Cosmopolitan - December 2015 UK

GOING
DECEMBER 2015
LATTE? MOCHA?
LONG BLACK?
OUT?
We've got your
ass (stylishly)
Is too much
choice making
you stupid?
covered WHY
SMART
CHEAT!
CAN YOU GIRLS
EVER CURE GET
A PLAYER?
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DECEMBER 2015
✱ On the cover
58 ELLIE GOULDING On her
triumph over self-doubt
70 GOING OUT? Good. We know
just what you should wear
108 WHY SMART GIRLS GET
FIRED… and what they do next
98 HOT BODY Kate Upton, Ella
& Eyre and Annie Mac share their
122 formulas for the perfect night
out, plus an A-list trainer’s plan
for sweating off that blowout
130 CHEAT! Tanya Gold grills the
world’s biggest misogynist
184 LATTE? MOCHA? LONG
BLACK? Is too much choice
making you stupid?
✱ Know
25 THE BOYFRIEND-SITTERS’
CLUB Shopping? Park your man
26 GLAM ROCKS Five outfit-
making statement necklaces
30 HOT RIGHT NOW! Champagne
in the shower? Oh, go on then…
32 PEEK-A-BLUE The beauty look
that loves boardroom and bar
34 THE COMPASS Cosmopolitan
on what’s hot and definitely not
39 ‘FORGET FOMO – NOW, IT’S
ALL ABOUT FOGO’ Jameela’s
had it with partying. This
Christmas, she’s staying in
70
Fashion ideas so
46 WELL, HELLO THERE… dazzling, you’ll
Taylor Kinney (AKA, Mr Gaga) need shades to
see them
51 HUNGRY FOR MORE? Your
handy Hunger Games blag sheet
52 THE INSIDE TRACK The
juiciest A-list reads this month
55 NATASHA DEVON WANTS
A WORD WITH… Made In
Chelsea’s Spencer Matthews
C O S M O P O L I TA N · 5
162
The most stylish
ways to pull an
all-nighter
136
Laura Whitmore 58
has luxe beauty Ellie owning the
all sewn up ‘lazy Sunday on
the sofa’ look
✱ Wear 107 SELF MADE Tips from the top 194 ‘WHY I ALWAYS CHEAT ON
119 NOTE IT DOWN Your to-do THE MEN I LOVE’ This
COVER PHOTOGRAPH JOSEPH MONTEZINOS. STYLING SAIREY STEMP. STYLIST’S ASSISTANT HOLLY COOPEY. HAIR LOUISE BYRNE. MAKEUP LUCY WEARING,
69 A ROSE AMONG THORNS… list just got a lot more stylish woman can never stay faithful
Need a clutch? This is The One 198 SEX AND THE SINGLE GIRL
79 HEY, HOW DO I WEAR… lurex ✱ Move Lauren’s naughty online habit
– without going all-out Dallas? 201 MY BEST SEX EVER WAS…
82 MOLTEN METALLICS It ain’t 121 PULLING POWER Working ‘A threesome with my husband’
Christmas without some sparkle out could get you a raise… 205 SEXUAL HEALING Therapist
162 THE BREAKFAST CLUB Chic 125 MY BODY’S AMAZING Rachel has heard it all…
looks made for partying till dawn BECAUSE… ‘I survived cancer’ 206 FIRST LOVE Does girl + her ex
USING MAC. NAILS MICHELLE HUMPHREY AT LMC WORLDWIDE. ELLIE WEARS: JUMPER, DKNY. RING, THOMAS SABO
221 WHAT TO WEAR NOW Our 129 PISTE OFF Our ski-fashion edit + a date = sparks or sour grapes?
A/W15 style notes from #fashfest
✱ Read ✱ Play
✱ Glow
146 COULD THIS BE YOU? How to 209 SHARP SHOOTER This
89 IS YOUR 9-5 AGEING YOU? work when and where you want hangover cure actually works
Creams to beat the clock 156 EVER FEEL LIKE YOU’RE 210 HOP. STOP. SHOP Cool Euro
90 WHAT THE HELL’S IN IT? BEING WEIGHED UP? Is a destinations for retail therapy
Beauty gift boxes, dissected plus-size woman wearing a crop 215 £10 DINNER PARTY Michelin-
95 SLOW BURNERS Scent your top really so shocking in 2015? star meal on a minuscule budget
pad with festive candles 176 HOW IT FEELS WHEN A MAN 217 DESIGN DOUBLES Deck your
97 INGE HAS ISSUES What is LOSES HIS BEST FRIEND One halls with luxe festive pieces
multi-masking and does it work? guy’s heartbreakingly honest story 219 STARS Your horoscope
136 MATERIAL GIRL Grown-up
(and glitter-free) party makeup ✱ Lust ✱ And the rest…
✱ Earn 189 IS TINDER HEADING FOR A 12 MEET TEAM COSMOPOLITAN
SWIPE OUT? A new way to date 19 FROM THE EDITOR
105 FRIGHTENED OF BEING 190 CONFESSIONS Oh, dear… 218 THIS MONTH WE’LL BE…
PHONE-FREE? Repeat after us, 192 WORST DATES EVER So it 250 COSMOPOLITAN CONTRACT
‘There is life beyond 4G…’ turns out chivalry is dead Your office party – the rules X
6 · C O S M O P O L I TA N
RANDOM
QUESTION
OF THE MONTH
What’s the most
surprising thing you’ve
found in your Xmas
stocking?
FARRAH STORR
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Editor
Acting Deputy Editor SHOSHANA GOLDBERG Creative Director STUART SELNER
PA to the Editor/Features Assistant LAURA CAPON
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FEATU R ES
Content Director FIONA COWOOD (maternity)
My nan once gave me a ‘Visit
Acting Content Director ROSIE MULLENDER Acting Features Editor SOPHIE GODDARD
Jersey’ plate she’d bought
Features Writer HARRIET THURLEY Features Intern JENNIFER SAVIN
from a charity shop. I’d never My gran gave me a flannel
been to Jersey, and I don’t E N TER TA I N MEN T with my name on. Would
think she had either… Entertainment Director LOTTIE LUMSDEN have been perfect – if my
DESI GN name was Lauren.
Art Director VICTORIA HORN
Senior Designer JESSICA TURNER Junior Designer JESSICA LOCKETT
PI CTU R ES
Picture Editor JOAN McCREA Assistant Picture Editor GEMMA ROBERTS
ED ITO R I A L PR ODU CTI ON

Production Editor DAVID ROTHON Deputy Chief Sub Editor KATIE TEEHAN
B EAU TY
Pink knickers – from Beauty Director INGEBORG VAN LOTRINGEN Beauty Editor KATE TURNER (maternity)
my ex’s grandparents. Acting Beauty Editor CASSIE POWNEY Acting Beauty Writer LUCY PARTINGTON An adaptor plug (it came
FASHI ON in a ring-shaped box –
Fashion and Style Director SHELLY VELLA Senior Fashion Editor SAIREY STEMP very disappointing).
Junior Fashion Editor HOLLY COOPEY Fashion Assistant NATASHA MILES
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horse-shaped thing
stuffed with potpourri.
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FIRST WORD
FROM THE
EDITOR When I was 23 I landed my first job on a glossy
magazine. It was brilliant. I got to ask people
indecently nosy questions every single day
(otherwise known as interviewing); make copious cups
of tea (otherwise known as ‘stealth networking’ – or so I
liked to tell myself!) and test out beauty products as part
of my actual job (otherwise known as ‘a result’). Life was
good – until I messed up. It was a small mess-up (I forgot
to book an interviewee’s train tickets for a photoshoot,
Behind the scenes MONDAY
if you must know), but it was still a mess-up. I was
pulled aside and told in no uncertain terms that I
had three weeks in which to get with it or get out.
TUESDAY
At the time my boyfriend (now husband) worked
in the same office block, and I remember sitting
outside in the park, in tears, with him. I was deeply
ashamed and confused but, most of all, really,
really frightened. The next day I went in and I
worked harder than I’ve ever worked. Organisation
has never been my strong point (just ask my PA),
but I made notes and more notes so that I never
forgot a single thing.
I ended up staying in the job for a while, and
It’s been a varied only recently someone told me that the same boss
month (from above):
THURSDAY with singer Rae who’d taken me aside told them how much she’d loved
Morris at #fashfest; working with me. On that day in the park I would
multitasking at
MAIN PHOTOGRAPH TIFFANY MUMFORD. HAIR AND MAKEUP VICTORIA BARNES
never have seen that coming.

DryBy London;
filming for a But, you know, I honestly believe that without the
Cosmopolitan secret jeopardy of losing my job that time, I’m not sure I would
project; a walk be the Editor of Cosmopolitan today. Failure is a necessary
with Parker the
labradoodle – the route to success – as Jill Abramson, former executive
perfect end-of- editor of The New York Times, tells us on page 108. So if
week de-stresser you’re going through a tough time, here’s my advice: big
WEEKEND
smile, deep breath and know, deep down, that this is what
will ultimately make you a success.
RAH ST
Editor
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THE BOYFRIEND-SITTERS’ CLUB

Gift-buying season is in full swing, which means hordes of ennui-stricken
males being dragged around shopping centres. But the Germans have a
solution to this, in the form of the männergarten (‘men’s garden’) –
basically a day-care centre for men while their partners shop.
Now Carmarthen council has pioneered the idea in the UK,
creating a ‘guy haven’ in the town with dartboards, huge
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Super-fine gold leaf
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TREND
Peek-a-
Is this season’s hottest hue the trickiestt
to master? Not on our watch…
the colour below your
lower lashline using
a small blending brush.
AVOID wearing this look
ot just for Illamasqua brand with pale-pink blusher –
N pantomime
dames, blue
eye makeup
is both
versatile and (whisper it)
wearable. The key is to vary
the intensity from subtle
ambassador Charlotte
Savoury suggests an even
lower-key alternative:
“Run a blue kohl pencil
n
under your lower lashlin

to bring a brown smoky
eye to life.”
ne
Pixi by Petra
Mesmerizing
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For grown-up
glitter, think
sparkly blue
pigment, not shards of bling.
for daytime to modern AVOID bright liquid liner iff in Aquamarine Apply glitter adhesive along
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shine. This look will make Gently smudged kohl is far one); when it’s tacky to
brown eyes pop, but that’s more forgiving. touch, start by patting a
not to say blue on blue can’t small amount of glitter over
work too. If your eyes are
on the cool side (icy blue),
reach for similar tones.
Ditto if they’re warm (say,
with a hint of green). Got
that? Now read on…
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Pointing you in the right cultural direction this month...
ORI KELLY SEGWAY LETHARGY
Floating our boat

air like Shakira, pipes Grown adults (Ruby Rose, we see
ike Mariah… Tori will be you) whizzing around on unstable
ominating your Spotify wheels, shedding dignity left,
laylists in 2016 – trust us. right and centre. If this is on your
nbreakable Smile, her Christmas list, please consider
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debut album, is out now. re-examining your life decisions.
MOVIE MARATHONS
With FIVE Oscar-
tipped films out this CAFFEINE VAPING
month, including Busy City workers are ditching their morning
Carol and Steve Jobs, lattes for a more instantaneous energy hit in the
you’ll be spending this form of a caffeine vaporiser. Health boffins are
month in the dark. yet to approve, so we’re sticking with Starbucks.
SWIFT SQUARED DIVORCE SELFIES

Taylor Swift has revealed she ‘Uncouples’ are now
has a not-at-all unattractive
h posting #divorceselfie
yyounger brother, Austin, pictures of themselves
who’s just landed his first
w fresh out of divorce
film role, in I.T. This guy also court. Social media
looks seriously good in a suit. gone mad…
GRAPHIC NAILS METALLIC TATTOOS

All over New York Fashion Our summer-festival
Week. It’s a nude nail with essential has had its day
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Sinking our ship
a graphic, such as a white in the sun. Good while it

stripe, black dot or outfit- lasted, but time to move
coordinating block of on from this trend. Well,
colo . W ’re very een. at least till next year.
HIPSTER BARBIE BLARNEY

Now a thing, thanks to ironic US voice coach Jim
Instagram account @socality Johnson says many of his
barbie: she’s now all thick- clients want to master an
framed specs, beanie hat and Irish accent – to boost
hashtags like ‘blessed’ and their pulling power. Top
‘liveauthentic’. Genius. of the morn… oh, sod off.
JAMEELA
JAMIL
Straight talk
see it in LA all the time.
I Bored young men,

drenched in aftershave
and expectation, sitting
in bars or clubs with faces like
slapped arses, or standing silently
with a thousand-yard stare and
a $30 cocktail in their hand,
looking like they wished they
were anywhere else on earth.
Then suddenly they’ll pick up
their phone, reverse their camera,
put on a huge smile and spin around
the room, cosying up to any girl they
can grab, so that for 10 seconds on
Snapchat it looks like they’re having
the night of their lives. The kind
of night someone should make a
movie about – possibly starring
Zac Efron and Cameron Diaz.
Every Sunday, social media is
bursting with last night’s photos,
exuding sweat and glory. Yet
when I’m actually out, I see tables
of people all sitting staring at their
phones in silence.
‘Forget Who’s really enjoying themselves

as much as they pretend to be? Often,
I’d much rather stay at home. But, of
course, LA is party central – and right
FOMO –now, now, it’s party season.

Am I the only one filled with
dread at the prospect? Don’t get
me wrong, I love my friends, and
it’s all about I love seeing them once in a while

for a meal or a dance. But this time
of year is relentless. Is that bad?
Am I bad? Have I turned into a
FOGO’
Fear of missing out is over. This party season,
grandma in my twenties? Maybe.
Although actually, I’ve always felt
this way – it’s just that age and
experience have honed my skills in
giving absolutely zero fucks about
social propriety. And it’s fabulous.
JAMEELA JAMIL is suffering from fear of going out Yes, I’ve had some amazing nights
out in my time, some of which have i
“If you need
me, I’ll be
here all day”
led to me meeting a few finding listed on my

of my favourite people Now that’s Facebook feed.
in the world, including a happy Some readers might already
Christmas
my boyfriend. But I’ve have turned the page at the
also suffered enough point when I said ‘boogie’,
stinkers to know I’m not usually
Threesignsyou’re dismissing me as a killjoy fart. I
missing much when I choose sufferingfrom understand. But if you’re still with
a date with my sofa instead. me, nodding your head, you’re not
I don’t like how loud bars and
clubs are, I don’t like the drama
when emotions and alcohol levels
are flying high, and I don’t like the
FOGO
(fearofgoingout)
alone. There are others like us also
hating it out there.
While I still maintain that a great
night out – with a real plan and
fact that you can’t go for a drink good people – is one of the richest
or a boogie (YEAH, I DID SAY
BOOGIE) without men assuming
you and your mates are simply
1 You find
yourself
regularly
cursing Last-
text with a
disingenuous,
‘Oh, noooooooo!’
parts of life, and although it’s
brilliant to be open to possibility
and wonder, it’s also important to
waiting to be interrupted by an offer
of penis with a side order of regret.
I don’t like the disgusting toilets
that, by 11pm, look like the
Month You,
who committed
This-Month You
to three nights
out in a row.
3 Your
loungewear
collection
takes up twice
the wardrobe
ask, honestly, ‘Am I really in the
mood?’ And if you are in the mood,
but when you get there (wherever
‘there’ is for you) it’s rubbish, don’t
apocalypse has arrived. I don’t like She was space of your be afraid to just go home – if not
probably sitting going-out
the pain in the arse of getting home, somewhere better – even at the
on the sofa clothes. And
and of making sure your friends are eating cheese when you post a risk of looking boring.
safe when they’re wasted. I don’t – what the hell photo of yourself I’ve grown up watching almost
like feeling terrible for no good did she know? on social media all my friends drag themselves
reason the wearing out unwillingly, purely on account
“I say be
whole of the
next day.
I don’t like
2 You air-
punch
whenever
someone cancels
anything other
than baggy
yoga pants and
a vest, everyone
of it being the weekend, before
drinking their way through the
boredom. I say: just do what you
PHOTOGRAPHS TOM WATSON, INSTAGRAM/OFFICIALJAMEELAJAMIL. HAIR ZOE IRWIN

how shoving on you, using acts like you’re want. Be ‘boring’ if you feel like
‘boring’ if becomes the other hand dressed up it. It’s better than being bored.
you feel like a way of life to reply to their for prom.
So, this festive season, make a
after dark. point of picking the parties and
it – it’s better I don’t like paper in them, and dinners at events you want to go to, not
than being being covered friends’ houses rather than a those you feel you should go to.
bored!” in some kind
of unidentified
40-minute queue for the bar.
I like games and movies, sitting
After all, obligation is such a big
part of our lives, what with rent,
liquid, then down and having a conversation tax, jobs, cleaning the loo, showering,
trying, through without having to scream over a brushing your teeth, dealing with
the act of sniffing, to decipher, ‘Beer David Guetta song. Or sitting by rush hour without punching
or piss? BEER OR PISS?!’ And I don’t a fire in a garden or on a beach someone in the face… why should
like throwing money away on a with a night-time picnic. But I also it get to seep into our downtime too?
forgettable night just because I had like staying in on my own, reading So in that spirit, I spent this
a bad case of the FOMOs. and painting and snacking and weekend in a onesie with a box
What do I like? I like good music, watching mortifyingly cheesy set, a bag of Cheetos and my best
good restaurants, toilets with toilet films that I live in fear of suddenly friends. It was fantastic. ◆
WELL,
HELLO
THERE... Settling down
“In my twenties I was figuring out
my own life, so it was tough to
give someone else my attention.
Being in love By 30, I was in a good place with
work and I’d met my fiancée.
“To me, the most romantic Everything slowed down and
gesture is a quiet night in with I could be a better partner.”
my girl. I like to cook for her. I’m
a meat eater and a griller – I do
steaks, I do chicken, I do fish.
I have a broad palate.”
HIS VITALS Taylor Tricky sex

positions
Kinney
Age 34 “On Shameless (the US
version), I did a sex scene
Home town
from the vantage point of
Lancaster,
Emmy Rossum’s character. So
Pennsylvania
I was pretty much naked, on
First major break Awkward sex scenes and top of a 250lbs cameraman,
pretending to make love. One
Playing the
tight-T-shirt-clad
banging out a steak for of the weirder things I’ve
werewolf Mason, fiancée Lady Gaga are done in my line of work.”
Lockwood in The
Vampire Diaries. all in a day’s work…
Crazy fact #1 BY RACHEL MOSELY. PHOTOGRAPH NINO MUNOZ/CPI SYNDICATION
He met Lady Gaga
in 2011 when he
played the love
interest in her You
And I music video.
How to
Crazy fact #2
Before breaking into
Favourite improve his
acting, Taylor worked possession first time?
as a carpenter in “SpongeBob SquarePants
Hawaii. Handy. “Uh, last longer. But
socks. I’m not very
everything
materialistic; I don’t have a lot
else was great!”
of stuff. But I do always like
a pair of really weird socks.”
FILM
Hungry for more? FOCUS
HUNGER GAMES fans: the final film instalment is here! For the
uninitiated
ninitiated, our handy blag sheet will get you Mockingjay-ready
COSTUMES HAIR ENVY STUNTS CASTING

THEY SAY Katniss’ EY SAY I wonder
plait is perfection. if they ever get
YOU SAY Producers ured doing their
rented £19,000-wor own stunts?
of wigs to help decid OU SAY Jennifer
on J-Law’s hair weent temporarily
colour. They wanted d deaf in one ear
her trademark plait wheen a jet of water
tto be recognisable p
punctured her
from all angles. eaardrum. Ouch.
S
CE THEY SAY
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I think I recognise THEY SAY President

NEW
Commander Lyme… Snow is absolutely

THEY SAY I wonder if YOU SAY Of course you do! terrifying.
Jennifer Lawrence was her It’s Gwendoline Christie, who YOU SAY That was
usual goofball self on set? plays Brienne of Tarth in Donald Sutherland’s plan.
YOU SAY Duh. She ripped Game Of Thrones. He wanted the role so
her costume hip-hop badly, he wrote a
dancing with Willow Shields three-page letter to the
and had to be sown back in. first film’s director saying
why he should be cast.
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THEY SAY All those OTT outfits THEY SAY Philip Seymour THEY SAY The city where
are incredible, but I bet they Hoffman died before filming they shot the Capitol
made going to the loo a bit tricky… wrapped. How did they scenes looks familiar.
YOU SAY Elizabeth Banks has said she get around that? YOU SAY It’s cities,
needed someone to hand her toilet YOU SAY He only had 10 actually. Most of those
paper while in costume, and Jennifer days left on set, and scenes were filmed in
has admitted to peeing in a bucket. he’d already filmed Paris and Berlin.
all his dialogue.
Still confused? Here’s a glossary:

4 Because if you’re going to jump
p on the HG bandwagon, you really should know your Peeta from your Panem first…
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HUNGER MOCKINGJAY
The country The film’s Katniss’ friend Katniss’ SNOW The primary GAMES A bird found
where it’s set protagonist and co- childhood The evil city of Panem, Stanley Tucci in Panem that
– a post- who wages conspirator, sidekick dictator who where hosts the becomes the
apocalyptic rebellion on who’s in love – who’s also in rules Panem colourful child tributes’ symbol of
America. The Capitol. with her. love with her. through fear. couture rules. death match. revolution.
X The Hunger Games: Mockingjay – Part 2 hits cinemas on 19 November

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expensive Eden Rock Hotel (which his parents just happen
to own) on the Caribbean island of St Barths, it doesn’t
appear he’s that bothered. Which is lucky, really, because
he’s been getting it from all sides for as long as we can
WANTS A WORD WITH…
Spencer
remember – from Millie Mackintosh famously slapping
him on screen (her husband Professor Green later called
him a “c**t”) to frequent bust-ups with regular MIC-ers.
Even the ever-affable Jonathan Ross called him “a bit of a
dick”. Add to that several ill-advised ‘jokes’, such as tweeting
Matthews
his (incorrect) £488,000 bar bill just days after Typhoon
Haiyan devastated the Philippines, and having photos of his
cocaine use made public, and it doesn’t look great. Which
is why, at the prospect of meeting him, I am, shall we say,
‘managing my expectations’…
³ You’re best-known for

He has a reputation as a serial cheat, but cheating on all your girlfriends, ‘She knew I’d
is Made In Chelsea’s Spencer really the so how have you remained cheated on
popular with viewers?
love-to-hate lothario everyone thinks he “Well, that’s kind of you to say. In
her, wasn’t
is? Natasha Devon met him to find out… the past, I’ve been immature in OK with it but
handling break-ups. I’m still
The name Spencer Matthews usually prompts one relatively young. We started [on
still always
of two reactions: an eye-rolling,‘Urgh what an MIC] ages ago, and my entire came back’
arse…’ or an incredulous,‘Oh, my god, did you see twenties have been documented.
what he did to [insert girl’s name here]?!’ It’s safe to It sounds odd because obviously
say that Made In Chelsea’s ‘Spenny’ is controversial, at best. In cheating is a horrible thing to do – and I regret every
fact, the 26-year-old Eton-educated former stockbroker (he single time – but I’ve always been cowardly when it comes
left his City job to star in MIC) has such a bad reputation to finishing a relationship. When I feel that something’s
with women, he makes Tiger Woods seem like a totally not quite right or I can’t see a future, I’ve just sort of
upstanding guy. But with a Twitter profile (746,000 followers, misbehaved, and that aids the process of ending it.
despite the cheesy photo) that links to the eye-wateringly But throughout my twenties I’ve cheated like, 10 i
times? It’s not the end of the married Cheryl Cole and I’m
world. It’s seven years!” extremely jealous of him. She’s
³ Misbehaving to force the end not posh! I’ve never noticed if
of a relationship sounds like girlfriends have money because I try
familiar behaviour – do you to be as gentlemanly as possible,
think that makes you popular and never let them pay for much.”
with other guys? ³ You were filmed taking cocaine.
“I wasn’t always popular. At the Talk me through that…
beginning of series three, Jamie “It was a long time ago. I have
and I fell out over Louise, and experimented in the past, but no
everyone took his side. That’s when stuff started turning more than your average young
sour, and I wasn’t popular at all. But then people just got person. Unfortunately, I was set up
used to it [the cheating] and started to find it funny. I’m – but such is life. I shouldn’t have
sure my ex-girlfriends would be annoyed to hear that. But been so stupid; it’s one moment I
I haven’t done anything particularly wrong in a while. really regret. Then, not to brush it
I’m trying to grow up.” under the rug, but I really don’t
³ When you cheated on Louise you said, “It’s fucking think it [cocaine] is that shocking
hard to respect you when you allow me to cheat on – so many people do it. Being in the
you.” Do you regret saying that? public eye is not all it’s cracked up
“One of my faves! I’m joking. Yes, of course, it was a nasty to be because, ultimately, you’re on
thing to say. But knowing what you say is being filmed – everyone’s watch. Not that I take
and that people are going to see it on TV – makes you act ‘Many lads drugs anymore…”
awkwardly and weirdly, to the point where you panic and
say something worse. Louise and I had a certain attraction
find it ³ But don’t you feel that you
have a responsibility because
that always led us back to each other. She knew I’d cheated hilarious MIC is watched by so many
on her, wasn’t OK with it but still always came back. What when I cheat young people?
I meant was, ‘How long is this going to go on for?!’” “I feel my actions shouldn’t be
³ Are you different in relationships from TV Spencer?
on someone, popular. Many young lads find it
“Yeah! Well, to a degree. I don’t have the cleanest record, but I don’t’ hilarious when I cheat on someone,
but it used to be worse. Now Lauren [Hutton] and I have but I don’t. I think it’s very upsetting
broken up, and it’s the first time I’ve done that with for the girls. I have a huge amount
someone in the ‘honourable’ way.” of respect for women; I just happen to make mistakes.”
³ Surely some of your exes must hate you?
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“Erm… no. I mean I’m not in touch with them all I come away from our interview feeling unsettled. I found
daily or anything, but no.” a few things Spencer said offensive; they hint at a deep-
³ How have you managed it? rooted disrespect for women, despite his protestations
“I think I have a knack of turning most things into a joke. to the contrary. I can’t deny he’s funny, handsome and
I don’t think people see me as a particularly serious charming. And he has a vulnerability about him that
person. After a while they kind of take it for what it is makes being tough with him feel like kicking a puppy. It’s
– a good time that ended badly, so why not be mates? easy to see why he is popular and how he’s remained on
I genuinely do try to be as kind and nice as I can be to good terms with exes he treated badly in the past.
people, so I suppose they remember those times.” He also made me wonder what having your life filmed
³ When you look back on how you behaved in previous does to your sense of self and to your moral compass. If
relationships, do you think there was some kind of you’re constantly being slapped on the back by producers
emotional problem underlying it? for juicy scenes that boost ratings, or by viewers for
“Possibly. I try my best not to blame things on bad delivering killer, cruel one-liners, there can’t be much
childhood experiences and say, ‘That’s why I am the way incentive to change your ways.
I am.’ I find it hard to listen to that kind of stuff. I’m not Perhaps Spencer is a victim of reality TV just as much as
what you’d call a role model – despite your kind words the women he cheats on. Perhaps he has a good heart but
about me being popular. I get it a bit wrong.” is too emotionally immature to use it in the right way.
³ Would you ever date someone who isn’t posh? Or perhaps he’s the most dangerous type of player – one
“Yeah. Why are you looking at me sceptically? Funda was who inspires sympathy and forgiveness. Maybe he’s a bit
not from money; neither was Lauren. My mate has just of all three – we’ll never really know… ◆
THEGIRL
WHO
PROVED
ANYTHING
CAN
She grew up on a Herefordshire council estate,
with an absent father and bailiffs at the door. When
ELLIE GOULDING became famous at 23, then, no
one was more surprised than her. Now, for the first
time, she explains how the self-doubt that plagued
her behind the scenes was what ultimately made
her triumph. Jude Rogers meets the girl on fire…
HAPPEN
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CELEBRITY
Y
I’m glad
the bubble
burst,
because
then I was
on my own
CELEBRITY
ou’re 14, desperately poor and lonely, sharing a

cramped council-house bedroom with your two
sisters and writing songs on an old guitar to cheer
yourself up. Fast-forward 15 years: the world’s most
famous pop star is on your speed dial, you’ve had
No.1s in the UK and US, your boyfriend is an all-
grown-up boy-band alumnus, and glamorous
photoshoots like today’s are a regular occurrence.
hat like, Ellie Goulding? travelled to Kenya with Free The
ble!” she beams. Not many Children the previous year. “I got to
predicted such a journey see the difference between having a
-voiced pop marvel like school built and not having a school
e career soared after 2013 built. Most of the girls there would
c smash Burn. A Brit ordinarily go into a relationship very
to fame, or at least a young, and that was that. Now, they’re
ackground, is the usual becoming more powerful.”
d, Ellie’s battled tough Education means a lot to Ellie. It
riumphed. Right now, was her solace and escape from a
g forward to the release difficult upbringing, and it was at
album, Delirium, and university in Canterbury that she was
ve spotted her hoicking a spotted as a future star. Born in the
Taylor Swift’s all-star Bad tiny village of Lyonshall near
(Ellie introduced Taylor Hereford in 1986, her dad Arthur left
d Calvin Harris). She’s also home when she was five (she last saw
settled relationship with him aged 19; there’s been no contact
ugie Poynter (they met since), and her mum Tracey married a
litan’s Ultimate Women man Ellie despised (she’s talked about
Awards in 2013). both men before, and doesn’t want to
“Glass of prosecco?” Ellie offers, again). “I mean, god, some people
before settling on a vast leather sofa in have had it much worse than
the warehouse where we’re shooting, I have, but the extremity of that
its folds enveloping her taut but teeny childhood and growing up around
body. Up close she’s unbelievably cute, those people…” She holds her drink
her brown eyes large and curious. Her tightly. Bailiffs were regular visitors,
candidness is impressive, as is her and paying the bills was a constant
commitment to the charity Chime worry. “I don’t think that ever goes
For Change. Co-founded by Beyoncé away,” she says. “It’s been very hard to
and Salma Hayek in association with become who I am now and take all
Gucci, it speaks out for women and this for granted. I can’t have gone
girls around the world. Ellie first got through what I’ve gone through and
involved by playing at a Chime For then become a different person.”
Change gig in 2013. “I couldn’t Ellie was clever – she left sixth form
believe I was even asked!” she says. with three As at A-level. “I was quite
“There were so many female artists – feisty, and opinionated. I just wanted
Beyoncé, Florence, Iggy [Azalea]… it to learn.” At 14, she taught herself to
was an amazing atmosphere.” play guitar, listening to bands such as
Ellie had been involved in female- Nirvana and Pearl Jam. Her father
empowerment projects before, having played guitar too. “I’m sure part of i
CELEBRITY
me probably wanted to impress him.

He’s never seen me play, but I guess
I thought, ‘I can do this.’ But her mum
didn’t encourage her desire to pursue
music. “She was all, ‘What are you
doing? You can’t do this.’ It seemed to
her that it was a pipe dream; a little
bit unrealistic.”
The subject of her mum is mostly
off limits, but Ellie says her siblings
are, “brilliant with what I do”,
especially big sister Isabel, who has
just given birth to Ellie’s first niece.
“I’ve never had that feeling of
wanting to show everyone a photo
before,” she says, whipping out her
phone. “But she’s so cute!”
Ellie kept going with music
throughout her time at university and,
one night in Canterbury in 2007,
entered an open-mic talent show.
By chance, young manager Jamie
Lillywhite (who Ellie still works with)
spotted her; less than two years later,
he signed her to Polydor Records.
Fame came quickly. In 2010, two
months after releasing her debut
single Under The Sheets, Ellie won the
Critics’ Choice Award at the Brits, bubble burst, because then I was on do, it’s pretty special. I don’t want to
which was presented to her by my own. It was like someone had let them go that easily!”
Courtney Love and Peter Kay. “This pushed me out into the wilderness. Then, in December 2013, came
is mental,” she gushed, sweetly, on stage It was all, ‘There you go, you’re Dougie. Ellie practically fizzes as we
that night. “I was going to take my stocked up on your food and your talk about him – and she thanks
shoes off so I didn’t fall on the way!” water, and now you have to find Cosmopolitan for our help in bringing
But behind the scenes, she struggled yourself.’ And I was lucky I did.” As them together. Did their eyes meet
to cope with the spotlight, and she got stronger, more hits came across a crowded room? “They did!
started having panic attacks so severe – most notably her cover of Elton He was just sort of walking around,
she once ended up in hospital (I John’s Your Song, which she played for and I thought he was really fit. I was
interviewed her around this time – the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge also wearing the tightest corset
she was edgy and nervous, completely at their 2011 wedding, and, three of all time.” She puts her hands on her
different from the spirited woman years after her first release, her first hips and puffs. “I couldn’t breathe.
before me today). No.1 single, Burn. But it worked, because I pulled him!”
Meanwhile, her debut Romance came for Engagement rumours have been
album Lights had shot to her too, including rife, but would she ever consider
the top of the UK charts. relationships with proposing to him? “Hmmm, no. I’m
It went double-platinum “I was touring… Radio 1 DJ Greg James, all about making women do things
too, but she failed to
score a No.1 single
and I definitely and dance-music
producer Skrillex. She
that blokes should do, but there’s
a part of me that is annoyingly
– which, in the cut-throat was drinking happily has “no issues” traditional…” She stops herself, as if
music industry, meant too much” with her exes, and she’s wondering whether she should
her star waned. they’ve stayed friends. say what follows – but she goes
But that, Ellie says, “I don’t let many people ahead. “You know, my life is so weird
saved her. “I’m glad the into my life, so when I that I do want some normalthings i
CELEBRITY
– things I grew up MySpace days – she

thinking were normal, really makes me laugh.”
like getting married in a What do they talk about?
white dress in a church “Everything! Our lives,
and having an after- the world… the same
party. And a hen do – all things I talk about with
my best friends in Ibiza my friends from school
or something.” who do ‘real’ jobs. One’s
She puts her finger to a teacher, one’s a nurse…
her lips to shut herself I couldn’t be more proud
up and we both laugh. of them. I have friends
So she can see a long- who are famous, and I
term future with have friends who are not
Dougie, then? “Yeah, famous, but those older
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of course! 100%!” connections are the
Dougie has also been particularly special ones.”
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through a lot, including So she’s saying a
a spell in rehab in early takeaway in Hereford is
2012 (he battled drink better than a Michelin-
and drugs after splitting starred meal with the
from The Saturdays’ A-list? Ellie smiles, and
Frankie Sandford). those fox-like eyes dazzle.
As sensitively as I can “Seriously, sitting with
while we’re both holding my old friends talking
glasses of fizz, I ask what about old times is when
it’s like to be with I feel the most joy.”
someone who doesn’t Even when she thinks
drink. Ellie’s reply is typically candid. Ellie’s less well-known about her past, Ellie can
“I don’t drink to excess, so it’s totally songs to her, she relaxed. see bright, silver linings.
cool… but I did have a period when “I thought, ‘Wow, that’s “Taylor’s funny… And when she talks
I felt like I did.” This was when Burn cool. Taylor’s a badass!’” she’s got a very about the tough times
came out, the summer before Ellie The following summer, today, she’s together,
met Dougie. “I was touring with the pair sang Ellie’s British sense more philosophical.
Bruno Mars, and I definitely was euphoric top-five hit, of humour” Happy. Of course,
certain subjects do still
drinking too much. I was a bit out of Anything Could Happen,
control, um… yeah, I wasn’t happy.” together on tour in LA. rile her – namely
So she took charge of her life. A So, what’s Taylor like? social-media trolls
fitness lover, she started running “She’s really funny. She’s got a very (“Some people will comment meanly
more (she’s done impressively speedy British sense of humour. We love on what I’m wearing, and I’ll be like,
10Ks in London and Paris this year) doing scenes from The Office.” ‘Come on, guys, get it together!’”)
and struck “the right balance of Do they text? “Of course!” Was it and sexism in the music industry.
people around me”. This, of course, weird when she first got one from “I get annoyed when men write
includes being a part of Taylor Swift’s Taylor? “No, it’s not like that. People degrading songs about women, but
star-studded girl squad, alongside might imagine it that way, but from women are starting to speak out. And
Cara Delevingne, Lena Dunham and where I am, she’s just my friend.” I got annoyed when Glastonbury had
Selena Gomez – to name but a few. Ellie does get invited to ridiculous so many men on the line-up… but
It all began when Ellie met Taylor A-list gatherings. She’s loathe to give then Florence headlined. Things are
on ITV’s Jonathan Ross Show in 2012. details (“I’ve got to keep some things changing, you know? And I love it.”
“I was really nervous, because she’s private, for me”), but she had dinner at Things will keep changing for the
such a legend, and I remember Stella McCartney’s home recently better for Ellie too – you can feel it.
thinking, ‘Please don’t act like a twat, with Taylor, Adele and Kate Hudson. And you just wish you could go back
Ellie; don’t say anything stupid.’” But She loved seeing Adele especially as, to tell 14-year-old Ellie that for her,
when Taylor quoted a lyric of one of she says, “We’ve been friends since anything could happen. i
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SOMETIMES IT’S WHAT’S ON THE OUTSIDE THAT COUNTS
BY SHELLY VELLA. PHOTOGRAPH DENNIS PEDERSEN
A ROSE AMONG THORNS…

You know that age-old dilemma: how do you cram everything into one tiny, don’t-lose-me bag on a night out? We’ve found the
answer. You buy into the box clutch trend. Seriously, this bag is one you can keep hold of – not one you need to leave on a
table, ask a patient male accomplice to hold while you make a dash for the dance floor, or that wears your shoulder out with the
weight of freight within. It’s chic, it’s structured, and like this Lulu Guinness beauty, it’s such a statement that even with jeans it
becomes a key accessory. A sliver of chain to wear across the body can only be a bonus… no need to clutch at all.
Clutch, £395, Lulu Guinness. Bed of roses from Flowerbx
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THE DEEP V
Sexy. Strong. Extravagant. That’s the deep,
deep V; a trend that will inveigle its way
into every party this season and quite
possibly create a few gasps along the way.
(And that’s a good thing, trust us.) Best for
smaller chests, although larger-bosomed
friends can still apply – just look for Vs
where the point sits just above the breasts.
THIS PAGE Jumpsuit,
£125, AQAQ. Shoes, £475,
Christian Louboutin. Mask,
£8, So High Soho
OPPOSITE PAGE
Zhanna wears Dress,
£48, Asos. Shoes, £250,
LK Bennett. Tights, £31,
Wolford. Necklace, £249,
Swarovski. Lukas wears
Blazer, £275; shirt, £90;
trousers, £110; shoes, £245;
tie, £4, all Reiss i
Most party dress codes come in

two distinct flavours: low key and
sultry or high key and sexy.
Whether you want to smoulder in
the corner or stand out on the
dance floor, we’ve got you covered
F A S H I O N Sairey Stemp P H O T O G R A P H S Tony Kelly
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SPARKLES
Sparkles work for all ages and all
shapes – it’s just about getting the
colour and placement right. And
silver is far more chic than gold…
OPPOSITE PAGE Dress, £60, River Island.
Sunglasses, £245, Lotho. Ring, £146, Mawi
THIS PAGE Dress, £289, Jack Wills. Boots,

£100, Aldo. Tights, £25, Wolford. Lace Ears,
£135, Mimi Holliday. Clutch, £950, Jimmy
Choo at Net-A-Porter i
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PEPLUM
Get it wrong and a peplum can
resemble the frilly valance in your
parents’ spare bedroom. Get it right
and it can accentuate a beautifully
curved waist or shelter a less-than-
perfect bottom like nothing else.
It’s all in the shape…
THIS PAGE Dress, £4,100, Elie Saab.
Shoes, £805, Giuseppe Zanotti.
Mask, £45, Dolci Follie
OPPOSITE PAGE Zhanna wears Dress,
£230, AQAQ. Shoes, £250, LK Bennett.
Tights, as before. Cuff, £15, Mood at Jon
Richard. Harvey wears Jacket, £275;
shirt, £70; trousers, £115; shoes, £245; tie,
£45, all Reiss. Sunglasses, £190, Hyde’s i
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SEQUINS
Sequins have got a bad rep over the
years. They’ve been the domain of
raucous hen nights, Nana’s 80th
and glam rockers. Not anymore…
Sequins (known to the fashion pack
as paillettes) suit all body shapes –
as long as you keep them small (no
bigger than 6mm diameter, please).
THIS PAGE Jacket, £335; trousers,
£289, both Mes Demoiselles. Shoes,
£250, LK Bennett
OPPOSITE PAGE Zhanna wears

Dress, £350, Mes Demoiselles.
Boots, £625, Stuart Weitzman for
Russell & Bromley. Lukas wears
Jacket, £245, Reiss. Shirt; trousers;
shoes; tie, all as before
Hair Heath Massi at Frank Agency,

using Hair Rehab London. Makeup
Nicky Tavilla at Terri Manduca, using
Giorgio Armani. Models Zhanna at
PRM. Harvey Newton-Haydon at
Next. Lukas at Nevs.
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HEY, 3 FORGET SIZES
HOW DO
Even if you don’t do bodycon,
experiment with fitted tops
and voluminous bottoms or
vice versa. And don’t be
I WEAR…
scared to belt it à la Balmain.
Retro lurex?
Sure, this fabric has a
whiff of the ’70s suburban
dinner party, but follow
our rules and come out
shining (in a good way)…
1 UNDERSTAND
YOUR LUREX
First, a brief history lesson: lurex 4 ACCESSORISE
is basically a knitted fabric with NOT ALL AREAS
metallic yarn woven through it. In Lurex was always a dance-floor
your nan’s day, manufacturers favourite; the sort of spangly
used actual metal, which is why material that would literally
vintage lurex can look tarnished. glow under the disco ball. But
(A splash of lemon juice and salt today’s lurex is best worn with
mixed together and rubbed along discretion. That means keeping
the thread will brighten up any accessories neutral – diamanté
older lurex pieces you’ve found.) costume jewellery has no place
But if you’re buying it today? It’s here. If you insist, however, go
synthetic, so don’t worry. for resin costume jewellery,
which won’t compete.
5 AND DON’ T
2 CONTRAST IS BE RASH…
ALWAYS BEST Angry red blotches are
You must set it off with contrasting never a good look, so if you
fabrics. Think knee-length lurex tube have sensitive skin that’s
skirt with an oversized men’s white irritated by textured fabrics,
shirt or classic white tee. Go against apply a dermalogical cream
lurex ‘typecasting’ too. It’s just as such as Eurax pre-dress-up.
sexy in track-inspired pants (see
Taylor) as it is in a ‘wiggle dress’.
Turn the page

for more lurex
styling tips
4LUREX
+ LEATHER
Lurex tube dresses can have a
whiff of ‘eau de Eurotrash’ if you
pile it up with sharp heels and
bouncy hair. Our advice: go the
way of Kate Moss and down-sex it
with a leather jacket and sturdy
biker boots. Jacket, £399, French
Connection. Dress, £28, Topshop.
Boots, £275, Russell & Bromley
Sam Rollinson
4LUREX + DENIM
A ribbed jersey knit with distressed jeans is
the simplest and most subtle way to wear
this combo – pick out the metallic hue with
retro flats in a silver tone. Top, £28, River
Island. Jeans, £95, Levi’s. Shoes, £70, Officee
BY HOLLY COOPEY. PHOTOGRAPHS FAMOUS, GETTY IMAGES, KEIR HARRIS, PRESS ASSOCIATION, XPOSURE
Kate Bosworth
PS
WASH INSIDE OUT
TO MAINTAIN SHINE
AND AVOID
SNAGGING
There is a way to do 360° lurex. Not a maxi

dress (a bit too Abigail’s Party) but co-ordinates
(or co-ords, in fashion speak). Tone it down
with a just-the-right-side-of-ugly shoe.
PSST, FASHION TALK The new alternative to
dresses or playsuits, co-ords can also be worn
separately. Try this fine-knit top with leather
Ruby Rose skinnies. Top, £29.99; skirt, £49.99, both
H&M. Shoes, £65, Office ◆
Shoes, £120,
Kurt Geiger
Top, £28, River Island
Dress, £65, Oasis
Bag, £49, Butterfly

by Matthew Williamson
at Debenhams Necklace,
£12.99, New
Look
Bag, £32, Biba at

i s e m e w i th a ler
House Of Fraser
Surprrctic Gold Sty
ghd Aintghd
#h
Bag, £65, Dune
Top, £69, Gestuz

Dress, £100, Coast
Coat, £85, Oasis
Shoes, £75, Dune
GHD Arctic Gold V

Styler gift set, £130
Necklace, £17,
Accessorize
Dress, £130, Oasis

THE
EDIT
Pouch, £35, French Connection
Shoes, £39.99, New Look
metallics This season it’s all about glowing rather than

sparkling, says FASHION EDITOR SAIREY STEMP.
And guess what? These iridescent beauties
can help you do just that…
Dress, £34.99, New Look i
Shoes, £99,
Kurt Geiger
Earrings, £12.50
Dress, £160, Whistles
Marks & Spencer
PHOTOGRAPHS TRUNK ARCHIVE
Bag, £115, Marc Cain
Skirt, £32, Oasis
Top, £45, Oliver Bonas
Earrings,
£15,
Marks &
Spencer
Shoes, £89,
Shrug, £38, Dune
Helen Moore
Opulent
blues Deep, rich blues are a more subtle
alternative to evening black – just as
flattering, way more interesting
Bag, £45, Accessorize
Necklace, £22.50,
Marks & Spencer
Skirt, £75, French Connection
Shoes,
£145, Karen
Millen
Dress, £48, Oasis Bag, £68, Paul’s Boutique
Bag, £40,
River Island
Shoes,
£140,
Kurt
Geiger
Dress, £54,
Earrings, £20, VLabel London
Debenhams
Bag, £99, Karen Millen
Necklace,
£25, Jasper
Rich
Conran at
Debenhams
Boots, £79.99, H&M

reds Ready to take centre stage?
Good. Because this bold shade
just loves the limelight
Purse, £65, Kurt Geiger
Dress, £59,
PHOTOGRAPHS TRUNK ARCHIVE
Chi Chi
London
Trousers, £14.99, H&M Dress, £85, Simply Be Shoes, £72, Office ◆
N -BS GUID O BEAUTY
BY CASSIE POWNEY. PHOTOGRAPH GETTY IMAGES
IS YOUR 9-5 AGEING YOU?

Can you age five years in less than a day? Yes, according to a recent study, in which people were asked to guess a
woman’s age at the start and end of the day. The result: most people thought she looked five years older just 14 hours
later. Cue a flurry of fatigue fighters from the likes of Decléor, Embryolisse and This Works. Our favourite, Kiehl’s Daily
Reviving Concentrate, £36, is packed with hard-working antioxidant-rich essential and botanical oils that strengthen
skin’s natural defences against youth zappers such as pollution and UV rays. The dog days are over.
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Ah, the festive beauty gift box –

so full of promise, yet so often
full of stuff you don’t need.
Here are some that deliver
L’Occitane Pierre Hermé £18.50
St Tropez Ultimate £14.85
Immortelle Star Gift, £55 Party Kit, £25
1 Jasmin Immortelle Neroli EDT Immortelle Neroli Body Lotion 1 St Tropez Self Tan Bronzing idea what these have to do with
Has notes of pink pepper, You’d better like this scent a lot, Mousse There’s one of these false tan, but sparkly nails and
neroli, orange blossom and because after using both of sold somewhere in the world lashes are Christmas gift staples.
amber. It’s worth £46. We’ll these you’ll smell of it 24/7. every minute. Just saying. St Tropez applicator mitt (not
leave you to do the maths. 4 Jasmin Immortelle Neroli 2 Eylure London Volume pictured) Sure, it’s worth about
2 Jasmin Immortelle Neroli Soap Bar Soap’s a bit retro, no? Eyelashes; 3 Ciaté Nail Varnish 2p, but it’s always handy to
Shower Gel; 3 Jasmin Give it to your nan. She’ll love it. in London Baby We have no have one of these stashed away.
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£23.40 £19
Daisyby Wonnders, £25
1 Elasticcizer Originally created
MarcJacobs for Audrrey Hepburn, this is the
world’s first pre-shampoo
giftset,£78 conditio
the bran
oning treatment and
nd’s best-seller.
1 Daisy by Marc Jacobs EDT £10 2 Body Building Shampoo;
The Daisy franchise is Marc
Jacobs’ best-ever seller.
Soap&GlorySoaperStar,£20 3 Moisture Balancing
Conditioner Sure, the shampoo
2 Daisy by Marc Jacobs EDT 1 Clean On Me Shower Gel This 3 Heel Genius Foot Cream; and conditioner don’t match,
Roller Ball Exclusive to the set bad boy will last you ages, and 4 Hand Food Hand Cream We’d but this combination suits more
and perfectly sized to fit in your the pump action is ideal for love these to be bigger, but people, apparently – clever!
clutch bag for top-ups. slippery shower hands. they are handy for travelling. They’re best-sellers too.
3 Daisy by Marc Jacobs Body 2 The Righteous Butter Body 5 The Scrub Of Your Life Body 4 Daily Damage Defence;
Lotion If you want to channel Butter One of these sells every Scrub The clue’s in the name… 5 Maximizer They might look
an actual daisy, layer this body 20 seconds, so you probably 6 Fluffy socks The least exciting small, but you only need a tiny
cream under your fragrance. already know how great it is. bit – but we do love toasty toes. amount of these hero products. i
4 2
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£0
Tom FordTwo-
£16 Piece Lip Color
Aesop Maps of &Nail
Two-Piece BEST VALUE!
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BY LUCY PARTINGTON. PHOTOGRAPHS DENNIS PEDERSEN
Lacquer Gift
LightCephus,£57 Box,£130 £41.50
1 Geranium Leaf Body Cleanser
If you’ve never experienced the 1 Lip Color in Blush Nude; 2 Lip
joy of Aesop, try this and you’ll
be sold. Guaranteed.
Color in Cherry Lush; 3 Nail
Lacquer in Bordeaux Lust; 4
BenefitGetYourPartyOn,£39.50
2 Geranium Leaf Body Scrub Nail Lacquer in Scarlet Chinois 1 They’re Real! Mascara What’s the second-best-selling product
Fun fact: this is the dreamiest Wow, the bargain of the year, this? Oh, only a tin containing in the UK’s (er, well-known) ‘all
of all body scrubs. right? OK, so you won’t save the UK’s No.1 mascara… other face items’ category…
3 Geranium Leaf Body Balm a penny, but at least you can 2 Hoola Bronzing Powder 4 Gimme Brow Brow Gel … and
Smother everywhere and you’ll choose the shades you want. The best-selling bronzer… the second-best-selling product
never feel sad again. Win some, lose some. 3 High Beam Highlighter … and for brows. No big deal, then. ◆
Don’ forget my
ghd Styler! #hintghd
BEAUTY
Slow LAB
burners Can a candle really

capture Christmas?
Acting Beauty Editor
CASSIE POWNEY
sniffs out the latest
launches to find out
Jo Malone Roasted
Chhestnut Deluxe,
£120 Come in from
e cold and rest up
the
by the fire. What’s
at? You don’t have
tha
a fire?
f Oh well, burn
this candle instead,
and fill the room
with warming scents Roja Parfums Pour Maison, £75
of smoky, nutty First come the deep, woody notes of
veliness. A hint
lov a forest walk, then the sweet notes
of caramel takes of gingerbread, cocoa and toffee, all
e edge off, plus
the served in front of a crackling open fire.
this burns for an Add a sprinkle of church-inspired
impressive 90 hours. frankincense to the proceedings and
that’s Christmas Eve in a candle.
d
Miller Harris Rock Star,

£75 (set of three with
Wild Star and Super
Star) More Christmas
party than Christmas
Day: smoky ‘night-time’
PHOTOGRAPH TRUNK ARCHIVE. STILL LIFES STUDIO 33
notes of birch and black

tobacco give way to
warmer ‘sunrise’ aromas
of nutmeg and cumin.
Diptyque Liquidambar, £55 Liquid

Editor’s pick
Jo Loves Christmas Trees, £45 You
amber creates the sweet, earthy heart know the smell of a just-opened box
of this scent. Nutmeg and cinnamon of Christmas-tree decorations? That’s
spice things up, while brown sugar what this smells of. The child in you
takes it into mouthwatering territory. will go giddy over nostalgic notes of
fresh pine, lavender and amber.
INGE HAS
Cosmopolittan’s Beauty Director
D INGEBORG VAN LOTRINGEN gets a few things off her chest
This month I can’ get over... BEAUTY

Double-masking STAND-OFF
‘Multimaskin , o or the act of sporting multiple face NEXT-GEN EPILATOR
masks all at once, ay be a social-media hit, but it Lightning-fast and far less
can also be a shortc tto irritated skin if you leave torturous than the coily devices
one mask on too long t accommodate the other(s). of yore (I can do my bikini line
with these!), they leave you
What makes more sense to e (I’ve done it for
smooth for weeks. Hair grows
years) is double-maski . pply an enzyme or AHA back finer and, over time, sparser.
mask first to dissolve eead cells. Follow that with a VS
treatment mask. e latter works twice as hard on AT-HOME LASER
pre-peeled ski sos you get professional-looking Lasers kill the bulb from which
results at h e. Try these combinations: hair grows – although at-home
devices aren’t powerful enough
DRY AN ENSITIVE SKIN to ensure hair never grows back.
Algenist Algae Pai Rosehip Zapping every inch of skin is a
Brightening BioRegenerate rather slow and sting-y process.
Mask, £45 Rapid Radiance MY WINNER
Mask, £22
Epilator. The laser takes a good
OILY AND CONGESTED SKIN 12 treatments (fortnightly,
for safety reasons) for
Estée Lauder Clear Starskin Behind
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patches of hair to vanish,

Difference Purifying The Scenes
Exfoliating Calming Face so you risk giving up, as I
Mask, £35 Mask, £8.50 did. For true permanent
hair removal you still need
LINES AND PIGMENTATION to go pro. Also, lasers are
Zelens Nuxe Splendieuse off-limits for dark skin or
Transformer Anti-Dark Spot very light hair, while
Instant Renewal Perfecting epilators are not.
Multimasking supermodel Mask, £95 Mask, £30
Izabel Goulart (above right) Braun Silk-Épil 9
Skin Spa, £179.99
PERSONAL SHOPPER
OBSESSED IMPRESSED NONPLUSSED

✱ Kérastase Fusio ✱ Redken Stay High ✱ Giorgio Armani
Dose, £15 18 High-Hold Gel Ecstasy Lacquer, £27
An in-salon option, To Mousse, £19 Promises seriously
these bespoke serums This sticky gel-to-mousse lacquered lips. Delivers
tackle hair issues (frizz, stuff gives great bouffant, a ‘meh’ sheeny stain that
(dullness, brittleness…) and answers my plea for smells of Elnett. The
in minutes and keep it a volumising mousse shine does last, but it’s
lush for up to five washes. with staying power. a bit underwhelming.
GETTING
READY
WITH
We quizzed three celebs on
everything from hair and
beauty prep to hangover cures.
Prepare for all your voyeuristic
tendencies to be satisfied
Kate Upton of The Other Woman. I wore

dramatic earrings, so I kept
my skin and lips subtle. I
her concealer kit, which
comes with a pot of powder.
✱ The song I request is
Her nights start with a glass of red and had feline flicks and black Baby Got Back. Everybody
she recovers with a Netflix binge… lashes for something extra. loves a good throwback
✱ I like to mix up my a glam bun or have a ✱ I listen to Florence and and it gets the crowd going.
night-out look, but I often blow-dry. Modelling takes the Machine and Arcade ✱ As soon as I get home
stick to classics – a bold its toll because of the hot Fire while getting ready. I wash and tone my face.
lip, smoky eyes, great skin. irons, so healthy hair ✱ Before a night out I’ll eat My mom taught me to do it
✱ I’m a bronzer girl and a is important to me. I use fish or chicken with grilled every night so it’s ingrained.
makeup artist once showed masks as often as I can. vegetables and sautéed ✱ I’m a sucker for anything
me how to add a little ✱ A spritz of Jo Malone spinach with feta. salty after a night out –
blush on top of bronzer. It Orange Blossom Cologne ✱ Red wine is my drink of pretzels, fries, calamari,
adds a pop of colour and makes me feel fresh. choice, at home and while popcorn. I definitely
makes a huge difference! ✱ I like Rag & Bone I’m out. I like tequila with believe in cheat days.
✱ The night out that I felt jeans – they just fit so soda water too – it tastes ✱ My perfect hangover
my most beautiful was at well. My style is casual like a skinny margarita. day is a lie-in and a Netflix
the opening of Andrea’s but I like to dress up at ✱ In my clutch bag I’ll binge cuddled up with
restaurant at the Wynn night – I love sexy heels. carry the lip colour I’m my dog and coconut water.
Hotel, Las Vegas in 2013. ✱ My favourite red-carpet wearing – I love Bobbi A workout and a steam
✱ I’ll style my hair in look was for the premiere Brown’s Your Majesty, and make me feel better too.
KATE’S
BEAUTY
KIT
Jo Malone
Orange
Blossom
Cologne,
from £42
Dr Hauschka
Cleansing
Cream, £15.50
Leonor Greyl Crème

Régénératrice, £19.16
Bobbi Brown
Luxe Lip
Color in Your
Majesty, £25 i
Ella Eyre
Ella eats sushi before partying
with Chlöe Howl and Jess Glynne
✱ Cleansing and ✱ I listen to chilled music
exfoliating is one of my like Lianne La Havas when
pre-party rituals. I wear two getting ready. Anything too
different primers to protect fast, I rush and don’t do my
my skin from all the shit hair or makeup properly!
I’m about to put on! ✱ In my clutch I carry
✱ I always eat sushi before YSL Touche Éclat – it’s
a night out. It’s a healthy good for applying quickly
way to fill up. – and whatever lipstick
✱ I keep my look quite I’m wearing.
simple and fresh because I ✱ The compliment I hear
don’t want to keep topping most on a night out is, ‘I
it up. I usually just focus on love your hair!’ Because
my skin, lips and eyebrows. nobody’s going to say ‘great
I’ll wear an orange or nude tits!’ are they, really?
lip and I always have a ✱ I love going out with
strong eyebrow game. other girls in the industry,
✱ My hair is naturally curly such as Becky Hill and Jess
but I do use tongs on it for Glynne, or my best mate
volume, and I backcomb it Chlöe Howl. There’s always
too. It tends to be loads a good atmosphere – never
flatter if I’ve just washed it, catty or competitive.
so it has to be backcombed ✱ My favourite cocktail is
twice as much. an Eastern Standard. It’s
✱ I don’t like to put too
much product on my hair
got cucumber, vodka, li e
and mint. Vodka is my
E
ELL
because it weighs it down. spirit of choice. EAUT
Kiehl’s does repair serums
that I leave on overnight,
✱ The Brits 2014 was my
best night ever. I went Armani
KIT
and I’ve always loved Aveda to bed at 10am so I’m Diamonds
Violet EDP,
– it does good products surprised I can even £22.50 Garnier Micellar
for curly hair. remember it! I collaborated d Water, £4.99
✱ Armani Diamonds Violet with Rudimental and that
is my party perfume. I could was kind of my big break.
bathe in it! I love floral ✱ Lana Del Rey is the most
smells, so this one is great. gorgeous celebrity I’ve ever
My hair holds scent really seen at a party. Her look
YSL
well so I spray loads in it. always seems totally Touche
✱ I like to keep my outfits effortless and I love that. Éclat, Aveda Be
quite simple – I don’t want ✱ I should take my makeu up £25 Curly Intensive
to worry about things falling off at the end of the nigh Detangling
Masque, £18
off, falling out or ripping. but that doesn’t always
Kiehl’s
I’m partial to a catsuit with happen! When it does, I Midnight
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Annie my DJ sets. I really like
his song Hotline Bling.
✱ Before a night out I eat
Mac something substantial
that’ll soak up the alcohol.
Annie envies Then the Spanx come out…
✱ If the girls are round,
Grimmy’s skincare champagne or prosecco is
routine, and once my drink of choice. When
gaffer-taped her I’m out, I like a vodka tonic
or an Aperol spritz.
dress to her legs… ✱ My worst wardrobe
✱ My go-to beauty look is malfunction happened at
usually a cat’s eye, which GlobalGathering in Korea.
takes ages to perfect, then I was wearing a billowy
a bright red lip. I’ll wear dress and the wind kept
false lashes if I can find blowing it up. I was trying
somebody to apply them. to DJ with one hand and
✱ I always do my makeup hold my dress down with
in a stress at the last minute, the other. In the end, we
rub it off and try again! gaffer-taped it to my legs!
✱ I prep my hair using the ✱ The most glam celebrity
one thing that works in it: I’ve met? Nick Grimshaw.
Kérastase Nutri-Thermique He is so glamorous. I once
hair mask. It took me 15 witnessed his skincare
years to find – it’s pricey routine – he used five
but lasts ages. Then I turn different creams before
my head upside down and he left the house.
diffuse, diffuse, diffuse. ✱ Before I was a vegetarian
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Gotta get that hair big!! I I’d stop for greasy fried
use volumising powderr too.
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ANNIE’SS chicken on my way home.
Now it’ll be falafel, always
skincare routine consists BEAUTYY with cheesy chips.
of using my Clarisonic to ✱ After a night out there’s
make my skin feel really
KKIT no better feeling than
clean, then I’ll sit in the kicking off my heels and
bath with a face mask on. pulling off my false lashes.
✱ The nights I feel most Smashbox Be ✱ I take my makeup off
Legendary
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good about the way you EDT, £68 free after a big night too,
look is essential. to let my skin breathe.
✱ My favourite and ✱ My perfect hangover
signature fragrance iss Liz Earle day is a long, lazy lunch
Chanel Allure. Alwayys. Cleanse in the pub with macaroni
& Polish,
✱ Comfort is key wh £15.50 cheese and red wine.
Kérastase Nutritive
dressing. I mix glamour Nutri-Thermique Then home to watch
with casual – like skinny Masque, £28.50 films under a blanket. My
ripped jeans with a band hangover cure is exactly
T-shirt, heels, a faux-fur coat that: a ‘cure’ – in Dublin
and loads of jewellery. that means a drink. ◆
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³ Be your own shop window...
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and of accentuating the best bits of your personality. without spending much money. If you have an interest in
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their business card, I’ll write a fact about them on the spurred me on to get in touch with him to find out more.
back to help me remember who they are and where ³ Set a target and
I met them. Knowing little details about a person helps GEMMA’S CV then move it...
spark a conversation later. I always write down all my
2014-present: Style director
³ Tell yourself ‘no’ doesn’t exist... thoughts and ideas, because
for The X Factor and
Perseverance is key in any industry, but there’s a fine Britain’s Got Talent holding them in my hands
line between persistent and pushy. If you approach a 2009-present: Founded makes them feel more
company and get rejected, there’s no harm in sending SheppardStyle – styling achievable. Once you’ve
out a follow-up email a year down the line to update private, celebrity and put them on paper, they’re
them on what you’ve been doing to better yourself. corporate clients, including halfway to being real. If
Dannii Minogue, Sharon
I always appreciate receiving handwritten letters too you feel you aren’t doing
Osbourne, Tulisa, Ashley
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response, rather than firing off a copied-and-pasted email. 1999-2009: Director for diary – you’ll be surprised
AS TOLD TO JENNIFER SAVIN
³ Confidence is vital for success... Gucci Group’s Boucheron, by how much you’ve
If you’re struggling to believe in yourself, identify reporting to Tom Ford achieved without realising
where your problem areas lie and address them one 1994-1999: Sales it. All those small steps of
at a time. I conquered my fear of public speaking after executive at Tiffany progression soon add up
broadcaster Gloria Hunniford told me to imagine 1994-1997: Studied drama – success rarely comes in
at the Guildford School
everyone I was talking to was a close friend. I chant leaps and bounds.
of Acting
This photograph
was taken the day
JILL ABRAMSON was
appointed the first
female executive
editor of The New York
Times. But 1,078 days
later she was fired,
in one of the most
dramatic, headline-
grabbing dismissals
of the century.
Here she explains
how to get ahead –
and fight back
‘
109
NO SHAME Is it
‘It can be a danger hard to say I was fired?
No. I’ve said it about 20
to define yourself times. I was insistent that

it be publicly clear as I
was not ashamed. And I
by your job’ don’t think young women

should feel stigmatised
if they’re fired. Especially
in this economy, people
Boxinggloves
I knew I was being fired beforehand, but
are fired left and right for
arbitrary reasons, and
it went public on a Wednesday. My kids there are often forces
were upset, and the loudness of the
coverage was surprising. So I arrived at beyond your control.
my personal trainer’s place, where I
always went early on Thursdays, and he
had these boxing gloves. He said, “You
need this.” I said, “Take a picture of me.” TEARS
I did cry after reading the
I wanted to send it to my kids to show
article about me in Politico. I don’t
them I wasn’t at home crying in a regret admitting it. I think it’s
corner. Within a nanosecond, my important to try to speak very
daughter Cornelia had put it on candidly to young women. The most
Instagram, and it went viral. The next morning, it was important advice I would still give –
and it may seem crazy because I did
printed on the cover of the New York Post. It felt fantastic.
lose this job – is that you have to be
an authentic person. I did cry.
That was my authentic first
MEN vs POINT OF PRIDE reaction. I don’t
regret sharing
WOMEN When I was managing editor of The New York that.
[New York Times Times, the masthead (list of editors) was

publisher] Arthur half women for the first time – and it was
Sulzberger Jr said he
had problems with because they deserved it. I’m totally proud
my management of that. A couple of times, I had to explain
style. The issue of
how women are that to men. There was some surprise at the TEACHING
I taught at Yale for five years while I was
viewed is interesting. speed at which some women got promoted. at The New York Times. What I tried to
[Political magazine] stress to students was that rather than
Politico did a hatchet picking a speciality, like blogging or
job on me [she was being a videographer, they should
called ‘stubborn’,
‘condescending’ and
‘uncaring’]. The
Rejection
The times I didn’t get jobs I wanted, I remember
master the basics of really good
storytelling. Have curiosity and a sense
of how a topic is different from a story,
silver lining was the being really crestfallen. I didn’t get a job as [then US and actually go out, witness and report.
reaction of other secretary of state] Cyrus Vance’s speech writer in 1977 If you hone those skills, you’ll be in
women. Female or 1978. But be careful what you wish for. It can be demand – those talents are prized.
editors who I have There is too much journalism right now
never met sent
best to get passed over for a job, as there may be a
based on people scraping the internet
me flowers after better job out there. After that, I was hired into the and riffing off something else. i
that article. election unit of NBC News.
Paydays CHEER NETWORKING TIP
My advice on getting a raise
is what everybody’s advice is: to
SQUAD
It helps that my husband and I
A lot of younger staffers
become a confident negotiator – but have been together since sophomore
just asked to meet me for
that’s hard. My admiration for women [second] year at Harvard. Having coffee. There’s a way to do
who are good at that is unbridled. him in my corner and my kids and my
sister helps. My sister called me up after
networking that isn’t overly
Women in general have a harder time I got fired to say our father would be brown-nosing. I was fine if
talking about money with their bosses. as proud of me that morning as
It’s part of that syndrome, like you’re
someone just said, “I want
when I got the job. That’s
so lucky just to have the job. Sheryl sort of how you dust to have coffee and talk
Sandberg [Facebook COO, pictured] yourself off. about my career.”
has written brilliantly about this in
her book Lean In. Men never chalk up
their success to luck, but women often
do. In my experience, men more than
women brought up money and talked
about it and pressed for what they
wanted in terms of salary before they
agreed to be promoted.
‘Ididcry.Idon’t
THE NEXT
PRESIDENT? SEXISM AT WORK
I met Hillary Clinton in Of course, I experienced sexism
1978. I was writing for a political-consulting early on. I remember being in
firm and Bill was the firm’s client as he was
running for governor of Arkansas. I went
story sessions, and so many
to Little Rock to gather material. I was times I’d have an idea and talk
impressed that Bill Clinton had this very about it. Then the convener of
smart lawyer wife and Betsey Wright, a very the meeting would say, “And as
brash woman, as his top political lieutenant. Jerry was just saying…” and they
Later, I went to work at American Lawyer,
and I relied on Hillary as a source. She was
would remember the idea as
fantastic, friendly and helpful. But as First coming from a male colleague.
Lady and as a candidate’s wife, she was I didn’t pipe up. I did grouse
sometimes angry at me and at some of the about it with other women in
stories I wrote. Both [Bill and Hillary] have the office, which in some ways
first-class minds, and that is a great
building block for a successful presidency.
is safer and more cowardly, but
I think he was a successful president, and I is also very comforting and
think she would be too. kind of gratifying.
my medieval food tasters. They read,

HER POSSE and if I really needed to know
This is going to sound incredibly something, they would tell me. One
‘out of it’, but I didn’t read what was thing I love is TheLi.st, an email group
written about me and losing my of professional women. I was a very big
job at the time. It was a survival thread. TheLi.sters called me a badass,
mechanism. A lot of my friends which is a cool thing in their view. And
[including New York Times columnist I’m like, “I am!” But, you know, it’s a
Maureen Dowd, pictured] were like little dangerous to be a badass. i
‘I don’tmindthe TOUGH CALLS
Sometimes the CIA or the director
word fired.Ido
of national intelligence or the NSA
[National Security Agency] or the
White House will call about a story.
You hit the brakes, you hear the
arguments and it’s always a
balancing act: the importance of
not liketheword
the information to the public vs the
claim of harming national security.
Over time, the government too
former.Itjust
reflexively said to The Times, “You’re
going to have blood on your hands
if you publish X,” and because of the
frequency of that, the government
lost a little credibility. But you do
listen and seriously worry. Editors
soundsicky’
are Americans too. We don’t want
to help terrorists.
BY LESLIE YAZEL AND LAURA BROUNSTEIN. PHOTOGRAPHS AP, CONTOUR BY GETTY IMAGES, FRED R CONRAD/THE NEW YORK TIMES/REDUX/EYEVINE, LANDMARK
Kickingback
Since getting fired, I’ve watched every
Yankees game, and I’ve gone to a couple of
day games that I would never have been able
to before. I’ve revisited a couple of novels that
I read in school: To Kill A Mockingbird and All
The King’s Men. My dog, Scout, is relaxing
LEISURE TIMES
company. I went to Greece with my sister and I now have time to read the whole New
York Times print paper every day. It’s
we went to museums in Athens, then just sat
great. I love it. I love the institution still.
on the beach in Mykonos for a week and And I love Girls. Although I didn’t love
talked and read and laughed. I didn’t have to [Season 3]. Marnie had completely fallen
worry about calling in to the news desk. apart as a character; Allison Williams is
a good actress, though.
BEYOND WORK It can be a danger to define

yourself by your job. I miss my colleagues and the
substance of my work, but I don’t miss saying, ‘Jill
Abramson, executive editor’. I was once told that a
former executive editor of The New York Times, who
knew he was going to stop being editor, made sure to
get reservations at a particular restaurant because
he was afraid after that they wouldn’t give him a table
anymore. That’s not high on my priority list! ◆
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Gliding pikes
TARGETS Abs
1 With your toes on towels and core
engaged, get into plank position. Place your
hands directly under your shoulders.
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Gliding knee tucks

TARGETS Core and legs
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3 Repeat 10 times. Hey, no one said
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Gliding mountain climbers

TARGETS Shoulders and core
1 Get back into plank position with your toes
on the towels, shoulders directly over your
hands and core engaged.
2 Glide your right knee towards your chest,
and before you push it back, start gliding
your left knee forwards. Alternate, and really
work your abs to avoid swinging your hips.
3 Repeat at a fast pace for 30 seconds.
Gliding push-ups
TARGETS Arms and core
1 In a push-up position, place your hands
on the towels on the floor. Glide your
C O S M O P O L I TA N ·
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30, a financial assistant from Cardiff
am not the kind of woman you’d expect to get
I cancer. I exercise, I don’t smoke and I try to

stay healthy. Apart from those odd times when
I’ve wanted to tone up or maybe lose a couple
of pounds, I’ve always been pretty happy with my body.
But then, in 2012, things began going wrong. First, I suffered
an ectopic pregnancy – an egg was fertilised in my Fallopian
tube and I was rushed to hospital to have it removed. Then, my
boyfriend at the time found a lump in my breast. I assumed it
was due to the pregnancy and, because of my age, the doctor
didn’t think it was anything to worry about. I was referred to a
breast clinic as a non-urgent case, but didn’t hear anything for
eight months – other women were higher up the waiting list.
I was seen in August and got my results in September – I
was diagnosed with breast cancer. Within three weeks, I had
two operations to remove the lump and the lymph nodes
in my armpit, and started chemotherapy and radiotherapy.
My life was on hold. I couldn’t work, and it was so hard
seeing friends get on with their lives. Taking steroids also
made me gain 2st – coupled with my hair falling out, I felt
like I’d completely lost my femininity. When my treatment
ended, I had to learn to trust my body again. I decided to
build my strength back up, and signed up for a 5K run a
month after my last chemotherapy session. Next, I ditched my
wig and showed off my new short haircut. It was a case of
mind over matter; taking it step by step.
Now, I’ve been in remission for two years.
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I have the same mentality as before, but I’m
feel-good
inspiration, go more body-confident than ever. I’ve come so
to Cosmopolitan. far, and I’m still here. That’s more important
co.uk/body than worrying about the little things.
TIME
FOR
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Special K has
teamed up with
Ellie Goulding to
support Chime for
Change projects to
#bringcolourback
to women’s lives.
Join them today
I
magine a world with no know 66 million girls are missing out
education, health or justice. on school? Or that at least one in three
In 2015 it might sound women will suffer physical or sexual
“PEOPLE DON’T unbelievable, but this is the violence during her lifetime? Or that
UNDERSTAND reality for millions of women every two minutes a woman will die
across the world. That’s why Special K during pregnancy or childbirth
THAT SMALL
and Ellie Goulding have chosen to somewhere in the world? “There isn’t
ACTIONS CAN support global campaign Chime for enough awareness about this; there
MAKE A BIG Change to #bringcolourback to isn’t enough change,” says Ellie. “And
DIFFERENCE” women’s lives – it’s time to act now. the change we’ve seen hasn’t happened
quickly enough, so I’m helping to
THE FACTS move it on. I’m giving it a kick up the
It makes hard reading, but did you ass! And we need you to join us.”
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Helping provide clean
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KNOWING THAT
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“But getting back into society and finding friends, a Streets of London is helping to stop this, and that’s
PHOTOGRAPHS ALISON WRIGHT; BRAC
job, a place to live… that takes a lot longer. Being on why I’m working with them.” Streets of London
the streets as a man is tough enough – people I’ve helps women like Anna (left) get back into work by
spoken to have been urinated on, kicked, beaten, helping them build their confidence, providing
jeered and laughed at. But for women it’s even access to training and by being a constant helping
harder – they feel more vulnerable, not just from hand on the journey towards work and stability.
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READ
Has the
world’s
biggest
misogynist
seen the
light?
Manipulator. Master seducer. Messiah to legions of losers everywhere. Neil Strauss
wrote the bestseller that gave the world’s saddest men a heap of dirty, low-down techniques
to manoeuvre women into sex. On behalf of those who hate the player and The Game,
Tanya Gold grills the man who thought he could ‘neg’ you into bed…
r been
a
compliment with whiplash? Blame
Neil Strauss. He is the author of The
Game (2005), a book on how to
manipulate women into having sex,
in case the usual tactics – kindness,
charm, sincerity? – do not work. He
infiltrated the community of pick-up
artists (PUAs – this world is full of
acronyms because it is full of men) in
California (where else?) and quickly
became a master of seduction with a
stupid fake name – ‘Style’. I’m tempted
to call him Style throughout this
article, but that would be unfair.
He’s definitely a Neil.
Neil claimed that The Game was
not a guide to becoming a PUA, but
rather a cautionary tale. It opens
with star PUA ‘Mystery’ (real name
Erik) having a nervous breakdown
and ends with Neil leaving the a purple fur vest in a Montreal not intentionally. Basically, the nerds
PUA world for a monogamous lingerie shop. He ‘closed’ on a get sexualised and pretend they are
relationship with a hot blonde threesome. He had pursued women at war and women’s bodies are the
(obviously). Even so, it inspired a called ‘Brunette, 9’ or ‘Blonde, 10’ battlefield. Imagine all the nerds you
generation of men to ‘neg’ (either and stole a woman off a celebrity have ever met with gym bodies and
‘shotgun’ or ‘sniper’, I never learnt I have never heard of. good haircuts, dressed like Las Vegas
the distinction because I do not This is world of fake tits and men circus performers and carrying
care) ‘to peacock’ (to wear clothes called ‘Rasputin’ and ‘Papa’ practising pre-memorised pick-up lines hitting
that will inspire a conversation), ‘to ‘ménage-a-trois management’ and on women en masse and retiring to
sarge’ (hit on women), ‘to freeze out’ reading books called Seduction Begins chat rooms to discuss the results,
(to sulk) and to call being in love When The Woman Says No. (Sample and you have The Game. The PUAs
with one woman ‘one-itis’. He has line from PUA guru Steve P: ‘We’re fight and steal each other’s schtick
glum moments of clarity – ‘It wasn’t going to reframe you to where you’re – at one point ‘Style’ acquires an
a lifestyle; it was a disease’ – but not glad to have some boopsy suck your acolyte called ‘Stylechild’. The same
Neil loved being a PUA. Whatever dick. It will be a privilege for her to get women are approached by PUAs
warnings he carefully inserts into to drink from the nectar of the master.’ with identical lines, which must
The Game he adored it. He shaved That said, The Game is, if you have have been bewildering for them.
his head, grew a goatee and bought a sense of humour, very funny – but Many PUAs live at home with
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for any longer than 15 seconds. It
is testament to The Game’s idiocy
that the most emotionally healthy
person in its pages is, of all people,
Tom Cruise, who Neil interviews for
Rolling Stone magazine. ‘So, you got
tired of picking up women?’ Cruise asks
Neil near the end. When told yes,
Cruise says, ‘Those things are a false
intimacy.’ In moments of crisis,
Neil asks himself, ‘What would
Tom Cruise do?’
The Truth follows Neil into sex
rehab, after which he relapses
catastrophically and attends the World
Polyamory Association conference,
which features naked rabbis and
people who live in what they call
pods. Like whales. He doesn’t find it
their parents; others they called Project sexy – and they wouldn’t let him eat
practise ‘condiment Hollywood, hating popcorn in the sex room. ‘I’ve done
anchoring’, where you each other. some desperate things in my life to get
give a girl a sachet of
ketchup, having no
’In moments of Now Strauss is
back with a sequel
laid,’ he writes, ‘But I’ve never faked a
spiritual belief.’ He tries swinging, but
other gifts to hand.
Some of them are gay.
crisis, he asks, The Truth. I am
invited to interview
takes GHB [a drug] and passes out at
an orgy: ‘I feel vanilla,’ he moans. ‘So
Some of them have “What would Neil by telephone fucking vanilla’. So he attempts, again
limited self-awareness:
‘I’m a child robot, a sex
Tom Cruise do?”’ in California (he is
American) to discuss
catastrophically, to form a polygamous
relationship with three women in
robot and an entertainer what I suppose is his San Francisco, advised by a Polygamy
robot,’ says Mystery, a contrition. The Truth expert called Pepper (Mint). ‘Bringing
thwarted magician, tells you everything lovers together can evidently be like
whose goal in life is to find two the perceptive reader already knew introducing cats,’ he writes, but the
‘young bisexual women’ and ‘train when reading The Game: that Neil cats didn’t want to share him: ‘Man,
them to become strippers, girlfriends is a sex addict; that PUAs fear monogamy was better than this.’
and, eventually, magic assistants’. women more than they desire At one point in the book, he’s at
They ended up an LA mansion them, and that artifice is no way to an orgy, and one of the women is i
non-compliant. ‘I’ve been trying to rule
by consensus,’ he writes, ‘[but] thesegirls
are looking for a daddy. Maybe it’s time
to step up and be that daddy. Not the
abandoning daddy or the enmeshing
daddy, but the functional daddy with
a sense of what’s right.’ He sends the
non-compliant one away. By this
point I hate Neil Strauss, and
however much he claims to hate
himself, that isn’t enough for me.
It is OK in the end, though. He
returns to his true love Ingrid, a
woman who once won a rock paper
scissors championship, and marries
her. Now they have a baby called
Tenn. (Even the baby is a 10). It is a
fairytale in which our hero is led out
of the forest of bad shag littering
condoms as he goes; Ingrid’s mane
of blonde lights his way.
I suppose I am expecting a PUA –
direct, dominant, like Steven Seagal
or Donald Trump, with a bone-
crushing handshake of a voice – but
Strauss has a thin, rather delicate
voice; he sounds nervous. Maybe he
has heard I am a Feminist, rather than
Angry Brunette, 6, or maybe 5? Or be sorry I wrote anything”. But he for the New York Times - could be
maybe is the one used to doing the can’t read it now. that stupid. I wonder if Neil is such a
interviewing. He got a great interview Are you sorry that you hurt people? committed, if gauche, journalist, he did
from Britney Spears by using his PUA Who did I hurt, he asks me, baffled. it for the book; maybe he doesn’t even
techniques to get behind her ‘bitch Er, maybe the women you seduced know that he did it for the book? “I’m
shield’. It ended with her howling, with Neuro-lingustic Programming 100% here for me,” he says in rehab,
“You need to save me!” (NLP); with condiment anchoring; when asked if he intends to write about
First off, he won’t tell me how old with the stupid vest. it. But he still took notes, unless he has
he is. “I never say,” he insists, “but “I don’t think so. I don’t know,” he 100% recall, which I doubt.
mid-forties would be fair.” When I ask says, and insists that one of his best A disturbing family background
him why he won’t say, he hints that friends is a woman. So what? He emerges in The Truth. He claims his
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not to commit to an age. But when I was capable of.” found out, she didn’t confront her
I ask how he feels now about The Looking back, Neil confesses that husband. Instead she confided inthe
Game now, he instantly says, “My he got into the PUA community teenage Neil. “Never grow up tomake
feelings are just negative. There are because women he liked “didn’t like anyone as miserable as your father
just so many horrible people doing me back,” due to his bumpy nose and makes me,” he claims she told him.
horrible things, it’s tragic”. bad hair: “wispy Rogaine-enhanced “Your dad has ruined me. You know
Are you sorry you wrote it? “Of growths covering the top of my head he could only get it up twice: once
course not,” he says sharply. Anything like tumbleweeds.” He thought the for you and once for your brother.”
he “truly” believes at the time is “the PUAs had the answers, but I find it Neil believes his “narcissistic”
right thing. I would only be sorry if very difficult to believe that anyone – mother and “distant, unemotional”
I felt it was inauthentic. I can never particularly someone who used to work father are both to blame for his sex
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addiction. He writes that his mum mother refused to attend his group
grounded him in high school. She therapy and instead she suggested
wouldn’t let him go on his first-ever he hire some actors to pretend to
be his parents.
’Your mom date. She cut off all contact when she
disapproved of his first girlfriend. In Neil is harder to dislike on the
wants to be in rehab he is told, “Your mom wants
to be in a relationship with you. It’s
telephone than he is in print; he’s
timid and he speaks the language of
a relationship called emotional incest.” therapy. There is none of the insanity
with you…’ It appears that most of the leading
PUAs had narcissistic mothers, about
of his books. When I ask him what
he would say to neg me, he can’t
which Neil has this to say: “When do it. Even so, it’s impossible to tell
you lose your childhood to an whether I’m being ‘gamed’– he was a
overbearing mother whose needs are master PUA, after all. And if I am, is
more important than yours, the last he even aware he’s doing it?
thing you want is to be dominated At the end of our conversation, he
by the feminine again. I think that asks Ingrid to speak to me, so she
leads to the sort of pathology that can tell me what she thought when
causes one to play games of power she first read The Game. “I looked at
with the opposite sex.” him and I just thought he had a big
Even Hugh Hefner, the founder of heart,” she says. “I really liked his
Playboy, whom Neil used to admire, heart. He was very vulnerable.”
he now pities. I suppose this is Even so, I can’t help feeling his
Below: Strauss on Jared Leto’s progress.“Still doing it at 73?” he tuts. contrition is quite self-serving,
TV show Into The Wild in 2014. “It’s an unhealthy compulsion. And related, as it is, to a big new book.
Bottom: he attempts to ‘pick up’ by the way, when I interviewed him, And I do feel for his parents.
Jessica Alba on US chat show
he was the same. He was enmeshed Whatever happened between them
Jimmy Kimmel Live! in 2006
by his mom, who was also physically and Neil – and I do not know, and
distant. He’s still acting out – at this I do not know whether what Neil
age, still acting out his, you know… has written is true – is there no
stunted childhood.” better way for Neil to deal with it
So you – I mean the PUAs – fuck than to send a juggernaut of a book
women because you hate your towards them? Maybe nothing is
mothers? “Exactly,” says Neil. Later he real for him without a book? He
emails me to clarify his remark. “The got sick and profited; he got well
truth is that many of them come in and will profit. He is, essentially,
with different complexes,” he says, the American Liz Jones.
“By and large, though, the ones who
come to it due to unresolved mother
BEHIND THE SCENES
issues generally feel overwhelmed, or
engulfed, by their mothers. Hatred
would be too strong a word.”
Tanya Gold is a columnist
and feature writer for
Do you think your mother will The Sunday Times and
read the book? “Probably,” he says. restaurant critic for The
What do you think she’s going to Spectator. She sleeps by
do? “That’s up to her. What’s day and eats by night, like a vampire covered
in Biro marks. She likes her steak rare.
important for me is just telling my “When I read The Game, Neil Strauss’s
story, because it’s my truth and homage to pick-up artistry, I loathed him,
that’s part of the healing. And I mostly due to the fact that it contains
think I’ve kept secrets for so long lines such as ‘Her ass is a 10.’ But when I
that a lot of people will read the interviewed Neil for this feature, I hated him
a little less – partly because he let me listen
book and think it’s brave; like, to his baby gurgle down the telephone. So
‘Oh, it’s about time.’” Neil also he is at least partially redeemed…” ◆
says that while he was in rehab, his
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he view beyond the bamboo decking
of the Hubud bar is particularly
good on a Monday afternoon –
especially when accompanied by
a cold Bintang beer. Mist rises from
the neighbouring Balinese paddy
fields like steam from a hot crumpet.
Beside me, a tanned, bearded hipster
type lies in a hammock, quietly
contemplating the scene before us
from behind his jamu juice (the
turmeric-laced drink of choice for
most of the hip, twenty-something
crowd here). Behind us, a quirkily
bespectacled girl from Portland is
swatting mosquitos from her ankles
and loudly deliberating whether
to spend the next hour getting
a £5 massage from Star Child along
Lotus Lane. The hipster suddenly
gives Portland a semi-apologetic
glance as he raises his iPhone 6 to
his ear; he’s taking an urgent call
from an investor in San Francisco.
As for me, I’ve got a 3,000-word
story to file to a cranky editor in
London by 10am GMT, one hour
from now. After that? Who knows.
I might join Portland and get a
massage. Or make the afternoon
yoga session and stretch away the
day’s stress alongside tech start-up
teams from Silicon Valley, Amazon
millionaires, freelance web engineers,
graphic designers – hey, perhaps even
another writer. While it may not seem
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like it, I’m at the core of one of the with the sort of rich experiences that is a trust-fund kid. The bible for many
most industrious zones on the planet. our parents used to see as a far-down- digital nomads is Timothy Ferriss’
Ambition is like fever here – you the-line reward for a lifetime of work. The 4-Hour Work Week, his best-selling
can smell the simmering plots and We are the ‘new rich’ – a class of manual for how to escape the 9-to-5,
plans in the air, and practically taste young professionals who’ve seen the base yourself anywhere, work more
the frustration and opportunism in corporate world and then stepped effectively and join the ranks of
every bar and organic cafe. sideways, because we’re just as greedy the new rich. Most Hubudians
The epicentre of this creative for experiences as previous generations laughingly refer to the book as the
and technological hotbed is Hubud were for cars. The unspoken mantra The 40-Hour Working Week; few of us
(that’s hub-in-Ubud, the Balinese of the digital nomad? Every working have managed to slash our working
town to which the new rich flock), day should have at least one hours that dramatically.
a bamboo co-working space with Instagram-able moment in it. If we’re In my case, the time difference
speedy WiFi, standing desks and not managing that, that’s failure. means that work emails are still
Skype-conferencing facilities – oh, Don’t get me wrong – nobody pinging into my iPhone at midnight
and a poolside bar. Working hard here is a slacker and nobody here – after all it’s perfectly possible to
and playing hard has never looked screw up your work/life balance in
quite this exotic before. The Eat, Pray Bali too. What we new rich have
Love hippies haven’t entirely vacated The ‘new rich’ lingo gained, however, is freedom and
the premises, but a new tech-savvy, flexibility; the right to earn money
Here are the phrases to listen
fiercely driven demographic have on our own terms.
out for during your first day
taken over Ubud, drawn here by
at a laptop-filled beach bar…
the beaches, the beauty, the cheap PUTTING LIFE BEFORE WORK
bungalows and the dream of a “So, I’m just back “The way we see work is changing,”
yoga-hewn, superfood-filled healthy 358 from a digital detox and says consultant Julia Hobsbawm,
body. You’ll find similar co-working I think I have to declare of networking company Editorial
email bankruptcy.”
spaces and communities across Intelligence. “More people are putting
Translation: “I just spent
the globe, in places such as Chiang a few days off-grid, and a positive work/life balance as their
Mai, Tulum, Berlin and Budapest. now my inbox is so swelled with top priority, above accumulating
unread emails that a mass-delete wealth.” There’s a pervasive sense
A SIDEWAYS CAREER MOVE is the only way forward.” that conventional workplaces and
‘Digital nomads’ is what economists big corporations are inhospitable,
“I just think Slack
like to call us, the under-35s who unhealthy environments.
is more our style than
buy into the promise that technology Google Hangouts.” For years I worked long hours
can liberate workers from desks Translation: “Of all the
Hi.. as features editor on a fashion
and lengthy commutes. We are online collaboration magazine in London, barely seeing
letting our rampant wanderlust software available, Slack my boyfriend – or daylight – and
has the most appealing interface
peacefully coexist with our equally feeling less creative by the day. On
and is the virtual office that our
rampant ambition. start-up will be most comfortable in.” paper, my career was a success, but
“Put simply, we want the freedom, it didn’t feel that way. And with
as promised by technology and the “Gross, I just got chatted the average house price in London
mobility of social media, to arrange up on TaskRabbit. Do they hitting £459,000 in 2014, the dream
our professional lives around our think this is LinkedIn?” of owning my own place still felt far
Translation: “When
personal lives, rather than the other off. And so I did the most ambitious
connecting with potential
way round,” says Zoë Lazarus, a clients via a digital thing I’ve ever done: I quit.
forecaster at trend-identifying freelance marketplace, I received I wanted to dedicate time to writing
agency Lowe Counsel. some unwanted attention.” a book. I wanted the flexibility to
The idea of slaving for 12 hours spend more time with my family in
“My company was BYOD
a day, 48 weeks of the year to afford Ireland. I wanted to volunteer more
and flexi, so it was only a
a fly-and-flop in the south of France matter of time before we often. And, most of all, I wanted
seems ludicrous in an age where you binned the B&M and went the freedom to work from a beach
can run your own business from your location-independent.” hut in Bali for a month if I pleased
laptop at a beach hut in Bali and surf Translation: “My company (which I did, for six months); to
had a bring-your-own-device policy and
every morning. We want a life filled travel around New Zealand in a i
encouraged flexible hours, so the next
step was leaving a bricks-and-mortar
office and letting us work remotely.” C O S M O P O L I TA N · 149
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BEST PLACES campervan (which I did for 30 Collyn is talking to me from the San
TO JOIN THE days), filing copy from internet

cafes and celebrating the end of
each day with a swim or a surf,
Juan Islands in Washington state,
where she’s spent 10 days visiting
family while working remotely. But
NEW RICH
Tempted to start all over?
not a hastily gulped glass of wine.
The ‘sideways career step’, as I
she’s based in Girona, Spain, a small
city at the base of the Pyrénées with
call it, is becoming a more and a local airport and high-speed rail
Nomadlist.com rates the
more common manoeuvre among direct to Barcelona.
world’s top cities to do it in
ambitious young professionals “Today, I wake up almost every
– people who find themselves morning with my boyfriend rather
creatively frustrated in a mid-ranking than a WhatsApp message from him,
role, fed up with a desk-bound and that feels right,” she says. “We pay
lifestyle that feels increasingly just £400 a month for a beautiful
unhealthy, or simply disillusioned two-bedroom apartment in the heart
with a corporate world. of Girona – if we Airbnb our spare
room, this covers our rent entirely.
LAS PALMAS, GRAN CANARIA, SPAIN
AIRBNB APARTMENT: £570/month WORKING REMOTELY And it’s remarkable how much more
CO-WORKING SPACE: £150/month Obviously, as a freelance writer, motivation and focus I have after
RESTAURANT MEAL: £3 my career is more portable than waking up to fresh air and the sound
PINT OF BEER: £1.50 most, and I’ve always felt that of birds, rather than sirens and the
CAPPUCCINO: £1.80
freedom is my greatest career constant fear of running out of
OVERALL NOMAD SCORE: 100%
It is also rated ‘good’ for quality asset. But increasingly time or money.”
of life and being female-friendly. I’m sharing co-working Portable careers take
spaces and ‘coffices’ many forms. Some,
(coffee shops that like Collyn, are
double as offices) with ‘I have more entrepreneurs who
CEOs, consultants realise they can run
and designers –
focus after their businesses
professions that would waking up remotely, saving precious
previously have meant funds (particularly
BUDAPEST, HUNGARY inflexible hours and a
to fresh air’ pressing in the case of
AIRBNB APARTMENT: £306/month desk-bound existence. micro-businesses and
CO-WORKING SPACE: £289/month Collyn Ahart, 33, start-ups) and clawing
RESTAURANT MEAL: £2.34
PINT OF BEER: £1.17
remembers the exact back some semblance
CAPPUCCINO: 78p moment she realised she needed of a work/life balance, purely by
OVERALL NOMAD SCORE: 97% to escape London. She had spent quitting a capital city. There are those
The buzzy nightlife scene makes it the previous two years establishing travelling on a work-as-you-go basis,
great for a younger networking crowd. a fashion start-up, Bowndling advertising their digital services
Adventurewear, while acting as a through platforms such as freelance
consultant for brands to pay the bills. marketplace Upwork and moving
“I was paying £900 a month to rent on from one Thai beach shack to the
a tiny room in a shared flat in east next. There are entrepreneurs and
London, I’d put on 2½st in two investors who fly entire start-up teams
years from a combination of stress, out to Tulum, Chiang Mai or Ubud
poor eating and spending 18 hours to launch their company there,
CHIANG MAI, THAILAND a day in front of a computer, and I Airbnbing a bamboo villa, hiring a
AIRBNB APARTMENT: £316/month
CO-WORKING SPACE: £44/month barely saw my partner, a professional raw chef and a yoga instructor, and
RESTAURANT MEAL: £1.10 cyclist who lives and trains in brainstorming in style.
PINT OF BEER: 54p Spain,” she says. And there are people like me, who
CAPPUCCINO: 40p “I was struggling financially, and spend three to six months of the year
OVERALL NOMAD SCORE: 99%
Scores ‘great’ for a low cost of living
realised I was paying a premium based somewhere new and exciting,
and safety, but the nightlife is quiet, to launch a start-up in London – did so I can live a different lifestyle before
and internet access could be better. I really need to be in the city?” Today, heading back home. This winter, i
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I’m spending three months working

on a book in LA, and Airbnb has
essentially allowed me to swap my
room in Hackney for a studio in
Echo Park. When I land, I’ll use
Citymapper and Uber to get around,
and I’ve already crowd-sourced a few
work buddies over Facebook and
Twitter. It’s never been easier to
try on another city for size. Chloe and her
daughter spend
“The fact is, you can be designing their evenings
for a client in London or coding on the beach
for a client in New York while
swinging from a hammock in Jamaica,”
says Hayley Conick, UK and Ireland country manager
of freelance-networking website Upwork.com. MEET
“It’s a win-win situation: businesses get fast access to THE NEW
quality talent and skilled freelancers enjoy a more RICH
independent, flexible lifestyle.”
A few years ago, if I’d told editors I was shipping
out to Bali for a few months, they’d have assumed
I was off to get stoned on at my world map kitchen
a beach somewhere. That’s
Chloe Gibbs, table, I closed my eyes
changed. Today, employers, swapped punishing and tossed a nut in the
clients and investors are
‘It’s never hours as a nurse in air. I vowed wherever it
starting to realise flexibility London for life as landed, I would go. That
boosts creativity and been easier to a hotel owner on a peanut landed where my
productivity, rather than eco-hotel Butterfly House
allowing us all to slack off.
try on another tranquil Brazilian beach now stands.
“Now I have zero city for size’ “At 23, I was “I put my house on the
commute and I’ve become a nurse in market the next day and
ultra-efficient, getting the London bought a one-way ticket to
bulk of my work done in the working in Brazil and a small patch of
early mornings when my brain actually functions,” children’s land on the coast. I spent
Collyn agrees. “Then I have the rest of my day to go brain surgery. Although six years building the
cycling or hiking in the mountains, or head to the I loved being a nurse, hotel, camping on the
local market.” Running a start-up means Collyn might I always wanted to do beach so I could be up
not be wealthy in monetary terms just yet, but her something more creative. at dawn to start work.
lifestyle looks outrageously rich from here. One morning, after a long It was a crazy time, but
Our parents sold themselves on long hours for the night shift, I got home I’m so proud of what
dream of retiring at 50 to sail around the world, or feeling slightly broken. I’ve achieved. Starting
owning a five-bedroom home in the country. But these While snacking on nuts from scratch sends your
things are about as real as unicorns to creativity into overdrive.
most people born after 1980. And many “Today, life has no
of us watched our parents bust a gut routine. I live in a basic
their entire lives, only to see their beachfront shack for a
hard-built businesses collapse or be tenth of the price of rent in
made redundant in the aftermath of London. I do miss England.
the 2008 recession. Money hasn’t lost But I have truly submerged
its shine, but we want to earn it on our myself in someone else’s
own terms – doing something we care beautiful culture and
Chloe’s idyllic
about, in surroundings that suit us. And beachfront hotel
become a better, happier
perhaps accompanied by a cold beer. person for it.” i
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usual way to get around,

Katharine Simpson whether you’re a student or a
left gruelling London CEO. Denmark is expensive
hours behind for – £9 for a glass of wine –
a laid-back life in and, at first, we could hardly
Aarhus, Denmark bear to buy anything. We
pay high taxes – 47% – but
“I’d always you get a lot back, such as a
Left, Katie’s wanted to reduction on our home loan,
view in Bali;
live abroad, a travel-to-work subsidy,
below, one
of her bags so when my cheap public transport,
boyfriend and affordable childcare
(now husband) got a job in (a quarter of the UK price).
Denmark, I felt it would be “Danish society is built
an adventure to discover around the family and
Handbag designer somewhere new, from employers understand that
Katie Smith ditched cultural Copenhagen to if you have a kid, you leave
England for a Balinese beaches and forests around at 4pm to pick them up. My
beach – and made a Aarhus. I’ve been able son is two and has excellent
to fulfil a career goal of childcare around the corner.
fortune doing so working internationally If I’m still at work at 5pm
“My sister many photographers, stylists (I run a non-profit arts people comment on my
Millie and and designers. We start the organisation across four ‘long hours’. A change from
I founded day with an early-morning Nordic countries). Being an when I lived in London
our fashion surf, yoga or Pilates session outsider makes you more and regularly worked past
label Angel followed by our breakfast entrepreneurial – you’ve got 7pm! My husband and I are
Jackson 10 years ago, and in meeting at a beach cafe, to put yourself out there, passionate about our work,
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2008 Millie moved to Bali with production managers, or start your own project. and I don’t know if we
to oversee production and sample makers or sales and “In Denmark we have a could have had a child in
sampling. Indonesia has marketing. We often take healthier lifestyle, spending the UK without one of us
an amazing leatherwork our laptops to the beach and less time in the office and compromising our careers.
tradition and by establishing work there. Our lifestyles are more time in the forest and We certainly wouldn’t be
our workshop there we better. We can eat amazing on the beach. Cycling is the contemplating a second one.”
could produce in small Balinese food at a local cafe
Katharine enjoys
quantities using sustainable for £1, massages are £5, and a more family-
methods. A couple of years we can even afford a cleaner. focused lifestyle
ago, it struck us we could “But the real surprise is in Denmark
run the entire business from how much more effectively
Bali, so I moved out here in we work. We’ve brought
2013, closing our London down costs, centralised the
showroom. I was ready business, and now we focus
for a better work/life on creative collaborations.
balance, I craved blue skies Angel Jackson is becoming
and London was expensive. a cult brand in Asia. We
“At first, the language can fly to Shanghai for a
BEHIND THE SCENES
barrier, dreadful internet meeting on a Monday and
and time zones were a be back on the beach by Anna Hart
challenge, and it took Tuesday. Millie and I made Cosmopolitan contributor
perseverance to get the the right decision moving “This feature idea actually came from my own
workshop producing at the here. We are sisters, best experience of having ditched my day job to
standards we needed, but friends and business travel the world and work at the same time.
I used to sit behind a desk and interview people for stories; now
it’s paid off. Bali is a creative partners. We’ve always made I’m living the life I write about.” ◆
destination and we meet so up the rules as we go along!”
Why should wearing
a curve-hugging
dress make such
a statement?
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Ever
feel like
you’re
being
weighed
up?
FYI NONE OF THE PEOPLE PICTURED WERE VERBALLY ABUSIVE TO GRACE
What happens when Grace

Victory, 25, a plus-size
fashion and beauty blogger,
takes this season’s catwalk
trends to the streets?
’m walking down Oxford Street
I
in London on an unseasonably
warm autumn afternoon – but
it’s not just the sunshine I can
feel beating down on me. One
young man stares and furrows
his eyebrows; an elderly
gentleman turns, frowns and
tuts. I ignore it, until another
man in a red T-shirt actively
diverts from his path, leans right
in towards me and whispers, “It’s
not your body, love. It’s mine.”
I’m in the busiest shopping district
in what’s regarded as one of the most
liberal cities in the world. Turn any
corner and you’re likely to see women
with multiple facial piercings, and
young men with artfully crafted
‘man buns’ or frilly socks worn with
open-toed sandals. Nobody bats an
eyelid. What have I done wrong? I’m
wearing a bright, off-the-shoulder,
bodycon dress – the sort you’ll see on
any woman across the country on
any night of the week. The difference?
I’m not size 10-12.
Curve or plus-size models (and
believe me there’s a real debate
going on about what we even call This crop top and
ourselves nowadays) are having a leather skirt, and green
lace dress (below,
fashion moment. Ashley Graham, right) definitely
Tess Holliday and Robyn Lawley provoked a reaction
are the top models on the block
– featuring in designer campaigns
and on the front covers of fashion still a constant uphill struggle to find bigger sizes, and we wouldn’t have
magazines. London recently hosted the fashionable outfits I want in my to rely on stores such as Simply Be
its third plus-size fashion week and size? On the high street, I go to River or Evans. It’s not just about having
even the prestigious Pirelli calendar Island, H&M and Topshop, but only clothes that fit, it’s about taking it a
has featured a plus-size model within for coats and boots as I never know step further and finding items that
its glossy pages – the gorgeous whether their other clothes will fit look great and are fashionable too.
Candice Huffine. me. Otherwise, I head to Asos – its I’ve always been big and can’t
But here’s the thing – the plus-size sizes do fit me. remember a time growing up when
love hasn’t filtered down into wearable I wasn’t aware of my size. When I was
clothes for those of us who are bigger Taking refuge online 12, a boy at my dance school lifted up
than a size 14. (And by the way, 16 is Frustratingly, this emphasises just my hoodie and pointed at my belly,
now the UK’s average dress size.) how much plus-size women are laughing. For a long time, I hated the
I’m a curve model, body-confidence pushed into the virtual world for way I looked, and by the time I was
campaigner, and beauty and fashion their shopping experience, rather 18, I had been through a crippling
blogger. I love clothes and try to keep than being able to try on clothes cycle of eating disorders, which saw
on top of the trends each season. But in actual changing rooms like me throwing up, starving myself
I don’t just want to look at them; I everybody else. In an ideal world, and binge-eating. It’s taken years of
want to wear them too. So why is it all high-street shops would stock self-love and counselling to make me
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finally appreciate my body and to my size rocks this season’s new

embrace the stretch marks and fashion trends. I was styled and
cellulite I have. photographed in four catwalk-
I’ve started a blog to help other inspired looks, from a statement
women. I post pictures of myself in leather skirt and crop top to a black
everything from bikinis to the latest crochet (read: see-through) party
fashions. What’s interesting is the dress – as well as that red dress – and
type of comments I receive. Yes, I get went about my day. What happened
the usual, ‘I love your hair like this,’ in those 24 hours may surprise you.
and, ‘You’re so confident. It’s inspiring.’
However, I also get a lot of criticism. The male/female divide
‘You’re so fat. You need to lose weight,’ The red dress, unsurprisingly,
is a recurring theme. As is, ‘You’re garnered most of the remarks –
super-unhealthy. You need to go to many of them negative, and many
the gym and stop eating.’ of them from men. Actually, there
And that’s the point: if you’re wasn’t a person it didn’t elicit a
plus size, somehow shocked response from,
people think it’s OK to whether that was a sly
pass judgement on the sideways glance or an
way you look. That’s why, actual comment.
on a Thursday afternoon, ‘If you’re But with most of the
I found myself in a red
bodycon dress holding
curvier, people women I encountered,
there was a difference.
up foot traffic on the think it’s OK The glances were
capital’s busiest street.
I was there to find out
to judge you’ approving, the smiles soft
and encouraging, and at
exactly how the public one point a woman came
reacts when someone of up to me and said, “You
look fucking beautiful.”
Next, I put on a striped crop top
(crop tops have been big fashion
news for a while now) with an
aubergine A-line leather skirt – a nod
to the stripes and leather seen at Saint
Laurent for A/W15. I felt much more
confident in this get-up. “She looks
pretty,” one woman said quietly to her
boyfriend as they walked past. Then a
builder, who’d seen me earlier that day,
told me, “That one’s better than the
red dress.” I asked him why he thought
that, to which he replied, “I’m not
saying.” I knew exactly what he was
saying: he preferred this outfit because
it wasn’t as tight, and didn’t reveal my
curvy body in the same way. It pissed
me off though – why should I care
enough to play ‘guess the insult’?
Next, I changed into a gorgeous
emerald-green dress with lace panels
along the sleeves, and a grey ’70s-style
oversized hat. Lace and sheer panels
are going to be everywhere soon, so i
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The most daring

outfit of all, this
black crochet
number proved
a hit on Instagram,
and with guests
at a swanky
London party
GO FIGURE:PLUS-SIZE MODEL
LOUISE O’REILLY’S STYLING
TIPS FOR CURVY WOMEN
Beware belts Thick waist belts are
1 only flattering if they suit the outfit

and your shape can take it (apple and
pears: steer clear). Try a thin belt with
‘fit and flare’ dresses, or none at all.
Crop it Crop-style jackets are a
2 huge go-to for me, especially biker

styles. They give you coverage
without taking away from a dress
in the way longer jacket styles can.
this was a good way of seeing whether Be clutch-wise Tiny, box-style

the trend translates for the real world.
“She must be very confident to do that
3 purses can throw my body out of
proportion. Opt for bigger clutch
bags to balance out your outfit.
in front of everyone,” a young, hip guy
said. Would he have said that if I was Invest in armery Try lace sleeves
a size eight or 10? I doubt it.
Fashionable on any size

4 that fasten under your bra to wear
with sleeveless dresses; they give
added coverage and revamp an outfit.
My final outfit was the black crochet Go metallic Make a statement with
dress – incredibly sexy and incredibly
revealing – which I wore
to a busy launch party. I
walked past me. But the
vibe was positive and I
5 a skirt, or a flash of metal on an LBD.
Brands making metallic the new
must-have include Elvi and Asos Curve
LUCY YOUNG/EYEVINE. HAIR AND MAKEUP VICTORIA BARNES. STYLING SASKIA QUIRKE
ADDITIONAL REPORTING HARRIET THURLEY. PHOTOGRAPHS DAVID BEBBER/EYEVINE,
Louise blogs at Stylemecurvy.net.
knew no one there except welcomed the stares with
for a friend I took along, a flutter of my lashes and
yet all night I felt insanely
‘I welcomed a huge, confident smile. felt they had the right to comment
sexy. One woman, who the stares Later, I uploaded a on my body – and more so, I believe,
was working at the event, photo of myself in the because I was someone with shape
approached me and told
with a huge, party outfit to Instagram. in statement clothing.
me, “You look amazing. confident smile’ It got 4,813 likes and not Despite the current noise around
I love your dress.” Then, one negative comment. ‘plus size’ and ‘curve’ in the fashion
a very dapper man who ‘You look gorgeous Gracie.’ industry and media, clearly more
was photographing the and ‘That’s inspiration right needs to be done. Fashion is fun,
event spoke to me; he also said, “You there,’ people wrote. Of course, that felt and should be readily available
look amazing,” adding, “Curves are great, but what’s most important is and accepted on any body, regardless
fun. Nobody likes boring straight that I feel comfortable in my body, of shape and size. So, yes, let’s keep
roads do they? Twists and turns are not what anybody else thinks. talking but, Fashion World, it’s about
full of surprises.” And that’s exactly what this social time we saw more action too.
All night I was looked at, and experiment emphasised. Wherever 4Check out Grace’s blog by visiting
groups of women whispered as they I went and whatever I wore, people Graciefrancesca.com ◆
Our winner’s story

We received thousands
of entries to our Catwalk
Contender competition,
and whisked four
finalists off to New York
for an ad campaign. And
now, we have a winner…
After whittling down our fantastic
finalists, we took four of them away
to one of the coolest cities in the
world (New York – where else?) to
shoot the ad campaign, which follows
their journey, battling to win a
professional modelling contract.
“Simply Be promotes attainable
body ideals in all advertising,”
“I CAN’T WAIT TO
SHOW WHAT A
WOMAN WITH
CURVES CAN DO”
explains the company’s head of

brand, Cathy Ryan.“So we’re always – crowned 20-year-old Rosie Clough
on the hunt for new curvy models to (size 16) from Manchester the winner. ROSIE’S STORY
work with – and quite frankly, there Her stunning features, engaging As the multi-
just aren’t enough that represent the personality and professionalism made million pound ad
her a very deserving choice. airs on prime-time
real women of the UK.”
TV during The X
Rosie’s response, “I’m totally
Factor, you can
The verdict overwhelmed and don’t think I’m also watch Rosie’s
While the competition was tough, over the shock. The journey has been story online by
the verdict was unanimous. Our amazing and I can’t wait to show visiting our Simply
what a woman with curves can do!” Be campaign hub
expert panel of judges – including
at simplybe.co.uk. For more festive
Cosmopolitan’s Fashion and fashion inspiration, shop online at
Style Director Shelly Vella, and simplybe.co.uk or in-store.
Cosmopolitan columnist Jameela Jamil
The
Breakfast
Club
Want clothes that go
Fashion
SHELLY VELLA the distance from night
Photographs
TOM CORBETT
out till morning after?
Then look no further…
THE MIDI
TRENCH
Keep buttons
undone but your
waist cinched for
nonchalant cool
Coat, £1,195, Burberry
at Harrods. Skirt, £1,335,
Michael Kors at Net-A-
Porter. Sunglasses, £182,
Versace at Sunglass Hut.
Earrings, £98, J Crew i
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THE
BEJEWELLED
SHIFT
Just remember – keep
accessories to a
stylish minimum
Dress, £418; shoes, £295,
both Kate Spade New
York. Tiara, £120, Tilly
Thomas Lux. Headphones,
£329, Bower & Wilkins
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THE LONG-
LINE TUX
Who says your
evening jacket can’t
become your actual
dress? Flattering
and chic worn with
a sheer skirt
Jacket, £445; skirt, £175,
both DKNY. Shoes, £805,
Giuseppe Zanotti. Tights,
£31, Wolford. Bag, £255,
Zadig & Voltaire. Hair
clip, £8, Accessorize i
THE
UPDATED
LBD
An exaggerated pussy
bow adds interest
Dress, £60, Next. Blouse,
£59, Coast. Tights, £31,
Wolford. Ear cuff, £8, Diva
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THE
MEGAWATT
MINIDRESS
This bedazzled beauty
shall go to the ball
Dress, £95; bag, £38, both Asos.
Earrings, £125, Mawi. Mask,
£4.99, Angels Fancy Dress i
THE VINTAGE-
INSPIRED DRESS
Give it a cool, modern spin
with gold statement jewels
Dress, £225, Reiss. Sunglasses, £113, Emporio
Armani at Sunglass Hut. Earrings, £125;
necklaces, from £154; ring, £146, all Mawi i
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THE BIG
BOW
The chic way to
make a statement
Coat, £350, Jigsaw.
Jumpsuit, £129, Coast. Bag,
£55, Fiorelli. Ear cuff (just
seen), £8, Freedom at
Topshop. Ring, £279,
Swarovski at Monnier Frères
THE FULL
SKIRT
Made for the skin-
shy partygoer –
just add a rollneck
Jacket, £560, Karen Millen.
Jumper, £79, John Lewis.
Skirt, £160, Bruce by Bruce
Oldfield for John Lewis.
Sunglasses, as before. Ear
cuff, as before. Ring, £279,
Swarovski at Monnier Frères i
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THE PERFECT
THROW-OVER
A men’s tux jacket thrown
over your shoulders is
sartorial shorthand for ‘cool’
Jacket, £275, Reiss. Dress, £275,
French Connection. Boots, £155, Karen
Millen. Earrings, £10, Dorothy Perkins
Hair Jonothon Malone, using Paul

Mitchell. Makeup Kenneth Soh, using
Emma Hardie and Urban Decay. Model
Florence Eugene at Next London.
Fashion Assistant Sophie Dearden.
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HAIR BLING
A light-reflecting, bejewelled hair
clip is like power dressing for your
barnet. Make sure hair is messed-up
to avoid looking too ‘show pony’
Jacket, £445, DKNY. Hair clip, £8, Accessorize
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Amber Atherton,
founder of My
Flash Trash
Little
THINGS
Can beauty really have a
positive impact on your
busy day-to-day life?
There’s no denying our lives are

busier and more stressful than ever.
But have you ever stopped to think
about how the world of beauty could
make a difference to both the way
you look and the way you feel? That
lift you get from a new lipstick, or
when you find a cream that actually
works, is unlike any other. And it’s
a feeling the world needs more of.
THE IDEA
B. – exclusive to Superdrug, is
introducing the Beauty Boost, a
concept based on the notion that
beauty is about more than just
aesthetics, it can make a positive
difference to your day too. Simply
wearing a different colour blush can
lift your spirit and your mood, helping
you to achieve more – while putting a
smile on your face. The products are all
cruelty-free and suitable for vegans too.
THE BUSINESSWOMAN for me personally, that would be a

We caught up with Amber Atherton, product that gives my skin a helping
businesswoman extraordinaire and hand against the stresses of everyday
founder of My Flash Trash – a life,” says Amber. “I tend not to wear ‘BEAUTY BOOSTS
jewellery boutique valued at a casual much makeup on a day-to-day basis
£3.5million – to see how everyday because I spend most of my time in ENHANCE YOUR
beauty boosts have had an impact on the office, so having good skin is NATURAL BEAUTY’
her working life, and what they mean really important. It’s as much about
to her. “A beauty boost is something your diet and lifestyle as it is about
that enhances your natural beauty, so the products you use.”
THE BRUSHES
B. Flawless Finish Set, £20
“I love this kit! It’s always my go-to on
the days when I do wear makeup. It has all
the tools I need to create the perfect look.” ‘WEARING
A DIFFERENT
COLOUR BLUSH
CAN LIFT YOUR
SPIRIT AND
YOUR MOOD’
THE BLEMISH BUSTER

B. Confident Blemish
Gel, £6.99
THE HIGHLIGHTER “I’m prone to hormonal
B. Sculpted Blush & Highlight Stick, £10.99 breakouts and I get blemishes
“I’m always in a rush, so this two-in-one stick when stressed, so I keep this
is a total lifesaver! It’s so easy to use and in my handbag. It’s fast-acting
really simplifies the contouring trend. I adore and really works to reduce
the healthy glow and subtle highlight it gives.” redness and size of spots.”
THE WIPES
B. Pure Sensitive Micellar Cleansing
Wipes, £3.99
“After a long day these are perfect. They
contain micellar technology to remove
dirt and impurities – and even stubborn
mascara – without irritating my skin,
leaving it feeling clean and hydrated.”
THE MOISTURISER
B. Confident Moisture Gel, £9.99
“This silky-smooth gel revives my tired skin.
It’s actually proven to increase moisturisation
levels by more than 10% – even after 12 hours.”
Paul and his best friend
James Kouzaris on
the Inca trail in Peru
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at happens when your wingman,

velling buddy and (one day) best
an is callously murdered? Paul
ies, 30, discusses the secret agony,
e and confusion no man is meant
to feel – or talk about
‘
ve a good
eekend with
eryone
ate. Send
y love to
ll. Wish I
as there
ith you!
ch. You’ll be
great and I’m sure they’ll all love it.
Love always. More banter to follow…’
There’s nothing extraordinary
about that text from my best mate
James Kouzaris – ‘Jam’ – on the
morning of my sister’s wedding.
Except that it was the last contact
I’d ever have with him.
A few hours later, on 16 April 2011,
he was killed, with another good
friend of mine, James Cooper –
‘Coops’ – while on holiday in Florida.
Both were incredible men. Jam, just
24, and Coops, 25.
Lost, drunk and defenceless after
a night out, they had wandered into
Newtown, a no-go area of Sarasota,
where they were confronted by Shawn
Tyson – a 16-year-old with a gun.
After what we were told was a failed
mugging, they were made to beg for
their lives before they were shot dead
by him; an unforgiveable act that
I, and their family and friends, will
never comprehend.
I went to university with both of
them and had known Jam since I was
15. He was my best friend. Two weeks
before he and Coops were killed, I
was sitting with him on a flight from
Bogotá to London. We’d been on a
Clockwise from top:
four-month stint travelling around James Cooper (left)
South America. It was the third trip and James Kouzaris;
CCTV images taken
we’d done together and we’d become
just hours before the
closer than ever. Living in each men were killed;
other’s pockets for three years isn’t Shawn Tyson; the
street in Sarasota
easy, of course; I’d liken the whole
where they were
experience to a turbulent marriage. shot; ‘Coops’ and
And sharing a bed for two months ‘Jam’ on holiday
culminated in building barriers out
of cushions, and many middle-of-the-
night arguments: “Wake up, you’re
snoring again,” and “Move over, you’re
on my side!” But every fight was
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worth it, because there’s nothing like away the irony, and you may as well
seeing the world with your partner be setting off a grenade.
in crime – from Thai beaches and the Stoicism and pride are seen, quite
Colombian rainforest to Bolivian salt rightly, as valuable qualities. We can’t
flats and the Jaisalmer desert in India. all fall to pieces every time something
We made the most of every single dramatic happens. But, as I’ve found
opportunity, and I credit Jam’s in the past few years, whatever you
positive personality for that. I’d never lock up finds its way out – usually in
known someone who had so many your treatment of those around you.
traits I wanted to emulate, yet who The main reason for my wanting to
was so good at making me believe write this article is that it gives me an
that I didn’t need to change. excuse to confront what I’ve become
We’d decided this was our final big good at avoiding. And I hope it
trip; time to join the real world – encourages others to know that
move to London, get proper jobs. admitting weakness isn’t the same
He’d been invited to my sister’s as being weak; like a medicine that
wedding as my ‘date’, something we tastes awful but does you good.
laughed about. He’d also been asked When I knew Jam couldn’t make
to join Coops and his family on my sister’s wedding, I asked my
holiday, but was unsure if he should friend Laura to be my date, and we
be spending money on another trip. shared a hotel room. But the morning
I convinced him he’d after the speeches,
regret it if he didn’t go. dancing and toasts, I
It turned out we would woke to the sound of
all regret him going. Laura’s screams – and
It’s been nearly five
‘I’ve found that she handed me a phone.
years since Jam was whatever you I felt physical pain on
killed. I’ve learnt a lot hearing the news that
about grief and the
lock up finds Jam and Coops had been
strength of people. I’m its way out’ killed. It was like being
proud of the friends and winded. And then,
families of both men, suddenly, I was in shock.
and how hard they’ve I remember running
striven to stay positive. But there is, outside. I remember people coming
not surprisingly, another side to this: to see what was wrong. Hugs. Tears.
the personal battles we’ve all gone Words amounting to ‘chin up’ or
through – something I’ve never something similar. I remember asking
fully confronted. I can’t speak for for a drink of brandy – as if I was
anyone else – we all experience grief following some default emergency
differently – but I feel like I’ve never plan that I’d learnt from films.
properly opened up about what The next 24 hours were a blur.
it felt like to lose a best friend at There were many phone calls to
such a young age, before life in the friends and family, either gaining
real world had even really begun. more information or having the
Male friendship is a complicated awful task of telling them what had
thing. ‘Banter’ is probably the most happened. I remember getting
overused word in our vocabulary. incredibly drunk and just wanting
We’re quite happy to talk openly to be on my own.
about the most sensitive or personal That first night was probably the
subjects – girlfriends, sex, our worst. But after that, out of nowhere,
insecurities and hang-ups – as long I suddenly became terrified of the
as we caveat it with ‘only joking, dark. I couldn’t sleep without a light
mate’. But remove the humour; take on, mainly because in the darkness i
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Left: Paul (left) and Jam in Peru in 2011.

Below: best mates, Paul, Jam and Coops
to life in prison without parole. [His

sentence, not the conviction, has since
been overturned, and he will be
resentenced as a juvenile.]
I’d be lying if I said that I haven’t
courted hatred and blame for those
I deem responsible: Shawn Tyson, his
friends, his family, education, the
system – America’s obsession with
guns. And I’d be lying if I said that
I haven’t often thought about revenge
and what that would look like.
I’m sure all of us
I felt left alone with what had involved have
happened. This lasted for months. travelled down that
For days that turned into weeks, path to some extent.
normal life was put on hold. As But making that
friends and family, we stayed close statement freed me
to one another, drank too much and up to start moving
told funny stories of better times. We on and, at some
planned Jam’s funeral. But no matter point, life started
how much we all stuck together, it ticking over again.
didn’t change the fact that everyone Still, there’s not
ultimately had to find their own way a day that passes
of dealing with the reality. without my missing
In the months that followed, I’d get them, without my
angry very quickly. Sometimes when hoping they’re OK
I met people I didn’t know, I’d think and praying they
‘Why are you alive? You’re not as good didn’t suffer.
as them. It should have been you.’ Sometimes I’ll look
It’s incredible how selfish grief can up by the press, and I’m glad we didn’t into cars going past in the hope
make you. I remember a lot of – maybe that would have stopped us they’ll be inside. Or I’ll see someone
arguments. I hurt so many people saying what we really felt. who looks like Jam from a distance
I love, with words that I can never I’m pleased Joe and I got the chance and walk towards him – just in case.
take back. I hurt more to speak from the heart This year, I turned 30. Friends are
people in those first 12 and say what so many getting engaged and you can’t help
months than at any people back home were but assess where you’re at in life. I’m
other time in my life. feeling. I tried to look years from getting married, but there
It was far too traumatic ‘I’ll walk up to Tyson in the eye, but he are times when I think about how
for the lads’ parents to someone who wouldn’t look at me. I Jam’s death will affect my future. Yes,
contemplate, but in remember feeling how weddings are about the bride – we all
March 2012, Joe Hallett
looks like Jam, pointless it all was. Two know that – but the best man’s speech
– another best friend of just in case’ people were dead, is one part of the day that the groom
Jam’s – and I flew to countless lives had been dictates. You’re giving someone
Florida for Tyson’s trial, ruined and there was a permission to reveal your deepest
to read out our victim- kid, in complete denial, secrets and tear you to pieces in front of
impact statements. It was important to about to be incarcerated for the rest everyone you love. That’s special. And
us both for the boys to be represented. of his life. There was no winner. Tyson it should have been Jam’s pleasure.
Those statements were very personal was convicted of two first-degree It’s also difficult knowing that we’ll
to us. We had no idea they’d be picked murder charges and was sentenced never get to know each other’s wives i
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or children. He had so much time for

everyone and anyone, so I’m sure he
would have approved of whoever
I end up sharing my life with. But
knowing that doesn’t make the fact
that he’s not here any easier to bear.
The pain and loss goes on.
Over the past couple of years, I
haven’t spoken much with family or
girlfriends about what happened.
There have been times when
someone has caught me
crying and I’d tell them From top: Paul (second from right) and
I was thinking about friends at Jam’s funeral; Jam (far left), Paul
(right) and friends at school; Joe Hallett
Jam, but I wouldn’t talk
and Paul making a statement outside
for long, and usually court after Tyson was sentenced
end with a joke or
something distracting. couldn’t find two more well-rounded
Of course, amid the young men. It’s been an honour to
darkness, there is light, create a positive legacy for them and
and I always try to look I’m honoured to have known them
for that. I’ve learnt that so well. I reckon they’d both be
searching for the embarrassed if they knew they were
positives in life is the so highly thought of they warranted
key to staying sane. an organisation being
Almost everyone Jam set up in their names
held dear is closer to me – but they deserve it.
now than before he Now they can outlive
died. I’ve grown as a all of us through
person. I know that. Always A Chance and
I’m more confident the good work it does
than I used to be. I for young people.
can put things into And that’s it. One
perspective. I’m not tragic story, told
scared about what life from one person’s
will throw up next. perspective. There are
We’ve set up a charity endless others in the
in memory of Jam and world, many of them
Coops, called Always much worse. But
PHOTOGRAPHS PA PHOTOS, SPLASH NEWS/SPD, SWNS.COM, WENN.COM

A Chance. This was a writing this down
catchphrase of theirs – honestly felt like
meaning anything’s breathing for the first
possible. The charity’s time in many years.
aim is to prevent violent crime by feel so much better, and is a fitting And as for trying to deal with the
funding projects working with tribute to the characters of those future and the times when I’ll wish
young people who are outside loved, decent, brilliant men. he was there, Jam left me with some
full-time education and employment. I remember someone who was quite pretty good words to live by: “Love
We want to encourage them to bewildered at how well the charity always. More banter to follow…”
re-enter the education system and was doing in the early days, asking • For more information on the charity,
support them in doing so. It sounds us, “What the hell were they? Saints?” visit Alwaysachance.org.uk. Read Paul
like a cliché, but turning all the But even though they’re spared the and Joe’s powerful victim impact
negative feelings into something everyday criticisms we reserve for the statements at Cosmopolitan.co.uk/
constructive in this way has made us living, to us they are saints. You really victimimpactstatements. ◆
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CHOICE
PARADOX
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ear my old office no idea what to eat. In the end, out
is an unassuming of panic, I ordered a (ta dah!) ham
sandwich shop called and cheese baguette and slunk away
Jojo’s. It’s tucked away
behind a Betfred
wishing I’d chosen anything else.
After that, I never went back to Jojo’s,
’Even simple
and has a yellowing
‘cash only’ sign
I never told my colleagues and the
next lunchtime I was back at Eat.
questions like
in the window. But “Where will we
everyone I worked WHEN LESS IS MORE order dinner
with raved about It seems rather churlish to complain
it. Each lunchtime, they’d bustle back
to the office bearing heavy plastic
about too much choice – especially as
freedom and the right to choose are
from?” spiral
containers that filled the air with the liberties women have been striving for out of control’
aromas of chorizo and houmous and since time immemorial. But the fact is,
sriracha. Then they’d take a bite of we now have more options open to
whatever it was – purple-sprouting us than any generation before. Do we
broccoli, giant couscous or curly kale want a latte or a mocha? A manicure
– and give huge quasi-erotic, eye- or a pedicure? Tinder or eHarmony?
rolling swoons. Meanwhile, I’d be A family, a career – or both?
cradling my daily ham and cheese But here’s the thing: science suggests bought jam, but only 3% of people
baguette from Eat, proclaiming that the process of selecting options at the larger stall made a purchase.
them all pretentious. Eventually, my from too wide a pool can overload As Professor Iyengar outlines in her
curiosity got the better of me, so one us, causing our decision-making book, The Art Of Choosing, while we’re
rainy lunchtime I ducked into Jojo’s mechanisms to misfire. Psychologists attracted to the concept of lots of
to see what all the fuss was about. say we can then become fixated on choice, in reality, our brains are more
I immediately wished I hadn’t. The what we could have had and, in some comfortable with fewer options.
whole shop was the size of a Renault cases, lose self-confidence and even
Clio, and the wall behind the counter tip over into clinical depression. CHASING PERFECTION
was a floor-to-ceiling blackboard. And they don’t even have to be big, My friend and former inveterate
Filling it, in the world’s tiniest chalky life-altering decisions about career shopper Cara, 27, understands this.
handwriting, was the menu. From choices or egg-freezing. They can be “Shopping used to be a leisure
what I could make out, there were 15 about something as quotidian as jam. activity, but it gives me the horrors
types of bread, twice that number of “When I go grocery shopping, I now,” she says. “Shopping centres are
meats and cheeses and a nightmarish, want to ultimately return home with so enormous these days that saying,
multiple-choice salad-vegetable- some groceries,” Sheena Iyengar, a ‘I like this skirt, but I want to see if
picking matrix that was so complex professor at Columbia University, tells there’s anything better’ is pointless,
it must have existed in 11 dimensions me. “I don’t want to have to choose because chances are you’ll get
at once. The coffee list was, quite between raspberry, cherry and hungry and tired before you’ve
probably, written in Klingon, and the cherry-raspberry flavoured jams and completed a circuit. There’s nothing
meal deals were impenetrable. Worse end up paralysed to such an extent like having low-blood sugar in Reiss
still, I was at the back of a fast-moving that I forgo buying any jam at all.” and realising your perfect skirt is in
queue full of people who knew This isn’t Professor Iyengar’s first H&M, two miles back.”
exactly what they wanted. Time to foray into jam-based research. She The quest for this mythical ‘perfect’
make a decision. Quick. conducted one experiment where item is part of the problem. In his
As the line shortened, the sheer she presented food shoppers with TED talk, The Paradox of Choice,
volume of choice caused my decision- two displays – one with 24 types of psychologist Barry Schwartz argued
making skills to short-circuit. The jam and another separate display of that living in an age of plenty ramps
more options I considered, the more just six jams. What happened next up our expectations. When we have
my brain curdled. By the time I got was interesting. The larger display almost infinite choices, surely one of
to the counter, I’d actually broken attracted 60% of shoppers, whereas them should be perfect? Dr Schwartz
a sweat. Over lunch. I felt the full only 40% of subjects visited the illustrated this point not with jam,
weight of the menu before me and smaller one. In the end, however, a but salad dressing. “If you buy one
the queue behind me, and still I had third of visitors to the smaller stall salad dressing and it’s not perfect, it’s
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worried so much about high… the net result of which is we

missing out on the do better in general – objectively –
‘perfect’ guy, we might but we feel worse.”
have had something.”
Dr Schwartz says the THE BIGGER PICTURE
secret to happiness is So, how do we address the paralysis
low expectations. that comes with being overwhelmed
Previous generations by choice? It’s all about perspective,
led lives well-defined says Professor Iyengar. “How
by cause and effect; important is it that you order the
they married young to ‘right’ dinner?” she asks. “If you get
have large families or steak instead of chicken, will you be
went to university kicking yourself 40 years from now?
specifically to foster “But also consider what it can mean
good careers. Now, we if you look into smarter investment
can freeze our eggs, options today, rather than tomorrow
chop and change or next year. In 40 years’ time, that
careers and marry who choice could turn out to mean a lot.”
we want, when we She also advises reducing the
easy to imagine you could have made want, if we want. But if we feel we’re number of choices you make.
a different choice that would have not living our best possible life, we Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg
been better,” he says.“This imagined think it must be our fault, because famously wears the same T-shirt-and-
alternative induces you to regret your everything is available. This sort of jeans outfit day in, day out – simply
decision, which subtracts from the attitude contributes to a culture of because he feels his multi-billion-
satisfaction you get from the decision depression and it does nothing to dollar decision-making skills are
you made – even if it was a good one. help people with existing mental- best applied beyond his wardrobe.
The more options there are, the easier health problems. “I’m in this really lucky position
it is to regret anything at all that’s Laura Carland, 29, suffers from where I get to wake up every day and
disappointing about your choice.” anxiety and depression. When it gets help serve more than one billion
I relate this to another friend, Eliza, particularly bad, her ability to make people,” he said in his first public
who recently gave up decisions is one of the Q&A.“I really want to clear my life
online dating because first things to suffer. so that I have to make as few decisions
there were just too SMART WAYS TO “Simple questions as possible about anything except how
many men. AVOID OVER-CHOICE such as,‘Where will to best serve this community.”
“Once I’d ruled out PARALYSIS: we order dinner from?’ If a daily uniform is too much for
PHOTOGRAPHS DENNIS PEDERSEN. THE ART OF CHOOSING, BY SHEENA IYENGAR (£9.99, ABACUS)
the ones I didn’t like, spiral out of control,” you, Dr Schwartz suggests limiting the
Make ‘If it ain’t broke,
the ‘maybes’ all seemed
equally dateable. But
every time I met up
1 don’t fix it’ your mantra.
Your local takeaway
knowing your order off
she says. “It becomes,
‘Why don’t I know
what I want?’ and then,
number of shops or websites you shop
from, for a less exhausting experience.
And most importantly, he says, “Learn
with one of them, I by heart is a good thing. ‘How stupid am I?’ and to be satisfied with ‘good enough’.
couldn’t help doubting morphs into a messed- This doesn’t mean settling. You can
Birthday looming?
my choice, no matter
how well it went.
Once, a guy and I had
2 Ask for vouchers from
your favourite shop,
not money. Only being able
up series of inner
attacks on my already
low self-esteem.”
still have high standards – that’s
manageable in a world of hyperchoice.
Always seeking the ‘best’ is not.”
loads in common, but to shop in one place really The irony, says Dr Professor Iyengar’s final words on
focuses the mind…
the conversation was a Schwartz, is that no the matter are eminently practical.
little stilted at first, so Ask your friend what matter how dissatisfied “Make the consequences of your
while he was in the loo
I made another date
and spent the rest of
3 she’s having before you
order in a restaurant,
then copy her. Overchoice
we are with our choices,
they’re probably not all
that bad.“People have
choices as salient as possible. We
simply need to be smart about where
and how we invest our ‘choosing’
and food envy, conquered
the evening distracted. experiences that are energy – be choosy about choosing.”
in a single move.
“I think if I’d let that ‘disappointing’ because And in a world of infinite choice, that
one mature and not Cancel Netflix. Just their standards are so seems to be the best choice of all. ◆
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IS TINDER HEADING FOR A SWIPE OUT?

In case you hadn’t noticed, today’s dating landscape has become a little – how can we
put this? – superficial. Swiping left because a potential partner has a weak jaw/small
eyes/a slightly-deeper-shade-of-blond beard than you’d like has become standard.
Thankfully, that may be about to change with a flurry of new dating sites and events,
based on interests and intelligence rather than aesthetics. There’s Cliick – a new app
that lets you chat with like-minded people perusing the same news stories as
you. Or London’s Original Dating, which hosts singles nights for film
buffs, bookworms and travel addicts – encouraging connections
to be made on a deeper level. So give your thumb a rest
and get your brain in gear…
Because
sometimes
life is
stranger
than
fiction
HIT
THE
I was dumped by AHEAD OF THE CROWD BEST FOOT FORWARD
BRAKES
my boyfriend just
20 minutes after I While window-dressing a mannequin I WAS IN SUCH A RUSH
failed my driving test in a shop window, its head fell off and GETTING READY TO
because, as he put it,
“At least your day couldn’t hit me in the crotch. I doubled over in GO CLUBBING THAT
get any worse – and you’re pain and, when I straightened up, saw I TURNED UP IN ODD
already crying!” Fast SHOES. THEY DIDN’T
forward to some years I’d drawn a small crowd. I was still
later, he’s now my gay best REMOTELY MATCH –
friend. That explains a lot.
clutching the head to my crotch – god ONE WAS CLOSED-
KARA, 23, EVENTS knows what they thought I was doing! TOE, ONE OPEN.
ASSISTANT, OXFORD CEEJAY, 22, VISUAL MERCHANDISER, LONDON
PLEASED TO MEET YOU

I HAD TO GET A TAXI
Eager to impress on my first day at work, I strode up to my boss to introduce myself. STRAIGHT HOME
Unfortunately, I hadn’t clocked the stack of papers and boxes by her desk, and fell over them.
I was so embarrassed, I blurted, “Hi, it’s me!” and then just walked off. Six months on, she still
AND CHANGE.
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EXECUTIVE, LONDON
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a hotel, and was I survived the weirdest job

waiting for my I was excited when a hot guy asked me interview. The guy said he
AS CONFESSED TO JENNIFER SAVIN. PHOTOGRAPHS ANTONIO PETRONZIO, LAURA
boyfriend to call. When out on a date. We spent the evening wanted to ‘feel my vibe’, so I
instinctively held my hands up,
the phone rang, the caller
sounded exactly like my
getting to know each other in a cabaret thinking he was going to try
something untoward. He then
boyfriend – so I assumed he club and it was going really well – until his took out a necklace and circled
was pranking me. He asked fiancée walked in with her friends. it above my head to gauge my
‘energy levels’, shrieking, “You
whether I needed a name to
book a room, so I laughed
Needless to say, it all got very awkward… have a great soul. Welcome to
the team!” I left the office
and said,“Oh, shut up, I Good thing I’m light on my feet! stunned. I took the job though.
know it’s you!” Only then WAYNE, 25, EVENTS COORDINATOR, SHWETA, 36, EVENTS
did I realise that it was one LONDON MANAGER, LONDON
of our regular guests. I
pretended it was his voice MUMP ’N’ DUMP I’D BEEN DATING ANDY* FOR A WHILE WHEN I GOT THE MUMPS. AFTER
I’d recognised, but dreaded WEEKS OF HOUSE ARREST, I WAS SO EXCITED TO MEET HIM FOR DRINKS. “I’M REALLY GLAD
seeing him at reception. TO SEE YOU, THIS MONTH HAS BEEN UNBEARABLE,” HE SAID. I WAS ABOUT TO TELL HIM I
TILLY, 30, RECEPTIONIST, FELT THE SAME, UNTIL HE CONTINUED, “I’VE BEEN WAITING AGES TO BREAK UP WITH YOU.”◆
ESSEX PIPPA*, 31, TEACHER, BRISTOL
WORST DATES EVER We’ve all been there...
I thought we were
going for dinner, but
he took me to an
He tookk me to a BYO He offered me
abandoned car park
and said, “Want to restaurant, but he didn’t order a job as his assistant,
mess around?” After
I said no, he dropped
anything – instead he filled before saying, “Oh
me off at home! up on free bread and – but then I couldn’t
NANCY, 24
drank the wine I’d brought. fuck you.”
FAITH, 24
LEANNA, 24
Wh e were
planning to have sex
for the first time,
I asked him if he had a HE ASKED IF I’D EVER CONSIDERED
condom. His response? Apparently the rooster
“Condoms are for PLASTIC SURGERY BECAUSE I’D tattoo on his inner
hookers – not nice, thigh was so he could
pretty girls like you.”
“LOOK GREAT WITH A BOOB JOB”. tell people he has a
KIM, 25
SAMANTHA, 25 “cock that hangs
to his knees”. WTF?
MARTINA, 26
OVER DINNER,
He told me he’d HE INFORMED He cho expensive
stalked my Instagram ME HE HAD AN bar and, when the bill
came, he only threw
before our first date, and ELECTRONIC TAG down £10, which barely
then proceeded to inform AND HAD TO BE
covered the tip. Then
he looked at me and
me that my sister was said, “You have a better
“so hot”. Thanks! HOME BY 10PM. job, so you’ll get

the rest, right?”
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‘WHY I T
his spring, I’m marrying
John*, my boyfriend of six
years, fiancé of one and the
man I want to come home
ALWAYS
to every night. But there’s
part of our wedding day
I know I’ll struggle with:
saying my vows. In particular, the line
about promising to be faithful, as
I know it’ll be a lie. I haven’t been
faithful to John. And as much as I’d
CHEAT
like to say otherwise, I don’t think I
can be on the other side of ‘I do’, either.
I’m 35, and have cheated on every
one of my boyfriends since I started
dating 20 years ago. So far, I haven’t
been caught. It was never intentional
ON THE
– I didn’t go into each relationship
thinking, ‘I’m going to have sex with
somebody else’ – it just panned out that
way. Either I wasn’t with the right man,
I wasn’t happy or I wanted more than
‘normal’ domestic life. So I strayed –
MEN
sometimes a one-off fling with a guy
I met in a bar; occasionally a several-
month affair, but never more than
one man at a time. If you’re juggling
too many balls, one of them will fall.
Every time a relationship ended,
I LOVE’
I told myself I’d never cheat again.
I didn’t want to be that person, and
there was too much risk involved if
a boyfriend found out. They’d end it
and be out of my life for good, which
I didn’t want. But then I’d get bored,
or have an urge to be with someone
else, and I’d do it again. And again.
Of course I felt guilty, but I became
very well-trained at blocking out my
emotions. Metaphorically, I put them
in a box, which went inside another
box, then another. Then I locked
them up and threw away the key. It’s
not a very healthy way to live, but if I
didn’t have that coping mechanism,
Emma*, 35, has been dating for 20 the floodgates could – and probably
would – open, and I’d drown in guilt.
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years – and has been unfaithful in I’ve had to become adept at deceit.
every relationship. In four months’ My boyfriend before John – Ryan* –
time she’s getting married. But that, worked abroad a lot, so it was easy for
me to live a separate ‘single’ life. Even
she says, won’t change anything… when he’d come home and ask about
my week, lies and half-truths rolled i
off my tongue. “I went out with the once I’ve said my vows, but I
girls,” I’d say, leaving out, ‘And then know nothing will change.
I got hammered and hooked up with Although you might assume
someone who wasn’t you.’ otherwise, I didn’t feel guilty
When it ended with Ryan, I met when John proposed – it
John at a friend’s party. I told him didn’t cross my mind. And
early on about my unfaithful past – no one who’ll be at the
but he didn’t ask questions, and I wedding knows the full story.
don’t think he twigged that it had John isn’t suspicious. And
happened in every relationship. But, although I live with him, I
with John, as with the others, I was never hide my phone – if you
hopeful I wouldn’t cheat this time. hide something, someone’s
I lasted two years – the longest in going to want to look for it.
any of my relationships. But I’ve since Nor do I change any men’s
cheated with six men. Adam* was the names in it. Perhaps I should
first. He lived in my block of flats, be more careful.
and we’d see each other in passing. Guy showered, I got I don’t cheat because there’s
One day I texted to thank him for a text from John: something missing in my
helping me carry some heavy boxes ‘Are you cheating relationship with John. We
upstairs. His reply was bold, saying
he wanted to sleep with me, and it
on me?’ I felt sheer
panic. Had I been
“The sex is the love each other, and we have
good sex. I want to marry him
knocked me for six. But there was caught out? It kind of all-night and be with him for the rest
undeniable chemistry between us
and, in my opinion, to ignore that is
turned out he’d read
an email exchange
stuff you think of my life. But my affairs are
an add-on to that. The rushes
to lose a bit of living. between a friend is a myth” of excitement that I get from
Adam and I hooked up in a hotel and me that I’d left meeting other men make the
while I told John I had work open on my iPad, domestic life I want with John
commitments. The sex was great, but referencing a guy I more liveable and less boring.
it only happened once. I think he was thought was hot. It was innocent, but I realise now that monogamy isn’t
trying to level the playing field with incredibly badly timed. I realised how who I am or what I want. If there’s
his partner, who’d recently cheated on awful it would be to lose John, and at a connection between me and
him too. Mission accomplished. I felt this point I should have put an end to somebody else, I embrace it. I don’t
frustrated that it had happened after it. But it wasn’t that easy. think I’m the only person who feels
I’d stayed faithful for so long. But I had one more affair after that, then this way. But most people ignore it or
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afterwards, I felt like an idiot – not for stopped for a couple of years. The feel they can’t act on it. We’ve been
cheating, but because I felt used, and buzz had worn off (for now) and I conditioned to think monogamy
I looked for a rebound. That’s when felt like a risk element had crept in. It is the right path, but I see that as a
I joined a dating website for attached was similar to taking drugs; you take Victorian ideal, dictated by society.
people, called Illicit Encounters. them because you want the high, but If we could get rid of those notions,
Suddenly, an element of decision then you come down and realise you we’d be a lot happier.
making had entered the equation. might have died. Replace death with Am I a bad person? No, I don’t
I was now actively seeking out men, getting caught, and you get the idea. believe I am. I do feel bad about
rather than waiting for chance liaisons. I hoped I could then live faithfully, deceiving John, yes, but what can I do
I got a bigger buzz because I’d chat but two years later, feeling a bit flat, now we’re this far in? Sure, I’d like to
to men before meeting them, getting I craved that high again and set up a think that my lifestyle isn’t forever. I
to know them and allowing the new profile on the website. There I can’t imagine doing this when I’m 70.
chemistry to build up. They say great met Andy*, who’s married with kids But I won’t stop yet, because that
sex starts in the mind… and who I’ve been seeing on and off would be lying to myself. Of course,
Guy* was the first man I met from for a year. Neither of us wants a continuing means lying to John,
the site. He often worked in London, relationship, but the sex is amazing which I hate, but either way,
so a couple of times we met for drinks – the kind of all-night stuff you think deception is involved. The only
before going to a hotel. Once, as I sat is a myth. Will it stop once I’m difference is who I choose to deceive.
among the crumpled bed sheets while married? No. I’d love to be faithful And at the moment, that’s him. ◆
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Why I can’t
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LAUREN FRANKLIN asks what happens when
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that are terrible for me but I with these men. Some I simply didn’t problem. After a few disappointing
just can’t stop. Like midnight love, while others were not the types dates or, worse still, promising dates
binge-eating, grinding my you’d want to settle down with. that have led to unreturned messages,
jaw when I concentrate… and stalking Enter Stage Two of the Insecure I can’t help but feel scared, rather
ex-boyfriends on social media. Madness. Why did they change for than exhilarated, by the uncertainty
Let me make this clear up front: these girls and not me? Nowadays, ahead. Has the best been and gone?
I don’t want any of them back. Christ, they all look so happy and functional, Perhaps marriage and long-term
I don’t even remotely fancy them but when we dated it was a different commitment won’t ever happen
anymore, but seeing where story. If I’d stuck around for me. But then I remind myself
someone’s life goes when would they have matured that just maybe, the greatest thing
it’s no longer entwined eventually? Or did it take in my life is just around the corner…
with yours is compelling. ‘Oh, Facebook the jolt of me ending
An increasing number (and your things to force them?
are getting engaged and
lax privacy I suppose I feel it’s Are you our
married. Finding out is a
curious torture, one I find settings),
slightly unfair that they’ve
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on. Look at my glossy hair.’ Urgh. unfulfilled and short-changed. But I We’ll take it
When Stage One of the Insecure do wonder – if nearly every person from there.
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A D U LT N O N - F I C T I O N
MY
BEST SEX
EVERWAS…
a threesome with my husband
Boy meets girl, boy marries girl, girl plans sexcation to Amsterdam
so they can have a no-strings threesome
It’s 8pm on a Sunday night we quickly learn why single women the blue, and I tell her about our
and my husband Matt* and seeking married couples are known quest over a glass of wine. Next thing
I are lying on a hotel bed in as unicorns: they barely exist. I know, she’s come over for dinner,
Amsterdam. I’m wearing a So, since people outsource and let’s just say that Matt’s famous
see-through lace top, schoolgirl everything from pet-sitting to linguine isn’t the only thing that gets
miniskirt and knee socks. He’s in pedicures, we think, ‘Why not hire eaten that night.
a shirt and jeans. Both of us are a professional for our sex lives?’ We Threesomes with Ella become a
watching the clock, nervous. Any settle on Amsterdam because regular thing, but we decide to
minute now, Dita, the high-end escort prostitution is regulated honour our appointment
we met online, will arrive. there, and sex workers have with Dita anyway. You
I never ever dreamt I’d be a sexual more rights than they do know… for science.
tourist, let alone the kind who hires in most places. So, here we are, days
prostitutes with her husband. I was After browsing dozens of ‘“So what later, in our hotel in
a bit of a wild child in my early
twenties, but by the time Matt and
NSFW websites, we land on
Dita, an independent escort
are your Amsterdam, with Dita.
“You’re gorgeous!” she
I got together, I was done sowing and porn actress who boundaries cries, hurrying past Matt
my wild oats. With Matt, I haven’t claims to enjoy the for tonight?” to me (and earning instant
missed my bisexual past of ‘company of charming brownie points). She’s
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she asks in a beautiful: tall and slender
have great sex, just the two of us. couples, and women, to share Slavic accent’ with sparkling green eyes
But one drunken night after a moments of complicity’. She and cheekbones that could
party, we ended up in the champagne also charges 1,000 euros for cut ice. She removes her
room of a strip club and things got two hours. But hey, we’re coat to reveal a skirt like
very raunchy, very fast. We decided only going to do this once, right? mine and a skimpy shirt hugging fake
we wanted more. Over email, we set up an breasts as gravity-defying as ripe
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adult dating sites are actually couples, particulars (time, outfit, Dita’s outfit: After discreetly pocketing the pile of
and I simply don’t want to have sex schoolgirl, please). Then before our notes on the table, she sends Matt to
with another guy. We’re committed trip, the impossible happens: we find undress. Then she turns to me.
to a hot, no-strings encounter with a a unicorn. Ella, an old FWB from my “What are your boundaries for
sexy woman… no compromises. But wild-child days, messages me out of tonight?” she asks in a Slavic i
A D U LT N O N - F I C T I O N
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Of course, Matt and I have talked The next two hours are like being good for all three of us. Turning Ella
about this. I’ve told him about times in a porn movie where Dita’s the on turns me on. It’s not cinematic,
I got jealous during past threesomes director and star. She manoeuvres us but the way she smells and feels and
and he’s reassured me, into impossible-seeming sounds is really what sends me over
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Your feelings are more her naughty-schoolgirl to make her come (trust me, I try).
important.” Knowing Matt ‘She lubes up, character. Matt and I She’s here because it’s her job. Her
will always put my heart works it in, high-five like freshers as pleasure – like her enthusiasm and
before his cock makes me she takes both of us at the her creative scenarios – is fake. Being
bold enough to tell Dita
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anything goes. around in strap-on, he with his cock but it lacks the kind of personal
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naked and a little bashful, Then I’m the one getting erotic. I do eventually climax, using
she empties her backpack stilettos’ double-teamed. As I’m one of Dita’s vibrators on myself
onto the bed. It looks like riding her, she nestles a while Matt fucks her. Afterwards,
the entire inventory of vibe against my clit. We’ve we collapse on the bed and talk for
Ann Summers: a dozen been at it for more than an a while before she packs up her bag
vibrators, butt plugs and anal beads, hour and I realise I should probably of tricks and leaves.
a syringe(!) of lube, a leather harness come, but I’m overstimulated. It’s as Later, Matt and I venture out as
with two sizes of strap-on, and even a if I’m experiencing the whole thing as well. Even on a quiet winter night,
fluffy foxtail. The foxtail, it turns out, performance rather than pleasure. there’s always something going on
attaches to a butt plug. She lubes it This, I start to realise, is the in Amsterdam, and I want to find a
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SEXUAL
HEALING
No topic is too taboo for Cosmopolitan’s sex psychotherapist RACHEL MORRIS
HE WANTS TO KNOW
He’s not
The sex is
amazing I do all the playing ball
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– but is he work in bed My boyfriend used
too young? Q My
Q to want long sex
sessions every time we
girlfriend
I’ve been having
Q off-the-chart-great
sex with a 20-year-old
is a total pillow
princess. I like
being in charge
met. It’s been six months
since we moved in
together and what little
boy. At 37, I’m old in bed, but it’d
be nice if she
sex we have now is over
enough to be his mother, in minutes – he hardly
took the reins
but I’ve never wanted occasionally. even tries to make me
anyone more – sexually She says she can come. Is he taking me
speaking. I’m also hugely only get turned for granted or has he
embarrassed; I haven’t on by being
submissive –
just lost interest?
told anyone and he’s
I think it’s an
sworn to secrecy. What excuse and she’s It may be both – or neither.
am I thinking? He accused just plain lazy. The fact that you’re asking
me instead of him suggests
My guess is: you’re not me of faking Labelling her
‘lazy’ is lazy too.
his bad bedroom behaviour
thinking. ‘Off-the-chart- could be a symptom of
great sex’ can do that to
a person – and I have no
Q At first, my new boyfriend
would make me orgasm five or
six times a night. The sex was
incredible – until he asked if I was
I get it – you’re
resentful, but
sulking won’t
a larger problem. The
quality of a couple’s sex
intention of bursting your change things. life is usually a fair gauge
faking. I told him I’d never do that, Her reluctance
sexy bubble by telling you but I don’t think he believed me. Now of relationship health. You
may have more
you should rethink this. I worry so much about looking and appear to have made the
to do with low
What are you worried sounding ‘real’, I hardly come at all. confidence than responsibility all his – why
about? The judgement idleness; is she is that? A relationship is
of others? Then keep it Most women are happy to have one too shy to like a game of tennis – it
orgasm, pleasantly surprised to have two initiate? Or
private. Whose business is it requires two players; if one
and thrilled to have three, so don’t be maybe it really
anyway? The real danger is too hard on him for being suspicious of of you isn’t batting the balls
does leave her
the internal judgement you your five or six – he probably hasn’t met cold, as she says. back, then it’s not tennis,
put on yourself. You call anyone like you before. But being called Talk to her to get it’s golf, and you’re only
him a boy, but the law says a faker is akin to being called a liar, so to the root of it. playing against yourself.
I’m not surprised you’ve lost confidence. If you really think
he’s an adult – and by your Approach the net and ask
This isn’t going to resolve itself in the she’s just selfish,
own admission, he’s man bedroom; you need to talk elsewhere. him what’s going on. It’s
command her,
enough to satisfy you. Treat Ask him to go for a walk with you as her master, to time for a hard-hitting
him as an equal and be (talking side by side feels less challenging dominate you. chat about playing fair.
honest with him, but bear than face to face). This is a trust issue;
starting an honest and daring dialogue
in mind his inexperience
will go a long way towards restoring his Have a question for Rachel?
and try not to break his faith – and, crucially, your orgasms. Email rachel@cosmopolitan.co.uk
heart, Mrs Robinson.
Georgia
and James
in 2007
‘I learnt not to take back men who cheat’

Georgia Lansdown, 25, is a PA from north London
James and I sat next to each other in science

when we were 13. He was a massive flirt, which
I liked, and he was funny too. He asked me out
after a few months. We were together for three
years, on and off, hanging out at break times, and he’d
even play love songs he’d written down the phone to me.
It was quite turbulent, though. Once, we broke up after
he cheated on me with one of our friends. I went crazy at
him, then took him back. But I was less trusting after that.
James and I both lost our virginity to each other, and (as
you do at that age) I genuinely thought we’d get married.
But it ended after he cheated on me again – with the same
girl. I wondered why I’d taken back someone who cheats.
I’d never do it again; it’s a lesson I learnt early on.
Despite all that, I didn’t hold a grudge. In the past nine
years, James and I have only seen each other briefly a
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BY HARRIET THURLEY. ADDITIONAL REPORTING BY JENNIFER SAVIN. GEORGIA AND
couple of times, so I was curious to catch up with him.

He hasn’t changed a bit – except now he’s got tattoos
and a beard. Weirdly, it turns out we’ve both travelled in
south-east Asia. He works as a paramedic, whereas I always
had him down as a writer or musician. He’d conveniently
forgotten about the second time he cheated on me! I’m
pleased we’re able to laugh about it now though.
I didn’t fancy him, but I had a great evening and, as
expected, it wasn’t awkward
at all. When you know Would you see him again?
somebody really well, it’s The distance would make
easy to mistake getting on that difficult, but if I ever
with flirting, but there are find myself down in his
no romantic feelings neck of the woods, I’ll see
if he fancies meeting for a
anymore. That’s all in the coffee – just as mates.
past – for me, anyway.
We send
two former
sweethearts
on a date to
see what
happens…
‘The night ended how it began…’

James Burgess, 26, is a paramedic from Brighton
At school, I’d flirt with all the girls and tease

Georgia, saying I was going to marry her. She’d
laugh – the reaction I wanted; I loved seeing her
smile. We spent hours on the phone after school.
I’d sing love songs I’d written for her – I don’t remember
the lyrics, but just thinking about it makes me cringe!
We kissed four months into the relationship and,
although we lost our virginity to each other, we only had
sex once. We ate pizza afterwards, then she went home.
We dated for three years, until I two-timed her. The
truth is, I fancied them both and didn’t understand my
feelings. I knew it hurt Georgia, which I felt guilty about.
I was pretty upset after it ended – I remember trying to
bump into Georgia at school, just to have contact. We
became friends again, but lost touch when I moved away.
I learnt a lot from the relationship – hurting someone
by cheating isn’t something I want to do again. I decided
to be a good person. I’m not there yet, but getting closer...
I was excited to see Georgia again. I didn’t expect to
fancy her; I just wanted a fun night. I thought she looked
great, and the conversation flowed. She also jogged my
memory about a couple of things I’d forgotten...
There’s nothing between us romantically, but I was
glad I could still make her laugh, and that we could
joke about what an idiot
I was back then. The Would you see her again?
night ended how it If I was in London, I’d contact
began, with a hug. her for a quick catch-up –
and I hope vice versa. But
4Would you like to be if we don’t see each other
reunited with your first love? for another nine years, I
Email us at first.love@ know we’ll still get on. ◆
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Hop. Stop. Cosmopolitan
Junior Fashion
Editor Holly Coopey’s
top spots in...
Paris
I go to Paris for... luxe French
designer brands, such as Maje
and Sandro, at better prices – if
something’s £50 here it’ll be €50
there. And if you want it even
cheaper, there’s a Sandro outlet in Le
Marais district (26 Rue de Sévigné).
I stay at… For a treat, Hotel Costes

(239-241 Rue Saint-Honoré;
Hotelcostes.com) on the Right Bank
is amazing. Forget minimalism,
Costes is really opulent: think
chandeliers, velvet curtains, floral
wallpaper… It’s always buzzing on the
candlelit terrace, and the bar, where
DJs play nightly, is a meeting place
for Parisians as well as hotel guests.
Or for the same price, you can rent an
entire Airbnb apartment on the same
Jumper, Maje, UK price
(Net-A-Porter): £240, street (airbnb.co.uk/rooms/1272646).
French price: €220
I always buy… the limited-edition
fashion collaboration collections
(don’t miss Stance x Rihanna) from
Colette on Rue Saint-Honoré –
there’s something for every budget,
Bag, Sandro, UK price
(Selfridges): £239, and the cool installations make it an
French price: €225 experience too. I also love French
Shop Want some insider knowledge on the
best places to spend your Christmas
pennies that are just a short ride
away? Here, three self-confessed
shopaholics share their secrets
supermarkets such as E.Leclerc for My insider secret is... the Saint-

cute cotton bras and knickers, and Le Ouen flea market, a group of around
Petit Marseillais shower gels. I stock 15 markets in north Paris is the best
up on Avène and Bioderma face and for vintage clothes, bric-a-brac and
eye creams at the local pharmacy – antiques. It’s full of locals and not
French budget ranges are so much in all the guide books.
better than ours.
The best thing I’ve ever bought
My top Little Black Book entry is... here was... a vintage brown leather
La Belle Hortense, a literary café and sheepskin aviator jacket from
where you can browse beautiful Le Marais district that looked as if it
books (mostly French) while came straight off the Burberry catwalk.
drinking great wine.
The worst thing I’ve ever bought
I refuel at... There are so many great here was... a vintage Dior foldover
places to eat and drink in Paris, it’s clutch bag for €150 that I’ve never
hard to choose. Candelaria is a small used because the interior is
taqueria where you push a wall and disintegrating – and it’s brown.
behind it is a small cocktail bar. The
team behind it also owns Le Mary If you want to buy something
Celeste, a French tapas place that’s festive to take home… I’m a sucker
great for cocktails. For blowing the for a snow globe – there are hundreds
budget, Septime is impressive – it’s to buy on the Rue Rivoli; for me,
run by a young French guy who’s the tackier, the better!
very creative. It gets very busy, though
(Beyoncé and Jay Z have been), so 4 Easyjet (Easyjet.com) flies to Paris
you need to book. from around £44.50 return. i
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Chef, food blogger
and retail adviser
Tess Ward shares her
favourite haunts in
Barcelona
I go to Barcelona for... the affordable
tapas I comfort myself with after
My insider secret is… Quimet &
Quimet. It’s a lovely tapas restaurant
spending a bomb on clothes. with a small, intimate bar and a
seriously good wine selection. A great
I stay at… H10 Casanova (H10hotels. place for lunch. Also, Turquesh is a
com),
c for obvious reasons: it’s close great vintage shop in Sant Antoni,
to Las Ramblas, has a sky bar terrace where you can find good-quality
with views of the city, spa, weekend designer clothes at really good prices.
DJs at Ona Lounge and modern I found the most amazing old Bruce
rooms that don’t cost the earth (from Oldfield silk shirt there.
£57). If I could afford it, it would be
the W hotel. It’s worth a visit anyway The best thing I’ve ever bought
to take in the view of the city from here was… a handmade wooden
the top bar with a great mojito. carving knife, for slicing Iberico ham,
from the market. I love its incredible
I always buy… La Boqueria is one carved handle with decorations
of the best markets for stocking up inspired by the Catalan countryside.
on food. You’ll find the best Iberico
ham, Manchego cheese and cured The worst thing I’ve ever bought
tuna roe. For clothes, Barri Gòtic here was… I ate a raw, oily tortilla
(Gothic Quarter) is the place to go. from a touristy stall on Las Ramblas
For fun homeware or gifts, I go to Ici when I first arrived, tired and a bit
Et Là – it has fabulous lampshades. hung-over. It was truly awful. For
any Londoner, it’s the equivalent
My top Little Black Book entry is… of buying a meal from a stall in
The After House Club, tucked behind Leicester Square.
a cocktail bar called Martini. It’s open
well past 4am and does an irresistible If you want to buy something
range of cocktails. It’s also fun for late festive to take home… Forget
dining with creative dishes, such as the miniature Gaudi or Picasso
wild boar with lobster and smoked poster! Buy edible gifts. You can’t
cod with mango and avocado. go wrong with a slab of membrillo
(quince jelly) to serve with cheese,
I refuel at… Bodega 1900 in Sant or a bottle of good Tempranillo.
Antoni for local ingredients cooked Cheese and wine are always
with a nod towards authentic, winners at Christmas!
traditional Spanish food. It’s low-key
and charming. A great spot for 4 Easyjet flies to Barcelona from
foodies and fashionistas alike. around £36 return.
Bargain hunter
Alexandra Stedmaan
(The-frugality.comm)
reveals her best buuys in
I go to Berlin for... the cool vibe, food stalls and entertainers. Voo
amazing vintage stores and the Store is really good for browsing –
city’s great bar scene. streetwear, Berlin designers such as
Hien Le, trainers, arty books and
I stay at... the Heart of Gold Hostel quirky stuff like bottles of Our Vodka
(Heartofgold-hostel.de). Private by Our Berlin. Its cafe, Companion
rooms are available, or if there’s a Coffee, is a great place to people-
whole group of you the dorms can watch over a nice cuppa.
be a lot of fun. It’s in a really good
location right in the centre of town, I refuel at... Dada Falafel, or Weinerei
there’s a reception with a lounge and – an amazingly brilliant wine bar
pool table, the design is inspired by where you pay €2 for one glass and
The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy then pay what you want for the rest
(order a Pan-Galactic Gargle Blaster at the end – depending on how you
during happy hour at the bar) and it rate your night!
has a biergarten. Dorm beds start
from as little as £7.50. My insider secret is... Tiergarten
Quelle, it’s a very off-the-beaten-track
I always buy... trinkets and jewellery restaurant that serves German fare,
from the markets at Mauerpark and such as a litre of beer and schnitzels
Boxhagener. I also have to rummage in hearty portions for less than €10.
through the stalls selling everything
from old vinyl records and luggage to The best thing I’ve ever bought here
bikes and art for hidden treasures. was... an embroidered clutch from
the ’50s and some vintage sunnies.
My top Little Black Book entry is...
PHOTOGRAPHS ALAMY, GETTY IMAGES, PHOTOSHOT, WENN.COM
a vintage store called Garments, The worst thing I’ve ever bought
which is definitely the most chic shop here was... My friends and I once
of its type in town. Owners Astrid bought matching T-shirts from the
Lafos and Sandra Keil sell scarcely souvenir shops. Total tourists.
worn designer clothing, much of
which comes from TV and film If you want to buy something
productions – both used to work as festive to take home… head to
costume designers so their sources are the Christmas markets for some
amazing. Prices range from bargain to gluwein (mulled wine) – guaranteed
bankrupting, so shop carefully. to make you feel seasonal.
Mauerpark is a lively place to wander
around on a Sunday afternoon, with 4 Easyjet flies to Berlin from around
karaoke (yes, really), plenty of street £36.50 return. ◆
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£10 DINNER
PARTY
What do the world’s top chefs cook at
home? We find out and dish up a recipe
that won’t punish your purse
BUTTERNUT SQUASH 69P
BUTTER 82P
MILK 44P
PHOTOGRAPH DAVID COTSWORTH. PRICES BASED ON FULL PACKETS OF INGREDIENTS PURCHASED AT ALDI AND TESCO (FOR UNDYED SMOKED HADDOCK). CORRECT AT TIME OF GOING TO PRESS
HADDOCK £4.80
CAVOLO NERO 89P
PEPPERS 95P
COUSCOUS 39P
TOTAL
Michael Wignall’s
SMOKED HADDOCK AND ROASTED £8.98
SQUASH COUSCOUS WITH BUTTERED
CAVOLO NERO
Michael
Wignall ERVES 4
SE butter to
o the pan and stir into
is a man INGREDIENTS roast for 30 mins, then mash. the cavolo nero until coated.
of many ✱ 1 butternut squash Roast the seeds for 5 mins, 5. Meanwhile, mix into the
✱ 250g butter until golden. Cool, then crush. couscous the peppers, mashed
talents – ✱ 1 each red, green and yellow 2. Melt 50g butter over a low squash, 50g butter, and salt
he ditched a promising peppers heat and pour over the peppers, and pepper (to taste).
career as a professional ✱ 250g couscous then roast until soft (about 15 6. Place half the reserved milk
BMX rider to become ✱ 600ml milk mins). Remove the skin and in a pan on a medium heat with
a chef and, with two ✱ 1 smoked haddock fillet seeds, and chop into 2cm dice. the final 50g of butter and
✱ 1 packet of cavolo nero 3. Place the couscous in a bowl, whisk until it thickens and
Michelin stars under ✱ salt and freshly ground add 500ml boiling water, cover starts to form a foam.
his belt for his Surrey black pepper with clingfilm and cool. 7. Remove the skin from the
restaurant The Latymer, 4. Next, in a large pan, bring haddock and either flake with
he obviously chose the METHOD the milk to a simmer, add the a fork and scatter over the
right path. He’s cooked 1. Preheat the oven to 180°C haddock and poach for 5 mins. couscous or serve on the side.
(350°F, gas 4). Peel the squash, Remove, but save the milk. Arrange the buttered cavolo
up this recipe that’ll remove the pulp and dice it. Cook the cavolo nero in a pan nero around it, and pour the
wow your dinner Set aside the seeds. Wrap in of boiling, salted water for 3-4 sauce on top. Finish with a
guests but still costs foil with 50g of the butter and mins, then drain. Add 50g sprinkle of the seeds. Delicious!
less than a tenner.
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Pack away the
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Bauble, £75,
Bombki
Bauble, £4,
John Lewis
Candle holder,
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Lantern, £3.99,
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This month
we’ll be... … embracing autumn with films, friends and flat white
martinis. Cosmopolitan’s HARRIET THURLEY hits the town
Sipping cocktails Wrapping up

Friday night girls’ drinks is the It’s that time of year when
best antidote to a busy week. my trusty leather jacket gets
I’ll make mine a Baileys, and relegated to the back of the
if we’re doing cocktails, flat wardrobe to make way for
white martinis are a favourite a new contender, namely
among my The Heavy-Duty Winter Coat.
friends. Not I love choosing a new one
only delicious, – as far as I’m concerned, the
that coffee kick bigger, longer and thicker,
is the ideal cure the better. I’ve got my eye on
for end-of-the-week this beauty from Karen Millen,
fatigue. Hi, weekend. £299. The downside? Lugging it
Make your own flat white around on my sweaty commute.
martini! Find the recipe at But on nights out, it’s so worth
Cosmopolitan.co.uk/baileys. it when you step outside (even
if those flat white martinis are
keeping you warm).
Watching films al fresco

Hitting the ice Another silver lining of the chilly weather
is snuggling up in chunky knits and soft
When it comes to gliding
(read: stumbling) around blankets. I’ll be doing just that while
on two slivers of steel, watching festive favourite Elf in the
I’m more Bambi than courtyard of west-London restaurant
Torvill and Dean. Hush. *Browses its cocktail menu*.
But the run-up to Classics in the Courtyard runs from
Christmas wouldn’t November until the end of February.
be complete without Tickets start at £10 per table. For
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a few late-night more information, visit Hush.co.uk.

laps of the rink at
Somerset House
in London, from CCelebrating marriage
18 November to 10 (d
disclaimer: not mine)
January. My bum My friend Amy got married in Las
will hate me afterwards, Vegas in October, but she’s having
but it’ll have forgotten th
he reception in London this month.
by next year. Sh
he’s hired a bar in Canary Wharf
Tickets start at £7.50. an
nd the funky, seven-piece New York
For more information, Brass Band. I can’t wait to dress up
visit Somersethouse. an
nd dance the night away with her.
org.uk/ice-rink. Sh
he’s one of the absolute best!
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up and clear some karma. photo or video makes you
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you will be offered a big an old work problem put
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Gossip about a man you Point an on-the-edge

like is third-hand, so check person to the gym or a
the facts. Finding the right yoga class. You gain hugely
object at the right price by introducing two
makes you ecstatic. You’ll strangers. Overdue changes
“If I close one
gain with a person who eye and squint to your daily travel will
finds English difficult. a bit, this outfit’s improve a work situation,
Clearing confusion with a definitely not and you’re also helped by a
too bling…”
tricky woman will pay off. male’s personality change.
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so ask a friend who left. If admits their mistake. You’ll you gain? Achievements are to you. Bypassing one or
you have a partnership, it gain from a delegated role in store for a friend you’re more competitors at work
now requires more work. at work. Find out why a happy to congratulate. A will benefit you. A warm
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application. Bypass that But ignore a woman an abandoned project – it going. A charming but
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C was a whirlwind week of celebrities, parties, DJs,

free gifts, accessories, lingerie, special shopping
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down during the most glamorous week of the year… i
MONDAY
An evening of silk, lace and unadulteratted

seduction on the Cosmopolitan catwalk……
t’s not every week that Monday CoppaFeel!, remindiing
I turns out to be a show-stopper, but

Day 1 of #fashfest – our festival
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partnership with Visa – was exactly
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everyone how vital
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The show centred
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There was also a hauntingly beautiful from deep pinks
performance from Rae Morris in and reds, through
honour of breast-cancer charity to floral prints and
the eternal classic,
black lace – with
a chic bridal
section too.
Our evening’s
appreciation of all
things silk and lace
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TUESDAY In partnership with
Meet our five

style insiders
Want to know how to make it in the worlds of fashion and
beauty? Farrah Storr quizzed the industries’ biggest names
to be a good model; I
THE PANEL learnt how to portray
emotions for the
FARRAH STORR Event host
and Editor of Cosmopolitan camera and what my
best angles are.
What role does
GEMMA SHEPPARD
Chief stylist on The X Factor Q social media play
in success?
Michelle: It really opens
MICHELLE HUMPHREY
Manicurist to the stars up the world. I got
booked with Katy Perry
through Instagram.
LILAH PARSONS
Model and MTV presenter Now, whenever she’s in
Our top
Europe, I work with her. I try to industry
post every day – one post a day pros swap
JUSTINE JENKINS is enough, but often I’ll sit there stories and
Celebrity makeup artist advice at
for 40 minutes trying to get an #fashfest
image to look right.
Lilah: It’s crucial for getting noticed.
How did you get your job? Just the other day I spotted someone
Q Justine: I’d wanted to be a
makeup artist since I was 16, but I
on Instagram. She was a little redhead
from Scotland and I thought, ‘Damn,
worked in the City for years – and that girl is beautiful!’ I sent her details
I was miserable. The turning point to my agent and they got her in.
came when I woke up one day in my What’s your advice for making three sets of fake eyelashes), shall we
late twenties and the idea of failing
didn’t scare me anymore. I cold-called
Q a business a success?
Gemma: Today, anything’s possible
try that today?”
Ever suffered any disasters?
the Royal Shakespeare Company
and said,“I’m really interested in
with Instagram, Facebook and
Twitter. But it’s about knowing what
Q Gemma: Before a live X Factor
show, Tulisa was in this very expensive
makeup artistry – can I come over in you want to get out of it. Who do you cream taffeta Bruce Oldfield dress
the evening and help?” They agreed, want to reach? What are your short, when in came a huge bouquet of
and they taught me everything. After medium and long-term goals? lilies. The pollen went straight on the
a couple of months, I got the courage Justine: You have to be patient. I’ve dress. Weirdly, when it’s stressful, I’m
to go back to college. It was the best worked with clients who are used to very calm and quiet. “I need everyone
decision I ever made. doing their own makeup. You can’t to leave the dressing room,” I said.
Lilah: I was scouted by a modelling go steaming in and say, “You look Then I wrapped my hand in Sellotape
BY HARRIET THURLEY
agency at a party. When this type of awful. I’ll make you look fabulous.” and dabbed the dress. Amazingly,
opportunity comes along you need You have to respect them, until they I got it all off, but it was so close…
to go for it. I wouldn’t say I’m the say, “Oh, you know that natural look • To discover more of Gemma’s secrets
prettiest or tallest model, but I learnt you spoke about (as opposed to for success, see p107.
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t the end of an incredible
A week of #fashfest in
partnership with Visa, we
rounded off with a huge
wrap party and massive
discounts on all our favourite labels.
We danced the night away in
London’s most decadent venue, One
When you’re having
this much fun, it’d be
a shame not to pose…
Embankment, to the freshest sounds
by Superfoxx and former Radio 1
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haven’t partied with a saxopho st and
dancers wearing mirrored fox asks,
you haven’t lived…). Delicious ood,
including #fashfest’s legendary mac
’n’ cheese, was never more than a hop,
skip and jump across the dance floor.
No good party would be com mplete
The Superfoxx
without a glass of fizz, and our DJs with DJ
prosecco was provided by the Krystal Roxx
sublime Gancia. We also sipped (above right)
a cocktail or two – luckily,
Żubrówka Vodka, who suppor d
#fashfest all week, had us well
covered on that front. It even
provided a photobooth so we c uld
take fierce snaps, plus its own f est
(yes, forest) area, to add a touch f
fairy-tale mystique to the eveni .
There were awesome goody bags,
and even those who couldn’t m ke
the party were spoilt by the #fas fest
online discounts from amazing brands
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bartenders
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club
Zubrówka Vodka helped make the
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e’re all for to all our stylish
W tickling our
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Left: models
backstage
showcase the
’70s bohemian
hippie-girl
look. Right:
Michelle
Keegan on Made In
the red carpet Chelsea’s
Binky
Behind th
Left: MIC’s
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Lucy upped
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action. Below:
Barry M Krystal Roxx
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guests
We threw some male

models into the mix
The #fashfest runway In partnership with
Fashion bloggers (from

left) Yasmine Chanel, Chloe Host
Anyone f Miles and Sarah Ashcroft Laura
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colleagues, eex-boyfriends, current boyfriend
5 ON HEARING THE
E OPENING BARS
OF THE AFOREMENTIONED SONG,
I promise to shove fellow guests out of my way
and Uber driver
d for any physical, financial or in order to get to the dance floor. Once there,
romantic damage I may incur. I agree to screech along to the high notes in
unison with someone I have only just met.
GREE TO SPEND THE FIRST
REE HOURS OF THE CHRISTMAS
PARTY IN INCREASING DISCOMFORT,
bo ring on agony, as a result of wearing Spanx.
6 I FULLY UNDERSTAND THE
CONSEQUENCES of texting my ex from
my Uber home to wish him a merry Christmas
I ept that by 10pm I will rip off said Spanx and, furthermore, of adding, ‘I miss you so much,’
the toilets, and emerge sweaty, bare-legged on hearing East 17’s Stay Another Day being
aand slightly saggier-bottomed. played on Magic FM. When he fails to reply, I
will not ask the cab driver to pretend to be my
3 SHOULD THIS PARTY INCLUDE A

CHRISTMAS DINNER, I realise I am
new boyfriend on his voicemail.
committed to having a stilted conversation over my

meal with a middle-aged man from a department
I’ve never heard of, and to whom I have never
7 IF I CHOOSE TO PURCHASE A KEBAB
AT 3AM, I agree that any friends made in
the kebab shop will stay in the kebab shop, and
spoken before. I also accept that henceforth every that I will not try to befriend Kebab Shop Steve
BY FRANCESCA MacCARTHY. PHOTOGRAPHS GETTY, ISTOCK
time I encounter this man in the lift, I will on Facebook when I get in.
studiously avoid eye contact and stare at my phone.
Additional social-media disclaimer:
4 SHOULD I FEEL THE URGE TO

CRY, I agree to do so in the toilets between
the hours of 11pm and 1am. During this time
I promise to post a selfie as I squinch under some
mistletoe, hashtagged #Christmascountdown.
I acknowledge that the next day I will wonder
I can legitimately expect several friends to A) where I was and B) what was I thinking?
Sign
ned: (prospective Christmas partygoer)
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