Tantrik mystic traditions of Bengal speak of the goddess Kali, often addressed as

Tara, as Krishna, locally known as Keshto. Both share the dark-complexion, shyamranga, and their partners, Shiva for Kali, and Radha for Krishna, are fair as camphor,
karpura-gaur. The stories that connect these two very distinct traditions the blood
sacrifice demanding Tantrik tradition of Kali and the vegetarian Brahmanical
Vaishnava tradition of Krishna come through in phrases and couplets that make
up some of the songs of Baul minstrels and even kitchen tales. The overriding
emotion in these stories is one of love, pure love, that transcends the demands and
limitations imposed by customs and law.
Shiva And Shakti
They say that Shiva never spoke a single word until Shakti came into his life as
Parvati. She became not only his wife, but also his student, asking questions,
discussing and deliberating with him, till he revealed the mysteries of life. So, one
day, she asked him, What is love? All he did then was look at her and smile. Tell
me, please, what is love? she asked, turning away to hide her blush. This is what
he said: When you come to me as Annapoorna, the goddess of food, and feed me
and ask for nothing in return, I feel love, for you have taken care of my hunger
unconditionally. When you come to me as Kamakhya, the goddess of pleasure, and
hold me intimately as no one does, I feel love, for you have made me the object of
your desire. This is bhog. This is one kind of love. But there is another kind of love.
When you come to me as Gauri, demure and delicate, and allow me to dominate
you, demand things of you, take you for granted, knowing full well that you cannot
be dominated by anyone, I feel love. You made me play dice, laugh at the simple
pleasure of games. You made me make you dolls and enjoy entertaining you. When
you come to me as Durga, bearing weapons in your hand, and protect me, I feel
secure and safe, and cared for, I also feel love. This is shakti, this is power. By
granting me power over you, by defending me, protecting me, empowering me, you
make me feel loved. This is the second kind of love. But there is yet another kind of
love.
When you dance atop me as Kali, naked with hair unbound, unafraid to be yourself,
unafraid to be powerful and vulnerable and unafraid of being judged and mocked, I
feel love. You make me open my eyes. I realise Lalita, the beautiful one, who is also
Bhairavi, the fearsome one. I realise Mangala, the auspicious one, is also Chandika,
the violent one. I see you totally, without judgement, and I realise I am capable of
seeing the truth. That you allow me to see you fully, without judgement, tells me
that I have become trustworthy. Thus you become the mirror, the Parvati darpan,
that reflects who I am. You help me discover myself. You become my Saraswati. You
reveal the true meaning of darshan. In joy, I dance. I become Nataraja.
Meaning Of Love

Shiva continues: So, there are three kinds of love: love for the body that grants
satisfaction, love for the heart that grants security and love for the head that grants
wisdom. Animals can give the first and the second, only humans can give the third
because they have the third eye hidden within. The first two spring from Kama, god
of desire, and sustain life on earth. But the third kind of love springs from
Kamantaka, from the destruction of desire, unmotivated by fear of death.
Shakti smiled and she offered Shiva a boon for this wonderful answer. And he said,
As Shyama, the dark goddess, who is Kali and Shakti, you have taught me love. You
have danced atop me, forced me to open my eyes, turn from shava (corpse) to
Shiva. Grant me the chance to do the same to you. So the Goddess asked Shiva to
descend on earth as the fair Radha whose love and pining would make her appear
as the dark-one, Krishna.
And it is Radha who taught Krishna the meaning of love as Shakti had once taught
Shiva. He was until he met her a butter-loving cowherd who fought demons
and teased milkmaids, but Radhas presence changed everything. Just as Kali
transformed Shiva into Nataraja, Radha made Krishna take up the flute and make
music.
The Crucial Difference
Just as Kali had made Shiva give up his autonomy and understand the value of the
not-so-autonomous other, the pining beloved, Radha helped Krishna understand the
limitations of society, the struggle between faith in divinity and fidelity for the
husband. Radha was demanding, as Kali once had been. Radha sat on Krishna as
Kali stood on Shiva. The two thus mingled and merged in roles and thoughts and
feelings. But there was one crucial difference.
Kali had made the wandering hermit, Shiva, into a rooted hermit, Shankara. Radha
did the opposite. She remained a flower stuck to the branch of a tree while Krishna
became the bee that moves on after getting enriched with nectar. And so fulfilled by
Radhas love, Krishna left Madhuban for Mathura. Kali had revealed love through
shringara, romance, as only Krishna can. Radha revealed love through vairagya,
renunciation, as only Shiva can.