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DATING CULTURE IN PAKISTANI SOCIETY AND ITS ADVERSE EFFECTS UPON THE
ADOLESCENTS, IN THE PERSPECTIVE OF PREVALENT TECHNOLOGY AND INNOVATIONS
Jamil Ahmed Sheikh, Syeda Samar Shahid Bokhari, Shuaib Farooq
Corresponding Author:
Syeda Samar Shahid Bokhari
samar.bokhari@uow.edu.pk
Abstract: The research has been specifically conducted in order to measure the limits to which the adolescents
have immersed into this adopted culture Dating Culture. Pakistani youth has been intrigued into dating culture,
the adverse effects of which cannot be negated at any level or stage. They have been mimicking the western style
of living without knowing how much they have become immoral in impersonating the life style - not allowed at all
in our religion. Through quantitative study and focused group discussions it has been tried to assess as to what
extent the minds of our youth have been affected, the existing family patterns, what are the dragging factors, what
could be the vices unfolded, which age group is more engaged, what could be the legal aspects of such practices
etc. The existing scenario of innovation and technology brought the dark clouds of change, was this change
inevitable, unstoppable? Hence with focused group discussions with a total of 50 participants and with a
questionnaire, data has been collected, of 150 respondents in 2015. Over the year collected data showed great
risks of teen violence and perpetration explicitly a result of intimacy acquired through dating.
Key Words: Dating Culture, youth, intimacy, technology, innovation, teen violence.
INTRODUCTION
Our world stepping into the quagmire of new
technology has brought with it several questions
of adolescent fertility to mingling into it
unscrupulously. These questions are of the
greatest concern to the researchers, family heads
and educators who anticipate ultimate material
and immaterial success of the youth.
The effects of change were evident for long on
the urbanization of the Pakistani society, but the
rural settings of family patterns are also seen
prone to its charming mazes. The change in
normal cultural pattern is acceptable, but if it is
bringing certain violence it is utterly not
acceptable whatever the conditions prevalent
are. Dating culture has shown its vices globally
from where it erupted first. From simple intimacy
to its worst form of sexual violence. The study
shows it disrupts the life of the perpetrators and
the
affected,
physically, mentally
and
psychologically.
Consequences of dating violence include
decreased mental and physical health and lower
life satisfaction (Banyard and Cross 2008). Teen
dating violence impacts the psychological wellbeing of youth (Black, Tolma, Callahan, Saunders,
& Weisz, 2007), with youth who are victims more
likely to experience depression and suicidal
behaviors than non-victims (Vzine & Hrbert,
2007). Additionally, longitudinal studies have
identified long-term consequences of intimate
partner violence to include depression, binge
eating, substance abuse, and antisocial behavior.
Unfortunately Pakistani Society is on the verge of
such moral bankruptcy. It can be seriously
foreseen, by impacted study of global
victimization in dating cultures, that our society is
just a step short of or already head long into such
violence.
Limited research of all factions of adolescents
from School to University level has made it
evident that involvement of youth into dating has
become a habitual act. Un-entangling themselves
after experiencing two or three dating, they are
unable to come out. Rather the more they try the
less resilient they are. The state has reached to its
alarming stage, which needs to be remedied
while still benign.
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the age.
She notes, for example, the
exaggeration of gender-specific roles, narcissism,
and acceptance of mythical notions about
romance as points of particular vulnerability to
violence in adolescents heterosexual relationships. Similarly draws attention to developmental
vulnerability, highlighting in particular the impact
of conformity with gender-specific roles (e.g.,
controlling male, submissive female). For these
reasons, adolescence is an especially salient time
to implement violence prevention.
Unfortunately like other nations, experienced
already the abuses of Dating, Pakistan is also
ignoring the fact that there is a hurricane of
adverse social change, ready to sweep away all
the protective Islamic culture with it.
Youngsters if we notice them are overlooked
community, and unfortunately they suffer the
most from the relationship abuses. No researcher
ever heeded to this age-group, though there are
insinuations about the dating violence and the
seriousness about the situation. At tender age of
teens the impacts of violence are more than any
other period of life. From 2000 to 2010 in USA
the dating violence has taken a higher place in
the agenda of the researchers.
So, the general observation is that most of the
adolescents are entrapped into the dating snare
at a very tender age, when their emotions are at
the peak. Morose is the fact that at this age they
get the least right guideline from their families,
resulting in, the involvement of all types of crimes
and immoral activities that can be imagined.
According to the Psychologists, if teens are guided
right at the right time you have a healthy society
and flourishing relationships.
Dating in the Perspective of Innovation and
Technology
The technology revolution has brought
phenomenaldeluxe
inventions.
The
communication channels have been made so up
to date that people sitting far away can do
correspondence with each other, the distance of
miles has been reduced to seconds. The landline
was invented in the 19th century but with this
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Table. 1.1
Age of Respondents
Freque Percen Valid Cumulativ
Valid
ncy
11-20
37
24.7
24.7
24.7
21-30
94
62.7
62.7
87.3
19
12.7
12.7
100.0
150
100.0
100.0
31 and
above
Total
Percent e Percent
Valid
Valid
Cumulative
ncy
nt
Percent
Percent
Single
116
77.3
77.3
77.3
Married
34
22.7
22.7
100.0
Total
150
100.0
100.0
404
Valid
Percen
ncy
Percent
111
74.0
74.0
74.0
20
13.3
13.3
87.3
employee
19
12.7
12.7
100.0
Total
150
100.0
100.0
Student
unemploye
d
Percent
Valid Percent
Cumulative Percent
29
19.3
19.3
19.3
Wrong Number
12
8.0
8.0
27.3
20
13.3
13.3
40.7
at school/college/university
39
26.0
26.0
66.7
22
14.7
14.7
81.3
Neighborhood
12
8.0
8.0
89.3
1.3
1.3
90.7
6.0
6.0
96.7
outside of
school/college/university stop
405
Trips/Marriage/ceremony
.7
.7
97.3
Any Other
2.7
2.7
100.0
150
100.0
100.0
Total
Table: 1.5
What do you do there?
Count
Reasons for Dating
For
Time
For
Pass
Marriage
nt
Desire
others
Any
Other Total
What do you do
Romance
16
14
13
58
there?
Chit chat
10
12
43
Enjoy Food
22
Long Drive
20
Any Other
37
34
24
26
13
16
150
Total
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Chi-Square= 17.464
**=Highly Significant
CONCLUSION
If we want to have our society as it is, that we
should have fun, then we have lost every right to
complain. It is our life, our created society but the
way things are, we cant blame society in general
Suitable Time for Dating * Occupation Cross
tabulation
Count
Occupation
unem
Stud ploye empl
ent d
oyee Total
Suitable During
Time
School/College/U 39
for
niversity Time
Dating
At evening: Walk
Time
Office Timing
47
30
18
12
20
In Holidays
17
20
Any Other
10
15
19
150
Trips/Ceremonies
/Shopping
Total
25
111 20
Sep.
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