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Note: this article reflects the laypersons definition of an ego-driven nature as a pride-based, selfabsorbed concept. This differs from the more complex professional definition.
A self-absorbed, I-centric, ego-driven persona is typical of ones childhood and teen years. We
perceive ourselves as the center of our own universes and exist to be served by others
(dependence) and to serve ourselves (independence). As we mature, many of us struggle to make
the further transition to a level of interdependence where we work cooperatively with others.
Ego-driven people think win-lose, seek first to be understood, seek first to influence, control, and
dominate others. One can still reach a level of independent success when driven by ego, but team
success will be difficult to achieve .
Ego limits oneself from moving forwards in terms of personal growth, and if left unchecked, this can
sabotage a team. Those in power are most conspicuous in their ego-driven approach, and are in
position to do the most harm.
Ego serves itself. It doesnt concern itself
with the greater good of others. It focuses on
ones own survival, pleasure, and
enhancement to the exclusion of others.
It focuses on ones own thoughts and feelings,
while dismissing those of others
Ego has a biased memory.
It cannot be impartial when it plays a
role in events. It constantly censors
information, and denies much of
reality. Ego will read this article and
say, I know someone just like that.
Ego sees in black and white. It
sees relationships in terms of
threat or no threat, like little
children who would classify
someone as Shes nice or
Shes mean. Ego-driven
personas tend to look upon
others as either allies or
enemies, and then act
accordingly towards them.
Being wrapped up in its own drama, ego can
be blind to the foolishness of its own behavior.
It colors itself in brighter colors while casting
others more darkly.
Ego is certain, and ever-willing to fight to
prove it. Being right is very important to ego,
and this creates a rigid stance. Ego, preferring
the role of an expert, will give its opinion and
Many long for the perceived lifestyle rewards that success offers the easy life.
Ego suggests that the ends justify the means - that admirable ends can be obtained through
whatever means possible.
Ghandis teaching indicate that admirable ends, gained through the wrong means, will eventually
turn to dust in your hands.
Ghandi taught that 7 things will destroy us
1.wealth without work
2. pleasure without conscience
3. knowledge without character
4. commerce without morality
5. science without humanity
6. worship without sacrifice
7. politics without principle
What is the antidote to being ego driven? Ego-centric doesnt mean a bad heart; its more a
question of maturity, values, and priorities. Unfortunately, lifetime patterns are difficult to change,
particularly when theyve worked somewhat successfully in the past. People can change if they
really want to, though it certainly wouldnt be easy.
Consider the following points
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Learn to give yourself whatever it is you need so you dont interact from a position of longing.
Learn to give others that which you want, so youll get it back in return.
Let go of being right - work instead on being kind.
Accept an abundance mentality. Learn to give freely.
Develop a conscience a greater concern for others.
Demonstrate a willingness to apologize. Let others people know that the relationship is more
important and worth preserving.
7. Learn to forgive and let go.
8. Seek professional counsel.
People who live by ego instead of conscience, will not experience internal integrity and peace of
mind. They will find their ego attempting to control relationships. Even though they might feign
kindness and empathy, they will continue to use subtle forms of manipulation and will even go so far
as to engage in kind but dictatorial behavior.
A glaring lack of conscience has been the downfall of many leaders. Can you think of any?
The private victory of integrity is the foundation for the public victories that come with vision,
discipline and passion. Leadership becomes an interdependent exchange rather than an immature
interplay between strong independent, ego-driven rulers and compliant, dependent followers.
Value of this document?
-put key issues on the table
-can be a wake up call for some
-effective tool for self-vigilance