Escalating on the Date Notes

I. The Date/Hangout (covered in detail during Same Night Lays)

a. Escalate
- Logistically
- Move around the venue, Venue change
- Physically
- Holding hands, shots, touching, kissing
- Verbally
- Comfortable talking about sex, slut defense
b. Rapport & Comfort
- The Question Game



II. Kissing

a. In the middle of the date VS the end
b. Testing for the kiss
- Holding hands
- Touching her face
c. Setup
- Negation
Promise me you wont kiss me tonight because if you do
- Paint a picture
What do you think makes a good kiss? I think its the gentle brush
of the lips when you feel like you cant resist
- Almost Kiss
Weve been talking for a while so its time for an almost kiss, we
get as close as we can get without actually kissing. Pinky swear
that you wont kiss me!
- Eskimo or Butterfly Kiss



III. Kiss Closes

a. Qualification/Question Game
- Would you like to kiss me?
- Are you a good kisser?
- Would you rather have your neck kissed or your ear nibbled on?
b. Games
- 321 Game, Staring Contest, 5 Questions Game
c. Role Play
- Marriage, Romance, Hooker/John
d. Direct
- Dance floor, spin, unexpected
- You look so kissable right now
- Close your eyes
- Shhh or I didnt hear a word you just said



IV. Post Kiss

a. Be the first to pull away
b. Push/Pull
- Thats all you get
- No more, bad girl
c. If she resists
- Be unaffected
- You poor thing you dont get kissed much
- You put a spell on me
d. Remember, you score points no matter whether she kisses you back or
not!



V. Going Back to Your/Her House

a. Set the mood before hand
b. Music, lighting, sexual props
c. Have a reason
d. Use a restriction and/or time constraint
e. Be comfortable and she will be comfortable
f. Have something to do there
- Drinks, games, music



VI. Going Sexual

a. Have a reason to go into your bedroom
b. Just start kissing her and keep escalating
c. Go caveman



VII. Resistance

a. Stop VS We shouldnt be doing this
b. Freeze out VS Play it cool
c. Agree and keep escalating
d. Just sleep next to each other and try again in the morning
e. Kiss neck instead of her mouth



VIII. The End

a. Avoid awkward good bye
b. The same night
- No awkward kiss at the end of the night
- When was the moment you know I liked you?
- Set up the next hangout
c. The next morning
- Breakfast
- Set up next hangout



IX. Infield Assignments


a. Do at least 1 approach a day (7 total) and tell 1 girl that you approach this
week that you and her should hang out and set it up right then and there.
If she gives you an excuse thats ok. Try to plow through it.

b. If you have a meet up with a girl, then go for a kiss within 2 hours of
hanging out. If you dont have a meet up with a girl then go to a bar,
lounge or club and try to isolate a girl and go for a kiss within 40 minutes
of meeting her.

c. Whether you have a meet up or not, go out at least once this week to a
bar, club or lounge and be overly touchy. Focus on doing more touching
than you are used to. Be the overly touchy guy. If that seems weird, dont
worry; youre just doing it this one night. Do it at a bar where you dont
know anyone. Go for a kiss within 30 minutes.