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By Jane Gilgun
SANA, YEMEN. Nujood Ali, 10, wanted a divorce from her 30 year-old husband who raped her almost
every night and beat her when she resisted. Her in-laws sided with their son and said, “Beat her more.”
On a visit to her family a few months after her marriage, Nujood cried for help. “I was sad and angry,”
her mother said, “but I felt [her marriage] was the thing to do.” She later said, “In our country it’s the men
who give the orders, and the women who follow them.”
Her father said there was nothing he could do. “My cousins would have killed me if I dishonored
the family by asking for a divorce” Nujood’s aunt, who was her father’s other wife, advised the girl to go
to court. She gave Nujood cab fare.
At the courthouse, Nujood told various people that she wanted to speak to a judge, but no on
helped her. During lunch break, Judge Mohammed al-ghadha noticed her sitting alone on a bench and
asked her what she was doing there. “I want a divorce,” Nujood said. She told the judge about the rapes
and beating. The judge took Nujood to his home for the weekend where she played on swings with the
judge’s children and watched cartoons on satellite television.
The judge ordered Nujood’s father and husband into custody. Although marriage was only legal
for persons 16 and older, customs and traditions in Yemen lead to marriages of girls as young as eight.
Almost half of all Yemeni girls are married by age 18. The law states that sexual intercourse cannot begin
until the bride is ready, a vague stipulation but one that Nujood’s husband violated.
For Her Own Good
Nujood’s father said he arranged the marriage to protect his daughter. An older sister had been
raped and another abducted. When the father heard that the abductor had Nujood in his sights, he decided
to arrange the marriage to a motorcycle deliveryman. He broke his promise to Nujood that he would not
take her out of school to be married. The parents gave instructions to the prospective husband. “We told
him to raise her,” Nujood’s mother said. They also asked that he not have sex with their daughter until
one year after she had her first menstruation.
Shada Nasser, a Human Rights Lawyer
News about Nujood reached Shada Nasser, a human rights lawyer, who took one look at Nujood
and said, “I don’t believe my eyes.” She was astonished that such a tiny child could be married, be a
marital rape victim, and seek a divorce on her own. Nujood was about the size of Sahda’s eight year-old
daughter. She asked the girl why she wanted a divorce. Nujood answered, “I hate the night.” Nasser took
on Nujood’s case at no charge and contacted The Yemen Times about Nujood’s situation. The story hit the
national and international news wires.
Nasser visited Thama, Nujood’s husband, in his jail cell. She asked, “Why did you sleep with
When recipients [of unkind deeds] consider enactors to be bastards, it shows that
recipients have caught onto their unkind deeds and cover-ups. Bastards are persons who commit
particularly harsh deeds and cover-ups and who fail at being shits because recipients do not buy
into their cover-ups.
Congratulations
Congratulation and bravo to Nujood, to her aunt who is her father’s second wife, to Shada Nasser,
to Judge Mohammed Ghadi and Judge Mohammed al-ghadha, and to the editors for The Yemen Times
who worked together to challenge child marriages.
One of the next steps is to ask what is marriage. I thought marriage was a contract to which adults
gave their free consent. Another step is to continue to challenge unfair practices that privilege men over
women and girls. What’s incredible is that unfair systems are short-sighted. Any social group that
advantages some over others does not have the prosperity, peace, and happiness that egalitarian social
groups enjoy.
Pig photo by Jane Gilgun, taken at the Washington County Fair, Lake Elmo, Minnesota, USA.