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Who has not seen a plaque on a living room wall that read, "God Bless Our Home". That is certainly a proper prayer and desire. Blessing and happiness in the home and family is a Biblical ideal and goal. However, we need to change the quote to read as Proverbs 3:33 tells us, "God bless the Home of the Righteous." Only those who live in terms of the Word of God can pray and expect God to bless their home. (I really wish someone would produce plaques or "stitchery" with that verse on it. It would be a good evangelistic conversation starter). This article is an outline from Proverbs for Wisdom for the Family.
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1989 Issue 7 - Wisdom for the Family - Counsel of Chalcedon
Who has not seen a plaque on a living room wall that read, "God Bless Our Home". That is certainly a proper prayer and desire. Blessing and happiness in the home and family is a Biblical ideal and goal. However, we need to change the quote to read as Proverbs 3:33 tells us, "God bless the Home of the Righteous." Only those who live in terms of the Word of God can pray and expect God to bless their home. (I really wish someone would produce plaques or "stitchery" with that verse on it. It would be a good evangelistic conversation starter). This article is an outline from Proverbs for Wisdom for the Family.
Who has not seen a plaque on a living room wall that read, "God Bless Our Home". That is certainly a proper prayer and desire. Blessing and happiness in the home and family is a Biblical ideal and goal. However, we need to change the quote to read as Proverbs 3:33 tells us, "God bless the Home of the Righteous." Only those who live in terms of the Word of God can pray and expect God to bless their home. (I really wish someone would produce plaques or "stitchery" with that verse on it. It would be a good evangelistic conversation starter). This article is an outline from Proverbs for Wisdom for the Family.
Wisdom for the-Family by Wayne Rogers W ho has not seen a . plaque on a living room wall that read, "God Bless Our Horne". That is certainly a proper prayer and desire. Blessing and happiness in the horne and family is a Biblical ideal and goal. However, we need to change the quote to read as Proverbs 3:33 tells us, "God bless the Horne of the Righteous." Only those who live in terms of the Word of God can pray and expect God to bless their horne. (I really wish some- one would produce plaques or" stitchery" with that verse on it. It would be a good evangelistic conversation starter). This article is an outline from Proverbs for Wisdom for the Family. The horne, according to Proverbs 24:3-4, should be a place where val- uable riches and treasures are found. Proverbs 18:22 echoes Genesis 2:18 and recommends marriage and the fam- ily. Psalm 128 celebrates the happiness and the influence of the horne that is established upon the Word of God. Happiness is. not automatic, how- ever, as 3:33 reminds us. "The Lord's curse. is on the house of the wicked," it says. Unhappiness in the horne is caused because the horne is not built upon the Word of God, Mat. 7:24-27. Just as most physical accidents happen at horne, so do most spiritual accidents, Prov. 3:21-26. This passage describes a man at horne. He stumbles on the carpet and cannot sleep at night because he lacks wisdom. If you are wise, however, 3:21, you will dwell with safety, 3:23. Unhappiness comes through unwise handling of money, 15:6, 27; marital unfaithfulness, 2:16-19; failure to train children, 10:1; failure of children to honor their parents, 29:15. A child will have 20/20 vision if he keeps his eyes on Proverbs 20/20. Strife, quarreling, and conflict bring unhap- piness, 17:1. Our actions may build up or destroy our homes, 11:29, 14:1, 15:25, 24:3. I. Husbands and Wives A. Marriage: 1. Marriage is a blessing from God, 18:22; 19:14; 5:15-19. 2. Marriage is between one man and one woman for life, 2:17; 7:4. 3. Marriage must be based upon and grounded in a common fear of the Lord, 14:26; 31:30, 22:4; 1:7; 15:16. 4. Marriage must grow and de- velop in the soil of love, 15: 17. Love is seeking the good of the other even at personal expense. B. Men and Husbands: 1. His Relationship with God: a. He must fear God, 1:7; 9:10; 14:26; 28:14. b. He must confess his sin, 28:13,14. c. He must keep God's law, 28:7,9. d. He must be righteous and just in all his dealings, 21:3, 12, 27; 15:8, 25; 12:7; 14:11. e.He must be firm in re- sisting the wicked, 25:26. f.He guards his heart, 4:23f.; 17:3, 20; 20:9. g.He keeps his vows, 20:25. h. He prays, 15:29. The Counsel of Chalcedon Aug.-Sept., 1989 page 16 i. He avoids evil, 16:6. j. He is careful about asso- ciating with the wicked, 1:10f; 22:24-25. 2. His relationship with His Wife: a. Husbands must be friends with their wives, 2: 17. The word "friend" is used to refer to the closest of friends, 16:28, 17:9, and Psalm 55: 13. Like wisdom, she is to be his sister and kindsrnan, 7:4,5. Marriage is a covenant of companionship, a communion of life. Marriage is a relationship of companionship, comradeship, and communication. b. Husbands must be faith- ful and ardent lovers, 5:15-19. (1) He must be a loyal lover, 5:1f,15; 6:27-29,33; 27:8. (2) He must be an ardent lover, 5:19 (Compare with 20:1 where exhilarates is translated intoxicated). Having sex is not the same thing as being an ardent lover. c. He must trust his wife, 31:11. He is alovirtg leader. He does not squelch her talents and abilities. Indeed, he is profited by her. d. He must not bring trouble on his own horne through his foolish behavior, 11:29. Men often trouble their own horne by foolish decisions and be- havior. They may be ill-natured, impulsive, false, selfish, etc. They may trouble their homes by greed, 15:27; laziness, 19:15 alcohol abuse, 20:1; vengeance, 17:13, quarreling, 26:21; underwriting debts, 22:26-27; failing to guard their tongues, 21:23; failing to seek the counsel of others, 11:14, associating with the wrong people, 22:24-25; straying from home, 27:8. 3. His Handling of Money a. Co-signing loans, 6:1-5, 22:6. b. Debt, 22:7,26. c. Offerings, 3:9-10. d. Generosity, 11:24-26; 14:21,31; 28:22,27, 23:6-8. e. Trusting in riches, 23:4-5 11:28; 16:8; 19:1; 15:16; 30:8- 9; 28:20; 11:4, 10:22. f. Honesty, 22:16; 29:27. 4. His Work a.He is a hard worker, 10:4,5; 12:11; 28:11; 13:4; 16:26; 12:27; 14:23; 12:24; 13:4,19; 22:29; 28:19; 24:27;20:14;11:26. b. He is not a sluggard, 6:6-11; 26:13-16; 22:13; 19:24; I 24:30-34; 10:26; 13:4; 16:26; 21:25; 20:4; 12:27; 19:15; 18:9; 20:13; 21:17, 25,26. c. He is honest in business dealings, 22:16; 11:1,18; 12:2; 16:8,11; 17:8,23; 28:8,21; 29:27; 20:17; 21:6; 10:2; 20:10,23; 23:10. 5. His Tongue a. He controls his tongue, 13:3, 21:23; 10:19; 29:20; 12:18. b. His words are fitly spoken, appropriate for the need and circumstances, 25:11; 15:23; 12:25; 16:24; 15:1,4; 16:21,23; 25:12,27; 28:23; 27:5; 25:20; 10:31, 32; 18:13,15,17; 27:9. c. He speaks the truth, 12:17; 14:5,25; 25:18; 19:5,9,28. 6. His Character He is humble, 13:10, 15:33,25; teachable, 9:8-9; 12:15; 15:31; kind, 12:10; patient, 12:16; 14:17,29; 15:1; even-tempered and self-controlled, 16:32; 17:27; 19:11,19; 30:33; 29:22; 15:18; 22:24,25; 25:28; impartial, 18:5; honorable, 14:19; a blessing to his city and nation, 11:10-11,14. 7. His Plans and Decisions He makes his plans and deci- sions wisely, 21:5,15,22; 11:14; 20:18; 24:6,7; 16:1,3,9; 19:21; 20:24; 21:30.31,2,5; 27:1,12 C. Wives and Women: 1. The wise woman and god- ly wife is the crown of her husband, 12:4. She is often his making and breaking, 18:22; 19:13,14. She brings him profit. She is the Queen of the house- hold. She dignifies her husband. She has noble character, 12:4; 11: 16,22; 31:25,26. She is not quarrelsome, 19:13; 21:9,19; 25:24; 27:15,16. She is a good neighbor, 31:20. She dresses, speaks, and acts like a women who fears and knows God, 7:10,12,21; 31:22,25. "Her excellence justifies his choice. Her management enriches his bank account. By her industry and economy the produce of his labour is carefully guarded, and often increased. Her influence exalts his character. Her gentle spirit and manners smooth the. roughness of his character, refine his tastes, elevate his aims, and round the sharp angles of his daily life," David Thomas, Book of Proverbs. 2. She builds up her home, instead of tearing it down, 14:1; 9:1-6. She is diligent, 31:13,15,16,22,14. She builds it up materially, 31:13,14,16,24. She combines economy with liberality, 31:13,18-27. She builds it up spiritually. A good wife by her example, spirit, ad- monitions, reproofs, and prayers builds her home. It becomes "A temple of industry, intelligence, and worship," David Thomas. The foolish woman tears down her home by idleness, waste, love of pleasures, lack of foresight and care, 9:13-17. 3. She is a devoted wife, faithful to her husband, 7:14-20, 2:16-19. a. She is faithful and loyal to her husband, and not a seduc- tress or adulterer, 2:16,17; 5:3; 6:24; 7:10-21; 9:13-17; 30:20. b. The wicked and ungodly woman is a complainer, 27:15,16; cranky, 21:9; 25:24; and a nagger, 19:13; 21:19. "A fortune in a wife is better than a fortune with a wife," Scott. "For the building of a house three things are principally necessary: First, a holy corning together; Second, a special fitness in the head of the family; and Last, a holy living together," Byfield. "I see your side won again, Henry!" The Counsel of Chalcedon Aug.-Sept., 1989 page 17 II. Parents and Children A. Parents: 1. Parents,, fathers and mothers, must instruct and teach their children, 1:4,8,10; 2:1; 3:1; 4:1; 5:1; 6:20; 31:1,26,28. - --- -2.- While- instruGtien and dis- cipline is practiced by fathers and mothers, there is a priority of the responsibility of the father as tbe head of the horne, 1:1, 6:20f; I Kings 2:1-4. 3. Instruction must be done affectionately and earnestly, speaking to the heart, 1:20f; 4:1,20; 8:1f; 23:15- 23. 4. Instruction must be practical and comprehensive: a. Instruct them with warn- ings and appeals to follow the word of God, 1:20f; 4:1; 8:1f. b. You must warn your children about the dangers and temptations that they will be exposed to in society: wicked men, seductive women, drug abuse, peer pressure, etc. See 1:10f; 2:12f; 4:14; 5:1f; 6:20f; 7:1f; 20:1; 23:30-35; 31:4-7. c. You must instruct them about work and laziness. See 10:4-5,26; 12:11,12,24,27; 14:4,23; 16:26; 18:9; 22:1329; 24:27,29; 26:13-16; 27:18; 28:19; 31:13-31; 6:6-11. d. You must instruct them about money management and wealth. See 3:9,10; 10:2,22; 11:28; 13:11; 15:16,17,27; 19:4; 20:14; 22:16; 23:4,5; 27:23,24. e. You must instruct them about social and civic graces and responsibilities: (1) Neighbors and friends - 18:24; 17:17; 27:6,17; 26:19; 25:17; 27:14; 17:9; 25:8. (2) Civil government, false witnesses, judges, rulers: 12:17; 14:5,25; 17:15; 24:23-25; 17:23,26; 28:21; 16:10; 20:8,28; 28:15,16; 29:4,14. 5. Parents must set godly examples before their children. See 20:7; 31:28. Fathers must be examples by controlling their tongues, 13:3; kindness, 12:10; humility, 13:10; patience, 12:16; temper, 16:32; impar- tiality, 18:5; self-control, 25:28. Mothers must be examples of godly character as well. See 12:4; 11:16; 19:13; 31:20; 7:10-21; 9:1-6. 6. Parents must train up their children-by-discipline;22:0. Proverbs is well known for its praise of the rod, 13:24; 23:13,14; 19:18; and discipline, 22:15; 29:15,17,19; 3:11,12. a. Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, 22:15. It usually takes more than words to dislodge it. b. Character, like fruit, grows through pruning and discipline, 15:32;33; 5:11,12. It must begin early, 13:24b; 22:6. c. The best training cannot make one wise. Proverbs is the calling of a Father and Mother to their son to choose wisdom and follow it. That is why this training must begin early, before the child becomes a fool. A child may be too opinionated to learn, 13:1; 17:21. He may be too lazy to learn, 10:5. He may be wild and reckless, 29:3; 28:7. He may be rebellious, despising, cursing, and mocking his parents, 15:20; 30:17, 11; 20:20; 28:24; 19:26. Some parents have themselves to blame, 29:15. However, ultimately every person is responsible for his own actions, 29:3; 2:2f. 7. Parents should leave an inheritance for their children, 13:22; 19:14; 20:7,21. B. Children 1. Children should bring joy to their parents by living godly lives, 10:1; . 15:20; 17:21,25; 27:11; 23:15,16;. 17:6; 23:22,24,25. 2. Children should pay close attention to their parents' instruction, and give heed to it- 1:8,9; 2:1f; 3:1f; 4:1f; 13:1; 19:27; 23:22-25; 28:7. 3. Children should gladly sub- mit to discipline in the Lord, 3:11,12; 12:1; 15:5; 19:20. 4. Children should care for their parents in their need, 30: 11,17. The Counsel of Chalcedon Aug.-Sept., 1989 page 18 C. A Wise Son 1. Can stand alone, 1:10-15. 2. Deals with temptation, 5 : ~ 2 3 ; 6:24; 23:19-21. 3. Handles money wisely, 3:9,10; 22:7-9; 20:21. 4. Works hard, 10:4,5. 5. Is a good brother, 17:17; 18:19. 6. Is not a tattle-tale, 17:9. 7. Doesn't start quairels, 17:14,19; 26:20. . 8. DOOsn't rob parents, 19:26; 28:24. . 9. Doesn't curse parents, 20:20. 10. rs known'by his actions, '20:11. 11. Keeps God's law, 28:7. 12. Watches who his companions are, 1:10f; 29:3. D. A Wise Daughter 1. Is not foolish, boisterous, 9:13; rnoc!Qng guilt and sin, 9:17; deceptive, 14:8; argumentative and quarrelsome, 20:3. 2 ~ Is not contentious, but gracious, 19:13;21:9,19; 27:15,16. 3. Is not sensual, 2:16,17; 5:3,6; 6:24,25; 7:5-27; 30:20. The sensuous girl flatters with her words, 2:16; chooses new friends, 2:17; forgets her promises to her Lord, 2: 17; dresses suggestively, 7:10; is rebellious and forward, 7:11-13; 30:20. 4. Is not indiscreet, 11:22; 31:30; knows that true and lasting beauty is a spiritual quality, 31:30. Ill. Brothers and Sisters What does Proverbs have to say about the relationship between siblings, brothers and sisters? A. A brother is a friend, 17:17; 18:24; 27:10. While these verses describe one who is a friend, they also imply that a brother should be a friend as well. What is true of a friend is also true of a brother. A brother loves at all times, 17:17; he sticks close 'to you; he is there for a time of trouble. 1. A brother is one you trust, Ps. 41:9. He is one to whom you can go for counsel, 27:9,17. See I Sam. 23:16 and IT Sam. 13:3 .. 2. A brother is one who will tell you the truth, Prov. 27:6. He will he candid when he needs to be, 29:5; 28:23; I Kgs. 1:6. 3. A brother is for a time of trouble, Ps. 35:13,14, Eccles. 4:9-12, Job 6:14, Acts 27:3. He is one to go to when in need, Luke 11:5. There are fair-weather friends, 14:20, 19:4,6,7. See also 2 Tim. 4:16 and Psalm 41:9. 4. A brother is a confidant - John 15:14,15. 5. A brother is one you enjoy fellowship with, Ps. 55:14; 41:9; Matt. 11:19. 6. A brother is one who is a "bosom" friend, Deut. 13:6, I Sam. 18:1. 7. A brother knows how to be courteous, 25:17; 27:14; 26:18-19. 8. A brother is one you would lay down your life for, John 15:13. B. Brothers may be estranged from each other, 6:19. Prov. 18:19 comments on how difficult it is to reconcile brothers and friends when they have been separated. Prov. 19:7 mentions that a poor man is shunned by his relatives. This may mean that your relatives, brothers, are guilty of not coming to your assistance when in need, and is a condemnation of them. It could mean that if you are always coming to your friends and brothers in need they will hate to see you coming. Friendships are fragile, 2: 17, 16:28; 17:9. They may be destroyed through confidences broken, 25:8-10, and through telling tales, 17:9; 16:18. Therefore, we must be careful that we do not estrange brothers, and that we seek to preserve good relations insofar as possible. Brothers and sisters are noted for fighting and quarrelling in the home. This is to be expected because they are sinners. Nevertheless, fighting should not be accepted. We should encourage brothers and sisters to love and appre- ciate each other. We should hold up a Biblical model and ideal for them to emulate and to aim for. IV. The Family and Society The home is the foundation of society. Prov. 31:19 records King Lemuel's mother's instruction to him on how to be a good and wise king. In I Kings 2:1-4 we read of David counseling Solomon on how to be a successful king. As he followed the Word of God his kingdom was happy, I Kgs. 10:8-9. When he failed to live in terms of the Word of God his kingdom began to decline, I Kgs. 11:1-13. The home is the training ground for future leaders in society. They must not only be men of moral character but of wisdom and principle. A. Righteous people are a blessing to their city, 11: 11. The implication is that cities are to be righteous and they can only be righteous if the citizens are righteous. B. Righteous people are a source of guidance and coun- sel to a nation which keeps it from falling, 11:14. Godly citizens must exercise political pressure upon their elected officials. The security and prosperity of their families and their nation depends upon them. Many Christians do not realize that there are Biblical principles that apply to the nature and function of civil government, defense, justice, law enforcement, and economics. If they do, they do not believe that they should The Counsel of Chalcedon Aug.-Sept., 1989. page 19 seek to apply them to civil life or government today. For lack of Christians acting as salt and light in these areas the nation is in a state of moral chaos, economic collapse, and national weakness and vulnerability. C. Righteous people are to fear the king, 24:21,22, practice civil obedience and submission. The righteous king gives the land stability, 29:4. Citizens get what they deserve when they elect ungodly men as civil magistrates. The king is to administer justice, 20:8,16,28. He is to crush the wicked. By protecting the good his kingdom is made safe. See also 16:12,13. Remember, however, that these verses presuppose godly kings, 16:13. Kings are not always righteous, however, as the Proverbs recognize, 16:12; 28:15,16. Kings often have unwise and wicked cabinet members, 25:5, who need to be removed. Even though kings are to be feared and honored, and one who disobeys may have to suffer the consequences of civil disobedience, obedience is not absolute, Acts 5:29. Only God is the absolute sovereign. D. Righteous men need to fill the seats on the city council, become judges, and civil magistrates, 24:7; 17:15; 24:23-25. As David prayed for his son in Psalm 72, let us pray for our sons this same prayer.