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Co-Dependency
Definition of co-dependency
Co-dependency is defined as a
dysfunctional pattern of living and
problem solving which is nurtured by a
set of rules within the family system.
It is these unwritten family rules (we can
also call them Sacred Rules) that affect
our approach to living. Each family has
their Sacred Rules.
Common characteristics of
co-dependency
Difficulty identifying feelings
Difficulty expressing feelings
Difficulty forming and maintaining close
relationships
Perfectionism or black and white thinking
Rigid attitudes and behaviors
Difficulty adjusting to change
Common characteristics of
co-dependency (continued)
Misconceptions about
co-dependency
Many co-dependent people appear to be
very self-sufficient, Strong and in
control of their lives.
Example: Everyone thinks I am so
strong, and all of my friends and relatives
come to me with their problems, but if
they only knew the real me they would
be very surprised. Sometimes its all I
can do just to get through each day.
Co-dependency today
Today, professionals are realizing that
co-dependent patterns of coping do not
solely develop from relationships with the
chemically dependent.
Current research in Family Systems is
revealing that co-dependency is a
condition that can emerge from any
family system where certain unwritten,
even unspoken, rules exist.
Co-dependent Rules
The co-dependent:
Spiritual Self
Private Self
Public Self
EARLY CHILDHOOD
ADULTHOOD
ENABLING
Destructive Behaviors
Internal Value system is violated
Growing feelings of guilt, remorse and shame
Progression of Enabling
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Undifferentiated
50
75
Differentiated
Co-dependent
Co-dependent in recovery
Alcoholic/Addict
Alcoholic/Addict in recovery
Fused/Enmeshed
Functional
Unhealthy
Self-Actualized
Healthy
Emotionally immature
Parent/Child relationships
Emotionally Mature
False Emancipation
Adult/Adult relationships
True Emancipation
100
25
Undifferentiated
50
75
Differentiated
Co-dependent
Co-dependent in recovery
Alcoholic/Addict
Alcoholic/Addict in recovery
Fused/Enmeshed
Functional
Unhealthy
Self-Actualized
Healthy
Emotionally immature
Parent/Child relationships
Emotionally Mature
False Emancipation
Adult/Adult relationships
True Emancipation
100
Mother
Father
Triangulation
Child
Bowen Family Systems Therapy for Codependency and the Alcoholic/Addict Family.
Once therapy has begun for the Addicted Person
and their family, the therapist who is using the
Bowen family Systems therapy as their primary
counseling technique should begin the following:
Assist the family in creating a Genogram showing
multigenerational substance abuse; explore family
disruption from system events, such as traumatic
geographical moves. Other family histories are
extremely important such as mental health, suicide,
etc.
Orient the nuclear family toward facts versus reactions
by using factual questioning.
Bowen Family Systems Therapy for Codependency and the Alcoholic/Addict Family
cont.
Bowen Family Systems Therapy for Codependency and the Alcoholic/Addict Family
cont.
Bowen Family Systems Therapy for Codependency and the Alcoholic/Addict Family
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Bowen Family Systems Therapy for Codependency and the Alcoholic/Addict family cont
VICTIM
Healthy Interdependency
What is Detachment?
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Breaking Free of the Co Dependency Trap. Barry K. Weinhold, Ph.D. & Janae
B. Weinhold, Ph.D.
Beyond Codependency, by Melody Beattie
Family Evaluation by Michael E. Kerr and Murray Bowen.
Family Therapy in Clinical Practice by Murray Bowen, M.D.
Self-Pity booklet by Gil Baker
The Therapeutic Genius of Pia Mellody by John Bradshaw, MA (article taken
from website addictionrecoveryreality.com.
Alcohol and Other Drug Treatment Initiative, Level II Training Manual,
Sacramento Co., DHHS, Robert S. Caulk, Director
Substance Abuse Treatment and Family Therapy, A Treatment Improvement
Protocol, Tip #39, US DHHS.
Health Network, Chemical Dependency Program, Presentor; Mavonn Ellis,
PH.D.
Cedar Vale ATU Out-Patient Office, Family Treatment Program handbook
Ill Quit Tomorrow by Vernon E. Johnson
Co-dependence;Misunderstood ---Mistreated by Anne Wilson Schaef, chapter
four: The Characteristics of Co-dependence.