Académique Documents
Professionnel Documents
Culture Documents
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Chapter 4: Annexes
A. HHO Workshops
Workshop 1 - Conducting One to ones
Workshop 2 - Leading a Prayer Meeting
Workshop 3 - Worship Leading --- In the House
of the Lord
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Equip the members with the knowledge and skills they will need as
household heads.
Educate the members on their roles and responsibilities as well as the culture
they should help build in their areas as household heads.
Empower the soon to be household heads to carry out their anointed role
relying on the grace of God and the power of the Holy Spirit
3.
4.
5.
6.
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Sessions
A.1. Household Heads Orientation (HHO)
Talk 1 - Being a Servant
Talk 2 - The Household: Purpose, Dynamics and Leadership
Talk 3 - Building Relationships
Talk 4 - Zeal and Single-mindedness for God
A.2. Household Heads Orientation Workshops
Workshop 1 - Conducting One to Ones
Workshop 2 - Leading a Prayer Meeting and Giving a Talk
Workshop 3 - Leading a Worship
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Day 2
12:30 PM
1:00
1:15
2:15
3:15
3:30
4:15
5:00
Table 1: Proposed Scheduling of HHO and HHTS with respect to our yearly Calendar.
Month
January
February
March
Activity
CFC Conference
Evangelization Training
HHTS
SFC Icon
CLP Training for Batch 1
CO Weekend for Batch 2
CLP Batch 1
April
CLP Batch 1
May
CLP Batch 1
ANCOP Global Walk
June
July
August
September
October
November
December
ReCon
CLP Training
ReCon
CO Weekend for Batch 1
CLP Batch 2
ReCon
CLP Batch 2
CLP Batch 2
HHO
HHTS
CLP Batch 2
HHTS
HHTS
Christmas Party
Legend:
CFC Activity
SFC Activity
CLP Batch 1
CLP Batch 2
Proposed yearly schedule of HHO and HHTS
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Why do we serve?
Who are we as servants?
How do we serve?
b) In order to answer these, we need a vision of reality that can clearly point
out to us the whole approach to service that we are to take. We need to
see the reality in the world around us not in the way that the world sees it,
but in the way God sees it.
2. There are two basic realities that we need to see.
a) There are two kingdoms opposed to one another, the kingdom of darkness
under Satan and the kingdom of light under our Lord.
Satan has real spiritual power (Ephesians 6:12). He has forces under
his control which are opposed to God and His followers.
Our enemy is not principally social problems, human weakness, lack of
education, etc., but a whole kingdom. Our battle is a spiritual one.
Thus anything we do that involves taking someone from the dominion
of Satan into the kingdom of light will involve us in this battle for the
hearts and minds of men. Any Christian service is automatically
spiritual warfare.
The fundamental problem of the world is not social ills (this is just the
manifestation of the problem) but sin.
Man needs to be reconciled with God, and only Jesus is able to do
this.
We are the instruments that God uses to bring other men back to
Him.
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B. There are three important New Testament passages that we will examine in order
to clarify our understanding of what it means to be a servant.
1. Luke 17:7-10. The duty of a servant.
a) We have lost touch with the real meaning of the word "servant" as
understood in Jesus' time.
During those times, a servant (or slave) was someone who was another
person's property and had no rights whatsoever.
Thus Jesus' story must have been amusing to his listeners. They could
not comprehend a situation where the servant is served by his master.
b) We are the Lord's servants. We have been bought at the price of his blood.
We no longer own ourselves. We are to be men and women who serve the
Lord without regard for ourselves.
2. Philippians 2:5-8. The identity of a servant.
a) Christian service is not just another avenue for self-fulfillment. We have no
basis for insisting that God give us work to do that suits our personality,
interests or personal gains.
b) The Christian doesn't seek to serve himself. Rather, he humbles himself
and puts himself at the disposal of everyone else.
Jesus' example.
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d) You are men and women of your word. You can make commitments and
stick to them.
e) You are working on the various obstacles and shortcomings in your lives as
Christians.
B. Purpose
The purpose of the household group is to build an environment for the
support of the Christian life of singles and to provide a means of encou raging
and hastening growth in the Christian life. As such, the household:
1. Builds faith and provides for mutual encouragement through the
sharing of life experiences and Gods practical wisdom.
2. Provides friendship and brotherhood/sisterhood, without which our
Christian life lacks joyful expression.
3. Provides support for each others needs.
4. Helps people overcome obstacles to growth in the Christian life.
C. Composition
A household is composed of four to seven (4-7) singles including the
household head. The household is comprised of singles who finished the
Christian Life Program (CLP) and who have made their commitment to the
covenant of the CFC Singles for Christ. The household is set up immediately
after the end of the CLP.
In succeeding years (at least, after one year), there would be occasions when
households would be reorganized. During these occasions membership will
be changed and redistributed to other households, units and chapters.
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meeting
sharing/discussion
honor and respect
growing spiritually
good order in personal life
a good appreciation of the vision, mission and culture of SFC
faithful to SFC commitments
has taken the COW
c. Personal Characteristics
emotionally stable
able to accept correction and direction
has a good reputation
d. Skills
H. Practical Considerations
Some of the concrete things the household head can and should do are:
1. Handle the practical concerns for household meetings.
a. places of meetings
b. topics for discussion/sharing
c. regulating an over-sharing member
d. how to stop gossip in the meeting
e. bringing the discussion to the agenda and keeping it on course
2. Know each member well. Keep notes on each one.
3. Be prayerful.
a. Pray for each member regularly during his own personal prayer time.
b. Spend time praying before the household meeting and entrusting it
to the Lord.
c. Pray over members when appropriate (birthdays, anniversaries,
when sick, for inner healing, etc.)
4. Be prepared and have an agenda. In other words, rely on the Lord, but
also do your part.
5. Focus on spiritual growth and God's power rather than on problems.
However, be sensitive to personal problems.
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I. Others
1. Always work on the faithfulness of members. Attendance at the
household meetings is part of a member's commitment and is a must.
2. Refer all frequent absentees to your Unit Head. Together you can discuss
the particular situation and decide on a course of action. Remember: the
strength of the body will depend on its members' faithfulness and
commitment.
3. Always be on the lookout for potential leaders (CLP discussion leaders,
speakers, and household heads) and inform your Unit Heads or Chapter
Leaders about them. We want to identify them early, chart their
development and at the opportune time let them serve. Remember that
SFC can only grow in number to the extent that our leadership resources
allow.
4. Study and read, especially the books we publish. Keep ahead of your
members.
5. Don't use the household meeting to ventilate your own personal
problems, nor seek help for such problems from the household members
under you. Rather, bring these to your Unit Head and to the unit
household of which you are a member.
6. If for any reason you feel you cannot do the job as a household head
adequately, discuss this with your Unit Head so that appropriate action
can be taken. Don't just let it go, with the result that your household
members suffer.
B. Attendance
1. Each member is expected to attend the twice a month meetings
faithfully, and indeed this is part of one's commitment to the covenant of
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B. Venue
The household meeting is to be held in the home of one of the members of
the group. The meeting place is rotated among the homes of each member.
Having the household meeting in the homes of the household members has
the following values:
1. Worshipping the Lord in our homes makes the truth that the home is a
small church a concrete reality. And God's blessings will surely descend
upon the home where God's people can be found, worshipping Him
together and growing in their faith together.
2. The people in our home our brothers and sisters, maybe our parents,
our household help, the people who are closest to us and whom we love
will be aware of what we are involved in and what we do every week.
To them we will become people who are living their Christian faith
openly and powerfully.
3. What we do in our homes can be an effective tool for evangelism,
especially to our residential household, to our neighbors and to other
relatives and friends.
singing
praising
thanksgiving
prayers of petition
intercession
Every member should become familiar and comfortable with our way
of worship and praise, and the household head shows the way.
b. A typical format for the time of worship could be as follows:
come before the Lord (may be a short period of silence and/or a
short exhortation from the leader)
sing a lively song of praise
simultaneous vocal praising
sing another song, then more praising
sing a worship song
singing in tongues, followed by a short period of silence
bring forward words from the Lord (prophecy, inspired Scripture
verses, exhortations)
individual prayers of thanksgiving
individual prayers of petition and intercession
closing prayer by the leader
c. Members should be exhorted by the head to participate actively in the
singing, praising and prayers of thanksgiving and petition. They should
also be encouraged to exercise the spiritual gifts of prophecy, inspired
Scripture reading and exhortation.
d. The household head leads in the worship. As a general rule, he/she
should not delegate his/her responsibility to the others. However,
every once in a while (not too often), he/she may ask another
brother/sister to lead, for the purpose of training. But most if not all
the time, he/she leads.
e. Ideally, someone in the group should play the guitar. A piano or other
musical instrument would be alternatives, if available and practicable.
If no one can play, then it would be advisable to make use of our song
tapes/cds, where songs have been arranged in groups of three
precisely for use in household worship.
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Other than that, the male and female households would meet
separately. Anyway, interaction among the households occur
twice (2x) a month during the monthly Chapter Prayer Assembly
and Chapter Teaching Assembly.
D. Duration
1. Ordinarily, the household meeting is held after dinner on a weekday.
However, other mutually acceptable times are possible. The whole
meeting would typically run for about 2 1/2 hours, as follows:
Worship
30 minutes
Sharing/teaching/discussion 60-90 minutes
Fellowship
30-60 minutes
Of course, there is some flexibility and there could be variations on the
above time frames.
2. As much as possible, household meetings should start at the agreed time,
even if not everyone has arrived. The household head should not wait for
everyone. He/she should not make the meeting and everyone else a
captive of someone else's lack of commitment to punctuality. Besides,
this may be the only way to get chronic latecomers to mend their ways.
So if necessary, the household head should start the worship even if only
he/she and the host are around.
3. The meeting should not end too late, say, not later than 11 p.m. If the
meeting can start earlier, so much the better. If the meeting goes beyond
11 p.m., this should be the exception rather than the rule.
E. Social Night
1. The household may decide to have a social night on occasion. A social
night is a time devoted to fellowship, with no formal worship, discussion
or sharing.
2. It is recommended that a social night be held once a quarter, on the
month where there is a 5th week. If the members want to have a social
night more often, then it should be done outside the time allocated for
regular household meetings. Some possibilities: meet during the Chapter
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Year 1
3 months
3 months
3 months
3 months
Teaching
CLP
COW
KT/PD
Household Topics
Introduction to new Household
COW Follow-up topics
KT/PD Follow-up topics
In the second year and beyond, the topics of the household meetings are also
a follow up of the SFC teaching formation (Topics can be found in the
Household Heads Manual) or it could either be any of the following:
Personal Sharing
Bible Sharing
Topical discussions
Aside from the household meetings, the members will still have their regular
monthly Chapter Prayer Assembly and Chapter Teaching Assembly.
The above cycle provides enough variety so as to make household meetings
always interesting and life giving. Of course, the household head is free to
deviate from this cycle as he/she sees fit.
B. Personal Sharing
Personal sharing is telling our brothers and sisters about what has been
happening in our lives for the past month, with a particular focus on what the
Lord has been doing in our lives. Personal sharing is an essential element in
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C. Bible sharing
Bible sharing is a way for us to be more familiar with the Word of God, as we
share about it every month. Bible sharing is not Bible study as such, but a way
of drawing insights from the Bible and allowing God to speak to us personally
through His written Word. Various methods of Bible sharing could be utilized.
We however recommend the "7 step" method of Bible sharing.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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D. Topical discussion
This is a time for formal discussion of a Christian topic. These topics could be
anything that has to do with the Christian life, which would be profitable for
our members to gain greater understanding. Especially recommended are
those topics that have to do with the life, mission, covenant and culture of
SFC.
1. For example, such topics are:
a. Personal daily prayer time
b. Daily reading of the Bible
c. Living fully the Christian life
- avoidance of wrongdoing
- good order in private life
- participation in Church life
d. Living as a good Christian in our family
e. Christian manly and womanly character
f. Christian courtship
g. Christian service
h. Christian fellowship
i. Priority setting/weekly schedule
j. TV and media
k. Spiritual gifts
2. Furthermore, certain publications, sharing or teachings may be used
as a household meeting topic, to wit:
a. Teachings contained in our newsletter.
b. Topics contained in the various books that we publish.
c. Articles of interest in "God's Word Today" or other similar prayer or
Scripture guides.
d. Teachings or exhortations given at the monthly prayer meeting.
e. Taped talks or teachings by renowned personages.
It should be noticed that this cycle of topics for the second year and beyond
is such that there is no burden on the household head to be always thinking
up of what to take up during the household meetings.
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1. For personal sharing, the household head would simply moderate the
sharing and keep the interaction active and life giving.
2. For the Bible sharing, the household head merely chooses the
particular verses to be taken up.
3. For the topical discussion, the household head chooses the topic,
taking from the vast array of materials available to him/her. Thus he
simply moderates the discussion. Thus the household heads are not
burdened by "technical" preparation for the meetings, but can focus
more on "spiritual" preparation.
This cycle is something the household head is free to follow or not. The
household head has a good amount of flexibility as to how to handle the
household meeting and what to take up. The important thing is that the
conduct of the meeting contributes to the achievement of the stated purpose
of our having households and that is to build an environment of support for
the Christian life of our members.
V. GROUP ACTIVITIES
A. Aside from what has been taken up as proper to the activities of a household
group, there are many other things that can be done as well. It is up to the
household head to discern the needs of his/her members individually and as
a group, and to act accordingly. These other activities may be in lieu of the
normal household activity (with approval of the Unit Head) or in addition to
it. Some such activities are:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
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3. You yourselves are all under pastoral care, not only for your personal lives
but also for your service.
a) We leaders in SFC are not serving in isolation from one another, but rather
as a network of pastoral leaders serving together.
b) Just be open to those over you regarding any aspect of your service.
Don't think that you've always got to give a good report. We are
looking for a realistic assessment to see God's will regarding your
group.
Don't protect your members from him/her.
b) Individual members.
Daily prayer?
Problems if any.
Have some goals in mind for the whole household and discuss them
with your Unit Head. What do they need?
Have some goals for the individual members in your household. What
does each one need? Do not be ruled by what each member wants.
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What are the extra demands of your household that pulls you down?
C. Note that your role as a household head is not just to relate to your unit head.
1. You are to reach out also to your members and help move them on in their
relationship with the Lord and as brethren in CFC.
a) It involves continuing evangelization.
b) It is based on a personal caring relationship.
2. Being household leaders involves the exercise of what we call "evangelistic
headship".
2.
But teach them to be reasonable in seeking you out (e.g., not in the
middle of the night, except if there is a real emergency).
4. Integrity (v.10).
a) You must be a person who is beyond reproach.
b) It is not just a question of not sinning, but of not doing anything that can
subject you to criticism.
5. Encouragement (v.11-12).
a) Just like a father/mother to his/her children.
c) Keep in touch with their concerns (family, health, school, occupation, love
life, etc.).
d) Be able to laugh and cry with them. Identify with their joys and sorrows.
Empathize.
When someone first opens up, be able to hold them up with your
support.
They should not experience their life changing just independently, but
rather, you carry them in your heart, and this is sometimes expressed
to them.
An important and interesting note: Notice that the above involves the
whole range of caring that happens within a family. The household heads
in certain ways act out the roles of mother, brother, sister and father to
their members.
E. The effect of evangelistic headship. What is the desired response from the
members?
1. Love
a) This is the call to every Christian. We are all to love one another as
brothers and sisters in Christ.
b) But the caring relationship should reinforce and strengthen the members'
love for their leaders.
2. Confidence
a) This frees them to give themselves over to your headship.
They can let go of their self-protectiveness. They can put down their
defenses.
It frees them to give of their whole selves.
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They become more ready to hear God's word coming from you.
It does not become necessary to question all you say.
F. Conclusion.
1.
You have the privilege to guide new SFC members in their new life in the
Lord.
a) Take this responsibility seriously.
b) Put your faith in Jesus.
2.
People grow in confidence as they see you grow in holiness and in Christian
character.
a) 1 Timothy 4:12-16. You need to grow yourself.
b) They must know that you can take them as far as God has taken you.
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Those who avoid wrongdoing, practice virtue, are afire with zeal for
personal righteousness, and have zeal for winning souls.
a) They obtain no comfort from progress toward their own salvation
unless they are also leading others to God.
b) Jesus' example: Although he always had complete joy in himself, he
was not content only to possess glory, but emptied himself, taking the
form of a servant, in order to lead many others into glory with him.
Philippians 2:7.
c) As household heads, we should be this 4th kind of "good" Christian.
These make the best persons for leadership in SFC, given our
evangelistic mission.
C.
Zeal for righteousness stems from the very basis of our Christianity, namely,
love of God and of neighbor.
1. A person who loves God not only desires to enjoy his goodness and be close
to him, but loves to see his will accomplished, his worship carried out and
his honor exalted. He wants all people to know, love, serve and honor God
more than anything else.
2. A person who loves his neighbor desires not only health and prosperity for
him, but even more, eternal salvation.
3. Love of God and neighbor should cause us to mourn if God is dishonored or
disobeyed, and if others are not in right relationship with Him.
4. Although all Christians should love their neighbor, this love for others is
especially necessary for those who are leaders.
a) Their position demands that they act on God's behalf. Thus their hearts
should be as much moved by love of righteousness and hatred of evil as
is God's heart.
b) Psalm 45:8. "You love justice and hate wickedness; therefore God, your
God, has anointed you..."
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D. Areas of concern (exercise of zeal) in our own lives and in the lives of our
household members.
1. Growth in love for God and for neighbor. Selflessness.
2. Active participation in the life of the Church. Frequent reception of the
sacraments.
3. Faithfulness to the covenant of SFC.
a) All SFC members have freely and willingly made their commitment to
the Lord and to the body. They should live up to it.
b) Deuteronomy 23:22-24.
4. Areas not essential for salvation but desirable for making spiritual progress.
a) Faithfulness to and punctuality in meetings.
d) Submission to headship.
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c) Be authoritative.
You would be guilty of neglect for not doing what your duty called
for. Wisdom 6:4-5.
You would bear the guilt for the faults of your subordinates, in that
you could and should have corrected them but didn't. Ezek. 33:8.
This is not to scare you, but to show the seriousness of your work.
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b) How to encourage:
Comfort.
Support (situation where one cannot cope). Through words, advice,
prayers or just presence.
Urge on/exhort. Motivate. Not so much comfort, but challenge.
Praise. E.g., honoring.
4. There is plenty of bad news around and unfortunately, people quickly respond
to discouraging news.
a) God looks for eternal optimists, who can share that spirit with others.
God's news is good news, not bad. We are to bring the good news
of liberty, joy, release, hope, comfort, etc.
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2. We need to open up our hearts and let the word of God burn in our hearts.
This way, our motivation becomes pure.
a) The proper attitude: Philippians 3:8.
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b) Ask the Lord to show what virtue you can grow most in. Some examples:
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30mins
45mins
30mins
15mins
120mins (at least 2 hours)
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Introduction
A. Our task is to take care of God's people; those entrusted to our
household.
1. 1 Peter 5:2a
2. Our example is Jesus Himself. John 10:11
B. We can see how important is this service that we do.
1. It is not just an assignment, a task, or a function.
2. Love is its very essence. As brethren in the Lord, one very important
quality of our work is brotherly love.
II.
B. Attitude of Humility
1. Mark 10:35-44
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III.
James 2:14-17
1 John 3:17-18
Jesus was also available to the sinners, to the sick, and to the
relatives of His disciples.
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In the case of the rich young man who asked about everlasting
life, Jesus looked on him with love as he gave his answer (Mark
10:21).
2. Encouragement
a. Isaiah 35:3-4a
We would not only disappoint the Lord, but could also incur
His wrath.
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IV.
Conclusion
A. We are all brothers and sisters in SFC. And you are all called upon as
household leaders to serve the rest.
B. In this service we need the quality of brotherly love.
1. Our model is Jesus Himself. Even now, He continues to love and serve
us all, His brothers and sisters.
2. The brotherly love required of us is not from the spring of our own
hearts but from God's. Let us tap into His own heart the true
wellspring of endless love.
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Introduction
A. Prayer is crucial to the life of a Christian.
1. It is our direct communication link to God.
2. It is a key to being victorious against temptation.
3. It lies at the root of all personal godliness.
B. Prayer also puts us into proper posture before God.
1. The essential nature of sin is independence. But we need to live in
total dependence on God, a dependence marked by prayer.
The chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever; but
we cannot begin to enjoy God until we spend time with Him.
2. Prayer keeps us trusting God for everything.
3. Prayer opens the way for the Holy Spirit to transform us into the
image of Jesus.
II.
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3. Prayer is not insisting on our own way, but we must believe that God's
way is perfect and that in everything He works for our good.
God is far more willing to bless us than we can imagine. But we can
frustrate His will for us by rebelling.
4. We are to delight in the Father's love, just like little children.
Luke 18:15-17
B. Honesty
1. We do not have to pretend before God.
a. God knows all about us anyway.
b. And God wants us to share every part of our lives with Him. That
includes our fears and failings, our moods and emotions, our
thoughts and anxieties.
2. We have Biblical models of honest prayer.
a. The psalmist. Psalm 13:1ff.
b. Jesus at Gethsemane.
c. Paul spoke of his weaknesses many times.
3. As we are honest with God, He will work gently in our lives to mold us
more and more into Jesus' likeness.
C. Compassion
1. Compassion means "suffering with" someone, trying to enter into
their pains and problems.
a. We need to be moved with compassion as we see the enormous
needs of sinful, suffering people.
b. Such compassion, especially in our inability to give practical help,
naturally leads to prayer and intercession.
2. Compassionate prayer is positive prayer.
a. We do not need to pray about all problems in detail. We end up
being conscious mainly of the problems.
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III.
It is only when we forgive others that God can forgive us. And it is
only when God forgives us that we can pray at all.
God always wants the best for us and He wants us to come to Him to ask for
these things.
1. Matthew 6:32b-33
2. Jesus tells us to come to Him in times of difficulty and He will refresh
us. Matthew 11:28-30.
It is a clear invitation. He does not say, "Evaluate your needs and
then if you think it is reasonable, come to me and we can talk."
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IV.
Intercession
As we accompany our members in their Christian life we couple it with
prayers to guide them in their journey. Thus, it is our part to intercede for
them.
A. Intercession is prayer for God's will to happen.
1. It is to see God's viewpoint in various situations, then go before the
Lord with boldness and confidence to ask that He acts.
2. An intercessor is one who seeks the mind of Christ. He does not pray
just for the "obvious thing" or the "good thing", but to pursue God's
mind on the situation.
3. The prayer that God wants to answer is the prayer for His will to
happen.
B. Intercession is part of God's plan.
1. 1 Timothy 2:1-4. Through Paul, God is saying that intercession is a
means for His plan/will to happen.
2. As leaders, God expects us to intercede.
Ezekiel 22:29-31. This is a situation where leaders and priests were
involved in extortion, robbery, and oppression. The Lord looks
down and looks for at least one man who would intercede; then He
would be predisposed to withhold His wrath. But God found no
one; no one intervened to prevent God's wrath from happening.
C. An intercessor mediates between God and man.
1. He brings man's needs to God for action. He represents man to God.
a. Exodus 17:8-13 tells of Moses interceding for God's people during
a battle with Amalek. As long as Moses kept his hands raised up
interceding, Israel had the better of the fight, but when he lets
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God
b. We can have confidence that God pours out His blessings so that
we may be able to do our mission; we know that we need God's
power and provision and we know that we ought to be
interceding.
c. God will act on our prayers. He has no limitation of power and we
ought to expect results when we intercede.
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V.
VI.
Conclusion
A. Prayer is crucial to our personal life as a Christian. It is indispensable to
our growing in holiness.
B. Colossians 1:9-12. Paul intercedes for the people in his charge
unceasingly. Let us pray for the people under our care in the same way.
C. As household leaders, we would see much more fruit in our service if we
use with discernment this powerful tool of intercession that God has
given us.
D. Prayer is crucial to the life and mission of SFC. We are all part of God's
army, needing to receive our instructions from our Commander-in-Chief
each day.
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Introduction
A. We are to be men and women of faith.
B. Two meanings of faith:
1. Belief in the existence of God.
Even demons share this type of faith. James 2:19
2. Trust that God is true in His dealings with mankind.
This is what is important in our Christian life and in our service.
II.
III.
Responding in Faith
A. Examples of a response of faith.
1. Abraham. Genesis 22:1-17.
He trusted in God's faithfulness, and God made him the father of
many nations.
2. Noah
He trusted in God's faithfulness, and God saved him.
3. Gideon. Judges 7:7
a. He began with 32,000 soldiers and ended with 300, facing an
enemy force of 135,000 (Judges 8:10). This seemed like
foolishness for a military commander.
b. But he trusted in God's faithfulness, and God gave him victory.
4. Mary. Luke 1:38
a. Becoming pregnant with no husband would destroy her
reputation, perhaps even cost her life.
b. But she trusted in God's faithfulness and God provided a husband
for her, and made her mother of the Messiah.
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IV.
Called in Faith
A. The Report of the Jordan Management Consultants (Annex A)
1. What looks good on the outside might not necessarily turn out so;
and vice versa.
2. Many of us would probably not have thought of ourselves as
becoming leaders over God's people.
B. God is able to use anyone.
1. God looks at the heart, not on what appears outside.
a. A heart that sees the greatness of God.
b. A heart that sees the needs of mankind.
2. God looks for humility.
a. We are not perfect; let us admit it. In fact, we are sinful and are in
dire need of God's mercy.
b. Example of Peter and Judas. We need to admit our mistakes, face
Jesus again, and accept His forgiveness.
C. Various ways we can learn about leadership.
1. Look at Jesus' example.
2. Study Paul's instructions to leaders.
3. Look at how not to do leadership.
a. This is what we will study. Matthew 23:1-12
b. Note that we are still to follow the correct instructions of
designated leaders, even if they are bad examples. (v.3)
V.
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And our
VII.
Humility in Leadership
A. We need to have a greater simplicity of goal.
1. We simply point to Jesus, helping people to find Him and to follow
Him.
God's design is that the merest of children can understand and
come to Jesus.
2. It is Jesus who saves, who comforts, who fills with the Spirit.
3. Our global evangelization is aimed at making Jesus known.
B. We need to have a greater simplicity of means.
1. Like faith, hope and love.
Faith, not an organization, is what overcomes the world. 1 John 5:4
2. We need to focus on what is primary, and not get bogged down in
secondary things. Galatians 5:5-6
1 Corinthians 13:13
C. We need to have a greater modesty regarding the importance of our
group (household, unit, chapter, etc.), or of the movement itself (SFC), or
of ourselves (our talents, etc.).
1. What is important is that people follow Jesus, not necessarily that
they join our group.
a. Of course, we realize that joining us can be part of God's call to
people.
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VIII.
IX.
Conclusion
A. It is so liberating to know that we can rely on a faithful God. He called us,
so He will empower us.
B. We need to have faith in God, is His mission for SFC, and in the call to us
to leadership.
C. With our faith and God's faithfulness, CFC Singles for Christ can become a
very strong and effective instrument of God's action in the world.
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From :
Dear Sir:
Thank you for submitting the resumes of the twelve men you have picked for
management positions in your new organization. All of them have taken our batte ry
of tests and we have not only run the results through our computer, but also
arranged personal interviews for each of them with our psychologist and vocational
aptitude consultant.
The profiles of all tests are included and you will want to study each of them
carefully.
As part of our service and for your guidance, we make some general comments,
much as an auditor will include some general statements. This is given as a result of
staff consultation and comes without any additional fee.
It is the staff opinion that most of your nominees are lacking background, education
and vocational aptitude for the type of enterprise you are undertaking. They do not
have the team concept.
Simon Peter is emotionally unstable and given to fits of temper. Andrew has
absolutely no qualities of leadership. The two brothers, James and John, the sons of
Zebedee, place personal interest above company loyalty. Thomas demonstrates a
questioning attitude that would tend to undermine morale. We feel that it is our
duty to tell you that Matthew has been blacklisted by the Greater Jerusalem Better
Business Bureau. James, the son of Alphaeus, and Thaddeus definitely have radical
leanings, and they both registered a high score on the manic depressive scale.
One of the candidates, however, shows great potential. He is a man of ability and
resourcefulness, meets people well, has a keen business mind and has contacts in
high places. He is highly motivated, ambitious and responsible. We recommend
Judas Iscariot as your controller and right hand man. All of the other profiles are
self-explanatory.
We wish you every success in your new venture.
Sincerely,
Jordan Management Consultants
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Introduction
A. We should be models for our household members.
1. We should be living witnesses to the new life in Christ.
2. The words we teach should be reflected in our actions.
B. Our own models:
1. Jesus made His life and words an example. John 13:15
2. Paul also pointed to the witness of his life. 1 Corinthians 11:1
3. Both recognized that actions speak louder than words.
4. They're no longer physically present. Now we're the ones on the
firing line.
II.
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3. Don't be a know-it-all.
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c. But not just wisdom about living, but household leaders need
pastoral wisdom, a practical understanding of how to build up the
body of Christ, how to care for the lives of Christians.
d. How to acquire wisdom?
Like Solomon, ask for it. Pray for it. James 1:5-6
D. Integrity
1. Integrity is the refusal to justify, rationalize or excuse any motivation,
thought or behavior that is inconsistent with the commands and
principles of God's Word.
a. Note: We are not talking of sinlessness (we all still fall into sin),
but refusal to justify, etc. In other words, we can make mistakes;
but how do we handle these?
b. E.g., David. Psalm 78:70-72. The Lord chose David to shepherd his
people "according to the integrity of his heart"
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He didn't excuse his sin with Bathsheba when his sin was
exposed by Nathan.
Do all things in your own family that you tell other men to do
in theirs. Or at least, sincerely try to do so.
Give the same quality of care to your wife and children that
you give to others. At times we care for our household
members but neglect our family. Never forget that CFC Singles
for Christ is family-oriented.
c. Ministry
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III.
IV.
Aside from leading by example, our headship in SFC over people ought to be
evangelistic, not authoritarian or legalistic.
A. Often, new SFC members are not immediately eager about being under
headship. This is a new situation for most. Most are used to answering to
no one but themselves.
B. Thus you need to establish a good, personal relationship first.
V.
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VI.
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VII.
Conclusion
A. The household leaders ought to commit themselves with special
determination to forming their members according to the life of Christ.
Lead them to imitate the Lord in every aspect of their lives.
B. Be a visible model of Christ's way of life. Galatians 2:20
C. What you are doing is breaking someone of his/her wildness,
rebelliousness and independence.
1. By a combination of patience, love and firmness.
2. Aggressiveness on your part is required.
D. Through your efforts, SFC members will more and more enter into their
new life in the Lord and develop greater faithfulness to their life in SFC.
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Introduction
A. In 2 Timothy 3:16, Paul mentions Scripture as a tool that is useful for
reproof, correction and training in holiness.
1. It is evident that correction is considered important in pastoral care.
2. It ranks along with training in holiness.
B. The experience in most cultures, however, is resistance of people to
correction.
1. At the bottom of it is fear.
2. Some reasons why we are afraid of correction:
a. Experience of being laughed at because of our mistakes
(sometimes being embarrassed in front of other people).
b. Society's expectation: We are evaluated in terms of what we know
and have achieved. We try to demonstrate our knowledge and
skills. It is painful to have our failures or shortcomings pointed
out.
c. Correction is associated with rejection.
d. Secular society's expectation of self-reliance and independence
leads to hesitation in accepting some body's opinion or judgment
over us especially in case of weaknesses and failures being
pointed out.
C. What do we do?
1. We hide our faults. We cover up.
2. We argue when corrected.
II.
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III.
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IV.
V.
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VI.
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B. Here's another survey from the book "Encouraging One Another" by Gene
Getz.
1. Are you able to get excited about the good things that happen to
others? Are you able to tell them that you're glad? Can you enter
into their joy? If you can, you are an encourager.
2. Are you living a committed Christian life? To what extent are you able
to encourage others "to remain true to the Lord with all their hearts"?
If you can, you are reflecting your own commitment to Christ. You are
an encourager.
3. Are you able to accept other people for who they are? Do you see the
best in people? Do you freely associate with people who are different
from you? If you can, you are relatively free from prejudice and you
are an encourager.
VII.
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2. He stands by us.
a. While the disciples discouraged the woman who brought the
alabaster jar of ointment, Jesus gave her the kind of praise that
made her gift a memorial.
b. Jesus came to the aid of the woman taken in adultery and forgave
her.
c. Jesus came to the side of many who were sick, dismissing the
discouraging words of crowds and even of his own disciples.
d. When the disciples were mourning His death, Jesus came to them
and strengthened them.
3. He defends us like a defense lawyer. Mark 13:11
4. He urges us on and exhorts us.
a. In classical Greek, the word was often used to refer to exhorting
troops about to go to battle. The word has a rallying call to it. It
not only emphasizes, it motivates. It not only gives comfort, it
gives courage. It sends hesitant soldiers into war.
b. 1 Thessalonians 5:11-14; Hebrews 3:13; Hebrews 10:24
5. He opens doors for us.
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Hebrews 10:25
2. Turn to Scriptures.
Listening is healing.
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Conclusion
A. Correction is a very important pastoral tool:
1. For the spiritual life and direction of every Christian.
2. For the life of our community, for the sake of our mission in SFC.
B. Correction is something done out of love for the other person. We need
to take it seriously as one very important aspect of loving our neighbor.
C. We do not have to look very far or worry too much about our task as
household leaders. Much can be accomplished by taking on the ministry
of encouragement.
D. There is much in our new life to be encouraged and be joyful about. Let
us continue to point these out to ourselves and to the people we lead.
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Introduction
A. Our goal in serving in CFC Singles for Christ is to be the best for the Lord
and for the people He has entrusted to us.
B. A process that will enable us to serve better is evaluation.
1. Experience is a great teacher, and regular evaluation helps us to learn
from our experiences.
2. Evaluation enables us to avoid repeating mistakes.
3. Evaluation helps us to learn how to maintain successful elements of
our service.
C. Our attitude should be that we want our service evaluated openly and
honestly.
1. We should not be afraid to be shown that we have committed a
mistake.
2. We should desire to constantly learn and improve on our work for the
Lord.
II.
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B. For Christians, what comes first is our relationship as brothers and sisters.
1. How successful we are in our performance is not what determines
love for and commitment to one another.
2. Poor functioning, failure to achieve, low performance levels, will not
be reasons for rejection.
C. Our perspective: members of the body have different gifts and functions.
1Corinthians 12; Romans 12:3-8
1. All these gifts must work interdependently in order to achieve the
common good of the body.
2. We do not compete with one another, but rather we work together as
a team.
We try to help everyone else to achieve maximum effectiveness using their gifts.
III.
B. Evaluation Sessions
1. The whole SFC community should often engage in evaluation at
different levels.
a. Households can evaluate how their meetings are going and how
relationships are developing.
b. The chapter can regularly evaluate how its evangelization is going.
c. The music ministry can evaluate how effectively they are
contributing to communal worship.
2. Especially for major community events, there should be a time for
evaluating the events, so that lessons may be learned, and
improvements for the future discovered.
C. Evaluation by Heads
1. Those with responsibility for different areas of service ought to
conduct regular evaluation of the service and of the individuals who
are performing it.
2. It is very helpful for a person to know from those who oversee his
service how well he is doing.
IV.
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3. Real love seeks what is best for others, correcting them if necessary.
Hebrews 12:5-9
V.
Critical
VI.
Conclusion
A. We are sinful and worldly and we will continue to commit mistakes as we
serve the Lord.
B. But God wants to use us in spite of ourselves, as long as we are open and
willing to learn from Him.
C. Christian evaluation is an important tool for our growth in loving and
serving the Lord.
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Personal Life
Family Life
Career Life
Prayer Life
Love Life
Service Life
3. Give advice on the topic of the one-to-one so that he/she can also pray for
leading, revelation.
4. Set up the one-to-one in an appropriate venue at an appropriate time.
Appropriate venue a place where both parties can discuss with ease
and comfort; a quiet, private place.
- preferably at home of either party.
- free from disturbances, phone calls.
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C. Post One-to-Ones
1. One-to-one dialogue between the Household head and the member should
be scheduled every quarter. The entire dialogue may take a maximum of two
hours.
2. For succeeding one-to-ones, the Household Head should refer to outputs of
previous one-to-one.
3. Leader should follow through with the SFC member action points of the oneto-one in between the scheduled sessions.
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Workshop Proper:
1. Divide the participants into a group of three members.
2. Every member of the group will be assigned a specific role.
Member the one who will act as the member who was invited for a
one-to-one.
Household Head the one who will conduct the one-to-one.
Observer will take note of the good practices and things to improve
on in the one-to-one that was conducted.
3. If time allows it, the group members can rotate roles to make them
experience the other perspective as well.
4. The workshop facilitator will process and give more inputs as needed by the
group.
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I. Introduction
During households, an atmosphere is created wherein the members receive
learnings in the form of talks or teachings. After which, they are encouraged to open
up and share about Gods messages to them as inspired by the teachings.
Therefore, it is the Household heads important task to prepare and deliver
effectively a discerned talk or topic and facilitate a healthy participation from his/her
members in the sharing that follows.
This workshop aims to give the Household head a basic guide on how to deliver talks
or share a personal testimony that can be a source of learning and life for his/her
members in the household.
Time
Be ready to adjust your talk depending on the time.
The ideal time for a talk usually ranges between 30 to 45
minutes. For a Household Prayer Meeting 15 minutes will
do.
C. Attitudes
1.
2.
3.
4. Love the people you are speaking to. As Christ allowed you to
experience this love, He wants the people you are speaking to,
to experience it as well.
5. Remember that they need the Lord, and thats why you are
speaking to them.
6. Availability
a. Accept assignments to speak or share.
b. Not accepting would be tantamount to saying that God
has not been able to do anything in your life.
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B. Attitudes
Be confident. It is good to note that nobody will disagree with your
sharing because its subjective.
Whatever you are sharing, somebody out there needs to hear your
story. Somebody will be able to relate with your experience.
As the Lord continues to work in new areas of your life, so will your
sharing evolve as well. Update your sharing.
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Workshop Proper:
1. Divide the participants into groups of four (4) members each.
2. Assign a leader who will act as the Household head of the group.
3. Sample household topics will be prepared and written on pieces of paper
(e.g. CLP talks, etc.) and distributed randomly to the assigned household
heads.
4. The assigned household heads will be given 5-10 minutes to prepare a short
talk/topic about it.
5. As the household heads prepare, the workshop facilitator will instruct all the
group members to actively listen to their assigned household heads later.
After the talk of their household heads, their task is to give
feedbacks/observations as to how their household head delivered his/her
talk and sharing.
6. Once ready, the assigned household head will go to his/her group and then
deliver the talk/topic like in a normal household and then give his/her
sharing afterwards. Allot about 15 minutes for this.
7. After the talk, the group will now discuss among themselves their feedbacks
and observations.
8. The workshop facilitator will process and give more inputs as needed by the
group.
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I. Introduction
Household is about coming together as brothers and sisters, worshipping God,
communicating in prayer and sharing life-giving testimonies of realizations and
experiences to each other. It is our basic venue to grow in faith and relationship
with God. It is important that we strive to make our households true to its
purpose.
As household heads and leaders in our community, it is important for us to have
thorough understanding of worship, which is an integral part of our household
meetings. We use this tool for us to connect and experience Gods holy presence in
our gathering. And as household heads we must know how to lead wors hip for our
members to grow closer to God.
4. A foretaste of heaven. It is the time when we, in our fallen, sinful, and
human natures, are able to connect to God in spiritthe way it was meant
to be before our sins made it impossible for us to continually be in Gods
presence (as Adam and Eve were). It allows us a foretaste of the kind of
relationship we will have with God when we are made perfect in heaven.
When we say worship is putting things in proper perspective, it only means that we
acknowledge Gods greatness and marveling in His goodness - that He alone is
worthy to be praised.
2. Invite your members to worship and make the sign of the cross.
To formally engage in the presence of God make the sign of the cross. Through
this we acknowledge that we are in Gods presence and we are ready to praise
and worship him.
3. Sing songs; sing the two (2) fast songs first followed by the slow song. Do
some simultaneous praising after each fast song and after the slow song
invite your members to sing in the Spirit.
In a household meeting we use a full worship format, wherein we sing two
(2) fast songs and one (1) slow song. This is to enable our membe rs to reach
the highest level in worship (glory level). Singing less than three (3) songs
may not be sufficient, singing more than three (3) songs may be too long and
dragging; three (3) songs are enough for you to reach the glory level in
worship.
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5. Prayer proper
This is the part where you vocalize your prayers. You may follow the ACTS
(Adoration, Contrition, Thanksgiving, Supplication) format. Encourage your
members to vocalize their prayers and express themselves in prayer.
Adoration
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VI. Conclusion
And all of us, with our unveiled faces like mirrors reflect ing the glory of the
Lord, are being transformed into the image that we reflect in brighter and
brighter glory; this is the working of the Lord who is the Spirit.
2 Corinthians 3:18 (NJB)
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