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by Mz. Pink
SAVING &
INVESTING
Whether it's saving for retirement or college, or protecting your family, your Farmers
Insurance and Financial Services agent can help you determine if a mutual fund fits
your needs and objectives.
You should consider the objectives, risks, charges and expenses of any investment or variable insurance product before purchasing. This and other
Figure out your finances, will it cost you more to pursue this dream job or will you even
out? Will going to school make or break you? If you made the switch but needed time
to get trained will you be comfortable in the transition without a complete lifestyle
change? What if you do receive a pay cut, will you be okay with that? For how long?
How much of a pay cut are you willing to take? Do you have enough in your savings to
make this transition until you make the desired amount of money? If not, what are you
willing to sacrifice to get there and to make ends meet? Make sure you are right with
your bills and finances before making any big leaps.
Do not act on impulse with this, if you have been in your current position for a while
then you are in a comfort zone and going outside of it may cause tension. Make sure
that you go over all the pros and cons of switching careers, communicate with anyone
who the job change might effect. Make sure you are not causing bad blood between
you and anyone else. You need support right now, not someone who feels bitter towards
you for wanting to go a different direction. This includes your current employer and
coworkers and your partner or family who this will directly effect.
Double check with your current employer and make sure that they dont have a position
similar to what youre looking for, if they do maybe it would be a smarter decision to
transfer within the company. This could be very beneficial for you in many ways, and
given your history with the company could be very obtainable without some of the
difficult foot work.
Once youve made the decision you may have to do some interning or freelance work
in that field to gain work experience, this is okay. It helps to land the dream job. Even if
you have to start at the bottom at least you will have some background to help support
yourself and make it easier for you to move up the ladder. Make sure you have the
very best support team, it will make a world of difference, and be open to any and all
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At the end of the day I believe that every citizen should be able to live
and work according to their convictions without fear the government
will come in and force them to do something contrary to their sincerely
held religious beliefs; but the nuance between a valid conscientious
objection and an arbitrary refusal of service lies in the difference between
material cooperation with an act and the superficial involvement with
it such as refusing to dispense abortifacients for example which might
actually prevent an abortion from happening. However, refusing to bake
a wedding cake on the other hand, is just an unnecessary irritation that
makes Christians and Christianity appear bigoted, intolerant, and petty.
Indiana Governor Mike Pence, with his super majority of republicans
behind him, signed the Indiana Religious Freedom Act into law on March
26th, saying it ensures that religious liberty is fully protected under
Indiana law. The legislation declares that state and local governments
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unless it is demonstrated that doing so is essential to further a compelling
governmental interest and uses the least restrictive means to further
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religious beliefs, they can do so with impunity and the government will
not do anything about it unless its in its best interest to do so. This law
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plain and simple.
One of the challenges of living in a liberal society is that you have to be
willing to get along with others who may not live according to your moral
values or lifestyle. It is an inevitability of an enlightened people that there
will be instances where personal or visceral disagreements that are based
on ideological, religious, philosophical or academic beliefs will happen.
However, a part of the inherent social contract that we all accept and
adhere to as citizens of this country is that we agree not to force others
to act in accord with our own personal beliefs.
I think it is vitally important to recognize that an individual's right to act
according to their conscience should be protected under the law. However,
the choice of an individual to have an abortion should not also give them
the right to force someone else to participate in a process that another
individual believes is tantamount to homicide. This is just one example of
what would be a serious violation of an individuals freedom of religion.
When religious freedom translates only to mean Christian rights, it
no longer is about religious freedom as intended by the Constitution,
but rather it becomes a blatant opportunity for a government-sanctioned
public display of discrimination by some.
If you are a local business who chooses to discriminate in secret then
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harm has to have already been inflicted or appear about to occur. In your circumstances,
that isnt the case, at least not yet, and I hope that continues to be the situation.
That said, there are still many options open to you. Id start by enlisting your friends in
a no-go zone with your stalker. Ask them to refuse to talk with Troy about you, and to
end any phone calls or conversations where he brings you up.
Im a middle-aged divorced gay male who was married to a woman for over twenty-five
years, so I suppose I should describe myself as bisexual. However, I now consider myself
gay as Im attracted solely to men.
Next, when you run into Troy out in public, refuse to communicate with him. Turn
away, cross the street, or do whatever you must to avoid interacting with him in any
way. In Behavior Modification, this technique is called extinguishing an unwanted
behavior by refusing to reward it.
When I was married and dreamed of being with men sexually, I always assumed that when
and if the time ever came I would easily find all kinds of men who were highly sexed and
open to having it all the time. It now appears I had some unrealistic ideas about how gay
men operate, because pretty much every man Ive dated since my divorce has been a huge
prude.
Be prepared for this to upset him, or even temporarily escalate his behavior, because
thats normal when using the extinguishing process. However, he should eventually see
the futility of continuing his games, and give them up. If not, you can have an attorney
send him a cease and desist letter, and then pursue further legal action if he still doesnt
back off.
Several times Ive gone out with someone for a while and when it looked to me like we knew
each other well enough to take things to a sexual level, the other guy was indignant at the
suggestion, saying they didnt believe in having sex outside of a committed relationship. My
response was, how do you commit to a relationship without first knowing that the sex is
good? They all said theyd just have to take their chances on that, which is not a do-able
option for me, having had unsatisfying sex with a woman for years while I was married.
So after years of dreaming about gay sex, I now find myself dating a bunch of puritans. My
question here is, how to find more guys interested in being friends with benefits?
Finally, you might want to seek some counseling to deal with the frustration and stress
youre experiencing these days. You have a lot on your plate right now, and a therapists
support could help you get through it.
Fred Schloemer, Ed.D., LCSW, is a gay psychotherapist in Louisville. Write him at
fredschloemer63@gmail.com.
To make matters worse, one of the guys Ive quit datingIll call him Troy hereseems
to be almost stalking me. When I broke it off with him, he was hysterical, and said he
didnt know how he was ever going to get over losing our relationship. I said, What
relationship? Weve just had a couple of dates. He professed to be deeply wounded by my
callousness, saying I was The One. At that point, I got pretty creeped out and showed
him the door.
But that wasnt the end of him. Hes now calling my friends and asking them all kinds of
questions about me, including am I dating anyone else yet? He even asked them to put in
a good word for him with me. Yuck . . .
Plus, a number of times when Ive been out shopping, weve run into each other, and hes
pretended to be very surprised at the coincidence, saying, Isnt it funny how we keep
crossing paths? Seems like its meant to be. That really creeped me out.
So my second question here is what to do to shake him off for good? Can I get a restraining
order or file a complaint with the police? What other options are there? I can really use
some help.
Sign me,
Creeped Out in Clarksville
If youre meeting guys through friends arranging blind dates, or at some gay church or
club, let folks know what youre looking for in your dates. Make clear youre not just
looking for sex, but for friends to have sex with. People may be assuming youre seeking
relationships, so make sure they know exactly what you want.
As for your second question, Im certainly no lawyer, but Ive counseled many clients
over the years whove obtained restraining orders. My understanding is that there has to
be a clear and imminent threat before such orders will be issued. In other words, some
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Finance in Focus
By Michael Wright with Edward D Jones
Help Mom with Her Retirement Income Strategy
Mothers Day is almost here. This occasion may have special significance
for you if youve been fortunate enough to have your mother around for
your adult life. So naturally, youll want to bring Mom some flowers or
another gift. But if shes planning to retire soon, you may want to think
about a longer-term way to improve her life namely, by initiating a
conversation about her retirement income strategy.
Of course, she may already have matters well in hand. But a great many
people on the verge of retirement have not planned for those years, so you
may be able to provide some valuable suggestions. Here are a few ideas:
Boost contributions to retirement plans. If Mom is still working,
urge her to contribute as much as she can afford to her IRA and her
employer-sponsored retirement plan, such as a 401(k). The chances are
pretty good that she will be spending many years in retirement in
fact, the average life expectancy for a 65-year-old woman is 20.5 more
years, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. So
shell want to accumulate as much as possible before she bids adieu
to the working world.
Discuss appropriate withdrawal rates. Encourage your mother to
meet with a financial professional to determine an appropriate rate
of withdrawal from her investments. To help ensure that she doesnt
outlive her resources, she needs to avoid taking out too much during
her early years of retirement.
Take care of legal arrangements. If you havent already done so, ask
your mother if she has drawn up the important legal documents related
to her estate plans. Does she have a will? Has she created a durable power
of attorney, which allows her to name someone to make financial and
health care decisions on her behalf if she becomes incapacitated? As you
know, this is a sensitive topic, so youll want to approach it with care.
Evaluate Social Security options. Your mother is probably well aware
that she can start taking Social Security as early as age 62, but will get
much bigger monthly payments if she waits until her full retirement
age, which will likely be 66 or 67. But she may not know that she might
be able to benefit from a Social Security spousal strategy that could
result in her receiving more income than she could get by just taking
her own benefits.
For example, if her spouse is the higher wage earner and can afford to
delay taking benefits, your mother could eventually receive higher survivor
benefits. Or, your mother and her spouse could employ a file and suspend
strategy. Under this strategy, her spouse, upon reaching full retirement
age, files for retirement benefits and then immediately requests to have
those benefits suspended. As a result, your mother can file for spousal
benefits, which would be larger than what she would receive at her full
retirement age. To make sure they are making any Social Security-related
moves correctly, though, your mother and her spouse will want to consult
with a tax advisor who is thoroughly familiar with Social Security rules.
You want your mother to enjoy a long, happy and active retirement. So,
talk to her about the moves she can make to help turn that aspiration
into reality.
This article was written by Edward Jones for use by your local Edward
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all over the place still thinking I was where I have been for way over a
decade.
Next step: Print cards with my photo, the new address, and phone. Did
I mention the buyers also got the office phone Ive used for most of my
calls for over 20 years? Call it: they will be glad to sell you an ad or have
your news!
Anyway, I figured handing the cards out would solve a lot of the problem
but it didnt. I was still getting ads for discount bicycles, bras and stuff
I wont describe in a family newspaper though I was getting fewer. The
issue here is that while I shop at their local stores, the e-mail lists are often
kept in some far-off places like Albany, India or Frackville (Yes, its a real
town in Pennsylvania. Look it up!) That meant the well-meaning locals
knew where I was but not the folks keeping the lists, despite notifying
them.
Next step: Go through all the errant e-mails and see where they are
coming from. Places (like the bike shop, where I bought a friend a Fuji
mountain bike for Christmas in 2012 and got added to their list) I never
go to or need ads from all have an unsubscribe button on every ad.
Look for it. Its usually in TINY type at the VERY bottom of their e-mail
or web pages. Click it and you should be unsubscribed. Yeah! No more
ads for mountain bikes!
Doing that got rid of half of what was left, but what about the ones I am
still (as of this writing) getting? Those like that tattoo are the real
challenges. And like telling someone the name of their boyfriend in 1997
or their ship when they served in 2000 in tats are pretty irrelevant to most
of us, trying to tell a best friend in Louisville or my Aunt Doris in Tulsa
that the old address is no longer valid is a tough sell.
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One old friend who sent some photos (of us in the 1960s as we do go back
that far) got genuinely upset when I reminded him again of the change
and told me Im trying to survive cancer. I apologise... I did not have a
reply for that and know if it takes a few more weeks the great new friends
who bought the paper will continue to send along his letters.
But this being 2015 its not ONLY about e-mails from friends or ads. Your
e-mail address is everything from your discount card for the grocery or
drugstore to your boarding pass to fly and the way you get into iTunes
and Netflix. Thats a lot of places you need to change, correct and re-do.
When it came to my iTunes it was particularly difficult as I have accounts
and credits in several different iTunes stores. Theres one for most every
nation on earth and some apps (free and pay) are only in certain ones.
For instance, if you wanna watch ABC (Australian Broadcasting Co.)
shows or BBC iPlayer from the UK youll need their respective apps and
a VPN (virtual Private Network) which we have talked about many times
here and which fools their server into thinking you are in Melbourne
or Perth or Glasgow while you actually are in Portland or Dayton. This
bypasses geographic restrictions but creates a lot of places you will
need to tell you are moving.
Each iTunes store demands a unique e-mail. And then theres the matter
of passwords. My iTunes U.S. account was so early that I had only six
digits in it...but these days they (like most sites) have a demand for eight
or more with special characters, upper and lower case and on and on.
Suffice to say changing it once was a hassle, but changing it multiple
times was a Xanax moment!
But wait...I am still not done. If you Tweet, Facebook or otherwise use
social networks you will need to inform them, too. And Ill still bet Aunt
Doris wont quite get it for awhile since shes past 80 now.
So how do you make a possible change less painful? First, do not use your
company or work e-mail to sign up for anything but legit work stuff. That
way if you quit, retire, get fired or leave you wont be locked out of all the
items you need and want. Changing your e-mail with things you want to
keep usually means every contact will send a confirmation e-mail to the
old and new address. These all ask if you REALLY did want the change
and some have a link you will need to click to verify that yes, its really
you and yes, you really do mean to switch.
If that link is sent to an address you have no access to, you wont get it.
That means no Netflix, iTunes or other sites until you start over or hassle
with a lot of folks for a long time. Luckily, I did not have that take place
thanks to the kind folks who bought my business, but in most cases it
may not be near as friendly. Now, weeks on am still seeing four or five
daily e-mails forwarded to me from my sold account. If you lose a job or
get downsized, you might well find yourself locked out of that company
e-mail within minutes, so do not use it for your personal stuff. The boss
will like that and you will, too. And do not think this cant or wont happen.
Right now, while you can access everything is the time to spend a few
hours changing. Like insurance its just good common sense.
So where to go? What address to use thats truly yours? Well, most
providers (like U-Verse, at&t, your cable company, etc.) usually give you
a free address or two with your plan. Not many of us actually use those
(and you can lose that, too, if you change providers causing issues as
above). Or you can buy a domain name. Why not be Ann@ann.com? If
thats taken try annlouisville.com or ann.(and your college name).com or
.net or something cute or memorable. Doing this costs anywhere from
$5 to $25 depending what you pick and where you buy your domain. We
use bigrock.com but godaddy.com and many others exist and all know
whats available and whats taken. Give em a look.
Or get a free Yahoo, Outlook.com or Gmail account. Those cost nothing
and while they are just the big three there are hundreds of other free
e-mail spots out there so do a search. But however you do it, get one (or
two) addresses which are all your own and cannot be taken at the whim
of a boss or by a corporate sale (or corporate name change) or anyone
else easily. If you do that now and change the things (and people) you
really need or want to find you all you will need to give up if and when
will be the real work stuff.
Trust me. I know. And now if you will excuse me, Ill tell you I need to
call my bank again and see if I can get hold of Aunt Doris since Im sure
shes trying to text me on my land line. But that is an entirely different
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By Michael Chanak
This will be a short story of a small town Goose in three parts. Never,
ever, assume life will work according to some master plan. I am somehow
thankful for the chaos. It reminds me of my own foolishness and of that
of the human race. Still in all whatever life offers you, Goose believes
life is a free buffet if only we see the fun in stuff.
Now before we get too many months past our local gay-LA where $175
meals were served and folks wore fancy dresses lets do some picks and
pans. I did offer my congratulations publicly to two folks that were
lauded at the dinner, Paula Ison (a Cincinnati transgender activist) a
volunteerism award, and our ghey councilman Chris Seelbach for a
leadership award. When a group gets it right - I say it, and when they
get it wrong, Ill share it with reasons. It is called fairness.
What does amuse me is based on those simple statements of congratulations,
I was proclaimed a shill for Mr. Seelbach and a lover of A gays hence
losing whatever street credibility a queer can have in the world of gayLAs. What it points out to me, just like politics in general, everyone is
so damn reactive and so in a hurry to stick someone else in a box they
overlook facts.
Youll find my carcass is too big to pigeon hole (sorry) or stick in a box.
Now, did I see the gay-LA dinner folks apologize for my diss four
years back? Of course, not! I sat at their gay-LA watching them
acknowledge someone who was not of working age for diversity work
at P&G, while I sat unacknowledged a few rows back. Sure, I get
informal acknowledgements it wasnt right, and oh, those people
are no longer here. I say, no one should be confused here. I can
be happy for others when they get their just acknowledgement and
still hold this dinner club group accountability for rewriting diversity
history at P&G. A Goose has a long memory. Acknowledging recent
good organizational behavior doesnt mean I am obligated to overlook
or minimize their revisions to history. You see dear reader of the
Goose, I was there and stood alone for years in the P&G workplace.
Then, I got a call from an emergency service for seniors. The kind of
call that resets my mentality when I learned my 89 year ago mother had
fallen at home. My sister and I had struggled for ten years to get Mom
(the Granny Goose) out of her home, and into senior living. Now, there
will be no independent senior living. Instead, rehab followed by assisted
living and eventually to a nursing home. It is sad, not because it is my
Mother, but to all of us who have elderly parents who refuse to confront
the inevitable changes life will bring. All I can offer anyone is if your
parents wont listen to you, find someone they trust to have that talk.
No one should wait to 89 years old to settle their funeral arrangements,
or downsize. The Goose has a saying about one should live life Spring
Grove ready. (Spring Grove is a local cemetery). Enjoy life, make a
difference, but dont expect others to unravel your mess. My hat is off to
my sister who has lived nearby my Mother for years. Sister Sue is also a
nurse, so it makes understanding some of the hurdles more manageable.
Weve emptied Moms house, put it up for sale, and saw to details that
should have been dealt with years ago. Please have that talk with your
parents today!
When visiting Mom, it didnt take long to clock the queers on the staff.
They read me like a book as well, not to say my rainbow scarf doesnt
give it away. But one of the staff said to me, wait till he meets so and
so. Funny all this can happen around my Mother who watches Fox
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Recently, Ive lost two prominent figures in my life to death. We did not
share familial genetic material, nor did we share a household but both of
these men had a significant impact in my life. One was very involved in
the leather/kink community. The other, while possessing the heart of a
leather man, rarely ventured out into the community. Both had partners,
one of thirty seven years, the other of five years. Both were Daddy/boy
relationships but how that dynamic played itself out within the boundaries
of the relationships was vastly different. While the relationship longevity
time frames were not equal, the passion in each of these couples was
parallel and palpable. One of the deceased was in their thirties, the other,
in his late sixties. The circumstances surrounding their deaths were vastly
different, one a yearlong battle, the other an abrupt, senseless, confusing
ending. Even the amount of time the individuals were a part of my life,
four years and twenty five years, respectfully, was remarkably different.
However, even with the notable differences, the responses to the death
of each of these men were equally as powerful for family and friends.
Both of these men touched many lives in so many ways and left their
partners, friends and families, grief stricken. Grief and the accompanying
sadness are our constant companions when we are confronted with this
particular point on the wheel of life. Grief is the great leveler in that it
is an emotion that we will all experience to some degree in our lifetime.
I feel for the two men who, without their partners, are trying to figure
out what the future has in store for them. Predictions are best left to
the psychics and seers. The best we can do is leave our spirits open and
trust that grieving our losses will allow us grow. It hurts but is through
the hurt and sadness that we know we have loved and been loved.
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Id venture to say that if one has not experienced grief, one truly has not
experienced a full life. Maybe thats the real lesson of death, how have we
experienced life between the inevitable transitions? Transitions, in that
physical death, while the ultimate transition, is not our only life transition.
We experience multitudinous transitions as we travel the earthly landscape,
each of them with their own idiosyncratic initiations. Whether its leaving
home for the first time, marriage or divorce, graduations, new jobs, or
gender reassignments, we will grieve for what we had as well as fear what
lies ahead. Because fear and sadness are not emotions that usually leave
us feeling particularly powerful, we tend to avoid them. The result is
unprocessed grief that ultimately adds additional discomfort when we
experience fresh instances of what weve tried to avoid. Perhaps that is
one of the many lessons of death, to learn how to experience the emotions
that inevitably follow endings and beginnings. It certainly forces us to
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Life sometimes has a funny way of trying to get our attention. Im sure
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random act, only to later question the reason behind the experience. The
happening can be a big bang or a barely perceptible bubble; either can be
impactful enough to give us cause for pause. Whether the experience is
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he dazzled the world with his athletic prowess and personal story: his
friendship with glitterati, his HIV journey, his coming out, and of course
his longtime friendship with Ryan White.
Louganis was coming to Indianapolis to promote a new book on the 25th
anniversary of Whites death. Local anti-RFRA forces got an offer for him
to make public appearances or help in any way. He attended a meeting
of the Indianapolis City-County Council on March 30 which passed an
anti-RFRA resolution. He spoke to the council and was enthusiasticallyreceived.
The next two days contained multiple Louganis moments, and I was the
tour guide. With Greg and his near-constant companion, an adorable
Jack Russell terrier.
THE GOVERNOR and THE SPEAKER
On March 31, Greg decided to attend the morning press conference of
Gov. Mike Pence. Simple enough, right?
Wrong.
We entered the State Library for the 11 a.m. presser and quickly the
governors handlers decided we shouldnt be there. The State Library
is across the street from the Statehouse. As if the RFRA stench would
somehow be cured 300 yards away.
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Greg tweeted the rude exit, and within five minutes the breathless staffers
for Bosma were in front of us: We want you to come across the street
and watch this press conference in our office.
The press conference was carried live on TVby then, the RFRA brouhaha
was an epidemic of huge proportion. Business groups and allies were
meeting nearby to formulate their response and Pence trotted out his lame
defense of that picture. The secret signing ceremony whose graphic
evidence was straight out of central casting.
We were ushered into the Speakers office to greet his entire leadership
team. They were already legislative adversaries on this issue, but they
were painstakingly polite. They did not understand the national impact
of their legislative action.
And within three minutes, Greg had them in the palm of his hand.
He explained his dozens of visits to a welcoming city and state. How
he had been treated with love and respect, sometimes under difficult
circumstances. His longtime friendship with the iconic Ryan White and
the media event that was his funeral 25 years prior. And one sentence
created a gasp in the Speakers office:
I sat in California and watched this RFRA stuff and thought thats not
the Indiana I know and love, said Louganis. It made me feel very
unwelcome here. Instantly.
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indeed getting help from Max Martin, the pop attempts will keep coming
till her money runs out.
Another artist who failed to make a splash for the first time in years is
Rihanna. Her first single off of a yet to be released eighth studio album
Four Five Seconds was certainly not helped by the antics of Kanye
West. However in this case, the material just isnt connecting with fans.
The second single is even more of a step away from pop radio. Articles
and music writers have claimed that Bitch Better Have My Money will
have a strong showing in the clubs, but I think the gay clubs will pass on
it. To me, it is the same song (and video) as Pour It Up and that song
went nowhere. I think the twerking trend that plagued the gay clubs
last year has come to a quick end, like dubstep. The only people who
still do it are the bachelorette groupies who wander in and try to guilt
gay club deejays into playing Ginuwines Pony!
I am excited to play Ivy Levans song Biscuit, even though it refers to
something Ive never had the opportunity to taste, and no amount of butter
or jam is going to change that. This girl has an amazing voice coupled
with an edgy sound. Mixes by Dave Aude and Ralphi Rosario should
push this song to the top of the dance charts even though the song will
not make the radio due to the subject matter. As I am writing this article,
Giorgio Moroders song Right Here Right Now featuring Kylie Minogue
is at number two on the Billboard dance chart. I am hoping it makes it
to number one. It would be amazing to see this artist/producer make the
top of the chart again, and the song is certainly worthy. I wish him luck!
Nick Jonas has put out a new video for the previously released track
Chains. So why point this out? Well the first video is a dark, violent,
and deep piece that expresses the emotion of the song. Seeing him in
a dirty torn white t-shirt doesnt hurt either. The new Wynwood Walls
Edition is a shiny pop infused film that makes him look like a Backstreet
Boy. This new version makes no sense. It looks like an adult Disney
Electric Parade that is totally at odds with the songs premise. Can we
drop this and see if there is a third single on that album Nick!
Well that wraps it up for this month. I hope everyone gets out and supports
the local nightlife in your area. Im sure your favorite deejay would love
to see your face on the floor. The dancefloor that is! Next month is Pride
Month! I cant believe its already here. See you soon!
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by Bill Elliott
The past year has been a stellar one for Hollywood, with something to appeal
to just about every taste in movies: action blockbusters (American Sniper,
Hunger Games, Guardians of the Galaxy), critical favorites (Birdman, The
Grand Budapest Hotel, The Theory of Everything), and low-key, independent
sleepers (Mr. Turner, Whiplash, Boyhood).
While watching and listening to movies in eye-popping 3-D and wraparound stereo in large, air-conditioned theaters is still the norm for most
people in North America, there are so many outlets for movie-watching
these days that you no longer need to leave the comfort of your own
home to enjoy films. DVDs (especially through 24-hour-a-day vendors like
Redbox, often situated outside grocery stores, all-night pharmacies, and
shopping malls) are still popular, but you still have to leave the house to
get them, sometimes in the rain or snow!
Streaming films online provides you with greater choice, access, and
immediacy than multiplexes or vendors like Redbox. If you feel like
watching a horror film, hey presto! You can find a 70s classic like The
Exorcist or the latest gory splatter film. If you want a romance or a musical,
you can choose from Hollywoods Golden Age of Cinema or a brand new
LGBT independent film. Netflix, Amazon Instant Video, HBO Go, Hulu,
YouTube, and dozens of free online channels provide more films than
anyone could possibly see in a lifetime. All at your fingertips24/7.
The downside, of course, is that you still have to pay for the privilege of
watching movies onlineone way or another. HBO Go is free as long as
you are an HBO cable subscriber; Netflix charges a flat monthly fee for
its services; Amazon Prime (which you have to join to access Amazon
Instant Video) charges an annual fee, plus add-ons for new releases and
popular films. Crackle and other channels are free but run commercials
every ten minutes or so, making watching a feature length film painful.
Another drawback to watching films in the comfort of your home is that
you are limited by your hardware. If you have a 60 flat screen TV with
a surround sound entertainment unit, and you like action films, then
great! Its almost like watching at a multiplex. But, if (like me) you prefer
quieter, more reflective movies, size doesnt matter so much. I am happy
watching a comedy on my iPhone. The jokes sound just as funny. And
for most movies, a reasonably sized TV screen works just fine.
For example, I saw Birdman and The Grand Budapest Hotel on the big
screen last year, and watching them again recently on my TV screen, using
Amazon Instant Video, the experience was just as enjoyable.
When the Oscars came around in February, I was really torn because I
loved Birdman and The Grand Budapest Hotel so much. I wanted both to
sweep as many categories as possible. Michael Keaton is fabulous as the
embittered former Hollywood actor who tries to resurrect his flagging
career with a Broadway production of an obscure play in Birdman. As
Riggan Thomson, Keaton is a walking time bombneurotic, insomniac,
prone to drunken binges and temper tantrums. Ralph Fiennes also gives
a tour-de-force master class as the suave and dapper Monsieur Gustave
H. in The Grand Budapest Hotel. Both films utilize exceptional ensemble
casts, and while Birdman is dark and satirical, Wes Andersons film is
witty, charming, and just as off-the-wall as all of his previous films.
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Birdman is simply a stunning film on every level. The script is razor sharp
and understatedly funny. The dialogue sounds like real people talking, even
when they are talking pretentiously. The small ensemble cast (Keaton,
Edward Norton, Naomi Watts, Andrea Riseborough, and Emma Stone) is
near flawless, giving the kind of intimate, up-close performances that are
usually confined to the theatre. But this IS theatertheatre masquerading
as film.
Visually, the film is visceral and energizing. Director Alejandro Gonzlez
Irritu planned to shoot Birdman in one single take. While some
manipulation has been done in the cutting room, the film has, for the
most part, the feeling of one seamless, continuous shot. This gives the
film an immediacy and intimacy that is breathtaking. It also captures
the emotional and psychological constriction that is suffocating Keatons
character.
On one level Birdman is a satire that takes on the superficiality of modern
popular culture, skewering our pretensions and petty obsession with trivial
things. But as it chronicles Riggan Thomsons struggle to redefine himself
through his work and relationships, to find relevance in an increasingly
meaningless world, it becomes a very serious and very important work
of art. It tells an emotionally engaging story of redemption, renewal, and
hope.
The Grand Budapest Hotel is much lighter in tone than Birdman, but no
less artfully constructed. A nod to classic Hollywood filmmaking as well
as a hommage to European cinema, it combines elements of the murdermystery, art-heist, and jailbreak film with political intrigue, insurrection,
and war. There is romance and comedy a-plenty, with a more specific tip
of the hat to the ever-popular buddy movie.
Infused with nostalgia for an age of lost innocence, the film also harks back
to a time when people and places seemed more elegant and sophisticated.
As in all of Andersons previous films, the plot of The Grand Budapest
Hotel is loopily convoluted and mannered but the writer-directors control
of his material is steady and self-assured. He leads the audience down
dark, comically twisted passages and we are happy to follow. The story
is a house of cards of bizarrely interconnected incidents and Anderson
is a master of the visual and thematic non sequitur.
In its mlange of narrative and visual styles, the film draws comparisons
with Bunuel, the Coen Brothers, David Lynch, Guy Maddin, and Lars von
Trier. Like Maddin and von Trier, Andersons films often play fast and
loose with geography and history, but are very much grounded in actual
places and real historical periods.
The films ensemble cast almost reads as a Whos Who of American, British,
and international cinema: Fiennes, F. Murray Abraham, Adrien Brody,
Willem Dafoe, Jeff Goldblum, Edward Norton, Jude Law, Harvey Keitel,
Tilda Swinton, Saoirse Ronan, Tom Wilkinson, and Bob Balaban. There
are also cameos by Anderson alumni like Bill Murray, Jason Schwartzman,
Owen Wilson, and George Clooney (in a blink-and-youll-miss-it shot).
Even with such a stellar cast enmeshed in a thrillingly entertaining tale,
it is the eponymous hotel that steals each and every scene. The Grand
Budapest Hotel is simply breathtaking.
If you didnt get a chance to catch Birdman and The Grand Budapest Hotel
when they were in theaters, and you dont welcome the idea of trekking to
the local video store, you can check out these Oscar-winners and others
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