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beautiful thing. However, staying out late on Saturday nights does make
waking up on Sunday morning a tougher task than usual. Growing up in
a traditional church, I was taught that my attire should be presentable;
in todays society, most would call it a "business casual" look. Not only
did we dress accordingly to respect the house of God, but hey, you
never knew who was going to visit your church so you always stayed
sharp, especially if you were single. The mentality that most men and
women have is that "Church is the best place to find a partner".
Personally I agree with this notion. So my question to believers is, "why
are there so many single women in the church are they doing
something wrong"? This question has been asked countless times and
has even been analyzed by Christian relationship experts. As a man of
God who desires to unite with a Christian woman, I decided to do my
own research with the intention of forming a hypothesis from a young
believers point of view. Of course I couldn't do this by myself, so I
interviewed several single Christian women who shared some
interesting points of view as well.
Writing on such an intriguing topic was somewhat intimating because
of the vast amount of information to be discussed. I also had some
concerns about what others might think of my interpretation and
conclusion, affecting so many women of God. First and foremost
women are very interesting and unique. Their power over a man is
beyond measure. They can make a man the happiest or the saddest
man on Earth all in one day. When you think about women and how
they operate its quite difficult to understand how they do the things
they do. Ironically, while writing this article the song "Superwoman" by
Alicia Keys was one of the songs that played on my ITunes playlist. I
certainly took that as a sign of how extraordinary women really are.
Women carry more titles than the Lakers and the Celtics combined. If
you know anything about basketball you know thats a whole lot of
titles! In a previous article, I wrote about how men arent Manning-Up
and taking care business which puts the woman in a position where she
has to literally become a "superwoman" to play both roles as mother
and father. Fortunately I was raised by both of my parents in a good
Godly Christian household. Though both parents were there and very
much active in their children's lives, I noticed something special and
unique about how my mother handled her many roles as a mother,
wife, first lady, business owner, counselor, friend, daughter, sister,
teacher, minister and community activist. To this day we still don't know
how my mom juggles all her titles and remains positive, strong and sane
in each role. We know we account God for sure, but its just amazing
how she mastered this "art". Yes, my mother is a very special person,
but we have women all over the world doing the same thing, daily. Just
think, my mom has my dads help and support. One can only imagine if
I like. Believe it or not this approach has been successful for me for
some years now; its the perfect balanced approach. The man shows
initial interest, then the two converse, then the man shows a follow-up
interest by telling the woman to take his number down so they can
further their liking for one another only if she feels the same. Lastly the
ball is then put into the woman's court to make a decision whether she
wants to actually get to know the guy more by texting or calling the guy
to confirm her interest. Simple enough?
Its kind of hard to believe, but in some strange sort of way I still think a
lot of women, including church women are attracted to that bad boy
tough guy. Its like they'll go after him because he's considered a tough
catch and miraculously believe they can transform him into this macho
Christian guy. Instead of them transforming him, he eventually rubs off
on her and transforms her into this exotic Christian girl who starts
desiring worldly things. This is happening everyday within relationships;
people are compromising more than ever. They'd rather be with
someone even though he or she doesn't meet their criteria, whether its
values beliefs physical attraction or just intellect. They'd rather be with
anybody than be by themselves. This is so sad when it comes to
relationships. We have to deter the present satisfaction for long term
gratification, substance is necessary in choosing your mate. These are
things God wants us to use our common sense for.
Whether youre in or out of the church, dating has always been quite
an interesting experience. Sometime the two match up well and
sometimes they don't. Unfortunately, thats just a part of dating. Many
times we as Christians go out and try to find our own mate. Our dating
experience as Christians are sometimes successful and in other times
not so successful. What I wonder is why do we do something our own
way and then go complaining to Our Heavenly Father about the
outcome. Many times God just wants us to be still and know that He is.
It says in Isaiah 40:31; but they that wait upon the Lord shall renew
their strength. Good things come to those who wait, granted we do
have to implement action but to wait on a called purpose is key. Coach
Tony Dungy says a quote I love, he says "God called us to be faithful,
not successful but if you remember this you will end up being both".
That is such a powerful statement and it can also be used the same way
with relationships. Our Heavenly Father calls on us to be faithful and
not to put our soul mate before Him. If you remember this, you'll end up
with God Almighty and your desired soul mate.
Luke 12:48 states; to whom much is given, much is required. After my
countless relationships over the years and my knowledge on the
subject, I knew that I was in a position to help others along their single
walk. I knew without a doubt in my heart that there was only one
with your future spouse. What God does for one, he will do for all. We
have to hold fast to Gods promises and take Him at His word. He
doesn't just want a few of his children happily married with a family,
living life abundantly, He wants that for ALL of His children. So, lets
move forward with the understanding of seeking God first and then our
soul mate second. Stay ready and be blessed on your journey with God,
Love, & Happiness.
Peace & Love,
Perrilloux II