wolosin on Dara Horns
book A Guide for the
Perplexed, noon. Lunch
served. 10-10 Norma Ave.
(201) 796-5040.
Family caregiver training
in Tenafly: The Kaplen
JCC on the Palisades
begins a four-session
course to prepare people
as they face their new
roles as caregivers for a
family member. Through
June 23, 7-8:30 p.m. 411 E.
Clinton Ave. Judi Nahary,
(201) 408-1450.
Singles
Sunday
JUNE 8
Senior singles meet in
West Nyack: Singles
65+ meet for a social
event/bagels & lox get-
together, at the JCC
Rockland, 11 a.m. 450
West Nyack Road. $8.
Gene Arkin, (845) 356-
5525.
Comedy in NYC: Its
About Time Jewish
Singles partners with
Geoff Koles The
Funniest Jewish
Comedian of The
Year Contest at the
Broadway Comedy
Club, 6-9 p.m. Special
singles tables and guest
comedians. Its About
Time Jewish Singles
is a modern Orthodox
all-Jewish organization
that holds functions
for Jewish singles 35+
in New York and New
Jersey. 318 W. 53rd St.,
between Eighth and
Ninth avenues. (973) 851-
9070 or grin31@gmail.
com.
New Yorks Celebrate Israel Parade, the worlds largest public
gathering honoring the State of Israel, marches up Fifth
Avenue, from 57th to 74th streets, on Sunday June 1, from 11
a.m. to 4 p.m. Check local synagogues, JCCs, and organizations
for participation information. The parade will be televised live by WWOR-
TV, My9, from noon to 2 p.m., and streamed online at celebrateisraelny.org.
For information, go to celebrateisraelny.org.
JUNE
1
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Aquatics
open house
The Bergen County YJCC plans an
aquatics open house on Sunday, June
1, from 11 a.m.-2 p.m., to showcase
the aquatics program and staff.
Jason Schmeltzer, the new aquat-
ics manager, will be on hand to meet
prospective students. Participants can
sample a private or semi-private swim
lesson, try an aquacise class, learn
about swim lessons, and see a dem-
onstration by the YJCC Bergen Sharks
swim team. Call (201) 666-6610, ext.
5750.
Teaneck to host Memorial Day family event
The Teaneck Family Festival, presented by
the Cedar Lane Management Group, is set
for Memorial Day, Monday, May 26, from
11 a.m.-6 p.m., rain or shine, on Cedar
Lane. The festival, which celebrates veter-
ans from past and current wars, features
patriotic music, a cabaret competition, a
street fair, and an awards ceremony.
Event sponsors include Holy Name Med-
ical Center, Butterflake Bakery, and Davis,
Saperstein & Salomon, PC.
At 11 a.m., local veterans organiza-
tions will hold a remembrance service at
Teanecks Municipal Green. The opening
ceremony begins at 12:30 p.m. Merchants
and outside vendors will have booths on
both sides of Cedar Lane and local restau-
rants will be open. There will be activi-
ties for children, including a clown, stilt
walker, face painter, games, and rides.
Awards will be presented in the Chest-
nut Avenue Plaza at Cedar Lane and Gar-
rision Avenue, beginning at 12:15 p.m.
with a performance by opera singer Pat-
ric Hale and soprano Heather OConnor.
Awardees are Gene Cornish (the Rascals),
also a Rock and Roll Hall of Fame member;
Assemblywoman Valerie Vainieri Huttle;
retired U.S. Marshals commander Lenny
DePaul; Judy I. Schaffer, Heroes to Heroes
foundation president; the Teaneck Police
Department and its acting chief, Robert
A. Carney; Ariel J. Luna, FDUs director of
veteran services; Brenda A. Beavers, the
Salvation Armys New Jersey director of
human services; Ernest Revell, tenor, and
Travis and Jaimee Tuft, a champion ball-
room dance team.
At 1:30 p.m., the Teaneck Community
Chorus will perform, followed by the
Rock n Roll Chorus at 2:30. From 3 to
6, cabaret performers from the tri-state
area will compete in the festival cabaret
competition.
The favorite blueberry pie with whipped
cream eating contest, sponsored by But-
terflake Bakery, is at 2 p.m.
The Teaneck Family Fun Festival is pro-
duced by Mort and Ray Productions. For
information, call (201) 907-0493, or email
www.cedarlane.net or www.mortandray.
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the times in their doted-upon only child.
Roosevelts formidable mother, Sarah
Delano, even addressed a Hadassah group
just before her death.
Despite this, FDR most assuredly
indulged in stereotyped banter about
Jews as an undergrad at Harvard (where
he later voted as an overseer against
raising their admissions quota above 6
percent), with his cronies in Albany and
Washington, and with Stalin at Yalta.
Yet these utterances seem more generic
than genuine, flippant reminders of a
politically incorrect age and country-club
condescension.
By contrast, Eleanor Roosevelt clung to
crude anti-Semitic attitudes through her
early years, especially during FDRs Wash-
ington service as assistant secretary of the
Navy during World War I. She is quoted by
Professors Breitman and Lichtman in one
particularly vicious reference: The Jew
party [for Bernard Baruch] was appalling.
I never wish to hear money, jewels, or
sables mentioned again, and in another,
characterizing Felix Frankfurter as an
interesting little man but very Jew.
However, as her marriage to Roosevelt
faltered, her larger world blossomed, and
her metamorphosis into a human rights
icon gained traction over the decades.
She ultimately would surpass her hus-
band in both the depth and understand-
ing of oppressed people everywhere and
in her support for Israel. (See the excellent
analysis by Warren Boroson in the July 26,
2013 issue of the Jewish Standard.)
After being partially paralyzed by polio,
FDR ran for governor of New York in 1928
against state attorney general Richard
Ottinger, a Jew. His ticket, which included
Herbert Lehman of the then-renowned
banking house, carried downstate Jew-
ish and Catholic blocs while doing well
among upstate WASPs, a superb balanc-
ing act Roosevelt would elevate to national
heights four years later, when he won the
White House in a landslide.
Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lichtman divide
his presidential policies vis a vis the Jews in
four phases. The first, lasting until re-elec-
tion in 1936, was a sort of benign neglect
resulting from the domestic exigencies
of the Great Depression. FDR kept his
criticism of Germanys growing outrages
muted and did not meet with Jewish lead-
ers for more than three years. He was also
shackled by Congressional isolationism
and the Neutrality Acts, a national mood
of hostility to immigration, and an anti-
Semitic State Department wedded to the
restrictive practices of the Hoover years.
The second phase unfolded in 1937. By
now, Roosevelt thought Hitler was mad.
German edicts to humiliate and disen-
franchise Jews as a race dismayed him. He
began issuing executive orders loosening
immigration quotas over the objections of
the State Department, endorsed a home-
land in Palestine for the Jews, pressed
the British to keep the immigration doors
open there, launched a global search for
countries willing to take in refugees, and
helped foster the 1938 Evian Conference
(largely a failure) on their plight. FDR
also was the only head of government to
recall his ambassador from Germany after
Kristallnacht.
The president also began consulting
openly with religious leaders such as
Rabbi Stephen Wise, but still felt he lacked
political capital to expend on purely Jew-
ish questions. His policies, when he left
any fingerprints on them, never were
described as being formulated to ease
their deprivations. They always were sub-
sumed into the greater European refugee
and immigration crisis. Adding another
layer of complication was the chronic
rivalry among American Jewish organiza-
tions. A united front in this regard proved
somewhat elusive throughout the war.
In the third phase, beginning in 1939,
Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lichtman describe a
reactive FDR pivoting to security concerns
after Germany invaded Poland. Spies,
aliens, and saboteurs took precedence
over the Jewish refugees of Europe. The
president beefed up the FBI, finally man-
aged to loosen the Neutrality Acts, inau-
gurated a draft, put the nation on a war
footing, and pursued the official line that
the best way to save Jews was by defeat-
ing Hitler rather than by fighting a Jewish
war. It was during this time of controlled
hysteria that FDR ordered the internment
of Japanese-Americans.
A flashpoint for the tensions can be
seen in the SS St. Louis incident. The Ger-
man vessel bound for Cuba carried Jew-
ish refugees with what they believed were
valid landing permits. During the cross-
ing, Cuban officials bowed to home-grown
anti-Semitism (or lack of sufficient bribes)
and revoked the papers. The St. Louis lin-
gered in Havana harbor before beginning
a waterborne odyssey to give officials in
Europe and the United States time to find
safe havens for more than 900 passengers.
A return to Germany meant sure death.
The Coast Guard did not prevent the
vessel from docking in the United States,
as has been reported, but it did keep tabs
on it. If, as Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lichtman
posit, Roosevelt had admitted the passen-
gers, he would have exceeded immigration
quotas and enraged Congress while work-
ing for revisions to the Neutrality Acts.
The White House refused intervention but
acted in concert with humanitarian orga-
nizations and still-free European countries
to find homes for the refuges, the vast
majority of whom survived the war.
The events that bespoke the fourth
phase of FDRs Jewish policies began with
sporadic reports about the Final Solution
originating in 1942 from Rabbi Wise, not
the White House. Secretary of the Trea-
sury Henry Morgenthau Jr., the cabinets
only Jew and FDRs Hyde Park neighbor,
grew increasingly frustrated with State
Department silence and confronted
Assistant Secretary Breckinridge Long.
Mr. Long, an old Roosevelt political ally
and probably the single greatest impedi-
ment to Jewish immigration over the
years, stonewalled as much as he could,
exposing his intransigence and virtual
stranglehold on visas and refugee flow.
This occurred as Jewish leaders lost their
only high ally at State when Undersecre-
tary Sumner Welles was hounded from
office over imminent disclosures of his
homosexuality, allowing Mr. Long and his
clique even more sway.
However, the internal dissension and
fallout did prompt Roosevelt to create the
War Refugee Board in January 1944, rep-
resenting the first time the government
put its imprimatur behind saving Jews
and other civilians through the efforts of
an official agency. He backed a declara-
tion denouncing the Nazi genocides and
also distanced himself from retrograde
British policies on Palestine. And the
presidents vision of a postwar United
Nations with universal human rights
began to firm up.
According to Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lich-
tman, no official request for the bombing
of Auschwitz reached Roosevelts desk
during this period, and American Jewish
leaders did not agitate for action. The Brit-
ish rejected petitions for the mission and
Churchill wrote only one memo in sup-
port. Roosevelt was never one to micro-
manage his military, and the official strat-
egy of defeating the Nazis first as the best
way to save Jews, coupled with the vaga-
ries of precision bombing, prevailed.
On his sea voyage home from the Yalta
Conference in February 1945, Roosevelt
made a personal pitch to King Ibn Saud
of Saudi Arabia to coexist with Jews in Pal-
estine, enumerating why such an arrange-
ment could be beneficial to both parties.
He was rebuffed coldly. Two months later,
an exhausted, enfeebled chief executive
died at his Warm Springs, Georgia, retreat.
Where do we set the bar with FDR to
calibrate both his relationship with the
Jews and his efforts or lack thereof to save
them? Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lichtman
establish a series of baselines defined by
the political, economic and cultural reali-
ties of the day, the priorities of war, and
the assets and liabilities of Roosevelts daz-
zling virtuosity.
It should be readily apparent that he
did more for Jews at home and abroad
than would have Herbert Hoover, Alf
Landon, Wendell Willkie, or Thomas
Dewey. Or that he won the war faster
than any of them would have if they had
been commander in chief. All except pos-
sibly Hoover and Willkie seemed to lack
his instincts on humanitarian issues. And
all were woefully short of his political
acumen.
Yet FDR leaves many Jews feeling some-
where between disappointment and bit-
terness. Is this more a function of hind-
sight and subsequent revelation rather
than the drumbeat of real-time history
unfolding? Although FDR ached consis-
tently for the Jews, Dr. Breitman and Dr.
Lichtman emphasize that he was often
hobbled or overridden by his internal
political instincts and external political
realities, some as unappetizing as his need
to get into bed with southern segregation-
ist Democrats.
While this book will not and should
not still the debate, it adds several layers
of complexity and perspective to the FDR
portrait. It may even sway certain readers
enough to add a plus or a minus sign to
grading him out at a B on his handling of
the Jewish challenge, although a scholastic
mark seems almost pitifully mocking and
insufficient considering the enormity of
the stakes.
Dr. Breitman and Dr. Lichtman pay their
subject grudging respect throughout by
noting, as one aide said, that FDR had the
ability to turn empathy on and off like a
faucet. With the Jews it was mostly on,
but, unfortunately, he produced only a
trickle when a torrent was needed.
Jonathan E. Lazarus is a former news
editor of The Star-Ledger. His parents were
ardent Roosevelt supporters and he tends
in that direction.
FDR
FROM PAGE 45
FDR with the treasury secretary, Henry Morgenthau Jr.; the two were friends and
had houses near each other in upstate New York.
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RABBI SIMON ABERGEL
Rabbi Simon Abergel, a rabbi and long time
spiritual leader of The Sephardic Congregation
of Fort Lee - Bet Yosef, died on Monday, May
12, 2014, at age 92.
A Morocco native, he emigrated to the U.S.
30 years ago to be near his children in Fort Lee,
New Jersey. His commitment to the Sephardic
tradition drove him to build a synagogue and a
vibrant Sephardic community in Fort Lee that
now numbers more than 100 families.
He is survived by his wife of 67 years, Simy;
two sons, Joseph and Albert; four daughters,
Nicole Mechaly, Sylvie Bossel, Susan Nahon,
and Raquel Dorsey; grandchildren, and great-
grandchildren.
His body was own to Israel for burial in Har
Hazeitim Cemetery in Jerusalem.
Henry Bauer
Henry Bauer, 96, of Teaneck died on May 15 at Villa
Marie Claire in Saddle River.
Born in Germany, he was an Army World War
II veteran. Before retiring, he was a printer, then
a proofreader. He was a member of Congregation
Habonim and the Bnai Brith Leo Baeck Lodge,
both in New York City.
He is survived by his wife, Ellen, ne Drucker,
sons, Larry of Teaneck and Jeffrey of Greenwich,
Conn.; a sister, Suzanne Winarsky of Washington,
and a grandson.
Arrangements were by Eden Memorial Chapels,
Fort Lee.
Charles Fischer
Charles Fischer, 85, of Park Ridge died on May 16.
He was a pioneer in the security industry,
founding Pasco Security and co-owning King Alarm
Distributors and King Central. He was also a member
of the Lions Club.
Predeceased by his wife Helene of 60 years in
2009, he is survived by his children Sherri, Wendy,
Scott, and Glenn; seven grandchildren, and one
great-grandson.
Donations can be sent to Memorial Sloan Kettering
Cancer Center. Arrangements were by Robert
Schoems Menorah Chapel, Paramus.
Marsha Katz
Marsha S. Katz, ne Berger, of Hackensack, formerly
of New Milford and Jersey City, died on May 16.
Before retiring, she was a teacher in Cresskill.
A daughter, Debora Gurner of New York City, and a
brother, Steven Berger of Woodcliff Lake, survive her.
Contributions can be sent to the Simon Wiesenthal
Center in Los Angeles or the Dorothy B. Kraft Center
of Paramus.
Arrangements were by Gutterman and Musicant
Jewish Funeral Directors, Hackensack.
Burl Saidel
Burl Saidel of Emerson died on May 13, his 56th
birthday.
He is survived by his parents, Philene and
Martin Saidel; siblings, Amy, Bruce, Inez Moses
(Garry), Cindy Saidel (Stephen Donofrio), and Alan
(Christine); nieces, nephews, and grand-nieces, and
grand-nephews.
Contributions can be sent to Spectrum for Living,
River Vale. Arrangements were by Gutterman and
Musicant Jewish Funeral Directors, Hackensack.
Obituaries are prepared with information
provided by funeral homes. Correcting errors is
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Serving Bergen County since 1985.
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