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APRIL 2008
IMPORTANCE OF A GURU
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QUALITIES OF A GURU
RELATING TO A GURU
THE RELATIONSHIP
that person has devotion to his or her Guru and that person
is capable of teaching you, and to that person you have
aspiration, respect and veneration. On top of all of that,
whatever that person teaches you, you are going to practise.
That is what Guru is all about.
The Guru-disciple relationship, when you talk about
relationship it varies with people. It depends on the
characteristics and habits of the Guru and it depends on
the characteristics and habits of the disciple. Some disciples
are impossible and some Gurus are impossible. When an
impossible Guru and an impossible disciple end up with
each other then it is going to be quite tough, but that is
the way it will be. Some Gurus are very mild and some
disciples are very mild, and when the mild Guru and
the mild disciples end up with each other, then everything
is mild! I think personally, being a pragmatic person, I
would say abundance is necessary. The Guru has to have
both strength and flexibility. Disciples also should have
strength and flexibility. Otherwise, extreme is extreme,
no matter whether it is ordinary extreme or holy extreme.
It will be extreme.
So I think all of us should try to be balanced disciples
to our Gurus and balanced Gurus to our disciples. And
also we should have a very clear understanding of whether
there are some boundaries or not. Sometimes no
boundaries, but sometimes boundaries are necessary.
Because everything that we do as a Guru for the disciple
is thinking ones best, to make ones best judgement, so
that it will be beneficial to the disciple. The same way, the
disciple also should have the same kind of balanced attitude
towards their Guru to get the best and most valuable
benefit and blessing from their Guru. It will not happen
by force, by intrigue or by any other way than in a sincere,
mature and honest way.
But sometimes, for example with my experience, some
disciples they never get theI cant say never, but they
have a very hard time in differentiating between sincerity
and honesty and games and intrigue. They cant
differentiate between these. If there is something like that
then it is very difficult because even if the Guru is trying
their best the disciple is thinking of something else.
Sometimes it is very good to put an alarm clock on the
desk rather that having your mother come up and wake
you up by shaking you. Because if you set the alarm clock
by yourself, then when it rings it is your own doing but
when your mummy comes up and shakes you it is your
mummy doing it. So there is a big difference in the
psychology of people and their reactions.
Sometimes I send my disciples to other Gurus because
those other Gurus are more skilled with dealing with such
a person than me. But it doesnt mean I abandoned that
disciple, no. That disciple is my disciple. But if I am only
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not. Then you make a fool of yourself. That way the Gurudisciple relationship doesnt mean the disciple has to be
flattering to the Guru! I think there has to be a healthy
relationship, with trust, honour and principle. And that
whole thing has to be based on teaching the dharma and
practising the dharma. With that strong base then you
can have little branches here and there, if it is appropriate.
Disciples can be Gurus helper, disciples can be Gurus
assistants, patrons and staff, all kind of things can be.
So that is a Guru-disciple relationship, very generally
speaking. This will cover Hinayana, Mahayana, and
Vajrayana, all levels of Guru-disciple relationships. In
Hinayana they might not call it exactly Guru, they might
call it something like a Spiritual Friend, an abbot,
something like that, but it is really the same thing. That
is I think what I can say. Now I will let you ask questions
so that we might get to some of the real points that you
might like to raise.
Question: Does one have just one Root Guru and is that
the Guru who first gives you teachings?
Rinpoche: No. Your first Guru is your first Guru, he
is not necessarily your Root Guru. But your first Guru
can be your Root Guru also. Root Guru is Tsawe Lama,
Tsawe means root, Lama means Guru. Actually, the real
definition of Root Guru is: through which Gurus teaching
you reach the highest realisation, the realisation of the
nature of mind. That is your Root Guru. But we have
Root Guru in advance. So, out of many Gurus that we
have, we consider one Guru our Root Guru and we want
to learn from this Guru the main thing. Then this Guru
recommends one to learn something from another Guru.
So we listen to our Guru and receive teachings here and
there and receive this and that lineage but have one Root
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main places, a huge area. That was during the time of the
great Tibetan kings like Songten Gampo. They made an
example, one is like a reservoir, another is like canals, and
the third is like a field. So these three things can never be
separate, all have to stay as one unit. So when we say
Kham, Amdo, U-Tsang, then that is a Mongolian
description. When Tibet was occupied by Mongolia then
they divided Tibet into three parts, which they call
cholokas. In Mongolia they have, I think, thirteen or thirty
cholokas in the time of Genghis Khan, in those days.
So they said Tibet, land wise has the mass of three
cholokas, population wise it was not enough but then the
specialties or characteristics were enough for cholokas. The
upper choloka has the origin of dharma coming from there.
The dharma came from India through U-Tsang. That is
historically very significant so they gave it a title of one
choloka. Then they said Kham has one choloka of land,
not enough population, but it has very brave people, very
good fighters and very strong men, so that way it has this
characteristic. Then the Amdo area, they say it has a land
mass of one choloka but not enough people, but they
have great horses who run on the sand and hardly leave
any footprints. The horses run on slates and hardly break
any of them, so with those kind of horses they say it has a
specialty of that, so they called it another choloka.
So the terminology of those three is coming from that.
So it is the same thing like that, that is a later title, but
the original title was from the time of King Songten
Gampo, during those days it is all one unit, that was the
original. Tibet is huge, it is very big. I think it is more
than three quarters of India.
Teaching given in New Delhi 2005 with kind thanks from Rishi
Jindal, Ani la Sherab and Rokpa Finland for recording,
transcribing, editing and offering these teachings for publication.
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