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grounds:
One
Goes
To
Prison
and
One
Does
Not:
Why?
Jane
F.
Gilgun,
Ph.D.,
LICSW
Jane
F.
Gilgun,
Ph.D.,
LICSW,
is
a
professor,
School
of
Social
Work,
University
of
Minnesota,
Twin
Cities,
USA.
See
Profes‐
sor
Gilgun’s
other
articles,
books,
and
children’s
stories
on
Amazon
Kindle,
scribd.com/professorjane,
and
stores.lulu.com/jgilgun
Two
Boys,
Similar
Backgrounds:
One
Goes
to
Prison
and
one
Does
Not:
Why?
P
icture
two
boys
growing
up
in
the
same
neighbor‐
hood.
Both
are
10,
live
in
middle‐class
neighborhoods,
are
intelligent,
and
witnessed
their
fathers
beating
their
mothers.
Their
fathers
beat
both
of
them.
Both
experi‐
enced
sexual
abuse.
The
person
who
sexually
abused
Rob
was
his
father.
The
person
who
sexually
abused
Marty
was
an
older
kid
in
the
neighborhood.
One
will
grow
into
responsible
adulthood:
optimistic,
a
lov‐
ing
husband
and
father,
and
a
dependable
employee.
The
other
will
become
a
prison
inmate.
What
creates
the
difference
in
these
two
lives?
Rob:
Trust
in
Others
Rob
confided
in
a
friend
named
Pete
when
his
father
beat
him
and
when
he
had
worries
about
school,
friendships,
and
money.
He
learned
from
Pete’s
father
how
to
fix
electronic
equipment.
He
tried
to
be
like
his
friend’s
father.
He
liked
school
and
enjoyed
playing
with
other
kids
at
school
and
in
the
neighborhood
As
Rob
grew
older,
his
circle
of
friends
widened.
He
devel‐
oped
hopes
and
dreams
for
the
future.
He
kept
a
diary
where
he
recorded
secret
stuff
about
his
troubles
in
his
fam‐
ily,
his
feelings
for
girls,
and
how
his
day
went.
He
got
drunk
at
a
party
when
he
was
16
and
didn’t
like
the
feeling
of
being
out
of
control.
After
that
he
drank
only
occasionally,
and
not
too
much.
As
a
young
adult,
Rob
sought
professional
help
for
his
feel‐
ings
of
anger,
sadness,
and
frustration
about
the
abuse
he
experienced
as
a
child.
Marty:
Broken
Trust
Marty,
at
the
age
of
eight,
confided
in
a
teacher
that
his
father
beat
him.
He
also
wanted
to
tell
the
teacher
about
the
older
boy
in
the
neighborhood
who
sexually
abused
him,
but
he
thought
he
would
wait
to
see
how
the
teacher
handled
the
news
of
his
physical
abuse.
The
teacher
called
his
father,
who
said
he
had
never
beaten
Marty.
When
Marty
got
home
from
school,
his
father
beat
him
for
telling
the
teacher.
Marty
never
confided
in
anyone
again.
Instead,
he
tried
to
be
tough,
like
men
he
saw
in
video
games
and
on
TV.
They
didn’t
feel
hurt
or
helpless.
They
took
what
they
wanted.
They
were
in
charge.
By
the
age
of
10,
Marty
was
stealing
from
stores
and
harass‐
ing
other
children,
physically
and
sexually.
He
was
doing
poorly
in
school
At
11,
he
joined
a
group
who
stole
and
sometimes
attacked
others,
vandalized
property,
and
used
alcohol
and
drugs.
Marty
told
himself
he
was
having
fun.
At
14,
Marty
was
in
a
juvenile
correctional
center.
Five
years
later,
he
was
convicted
and
sentenced
to
12
years
in
prison
for
criminal
sexual
conduct.
Similar
Risks,
Different
Outcomes
As
children,
Rob
and
Marty
were
both
at
risk
for
committing
violent
acts.
One
had
on‐going
relationships
with
people
he
trusted
and
in
whom
he
confided
personal,
sensitive
infor‐
mation.
Doing
so
helped
him
feel
better.
Positive
experiences
and
relationships
were
protective
factors.
Marty
had
some
protective
factors,
but
a
pile‐up
of
risk
fac‐
tors
overwhelmed
them.
His
life
might
have
been
far
different
had
there
been
early
and
effective
responses
to
his
report
of
physical
abuse
at
home.
Resilience
Many
people
have
risks
for
outcomes
like
Marty’s,
but
most
people
with
these
risks
turn
out
like
Rob
because
they
have
many
positive
factors
in
their
lives
that
they
use
to
help
them
work
through
the
effects
of
these
risks.
Such
people
are
resilient,
meaning
they
have
learned
to
cope
with,
adapt
to,
or
overcome
risks,
because
they
use
the
posi‐
tive
things
in
their
lives.
Rob,
for
instance,
trusted
Pete
and
Pet’s
family.
He
gained
a
sense
of
self‐worth
through
his
close
relationships
with
them.
He
never
sexually
abused
anyone,
and
at
a
party
when
he
was
a
teen,
he
stopped
another
boy
from
raping
a
girl
who
had
had
too
much
to
drink.
“He
might
have
put
something
in
her
drink,”
Rob
said.
Other
people
are
not
resilient.
In
Marty’s
case,
he
made
a
decision
early
in
life
never
to
trust
anyone
else.
He
was
far
too
young
to
understand
the
consequences
of
his
decision.
When
we
look
at
the
numbers
of
children
who
are
hurt
and
afraid,
what
can
each
of
us
do
to
help
these
children
build
the
trust
required
to
begin
to
deal
with
the
difficult
events
in
their
lives?
BridgeBuilding
Only
trained
professionals
can
provide
hurt
children
with
the
extensive
help
they
require,
but
people
can
become
bridges
for
hurt
children,
bridges
that
lead
to
safe
and
secure
relationships
with
competent
professionals
who
can
help
children
deal
with
the
harsh
realities
in
their
lives.
In
the
best
of
all
worlds,
the
children’s
parents
will
walk
with
their
children
across
that
bridge
to
professional
help.
When
parents
cannot
do
this,
then
their
children
will
have
a
tougher
time,
but
they
may
be
lucky
as
Rob
was
and
find
a
network
of
people
who
will
care
about
them
and
stick
with
them
over
the
long
term.
References
Gilgun,
Jane
F.,
&
Laura
S.
Abrams
(2005).
Gendered
adaptations,
resilience,
and
the
perpetration
of
violence.
In
Michael
Ungar
(Ed.),
Handbook
for
working
with
children
and
youth:
Pathways
to
resilience
across
cultures
and
context
(pp.
57‐70).
Toronto:
University
of
Toronto
Press.
Gilgun, Jane F. Christian Klein, & Kay Pranis. (2000). The
significance of resources in models of risk, Journal of
Interpersonal Violence, 14, 627-646.