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Volume 3, Issue 2
CONTENTS
COLUMNS
The Fashionable and the Frivolous
Trapped Like the Devil
by
Alan Bennet Ilagan pg. 10
Gay Mans Musings
Letters to a Fabulous 8 Year Old...
by
Nyvek Moshier pg. 12
To Be a Blessing
Reclaiming God, Faith& Community
by
Deborah Reyome pg. 17
Trans View
Whos in the Circle?
by
Moonhawk Riverstone pg. 20
Ask the Lawyer
Protecting Parent Child Relationships
by
Geri Pomerantz pg. 26
Ask Mark Your Tax Questions
by
Mark D. Witecki pg. 24
Michael Cooks and You Can Too
Happy St. Patricks Day
by
Michael Meade pg. 29
Out in the Garden
How Sweet It Is
by
Heres Guffman
Waiting in Albany
by
Directors Note
pg. 7
From the Editors Desk
pg. 7
Quick Clips
pg. 9
The Pride Center is No Longer Offering Case
Management Services
pg. 23
Affiliates Calendar
Advertisers Index
Weekly Events Calendar
Special Events Calendar
CommUNITY Calendar
pg. 25
pg. 30
pg. 34
pg. 35
pg. 36
DIRECTORS
NOTE
As we are celebrating our
45th anniversary as the communitys center, it is important to take pause and acknowledge the significance of
the moment.
It is equally important for me
to thank you, who have been
an integral part of the Pride
Center and our local LGBTQ
community. Today, in 2015,
the landscape of 1970 seems
unimaginable. It was a time
that homosexuality was a
mental diagnosis. When some
of our founders Ron Alheim
and Ernie Reaugh could only
post flyers at midnight when
they wouldnt be assaulted
and the flyers wouldnt be defaced. Joe Norton fought hard
to get the Centers name in the
phonebook- to even publish
the word gay was a fight - but
he knew it would save lives
FROM THE
EDITORS DESK
by
M i c h a e l We idr ic h
the years. It feels like Ive always been affiliated with the
Center from a volunteer, to
a Board member, now as
a Staff member. It dawned
on me that Im going on my
10th year! In that time, I have
worked with 3 Executive Directors (Keith Hornbrook,
Nora Yates and now Curran
Streett), 6 Board Presidents
(Mike Mcardle, Paul Leyden,
Judy Disco, Gwen Wright,
Ken Mortensen, and now
Pat Wood) and several other
Board members and staff.
And as we now welcome 6
new Board members during
this anniversary year, Ive become very conscious of us be-
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Circles are by their nature inclusive, a universal symbol for cycles
of all kinds, particularly those cycles
of Nature. Virtually all indigenous
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and goddesses we knew the circle of
life and our place in it.
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broken circles. Our whole culture, indeed, our whole world runs on them.
Theres not a successful blockbuster
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Maybe, its time to ask--whos in the
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Almost 20 years ago on a sunny
Wednesday morning, April 19, 1995,
the Oklahoma bombing took place
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instant. Amid the shock waves that
morning, I called a friend to check in
about a mutual friend whom we knew
was already on a plane to have a key
role in the investigation and the recovery at the site. The friend, whose
name and reputation as a founder of
the lesbian separatist movement in
this country would not be known to
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Kimberly Eck grew up on a farm in Pennsylvania. She spent six years living in the
Midwest and moved to Albany in 2007. She now lives in the Helderberg neighborhood
of Albany with two Boston Terriers - who are adorable. Kimberly owns a business with her
husband called Classy Body Art. Its a piercing studio dedicated to providing safe, professional piercings, high-quality American-made titanium and gold jewelry, and empowering
clients to demand safe piercings. With a background is in public health, Kimberly is most
excited about the Pride Center's public health-related initiatives, especially clinician education and youth outreach. She believes that Community-based organizations are essential
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excited about joining the board because it affords her the opportunity to develop new skills, especially strategic planning.
She, along with the UAlbany students she teaches, are looking
forward to supporting the Pride Center through grant writing.
Joseph Bailey is excited to be joining the Board of Directors. He earned his B.A. in Political Science from SUNY Cortland in 2009, and currently works as an Assistant Vice President of Retail Banking for TD Bank. Joe and his wife Samantha live in Voorheesville with
their new daughter Abigail, and their yellow lab Annabelle.
Linda Richardson grew up in Rye, New York and have
lived in Connecticut, Montana, California, Arkansas and
Joseph Bailey
Maine. Linda is anxious to use what she has learned throughout her career at Siena College, whose mission is to promote
lifelong learning, to make even a small contribution to the Pride Center. She is excited by
the ability to be a part of a community that has struggled to be accepted and respected and
the Pride Center serves as a strong advocate. Linda is addicted
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stalking ICE -T. She is looking forward to meeting everyone.
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that question because he couldve written about a man and a woman and he
didnt. He wrote a story about two men.
He wrote about two men in a bondage state. He wrote about a young boy.
A lot of women asked me if I was going to cast women in this play and I
said no, its not a female play. This is a
story about men. This is a story about
men and mens perspective on life
and the world and its sexual. I think
theres a lot of sexuality between Vladimir and Estragon. I think maybe you
know, theres nothing else out there and
theyre dependent on each other but
they dont resist each other. They bond,
they hide, they show compassion and
love for one another, they bicker with
each other as if they had been married
fifty years so is there an underlying homosexual theme in this play? Yeah. Is
there a sexual theme in this play? Yeah,
of course there is. They show love for
each other. They show hatred for each
other. They show anger for each other.
They complete each others sentences
theyre a couple.
Members
cast list. We dont know who God is up
there anymore than we know who Godot is down here. If I were to answer it,
part of me would say Godot is death.
Were waiting to die. We go from this
moment to the next moment to the
next moment waiting for the moment
when the moments stop. Thats what
I think Godot is, waiting for our final
moments.
Samuel
Becketts Endgame. Theres a ticking
in my head. Hamm. That is my favorite
play of all plays. In my silence I hear
that dripping and it reminded me that
in our life, it is fading away every day
and those moments of hearing that silence, and I guess I hear the silences
in Godot and I hear the silences in
Endgame and theyre just always riveting to me because when you hear the
silences, you hear the ticking and I love
Hamm for that.
That was the play that made me understand that theatre can be nothing more
than an actor onstage. Im not fond of
props. Im not fond of fancy costumes.
Im not fond of set changes. All you
need to do a play is to listen to the
voice of an actor and what he or she is
doing in that particular moment is the
most fascinating part of seeing a show.
Handling a prop or moving a chair, it
all becomes cumbersome and it takes
away from what I like best about theatre which is the storytelling of the actor, so all that stuff Im not interested
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an actor do with a moment youve been
given onstage and hearing that tickingtick, tick, tick-that makes me excited.
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Saturday 3/7
Leadership Development Council Meet and Greet The Gay Soiree!
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This event is for anyone who is looking to:
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Friday, February 6
Romaine Brooks Gallery
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5-9 pm
Free!
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The State Room
100 State St., Albany
7-11pm
Soiree Ticket: $45 per person/$65 per couple,
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Open Auditions for All Performers
Friday 3/20 & Tuesday 3/24: Be
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auditions and coaching for all types of
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In Our Own Voices
245 Lark St., Albany
(518) 432-4188
FUN & GAMES / ETCETERA
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KARAOKE
Mondays: Waterworks Pub - 10pm 2am, No Cover
76 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 465-9079
Thursdays: Oh Bar - 10pm - 1am,
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304 Lark St., Albany, (518) 463-9004
Fridays: Waterworks Pub - 10pm
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76 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 465-9079
Rocks - 9pm-12am
77 Central Ave, Albany, (518) 472-3588
Saturdays: Circus Cafe - 10pm - 2am,
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392 Broadway, Saratoga, (518) 583-1106
OPEN MIC / LITERARY
Wednesday, 3/11: Live from the
Livingroom open mic w. featured poet
Robert Eaton - 7pm
The Pride Center, Garden Level
332 Hudson Ave, Albany, (518) 462-6138
Thursday 3/05 & 3/19: Open Minded Mic & Talent Showcase (for all
performers)- 8-10pm
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Out of the Closet I Am (for women
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Wednesdays- 6:30pm-8pm
Mens Empowerment Group: 1st &
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Carolyn
Beeker
interviewed
Joe at his
Loudonville
home.
He opened
the
garden
gate,
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naked, and
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I attended Joe Nortons memorial service at the First Unitarian Universalist Society of Albany. Joe was an active
participant there and often acted as a greeter to members and guests for Sunday services. The memorial service was not a somber affair! I spoke about Joes involvement
with S.T.A.R.S [mens fraternal group] and
of my being the last member to be accepted
into S.T.A.R.S a mere month or two before
its demise. A woman praised Norton for
his benevolence in assisting her through
her college years. Others spoke of their first
hand experiences and recollections, ranging from a multitude of Pride Center activities over years, kink experiences, his ministry of prison inmates, student experiences
at SUNY Albany where Joe was professor
of psychology, and his being instrumental
in having the definition of homosexuality
redefined, excluding it as mental illness.
How man aspects of Joes multifaceted life
have become and will become recorded history? Reminiscing Joe Norton may answer
that question.
Advance registration
is appreciated.
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or to volunteer to participate,
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