Following are the tips to avoid frustrations particularly when you do

have frustration then how to cope it and get rid of it.

I have a huge experience with frustration. I experienced it in so many ways, at so many times in
my life, that I feel like Im some kind of a specialist. If you wonder why I have this huge
expertise, heres the answer: growth never happens without it. The more frustration you are able
to harvest, resolve and overcome, the more growth youre experiencing. Avoiding it, hiding from
it, deluding the game, none of these strategies will make you a better human being. On the
contrary.
What follows is a list of tools and approaches I used to solve my own frustration and limitation
episodes.
1. Accept Reality
Yes, something bad happened. Dont spend your day imagining how beautiful life could be if it
wasnt for that stupid incident or mistake. This is it. It is frustrating, no doubt about it, but
rejecting this reality will not lower the frustration, on the contrary, will make it stronger and
stronger. Accept reality.
2. Shift Your Focus
Its so easy to get caught in a spiral of anger and despair when youre frustrated, and I know that
first hand. Shift your focus by engaging in small but demanding activities. Get involved. Do take
the necessary steps to get over the frustrating situation, but do not ignore everything else around
you.
3. Talk About It With A Friend
Find somebody you trust and talk about it. Let it out. Dont let it grow inside yourself until you
explode. Most of the time, when you reach this point, its too late to make a meaningful change
that will restore your reality. Let your worries and your tension fly. After all, this is what friends
are for, right?
4. Journal It
If you dont keep a journal, start now. Write down all your fears, all your sensations and describe
them in great detail. Do it until you feel you cant do it no more. Youre going to feel incredibly
better. Writing has this side effect of lowering what you write about, making it more
manageable. Just try it.
5. Write A Letter About It
Imagine youre on a desert island. Sit down and write a letter to somebody who could potentially
rescue you. Be verbose. Imagine how your life will be after you leave that desert island. Because
if you cant describe that, you will never leave the island. Then destroy the letter.
6. Write A Worse Case Scenario
What is the worst thing that may happen to you right now? List everything from physical loss to
emotional imbalances. Try to foresee every little detail of a worst case scenario. What life will
you live if everything will turn out as bad as possible? Then read it. It wont look as bad as you
thought.
7. Identify A List Of Possible Actions
What exactly will make the situation acceptable again? What are the things that you could
actually do to improve your current status? Make a list. Try to identify every possible action, as
improbable as it may seem, and put it on the list. At the end of this, youll feel much better: you
have work to do.
8. Sleep Over It
Most of your unconscious life happens while youre asleep. Try to go to bed with a clear thought
of resolution. Dont try to find a solution, just prepare yourself for getting out of that frustrating
circle. During the night your unconscious mind will find resources to make you stronger.
9. Be Your Own Avatar
Try to look at yourself from the outside. Write on a piece of paper what an observer would see
at you. How do you behave? How do you talk, how do you act? The more youll do this exercise,
the more youll differentiate yourself from the frustrating persona and take control over it at the
same time.
10. Read Something Funny
This will not solve your problem, most of the time it will only switch your focus to something
else, giving you a temporary break. Do not mistake this technique with avoidance, just use it as a
chillout session, then get back on track and solve whatever you have to solve.
11. Stop Blaming Yourself
Maybe you did something really wrong, and your current situation is the result of that mistake.
Take responsibility but dont blame yourself. Its all in the past. Youre in the present now and
you can do something about it. Blame will only put weight on that past and drag you down.
Avoid it at all cost.
12. Take A Walk
Even on the wild side, if you like the wild side, but do take a walk. The mere action of moving
will set you up for action and hopefully will make your mind a little clearer. Walking always
helps me put my thoughts in order and let off the steam a little bit. And its free of charge.
13. See It From The Future
This one goes hand in hand with number 6. Try to describe your current situation and look at it
from the future. 1 year from now, your problem will be as big as it is right now? How about 5
years? Or 10 years? Putting your frustration in a larger context will usually weaken it or at least
make it manageable.
14. Cook A Delicious Meal
As simple and mundane as it may seem, cooking is an art. And every time you perform some sort
of an art, youll see the world through your intuitive mind. Youll summon your way out of
frustration rather than find it through logical inference. And cooking is the cheapest and tastiest
art one can afford.
15. Go To A Party
Not to be abused and transformed into some sort of escapism but extremely useful to lower your
shirtiness. Go out, mingle and see if you can wipe out your frown from your face. You can get
back to your problems later, when your body and mind will be more balanced. After the
hangover, of course.
16. Write About Your Past Successes
You dont have to keep a journal for it, you can just sit down at a table and remember all your
breakthroughs. Or only the most important ones. Seeing yourself succeeding will definitely
weaken all that frustration you feel right now and will also give you some hints about how to
completely overcome it.
17. Borrow Some Enthusiasm
Stay around energetic people or get involved in active projects. Choose to be part of something
that exhales a lot of energy. Get involved in fresh projects. Being around enthusiastic people will
lower the frustration to the point where it can actually become manageable. And it will make you
just feel better.
18. Soak and Dry
Let it flow through you until youre completely overloaded. Just be sure not to do something
during this stage. Isolate from the world and allow yourself to be frustrated. Then slowly wait for
the frustration to dry out. Sometimes, this all you can eat approach is the only way to deal with
it in a healthy way.
19. Go Watch A Comedy
As an alternative to number 10, Read Something Funny. Giving yourself permission to laugh
will lower your anger and hopefully will make things easier to handle. Also, seeing people in
strangely hilarious situations will make your own frustration seem awkward. Through a good
laugh at it.
20. Attack It With The Why? Weapon
Another writing exercise, in which you start to find the root cause of your frustration by asking
why? questions. Why am I broke? Because I spent too much. Why did I spent too much
Because Im feeling insecure. Why? You got the idea. At some point, something will click
inside.
21. Volunteer For Something
Frustration is closely related to your ego, or the part of your being that is concerned with those
big phrases starting with Me. If you volunteer to do work for somebody else, youll stop
feeding your ego with energy. The weaker that part gets, the stronger your authentic and
powerful part will be.
22. Stand Up And Fight
Be a soldier. Give yourself orders and follow them. Instill some rough and unquestionable
discipline in your life. Get up early in the morning, do your work as if youre on a battle field
and then go to sleep. Repeat until your problems become just situations you can solve by
following an easy sequence of new orders.
23. Stop Blaming Others
Similar to number 11, only this time your attitude will turn towards other people, in a desperate
attempt to avoid feeling hurt. Just stop it. Although it may seem like a relief, blaming others its
just a temporary hack, it wont last. In 99% of the situations, what we experience is the direct
result of our own actions.
24. Do Small, Repetitive Tasks
Borrow the behavior of a machine. Do those tiny little things you avoided so much because they
seemed so boring. Now its the best time to start working on them. Slicing your time and focus
will dissolve the pressure. Frustration will slowly dilute in this sea of tiny, repetitive tasks.
25. See It From The Past
Alternative to number 13, looking at your own frustration from the past will color it in a new,
fresher light. Most of the time, the feeling triggered by this perspective is: Ive been through
though times before, I can get over this. And this is more often than you think true: we have a
huge life experience, we just dont trust it enough.
26. Read Similar Stories
Youre not alone. And even if you find it difficult to talk to other people you can always do this
by yourself: just scorch the Internet using descriptive keyphrases about your own frustration.
Youll discover that youre not alone. Somebody else have been there too. And now hes so over
it.
27. Assess Progress
Every second of your life changes something. Look for the small steps youre doing and assess
them. The first item on this assessment list may be: Im starting to assess my progress and this
is in itself a huge step forward. The more you write, the bigger your progress will seem.
28. Disguise It
Put a mask on it, make it look like something else: Im feeling frustration right now, but this is a
mask for and replace with whatever quality you want to build: discipline, personal power,
endurance. Transform it. I usually use the caterpillar butterfly image: its bad now but look
what it can become.
29. Contrast It With A Worse Situation
Try to identify a related situation but with a significantly higher degree of damage. If youre in
debt, imagine how it will be to be bankrupt. If youre having a relationship hickup, try to imagine
how it would be to live on a desert island for the rest of your life. Be grateful for what you
experience, because it can be worse.
30. Dilute It With Meditation
I dont preach meditation as an all-in-one cure, but from my personal experience, it does help.
Meditation will not only shift your focus from your current situation, but it will also clean your
thoughts and help your body regain a subtle energetic balance. Remember youll still have to
take action, meditation will only dilute it.
31. Get Physical
Start an aggressive exercising routine. Getting physical will make it easier to embrace action and
to do it with vigor and determination. A side effect of exercising is the endorphin effect: the
induction of a well-being state generated by your own body.
32. This Too Shall Pass
Impermanence is at the core of our human nature, is our curse and escape: were prisoners of
time and everything we experience is bound to it. Laughter and sadness, joy and depression,
everything will fade away in time. The same will happen to this frustrating period too: it will
pass.
33. Write A List Of 33 Ways To Overcome Frustration
This is an incredible exercise. As funny as it may seem in this context, its actually a very
powerful standalone approach. Just sit back and try to imagine 33 ways to get over your current
frustration. I bet that around number 20 your problem will seem smaller than you thought it
was.
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