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and how his father abandoned the family a week before his wife died. We talked about how his
siblings and he were split up and how he ended up with the Jesuit priests with a few dollars
and a duffle bag. We had deep talks about his difficult childhood, but what impressed me was
how he prevailed and his hard work ethic that resulted in him becoming a successful
businessman.
There was one major problem when it came to Carl DeMaio and most of our GLBT leaders
and activists he was a Republican. Without even meeting or getting to know him, many in
our community disliked him immediately and judged and condemned him, yes, because he
was a Republican.
One time when I took him to an LGBT Center event, a high-ranking gay Democratic officeholder actually took me to the side and told me to stop bringing Carl to community events, but
I still did anyway, though most of the time he received a cold reception from most of our
leadership.
I gave Carl a book about Harvey Milk (the Mayor of Castro) and told him to read the chapter
about the year Harvey won and how the established gay leadership worked against him and
even ran another gay candidate against him.
Sometimes some GLBT leaders and activists got so negative and nasty toward Carl that he
wanted to stop his involvement with our community. But he got involved with Stepping
Stone, Townspeople, Being Alive, and The Trevor Project etc. Anytime I asked him for
support of our communitys Childrens Easter Egg Hunt, Toys for Kids Xmas Drive,
Backpacks and School Supplies for Children, food drives etc. he always came through with
support never seeking headlines.
I took Carl to the Barrio Station for Latino youth and he became a strong supporter; but all this
never mattered to many of our Democratic partisan gay leaders. As long as Carl was a
Republican he was the enemy.
It was at an AIDS benefit that Carl DeMaio met businessman Johnathan Hale and they
havent been apart since, now going on six years.
Johnathan Hale, like Carl, also had a most rough and difficult childhood. Since the age of
seven Johnathan went from one foster home to another only to suffer abuse, beatings and, yes,
rape. He ended up at a home for troubled boys and teens and like Carl DeMaio turned his life
around.
When Carl DeMaio ran for mayor I did not support him because I didnt feel he was ready
and never got to know all the communities of San Diego. Also, I had been a close friend and
supporter of Bob Filner since the 1970s. I also got into a big personal fight with Johnathan, so
Carl and I parted ways. Yes, during this vicious, negative mayoral campaign I too joined the
ugly attacks on Carl and, to be honest, a lot of it had to do with my personal hurt and anger.
Though Carl had a 100 percent voting record when it came to GLBT civil rights issues, the left
wing Democratic gay activists and leaders campaign to destroy Carl DeMaio has never
stopped. And soon they started attacking and trying to destroy his partner, Johnathan Hale.
In about half a century of involvement in politics and our community I have never witnessed
such a nasty and vicious campaign as the one aimed at Carl. They even stooped to spread an
ugly bathroom smear attack on Carl that even then Council President Tony Young and
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