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Tick-Tack Treat: A lesson on Win-Win

After years of teaching this lesson I finally wrote this for my Master’s Terminal Paper for 
the University of Oregon. The introductory paragraph to this lesson, as found in my 
paper, is included after the lesson.
The Framing Story: Read this before the lesson/activity.

Try Softer
A young boy traveled across Japan to the school of a famous
martial artist. When he arrived at the dojo he was given an audience by
the sensei.
“What do you wish from me?” the master asked.
“I wish to be your student and become the finest karateka in the
land,” the boy replied. “How long must I study?”
“Ten years at least,” the master answered.
“Ten years is a long time,” said the boy. “What if I studied twice as
hard as all your other students?”
“Twenty years,” replied the master.
“Twenty years! What if I practice day and night with all my effort?”
“Thirty years,” was the master’s reply.
“How is it that each time I say I will work harder, you tell me that it
will take longer?” the boy asked.
“The answer is clear. When one eye is fixed upon your destination,
there is only one eye left with which to find the Way.”
‘Zen in the Martial Arts’ by Joe Hyams (p.95)

The Activity: Tick-Tack-Treat

Supplies: A white or black board,

pens/chalk, eraser
O O
a 5x5 checkered grid
masking tape (for the grid)
X X O
small wrapped candy X
Set-up: Create the gird in advance.
Read ‘Try Softer’.
Ask for volunteers for a ‘challenge’. Sample Tick-Tack-Treat Grid
Select two ‘groups’ of 4 students.
These students sit on benches or on the floor in two rows in front of the
checkered playing grid. One group is assigned X and the other O, and they are given
the following instructions: (As described in The Debrief, your language here is
important. Know exactly what you want to say and don’t take questions from the
students. If students raise hands to ask questions tell them they can work out their
questions as they complete the task).

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Look at one group, “The task for this group is to get four X’s in a row and your
team gets a treat.”
Look at the other group, “The task for this group is to get four O’s in a row and
your team gets a treat.”
The groups alternate opportunities to put a mark on the grid, and the students in
each group will take turns so that they rotate who gets to place the mark on the grid. (If
they are sitting in rows and rotate to the back this works best or else there is crowding
at the grid and no one can see what is happening).

The Lesson: What happens when a team gets four in a row?

When a group gets four in a row, they get candy BUT the game keeps going! (Do
not tell them this in the set-up). When no team can get more candy, send them off and
pick two new groups.
What usually happens is that the first group or first few groups battle one another
competitively, trying to block their “opponents”. When they realize that the game
continues after candy is given out, then eventually they realize that it is in their best
interest not to compete but to work together to maximize how much candy both groups
can get.
Note: Most often it is the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th group that figures it out. Once, doing this
with Grade 5’s they got it on the first attempt, Another time with parents and Grade 8’s
working together I had to model it for them because the competitive nature of the adults
didn’t allow them to see the win-win possibility.

The Debrief: What was the goal of the activity?

It is interesting what responses you will get to this question, but what you are
looking for is, “To get candy”.
What happened when you got candy? (The game kept going)
What did the last group figure out?
Note the language in these following questions- Keep this language out of the
activity to enrich the discussion during the debrief.
Did I ever say it was a competition? (No)
Did I call you teams? (No, groups)
Did I call it a game? (No, a challenge)
Did I say that you had to put your own symbol, X or O, on the grid? (This is an
interesting point- if you are careful in your explanation then really students could have
taken turns placing four X’s in a row, two from each group, followed by four O’s on the
grid. They share in completing each other’s task.)
Question students about competition and why they thought it was a game with
two opposing teams (Team sports, game shows, -competitive paradigm)
Now is your opportunity to refer back to the framing story… “When one eye is
fixed upon your destination, there is only one eye left with which to find the Way”…
Sometimes we try harder instead of trying smarter.
Sometimes we are so fixed on the task, (what we are doing), that we forget the
goal or the outcome, (what we really want).*
Introduce the concept of Win-Win, (don’t mention Win-Win before now).

*In a chapter titled ‘Finding New Ways’, authors Bandler & Grinder (1979) describe
‘reframing’, or making a distinction between behavior and intention (p. 138).
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The framing story or metaphor, “Try Softer” has more meaning to the students as a

result of the challenge- Tick-Tack-Treat, and the challenge has more meaning to the

students when the connection is made to the story. Win-Win. Furthermore, the

challenge itself becomes an experience to understand this leadership concept, an

experience far more meaningful than just explicitly explaining the concept. Also, even

the spectators that don’t get to participate and ‘experience’ the challenge have a more

meaningful representation of the lesson, as the challenge becomes a visual metaphor

for them.

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Think Win-Win
Win-Win is a belief in the Third Alternative.
It's not your way or my way; it's a better way.
A higher way.
(Quote taken from a motivational poster)

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The following is the introductory paragraph to the above lesson in my Master’s Terminal

Paper, (found at http://www.davidtruss.com/leadership_ paper.htm. In the paper, what

you read below continues at the start of this lesson.

Metaphors and Stories

“A rose by any other name…” in my opinion may smell sweeter! When we discover 

something hidden, something we do not expect to find, the experience can be rich and 

rewarding. The use of metaphors as a learning tool is of particular interest to me. 

Metaphors We Live By, by George Lakoff and Mark Johnson recognize that, “Our 

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ordinary conceptual system, in terms of which we both think and act, is fundamentally 

metaphorical in nature” (p. 3). Later they state, “…metaphor provides a way of partially 

communicating unshared experiences…” (p. 225). Metaphors are an essential learning 

tool: Delozier & Grinder (1987) describe their presentation strategy, “Each day we cycled 

on the same themes so that one day we might be verbally explicit and on another day 

the same theme would appear metaphorically” (p. xvii). Furthermore, Berg (2004) 

recognizes that, “Metaphors provide an avenue to see important elements of social

support, interaction, networking, relationships, and a variety of other socially significant

factors, and allow the researcher to represent action when theorizing about various

explanations or relationships,” (p. 187), thus emphasizing the value or metaphors not

just in running activities, but also in theorizing or identifying relationships in research.

The strategy of delivering a lesson both explicitly and metaphorically is fundamental to

the leadership retreats that I have developed. Furthermore, the use of reflection journals

is an attempt to allow students to synthesize their experience of the explicit/literal

explanations combined with the metaphorical story or activity. It may seem odd to delve

this deeply into the use of metaphors and journaling but leadership skills can be difficult

to teach and I believe that metaphors and reflection help get difficult messages across. 

In fact, delivering a message in metaphor can actually be more meaningful when

teaching leadership concepts. Like the girl in “The Butterfly Story”, (found at:

http://davidtruss.com/teachingmetaphors.htm, leadership teachers can make an

experience too easy for the student to complete, and then potential growth and 

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development does not emerge beyond that experience.

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