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Table of Contents
From The Editor......................................................................................................3

Things I Love about Lexington................................................................4
Let’s Talk
Pay Attention!............................................................................................................................5
Clark Berry Photography...................................................................................................6
The Art of Great Gift-Giving...........................................................................................8
“Value Each Moment” How Lexington’s Nikki Haley Balances
Being A Mom, Businesswoman & State Representative............................................... 10
Photograph by Cynthia Pace Photography Health & Wellness

Women and Hidden Attention Problems............................................................. 12
Woman 2 Woman Enterprises Preventing Preterm Birth: Understanding the Essentials................................... 13
PO Box 85282 Leah Scott................................................................................................................................14
Lexington, SC 29073
Dr. Steven J. and Jennifer Hutchinson....................................................................... 16
(803) 808.0866
www.newwoman2woman.com Stress Management............................................................................................................ 18
Why See a Dermatologist Once a Year................................................................. 20
Editor-In-Chief:
Lori Samples Duncan
You and Your Body.............................................................................................................. 22
(loriduncan@newwoman2woman.com)
Wedding
Sales & Marketing: Choosing the Right Photographer............................................................................. 24
Michelle Boggs
Wedding Directory............................................................................................................ 25
Carey Hall
Lauri Truesdale
Spotlight on West Columbia
Contributing Writers: Chappelle Broom................................................................................................................ 26
Anthony Buzzetti The Etiquette of Sympathy
Donna Rush Chumley What to do When Someone You Know Suffers a Loss.................................................. 29
Lori Samples Duncan
Thompsons Funeral Home............................................................................................ 31
Ashby Jones
Mindy Kyzer
Jared Kyzer
Kid’s Stuff
Tim Loonam, DVM Decorating a Room with Your Child........................................................................ 32
Kathryn L. Moore, MD Sarah Dippity.........................................................................................................................33
Bob Phillips, PhD Psychologist Karen Petta..............................................................................................................................34
Lydia Ramsey
Dr. Gayle Rozantine, PhD, B.C.S.M.
A Day in the Old Mill..................................................................................... 36
Elaine Samples
Wally Steinhauser
Sarah Straney
Pets
Lauri Truesdale The Importance of Socializing Your Pet.................................................................. 38
Shasta Verdin
Dr. Michelle Welch Services
Wingards Nursery.............................................................................................................. 40
Publication Layout and Ad Design:
Melissa Wates
Adult Home Care:
Independent Contractors vs. Home Care Companies.................................................... 42
Photography:
Cynthia Pace Photography Professional
What to Consider when Contemplating Divorce........................................... 44
Survivor Photography:
Clark Berry Photography
What is Supplemental Health Insurance?.............................................................. 47
Women and Investing: Your Special Financial Considerations.................... 48
Every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of
Bank Meridian........................................................................................................................50
this publication. However, the publisher cannot assume Melissa Kyzer..........................................................................................................................52
responsibility for errors or omissions. No part of this
book may be reproduced in any manner whatsoever Why Was Rush’s the Right Choice for Me?......................................................... 54
without written permission. © 2008

Table of Contents
Entertainment & Travel

The Event Planner of the Midlands........................................................................... 55
Jessica Judge............................................................................................................................56
Celebrating the Survivor in You

The Survivor Photo Shoot............................................................................................. 59
Paulette Criscione............................................................................................................... 60
“Chemo with Style”............................................................................................................ 61
Thank You.................................................................................................................................62
Amy Kinard.............................................................................................................................64
Diane Conyers......................................................................................................................66
Martha Shealy........................................................................................................................68
Web Directory........................................................................................................ 70
Business Directory............................................................................................ 71
A Personal Note................................................................................................... 72
Photograph by Cynthia Pace Photography
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From the Editor
Welcome to
Welcome to Lexington Woman! What a wonderful place to live and raise a

family. Working in Lexington has been my immense pleasure!
This publication is meant to truly simplify your life! It is our desire to

bring to Greater Lexington residents a “Best of the Best” right from the
mouths of real women. Each of the businesses within these pages has
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themselves in a way that would make you want to personally refer them,
their products, services, or talents to your mother, sister, grandmother,
best friend, and any other person in need of their expertise.
In our articles on individual Lexington Women, we want to Celebrate,

Motivate and Inspire other real women. Take a closer look at some of
the women in these pages that are providing you with quality services and
products.
We will continue to bring to you services, products, and professionals who

are dependable, customer service oriented businesses, making Lexington
Woman your premiere resource guide to help assist you with the demands
of everyday life.
This is our Survivor issue and we hope that the stories of other women in
our community who have overcome a life threatening disease will inspire
you to overcome and survive something in your own life. We want to
celebrate the survivor in all of us!
In this edition, we chose to spotlight some very noteworthy businesses in

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No matter when you came to Lexington County, born here or just moved
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Share your ideas as well as your own personal successes and struggles.
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Lori Samples Duncan

Editor

Things I Love about Lexington
Things We Love about Lexington!

Lori Samples Duncan
H ere are some of the things we love about Lexington. Things we

know people drive across the bridge for.
butterfly footprints shown here, for only $25.00 you can have your
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shake for the road when they visit from another and invite you over for
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I love The Studio in Lexington, where you I love middle school politics—Caro-
can make the most adorable art with your lina Springs Middle school elected
children’s foot or hand print. Karen Petta the first female president of their sixth
and her staff offer unique ways to spend grade class, Jenna Williams.
the afternoon with the kids, taking an art
class or making jewelry, not to mention I love strangers who sit on their front
the wonderful gift ideas for Grandparents porches, all over Lexington County,
and new parents. My favorite thing is the and wave when you drive by.
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Let’s Talk
Pay Attention!
Pastor Mark Crumpton, Lexington Church of God
“P ay attention in class!” This is a phrase I have heard many

times in life; but now I find that I am saying it to myself.
God has called us all to be disciples (students) and life is the class-
Friends, I believe that God has given us children to teach us what
true love really is. Unconditional love is a difficult concept for us
to understand; yet, children not only understand it, they will teach
room. us if we simply “pay attention.”

Most recently I have taken notice of my children and the profound God loves us all with this same kind of love. His love is an endless
love they have for all of God’s creation, family, strangers, and ani- and unconditional love. No matter what you may have done in
mals. When I pay attention, I see that God has given us children your past and no matter what you may look like to the rest of the
world, God LOVES you. God too is eager to help anyone in need;
“When I pay attention, I see that God and today he is offering to you his most prized possession.
has given us children to show us and John 3:16

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that
to teach us of his deep and whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting
profound love for all creation to life. (KJV)
include sinful mankind” Pastor Mark Crumpton, Lexington Church of God

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to show us and to teach us of his deep and profound love for all
creation to include sinful mankind.

My children don’t judge people for the way they dress, the color of
their skin, or the way someone may look. They teach me how to be
more accepting of all God’s children.

Children are always eager and excited to help anyone in need.
Though they may appear stingy or selfish at times, they will gladly
give up their most prized possession to someone who truly needs
it. Allow me to illustrate this point by telling you how my then 7
year old daughter shared Christmas with a family in need.

A few years ago, on Christmas night, a home in my subdivision
was completely destroyed by a fire. We didn’t know the people
who lived there but I was the president of the homeowners as-
sociation and was informed of the family’s needs. I mentioned to
my wife that the family had children about the same age as ours
and to gather up some clothes to take to them. My daughter heard
and realized that this little girl had lost everything including her
Christmas presents. She brought me her favorite new Christmas
doll and some other new Christmas gifts to take because that little
girl “needed it.”

Let’s Talk
Clark Berry Photography

Clark & Becki Berry
Photograph by Clark Berry Photography
F or many couples the idea of actually working with their spouse

isn’t so appealing. This isn’t the case for Clark and Becki Berry.
They began taking pictures, mostly of their children and friends’
part of Clark Berry Photography. Although Clark and Becki put in
a lot of hours, they are able to do things with their family during
weekdays that many “9 to 5ers” do not have the flexibility to achieve.
children, in the evening and on weekends. This quickly developed “Working together as husband and wife and doing something that
into a full time job and, despite the benefit of a successful career in we both love to do has been a definite blessing to our marriage and
electrical engineering, Clark decided to leave his “day job” to pur- family.”
sue a career in photography. Clark says, “The best advice I’ve ever
received is to find out what you love to do and then figure out a way Clark and Becki attribute their success to, first and foremost, God,
to make it your career.” who “has given us our talent, heart and our vision.” Next, they high-
light individuality as an important factor. “We have found success
Their photography business does just that for Clark and Becki. It by being ourselves and not being afraid to be different. Photography
allows them to photograph children of all ages, high school seniors, is art. Doing the same thing as everyone else is a recipe for medioc-
executives, couples, brides and grooms. They photograph in their rity. Create what moves and inspires you, and success will take care
studio in the Old Mill in Lexington and “just about any location of itself.” Lastly, teamwork is imperative. “Everyone has strengths
you can imagine.” The Old Mill location provides clients with not and weaknesses,” says Clark. “Surround yourself with others who
only traditional portraits on beautiful backgrounds but also win- balance your weaker areas. Becki and I have different talents and
dow light portraits with the century old brick and original wood strengths and we’ve found that we balance each other well.” This was
flooring of the mill. very important to them as they added Megan, their first employee,
to their team. Carefully selecting someone with a positive attitude
The couple particularly enjoys meeting the variety of people that they that matched up well with their own strength and weaknesses has
have the opportunity to photograph. “Having our clients become made her an asset to the Clark Berry Photography team.
emotional after seeing what we have created for them is very re-
warding. It is what motivates us and keeps us looking forward to our The Berry’s believe that happy people are the best people to pho-
next opportunity to photograph a wedding or portrait.” One mother tograph as “everyone is beautiful when they are happy.” They are
of the bride, whom Clark and Becki worked with, shared this about passionate about taking pictures and love their job. Providing pho-
her experience, “They do a beautiful job, and it is not photography, tographs which grow more valuable to the individual and their fam-
its art. What Clark can do with his camera is absolute art!” ily as the year passes is immensely rewarding to this husband and
wife team.
Their business allows for a flexible schedule, a particularly beneficial

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Let’s Talk
The Art of Great

Gift-Giving
Karen L. Tingen
E very woman has someone on her gift list who is “hard to

buy for.” What’s the solution to this dilemma? Master the
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“Value Each Moment”

How Lexington’s Nikki Haley Balances Being A Mom,
Businesswoman & State Representative
Lori Samples Duncan
I t would be impossible to write a “Day in the Life” story about

Lexington County’s Nikki Haley, because as she’ll tell you, no
two days are ever the same.
“I like working hard,” she says. “My parents recognized that when
I was very young, which is why they entrusted me to manage the
books for our family business when I was still in middle school.
My colleagues at the State House recognized how hard I work very
“I think every woman can relate to that feeling,” she says. “We can quickly, too. It’s just how I’m wired. I think if people are going to
plan the perfect day all we want, but the world around us never trust you with their votes, you have to respect that trust and reward
seems to stick to the script.” it with your effort.”
For Nikki, those days typically start early as she and her husband, “If there is one thing I heard time and again from voters during
Michael, get their two children, Rena, 9, and Nalin, 6, out of bed Nikki’s first run was what a hard worker she was,” says B.J. Boling,
and ready for school. By the time everyone is fed, dressed and in the a key member of Haley’s political team. “You couple Nikki’s unpar-
alleled work ethic with her unquestionable character and business
smarts, and it’s no wonder why she is among the upper echelon of
leaders in the State House.”
Regarded as one of the top policy minds in state government, Haley

has helped shape several pieces of major legislation over the past few
years, most notably South Carolina’s new workers’ compensation
laws and a sweeping coastal insurance reform bill that passed last
session. A dedicated advocate for small businesses and individual
taxpayers, Haley is among the most fiscally conservative members
of the S.C. General Assembly.
“My experience as a small businesswoman taught me the value of

a dollar,” she says. “Too often, that perspective gets overlooked in
government, which is the reason I ran for office in the first place.”
car for the ten-minute ride to Midway Elementary, Nikki says her Even with such an impressive policy resume, Nikki says her most
Blackberry is already loaded up with several dozen new voice, text important job is serving the people of Lexington County. Specifi-
and e-mail messages. cally, she says her goal is to preserve the sense of community and
“unique quality of life that makes living here so special.”
“That’s when the list you wrote before bed the night before pretty
much goes out the window,” she says. “But I wouldn’t trade those “I love policy and I love doing a lot of the heavy lifting on the im-
moments with my kids for anything in the world. I know I’ve got portant issues we face as a state, but my heart is with the people
a hectic day ahead of me each morning, but I also know that my of Lexington County,” she says. “Our community, our schools, our
children are a gift from God, and the great thing about my kids is I
get to feed off of their energy and their exuberance.” “...my heart is with the people of
That same approach goes for Nikki’s two equally-demanding jobs, Lexington County...”
one as Chief Financial Officer for her family’s clothing store, Ex-
otica, and the other as a rising star in the South Carolina General churches, our families—each one of those things is a huge part of
Assembly. who I am as a person, and like so many people in my district, it’s
why I choose to live, work and raise my family here.”
First elected in 2004, Haley has quickly risen through the ranks as
a state legislator. She was the chairwoman of her Freshman Caucus Drawing from her own experiences helps Haley understand the
and now serves as a Majority Whip and an influential member of needs of her community better, resulting in better constituent ser-
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“For example, I take a lot of joy in going to cheerleading practice

with my daughter, Rena,” Haley says. “That’s something I know “If you don’t think every day is a good day,
thousands of moms and dads enjoy, too, and if they can enjoy it
without having to worry about sprawl and traffic and out-of-control just try missing one.” — Cavett Robert
taxes, then I’m doing my job. If I can help take worries like that off of
people’s plates so that they can enjoy living in this wonderful com-
munity, then I’m accomplishing something that matters.”
Some days Haley gets up to 100 e-mails from her constituents ask-
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Women and Hidden Attention Problems

Bob Phillips, Ph.D. Psychologist
W hen most people think of ADD (attention deficit dis-

order) or ADHD (same thing but with hyperactivity
added) most people think of a young boy running wild in a class
both of your parents. We are also beginning to see more and more
symptoms that are related to childhood head trauma such as falls
or other accidents that were mostly unnoticed when symptoms did
room or in a store. They imagine the teacher or mother franticly not materialize right after the incident. Some researchers are sug-
beseeching the child to slow down and behave. But what about gesting that as much as twenty percent of all attention problems
girls and women who have an attention problem? Where are they are actually undiagnosed traumatic brain injuries. Regardless of
and what do they look like? Only a few years ago it was a widely where the brain dysfunction comes from the symptoms for fe-
held belief that the number of boys with an attention problem out- males can be life altering and lifelong.
numbered the girls by a ratio of eight to one. Even if you asked a
teacher he or she would have probably agreed that there were a lot Some of the more common symptoms of an attention problem
more boys than girls with an attention problem than there were are when you:
girls with an attention problem. But we know now that is simply
not the case. In fact there are probably as many girls and women • are frequently forgetful; frequently have trouble remembering to
with an attention disorder as there are boys and men. They just do important things;
look different, sound different and need to be treated differently. • were frequently told by parents or teachers that you were not
trying hard enough in school when in fact you were trying hard;
Today we are beginning to understand that there are several types
of attention problems. While it is true that hyperactivity is more • have trouble completing tasks or assignments or when you jump
common in males than females, there are several non-hyperactive from one task to another without finishing the first task;
forms of the disorder that are much more common in females. • are frequently over-committed, rushing and often late;
These forms of the disorder are frequently much harder to spot • Frequently drift off into a daydream or loose a few moments
than a hyperactive boy tearing up a hymnal in church. Some of the when you should be paying attention;
symptoms of these are spacing out when you want to be focused on
reading or listening to a speaker, such as a teacher or boss. Some • make impulsive purchases or impulsive decisions;
women with an attention deficit problem feel constantly behind, • have impulsive emotional reactions or react too strongly;
overwhelmed and frazzled. Some feel that their lives are so out of • have been treated as if you are not smart when you know you
control so they rarely invite friends over to their homes because are;
they are ashamed to let others see how disorganized and messy
their homes are. • feel overwhelmed and disorganized in your daily life;
Attention problems are not like a light switch, either on or off. At- Having one or two of these does not mean that you have an at-
tention problems come in all levels and several forms. Many wom- tention problem. But if you have several of these and they have
en can do well enough in school but begin to feel overwhelmed at been a part of your life for several years then you may have an
work or in organizing and maintaining a family. Some women can attention deficit disorder. If you do find that you have this form of
do very well with one child but the wheels begin to fall off with brain function problem you can get started on a road to a much
three children. To manage children and run a household takes a improved life. The first step in taking responsibility for this change
lot of multitasking and quick adjustments. When you have to keep is to get an evaluation that will help in determining if you have this
yourself on track and also be the scheduler for everyone else in disorder. Then you can get help by using medication or by using
the family you’r brain had better be functioning well or there will a method of retraining your brain function called neurotherapy.
be problems. Confusion, clutter, frustration and tension quickly Some women begin by using the medication and then taper off of
multiply when a woman’s brain is not functioning fully or appro- the medication as their brain function improves with the neuro-
priately. What is a challenge for a woman without an attention therapy. These things can change, but it takes action to make that
problem becomes a continuing crisis for a woman with any one of change happen.
the forms of an attention deficit disorder. These women frequently
Dr. Bob Phillips is a psychologist and the Clinical Director of the Brain Bright
suffer from low self-esteem (“Am I lazy, crazy or just stupid?”), de- Neurotherapy Center in West Columbia, South Carolina—(803) 360-9698. For
pression (“If I were good enough I wouldn’t have all these prob- more information, visit wwwBrainBright.com.
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Today we know that attention disorders are a reflection of brain

functioning. Sometimes you inherit the disorder from one or

Health & Wellness
Preventing Preterm Birth:

Understanding the Essentials
Kathryn L. Moore, MD
“...it’s important for you to do

everything you can to prevent
preterm birth.”
P regnancy comes with lots to think about and new things

to consider—baby names, nursery colors, cravings and
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should learn about is preterm birth. Understanding the facts about
Because it can be difficult for physicians to identify who will de-
liver prematurely, it’s important for you to do everything you can
to prevent preterm birth. Getting early and regular prenatal care,
avoiding tobacco, getting adequate rest, and reducing physical and
this common problem can help you prevent an early delivery and emotional stress can help insure a healthy pregnancy. Prevention
get back to wondering whether he’ll have your eyes. starts even before pregnancy. Maintain a healthy weight, manage
chronic health problems, and provide at least 9 months between
More than 150 preterm babies are born in South Carolina each pregnancies for your body to recover.
week. Babies are considered premature if they are delivered be-
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Leah Scott
Arbonne International
W 2W: How did you get started with Arbonne?

Leah: I initially started with Arbonne to get a great dis-
count on my products. I loved them, but love the discount, too!
childhood, two brothers, one sister and both sets of grandparents;
a God-fearing family going back generations. I grew up in Ohio,
attending Dayton Christian Schools then attended Campbell Uni-
Then, I began to do some research on the business part and ulti- versity in North Carolina on a volleyball scholarship and gradu-
mately chose to jump and make it work, the income potential, the ated in 2000 with a BA in Mass Communications. I’m still on a
opportunity, the growth of the company, the products unparallel learning track, only this time one of success with people, life and
in the market together was just to good to pass up. The reality, community. I absolutely believe now that life’s education is based
too, was after five years at home with my daughter, I was in no on experiences and failures. I am learning a new way to get a high-
way wanting to go back to work in the punch-card kind of way. er education.
But our debt, lack of financial freedom, and limited giving ability
was looming over us. We were also looking for a way out of the W2W: What skills do you possess that assist you in being good at
“rat race.” There are so many more things that we want out of life: what you do?
Christian education for Faith, a house on Lake Murray, traveling to Leah: Certainly life takes skill, but thankfully they are learned! I
see family whenever we wanted and living debt free. So there are possessed a certain amount of skill when I started my Arbonne
a million reasons now why I chose network marketing and specifi- business, but because of how this business is conducted it opened
cally, Arbonne. Once connected with my sponsor, I was coached the door to reprogram my brain to think bigger and better and
from the very beginning. She held my hand and helped me work really to think outside the box. Arbonne trains on listening skills,
this business, taught me what to do and is still doing that today. We how to set goals, how to help those around you succeed, how to
work like a team and it’s an awesome way to do business! motivate yourself into action and other people. I have learned so
much in the last two years, a type of education I wouldn’t trade for
W2W: What are some of your favorite aspects of your profession? my college degree! We learn as a team so we teach and train each
Leah: One of my favorite reasons being that I feel like I’ve tapped other and that makes it so rewarding. My biggest “skill” now is that
into some great big secret and I want to let the cat out of the bag! I am learning how to be more “coachable”, which will impact my
The old way of life, get good grades, go to college to get a good job learning curve forever!
“When people share their dreams W2W: What would your friends say about how you handle your-
self professionally?
with you, it does something to you Leah: My friends would say I am hard working, passionate and that
I conduct my business with integrity and service. Personally, they
inside. It makes you think, pray and know me as a good mother and wife—generous, enthusiastic and
work towards helping them genuine.
achieve those dreams.” W2W: What are three words to describe you and why?
Leah: Loud, out-going and a little over the top. Frankly, I annoy
and work until you die is just that, an old way and honestly just myself sometimes, ha, ha. But we are so much harder on ourselves
doesn’t really work anymore. So I love sharing other options with then we need to be, and the truth is I love who God made me. The
others that are looking to get out of the rat race. That is the most challenge is becoming who God wants me to be, the best version
rewarding thing for me. I love seeing others succeed! Empower- of myself. One of my favorite authors, Matthew Kelly is teaching
ing men and women to move beyond themselves and serve others. me about that.
Our president Rita Davenport says, “You can’t get what you want
unless you help others get what they want.” When people share W2W: Who are your female role models who have inspired you to
their dreams with you it does something to you inside. It makes make the most of your life?
you think, pray and work towards helping them achieve those Leah: I am so inspired by my mother, a wonder-woman of sorts
dreams. Yours are still there, but I think we innately want to help who taught me to give it a try, step out in faith and expect great
others get what they want out of life. I think I used to be a dream things and most importantly to forgive, forgive and forgive. I have
stealer, finding real reasons why it can’t or shouldn’t be done. Not two other role models in my life right now, one being Becki Barns
anymore, share your dream with me and I will help you get there! from Edmond, Oklahoma. Becki models for me humility and
It’s an exhilarating part of my business. courage; she is my leader with a limp (she would admit it) and I
love her for teaching me that. Because that’s what I am, a leader
W2W: Tell us where Leah comes from? with a limp. I’m not “qualified” to be doing what I am doing, just
Leah: My background is relatively traditional. I had an amazing blessed to do so in spite of my faults and mistakes. And that lesson

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is for everyone. Lead with your limp. Another role model is my my greatest achievement is still yet to be achieved; I simply can’t
friend and neighbor, Jenna Polk. Jenna stepped out on a limb (and look back at 29 years and say that I accomplished anything “great”
her own limp) to change her life in ways that are immeasurable. but there is so much more to do. I’ve been warned not to say, “I
She models faith, persistence, courage, wisdom and determination am too young” when Mozart wrote his first symphony at 8 years
to me daily and I love her for that, too. old, and Tiger Woods broke 50 for 9 holes of golf at 3 years old,
and Anne Frank who at 13 began her diaries, and Ralph Waldo
W2W: Share a favorite quote with us that inspires you to be a bet- Emerson enrolled at Harvard at 14 years old. I’ve also been warned
ter you? about saying, “I’m too old” when Dom Perignon who at 60 years
Leah: Wow, I have so many, but one of my favorites is from our old produced his first glass of champagne, and Nelson Mandela
President Rita Davenport who said, “Get your big girl panties on who at 71 years old was released from more than 20 years in prison
and deal with it.” This is also from the same woman who said, “My to then 4 years later be elected president of South Africa at 75, and
job is to love you and your job is to love each other.” Rita also said, Ben Franklin who at 79 years old invented bifocals, and Mother
“I hate to brag, but I sell Arbonne!” Teresa who at 40 years old dreamed a new dream and impacted
the world for the next 20 years with her service in Calcutta, and
W2W: What is your greatest achievement? Hulda Crooks who at 91 years old conquered Mt. Fuji. My greatest
Leah: One of my greatest achievements is simply that I get out of accomplishment is that I can dream a new dream everyday, and
bed every morning! I am so not the morning person. I truly believe God has given me a life to go after my dreams.
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Dr. Steven J. and Jennifer Hutchinson

Lori Samples Duncan
D r. Steven J. Hutchinson always knew he wanted to be in the

medical profession. It was when a dentist mentored him
at a very young age that he chose to follow in his footsteps. Solving
it out, on a screen right in his
office that showed me through
a special camera exactly what
the problems of his patients and helping them achieve healthy den- the inside of my mouth looked
tal hygiene is part of what he loves about dentistry. Dr. Hutchinson like. YUCK!
graduated from the Citadel with a BS in Biology and then contin-
ued his education for his DMD at MUSC. With a baby face and a “All my patients are my friends,”
sweet disposition, his problem solving skills and his tendency to- Dr. Hutchinson says, and he is
ward perfectionism, help Dr. Hutchinson easily spot a problem and exactly right. It is hard not to
quickly decide on a course of action in order to give his patients smile when you think of him
optimal results. and his team. One of his pa-
tients said, “I can see myself hanging out with them, watching the
After my first visit with Dr. Hutchinson, my impression was that football game. What a great couple.”
he was genuinely a nice guy and a great dentist. His discovery of an
issue that I had no idea was there was easy to spot once he pointed His mother and his sister were important female role models to

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him. His father and Dr. Cody Fishburne, DMD had the biggest im- “One of his patients said, ‘I can see
pact on Dr. Hutchinson professionally. Dr. Fishburne was the men-
tor who helped guide him in his career. “Treat everyone as you want myself hanging out with them,
to be treated” is Dr. Hutchinson’s philosophy.
watching the football game. What
Of course behind every good man is a hard working woman! a great couple.’”
I wanted to share a little about his wife as well. When they became and caring, asking frequently, “What if it was me; what would I
our dentist, we had no idea we would enjoy them as people so do?”
much. New to the area and having had a bad experience with the
first dentist we were referred to, we were a little worried. After the Her female role models include her mother and Steven’s mother,
first visit, our worries were put to rest. Jennifer gives the best clean- “Two hard working women who know that honesty and hard work
ing I personally have ever had, and my five year old son remembers is the best path to follow.”
both their names after only two visits.
While she is a perfectionist when it comes to your dental care,
I would refer them to any family looking for a dentist who truly cares Jennifer adopts this favorite quote about the other stresses of every
about their teeth. Jennifer loves “making women feel good about day life, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.”
“All my patients are my friends,” I asked her what male in her life has had the biggest impact on her
both personally and professionally.
Dr. Hutchinson says, and
“It would be hard to single out any one male role model. I would say
he is exactly right.” friends through college who would always encourage me to fulfill
my dreams and be a strong woman. The doctors that I work with
their smile. Whether it’s with cosmetic veneers, cosmetic whitening daily discussing treatment plans for patients—these people enrich
or a general cleaning, women like to feel beautiful and with a great my life with knowledge and inspiration.”
smile we will smile more often and have better self esteem.”
My last question to Jennifer was, “What is your greatest achievement?”
“I care for my patients like family. I take time to diagnose periodontal
disease and other diseases of the mouth. I help guide my patients to “Having our own dental office, sharing that with my husband, be-
whatever help they need,” she says. cause we can now offer the best care possible for our patients, I’m
able to make my patients healthier and happier while watching them
“I not only discuss diseases of the mouth but overall health; I want smile!”
my patients to talk with me about anything.”
Palmetto Comprehensive Dentistry is a Delta Dental Provider.
Like Steven, she is a perfectionist, feeling that the more orderly the
office runs, the better they can serve their patients. They are honest
Dr. Steven J. Hutchinson, DMD

Jennifer P. Hutchinson, RDH
Cosmetic | Restorative | Preventive
(803) 359-0566
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Health & Wellness
Stress Management
Gayle S. Rozantine, Ph.D., B.C.S.M., Clincal Phsychologist
W e all know what it is like to feel stressed. We may feel

irritable, jumpy, and tense. We may have difficulty
sleeping, which leaves us feeling tired and reduces our ability to
demands of the situation exceed our ability to adequately meet
those demands. We may feel inadequate to cope with the situation,
because our personal or social resources are limited.
work effectively and make good decisions. Our muscles may be-
come tense, leading to headaches, backaches, clenched teeth and Although we often think of stress as being negative, stress can
sore jaws, or overall muscle pain. We may have stomach aches, create positive or negative feelings. Stressful situations can have
acid reflux, nausea, or diarrhea. Our blood pressure may increase, a positive influence on us by motivating us to take action, acquire
new skills, increase our awareness and insight, and develop a new
“What makes a situation stressful perspective. Stress has a negative influence on us when it causes us
to feel overwhelmed, rejected, angry, or depressed.
for one person, while another
There are many factors that influence our level of stress:
person feels stimulated or
challenged by the same set Attitude. Our attitude determines whether a situation or emotion
is stressful or not. A person with a negative attitude typically re-
of circumstances?” ports more stress than someone with a positive attitude.
and we may have heart palpitations. We may have hot flashes or Nutrition. Poor nutrition places the body in a state of physical
our hands and feet may become cold. We may feel dizzy and have stress and at risk of infection. Poor nutrition can be caused by un-
difficulty breathing. These are common symptoms we experience healthy food choices, inadequate food intake, an irregular eating
when we feel overwhelmed by situations we consider stressful. schedule, or substance abuse. This form of physical stress decreas-
es our ability to deal with situations that are perceived as difficult
What makes a situation stressful for one person, while another or unmanageable because malnutrition affects the way our brain
person feels stimulated or challenged by the same set of circum- processes information.
stances? The answer lies in our perception, or view, of the position
in which we find ourselves. Stress occurs when we believe that the Exercise. Inadequate physical activity can create a stressful state
for the body. A program of regular physical activity will improve
your mood and increase your feeling of well-being.
Support systems. Everyone needs someone in their life to share

their experiences, especially when they are having a hard time.
The lack of adequate support makes stressful situations more dif-
ficult to manage.
Relaxation. People who do not know how to relax are less able to
handle stressful situations because they do not know how to man-
age their stress.

You may be wondering if it is possible to eliminate stress from
your life. Our goal is not to eliminate stress, but to learn how to
manage it. What can you do to manage the stress in your life?
Identifying unrelieved stress and being aware of its effect on our
lives is a first step, but it is not sufficient for reducing the harmful
effects of stress. Just as there are many sources of stress, there are
many ways of managing it. Learning to manage stress requires a
willingness to work toward change. We must identify the sources
of stress and change our reaction to it.

We know from research that the most fundamental strategy for
creating and maintaining balance and health is learning what is
known as the relaxation response, the term we use to describe

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the deep state of relaxation attained when one focuses attention response, you will find that your physical health improves.Learn-
on breathing and mindfully letting go of muscle tension. Learn- ing the relaxation response through a structured stress manage-
ing to trigger the relaxation response is known to reduce tension, ment program is an important step in learning how to manage the
to reduce pain, to ease gastrointestinal disturbance, to relieve in- stress in your life.
somnia, and to reduce anxiety and depression. It has also been
found to increase immune system functioning so that your overall Gayle S. Rozantine, Ph.D., B.C.S.M., Clinical Psychologist
health improves. It is effective in reducing blood pressure, which The Center for Health and Well-Being, PC
Diplomate, Board Certified in Stress Management
is especially beneficial for those suffering from hypertension and The American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress
other cardiovascular disorders. Learning the relaxation response www.quietawakening.com
teaches you to cope with the hassles of everyday life and helps you
to reduce your overall stress. After learning to elicit the relaxation
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Why See a Dermatologist Once a Year

Michelle D. Welch, M.D., Board Certified Dermatologist
G et a skin check from a dermatologist every year. Skin can-

cer is on the rise and if undetected it can kill you. A tiny spot
on the skin can be a harmless freckle or a deadly skin cancer. So, I
There is a trend going on with cosmetic procedures that concerns
me and it has to do with my last pearl for this article. When it comes
to cosmetic procedures for your skin you should only go to a skin
highly recommend a complete skin check by a dermatologist at least care professional. It seems that just about every kind of physician
once a year and more frequently if you have a history of skin cancer. is getting on the lucrative cosmetic skin train. Managed care, low
Check your own skin monthly and if something doesn’t look right payouts by health insurers, high expenses, and the like, have pushed
or has changed go see your dermatologist. There is an acronym to many doctors to look at other options for increasing the bottom
assist you in checking moles and other spots known as the A,B,C,D line and in some cases just being able to stay in business. That said,
danger signs. you should be an educated consumer if you are considering cos-
metic procedures for your skin. The law in South Carolina does not
• A stands for “asymmetry.” If a mole is asymmetrical it is prevent any licensed physician from doing cosmetic skin procedures.
“lopsided” and not symmetrical. That’s right; any physician regardless of specialty can legally pro-
• B stands for “border irregularities.” Look at the border of the vide cosmetic skin procedures to the public. Doesn’t seem right, but
mole. Is it smooth or jagged? Does the color of the mole bleed that’s the way it is. It is not your problem that health care woes in the
into the surrounding tissue? United States are motivating physicians with nominal skin training
to offer cosmetic procedures. It is your problem that current laws
• C stands for “color changes.” Any color changes are important, and regulations do not prohibit marginally skin trained physicians
but especially so if the mole gets darker. and even non-physicians to be legally able to provide cosmetic skin
• D stands for “diameter.” Is the mole large? Is it as large as a pencil procedures to you. The old days of “any physician knows everything
eraser? about any part of your body have been gone for, well, decades!”
Whether it’s Botox, a filler, chemical peels, and especially lasers; you
Any changes like these or any mole that itches, bleeds, or changes in need to make sure you know the training and qualifications of the
any other way should be checked by your dermatologist. Any sore people who will administer these procedures.
that doesn’t heal needs to be checked. These could be indications of
skin cancer. Your skin is the largest organ of your body. Your dermatologist com-
pleted a three-year residency to learn, diagnose, and treat the skin.
Over-the-counter (OTC) versus physician strength skin care There are no other physician specialties dedicated and trained es-
products. First and foremost you need to keep your skin clean and pecially for your skin. I highly recommend you have your cosmetic
moisturized. Many dermatologic conditions have their root in dry skin procedures performed by a board certified dermatologist or a
skin. Keep yours moisturized. Whether you use OTC products or plastic surgeon specializing in facial procedures. If you’re checking
buy them from your dermatologist just make sure you are using a into some of these procedures ask if there is a board certified derma-
good cleanser and moisturizer. There is a difference in the products tologist on the staff. You may be surprised to find out how many of
you can only get from a physician versus OTC. In many cases the these places don’t have a dermatologist and even more surprised to
FDA restricts the strength of the active ingredient in OTC products find out what type of doctor actually is offering the procedures – if
whereas your dermatologist can provide products with higher po- it’s even a doctor at all. The bottom line is - would you go to your
tency. Some skin care companies do not provide an OTC version dermatologist for a Pap smear, or the flu? No, of course not, so why
of their product meaning you can only get them from a physician. would you trust your skin to anyone other than a dermatologist?!
Lastly, the reputation of these companies and their products is im- Be wary and ask questions.
portant and if used improperly you could have a less than desir-
able effect. For your safety and optimal results your dermatologist
can customize a skin care program for you. In general the routine I
recommend is a cleanser in the morning followed by an eye cream,
anti-aging product, and moisturizer with sunscreen (or makeup
with sunscreen). In the evening a cleanser followed by a retinoid
product and moisturizer. There are many variations of this routine
and many different products to use, which brings me to my final
point on OTC versus physician strength products. Cost. The price
of some of these OTC products at major department stores is shock-
ing. For that kind of money go to your dermatologist and get a cus-
tomized medical program using physician strength products you
can’t get through OTC and will for certain – work.

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You and Your Body

Anthony Buzzetti
“I t’s a world gone crazy keeps woman in chains.”

—Tears For Fears
exercise. Second, find a partner who will support you in your efforts
to exercise. Since both time and effort must be expended, you really
need to have someone who can encourage, motivate, and inspire
Please allow me to offer a collective confession on behalf of my gen- you. Studies have shown that you increase the likelihood of achiev-
der. Forgive us, for we have made you fearful and insecure. We have ing your goal by approximately 87% if you have an exercise partner.
done you a disservice and for that we should be both ashamed and Third, do away with the idea that foods should be eaten at just three
apologetic. The sorry truth is that the health community (comprised specific times during the day. The ideal nutritional strategy will have
mostly of men) has only recently recognized that women’s bodies you eating small meals, interspersed with snacks, all throughout the
are somewhat different than men’s bodies. Medical research had all day.
but ignored the female form until as recently as the seventies, and
the fitness community offered you only leg warmers and Richard Let’s look forward to a future that celebrates the strength and ath-
Simmons. But thankfully, the old days are behind us, and the good letic accomplishments of women. My hope is that my daughters will
news is that things are beginning to change! be seen as equals in all of their fitness and athletic endeavors, but
this will require men having to overcome their insecurities. Please
Today it seems that the health and fitness communities (now com- always remember that you possess the most miraculous machine
prised more equitably) have adopted a sincere appreciation for the known to man. Your body can create and sustain another life—and
unique physiological needs of females. Women are now being re- no athletic achievement in all of sports (sorry Mr. Woods) will ever
searched and studied in ways that seem to suggest respect. Nautilus, equal that. Strive to always treat your body, and yourself, with the
the inventor of the strength machine, has even involved women in compassion and respect that you deserve. Be good to yourself be-
the research and design of their latest line of strength machines. As cause no one else has the power to make you happy.
“Medical research had all but ignored

the female form until as recently as
the seventies, and the fitness
community offered you only leg
warmers and Richard Simmons.”
more is discovered about female-specific health/fitness issues, you’ll
have the necessary knowledge to be able to better care for yourself.
Perhaps we should sift through some of the stuff that has been circu-
lating through the fitness community and assess what’s really true.
We’ve been told that women should refrain from lifting weights to
avoid becoming muscle bound. This absolute falsehood was most
probably promoted by the same clown who told us not to drink
during exercise. Women should attempt to perform weight bearing
exercises at least twice weekly to help increase bone density. Science
has shown us that muscle tissue reacts differently in an estrogen
environment, so do not fear that you’ll adopt an “Arnold-like” ap-
pearance. For reasons related to better posture, better range of mo-
tion, and increased self-esteem, women should strive to incorporate
weights into their weekly workouts.
Allow me to offer just a couple of simple suggestions that might

be beneficial to you in achieving your health & fitness goals. First,
regard the claims of every infomercial you’ve ever heard as utterly
untrue. You simply cannot find fitness in a matter of minutes; in-
stead you should attempt to allocate about five hours per week to

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Weddings
Choosing the Right Photographer

Kim Totten of Totten Photography (www.krtottenphotography.com)
Y ou never realize how many photographers are around until

you need one, or become one. If there are so many, how do
you choose the right one for your special day? Why invest so much
emony?” This is a long standing tradition and often viewed as bad
luck, and the decision should be completely left up to the couple,
“What you imagine and what you

money in something that you will not see until it may be too late?
Brides spend a tremendous amount of time, money and effort in
selecting the perfect dress, the perfect cake, and the perfect loca-
expect should be what you get.”
tion. By the time it comes to selecting a photographer, unfortu- however, there are many advantages of taking the bridge/groom
nately price usually wins out to quality. Here are a few tips to help images before the ceremony (fresh makeup, hair, fresh flowers).
you select the perfect photographer for your wedding day: You will also have some time to enjoy the excitement and antici-
pation with each other, the groom can tell you how beautiful you
Get Personal Referrals are and the photographer can catch those special moments. If you
Many photographers are booked based upon word of mouth and decide to break tradition, your photographer can make this mo-
clients showing off their photographs. Asking friends and relatives ment special for the two of you.
is an excellent source of information. The power of references or
testimonials speaks volumes. Make sure you are comfortable with the Photographer
The photographer will spend almost all day with you, seeing very
Decide on a Style intimate moments that you will share with your family and friends.
Decide what style of It is important that you feel comfortable with this person and that
photography you like your personalities click.
before you decide on
a photographer. Do Keep your budget in mind
you like photojour- It is wise to keep your budget in mind, but it should not be an ex-
nalistic or traditional, cuse for not doing your research to find a quality and professional
or a blend of both? photographer. Many photographers do offer affordable packages
Look in magazines or for smaller, more intimate weddings or second weddings. Most
on the web to get ideas professional wedding photographers offer a variety of packages
of what style best suits which can be extremely overwhelming, so having a sense of what
you. Many photogra- you want will help you with those difficult choices.
phers will provide you
with a checklist of de- Sign a contract
sired photographs that Signing a contract protects both you and the photographer. Usu-
will help you decide ally upon signing a contract, you will be asked for a deposit. By
on exactly what photo- doing both you have ensured that the photographer has commit-
graphs you absolutely ted to you to be available on your wedding date. Also, the pho-
Photograph by Totten Photography want and must have. tographer has faith in you that you are committed to him/her and
that you like their style of photography. Make sure you understand
View the photographers web site or samples the fees and payment term, and ask any questions before signing.
Many photographers post their proofs online now. Viewing the Make sure you know what you have paid for or not paid for.
photographers work will give you a sense of his/her style and a
good indication of his/her capabilities. If you find a photographer Communication
that interests you and you know nothing about them, give them a Once you have made the decision and you have booked your pho-
call and ask them for the names of recent brides so that you may tographer, communicate with them what you like. Visual commu-
contact them and get a personal referral. Call the former client nication is a great tool. What you imagine and what you expect
and see how they enjoyed working with him/her and if they were should be what you get. Making sure they understand will insure
satisfied, and if they would use them again. that you get the best photographs possible. Be sure that they share
your vision and dream.
Schedule a Meeting
Schedule a meeting with your prospective photographer. This is Long after your wedding day is over, your wedding photographs
also another opportunity to view the photographers work and ask will be a reminder of your excitement, dreams, and anticipations.
any questions that you may have. The photographer will also have Be able to cherish them for years to come by choosing a quality
questions for you, such as “Will you see your fiancé before the cer- professional photographer.

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C happelle Broome began her career at the Columbia Metro-

politan Airport ten years ago as a part-time weekend cus-
tomer service representative in the Marketing Department at the
deep seated quirkiness that works well in this profession. In HR,
you have to be able to change focus at a moment’s notice. You can
be working on compensation one minute, an employee issues the
Information desk, where she progressively moved up the ranks to next, a company event the next and training the next. That type of
earn her title today of Human Resources Manager. Under this des- change excites me…No two jobs or employees are the same. HR is
ignation, she manages all aspects of the employment process, em- one profession that on a daily basis you can interact with each and
ployee counseling and evaluation, policy review and interpretation, every department from marketing to police to fire to maintenance
and discipline. “I work hard to keep the “human” aspect in human all in an eight-hour day. Giving a person opportunity for growth for
resources,” says Chappelle. “So much of today’s world is automated advancement is so rewarding far beyond monetary gains.”
and the personal touch has been removed…I enjoy working where
I do know the employees by name and we also know about their Chappelle attributes her success, in part, to her extreme flexibility,
families and celebrate along with them these achievements of new empathy, approachability, commitment to fairness and terrific listen-
babies, graduations, birthdays etc. and are aware and sympathetic ing skills, all of which are very important when dealing with others
with their losses.” at her level. Frank Manning, Airport General Counsel commented
Mrs. Broome graduated from the University of South Carolina with “Chappelle attributes her success, in
a Bachelor of Arts in Journalism (as she puts it, “it was so long ago
that when I decided to start graduate school two years ago, my son part, to her extreme flexibility, empathy,
who was attending the University at the time and was getting my approachability, commitment to fairness
transcripts for me told the registrar that my transcripts were likely
with Moses’ original stone chiseled version of the 10 command- and terrific listening skills, all of which
ments.”) and received her Professional in Human Resource (PHR)
certification in 2004. Two years ago, she made the decision to pur- are very important when dealing
sue two Masters Degrees – one in Human Resource Management with others at her level.”
and another in Human Resource Development. She feels like HR
was the right choice for her because she truly enjoys and respects that from a professional standpoint, Chappelle undertook to take
people – communication and interaction with employees is fun over many of the HR tasks previously performed by a member of
for her. “HR is the right career choice for me because it feeds to the executive staff who retired. Chappelle identified the areas that
my intellectual side (the employment law parts of it) but also to a she needed to seek training and undertook to get that training, all
the while pursuing a college degree. She has filled a great void and
has done it with great care and professionalism. On a personal note,
Chappelle is a great friend to everyone at the Airport of all levels.
She can relate to the Executive Director and the entry level main-
tenance person. Chappelle knows everyone by name and knows of
their family members as well. That’s what makes her a great asset to
the Airport.
Perhaps one of the most elemental aspects of her success is told by

Lynne Douglas, Director of Marketing & Community Relations
who says, “I am so proud to say that I was blessed with the opportu-
nity to be the one to interview and hire Chappelle several years ago
to come onboard at the airport as a member of my staff as a Cus-
tomer Service Representative… She quickly became one of those
valued employees that never utters the phrase “that’s not my job.”
Even though I regretted having to lose her from my staff several
years ago, I was so happy for the opportunities that came her way
allowing her to cultivate and use her incredible skills with people to
grow among the Airport ranks. Chappelle is an incredible woman
who truly always has a smile on her face even though she may be
working with a particular department in handling a tough person-
nel issue at the time. She truly personifies what a Human Resourc-

es Manager should be…one that is fair to all, listens to all sides of “In addition to being a tremendous asset in our department, she is
an issue, and proceeds with great compassion and openness to all sought out by the Executive Director for advice and is well respected
involved. She is a wonderful ambassador for the airport and truly by employees, management, and the governing body. Needless to
is one of a kind. I wish that all companies could have a Chappelle say, we are well blessed to have Chappelle with us, and appreciate her
among their ranks…I am proud to know her and to work with her. abilities, dedication, and counsel.” Gregg Hornsby, Director of Fi-
She personifies the word “professionalism.” I don’t know when she nance & Administration (and Chappelle’s Boss) says of Chappelle.
rests because it seems she is always available when needed. She cares
deeply about the airport and the people that work here. And, her We are proud to feature Chappelle Broome in this edition of Lex-
faith in God is evident. She has this incredible ability to juggle sev- ington Woman, whom employers call “an outstanding professional.”
eral projects/issues at once and somehow keeps it all under control. Thank you Chappelle for being a shining example to other women.
I am so thankful that she is a part of the CMA team!”
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Ladies, Here Are Two Men You Can Trust…

Ladies, lets face it—most of us aren’t sure how to pick out a new tire. Therefore,
picking out a tire dealership we can trust is imperative. We need to feel comfort-
able and know we are respected as a consumer. We need a place we can send our
sisters, mothers or college aged daughters and be confident that they will be treated
fairly and with dignity. Discount Tire of West Columbia is that safe haven when you
experience the inconvenience of tire problems.
Discount Tire of West Columbia is a family owned business that has been serv-
ing Lexington County for more than thirty-seven years. Owner Mike Roof was born
and raised in Lexington County. He graduated from Airport High School, and holds
degrees from Winthrop University, and the University of South Carolina.
Bimbo (Gene) Jones, the store manager, is also a man of faith and integrity. He pa-
tiently takes each customer through this tangled, obscure world of what tires are best
for your vehicle and your circumstances. In fact, their staff has 148 years of combined service in the tire business. That’s a lot of experience!
Discount Tire of West Columbia is also a champion for the community. For more than thirty years, they have been supporting the local
schools, churches, individuals, and politicians by cooking barbeque, chicken, ribs—whatever can be cooked on a pit, for fundraising efforts.
On more than several occasions, individuals needing expensive medical procedures have benefited from Mike’s desire to support the commu-
nity. Airport and Brookland Cayce High Schools’ Athletic Booster clubs regularly use Discount Tire’s BBQ pit and expertise to put on successful
fundraisers.
Discount Tire of West Columbia not only offers experience, but also offers the finest products on the market, Michelin and BF Goodrich
tires. Other services they offer are batteries, front end alignments, brakes, oil changes, and radiator flushes. Have no fear ladies! We really don’t
need to know how and why our vehicles need these services—we just need to know people we can trust to get the job done right at a fair price.
Those two gentlemen are Mike Roof and Bimbo Jones of Discount Tire of West Columbia.
So the next time life throws you a curve ball with a flat tire or dead battery, confidently take your vehicle directly to Discount Tire of West
Columbia. You will be glad you did!
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The Etiquette of Sympathy

What to do When Someone You Know Suffers a Loss
Lydia Ramsey
O n a beautiful spring day last April I was driving home to Sa-

vannah from Charlotte after welcoming my first grandchild
into the world. Little Samuel Carroll Niles was whole and healthy,
Send flowers unless the family specifies otherwise. Send them to the
family, the funeral home, the church or the gravesite. Flowers add
warmth and are visual reminders of the support of friends. Flowers
and life was good – almost. My husband had suffered a serious fall and personal gifts continued to arrive weeks later to confirm that
in October and was unable to accompany me. He seemed to be re- neither my pain nor I had been forgotten.
covering, but I was still concerned about him.
Take food and other items for daily living to the house. The last
I was nearly home when my cell phone rang. The call was from a thing the grieving family can think about is grocery shopping and
friend who had stopped by to visit Hank and became alarmed when meal preparation. A thoughtful neighbor called me and said, “I am
going to the grocery store. What do you need?” My response was a
“Within a three-week period, I became baffled, “I have no idea.” This kind, generous person filled her car
with everything from fresh fruit and vegetables to paper towels and
a grandmother and a widow.” toilet tissue. She even included pet food for the four-legged mem-
bers of the family.
there was no response. I drove into my driveway with the lights of
the EMS truck flashing in my rear view mirror. On May 11th, I lost Make a contribution to the charities indicated by the family. Honor
my warm, wonderful, gentle husband. Within a three-week period, the wishes of the deceased. Give to the causes they chose unless the
I became a grandmother and a widow. obituary states that contributions should be made to the donor’s fa-
vorite charity. If you missed the funeral notice and don’t have that
As I attempted to get back to life “as normal,” I found that grief had information, call the funeral home. They will have a record.
its own timetable. When I was able to write again, I decided that I
needed to address this issue that confronts everyone at some point, Be specific when you offer to help. Most people say, “If there is any-
personally and professionally. It is often difficult to know what to thing you need, call.” While their intentions were genuine, I didn’t
say or do when a death occurs. I want to share what I have learned always know what I could ask certain people to do. When our as-
that may help when someone you know—a client, a colleague, a co- sistant rector uttered those words, my face must have flashed back
worker or a friend—loses a loved one.
It is important to do something. Many of us are so uncomfortable

with death that we don’t do anything at all—afraid of saying or do-
ing the wrong thing.
Attend the funeral or the memorial service if you can. Your pres-
ence offers inestimable support. Even if you can’t speak directly to
the family members, you can sign the book that they will look at
over and over again and they will know you cared enough to be
there.
Write a note as soon as you can. Personal notes of condolence are a

source of great comfort—more than you can imagine. I was moved
by the ways people expressed their sympathy. There were those who
simply spoke of their sincere sorrow for my loss. There were those
who described what Hank had meant to them personally. Others
wrote about the character and personality of the special person I
had lost. I was grateful for each and every one.
Commercial sympathy cards are equally cherished. It was clear to

me that the commercial cards I received had been carefully chosen.
Each one came with an additional sentence or two written by the
sender. Be sure you take the time to add a short personal note.
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a message that said, “Like what?” because he immediately followed Keep in mind that great authors, poets and thinkers have written
with a verbal list of all things I could call on him or other church for centuries about grief and loss, searching for just the right words
members to do. One neighbor offered to walk the dog. Another to console themselves or someone else. When all is said and done,
proclaimed to be handy with household repairs if anything broke there are no words. Sometimes the best you can offer are the words,
down or stopped working. Someone else volunteered to pick up “I’m sorry.”
family members from the airport. Once people were clear on what
they could do, I knew where to turn without hesitation for what I I hope that what I have learned first hand will help you to reach out
needed. with confidence and ease the next time someone close to you suffers
a loss.
Make a note of the date of the death. Honor the anniversary with a
note or a phone call that says you haven’t forgotten. Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate
trainer and author of Manners That Sell – Adding The Polish That Builds Prof-
its. She has been quoted or featured in The New York Times, Investors’ Business
It is not necessary to do or say something grand. Any gesture you Daily, Entrepreneur, Inc., Real Simple and Woman’s Day. For more informa-
make is comforting. A simple word, a hug, a phone call, a card or an tion about her programs, products and services, email her at lydia@mannerst-
offer to run an errand are just a few ways to express your sympathy. hatsell.com or visit her web site www.mannersthatsell.com.
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Columbia, SC...
You can set your own pace when you visit the West Metro communities
across the Congaree River. From the scenic Riverwalk Park to quaint antique
shops, fine and casual dining to the Historic Cayce Museum, the Midlands of
South Carolina offers a variety of activities and amenities for the casual visitor
or the serious tourist. Just moments away from downtown Columbia, you can
enjoy an evening at the theater, a tubing trip down the river, or a day at
Riverbanks Zoo and Gardens. Maybe a picnic overlooking the river is more
your pace. You have it all right here.
For more information on sites and accomodations,

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Thompson’s Funeral Home

T hompson’s is a full-service funeral home that is family
owned and operated that has served families of this area
for more than 80 years. Certainly, no ones likes to think about the
John D. Thompson, the son of Bleeka and “Buddy” Thompson, be-
gan working at the funeral home part-time in 1963, eventually be-
inevitable; however, when you do, Thompson’s is committed to

steadfast support and guidance to help make the process as pain-
“Thompson’s is committed to steadfast
less as possible. support and guidance to help make the
From the early days in 1928 when J.R. “Buddy” Thompson started the process as painless as possible.”
business, Thompson Funeral Home has provided unparalleled per-
sonal service to families of Cayce, West Columbia, and Columbia. coming manager in 1972 and sole owner in 1997. His son, J. Blake
Thompson, joined the family business after completion of his B.S.
In 1935, “Buddy” Thompson completed the first building in this Degree at the Cincinnati College of Mortuary Science.
area that was built strictly for the use as a funeral home. That build-
ing still is operational today at 200 State Street in West Columbia. The Thompson family expresses its deep appreciation to the peo-
ple in the area and pledges to continue providing the unmatched
In 1999, Thompson Funeral Home opened its second location at compassionate care and responsible guidance that only a longtime
4720 Augusta Road (Hwy #1) in Lexington. to better serve the friend and neighbor could offer.
families of Lexington County.
Thompson
FU N ERAL HOME
4720 Augusta Road | Lexington, SC 29073 | Phone: (803) 996-1023
200 State Street | West Columbia, SC 29169 | Phone: (803)791-0650
www.thompsonsfuneral.com
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Kid’s Stuff
Decorating a Room with Your Child

Elaine Samples
D ecorating a room with your child’s favorite theme or color

is a wonderful way to help them have memories they will
never forget. Choose a boy’s or girl’s theme and allow your child to
Sunshine is always a good theme for a little girl’s room. Have some-
one paint a mural of a big sun shining through some fluffy clouds
and use yellow bedding and quilts. Have pretty flowers painted on
brainstorm to find ideas that compliment the theme. For instance, the wall or pretty flower pots with bright daisy-like flowers through-
if you have a daughter who loves playing house and having tea par- out the room. You could also use soft green rugs like grass.
ties, you can build around this concept. Have one corner of her room
dedicated to tea parties—complete with a small table and chairs and Often, little boys enjoy stars and all things astrological. You may
all of the necessities for the perfect little party. You could decorate the think of painting the ceiling blue and having your child place a glow
wall with a large drawing or painting of the Tea Pot from Beauty and arrangement of the moon and stars, so that he can stare and dream
the Beast, use a solid color comforter and little tea pot throw pillows. as he falls asleep at night. Place a telescope by the window and have
For a little boy who loves trains, decorate his headboard like a little red a model of the solar system—both educational and fun.
caboose and have a permanent train track that travels around the bed.
Take a photo of him dressed like a conductor, and use it as the main Your child’s room should be a fun place—his or her own special
drawing behind his bed or as a center point somewhere in the room. little haven where he can go to think, create and just BE. It is impor-
tant to give her a role in the creation of this little safety dwelling, so
If you have an imaginative little guy or gal who loves to paint or that she can feel as though she has had a part in the final product.
draw, maybe you leave one wall that has washable paint to encour- He will have memories that will last a lifetime.
age their creative juices to flow. (Of course, you run the risk that the
creativity is not isolated to this one wall and the paint is spread to
the formal sitting room…)
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Kid’s Stuff
Sarah Dippity
Sarah Straney
A s South Carolina’s only professional female magician,

Sarah Straney, aka Sarah Dippity, gives a unique twist to
a classic form of entertainment. “My shows emphasize the beauty
sweet doesn’t keep
one from being
funny. Sarah thinks
Sarah Dippity
of magic.” In her performances for both adults and children, Sarah of herself more as a
loves to work with flowers and colorful scarves, in addition to the comedian for kids.
standard cards and coins. The style, humor, and costumes present “I have never seen
unique challenges to a female performer. “You certainly can’t hide these kids laugh so
things ‘up your sleeve’ when you’re wearing a sequin dress with no hard!” said Karen D. Princess
sleeves.” a mother from a re- Parties
cent birthday party
Sarah has been featured on SCETV with the John Tudor Magic The- audience.
ater, and has regularly performed on local venues such as EdVen- Magic,
Although she per- Facepainting
“There’s a kind of sweet affection forms regularly for & More!
both adults and chil-
I receive from the children that dren, boys and girls,
she recently created
the male magicians tell me a special show spe-
they don’t receive.” cifically for girls. “All
little girls want to be
ture. She has been a student of acting and magic for over 7 years, a princess, so I come
training locally with John Tudor, and with some of the top perform- to their parties as
ers in cities such as New York and Atlanta. their very own magi- (803) 479-6433 | www.sarahdippity.com
cal Fairy Godmother,
In her children’s shows, Sarah creates a warmth and sweetness that and make that dream come true. I love it!” Sarah says. Her work is
clearly comes from her own experience as a mother. “There’s a kind certainly appreciated by her audience. According to Penny Cothran,
of sweet affection I receive from the children that the male magi- former events director at EdVenture Children’s Museum, Sarah is
cians tell me they don’t receive. I think both children and moms “giving hope to a whole new generation of female performers. (She
feel safe and comfortable with a female performer.” Of course, being is) a true role model and fantastic performer!”
Photographs by Clark Berry Photography
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Kid’s Stuff
Karen Petta: In Her Own Words

The Studio
I moved to Lexington from Milwaukee Wisconsin in the sum-

mer of 2005. My background is in psychology. I co-owned a
mental health clinic for a period of 10 years and consulted for that
We also feature wine tastings and art sales during which we being in
a variety of artists to display and sell their original works. Our gift
shop is filled with original unique pieces of art that are available for
same clinic for four years after selling my portion of the business. purchase.
After leaving full time mental health I began to persue my love for
art and began painting murals in homes as well as selling art at local Where We Are Going
art shows. I had visions of opening a studio that would offer more Something that I have done recently is actually taken the projects to
than ceramic painting thus giving both children and adults the op- a group. A local preschool painted mugs as gifts and a local senior
portunity to experience many different art mediums. I was ready to center created beautiful glass fused pendants. Working with the se-
sign a lease for a location in the Milwaukee area when an opportu- niors at the senior center gave made me a little taste and reminder
nity presented itself to my husband John, and we ultimately moved of my previous profession and has made me think “How could I
to South Carolina.
History of The Studio

“I had visions of opening a studio that
My dream did not fade after our move to South Carolina, and in would offer more than ceramic painting
May of 2005 I opened The Studio in Lexington’s Old Mill. In a years
time I have had the opportunity to meet some great local artists with thus giving both children and adults the
whom have developed art classes for preschoolers to adult. Artist
June Tucarella teaches ongoing watercolor classes, and Monica
opportunity to experience many
Wyrick teaches a variety of mediums to children and adults. Trina different art mediums..”
Gibson brings her expertise in stamping and scraping and Kerri La-
belle teaches classes in beading. use art to reach others on a therapeutic level”. I am currently in the
process of looking for avenues to take art projects into hospitals,
Glass Fusion is one of senior centers, and other areas in which it would provide a positive
our most popular classes therapeutic outlet.
and is offered 1 - 2 times
per month. We have also Upcoming Events
offered classes in unique The Studio is offering mixed medium summer camps for children
things such as hand in pre-school through high school. Call for dates and to reserve a
building with clay, fur- space for your child!
niture painting, window
design, mosaics, glass We are offering a Mother’s Day workshop (make a gift for mom) on
painting, soaps and salts Saturday May 3rd and a Father’s Day workshop on June 7th and June
and stepping stones. 10th (hand made gifts for dad).
As a psychotherapist, I Starting in August, the party comes to you! The Studio will be spe-
worked a great deal with cializing in bringing parties, or projects to your home, school or
teenagers. I think it is so church.
important for teens to
have a place to go — somewhere where they feel accepted and can Studio And Gift Shop Hours
feel proud of something they have accomplished. We offer “Teen The Studio and studio gift shop is open Monday through Saturday
Nights” once a month. During these nights we offer one featured from 10:00am - 6:00pm. Ceramic painting can be done during any
project in addition to ceramics and provide the kids with some open times. A wide variety of classes are offered throughout the
munchies and beverages. Lots of fun! month. Featured projects are offered as well during our Saturday
studio hours. Private parties, classes and group outings scheduled
We offer parties for both children and adults. Kids have enjoyed by appointment.
themed parties (princess, sports, pirates...) and adults have celebrat-
ed baby showers, birthdays, bridal showers and just fun girls nights Location And Phone Number
out working with featured projects such as ceramics, beading glass 607 S Lake Dr., Lexington, SC 29072; (803)356-3623
fusion just to name a few. In addtion to parties, groups are able to
schedule private classes and group outings.

Kid’s Stuff
Working Studio and Gift Shop

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A Day at the Old Mill
Old Mill Rug Gallery
"fashion wear for your floors"
The Old Mill
L adies let me tell you a great way to spend some leisure time,
with girlfriends or your family. There are always many
choices at the Old Mill.
Tuesday through Saturday 10am—6pm Start with premium coffee and fresh-baked bagels, scones or muf-
711 East Main Street Suite I 785-6565
Lexington, SC 29072 www.oldmillruggallery.com fins at The Wired Bean, then browse through Rainy Day Pals for a
good read. You may even happen upon a book signing by a local
author.
Rainy Day Pal Books Treat yourself to a great new style at Lexington Hair Studio, those
ladies do color so well you might decide to try a new shade alto-
Located in the Old Mill gether, or if life has gotten so busy and you haven’t spent enough
711 E. Main Street, Suite T you time, you may enjoy a relaxing massage, facial or manicure at
Lexington, SC 29072 Bella-Riley’s, a salon and spa. While you are feeling relaxed and ten-
email: RainyDayPal@PBTcomm.net sion free, try Sugar Britches for a great new bag or silver jewelry and
Fax (803) 951-2109 many other accessories.
Open: Monday - Saturday
9:00am - 9:00pm
(803) 951-2780 For the home or office, stop by and see Sandra, at Old Mill Rug Gal-
We Carry New and Used Books lery for fashion wear for your floors, and find custom furniture at
Hard Backs and Paper Backs Vintage Wood Brick & More, to compliment your new floor covers.
Paintings, prints and photography at The Art Spot await you. Bring
Buy • Sell • Trade in your own prints for custom framing at Sandlapper Art and Frame.
Or, stop by Clark Berry and buy gift certificates for your husband
for a photo shoot of you especially for him. While you are there,
schedule an appointment for the whole family in Clark’s beautiful
historic studio for a photographic heirloom piece
and memories that will last a lifetime.
Sign up for a quilting class at Pieces

and Patches, and invite other
ladies from your church or
Old Mill Pizza Buffet

711 E Main Street | Lexington, SC | (803) 785-7476
(Lexington Old Mill Building on US1)
World Famous Food, Service and Smiles!
All You Can Eat Pizza Buffet
(803) 957-1996
Lunch $5.25 | Dinner $5.49
Fax: (803) 957-1906• email: lexington@crabshacks.com
Open 7 Days a Week
711 E. Main Street • In the Old Mill • Lexington, SC 29072
Close 2:30 - 4:30pm Monday — Friday
Carry Out Available
Visit
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for Women by Women
A Day at the Old Mill
organization to join you there for a night away from TV and media
just to enjoy an art that our grandmothers made a part of their ev-
eryday lives. If dancing is more to your liking, there are classes for
all ages at The Center for Dance Education.
803.996.5982
After an exciting day filled with relaxation and therapy (shopping),
have lunch or dinner at the Mill. Choose from fresh sandwiches and W W W C L A R K B E R R Y C O M
desserts at The Wired Bean, seafood and pasta at The Crab Shack, or
pizza and wings at Old Mill Pizza Buffet. 0HOTOGRAPHYBY#LARK"ECKI"ERRY
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If you have any trouble at all finding what you are looking for, stop
by and see George Holden in the office across from The Crab Shack.
“...Come see for yourself what’s • Gourmet Coffee (Frozen, Iced, Hot)
new at the Old Mill.” • Fat-Free Smoothies
George is an asset to the Old Mill and is always willing to lend a • Delightful Desserts
helpful hand to anyone who needs it. • Breakfast & Lunch Menus
• Catering Available
So, Ladies, the next time you are looking for a place to spend the
day, come see for yourself what’s new at the Old Mill. You won’t be The Wired Bean • Free Wi-Fi Internet Access
disappointed. 711 East Main Street • Live Music on Friday & Saturday Nights
Lexington, SC 29072
803.957.7029
Remember that retail and professional spaces are still available. Call
or email Mr. Laban Chappell to talk about bringing your business to www.wiredbean.net ...get wired.
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the Old Mill at (843) 573-8926 or laban@bellsouth.net.
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Watershed Books Gift Certificates Available
The Watershed is a ministry outreach to the Lexington

community and its surrounding area. It is a place where
people can purchase challenging books, hear great
music and listen to engaging speakers.
711 East Main Street | Lexington, SC 29072

(In the Old Mill)
803-808-0420
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Pieces & Patches

Fabric and notions for quilting
and other fabric art
Art The
• Local Original Art

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• Prints and Photographs

Sewing Classes (all with South Carolina connections)
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Pets
The Importance of Socializing Your Pet

Tim Loonam, DVM
H ave you ever met one of those family dogs that are just a
joy to be around…? Or have you visited a home with an
out-going cat that loves strangers and wants to be in the middle
tion occurs before these little ones leave their mother, its impor-
tant to get your new pet from a breeder who provides socialization
training. What if you don’t know the pet’s background? Don’t fret;
of all activity…? Well-socialized and behaved pets make a house a you can still socialize them, just be prepared for it take longer and
home but it does take planning and training. During the first few more effort.
months of their lives, puppies and kittens are especially sensitive
to the types of experience they have with the new people, animals, The key to successful socialization is making sure the puppy or
objects and situations in their world. Success during this critical kitten’s new experiences are made enjoyable by providing treats,
learning period is very important. According to the Humane Soci- praise, play and petting during the new experience. Pairing new
ety of the United States, nearly half of the 10 million dogs and cats experiences with something pleasant ensures the new experience
that end up in shelters annually are euthanized, and the number
one reason these animals are turned over to shelters is for unac-
ceptable behavior. “Well-socialized and behaved pets make
a house a home but it does take
Peak socialization occurs between 3 and 12 weeks in puppies and
3 to 8 weeks in kittens. Since a large portion of this peak socializa- planning and training.”
will be perceived as good in the future. Begin socialization train-
ing the moment you arrive home with your new pet, but don’t over
do it. Young animals tire easily and have short attention spans; it’s
better to have several short training sessions throughout the day
instead of one marathon session.
Food is a great motivator for puppies and kittens, and one of the
best recommendations from leading behaviorists and trainers is
to put away that cute food bowl and have your family hand-feed
your new pet at each meal. This ensures your puppy or kitten sees
you as ‘the great provider’, which strengthens the human-animal
bond. ‘Food motivated’ pets are easily taught basic commands, and
behaviorists and trainers also recommend applying the ‘nothing
comes free’ philosophy when feeding young pets. Have them learn
‘sit’, ‘stay’ or other basic commands, which they must perform be-
fore and while they are being fed.
Here are some other ideas to include in your socialization plan:
• Arrange for your pet to be left alone several times during the
day. Begin with a few minutes and work up to several hours, and
make sure these alone times are unpredictable. Again, use treats
to your advantage, but provide them inside of safe, behavior
modification toys that give your pet something to do while
you’re gone (Think Rubik’s Cube for pets!) Pets given these
experiences are much more likely to be tolerant of being left
alone and less likely to develop separation anxiety. (See behavior
modification toy examples available through Kong at www.kong
company.com)
• After your new pet has been examined by your veterinarian and
an immunization and de-worming plan begun, take your pet to
public places (children’s soccer games are great!) and allow your
puppy to meet people different from your family members—

Pets
different genders, ethnic groups, and ages. Everyone wants to • While on a leash, let your pet experience people and objects
pet your puppy and allow the strangers to offer small treats too. moving rapidly such as joggers, kids playing, people on bikes,
• Gradually acclimate your pet, especially kittens, to riding in

your car. Practice car rides to your veterinarian’s office where “Food is a great motivator for
you drop in for a treat also help minimize the stress related with puppies and kittens, and one of
visits to the vet.
the best recommendations from
leading behaviorists and trainers is to
put away that cute food bowl and
have your family hand-feed your
new pet at each meal.”
and cars. Also, give your pet experiences with noisy objects such
as lawn mowers, vacuums, and blow dryers.
• Begin introducing your pet to water, particularly hoses, to make

bathing easier. Be careful not to force your puppy or kitten to
experience things that frighten them. They won’t “just get over
it;” they will often get more fearful and even become fearful of
you.
• Ask your veterinarian about ‘puppy’ and ‘kitten’ classes. Not

only do they offer great socialization training, but they can also
be a great stepping-stone to future obedience training. (Visit the
Greater Columbia Obedience Club’s website at www.gcoc.net)
Many times illness or injury can alter behavior, so if you have trou-
ble socializing your new pet or they seem overly fearful of people
or a particular experience get help from your veterinarian.
Dr. Loonam is the owner of Grace Animal Hospital and Pet Lodge in
Lexington. Visit their website at www.gracepets.com or call 808-PETS.
Photograph by Laura Tingen
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Wingards Nursery
Wally Steinhauser
W hether you have a new home that needs shade, an older

home that needs updated landscaping or would like to
place an accent plant in your existing landscape, Fall is here, and it
Other friends have also planted ornamental cherry trees, such as a
Kwanzan, Okame or Yoshino, or Purple Leaf Plum trees in memory
of their parents. Over time, it is enjoyable to watch the tree grow
is the best time to plant trees. Here in the Midlands, we are fortu- and recall the fond memories of the individual honored.
nate to have a great climate, which supports growth of a wide vari-
ety of trees. Whether it’s the typically southern and noble Magnolias Size is also an important factor in selecting a tree. Caliper is the unit
and Crape Myrtles, majestic Oak trees, or durable and shady Maple of measure of the diameter of a tree trunk, measured 1 foot from
trees, we have the opportunity to enjoy them all. the top of its rootball. For a larger shade tree, such as a maple or oak,
we generally recommend 2”-3” caliper trees. These can be selected
Why is fall is a great time to plant? During the Fall months, like peo- and easily transported and planted by homeowners. Whether you
ple, trees look forward to the generally cooler air and soil tempera- are impatient, or growing older, like me, to enjoy their beauty soon-
tures. Because the soil begins to cool, it is able to retain moisture er, larger trees are a better investment than smaller, faster growing
better than in the summer, which means less water is required. trees. A beautifully landscaped home is not only enjoyable, but the
landscaping adds to its value.
Within our residential landscapes, trees can function as shade, ac-
cent or a combination of both, or they can be used to screen views Other things to consider when planting a tree is whether it is de-
and create privacy. If a fast-growing shade tree is required, maple ciduous, losing its leaves in the winter, as many do, or whether it
trees, whether October Glory, Red Sunset, Summer Red, Autumn flowers and whether it requires much sun, like the large maple trees,
Flame or Autumn Sunset are very popular and durable. With proper or is more shade-loving, like the delicate dogwood trees.
water, sun exposure and fertilization, these trees can grow 18”-36”
per year. As an accent plant, Japanese Maples, Purple Leaf Plums or With trees, there are many choices. Flowering or not, Evergreen or
Crape Myrtles are very desirable and unique. In subdivisions of new deciduous. Ornamental or shading. Sun or shade. Big or little. Fast
homes, for privacy, Arborvitaes, Leyland Cypresses or Wax Myrtles or moderate growing. When you’ve gotten to this point, its time to
are requested because of their fast growth and bushy nature. visit a nursery for helpful, honest advice.
It has become quite popular to plant trees to celebrate the birth of Whether you’re new to the area and want to learn about trees or if
a child or commemorate the life of a loved one. At the birth of our you’re thinking about planting one, stop in and see our broad selec-
children, we planted large caliper Autumn Flame maple trees. Fif- tion of trees and other products and services for your yard, and our
teen years later, when we sold our house, these “members of the Gift Shoppe. Sign-up for our monthly newsletter and attend our
family” were quite large and it was difficult to leave them behind. many seminars. There’s always something blooming at Wingard’s!
There’s always something blooming at Wingard’s.
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Adult Home Care:

Independent Contractors vs. Home Care Companies
Coker Day
I t’s not unusual for family members to provide some or all of

the non-medical home care needs of an elderly parent today. In
fact, according to one recent survey, more than half of all caregivers
• Private caregivers typically do not carry personal liability
insurance to protect against damage in the household. Likewise,
they may not be bonded against theft of valuables.
are family members, usually daughters taking care of their mothers. • Individuals often do not have workers compensation or disability
insurance to cover on-the-job injuries. They typically do not have
However, if they don’t already have outside professional help, many anyone to fill in if they are sick or otherwise can’t make it to work
family caregivers expect to secure some kind of full- or part-time on short notice, leaving you in a bind.
assistance in the near future. Because, according to this same survey,
as many as 80 percent of these family caregivers are juggling full- • You become the sole supervisor, responsible for the individual’s
time jobs, in addition to their care giving responsibilities. job performance and any problems that arise on the job. If the
person doesn’t work out for any reason, you’ll have to terminate
Once the decision is made that the elderly parent will remain at employment and begin the process of finding someone else to
home, the issue for many of their children inevitably becomes, What match the needs of your loved one—no easy task.
kind of help is best suited to my parent’s needs: an individual private • Because most caregivers are family members, those receiving care
duty caregiver or a home care services company? most often form emotional attachments with them (as opposed
to outsiders), making it difficult to sever those ties should any
But the issue becomes even more complex, when you consider you’re thing go wrong, or the family simply wish to make a change. On
going to allow a complete stranger into your home—or that of your the other hand, the newspapers periodically recount stories of
loved one—to perform some of the most personal services imagin- relatives bilking the elderly out of thousands while ostensibly in
able (bathing, dressing, etc.), often without direct supervision. their care.
The ultimate solution depends greatly on the nature and scope of Home Care Services Company
care you or your parent needs. But it also depends on how much On the other hand, utilizing a home care services company may cost
responsibility you are willing take on when it comes to the hiring a little more initially, require a minimum number of hours or days
(and potential firing) of an individual private caregiver. and a contract, but it can alleviate much of the risk and burdens
described above. For example:
For one thing, that caregiver may be viewed by the Internal Revenue • An adult home care company knows what kind of people to
Service as your employee, which can have significant financial impli- recruit, the level of training they should have (sometimes
cations, as outlined below. For another, engaging the services of home providing the training) and how much to pay them.
care providers requires recruiting people who are not just qualified
from a care giving standpoint, but people who can be trusted to be • A home care company has the resources to do thorough
there every day for the contracted time, trusted not to steal anything background checks before hiring people who will be allowed into
and trusted to be compassionate—issues of particular importance the privacy of your home or that of your parents.
for relatives who may not live in the same town with their parents. • A home care company pays all taxes and insurance premiums,
including those for liability and workers compensation, and fully
And finally, there’s the issue of compatibility: you have to find someone bonds its employees.
who will get along with you or your parent on a very intimate level. • A home care company is responsible for supervising its
caregivers, monitoring their performance, keeping their training
Individual Private Caregiver up-to-date and making sure clients and their families are satisfied
If you decide to engage the services of an independent or private with the quality of service provided.
duty caregiver, you may pay less on an hourly basis, won’t have to
agree to a minimum number of visits or hours per day, or even sign • With a full staff of caregivers available, you never have to worry if
a formal agreement. But consider these facts: yours calls in sick; there will always be someone to fill in. And, if
for any reason, your caregiver doesn’t work out, you may be able
• You’ll have to do a job search, just as any hiring manager would. to ask for another one better suited to your needs.
• You’ll probably be responsible for paying all payroll taxes (federal
income tax withholding, social security, Medicare, state income Reputable adult home care services companies recruit and train in-
tax withholding). dividuals who are compassionate about what they do and provide

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What to Consider when Contemplating

Divorce
Ashby Jones
A few weeks ago my seven year old daughter Maggie hopped

into the car after church and reported that her friend had
“cried and cried” at school all day. When I asked Maggie why her
marital assets and debts. It will be easier for you and more economi-
cal if you can do your “homework” prior to the first consultation.
Also, if you are not the “financial planner” of the household, now
friend was so sad, she told me that “Jane’s” parents were going to get is the time to learn. Once you are living separately from your hus-
a divorce, that Jane was going to move out of town, and that Jane band, you will be responsible for paying bills and balancing your
would now only see her Daddy on weekends. Maggie’s eyes were own checkbook.
wide with fear. Even though I am a divorce attorney and speak of
this topic in detail on a regular basis, I had no idea what to say to my Third, if you are not the primary income earner, you must learn
own child. Divorce is painful. what your husband earns for a living. Make copies of your check-
book register if it reflects any paycheck deposits. If your husband
I heard someone once say that having children is like wearing your is self employed, learn what you can about the fees he earns for his
heart on the outside of your body. We love our children. We women projects and the number of projects he has pending. If you have
especially want to protect our children from harm. We have an in- been married for a lengthy period of time, you may be entitled to
alimony. You must be able to establish what your husband earns
“How can you prepare yourself and and be able to refute any attempt on his part to minimize his in-
come. Please do not feel guilty as you investigate your husband’s
your children for divorce?”
nate desire to ensure they are warm, fed, held and loved. If our chil-
dren are at risk, or threatened, or simply living in a toxic environ-
ment, we can fearlessly make difficult decisions.
How can you prepare yourself and your children for divorce? How
can you protect your children from harm? There are no easy an-
swers to this question, but I will share what has worked for my own
clients.
First, you must be safe. If you are being physically abused by your
husband, you must have a plan before you leave. Do you have friends
or family who can take care of you? Do you need an emergency
hearing to obtain a restraining order? Do you need the assistance
of any helping organizations? Do not underestimate your husband.
Divorce is a word that can provoke strong reactions. You must not
participate in any violent behavior. If you are afraid, remove your-
self and your children from the situation immediately. If you cannot
leave and you are afraid for your safety, call the police.
Second, you must separate the emotional aspect of the divorce from
the business aspect of divorce. A divorce is the dissolution of a busi-
ness partnership. You and your husband have amassed assets and
debt. These two items must be divided equitably. Often, one party to
a marriage has served as the “financial planner.” If you are not that
person, you must investigate the correspondence, the bank state-
ments, and the invoices that come to your home. If you are still
in the marital home, and only in the contemplation stages of di-
vorce, now is the time to educate yourself. Collect and make copies
of everything, even if you do not know or understand what you are
reading. Your lawyer will want to have a complete picture of your

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income. The amount a husband and wife earn is relevant and im-
portant evidence in a divorce case. You have every right to learn this
information.
Fourth, you need a lawyer. There are many schemes, particularly on

the internet, meant to sell you “do it yourself ” divorce packets. It is
extremely difficult to get divorced in South Carolina without a law-
yer. There are many rules to follow and procedural requirements. A
well-seasoned lawyer can face obstacles during the pendency of a
divorce. It is not a good idea to stumble through something that can
have a widespread impact on you, your children and your lifestyle.
Your lawyer should be someone you like, someone who will give
you his or her undivided attention, and someone you can rely upon
to keep your confidence (it is an ethical violation not to.) If you
have left your initial consultation feeling overwhelmed, rushed, pa-
tronized, or confused, you have not found the right lawyer for you.
A divorce is a long process. You and your lawyer will speak about
“Your lawyer should be someone

you like, someone who will give you
his or her undivided attention, and
someone you can rely upon to
keep your confidence (it is an
ethical violation not to.)”
highly personal matters. Your lawyer may have to report upsetting
information, or describe an area of law that is not beneficial to you.
It is much easier for you, the client, to face the hardship of divorce if
you have the support of a lawyer you know and trust.
Though my practice is not wholly devoted to family litigation, it is

an area of great concentration. In my nine years of practicing law,
building relationships with my clients has continually translated
into successful outcomes. My primary goal in an initial consulta-
tion with a client is to establish an understanding of the client’s level
of safety, current and past emotional strain, and desired specific
outcomes of the divorce settlement. Through listening to my cli- Photograph by Cynthia Pace Photography
ents, I hope to develop a mutual trust which will be the foundation
for our journey throughout the divorce process.
As a representative of my clients, I take a businesslike approach.

The business aspect of divorce calls for a lawyer with an under-
standing of the complicated rules related to each case and a fearless
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Though I cannot fully understand the grief, heartbreak, and fear
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KINARD & JONES
Professional
LLC
Attorneys at Law
22 Years of Law Experience

• Personal Injury
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What is Supplemental Health Insurance?

Jared Kyzer
W hat is supplemental insurance? How exactly does it

work? What is its purpose?
were to occur? If so, begin your research of supplemental providers
and programs. Don’t wait until the medical bills are due before decid-
ing if you, your family or your employees are adequately covered.
These important questions I find common when discussing the in-
surance needs of clients and friends. It seems, despite the generous
advertising given to the subject, that supplemental insurance is still I represent the number one provider of
not completely understood by many consumers. individual health insurance and
guaranteed-renewable insurance*...
Supplemental insurance is, as the name implies, a supplement to any
other insurance one may have. It is designed to help the policyholder
retain money that may otherwise become debt for the insured. The
primary debts that usually come to mind are doctor bills, hospital
charges, etc. However, the total cost of serious illness or injury can
take a heavy toll on our personal finances as well. Mortgage pay-
ments, car notes, electric bills and grocery costs come due steadily
regardless of your personal income or physical condition.
Supplemental policies can put money in your hands at a great time

of need. Many supplemental policies pay a cash benefit to the poli-
cyholder. This gives freedom to the policyholder to prioritize their
management of the current medical situation they face. Options are and can help strengthen your personal protection
always nice to have in a time of physical and financial challenge. by offering policy cash benefits paid directly to
you if you’re sick or injured.
Many business owners are offering supplemental coverage to their
employees. These employers realize that major medical insurance
coverage simply isn’t always enough to keep employees from finan-
Aflac is a world leader in guaranteed-renewable insurance
cial hardship. The need for more coverage, the low cost of supple-
with more than 35 million policies and riders in force
mental insurance and the fact that many supplemental products can
worldwide (company statistics, December 31, 2005). All
be offered at no cost to the business owner have made supplemental benefits are paid directly to you, unless you instruct us
employee benefits common. otherwise.
Supplemental policies can pay in addition to any other coverage. *National Underwriter, “Life & Health Statistical Report,”
These products are stand-alone policies that do not coordinate ben- August 21/28, 2006
efits with other providers. This means that regardless of the cover-
age provided by a major medical policy, a supplemental program
can pay above and beyond. A person is not even required to have
a major medical policy to be able to participate in a supplemental
program, although, supplemental policies are not intended to be al-
ternatives to good major medical plans.
™
As the cost of medical treatment continues to climb and with the
caps and gaps that are commonly found in even the best of major
medical plans, it appears that supplemental programs will continue American Family Life Assurance
to grow in number and relevance. Company of Columbus (Aflac)
Worldwide Headquarters • Columbus, GA 31999
So, if you are an individual looking for personal coverage or an em-
ployer looking for ways to better your employee benefits package For more information on the benefits, costs,
without adding cost to your company, supplemental insurance pro- and limitations of our insurance policies,
grams are certainly worth your consideration. Start by evaluating the please contact Jared Kyzer at 803-730-9035
coverage that you currently have. Are there areas inside of your cover- or Jared_Kyzer@us.aflac.com
age that could leave you exposed financially if major illness or injury
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Women and Investing: Your Special Financial

Considerations
Mindy Kyzer
I t’s unfortunate, but still true, that if you’re a woman, you face a
variety of challenges in the workplace. And these issues trans-
late into potentially serious problems for you as you save for retire-
women 65 and older is 43% less than the median income for men
of similar ages, according to the Older Women’s league, a research
and advocacy group.
ment. To avoid these difficulties, you need to take action-now.
Longer Life Spans-Women live an average of seven years longer
Let’s consider some of the facts that underlie and illuminate the for- than men, so they are more likely to outlive their financial assets.
midable tasks that women face:
So there you have it: Lower earnings, extended time away from
Lower earnings-Over the past few decades, women have made great work, lower retirement income and longer life spans. Together,
strides in the quest to achieve earnings equally-but they’re not there these factors point to a huge need for women- whether married or
single- to do some serious investment planning. Fortunately, there
“Over the past few decades, women are many steps you can take. Here are just a few:
have made great strides in the quest Pay Yourself First

Every time you get paid, turn around and write out a check to what-
to achieve earnings equally-but ever savings or investment vehicle you have chosen- before you pay
they’re not there yet.” any other bills. Better yet, take advantage of payroll deduction, bank
authorization or systematic investment plans so that you money is
yet. Women currently earn, on average, about 80 percent as much automatically invested before you even receive it. Such a plan, how-
as men, according to the bureau of Labor Statistics. ever does not assure a profit and does not protect against loss in
declining markets.
Less time on the job-Women are more likely than men to take time
away from their careers to rear children or care for aging parents. Invest for Growth
Consequently, women typically work 32 years, compared with men’s Many studies have shown that women tend to invest more conser-
44, according to a study by the Center for Retirement Research at vatively than men. Yet, to achieve your retirement goals, you may
Boston College. need to put some of your investment dollars into “growth” vehicles,
such as stocks or mutual funds. Historically, stocks have appreci-
Lower income in retirement-The total median annual income for ated more than other types of investments, More importantly, other
WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR TO-DO LIST,

PUT YOUR FUTURE FIRST.
To set up your financial review, call or visit today.
Mindy Kyzer www.edwardjones.com Member SIPC

Financial Advisor
2001 Augusta Highway, Ste D
Lexington, SC 29072
803.957.0470

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types of investments, such as CDs or Treasury bills, may not even tain circumstances. If you are self-employed, consider opening a
keep up with inflation, so you could end up losing purchasing pow- Simplified employee pension plan, (SEP) or other qualified retire-
er if your portfolio is not well diversified. ment plan that may offer you a business tax deduction.
Take Full Advantage of Available Retirement Plans You’re In Control

Save on a pre-tax basis through your employer’s 401(K) or by mak- By following the steps described above, along with any others that
ing IRA contributions. If you can’t deduct an IRA contribution, make sense for your individual situation, you can take charge of
consider a Roth IRA. Contributions to a Roth IRA are not deduct- your own financial future. It will take some time and effort- but the
ible, but a Roth does offer tax-free income at retirement under cer- ultimate goal is well worth it.
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BankMeridian
Shawncee Sapp and Fran Moore McKinney
D oes the idea of having one private banker dedicated to

helping you meet all your financial goals appeal to you?
If so, you’re not alone. Studies show many women prefer building a
banker’s office to handle all their banking needs. Clients say they
enjoy this first class experience, which offers more trust, flexibility,
and one-on-one time with a banker who has the authority to ap-
strong banking relationship with one financial expert who will take prove their loan.
the time to understand their unique needs and help them prosper.
That’s why BankMeridian, an innovative new bank in South Caroli- This exceptional service is made possible by the bank’s high caliber
na, offers a higher level of personal service, providing the individual team of experts. One of these bankers is Shawncee Sapp, Financial
attention that is missing at many larger banks. Center Manager, who handles personal loans as well as home equity
lines of credit.
Headquartered in Columbia, the bank has three locations in South
Carolina, including locations on Hilton Head Island and in Spartan- Shawncee’s greatest strength as a banker is her ability to think cre-
burg. The bank caters to small to mid-size business customers and atively in any situation, a talent which she says helps her address
individuals, offering traditional forms of banking, including CDs, her clients’ individual banking needs. Personable and engaging,
personal and business checking accounts, and money market ac- Shawncee approaches any challenge with confidence and enthusi-
counts, as well as a variety of loan products for personal and busi- asm. A few years ago, these skills helped her face a challenge in her
ness use. personal life.
BankMeridian’s unique style of banking sets it apart. With no teller “I broke my upper cervical region,” says Shawncee. “This tested my
lines and a relaxed office setting, clients enter the privacy of their personal strength, perseverance, spiritual commitment and my faith

Professional
in myself. I learned to overcome my own fears without being afraid Fran says the thing she loves most
to live and try new things.” about her role as mortgage spe-
cialist with BankMeridian is get-
Shawncee says that experience ting to know her clients well and
made her a better personal building lifelong relationships.
banker, leaving her even more
determined to achieve positive “Buying a home should be one
results for her clients. “My career of the happiest times in a per-
with BankMeridian allows me to son’s life,” she says. “That’s why I
build lasting relationships with always go the extra mile for my
clients to help them achieve their clients and am available for them
individual dreams and goals,” whenever they need me – nights,
says Shawncee. weekends, and even on vacation.
My clients know they can always reach me. In fact some of my clos-
Fran Moore McKinney is an- est friendships have come from relationships that started with a fi-
other key member of the Bank- nancial transaction.”
Meridian team. A longtime resident of South Carolina, Fran has
more than 21 years total financial experience. For the past 15 years, When you’re ready for a financial expert to help with your most im-
she has specialized in residential mortgage lending, helping clients portant decisions, from financing a new home to maximizing your
realize their dream homes. Fran takes an active role in the commu- business potential, BankMeridian will provide the individual atten-
nity through volunteer organizations, currently serving on several tion and higher levels of personal service you deserve.
boards. She is President Elect of the Zonta Club of Hilton Head,
a member of the Realtors and Mortgage Lenders Associations and Call Shawncee Sapp or Fran Moore McKinney today at 753-7700 to begin
a past board member of Citizens Opposed to Domestic Abuse enjoying the art of relationship banking.
(CODA).
Paradigm Real Estate Group
Specializing in
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Office 803.808.2233
Cell 803.606.1088
Email AHolgate@sc.rr.com Amanda Holgate, BIC
5175 Sunset Boulevard, Suite 10 | Lexington, South Carolina Sales & Marketing, Realtor®
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Professional
Melissa Kyzer
Real Estate Agent
M elissa Kyzer always loved houses, she would visit open

houses, the parade of homes, and anywhere houses
were the main event. Seeing how they were decorated and how
so happy and proud. That is what gives me real, true joy.”
Interestingly enough, after high school, Melissa was trained as a

each builder chose to finish the house always intrigued her. She dental assistant. Of course, when real estate became her chosen
and her husband built three homes themselves and Melissa truly profession, she attended a local real estate institute.
enjoyed the building process. When her parents moved to Lexing-
ton to be near her, she needed a career that would offer flexibility Living in Lexington the last twenty nine years may be the best
so she could tend to the needs of her parents. Real estate was the education Melissa has received to assist her in her career. She has
only choice for Melissa. watched the development of this area first hand. She says she is as
comfortable in “jeans and a t-shirt walking a track of land with
Being a people person and having always loved dealing with peo- country folks as well as dresses to the nines looking at million dol-
ple hands on, helps make Melissa good at what she does. It also lar lake homes.” Melissa also believes that people can tell when you
helps build those relationships that are so important to a success- genuinely care about meeting their needs and is “honest to a fault.”
ful career in real estate. When she is showing a family a home, it She is friendly, reliable, and knowledgeable, always doing what she
is important to her that each customer finds exactly what they are says she will do.
looking for at the right price for that particular family. The most
rewarding part of her career as Melissa puts it is when a client I asked Melissa about her female role models and who had in-
is thankful to have found her. “It makes me feel as though they spired her to make the most of her life. “If I could name a female
couldn’t have managed without me when I go over to visit them role model who has inspired me, it would be my paternal grand-
after they have moved in and see them settled into their new home, mother, Marie Webber. She was an independent thinker from the
Call Melissa Kyzer for all your real estate needs!

Specializing in the
Lexington,
Columbia, and
West Columbia areas
Melissa Kyzer 803.446.5543
Reliable, Respected, and

Highly Recommended
Professional
20’s and 30’s. She was one of the first car sales ladies in the United my helper. He never complains when I need him to put up a sign,
States. I have national sales newsletters where she is written about or refill the flyer box on his way to the office!”
and praised for her salesmanship by the Doge car company. There
Melissa’s daughters, Lacey and Lane are her greatest personal
“When she is showing a family a achievement. She is very proud of the beautiful women they have
become, both inside and out. “Sometimes I look at them and I feel
home, it is important to her that each so much pride and satisfaction in who they have become, that I
can’t believe they are mine. Life is just too wonderful, and then
customer finds exactly what they are there are the grandchildren. Just when you think your children are
looking for at the right price for great, grandchildren come along to show them up! I would say that
grandchildren make getting older absolutely worth it!”
that particular family.”
Professionally, Melissa is very proud of a gift shop called Cinna-
are also newspaper articles with photos of her. In the articles, she mon Hill. She and Sharon Merchant, who remains her dearest
comments on how she sells cars and prepares cars for delivery and friend, owned it, and Melissa cherishes the memories of that expe-
how she targets the wife because the wife is really making the deci- rience. She recently qualified as a Lifetime Member of Columbia’s
sions,” Melissa says. Multiple listing service, “Lifetime Member Circle of Excellence.”
“It was a goal that I set, and I am thrilled to have achieved it.” Me-
Talk about a lady who was a head of her times! I would have loved lissa has accomplished many other things in her role as an agent.
an opportunity to sit down with this woman—no wonder she was She is a member of the “Chairman’s Club,” which is a Russell &
a top sales person. Jeffcoat honor, in which the top 25 agents out of 600 plus agents,
are ranked. For the past three years, Melissa has ranked from 19th
“As a teenager in the early 70’s, I traveled with her many times. She to 20th.
love to discuss everything from politics to the boys I was dating.
She would encourage me to dare to be different and not to pay at- Still, “At the end of the day, I feel as though living a life without any
tention to someone who would discourage me from reaching for regrets is the greatest achievement… I love my life, my family and
my dreams. She always loved what was young and in style. She also friends, I love the home and town I live in, and I love what I am
thought I looked adorable in miniskirts, where my mom thought doing… Life is good!” she says.
two inches about the knee was short enough! She was an amazing
woman who passed away in 1982 at the age of 89.. still driving and I asked, as I usually do, if Melissa had any quotes she would like to
wearing bright red nail polish!” share with us. “I have two quotes attached to the front cover of my
Day-Timer. The first says, ‘The task ahead of you is never as strong
Melissa sites another major influence in her life as her husband of as the power behind you.’ It is referencing the power of God in my
31 years, Tillman Kyzer. “He thinks I can do anything. He is my life. This quote has often motivated me to do a task with the assur-
biggest fan and promoter. It is because of his strong belief in me, I ance of success in the end. The second quote is ‘we make a living by
feel I have experienced success at a greater level,” she says of Till- what we get, we make a life by what we give.’” Wow…
man. “He has shown me what it means to live with integrity and
maintain honesty in the work place. He is my inspiration as well as Thank you Melissa for sharing with us. It was a pleasure.
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Professional
Why Was Rush’s the Right Choice for Me?

Donna Chumley, In Her Own Words
R ush’s was the right choice for me for a variety of reasons.

First, let me share with you how Rush’s started. In 1940, my
grandparents, Henry Fred and Emily Rush, opened a small drive-
W2W: What are some of your favorite aspects of your profession?
Donna Chumley: I know it may sound cliché, but I really enjoy in-
teracting with and serving Rush’s customers. Life is so fast-paced,
in and outlet store for their Carolina Dairy Farm on Broad River and for many people, mealtimes are a chance to take a short break
road. After fire destroyed the building, they reopened in 1949 as a from work or spend time with their family. We strive to provide an
window-service Dairy Queen on the same site. My father, George atmosphere where people can sit down and enjoy their food and feel
Rush, started working in the business when he was 12 and contin- that their time in the restaurant was well spent.
ued working while attending USC and ultimately graduating from
Columbia College. During that time, he married my mother, Patri- W2W: How is this rewarding to you?
cia Medlock, and was deeded the ice cream store from his parents. Donna Chumley: Given that we are a customer-service oriented
I am the oldest of three children; my siblings are Greta Rush Bishop business, the most rewarding aspect is when customers provide us
and John Spencer Rush. with positive feedback. This means we are operating efficiently and
effectively and providing a quality product that people enjoy. Since
My father used to take Greta and I (John was too young at the time) we are a small, locally-run business, another very rewarding part of
behind the counter at the old store on Broad River Road (which was the job is knowing that I’m participating in a Columbia-based tradi-
replaced in 1994 with our current store design) and teach us how to tion, and all employees of Rush’s are leaving a lasting community
work the ice cream machine. I instantly fell in love with the fast pace legacy.
and excitement of the restaurant and decided early on that this was
what I wanted to do “when I grew up.” W2W: What are three words to describe you and why?
Donna Chumley: Passionate, personable and creative. I have a true
I started working for Rush’s in 1977 at the age of 13. After work- passion for the work I’m doing and for helping to continuously im-
ing my way up through the ranks of the restaurant, I moved into prove the business. While participating in the operation of a small
the corporate office in 1993. Growing up in the business gave me a business taps a lot of my personal energy, it is my passion and belief
unique perspective—a long term orientation. It also allowed me to in Rush’s that makes coming to work fun. I also feel I am personable
realize that participating in the Rush’s business was and is my life- and enjoy being around lots of different people. Finally, in the highly
long passion. I am currently in charge of hiring and assisting man- competitive global economy, even a small, locally-owned business
agement personnel and special projects. needs to keep “remaking” itself; therefore, creativity is important, as
well as the ability to anticipate what customers will expect and want
W2W: What is your educational background? tomorrow in addition to today.
Donna Chumley: I graduated from Irmo High School in 1982. I at-
tended and graduated from the University of South Carolina with a W2W: Who are some of your female role models who have inspired
B.S. in Hotel, Restaurant, and Tourism Administration. you to make the most of your life?
Donna Chumley: My greatest female role model is my mother, Pat.
She passed away in 1988 at the young age of 47, and everyday I think
about her and what she means to me. While she struggled in life,
as many people do, she taught me that no matter how tough the
situation is, obstacles can be overcome and we can use each day to
become a better person. She was also a sweet person who taught me
that there is always room for one more person at the dinner table.
W2W: What male in your life has had the biggest impact on you,
professionally and personally?
Donna Chumley: I have two men that have impacted me the great-
est: my father, George Rush, and my husband, Greg Chumley. Be-
cause my father built a business from scratch, he has taught me the
value of perseverance and hard work. He is extremely creative as
well and showed that customers do appreciate quality and good ser-
vice. Greg has always been extremely supportive and patient and
has been willing to put up with the rigors of a small business person
in the family. Overall, I have been very blessed with him in my life.

The Event Planner of the Midlands

MaryAnn Opal
A lthough new to the area, MaryAnn felt instantly at home

when she moved to Lexington a few months ago. Her
South Carolina roots go back to her childhood when her family
MaryAnn became known as The Event Planner. With an eye for
detail like none other, and creativity that sets her events apart,
MaryAnn has had years of overwhelming success as a career event
made their annual pilgrimage through the Midlands visiting rela- planner. With experience that ranges from small intimate parties to
extravagant gala functions to high-powered medical conferences,
MaryAnn is well qualified to handle any event you send her way.
“With experience that ranges from She dedicates utmost attention to every aspect of the planning then
small intimate parties to extravagant tops it off with her flair for excellence turning parties, meetings and
conventions into events to be remembered – with a smile.
gala functions to high-powered medical
MaryAnn’s experiences as an event planner cover a wide variety of
conferences, MaryAnn is well qualified events, services and venues. She is knowledgeable in all aspects of
to handle any event you send her way.” social and professional events including, but not limited to: Medi-
cal Conventions, Clinical Trials and Investigator Meetings, Confer-
ences, Seminars, Corporate Meetings, Company Picnics, Holiday
tives from Charlotte to Charleston. MaryAnn recalls saying several Parties, Grand Openings, Graduation Parties, Birthday Parties,
times, “Someday I’m going to live here; two hours to the moun- Themed Parties, Girls’ Weekend Away, Weddings, Fundraisers, and
tains, two hours to the ocean – it doesn’t get any better than that!” the list goes on! MaryAnn specializes in creating an event for any
With 300 days of sunshine, well… it just got better! occasion. She is dedicated and focused, highly organized and has
a demonstrated talent to take an idea from a visionary concept to
After living in Michigan an operational reality. MaryAnn’s event planning will exceed your
for their first 25 years of expectations!
marriage, MaryAnn’s
husband Tom had the The comment MaryAnn most often receives is, “You did such a
opportunity to come to great job planning all the details, I knew I could sit back, relax and
the Midlands to further actually enjoy the event.” When MaryAnn plans your party, wheth-
his engineering career. er formal or casual – put on your party clothes, forget the details,
With an offer on the and enjoy! When she plans your professional event – put on your
table, they exchanged suit, forget the details, and… network!
a knowing glance and
the decision was made. Give her a call because you deserve — The Event Planner.
15-year-old Mike was
equally excited, as he
also loves the idea of
Yes! You can buy time...
the mountains, the Custom Event Planning
ocean and the warm, a la carte to full service
sunny weather. Mike attends Hammond School, which provides
the perfect educational setting for him. The Opals are pleased and Medical Conventions • Themed Parties
excited to call Lexington home. For MaryAnn personally, whose Company Picnics • Holiday Parties
mom and dad always encouraged her to remember her roots, the Fundraisers • Grand Openings
move to the Midlands felt more like coming back home. Conventions • Seminars • Weddings
Event planning has always come naturally for MaryAnn. For as

long as she can remember, wherever she was and there was an
event (family, church, social or meetings) she ended up as the event
planner.
THE EVENT PLANNER
About 15 years ago, what began with family and friends branched of the Midlands
out to include friends of friends…then friends of friends of friends. MaryAnn Opal • 803.834.9005
Soon people started paying for her services and what was just a PO Box 62 Lexington, SC 29071
hobby turned into a thriving business. Word got around and soon
...and peace of mind.
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Jessica Judge
Columbia Inferno, Athletic Trainer
A fter spending four years in electrical engineering Jessica

Judge said she realized that her “heart was no longer in it.”
Outgoing, passionate and strong, Jessica decided sports medicine
“It has taken me a while to truly come into my own but I am con-
fident that anyone who sees me in the locker room now, or on the
bench, or even on the ice, can very easily see my dedication and
would give her an opportunity to be successful at something she professionalism.”
truly loves.
What would friends say about how you handle yourself profession-
Working with some of the most talented players in the league is ally, Jessica? “I personally would hope that my friends see me as an
definitely a perk of being with the Columbia Inferno. Her healing honest, trustworthy, and caring person in all aspects of my life.”
hands and knowledgeable attentiveness keep the athletes perform-
ing at the top of their game. Jessica says this, along with getting paid Jessica’s female role models are her mother and her sister Lisa, whom
to watch the sport she loves is one of the ways she finds her profes- Jessica says are her best friends, her biggest fans, and her strongest
sion so rewarding.
“Her healing hands and knowledgeable
When asked what skills she possess that helps attribute her success
with the Inferno, this was her response. attentiveness keep the athletes
performing at the top of their game.”
“I have been an athlete my entire life-and have played hockey since
I was eight years old. My personal love for the game as well as my supporters. “They have always been there for me—good and bad—
understanding of the mindset and dedication of the athletes I work and have never let me give up on my dreams. They are two of the
with gives me a unique approach to my career. I am able to not only smartest, strongest, and most loving women in this world, and I can
connect with my players; I can connect with their sport, their inju- only hope to be half the women that they are.”
ries, their struggles and their triumphs.”
This is the quote that Jessica tries to live by, “Life is too short to wake
up with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget the
ones who don’t, and realize that everything happens for a reason. If
you see a chance, take it...if it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it
would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it!”
The male that has had the biggest impact on her life both profes-
sionally and personally is Jessica’s father. “He has pushed me to be
my best. It took me many years to understand the way he supported
me, but he always has, in every aspect of my life...and he has never
let me settle for anything but the best!”
Of course, last but not least, we want to know what your greatest
achievement is.
“Currently this job is a major achievement for me. To work as a

head athletic trainer right out of colleges is a challenge. Working in
a professional sport is an even greater feat. Overcoming the gender
bias and working as a female in a male dominated sport has been
amazing!”
Smart and focused, it is a pleasure to celebrate the achievements

of Jessica Judge. We look forward to what the future holds for this
young woman.
“The secret of joy in work is contained in one word – excellence. To

know how to do something well is to enjoy it.” —Pearl S. Buck

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L e x i n g t o n Wo m a n c e l e b r a t e s t h e s u r v i vo r i n yo u
The Survivor Photo Shoot

October 2007
T he ladies in the picture above are all Survivors, each of them

at a different place in that process, some of them having
faced similar cancers, and others not so well known forms of this
menacing disease. They come from all different economic back-
grounds. They are all different heights and sizes. I would venture to
say if we asked about their heritage we would find a wide variety of
family trees in this group of lovely women. The one thing that drew
each of them to this moment in time, captured beautifully by Mr.
Clark Berry is the fact that each of them has survived some form
of cancer! Here are a few of the strong, resilient, beautiful women
who faced a life threatening disease with courage and strength and Photograph by Clark Berry Photography
decided to live another day.

I shared this idea with a few ladies and the Survivor Photo Shoot be-
This photo started out as just an idea about one special lady that gan to take on a life of its own. Women who I had no idea had ever
touched my own life with her faith and determination. You will read battled cancer began to contact us and say, I am a survivor! I hope
about Mrs. Diane Conyers in one of the next few pages. The Sur- that reading about the four Survivors we chose to feature in this
vivor photo shoot began to change after my aunt Peggy Harrison edition will inspire the survivor in you. Maybe it isn’t cancer you are
of Buford, Georgia was diagnosed with breast cancer in January of facing, maybe it is another disease that has the odds stacked against
2007. I wanted to share with women all over Lexington County that you; perhaps it is a circumstance or a situation that has you wonder-
Cancer isn’t a death sentence. With early detection, state of the art ing if you can get through. If so I encourage you to educate yourself
treatment facilities and advancements made every day in research and as Paulette Criscione would say, “Wrap your arms around faith,”
all over this magnificent world that we live in, people survive! and don’t give up!
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Paulette Criscione
Director of Sports Marketing for the Lexington County Recreation and Aging Commission
S itting across from a perfectly put together Paulette Criscione,

it was hard to imagine just days before she was a voice on
the telephone to me. Engaging, kind, thoughtful and a woman of
even when I didn’t feel like it. Luckily, I was surrounded by great
people who just let me crash if I needed to. I can say the more
chemo you take….the more accumulative that you take, the worse
such innate grace, I smiled as I asked some tough questions. She an- that it gets.
swered honest and forthright, and I am certain it was the first of
many lunches to come as I laid my black digital voice recorder on the I just wrapped my arms around faith and decided that I was go-
table and clicked record. I smiled and got ready to celebrate the Sur- ing to let people be in my life, people who are friends and people
vivor in one of the ladies who helped to create “Chemo with Style.” who could take certain journeys with me. When I buzzed my hair,
I pretended for a moment that I was GI Jane, and of course, after
W2W: How does it feel to be a survivor, Paulette? my hair was buzzed, I didn’t know what I was going to do with my
Paulette: Great, I feel like everyday that I get up I am blessed. Just head.
being a breast cancer survivor feels wonderful. Being a survivor
W2W: You were GI Jane?
“If I could say one thing, that would Paulette: (laughing) Demi Moore had nothing on me, except her
body.
be take one day at a time, just
W2W: I bet she had a lot more surgery than you to get it too.
focus on that day. The other Paulette: Laughing with me, then her tone changing to one of a more
days will get there.” serious nature as she continued on…I had an angel come into my
life and I truly believe that, and I just took one day at a time. The
gives you the opportunity to meet a lot of other good folks with all side effects of chemo were the most difficult part of my journey.
different types of cancer. Again, I feel so blessed. Not everyone experiences side effects from chemo, but it’s good to
know what they are.
W2W: What has been the most difficult part of this journey?
Paulette: I think that the most difficult part would be the chemo. W2W: What three things do you think were detrimental to your
Trying to get through that, I call it a chemo cocktail. Just to keep survival?
moving, getting up everyday, and I pushed myself to go to work, Paulette: Again, I go back to faith. You have to wrap your arms
around faith, whatever faith that is, and you have to believe. Now
that the cards are dealt, there isn’t anything that you can do but
move forward with your life and believe that things will truly work
out the way it’s supposed to. We all have a purpose in life.
Secondly, my family and friends, the people who play a huge part
in my life and some who have become friends since I’ve been di-
agnosed with breast cancer. You want friends, who are positive, to
take the journey with you, because you have to find humor in this
fight. It is so important.
Thirdly, just believing and being able to give back to others is im-
portant. That is why I do some of the things that I do now, and it
helps me, to help other folks. Everybody has a story and listening
to others stories are just as important as my story is to me. There
are so many good people out there that want to help other folks. It
only takes a minute to give someone encouragement for the day.
Being a survivor is a true testament to who you are. Chemo doesn’t
define you. Cancer doesn’t define you. Bi-lateral mastectomy or
whether you finish your reconstruction doesn’t define you. But its
who you are and what’s in your heart that defines who you are.
W2W: What has this journey taught you?

Paulette: I was so busy before that life passed me by and before you

know it, a lot of time has passed. Life is sweeter now. It has helped important to me, that it generated another class, and another, and
me to slow down and enjoy my friends and family. It has given me to watch as people start to laugh and start talking and sharing...
the opportunity to make new friends. I go more places and enjoy
volunteering for causes. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, W2W: What would you say to someone who just got the same di-
it still took a while for me to slow down, until I finally said, wow, agnosis, and what do you wish someone would have said to you?
maybe I can make a difference and help others. I helped to create Paulette: If I could say one thing, that would be take one day at a
a class called “Chemo with Style.” It was a fluke, because after I time, just focus on that day. The other days will get there. I do be-
buzzed my hair I didn’t know what to do with my head. I started lieve the unknown is so scary, but the cards are dealt, and you just
wearing turbans, scarves and pins during my treatments until my have to play it. If you start creating the “what ifs?” in your mind it
hair came back. Since there wasn’t a network of people to help me doesn’t help you mentally or physically get through that day, and
through this journey, along the way I met my friend Terry Vann- today is really all you are promised… Just one day and the one day
Schon. She and I founded “Chemo with Style,” a class that helps that you get up. The next day after you are diagnosed, you wake
others with headwear. Truthfully, if I had not been diagnosed with up as a survivor, not five years after or ten years or two years. That
breast cancer, I probably would have just kept up the fast pace. So next day—you are a survivor.
yes, being diagnosed with cancer does make life sweeter.
W2W: What do you want people to know about Paulette?
W2W: What has been your best day? Paulette: That I made a difference and that I always “paid it for-
Paulette: My first “Chemo with Style” class had to be the best day ward” in hopes that others will too. For some of us, this is not the
for me. Because a lot of the women who attended the class are end of our lives, but the beginning of it!
young—seventeen to eighteen years old all the way up to seventy
years old. Most of the ladies didn’t know what to do with their I think those are words to live by, and before we finished lunch Pau-
head without hair. They came to a class, felt the support, felt like lette said those words and I thought them worth including for each
they weren’t all alone and left with an idea on how to cover their of us. No matter what you have survived, don’t let it be your end. Let
head with style. Again, not having hair doesn’t define who you are, it be your beginning of a sweeter life!
but it is important to most of those ladies. That one class was so
All Survivor Photographs by Clark Berry Photography
“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no
matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.” — Bill Cosby
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Thank You! Chemo with Style

W e would like to offer our sincere appreciation for the
South Carolina Oncology Associates for allowing us
the use of their Serenity Garden for our 2007 Survivor Shoot. It
“C hemo with Style” was founded in November, 2005 by
Paulette Criscione and Terry Vann-Shon and through
all the heart felt volunteers who have dedicated their time and
was absolutely beautiful! belief in this class to help others. It’s a class that invites all types
The South Carolina Garden Club and Sarah Ann Parlor—we

thoroughly enjoyed the beautiful tranquility of the Serenity Gar- “Even if it’s one survivor out of many
den. Thank you for providing such a lovely spot for so many won-
derful people to enjoy.
that we help, it’s worth the comfort
and smiles that we see from them
I would like to personally thank all of the volunteers that helped
make this day possible: that keep us going.”
• Michelle Boggs
• Betty Cagel of cancer survivors to participate in a fun evening to learn about
• Paulette Criscione different headwear fashions and other personal appearance
• Patsy Dukes tips. It helps to restore their sense of worth, which is crucial to
• Carey Hall help with their fight against cancer. The class meets every other
• Sarah Ann Parlor month, and since its beginning, it has helped many people.
• Terry Vann Schon
• Leah Scott Each person receives a nice goody bag that includes a turban,
• Lauri Truesdale scarf and other stylish items. They also get to pick and choose
• Cosellers Weeks a wig. This class is no cost to the survivor. Each class consists
of a small group of women. You can feel the kindred spirits that
Thank you to the Lexington Woman Advertisers who helped is generated between the survivors with laughter, support and
make our door prizes available: a sense of friendship. The classes also provide networking and
• The Crabb Shack of Lexington resources for any patient that attends. They are given contact
• Aloette Cosmetics names, numbers and any information of organizations that will
• Arbonne International help support them through their journey.
• Woman 2 Woman
• Leah Scott of Arbonne international, who not only Because of the support from our sponsors, South Carolina On-
volunteered, but offered her services to help freshen up our cology Associates and Hospice Care of Tri-County, “Chemo
ladies before the shoot. When Leah heard about what we with Style” is now expanding to Sumter and Camden in No-
were doing, she actually called us and asked to be allowed vember and in January to the Augusta and Greenville areas, and
to come out and “make up” our ladies. Thank you Leah, for Newberry, South Carolina.
your kindness. We are so happy you were a part of our first
annual Survivor Photo Shoot! Even if it’s one survivor out of many that we help, it’s worth the
comfort and smiles that we see from them that keep us going.
If you or someone you know is a Survivor, please email or call us
to be featured in an upcoming edition of Lexington Woman!

Chemo with Style
“Chemo with Style” is designed for women in cancer treatment. It is a wonderful event that offers styling
suggestions and is a great opportunity for the participants to be with others who are having similar experiences. At
the party, volunteer stylists teach the participants beauty techniques and ideas for dealing with the effects of
chemotherapy and radiation treatments. Practical tips are given for coping with hair loss, using wigs, scarves,
jewelry and other accessories. At the end of our party, all participants will glance in the mirror at their transformed
faces with broad smiles and a sense of reassurance that they are truly beautiful.
Note: We are currently working on “Chemo with Style just for men”
“Chemo with Style” is a © copyrighted program with Hospice Care of Tri-County.
The “Chemo With Style” events have

been made possible by the donations
of many caring, loving people.
Sponsors:
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Associates
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Tri-County
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Amy Kinard
Mother Baby Nurse, Wife and Mother
A my Kinard is a beautiful young woman, a nurse at Lexing-

ton Medical Center on the Mother baby floor, and a survi-
vor. She is an avid runner and unlike some of us, health conscious.
Yet, as we have seen so often, cancer is not a respecter of persons.
I liked Amy the moment I met her, even more so after the Survi-
vor shoot when she tossed a baseball cap she had been wearing and
flashed the camera a smile bright enough to compete with the pro-
fessional lightning in the best studios, and I knew then that Amy
Kinard was someone I could be friends with.
Over breakfast as I interviewed Amy, we laughed about motherhood

and being busy women. She spoke of family and faith with a quiet
dignity resounding in every word. A wonderful mother of three,
Harrison (10), Bryce (9), and Ellie (5), inviting over neighbors to a
“shaving party” as she started to loose her hair during chemothera-
py, letting the children do the honors of buzzing it away instead.
W2W: Amy how do you feel about being a survivor?

Amy: I still don’t categorize myself as a survivor. When does being
a survivor start? Does it start after chemo? Do you call yourself a
survivor after the surgery? I know I am (a survivor) but it is hard to
pin point the exact day you become a survivor.
W2W: I think the minute you wake up, the next morning after diag-
nosis and put your feet on the floor and decide that you are going to fun as cancer can be. We just let them know that we were going to
fight—that’s when you are a survivor. I don’t believe there’s a magic be fine. I think this has truly been a life lesson for them, to see me. I
number, like you have to be cancer free for three years, or five years. knew that the way I reacted and how I responded was going to affect
The reality is that some women choose not to fight, but because you how they responded. I couldn’t lie on the sofa and cry … because I
chose to face it head on and scrap—that makes you a survivor. knew they were watching everything I did. I knew I had to be strong
Amy: In those terms, I decided from the beginning there wasn’t any- for them… we’ve cried together, and they know that there are times
thing I could do to change this, so from then on I started trying to when mommy is sad, and when mommy doesn’t feel good. But for
make it as easy as possible to get through it. I have small children the most part they have seen how strong my faith has been, how
and I have a life to live, and I certainly wasn’t going to let this can- people have come in from church and helped out and brought food,
cer interfere with my life … I wasn’t going to stop going to baseball and they would ask, “Why are they doing that?” And I would say
games, football games or cheerleading events. I wanted my kids to because they care about us. So I think it has been a lesson for all of
know that I was there—sick or not. I just didn’t let it get in the way. us. We attend Lexington Baptist Church, and the support has been
amazing. We are in a big Sunday school class and all of it has been
W2W: Tell me how you told your children. overwhelming.
Amy: We waited a couple of weeks, but I think they sensed some-
thing was wrong. We were having a lot of hushed conversations and W2W: What are three things, Amy, that you feel were crucial to you
I didn’t want them to hear it from someone else at church or any- understanding that you would and will continue to survive?
where else; and we chose to speak with each of our children indi- Amy: That’s a hard question…The biggest thing was my faith- Faith
vidually so that the needs of each individual child were met. Kids in God. That he was taking me down this path for a reason, I didn’t
do see (cancer) as a death sentence. That is what they see on TV understand it and I didn’t like it but there wasn’t anything I could do
and that is how the media portrays it, so that was a big fear, one to change it. And that strength made me realize that I was going to
they wanted to know. Could they catch it, can they still touch me, fight this and I wasn’t going to let it win.
kiss me, was it contagious? They were sad because they knew I was
going to feel bad. Having the knowledge being a nurse, one, I could process all this
stuff, I knew how to decipher this information, and it was still new
We bought books and we talked about it and made it as light and as information. It wasn’t always stuff I knew about but I knew enough

to process it and to educate myself, hearing what the doctors had thing you have taken from this experience?
to say, Dr. Jones would say, “Amy, take it day by day, week by week, Amy: My own self strength, and I don’t like to look at myself that
month by month, and we’ll just step by step make it through it.” He way. I am a modest person and I don’t like for a big deal to be made
was a big eye opener in helping me understand I am not the only about it. I have just really found out exactly who I am. I feel like I
one going through this. That’s two. I will have to think on the third have grown up. Even though I have had small children, I’m a grown
one. up now, I’m old. I’m 35, and I knew 35 was going to be a tough
year—I just didn’t know it was going to be this tough. I feel like an
W2W: Were you giving yourself exams, or did you go for a mam- adult. I feel like I have grown up. I am a stronger person and nothing
mogram. can stop me now!
Amy: I went for my regular OBGYN appointment in January, and
he said, “You are 34. You have to get your baseline mammogram at Amy: No family history, no risk factors but I still tested positive for
35.” I said, “35? I thought baseline mammograms were supposed to breast cancer. Cancer is blind. It is so random and sporadic. The
be done at 40.” He said, “No, now its 35. So call me in July and I will American Cancer society has a whole list of risk factors: being over
write you a prescription to have it done.” So I said okay. weight, over thirty five. I didn’t have any of the risk factors, but I still
had breast cancer. My family has a history of heart disease. I am a
My girlfriend had been diagnosed in May and she works at the hos- runner. I ran because I knew I wanted my heart to be healthy. At
pital. She was also 34. I thought why her? She had young children— 34, I was the healthiest I had been in my life. Yet, I still had breast
a two year old and a four year old—and that prompted me to start cancer.
doing self breast exams. I found a lump and I thought it was a sym-
W2W: Can you share something, Amy, that would help make this
“You can get mad, you can cry, you can journey easier for some one else who has received your same diag-
nosis?
kick, you can scream, you can not love Amy: You can’t change it. You can get mad, you can cry, you can
kick, you can scream, you can not love God, you can love God, but
God, you can love God, but there is there is nothing you can do to change it. If you get a lump and you
nothing you can do to change it.” find out it is cancer, you can’t change it … you can’t wish it away, you
can’t make it go away, and so what are you going to do about it? Are
pathy lump. I thought, “That is not what this is,” so I waited and did you going to sit there and cry and feel sorry for yourself, or are you
another self breast exam. When I found it was there, I still thought it going to pick yourself up and go on with your life? That is what you
was nothing. I called the doctor and said I found a lump… I thought have to do. You have to make that decision. I was not going to be
I could talk myself out of having it. It was the size of my thumb. a sick person, I was not going to have a pity party. And there were
days when I had a pity party, and there were days when I was mad,
W2W: During this interview process, I have learned that most of but I never questioned why did this happen to me. I knew God had
the survivors I have spoken with found it themselves, not a mam- a plan for me. Did I like it? No. I just knew I couldn’t change it. It is
mogram. what it is. And Dr. Jones did say to take it day by day, week by week.
Amy: The most important thing I feel is being aware of your body. Each week my strength is coming back little by little.
I think a lot of people just don’t want to know. I have so many girl-
friends who have said they have never had a mammogram, because W2W: Years from now, if someone picked this up who didn’t know
they just don’t want to know. They just don’t want to go through it, you, what would you want them to say about Amy Kinard? (We
and I tell them it’s not that bad, it’s not that bad. knew being modest as she is, this was another tough one for Amy.)
Amy: That I am a great mom. That I love my kids and I put family
W2W: And now women live. Sixty years ago they didn’t, but today first.
they do. This might be another hard one. What is the most valuable
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Diane Conyers
Wife and Mother
D iane is the kind of woman that glows from the inside out,
much like our other survivors; I knew the day that I met
her that there was something special about this woman. When I first
I felt a terrible sense of loss, initially. However my appearance be-
came the most unimportant thing. Living takes precedence, much
more than the physical, and (facing cancer) you get your priorities
saw Diane I had no idea that she was in the middle of treatment. I straight very quickly.”
attributed her short red locks to “a hip hair style.” Chemotherapy
never entered my mind. She never frowned, and always seemed to W2W: “What do you feel was crucial to your understanding that
be surrounded by people who were smiling and laughing so natu- you would and will continue to survive cancer?”
rally I had no reason to suspect that this lovely lady with a sweet Diane: “I think the most important thing was quick action. The
disposition was going through the most difficult trial of her life. doctors acted very promptly with my course of treatment. Once it
was determined that a lumpectomy would not be sufficient, that I
Diane has been married for 34 years to the same man, and has two had to have a double mastectomy, I never had a second thought. I
children and four precious grandchildren. knew that moving forward with that would farther my chances of
survival. I believe going to my treatments and being dedicated to
We wanted to know how Diane feels about surviving cancer. doing exactly what the doctor instructed me to do, not missing the
chemo or the radiation, all those things worked together to make
“It feels wonderful to be a survivor. When I first heard the words me a survivor.
breast cancer, I thought I would die. I thought that would be the
end of my life. Before I was diagnosed, it was not something I ever The most important thing was knowing God had a hand in this,
thought of, it was as if I had never heard the words before. Shocking more than anything else. My faith has had a tremendous impact on
to say the least, now I feel as if I am a different person than I used me being where I am today. I have been told by so many people that
to be.” I had a glow about me, in the midst of all this tragedy.
I asked Diane what the most difficult part of her journey was, her I have a relationship with the Lord that even grew deeper because
quiet spoken words even now forming tears in the soft glow of her all I had to rely on was my faith in God. God was and remains in
amber colored eyes. “Giving my husband the news was the hardest control in my life.
part for me. We cried together. Losing my hair was as bad as losing
my breasts, because a woman’s hair is her glory. After the bilateral Even though I felt that everything was going to be fine and the doc-
tors said everything is going to be fine, there was still something
in the back of my mind that said “you could die.” I prayed, ‘I don’t
wanna die; I don’t wanna leave my family,’ and I prepared myself for
that next step if I had to take that journey.”
W2W: What have you taken from this experience?

Diane: “We are all so busy in our everyday life, we take little things
for granted, and you learn to slow down and things that might have
seemed important before are not important any more. You look
at the big picture in life. I believe I am a different person, a much
stronger person, a happier person, something has been taken away
from me, but I’ve have been given an opportunity to appreciate life
again, I have a heart of sympathy and love for other people, I may
see a stranger walking down the street and my heart will just go out
to that person, before I may not have given that stranger a second
thought. After cancer your priorities change.”
W2W: Diane, do you have a best day that you would like to share.
Diane: “The day I was told I was cancer free for the first time, was
my best day. It was like you get up the next morning and the sun is
shining and the world is new and different than yesterday when you
woke up and were unsure about your future. Today is the day you
know everything is going to be okay.”

“I would like to say one more thing, I want to tell other ladies there going through, to discuss the things you may not want to discuss
are survivors, there are treatments, don’t determine before you have with your family. So many people showed their love and concern
through cards, letters, kindness, and such a humbling outpouring
“We are all so busy in our everyday life, of support from family and friends in the community meant a great
deal to me.”
we take little things for granted, and
Diane left us with this nugget, “Have your mammogram once a year
you learn to slow down and things that yes, but please check yourself. I had had mammograms six months
might have seemed important before apart for two years prior to finding my lump. I was never told of any
irregularities, and in July, I found a lump through a self breast exam.
are not important any more.” If I had not found that lump myself, how much longer would I have
went without having it rechecked? Don’t rely on a once a year mam-
educated yourself that you are going to die, just because you are di- mogram. Self Breast Exams are so important and it takes only a few
agnosed with cancer, it doesn’t mean this is the end of the world. minutes once a month. The earlier cancer is detected the greater the
You can survive. chance of survival.”
Find a support group where other women have experienced the “Courage is fear that has said its prayers.”
same things you have, or may be experiencing them currently. In — Maya Angelou
this setting these women aren’t afraid to discuss things you may be
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in

which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say
to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next
thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you
cannot do.’” — Eleanor Roosevelt
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Martha Shealy
Carolina Springs Middle, 6th grade English Language Arts Teacher
“I met with Mrs. Martha Shealy during her planning period at

Carolina Springs Middle School. With an infectious smile and
a very real concern for women of all ages, it was a pleasure to sit and
erything would be great. I needed this medical procedure and pre-
scriptive chemotherapy in order to be healthy.
chat with her. I have been hearing all year about what a great teach- W2W: What are three things that you feel were crucial to your un-
er, Mrs. Shealy is (she is my son’s English teacher). When I found derstanding that you would and will continue to be a Survivor?
out she was a survivor, that was a perfect reason to visit with this Martha: Prayer foremost—prayer and my faith. Secondly, my atti-
lady whom my son speaks so well about and who is very obviously tude, my husband, family and friends. I’m not sure if I have these
affecting my own family in a positive light. I asked Trey for a quote out of order or not—I guess my husband would have to be second.
about Mrs. Martha Shealy, this is what he had to say, “Mrs. Shealy My husband allowed me to have a good attitude. He was right there
is the kind of teacher who really cares about learning from us (her helping me—my partner—he was there through all of it, the doctor
students) and making sure we learn from her. She has a way of mak- visits and the treatment. He was the best one to do that because he
ing the things I don’t really like, interesting.” Here is what she had to
say about being a Survivor. “This has been a good thing for me and
W2W: How does it feel to be a survivor? for all the women in my life.”
Martha: Like I can conquer the world! If I have pulled through…this
menacing disease, that most of us are experiencing in our lives, at was my partner. For anyone else to take me to all the places that he
some point or another, either ourselves or through friends and rela- did, for all my visits and my follow-ups and my chemo therapy.….
tives, and I can conquer it, I feel like I can take on the world. I can’t… But he was there for all my initial visits, oncologists, plastic surgeon,
but I do feel like I can. I do feel like nothing can keep me down for gastro endocrinologists. He was right there, so I have to give him
having gone through this. credit for helping me form my attitude about getting through it.
Diagnosis: Feb 2005 W2W: Was it devastating?

W2W: When did you tell your children about the diagnosis? Martha: Yes, absolutely devastating, but I looked around and so
Martha: My husband and I sat them down and told them together, many other people had worse situations than mine, and mine was
and we told them I would be fine. Because I knew I would be. It going to be just fine. I knew that. So why get bogged down?
would require surgery and Chemotherapy, but in the long run ev-
When I was diagnosed with not just one but with two cancers, my
knowledge was, “Okay, this is beatable.” I didn’t even consider the
fact that I was not going to pull through. After two or three visits
with my surgeon, I thought, well I better ask. So I did say, “This is
not going to take my life is it?” And he just kind of laughed and said
“oh no, no.”…. I had no fear of losing my life. I thought that is some-
thing I need to clear up.
W2W: Was it your faith? Or what made you feel like this was some-
thing you could beat?
Martha: I honestly think it was because I had done those things that
women should do. I was having regular mammograms, and I knew
that something so devastating as to take my life would not have ap-
peared over night. The facts that I knew them to be were clearly
in my favor, and of course knowing I had the support and prayers
of family and friends all over the country and possibly all over the
world. My niece’s father-in-law is bishop in the United Methodist
Church, and he had contacted the bishops and of course people all
over Lexington. I heard about it through word of mouth from teach-
ers with whom I was teaching. So, I had no doubt—no doubt at all.
I do know that I have two daughters, and I need to be sure and make
them aware that at every age, nowadays a young woman can be vul-
nerable. You can turn something like this into a positive thing by

knowing you can become a healthier person by being familiar with
symptoms and what to look for; and I have to look at it in that way.
This has been a good thing for me and for all the women in my life.
W2W: What is the most valuable thing you have taken from this
experience?
Martha:I have to say that I have come to know God’s healing hands.
I can get teary. I turn to scripture. Even when you know things are
going to be okay, you still need a little motivation—a little encour-
agement and a nudge from your Father. You need more knowledge
of scripture and how God’s healing hands are there—not just for
myself and my family—but for others as well.
Also, (realizing) a sense of (my own) perseverance to continue to

go on. I have accomplished a lot since my diagnosis, in terms of
graduate credit, graduate courses, things that I had to do that I had
already committed to before my diagnosis. I was looking at some of
the things that I have done in professional development since I’ve
been teaching, and a majority of them have been done since my di-
agnosis. I don’t know if I was just trying to prove something—I don’t
think so. For my children, sometimes, when they are facing things,
I have them look around ... and try to see things as they could be in
spite of what is in our lives. We can keep the attitude, faith and per-
severance to continue forward and not let things get us down.
Throughout my diagnosis and chemo and so forth, I would just tell

my friends who called and asked about me, “Oh this is really just a
bump in the road,” and it really is. It is just a bump in the road, but
we grow from our hardships. We become stronger, more resilient,
yet remain that compassionate person because we have been there;
and we can understand, and we can give ourselves in a way that
maybe we could not have before.
W2W: What is something you could share with a woman who just
received the diagnosis?
Martha: Continue to put your best foot forward, every step of every
day. If you are used to dressing a certain way, then you have to con-
tinue to dress that way, no matter how tired or depressed you might
feel. You have to always be your best, look your best and you will
feel your best. Get your hair done. Get your nails done. Continue to
do those things. When I chose my wig, I went with a sassy red one.
Just keep on being your best. Your better attitude will evolve from
all that.
(I would also want them to know) that there is so much hope. There
is so much going into research and that things are different today
in 2007 than they were in 2005. There is so much more in terms

of medical knowledge, so there is no reason not to have hope if
you have taken care of yourselves all along and done your monthly
breast exams. There is no reason not to believe everything will be
fine and it will be!
I am strong, not all by myself. I am a strong woman, and I do have

my faith, and I do have my Lord who I call on fifty times a day. It is
through Him that I can be so strong, and that does not mean that I
do things right all the time; but I am strong, and I can help others by
having been at a place in my life where I’ve had to pull myself up.
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A Personal Note
thank you...
I would like to dedicate this edition of Lexington Woman to my aunt, Peggy
Harrison of Buford, Georgia. Peggy was a strong woman who seemed to al-
ways care more about taking care of those around her than herself. Peggy
survived cancer for almost ten months after her diagnosis.
She lost her hair and weight, not her dignity, and even my daughter, unaware
that her great aunt was sporting a beautiful shaved head beneath it, remarked
on how cool her purple hat was as we visited Georgia in the spring. “Chemo
with Style” would have been proud of her ability to laugh and keep on fight-
ing. Quite honestly, I don’t remember ever seeing her without a smile on her
face. She was quick to laugh and loved to spend time in the mountains. A big
George Jones fan as well, she never missed an opportunity to listen to his music. Her grand-
children benefited greatly from such a loving and generous grandmother. Our Survivor pho-
to shoot became even more dear to me as she fought through this disease that our family lost
both great-grandmothers to. I have decided to make cancer awareness and survival a part of
every Woman 2 Woman publication in memory of her.
I know she would be proud to be a part of this.
To the little girl with the biggest heart I know, Ms. Abigail Grace Duncan, whose smile can
light up a room and who always knows how to get the biggest laugh in any crowd. I love you,
Abby. I am so thankful God chose to share you with us.
For my mother, a woman of faith and a constant source of love and support
to her children.
To my best friend, my sister, Elaine Samples thank you for pushing me when I
don’t want to be pushed.
I mustn’t forget the men in my life. To my loving father, who taught me about
unconditional love, “I miss you everyday Daddy. Thank you.”
To my husband, Trenton Duncan, I love you, baby. Here is to a lifetime together.

Thank you for all of your loving support.
For John R. Duncan thank you for instilling a great work ethic in your son. I
hope we make you proud.
To my three sons, Trenton, Colton, and Ryan, for all the joy you give to me. I am
proud to be your Mother.
To all the wonderful women of Lexington who truly made this project a great ex-
perience for me, for my friends and family and for all the new friends I made along
the way. Especially the ladies and gentlemen who participated in our Survivor photo shoot,
you all inspire me!
A very special thank you to three ladies this publication would not have been possible with-
out, Michelle Boggs, Carey Hall and Lauri Truesdale. Thank you for your tireless efforts and
beautiful stories.
I am blessed.
Lori Samples Duncan

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