The Metaphysics of Romance

By: jgraf

To explore relationship models that are counter-productive, one need go no

further than what is presented by the media, film, and literature of modern
society, as it descends now through the last phase of its materialist mode.
In answer to this dysfunctional arena, and to feed into an alternative stream,
this article delves into some of the more whole-some relational and
metaphysical dynamics of partnering, by apprehending what takes place
beneath appearances.

Entering into relationship

A karmic bond is often the initial drawing force between partners. In a karmic
relationship the underlying magnetism can be powerful, as a deeper wisdom
works with the alchemic process of karmic balance. Despite suffering entailed
(often a semi-sweet tableau), a rich harvest awaits.
Once the mainstay of learning has been processed, by one, or both, of the
partners, the drawing force can abate.
Many long to transcend the karmic level, and move into the grace of a soulmate communion. Either way, karma or grace - the shadow, or pain body,
is activated to ensure spiritual growth.
Bringing consciousness into the arena of shadow is a central raison detre for
relationship. No matter who you hook up with, whether the relationship is
about karma, grace, destiny, or ones soul-mate - call it just plain lucking out shadow will be along for the dance.

Especially for pre-midlife adults, unborn children also create a powerful

attracting force between partners. These souls striving to be born select their
would-be parents and influence them to get together. The force these
spiritual babies exert accounts for much of the principle energy moving
within a couples attraction and sexual intensity. The force of attraction can
decrease to the extent the spiritual-plane activity of the children abates. For
example, by age 7, children have incarnated their own etheric body, by 14,
their own astral body. Each phase reduces parental cohesion orchestrated on

the spiritual plane, as the child moves deeper into incarnation.

By midlife, a more soulful aspect of a (functional) individuals biography often

plays a bigger part in the bonding force.

A key aspect for transcending the child factor, as well as enhancing the
union in general, entails co-forming a foundation before engaging on a sexual
level. The typical model of relationship that Hollywood has been serving up to
ticket-paying masses tends to deliver lovers to the same unviable arena of
relating that its own celebrities find themselves so often engaged in.
About 95% of love stories that modern film portray entail new partners
advancing to sexuality at lightning speed - if not on the first day, then at least
in the first week. On film you can do anything. In reality, this factor invites an
early dissolution - or, at very least makes for a precarious basis for unity and
rapport.
Imagine re-writing these barren scripts, so that a couple spends considerable
time in the initial courtship phase, exploring all manner of experience sharing interests, getting to know each others diverse facets, cultivating a
soul-deep affinity. In effect, developing a solid foundation upon which to
sustain the relationship.
Imagine, also, the dimension nurtured in a prolonged courtship, and the
compelling body of experience that gets passed by when a couple
depreciates their relationship. Driven by whims of unconscious craving, the
intense fire of sexuality takes on a force of its own, so that these potential
aspects of intimacy get short-circuited.
A foundational phase also lends room for resolving obstacles, including left
over issues from past relationships, in preparation for the new communion.
Partners can become active during the courtship phase at clearing
themselves, as well as helping each others process (most of which is about
being supportive, since every individual ultimately has to accomplish such
clearing by virtue of their own intention - it cant be done for someone).

Love at first sight can be a very real phenomena - but, then, it is only first
sight this life. . . which brings to mind that statement people so often throw
around carelessly, You only live once. I always add on - . . .yes, but its
forever. . . .

Engaging, once in relationship

As a noted spiritual counselor has stated, The purpose of relationship is not

to make one happy, but more conscious.
Relationship in action tends to address the existential question, where am I?
Finding orientation within the souls terrain is a natural by-product of relating.
We know its working when a relationship induces the partners to fulfill their
destinies, to optimize their potential.

Forgiveness at every turn opens doors of deeper awareness. The word itself,
for-give - suggests that one give before having full comprehension of a
situation, an act that serves as a catalyst to remove barriers to
understanding.
At the same time, a true act of forgiveness does not entail condoning a
dysfunction.

When I consider what a relationship would look like when it has evolved
beyond the karmic level to a level of grace, I come to a perspective that
views partners as revolving spheres that interact - an image that honors the
multi-facetted nature of a human being, in which dynamics that might
otherwise be shunned can find a place at the banquet of relation, and so
come to wholeness.
On the face of the sphere are arrayed all possible conceptions and roles of an
individual. As the sphere turns, the individual moves from vulnerable, to
invulnerable, parental, to child-like. Aspect by aspect, moving through
feminine, masculine, or balanced states. One phase as a lover, the next as
a poet, servant, guru, healer, patient, humorist, teacher, student, visionary,
seeker. . . an endless cast of roles. Meanwhile, the partners sphere is also
revolving, engaging an equally limitless array of inter-weavings.
In a whole-seeking relationship this modality can work, as long as the
partners are cognizant of the ever-revolving sphere. Problems can arise, if a
partner gets stuck in one dynamic for a lengthy duration. But with a
reasonable degree of functionality, the dance of partnering can assume all
manner of dimension and proportion.

This becomes love acting in freedom. Practicing the engagement of ones

Being, and facilitating the same in ones partner.

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J Graf is the coordinator of Insight21 and Earth Vision - doorways for the 21st
Century.

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