Relationships-The Heart of Health and Well-Being

Elaine Sullivan

Relationships-The Heart of Health and Well-Being

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(SP)
Artisan
Orange

Strengths
Trouble Shooter
Negotiator
Good in Crisis
Risk Taker

Values
Freedom
Decisiveness
Spontaneity

Needs
Challenge
Independence
Applause
Support

Stressors
Rules
Criticism
Deadlines



































(SJ)
Guardian
Gold

Strengths
Work Ethic
Detailed
Dependable
Stable

Values
Dedication
Punctuality
Quality

Needs
Organization
Policies
Loyalty
Stability

Stressors
Incompletions
No Structure
Disorganization
























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Heart of Health and
Well-Being











(NF)
Idealist
Blue

Strengths
Nurturing
Optimistic
Mediators
Growth Oriented

Values
Harmony
Honesty
Feelings

Needs
People
Peace
Acceptance
Empathy

Stressors
Negativity
Conflict
Insincerity
























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(NT)
Rational
Green

Strengths
Models
Global Ideas
Visionary
Analysis

Values
Competency
Knowledge
Logic

Needs
Space
Quiet Time
Why
Challenge

Stressors
Incompetence
Small Talk
Emotions






Personality Types
In Relationships
Benefits

Improved: Reduced:
-Work Sharing -Conflicts
-Communications -Stress
-Morale -Untruths
-Intimacy -Need for Counseling

Effective: Optimal:
-Parenting -Skill Utilization
-Decision Making -Effectiveness
-Collaboration with Home Duties -Cooperation


Relationships: The Heart of Wellness-Elaine Sullivan



Simple Conversations Guidelines
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1. We acknowledge one another as equals, setting aside
judgments, meeting as peers and colleagues.

2. We speak honestly, personally, and with sensitivity to
one another.

3. We invite each thought to be shared freely, without
debate, correction, or interpretation.

4. We try to remain curious and open-minded about others
points of view, even as we work to identify our own,
sometimes hidden assumptions.

5. We listen carefully to each contributor, acknowledging
that it is hard work to listen, but well worth the effort.

6. We slow down, taking the time to think and reflect after
someone has spoken, instead of immediately filling the
space with words.

7. We expect this process to be messy at times, as difficult
or challenging thoughts are added to the stew of ideas.

8. We remember that conversation is a natural, time-
honored way to think together, strengthen relationships,
and address issues.

1
Adapted from the work of Margaret J . Wheatley, Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope
to the Future. Barrett-Koehler Pub: San Francisco, CA. 2001.