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Is There a Better Question?

Why did it take us so long to start putting wheels on suitcases?


Good questions trump smart answers and a questioning mentality is far more effec
tive than a knowing mentality.
Once we have declared an answer, our biases towards commitment and consistency c
ause us to defend our answer, wasting energy that would be better applied to exp
loring alternatives.
Good if questions stimulate rich debate. What would you do if you were not afra
id?

Lifelong Learning
When we are captain of our own ship, life can be a wonderful continuous voyage o
f discovery.
Over time our competence continuum moves from ignorance to conversational compet
ence, to operational competence, then towards proficiency, and finally all the w
ay to mastery.
Too often we settle for operational competence.
We can choose to be life-long learners rather than flat-line learners.

Listening
When it comes to describing much of what currently passes for personal communica
tion, the analogy of the crocodile is an apt one: all mouth and no ears...
In conversations we have a choice; we can lecture or we can learn.
Approaching conversations through a learning lens should be our default setting.
I have a view, but, what might I be missing here? What if the other person has
some insight that can illuminate my own? What if I am wrong?
To truly listen to others is a gift to them. As Seneca said: One of the most be
autiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.

Incentives
Incentives matter a lot. They are what drive human behaviour, and we underestim
ate their influence at our peril.
We can only see a situation with true clarity when we take the time to carefully
consider the interests at hand.
And we understand it even better when we consider how the situation might be dif
ferent if the underlying interests were different.

"The Pointed Carrot"


Incentives are not just effective, sometimes they are too effective. The carrot
is effective but it is too pointed and we get perverse incentives. People will
navigate the shortest path to the incentive.
The curious among us will pay particular attention to incentives, monetary or ot
herwise.

Consider the Context


"There is no such thing as the view from nowhere, or from everywhere for that ma
tter. Our point of view biases our observation, consciously and unconsciously. Y
ou cannot understand the view without the point of view". Noam Shpancer
Life is context-dependent. We can place our views along a confidence continuum
which proceeds as follows:
Fickle

-> Tentative -> Contextually Confident

-> Certain -> Dogmatic

For most things "contextually confident" seems like where we should be. Nothing
occurs in isolation. Always consider the context and recognise that it changes
over time and is different for everyone.

Consider the End and the Opposite


Two useful questions before setting out on a journey are where do I want to get
to and what would disrupt the journey.
In life we may ask how we would like to be remembered and reflect that we certai
nly wouldn't like an empty eulogy.
Visualise both the road to personal fulfilment and the destination. Consider wha
t behaviour would thwart that fulfilment and do the opposite. Thinking about the
road to avoid helps reveal the more rewarding road.

Emotional Intelligence
Some traits to strive for include:
acceptance,
awareness,
character,
compassion,
equanimity,
honesty,
interdependence,

patience,
perspective,
resilience; and
sociability.

A combination of rational, conscious and respectful thinking is at the core of d


emonstrating emotional intelligence. It is who and how we are that matters more
than what we have and know.

Fear
"Gratitude looks to the past and love to the present: fear, avarice, lust and am
bition look ahead." C.S. Lewis

Fear is mostly a thought-based construct. It dissolves when we drop our comparis


ons and accept ourselves fully as we are.
We have a choice right now. Do we choose fear or do we choose regret?
Why not cast away the anchor of fear, leave the harbour of regret and let the wi
nds of curiosity take us forth...

Know Yourself, Be Yourself, Mind Yourself


Knowing ourselves is one of life's great challenges. Knowing ourselves gives us
the courage to be ourselves.
Some things can't be delegated. Minding yourself is one such thing.
Know yourself and see the journey. Be yourself and enjoy the journey. Mind yours
elf and extend the journey.

Be Kind to Your Parents


"Be Kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle." Plato
Why do we sometimes feel a lesser sense of reciprocity towards those who do the
most for us?
Kindness is not just for strangers.

We all have natural abilities when it comes to selling, negotiating and influenc
ing. These can be enhanced by understanding the science involved. For example,
here are some traits of successful negotiators:

Successful negotiators:
... prepare
... seek bigger pies, not bigger slices
... take their time
... focus on understanding the underlying interests of all parties
... understand perception
... maximise, but never overuse, their perceived power
... rarely accept the first offer
... recognise that virtually everything is negotiable
... delve into differences as a treasure trove of differing perceptions of value
... incrementally and continually build on common ground

Adversity
Adversity is both inevitable and relative. Everyone meets with adversity, but n
ot in equal measure. We get to choose the narrative of our response.
A victim narrative can take is under, but a survivor narrative helps us cope. S
ome go beyond a survivor narrative and take on a growth narrative, interpreting
an adversarial event as an opportunity to demonstrate resilience and tenacity.

Experiences
Facts fill the mind, experiences open it. When you get the opportunity to experi
ence something different, take it. Differentiate yourself through your diversity
of experiences.
The Ubiquity of Energy
If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, freq
uency and vibration." Nikola Tesla
It's all about energy - everything. Move beyond being simply being re-active.
Be pro-active, or better still be enthusiastic...

Choosing a Career
We should strive to find a career that offers:
1. Work we enjoy
2. A share in the value we create

3. The opportunity to work with people we like, trust and respect.

Simplicity
Complexity is failed simplicity...

Be a True Friend
"Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort, of feeling safe with a person, havi
ng neither to weigh thought nor measure words, but to pour them all right out, j
ust as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will tak
e and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness
, blow the rest away." George Eliot
True friends are WARM
Welcoming
Authentic
Reliable
Mutually Respectful

Where to Live
Where we live too often comes down to chance, as a by-product of other decisions
or as a compromise. Recognising that where we live is an important life choice
should cause us to give the decision more thought.

The One for Me


- Take your time. Whom to marry is probably one of the most important decisions
we make in our lifetime.
- Don't settle on second best.
- Look for long-term friendship that is grounded in mutual respect and enjoyment
of each other's company.
- Deserve a good partner.

Having Children
Having and raising children is not a fair-weather pursuit, yet those who have th
em wouldn't have it any other way. Our ability to fully control whether we have
children is open to debate, but the choice to love them, no strings attached, is
ours alone.

Compound Gratification
Earn more. Spend less.
Set up a regular savings plan and make a public commitment to maintain it. Make
savings automatic.
Invest rationally through a passive, DIY, or trusted manager route.
Avoid large mistakes.
Do your homework and be careful of leverage.
Minimise expenses.
Maximise tax efficiency.
Think about the compound gratification of knowing that you have chosen the smart
route - enriching the choices you will have later in life.
Choose larger later over smaller sooner.

Thinking
A child of five would understand this.
Send someone to fetch a child of five.
- Groucho Marx
Our brains are powerful but far from perfect. While our gut, intuition and subco
nscious serve us well, for important decisions we need to think twice. Understa
nding how our brains operate improves our ability to use them.

Full Circle
To Contemplation's sober eye
Such is the race of man:
And they that creep, and they that fly,
Shall end where they began.

- Thomas Gray, from Ode on the Spring, 1748

Pebbles of Perception

The pebbles of perception;


With poise and grace,
accept what is,
life's sharp embrace.
The pebbles of perception;
Last to speak,
Seek better questions,
to create, not critique.
The pebbles of perception;
Choose their response,
and cherish the choice,
of needs, not wants.
The pebbles of perception;
Seldom seek credit,
self aware, not self-absorbed,
and never big-headed.
The pebbles of perception;
With enthusiastic wonder,
forge their character,
without going under.
The pebbles of perception;
Come what season,
gently round out,
the rocks of reason.
And in the end;
Soft sand
Beneath the feet
of children playing.

Download and install JumpStart, WinPcap, and Dumpper


Open Dumpper. It'll be in Spanish, so go to the far right tab and select 'En
glish' in between the other two options.
Your programs are set up and ready to go, now begin the process:
In the 'Networks' tab, select the network adapter you wish to use. Hit the '
Scan' button now.
After it completes the scan, go over to the 'Wps' tab. In the area that says
'Connect using JumpStart', hit 'Browse' to select the location of where you ins
talled JumpStart in the previous set-up steps. (By default, it installs in C:\Pr
ogram Files (x86)\Jumpstart. Don't open it, just select the 'Jumpstart' folder a
nd click 'OK')
In the area 'Show default pin', select 'All networks' isntead of 'Only known
networks'.
Hit the 'Scan' button.
Select the network you wish to penetrate. Remember the 'Pin' corresponding t
o your network in the scan results, this will be needed for later.
In the previous area 'Connect using Jumpstart', hit the 'Start JumpStart' bu
tton.
Under 'What do you want to do?', select 'Join a wireless network' and hit 'N
ext'
Under 'Which setup method do you want to use?', select "Enter the PIN from m
y access point" and enter the PIN next to your network in the scan section back
in the previous scan results.
Finally, select the targeted network from before and hit 'Next'.
Now you're happily connected to that WiFi network you just penetrated. Do yo
u want to see the password so you can get on from other devices without doing th
is process? Sure! Follow these simple steps:
Open the menu where you join WiFi networks/view the network you're connected
to.
Right click on the network you just joined and hit 'Properties'
Under the 'Security' tab, you can see the password, but it's just dots. Chec
k the 'Show characters' box under it.
The password will then reveal itself.

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