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C O N G R E G AT I O N S H A A R E Y TO R A H
THE SHTIEBLE
9 8 W E S T E N D A V E B R O O K LY N N Y 1 1 2 3 5
SPONS OR E D B Y TH E E IS E NS TA D T FA MILY
LZEC HER N ISHMAS RABBI MO SHE TWE RSY, RABBI ARY E H K U P INS K Y, R A B B I K A L MA N ZE E V L E VINE , & R A B B I AVR A HA M S H MU E L GOL D BE RG .
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doesnt mean that one who comes from them can sit back,
kick up his feet and relax. Rav Moshe understands that the
Torah goes out of its way to first show us Yitzchoks heritage
and ironclad credentials, and yet tell us, that he still had his
notorious son, Eisav. Even with such perfect parents such as
Yitzchok and Rivka there were issues and difficulties.
I dont think Rav Moshe was talking about Yitzchoks
personal approach to chinuch, although the Rishonim do
discuss his curious connection and love for his obviously no
good son, Eisav. The general principle of active parenting is
what Rav Moshe is emphasizing.
One cannot sit on his laurels and just hope for good kids.
Teaching, educating, and instilling yiddishkeit takes sweat,
blood and tears. It also takes its toll on ones regular limit of
patience, but we all know that our only option is to raise our
level of patience. Plus, when you think about it the end game
is obviously worth the time, wait, and patience.
Chinuch, Rav Moshe writes, requires a constant vigilance
in the goings on of our childrens yahadus and ensuring their
derech in a normal, fine and classic manner. We are required
to teach them. We strongly hope that they receive the advice,
knowledge and wisdom which we can try to offer them. But
chinuch is something that always needs to be on our radar.
The following story has been in these papers before but to
bring out our point it definitely bears repeating.
Rabbi Yaakov Vann was once walking through the streets
of Brooklyn when he was unexpectedly called off the street
by a few men who were sitting shiva for their father and
needed the colloquial tenth man for a minyan. Seeing that
these men were hardly observant and wishing to help them
out, he ventured into the shiva home and was utterly surprised
by what he observed. The house was full of sefarim, Jewish
books of Torah. These books were hardly the unused type, and
quite the contrary, were well worn and had copious footnotes
carefully written on the sidebar.
Following the services R Yaakov inquired about the books
and the children explained that the seforim had belonged to
their father. You see, they explained, dad was a scholar, he
loved his Torah books. Every day when he would come home
from his difficult job he would sit in his room, close and lock
his door and learn for hours. We hardly ever saw him and he
mostly kept the Torah to himself. He was the one that learned
but he never studied when we were around or with us.
The famous story of the Gadol who publicly stated
that while he accomplished so much by his world wide
dissemination of Torah,
he still wished that instead of
learning Rambam at the Shabbos table, he wouldve sang
R Akiva Eisenstadt
more zemiros with his children. That was what his children
needed at that time. He could have given them that.
Involvement takes many forms. Every stage of life needs
different manners and methods. A thought out plan is usually
necessary. Knowing who each child is, understanding what
knew from Boston who had since moved to Israel. One would
expect a Rabbi to be sensitive and caring, but not to intervene
to the extent that the Rebbe did.
Even people who are not affiliated with Judaism were
enamored by his angelic presence. One such person told me
that he did not have much interaction with him but he always
seemed like an upstanding individual who was always careful
with every word he uttered. A true representative of what
Hashem expects from us under all circumstances.
His appreciation for Torah purity was unparalleled. He
once told me a story about a time he was sitting in a Bais
Medrash learning. A young boy nearby was learning, singing
the words of Torah with a divine melodious tune. After a
little bit, the boy closed his Gemara and left. Rabbi Twersky
exclaimed, The angels were singing along with the boy, what
a shame that he could not continue longer. The music of your
Torah in our ears will not soon be forgotten.
He did this all without fanfare. A man who was content
with influencing those around him by leading by example,
shying from the spotlight. Exemplifying the primary trait of
Yaakov Avinu, Rabbi Twersky was a true Yoshev Ohalim. His
Ohel, extended from his home, to the walls of Toras Moshe,
to the hearts and souls of every individual who has ever come
in contact with him.
This article does not add much to the plethora of articles
singing the accolades of a true Tzadik in our time. I can
only hope that this endeavor instilled in me a little more
strength to remember his legacy and try to emulate the man
I observed serving Hashem like no other. I was not a student
of the Rebbe, but my rare chances to interact with him left
an indelible imprint. I hope that his influence will permeate
all of those who knew him, and that stories of his memory
will touch all of those who were not as fortunate. Through
our appreciation for his approach, we too can set an example
and serve Hashem in the way Rav Mosheh Twersky served
Hashem, a paradigm for all of Klal Yisroel.
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PARSHAS TOLDOS
Rabbi Avraham Greenwald
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WEEKLY INSIGHTS
hat is Gelotology?
This is the study of laughter and its effects on the
body. There are many in the medical field which postulates
that the utilization of humor can be employed as a therapy
which helps a patient cope with the physical and psychological
issues that he encounters.
So how do we define what is humor?
Finding something humorous is the feeling that we
experience when we suddenly encounter that which was
not expected. Laughter is the expression of our discovery of
this newly revealed outcome which we did not previously
anticipate.
Rabbi Avraham Steinberg Shlita focuses our attention
to Yitzchak Avinu, whose very existence evokes humor. He
explains that Avraham Avinu was well respected in his time,
but so many people within his generation were assuming
that his death would mark the end of his legacy. The reason
being is that he was without child and no one imagined that he
would ever have one.
Therefore, it was with tremendous surprise and completely
unanticipated when all of a sudden at such an old age Sarah
conceived and had a child. Avraham and Sarah laughed. They
laughed in joy and at the fortunate result that they many
thought would never be. The very name Yitzchak means
laughter. The very thought of this occurrence brought laughter
to everyones heart. Many felt Hashems hand in all of this
rekindling a lost hope. The laughter was one of elation and
jubilation, of that which seemed so unbelievable of actually
ever occurring.
Yet, laughter is not confined to the context of this one
defining scope. There is another type of humor which presents
itself within this narration. Let us look at the beginning of
this weeks perasha which can give us more insight. It states,
And these are the offspring of Yitzchak son of Avraham
Avraham begot Yitzchak (Toldot 25:19). The question is
raised on why the repetition of the same point at the end of
the verse Avraham begot Yitzchak. The verse already stated
quite clearly that Isaac was the son of Abraham.
Rashi (1040-1105) conveys that the first part of the verse
was solely to demonstrate the point about lineage, just as
it expresses. The second point of stating Avraham begot
Yitzchak is to answer an entirely different issue. The scoffers
of Avrahams generation were spreading the notion that Sarah
became pregnant from Avimelech when he captured her. She
spent many years with Avraham, they reasoned, and yet she
was not able to conceive. They then laughed and mocked at the
notion that Avraham could possibly be the father of Yitzchak.
R Aharon Finkelstein
How to we protect ourselves from all of this?
The formula is quite simple. We need to follow the
deeper message that is being conveyed to us, following the
exact prescription that Hashem prescribed in dealing with
the scoffers of Avrahams generation. The answer was that
Yitzchaks face was made to mirror that of Avrahams. We
must do the same for ourselves. We must formulate and
pattern the face of our own Judaism in the likeness of our
father, Avraham Avinu. We must reflect his strong character
and conviction, his understanding and foresight, and stay
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PEACE
R Ari Madel
people.
Q: If this is the case then why do we see in the Gemara2
that if one is walking in the street and realizes that he is
wearing shatnez then he must disrobe immediately, even
in public, to remove the garment from himself, shouldnt
we be concerned about kavod habriyos?
A: What is important to understand in gaining access to this
topic is that there is a difference as to what issurim we will
push aside in the face of kavod habriyos. While the Gemara3
boldly states look how great kavod habriyos is that it pushes
aside a lo seaseh it should be understood that this is not
a regular negative prohibition but is rather referring to the
prohibition of lo sasur4...which is the biblical commandment
not to move away from what the Rabbanon decreed. Hence
what comes out of this is that while we will push off an issur
that is Rabbinic we will not do so for a biblical prohibition. As
the verse5 states explicitly ain chachma, vain tevunah, vain
aitzah lneged Hashem (there is no wisdom, no suggestion
and no alternative when it comes to opposing Hashem).
Therefore when in the face of a biblical prohibition there is no
possibility to move it aside, while if it were to be a Rabbinic
issur there is room to do so.
Q: Are there any situations where we find that we can apply
the formula of kavod habriyos pushing off a Rabbinic
infraction?
A: There are many such cases where you see the importance
of maintaining ones dignity. Some of which are:
if one is davaning for the amud and has to relieve
himself but leaving the amud would cause obvious
embarrassment6 then one can be lenient and remain
albeit ignoring the rabbinic7 infraction of baal
tishaktzu8 which is usually what one would be
transgressing when holding himself back from using
the restroom.9
If one is a Rav or even a shliach tzibbur who is no
longer counting sefirah with a bracha but will be
very embarrassed to have to pass on making the
bracha out loud as everyone will understand that
he forgot one complete day, he may then make the
bracha regardless, as making a bracha lvatalah is
R Heshy Kahan
only a Rabbinic infraction10 of not saying Hashems
name in vain hence it can be pushed aside because
of kavod habriyos. [this can be derived from a very
famous shaila11 in which a woman who had a child
out of wedlock then was chozer bteshuva (repented
from her old ways) and married a ben Torah of which
she gave birth to a son soon thereafter. The poskim
allowed her husband to make a regular pidyon haben
with the bracha as the embarrassment that she would
have incurred by telling her new husband that she
had previously given birth would be so great it was
decided to let the bracha lvatalah be made12]
although one is supposed to bentch with a minyan
when starting his seudah with ten people this gets
somewhat uncomfortable when trying to leave a
chasunah early as according to the letter of the law one
would have to do sheva brachos just as well. In due
to the kavod habriyos of the chosson and kallah not
having to have to watch everyone else take over their
wedding and start giving out kibudim without their
consent the poskim allow one to leave without zimun
with a minyan even though that would normally be a
rabbinic requirement.13
If one has to flatulate while in the middle of davaning
so although the Gemara states that he has to move
four tefachim and say a certain nusach we find that
this is not done in practice because of the possible
embarrassment that this would cause hence we push
aside this Rabbinic enactment.
If one has to tend to a mais (corpse) and it is the time
to read the Megilah one should suspend the Rabbinic
mitzvah to hear the Megilah in order to protect the
kavod habriyos of the one who passed away.14
On Tisha Bav day when not wearing leather shoes
was decreed by the Rabbanon we see that the
poskim15 allow one to wear regular shoes if amongst
people who will poke fun at him for walking around
so strangely (i.e. lawyer going to court, business
executive at professional meeting etc.) as kavod
habriyos pushes off this enactment.
Q: Is there any time when the concept of pushing off a
R Heshy Kahan
a plunger or even using a muktza instrument that is
ordinarily prohibited such as a snake etc. (it should be
understood that his heter applies only to pushing away
Rabbinic issurim that are directly related to a breach
in human dignity. To have a non-Jew open a light in
the bathroom or raise the air conditioning while hes
at it has no basis and should not be done).
Were a person to find himself in the bathroom without
any toilet paper he should ideally have a non-Jew cut
him some before entering. If that is not a viable option
then one should use it off the roll and let the flush
take the paper off itself as this would tear the paper al
yidai grama (in a causative and not direct fashion).
If this is not dignified enough (due to the type of host
one finds himself by etc.) then he would be permitted
to tear a long sheet with his elbow, teeth or foot.17 As
when doing a melacha in a backhanded fashion it is
only prohibited dRabbonon hence tearing in this
way would be permitted based on the human dignity
factor.
In general we dont make Chasunos on Shabbos
because the Rabbanon didnt allow transactions but in
case a Friday wedding went late18 one would not put
it off until after Shabbos as this would be too much of
an uncomfortability for the Chosson and Kallah.
If one had to relieve himself in the snow or on grass,
although some hold that its melting the snow or
watering the grass, if there is no other option we are
lenient like those who hold that its no issue because
of kavod habriyos.
If one has a very bad cold and his runny nose may
be offensive to others there may be grounds to carry
tissues (assuming that the Shul doesnt have any19) in
a backhanded fashion (in his belt, shoe etc.) through
a karmelis in order to allow him to keep himself tidy
and dignified throughout davaning.
If one is walking with non kosher Tzitzis in a
karmelis he is not required to disrobe and may carry
the garment (by wearing it), albeit the Rabbanon
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dont usually allow one to, all the way to his desired
destination.
Q: If we are able to push off a Rabbinic issur in order
to preserve the honor of people should one refrain from
doing mitzvos if this may impede on his dignity?
A: This question was asked to the Chavos Yair20 in where
a noted Talmud Chacham asked if its proper to play an
instrument at weddings in order to bring joy to the bride and
groom or is it beneath his honor. The response was that when
it comes to doing mitzvos the greatest honor and dignity one
can have is to throw oneself into the mitzvah with all his body
and soul. Therefore, aside for this Talmud Chacham being
encouraged to play his instrument, a person of notable stature
could and should be allowed to:
dance with all his might on Simchos Torah
bring joy to weddings via juggling, using costumes
or any other talent that may be appreciated in such
venues
build a Succah in light of the intense manual labor
required
pick out choice fruits/shop at a market/cook a delicacy
etc. lkavod Shabbos as the Shulchan Aruch states
this would be the ikur kavod habriyos, preparing
ones house for the Shabbos queen
this is all easily learned out from the fact that Michal, the
wife of Dovid Hamelech, upon watching him dance with
tremendous exuberance and pomp when the Aron was coming
back, scolded him for breaching his honor21 to which we
know she was punished by becoming barren for the rest of her
days. Clearly when it comes to mitzvos the honor one receives
is in proportion to the honor one gives to preforming the
commandments of Hashem and a possible breach in stature
should be the last thing on ones mind.
R Heshy Kahan
FOOTNOTES
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Bava Kamma 79
Brachos 19b
Menachos 37b
Devarim 17:11
Mishlei 21
As everyone will know exactly where one went to and exactly
how long it took
Although the verse is obviously of biblical origin the
actual issur of baal tishaktzu is literally referring to eating
insects. Other disgusting things i.e. holding oneself back
from relieving oneself are only rabbinic according to many
Rishonim. See the 3rd perek of Makos who discusses other
forms of shikutz that is included in this issur (i.e. using a straw
used to let blood as a straw for your drink)
Vayikra 11:43
One could probably apply this as well to sitting at a shiur in
which going to the facilities would cause embarrassment to the
one leaving and/or the lecturer
Although interestingly enough the Shevet Halaivi 3:91 takes
the approach that its permitted to make the bracha not
because of kavod habriyos but rather because we are relying
on those Rishonim who hold that its a separate bracha for
each day as every day is its own individual mitzvah.
Mahrshag 3
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