In the past four months, I've received false accusations that began with claims

of violent spousal abuse by my former wife of 20 years. As a result, I have

experienced criminal arrest, incarceration, conviction, and loss of freedom. I've
also discovered that the color orange of the inmate attire is definitely not a
good color for me.

I've been denied access to my 11 year old daughter entirely. The pain of this
particular injury is indescribable.

I was rapidly removed from my own home. So I'm now homeless, unemployed,
and am now living out of my one remaining asset out of what was thousands of
dollars of assets. This would be my 500 dollar car. Fortunately, I learned some
tips from those I met in jail who are homeless themselves. There are many of
them.

My primary concern since this has occured with me is the safety and well-being
of my daughter. In fact, men typically do not leave an abusive relationship
themselves because they often fear for their child's safety- along with
potentially losing their relationship with their children.

Gender biased stereotypes have ultimately placed me at the mercy of those in

this pathetic family law system we have in this country who absolutely know
nothing about me. They do not care to know me.

The following was retrieved from www.mediaradar.org, '50 Domestic Violence

Myths':

Women are just as likely as men to engage in partner aggression, according to

hundreds of studies. Partner violence, if it happens, is often mutual. Self
defense accounts for only fifteen percent or so of partner aggression.

Less than five percent of domestic violence incidents involve couples in an

intact marital relationship, such as mine was. Studies show marriage is clearly
the safest partner relationship. In fact, most cases of family conflict do not
involve physical violence at all. Mine never did.

I have a restraining order against me now. Over 2/3 of restraining orders issued
are determined to be either unnecessary or false. Also, these orders do not
prevent future violence from happening.

In fact, restraining orders may encourage violence. Also, if I attempt to

reconcile any conflict with my former spouse, I will get arrested. If I send my
daughter a birthday card, I will be in jail. I've not spoken with or seen my wife
or daughter in over two months now. Yet I've been arrested often during this
time.
There is overt gender bias in the family law system that exists today. For
example, if a man kills his wife, he will get about 20 years in prison, as he
should. However, if a woman kills her husband, she will get about 5 years in
prison.

The etiology for this gap reflects the gender bias that exists. Also, in divorce
court, women are granted sole custody of their children about 65 percent
higher rate than men. There is in fact a frightening fatherhood crisis in our
country in particular. All modesty aside, as a dad, I completely rock out loud.

I'm a victim of domestic abuse myself. I suffered over a decade of brutal

physical and emotional child abuse that you likely do not want to know the
details behind this fact. However, the propaganda fed to our society by certain
women and victim advocacy groups must be stopped, and clarified by the facts.

Meanwhile, I suggest that others stay out of this system. Resolve your disputes
through negotiation. Do not be compelled to share your dirty laundry with
these anti-family law enforcers. Do not be forced to fight for your rights in such
an unfortunate situation as mine in a courtroom. By that time, it is too late.

I'm presently losing this battle, but I continue to stand up after I've been
slammed to the ground several times already. I'll stand up again.

Such family court and legal intervention is often used by others as a weapon or
tactic that is freely available for them to utilize, and such people are likely
mentally flawed, if not entirely absent of a soul.

I'm not angry or hateful about what is happening to me- this surreal nightmare
that has manifested into a bizarre reality. I will not lower myself to be this way
ever. And I will also never live in fear as a result of what is happening to me. If
I do become fearful, I will lose this fight completely. And this is a fight I cannot
lose. I love my daughter way too much.

So I likely will be in jail again. This is just a fact about my life now. That's OK,
though. Because some battles need to be fought, and the results can lead to
suffering.

So I fight.