PFLAG Buffalo-Niagara

PFLAG Buffalo/Niagara
Parents, Families, Friends and Allies United with LGBTQ People

PO Box 617
Buffalo, NY 14207
716-883-0384

There will be no Sharing Meeting in December.

Instead, we invite you to our
Holiday Party
Sunday, December 13 @ 2:30
Please join us; RSVP to 883-0384
info@pflagbuffalo.org
www.pflagbuffalo.org
www.facebook.com/pflag.niagara

Monthly sharing meetings are held at Kenilworth United Church of Christ, 45 Dalton Drive, Tonawanda 14223,
from 2:30-5:00. Newcomers and anyone interested will be offered the option of meeting privately with a PFLAG
parent. Our monthly meetings are in the library, which is near the parking lot entrance. The facility is
handicapped accessible. New Parents Meetings are scheduled as needed at a location convenient to those
involved. These self-help one-on-one meetings deal with the concerns of parents and family members who
have recently learned that a loved one is gay.
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We meet because we have learned that someone very close to us is Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgender. We try to help one
another deal with this information in a positive manner. Although we do not agree at all times, we try to be understanding. We
offer help to those who seek it, but do not force ourselves on others. We strive to maintain anonymity while sharing on a level that
is comfortable for all of us. We encourage all to attend meetings for their own.

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PFLAG NATIONAL CONFERENCE 2015: WE ARE THE CHANGE

By Phil Salemi, Jr.

One of many presentations at the conference.

The 2015 PFLAG National Conference was held in Nashville, Tennessee this past
October. The theme We Are the Change certainly rang true from the greater than 350
PFLAGERs in attendance.
The event was filled with service, opportunity to listen, learn, network and
celebrate with friends, new and old from PFLAG chapters from across the country. As
Buffalo/Niagara board president, I attended and want to let all know what a memorable
and educational experience it was.
On Friday, attendees we able to spend the day volunteering with service
organization that are dedicated to the making a difference in the lives of homeless
youth, the hungry and a local animal shelter. I worked with many others at the
regional food bank delivery center. It was a very meaningful and eye-opening
experience; I am proud to have been supporting the Nashville community with my
national PFLAG family.

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PFLAG members work at regional food bank.

The annual meeting was filled with educational sessions related to the issues still
facing LGBTQ individuals, key note addresses, religious and spiritual panel discussions
and announcement of PFLAG National Awards winners.
There were also opportunities to discover new resources. I selected some that I
brought home to the board for sharing and use in our library. My selections focused on
transgender voices and topics. In addition, I had the opportunity to meet authors and
hear about their journeys presented in their works.

Phil Salemi, Jr. left, author Seth Rainess

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While we were able to celebrate all the accomplishments of the year, we remained
focused on the work still to take place before all people enjoy a life free from
discrimination in the work place, housing and in society.
Each of us has had a hand in affecting change, and we need you all to continue to
do everything you can to keep the momentum going.

Attendees from many PFLAG chapters

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PRIDE CENTER AND EVERGREEN SERVICES ENLIGHTEN MEMBERS ABOUT SERVICES

AND GROUND-BREAKING MEDICINES

On November 15, before the sharing meeting, Matthew Crehan-Higgins and Sean
spoke of the comprehensive services available at Evergreen Services, at 200 South
Elmwood. The services provided focus on and care for the needs of the LGBTQ
community. Most people know of the Pride Center in terms of the Pride Parade.
However, so much more is offered and with Evergreen Health Services, all health needs
are offered as well.
Mr. Crehan-Higgins told of ongoing programs or offerings. These include groups
for coming out issues, book clubs, business networking, and addiction recovery and
senior issues. Also there are groups focusing on the need of transgender persons,
including one about general transgender concerns and a specific one regarding
transgender health issues. Another group uses art therapy for transgender and
genderqueer persons, connecting creativity with personal of experiences as a means of
expression. More can be found about all of these groups at www.pridecenter.org.
The Community Access Service Coordinator, Shawn Moultrie spoke of PrEP, the
medicine that can prevent the HIV virus from being able to survive in an HIV negative
persons body. It is a breakthrough medicine that is available to people and populations
at risk for HIV infection. It must be taken once a day and is 99% effective when taken
as directed. Mr. Moultrie also spoke of the PEP protocol. This is the combination of 2
medicines that HIV positive people take to control and maintain the virus to be able to
live a normal and long life. It can also be given in emergency situations where one
may just have been infected. More information about these ground-breaking medicines
is available at http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/living/prep-pep.shtml. The
presentation also included information of other health services offered by evergreen
including counseling, needle-sharing, and pharmacy services. More information can be
found at www.evergreenhs.org.

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A LOOK BACK AT AN OUTSTANDING YEAR FOR LGBT IN AMERICA

By Valerie Jarrett
www.huffingtonpost.com

Each year, OUT Magazine honors 100 lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender
individuals who have made our world a more just and equal place. And on Wednesday,
I had the privilege of accepting OUT's "Ally of the Year" award on behalf of President
Obama. We also celebrated the other 99 people who have changed our society for the
better through art, politics, culture, sports and advocacy.
Since President Obama's election seven years ago, he and his Administration have
partnered with many on our journey toward a more perfect union, insuring equality for
all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. Increasingly, our progress is
part of a larger, global movement for LGBT equality that counts the United States as
one of its leaders.
In 2009, President Obama signed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate
Crimes Prevention Act. The same year, he also lifted the 22-year HIV/AIDS travel ban.
In 2010, the Affordable Care Act became law and less than a month later, the
President signed a Presidential Memorandum extending hospital visitation rights for
LGBT Americans. And at the end of that year, the President eagerly signed the repeal
of "Don't Ask, Don't tell" into law, remarking after ending the policy's 17-year
existence: "This is done."
In 2011, the Department of Justice (DOJ) took the position that a central provision
of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was unconstitutional and would no longer
defend it in court.
In 2012, the President hosted the first International AIDS Conference in more than
a generation and became the first sitting President to publicly support marriage
equality.

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In 2013, the Supreme Court agreed with the Administration's position on DOMA
and struck down a key part of that law.
In 2014, the President signed an executive order barring employment
discrimination against LGBT individuals by federal contractors and subcontractors.
In June of 2015, the United States Supreme Court delivered a momentous victory by
recognizing a constitutional right for same-sex couples to marry -- making marriage
equality the law of the land -- a position the President and Justice Department
vigorously supported.
We joyously celebrated the victory by lighting up the White House in rainbow
colors. With our belief that love means love, there is now no such thing as same sex
marriage; just marriage. And on Tuesday, the President was proud to announce his
support for the Equality Act, a historic bill that would ensure comprehensive civil rights
protections for millions of LGBT Americans.
Of course, none of these advances would have been possible without the efforts of
the brave individuals recognized at the OUT 100 Gala and the many more who have
worked to change hearts, minds and laws in favor of equality here and around the
world.
My dear friend Evan Wolfson, the former Executive Director of Freedom to Marry
whom I met early in the President's first term when marriage equality was the law in
only four states, was honored for his decades of pursuing marriage equality litigation
and advocacy that helped pave the way for this year's Obergefell decision.
Edie Windsor, whom I first met the day the Supreme Court argued Windsor and
without whom marriage equality would not have been possible, was also honored. As
was Abby Wambach, the recently retired captain of the U.S. Women's National Soccer
Team, who after winning the World Cup, shared a kiss with her wife.
As hard as President Obama and his Administration have worked to expand
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have been possible without the advocates, allies, activists and ordinary people doing
extraordinary things, to change our culture every single day.
In addition to using their voices and platforms to foster dialogue, understanding
and legislative change, these honorees have also helped shape, for the better, how the
LGBT community is perceived around the world -- and how LGBT people see
themselves.
At the Out 100 event, with tears streaming down his face, a young man told me
that seeing the President on the cover of Out Magazine gave him the courage to come
out to his mother earlier that day.
In the American tradition of perfecting our union, they have followed in the
footsteps of civil rights champions from generations past. As the President said in his
second inaugural address, "We, the people, declare today that the most evident of
truths -- that all of us are created equal -- is the star that guides is still; just as it
guided our forebears through Seneca Falls, and Selma and Stonewall."
After a fun evening that capped an exciting seven years, I was also reminded of
the President's words following the Supreme Court's marriage equality decision in
June: "Progress on this journey often comes in small increments, sometimes two steps
forward, one step back, propelled by the persistent effort of dedicated citizens. And
then sometimes, there are days like this when that slow, steady effort is rewarded
with justice that arrives like a thunderbolt."
It was an honor to help celebrate those who continuously strive to make the world
a safer, more accepting and equal place for us all, and it is with excitement that we all
rededicated ourselves to the important work that lies ahead.

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PFLAG BOARD OF DIRECTORS

President- Phil Salemi, Jr.
Vice Presidents- Amy Fularz and Kristian Rickard
Treasurer- Brian Carrier
Secretary- Michele Perry
Directors- Lisbeth Ball, David Barret, Barrett, Ann Carrier, and Julie Christiano

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