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Christians who struggle with homosexuality. Like the struggle itself, their ministry to
those who suffer may be hidden, but it goes on, fueled by love. They are parents,
grandparents, brothers and sisters, cousins, and friends of your church members – men
and women -- who are drowning in the residue of the sin of unwanted homosexuality.
Those who walk with homosexuals share the solitude and isolation that afflicts
Christians who struggle with unwanted same-sex attraction. Secrecy fuels this sin in the
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shadow of the church, the very place where the light of cleansing is harbored. Our fears
and limitations quench the power of the Holy Spirit to remove the deception and division
and put the family back together. And the truth is, there is no reason to fear; no reason to
limit God’s love to these sinners any more than to all the others who worship in our
midst. There are plenty of resources, but “the greatest of these is love.”
Make it Clear
Jeff Buchanan, senior director of church equipping for Exodus International, says
churches need to know and hold a biblical worldview on homosexuality and present it to
“They (struggler and church) must agree that homosexual behavior, by definition,
is a sin and that a homosexual orientation is not sinful, nor is it an individual’s choice,”
said Buchanan in a recent interview with New Man Magazine. “If the church believes
this and the person struggling understands it, then he or she should be just as involved as
any other member of the congregation. That’s how I found my freedom (from
actions. They saw the potential of what God could do in my life and what God could
make me.”
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Buchanan believes that “it is essential and nonnegotiable for a same-sex struggler
to be involved in the local church” where members can walk with him or her in the
pursuit of freedom and healing and an end to homosexual sin in their lives.
Buchanan obtained freedom from homosexual acting out, as did Mike Goeke, a
“It is important to remember that homosexual desires and feelings do not mean
published by the SBC Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission in 2005. “Homosexual
desires may lead one to accept a homosexual identity, but every Christian is first and
foremost a child of God. Someone who struggles with unwanted homosexual desires is
homosexual simply because of their past struggles. Temptation is not sin and should not
be treated as such. If the church takes each person as it finds them and holds every
Christian to the same standard, then the church should have no problem finding a place
It is likely there is at least one struggler in every Southern Baptist Church, yet
only a handful of the more than 42,000 SBC churches in America and not one of the
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1,700 SBC churches in Oklahoma is a part of the Exodus Church Association, which
The SBC has been clear, but some denominations and individual churches have
compromised biblical truth, sending a confusing message. Acknowledging the sin and
“The Christian worldview has been undermined by pervasive curricula that teach
to Homosexuality.
The church can offer clarity to counteract the confusion of our culture.
For most, the church does not rank high on the list because of a history of rejection and
condemnation . . . and the fear that “a little leaven leavens the whole lump of dough.”
While some Christians struggle with same-sex attraction, it is not contagious. Most
Christian men and women who struggle with unwanted same-sex attraction, in fact, raise
their children with the correct biblical view that homosexual behavior is a sin.
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God used an experience I had about a year ago to make something more clear in
lower abdomen. A small container was collecting the poison and fluid that accumulates
after surgery to remove it from my body. Several times a day, a nurse would empty this
container. This same nurse rushed to my side when I stood and lost my first lunch at
bedside. She cleaned it up, humming as she did so, not one bit concerned that she would
be damaged by her proximity. She saw me at my worst and it presented her at her best.
“Outside the walls of the church, homosexuals are waiting to see if the Christian
church has anything more to say after we declare that homosexuality is a sin,” said
Mohler.
Sexual sin leads to isolation, which leads to a need to reach out somewhere for
God’s Word. Strugglers in big cities and small towns can find easy and anonymous
hook-ups via Craig’s List or personals websites. They can dangerously cruise certain
areas of larger cities and then return home, usually mired in the quicksand of self-hatred
and weakness, but with hope no one will ever find out. Young men who struggle are
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lured by false theology to embrace sexual attraction for men as normal through such
groups as GOYS, which flaunt “a new masculine sexual identity,” which allows for men
to have sex with each other within certain limits . . . because these men are not “gay,” but
“goy.” One GOY group recently advised its members to cease contributions to churches
church. Why would you be so fortunate as to have been spared this sin among your
members? Small town . . . small church? Big battle. This is not an urban phenomenon.
In my struggles I met many Christian men from small towns who lived in absolute fear of
Perhaps the biggest reason the church needs to be involved on the same-sex
battlefield is because the church is the Body of Christ and the best place for confessional
firmly believe that without that witness our efforts to live honestly and wholeheartedly
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will not work. We as the church must be reminded of the biblical call to gather as sinners
in order to be cleansed.”
Too often confession in church is the end-result of being caught doing something
wrong outside the church and having to ‘fess up. It is painful and feared. Just seeing
someone else go through it often causes the sinner to bury his secret more deeply.
Imagine if the church truly were a place where a person struggling with a sin of
any kind had trusted brothers or sisters in a small group situation and could confess,
“Without confession, we can remain alone, skimming the surface of God’s grace
responses of mercy” and a connection with others “rescues us from the domination of
sin.”
City. Ministry Director Stephen Black would prefer churches be equipped to minister to
their members, even if it means someday that ministries like First Stone are no longer
necessary.
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“Within the church, one in five members is affected in some way. They, a loved
one or someone they know is gay. In the past, the church has seen its role primarily as
condemning,” said Black. “Now we are under cultural assault. Legal and political
problems are leading to churches having to deal with it. Churches are going to have to be
clear.”
Black is concerned that hate crimes laws could make it punishable to express
biblical views on homosexuality, another challenge for those who minister. Dealing with
the same-sex issue, he believes, takes training and understanding, but churches can be
equipped. He sees three levels of the homosexual struggler: the person wholeheartedly
seeking the truth, the struggler who has become hardened and no longer seeks the truth,
and the struggler deceived into thinking he or she can act out within a Christian gay
identity. In addition, you have the person who knows it is wrong, but is close to just
giving up. All must be approached with a clear-cut biblical response to the sin in their
lives.
Jesus time. If so, shouldn’t we approach it as Jesus did the lepers and tax collectors? He
associated with them. As Scripture tells us, "God does not show favoritism" (Acts
10:34). Jesus treated the tax collector and the leper in exactly the same way as he did
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“If we don’t approach the issue of homosexuality with long-suffering and
patience to help people through their sin, we set ourselves up for self-righteousness,
which is also a sin,” said Black. “We need to bear each other’s burdens. As Christians,
While willful and repetitive sin can rightfully lead to church discipline and
“Homosexuals can walk out a process of healing,” said Black. “When you
excommunicate them, you turn them over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh. We
should err on the side of mercy rather than judgment, giving weight to grace, wisdom and
discernment.”
Black noted churches often deal with homosexuality in haste, whereas other
restoration process . . . but it is rarely put in place. And these are our brothers and
sisters.”
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The Southern Baptist Convention is hopeful that local churches will help
strugglers move beyond the fear of church judgment and that churches will focus instead
In 2001, the SBC established the Task Force on Ministry to Homosexuals. Bob
Stith, former pastor of Carroll Baptist Church in Southlake, Texas, is now National
Strategist for Gender Issues for the SBC. Stith is a board member of Exodus
International.
“While the Bible is quite clear about the sin of homosexuality, it is also clear
about the promise of power to overcome this sin as well as others,” said Stith. “The
message of the Bible is a message of hope based on the love of God. He does love each
Being transparent about my years of struggling with homosexual temptation and acting
out on them allows me now to speak openly about the consequences of this sin on me, my
family and my church family. I should have sought more help from Christian brothers.
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If you want to help those who struggle in your church, even if you don’t know who they
are, set aside fear and condemnation and take on honesty and compassion. Here are some
• Have a speaker come to your church to share and begin the openness process.
www.exoduschurchassociation.org – or at 407-599-6872.
line at http://www.crosspowerministries.com/.
Join with your members who already minister to the same-sex strugglers in your church
family . . . and let them know they don’t have to do it alone and in secret anymore. You
will help.
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Thom Hunter, former chief of staff for AT&T in Oklahoma, is now a full-time writer.
His blog, Signs of a Struggle, offers hope and help to those who struggle with all forms of
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