The Astrological Archetypes of Relationships

All of us have inherent personality traits that are inborn. I like to say were
all preloaded at the factory. Then life tends to enhance or hinder these
natural tendencies within us, making them stronger or weaker in our
personality as we go through life. When it comes to romantic relationships,
there are five personality types that I see over and over that contribute to a
woman (or man) being and STAYING single, or not having as much
fulfillment in love as they could.
Knowing your Relationship Archetype can help you to recognize how you,
in fact, participate in your romantic results. You see, your archetype has
everything to do with how you interact with and respond to others, see
relationships, and experience dating and mating in general.
Having this ability to see this about yourself is extremely helpful in
understanding what you need to do about it to change your life, and helps to
take the blame and shame out of the situation. Instead of blaming yourself
for being sensitive, or a homebody, or a career woman, for example, you can
see that this is a big part of your emotional wiring, and therefore your
DESTINY, to be this way.
Its common to relate to more than one of the five archetypes. Some of them
naturally go together, as youll see.
Many people also tell me that they relate to different archetypes at different
times in their life, depending on their stage of life or life circumstances.
So, dont feel like you have to know which of the five you are to the
exclusion of the others. You may relate to them all. You may feel youre a
mix of two or three. You perhaps were more one of the archetypes in the
past, and are now another because of your age or situation.
Not only that, but you experience different astrological phases that activate
different aspects of your life, enhancing or suppressing your ambition, your
introversion or extroversion, or your desire for a relationship. Sometimes
youre more successful professionally because of this than at other times.
Sometimes youre more into nesting and arent so ambitious as a result.
I find that just by hearing about the archetypes, most people know
INSTANTLY which ones are part of their personality, and which one or ones
are dominant. They dont need to understand the astrological aspect of it to

understand who they are. But a great gift of astrology is what I already said
it takes the blame and shame out of the situation, allowing you to be
more of a witness to yourself, giving you emotional distance on things,
helping you to do what you need to do to shift your life for the better.
So, without further ado, the archetypes...
The Lady In The Tower, a.k.a. The Best Kept Secret in Town
This woman REALLY likes her alone time. If this is you, you love
being by yourself, though you think you want a relationship. Youve usually
been very hurt in the past, which made you GO INTO the tower in the first
place (which we all need to do after a heartbreak and is healthy) but then
you STAYED THERE too long, and got too cozy. Sometimes many years
even over a decade pass.
What shes afraid of... If this is you, youre afraid if you venture out,
youll lose your tranquility, or get hurt again. Youre busy with your work
and the rest of your life (you may be divorced and raising kids by yourself)
and you dont want to sacrifice your cherished time. Youre afraid of losing
the hard-won fulfillment youve got. You LOVE your tower...
What she needs to do... The lady in the tower needs to decide if she
really wants a full relationship, and she needs to recognize shes getting big
PAYOFFS from being alone. If this is you, you get lots of sympathy, its just
easier, no ones telling you what to do, you can make your own goals your
focus, you dont have to compromise anything, etc...
You need to figure out what it would take to be WORTH giving up those
payoffs... If you decide that the payoffs of being with someone would be
better than those of being alone, then you need to COME OUT OF THE
TOWER. Do so first with friendships with other women, or joining groups
dedicated to things you love in which dating or relationships can happen
organically. You need to recognize that you dont have to LOSE the things
you love to have a relationship. But you DO need to make some effort.
The kind of man she needs... A healthy man that is worth coming out of
the tower for who will add to her life, and share in her tranquility not
cause her any drama, insecurity, or pain. (Which would only make her go
right back into the tower...)
The Career Woman
If this is you, youve been busy getting your degree, or building
your business, or climbing the company ladder. You work INTENSE
hours, and your priority is your career, though you SAY you want a

relationship. When you do date, you tend to think and talk about work a lot.
You collapse on Friday nights at home, thinking you dont have time to date
because of your job.
The problem? 70% of career women that never marry or have
children later regret it...
Studies of women the WORLD OVER say the thing that makes
them the happiest is MOTHERHOOD...
What shes afraid of... If this is you, perhaps you saw your mother
dependent on your father OR you were once dependent on a man and he let
you down. Or growing up, you were rewarded for your performance and
achievements, more than for WHO YOU WERE as a person. You grew up
wanting to be like dear old Dad... Or like any of the archetypes, you may
just be terrified of intimacy and keep yourself busy, busy, busy to avoid it.
What she needs to do... If this is you, get honest with yourself about
whether or not you want a relationship as well as a career. And then MAKE
THE SPACE and the time for it. Women who end up married but also have
BIG CAREERS make their personal lives a priority, and say a career woman
that claims she cant find love because of her career is lying to herself that
its a COP OUT. These women still managed to be women on a mission.
Give it the energy - make yourself CEO and PRESIDENT of your personal
life. And then find a man who celebrates your career and is proud of you.
You can have both, you just have to be committed to both.
The kind of man she needs... A man who celebrates and supports her
career, isnt threatened by it, and appreciates her accomplishments and
ambition. He may or may not have a big career himself.
A side note about the career woman. Women with careers and
college or even upper graduate educations are actually MORE
LIKELY to marry than women who are less educated, and less
successful. This is a first in history - not the case even just thirty years ago.
Men are no longer marrying down. Executives are no longer marrying
secretaries, theyre marrying other executives. The higher your income,
the higher your chance of marrying, the less your chance of
divorcing, and the higher women report being happy in
marriage. So have a career just dont let it be YOUR WHOLE LIFE if you
also want to marry.
The Masculine Woman
This is a woman whose inborn nature is more masculine than
feminine. If this is you, youll EMOTIONALLY have classic alpha

qualities youre independent, opinionated, ambitious, strong.

You dont NEED anything from anybody. Youll subconsciously be
more male even when WITH men giving them advice, telling them what
to do, making the decisions, calling the shots.
Men will feel unnecessary, emasculated, or unappreciated by you because
you dont SEEM like you need what theyve got! (Though of COURSE you
really do!)
What shes afraid of... The masculine woman isnt necessarily afraid if
this is you, youre just acting out of your nature, and need to understand
what else to do that would work BETTER WITH MEN. If you are afraid, its
your fear of being vulnerable and NEEDING others that keeps you so IN
CHARGE and strong. You may not realize that it takes incredible strength to
be vulnerable and that if youre selective and know what to watch out for,
and give relationships a healthy trial process, then its safe, and CRITICAL
to trust others.
What she needs to do... If you think this is you, you need to get more in
touch with your feelings, start relating more from your feelings. Work on
just BEING and SLOWING DOWN. Stop giving your opinions, and instead
ASK MEN for theirs. Say YES to all help offered by men.
Examine your need to HELP men, or BE IN CONTROL. Theres an excellent
ebook and newsletter at www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com in which
relationship coach Rori Raye has AMAZING advice about how women can
get more into their bodies, get into their hearts, relate to men more as
women, etc.
The kind of man she needs... May be more feminine in his personality
the yin to her yang, the beta to her alpha. That kind of man is her
compliment, and who she will most likely attract and connect with (though
she has to be careful not to emasculate him or disrespect him). I have an
entire chapter on how to happily navigate these role reversal relationships
in my eBook, Love Is in the Stars.
The Highly Sensitive Woman
This is an inherited trait, every bit as genetic as hair color or eye
color. In other words, its not her fault! There are some fantastic books on
the topic, and a wonderful website at www.highlysensitivepeople.com. This
inherited trait is apparently present in only 15 - 20% of the general
population, but I find its much higher in single women, and has a huge
impact on her BEING and STAYING single...

The main problem in terms of dating and relationships for you if

you suspect youre highly sensitive, is that you likely take it all too
hard, get too discouraged, suffer too much, take everything too
personally, and have such thin skin.
If this is you, youre so vulnerable and open emotionally that when you do
feel a connection to a man, its usually BIG and FAST. So, youll bond too
quickly and too deeply to men you dont really know or trust yet,
opening yourself up to getting hurt, only reinforcing your
sensitivity. Highly Sensitive Women are very passionate, and so if this is
you, you cant separate chemistry from what a man is showing you youll
get blinded by love...
What shes afraid of... Getting hurt, and losing herself!
What she needs to do... First you need to GO SLOW. You shouldnt get
physically intimate with a man for a WHILE. Youve likely gone through life
feeling different or like something is WRONG with you. Because its only
10% of the population, many people throughout your life have been
mystified by you family, friends, bosses, teachers, etc. have told you your
whole life that you need to GET OVER IT and STOP BEING SO SENSITIVE.
(Which is like telling someone with blue eyes to STOP having blue eyes!)
But guess what? You HAVE to honor this about yourself, and so you
REQUIRE relationships that honor this about you. You HAVE to have a
partner who understands. You MUST have a lifestyle that works with it,
with time in nature, nap time, alone time, an orderly environment its as
vital to you as breathing...
The kind of man she needs... He is sensitive to her sensitivity. Hes
nurturing and understanding, and doesnt try to get her to buck up or get
over it. He doesnt mind accommodating her feelings and physical needs
because he appreciates that they are valid and very real.
The Woman Who Believes Love Is Hard
This last archetype is the toughest and often the most painful. This is the
woman who thinks, or worse DEEPLY BELIEVES (albeit usually
unconsciously), that LOVE IS HARD. Because of this, if this is you,
youll go for the impossible situation over and over. Youll date
unavailable men, married men, addicts, men who wont commit,
men who live far away, men who are cruel, etc. You tolerate WAY
too much bad behavior or stay way too long in relationships in which its
clear (to everyone ELSE) that you cant (or WONT) get your needs met.
Deep down you dont believe you can have more, or that more exists... And
when you DO find men that adore you or are really available, you find that it
makes you uncomfortable and you dont like it.

If youre this woman you typically had a tough childhood you didnt get
enough attention, affection, and love from your parents or see enough
BETWEEN your parents, or both. The work of Harville Hendrix, author
of Getting The Love You Want and Keeping The Love You Find and founder
of Imago therapy has excellent resources for this that you can find
atwww.gettingtheloveyouwant.com.
What shes afraid of... Deep down, if this is you, youre afraid youre
unlovable. And youre afraid of getting hurt. Ultimately, youre in a battle
with your own ego so youre also afraid of losing. Youre desperately trying
to PROVE to yourself that youre lovable, that you can GET HIM to love you
the guy is almost incidental.
What she needs to do... This archetype needs the most help. Because
this is so DEEP-SEATED, and UNCONSCIOUS, if this is you, you need
ongoing therapy, REPROGRAMMING, and/or hypnosis. Theres an
excellent kind of therapy called EMDR which Ive seen be truly miraculous.
(Which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and
works like magic to help release traumatic memories, change behavior
patterns, and overcome addictive and compulsive behaviors.) Theres a
book on it called EMDR The Breakthrough Therapy for Overcoming
Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma by Francine Shapiro.
Im also a huge fan of subliminal CDs and highly recommend one for
changing your subconscious beliefs called Attract Love by Kelly Howell
at www.brainsync.com.
If you find youre WORKING WAY TOO HARD in a relationship,
STOP and GET SUPPORT.

How to Read the Single Syndrome

Astrological Archetypes in a Chart
But first, some reminders...
As I covered in the workbook, knowing your archetype can help you to
recognize how you, in fact, participate in staying single. Your archetype has
everything to do with how you interact with and respond to others, see
relationships, and experience dating and mating in general.
Having this ability to see this about yourself is extremely helpful in
understanding what you need to do about it to change your life, and helps to
take the blame and shame out of the situation. Instead of blaming yourself
for being sensitive, or a homebody, or a career woman, for example, you can
see that this is a big part of your emotional wiring, and therefore your
DESTINY, to be this way.
Best of all, with awareness you can choose to make different choices and not
be a victim to it all you can shape your destiny to go in the direction you
desire, and not merely be at the mercy of your fate...
Dont worry - your archetype doesnt DOOM you to stay single...
Everyone will have some indicators that make them fit into one or more of
the archetypes even married women! So, when looking up influences in
your own chart, dont panic if you find that many apply to you. Thats very
common. But it doesnt mean that youre all of the archetypes it simply
means you may have some of the qualities of all of them, but they wont be
dominant personality traits in the way of you partnering theyll be more
minor.
Because of this, I often find that women relate to more than one of the five
archetypes. Some of them naturally go together as youll see.

Again, if you have numerous indicators for more than one of the archetypes
it isnt cause for alarm... Even if you have some of the traits of all of them,
you can easily end up happily married.
I, myself, have indicators for ALL of them, and I was married to my dream
man at thirty. But the one that I have the most indicators for is, in fact, the
one that fits me the best, and the one that I have the second most indicators
for fits me the second best. Thats how it should work for you. (Can you
guess? Thats right Im the Career Woman and boy, am I! And my
secondary archetype is that of the Highly Sensitive Woman and while I
relate to some of the qualities, its not truly my archetype as I dont have the
majority of them...)
So, if youre confused as to which archetype fits you best, its generally the
one that you have the MOST astrological indicators for. You may have one
or two of the indicators of all of them, and some of the tendencies in your
personality as a result but its the archetype you have multiple astrological
indicators for thats typically the most present in your personality, and
having the biggest impact on your romantic life (or lack thereof...).
Remember, with awareness you can break out of your archetype. The
whole purpose of looking this up and going through this process is to allow
you to know what to do to shift out of your unconscious patterns and
consciously create what you want. I believe and KNOW that you can.
Timing is a factor...
Many women also tell me they relate to different archetypes at different
times in their life, depending on their stage of life or life circumstances.
So dont feel like you have to know which of the five you are to the exclusion
of the others. You may relate to them all. You may feel youre a mix of two
or three. You perhaps were more one of the archetypes in the past, and are
now another because of your age or situation.
Not only that, but you experience different astrological phases that activate
different aspects of your life, enhancing or suppressing your ambition, your
introversion or extroversion, or your desire for a relationship.

Sometimes youre more successful professionally because of this than at

other times. Sometimes youre more into nesting and arent so ambitious as
a result. Thats beyond the scope of this program in terms of the astrological
things Im going to teach you, but is something to keep in mind.
Most women know their archetype just from hearing about it...
I find that just by hearing about the archetypes, most people know
INSTANTLY which ones are part of their personality, and which one or ones
are dominant. They dont need to understand the astrological aspect of it to
understand who they are.
But a great gift of astrology is what I already said it takes the blame and
shame out of the situation, allowing you to be more of a witness to yourself,
giving you emotional distance on things, helping you to do what you need to
do to shift your life for the better.
So below I teach you how to read your own chart, or the charts of others, to
see indicators of each of the archetypes. Because some of them are similar,
the astrological indicators for one archetype are sometimes the same or
similar to another. To fit into each of the archetypes, you dont need to have
all of the indicators listed even just one of them can cause the personality
traits of that particular archetype.
How to calculate your very own astrology charts...
To calculate and print your chart or the charts of the people in your life (you
can do this for as many charts as you like), go to
www.loveisinthestars.com/chartcreator and enter the necessary birth data including the birth date, birth time to the minute (preferably off a document
and not from someones memory), and birth location.
Its critical that you have all of the birth data and that it be accurate. The
techniques Im going to teach involve looking to the different sections of the
chart called houses and these change with the birth time as often as
every ninety minutes to two hours. So, a difference of a few minutes can
mean the difference between one chart and another, because maybe in that
few minutes the chart changed and all the houses changed with it.

What to do if you dont know your birth time...

If you were born in a Western country (the U.S., Canada, Europe, etc.), you
can usually find your birth time on record at a government office in the
region of your birth. Do not order a copy of your birth documents or youll
probably be sent an abbreviated version without the birth time. The Office
of Vital Statistics, the County Clerk, the County Recorder, the Health
Department one of these should have it, and a call to one should let you
know which to contact. Only you can get your own birth records. No one
else can do this for you (and no one else can do this for the man or men in
your life!) as its private, personal information.
You may need to send a written request with proof of your identity (like a
copy of your drivers license), theres usually a small fee, and the process can
take a few weeks. Its worth getting the official time because as I explained,
the information on the astrological archetypes is extremely time-sensitive
and a difference of a few minutes can make for dramatically different
astrological findings.
For this reason its not reliable to go by the memory of a family member.
Unless the birth time is recorded in a baby book, birth announcement,
newspaper article, telegram, or diary I wouldnt trust even your mother.
She wasnt looking at the clock when you were born she was counting
your fingers and toes, and passing out from exhaustion (and joy!).
If you werent born in a Western country, there may be no official written
record of your birth time anywhere. So, youll have to interview your
relatives and hope that someone wrote it down somewhere. (Ive heard
amazing stories one woman born in Taiwan told me her birth time was
carved onto her dried umbilical cord, which was the local tradition hows
that for a birth record?!)

How to ask a man for his birth information...

If you dont know a mans birth information and want to check his stars,
youll have to ask him. Its easy to ask a man for his birthday or where hes
from (thats just being conversational) but its awkward to ask him for his

birth time hell get suspicious that you want to run his astrology chart,
because you do! So, theres a simple trick you can try...
You can say, I heard that if youre born in the morning it makes you a
morning person, but if youre born at night it makes you a night person.
Have you noticed thats true? (This is just a trick to get him to tell you what
time he was born theres nothing to it, so dont use this to guess his birth
time...)
If a man knows what time he was born (and surprisingly many do!) hell
offer it up. Hell say something like, Hmmm... thats funny, I was born just
after 6 a.m. but I hate mornings! Or, I dont know I was born at
midnight.
If he says, I have no idea what time I was born... then see if you can find
out from his mother by having her look for a copy of his birth certificate
or written down in his baby book. (Again, mothers memories about this are
unreliable...)

Reading the chart...

Once youve entered the birth date, time, and location into the chart
creator page the next page to appear will have two charts side-by-side
these are the same chart. One is presented in the style used in North India
and the other in the style of South India. I use the North Indian style (on the
chart creator page its on the right), so will teach you using that. It looks
like this:

The chart is divided into twelve houses (see the little numbers in each of the
sections of the chart those are the houses numbered from 1 through 12,
and in this North Indian format theyre always in the same places with
house #1 at the center of the top, going around the chart in a counterclockwise direction).
In the chart the signs are abbreviated to just two letters of each sign Ar
is for Aries, Ta is for Taurus, Ge for is Gemini, etc. The planets are also
abbreviated to two letters, and placed in whatever house and sign they fall
into Su is the Sun, Mo is the Moon, Me is Mercury, etc. (some of
them may have an R beside them, which can stands for retrograde and
changes from chart to chart, and can be ignored for our purposes...):

Ar
Ta
Ge
Cn
Pi
Le
Aq
Sg
Cp
Li
Vi
Sc

Ju
Me
Ve
Sa
Su
Mo
Ma
Ra
Ke

Signs:
Aries
Taurus
Gemini
Cancer
Pisces
Leo
Aquarius
Sagittarius
Capricorn
Libra
Virgo
Scorpio

Planets:
Jupiter
Mercury
Venus
Saturn
Sun
Moon
Mars
Rahu
Ketu

Beneath the chart graphics on the chart creator page youll see a graph
marked Planetary Details full of information. This graph explains what
the chart is saying giving the Ascendant (also known as rising sign or
first house and indicated by the #1 at the top of the chart in the middle) and
all planetary positions, their degree (mathematical position in the sign not
necessary for this program), sign (known as rasi in Vedic astrology), and
sub-sign (also known as nakshatra - were not using nakshatras in this
program).
So, to discover what sign a planet is in look to the Planetary Details box
and look for that planet in the column on the left. In the first column to the
right of that youll see what degree that planet is located in (you dont need
that information for this program). Then, in the third column to the right,
youll see what sign its in. Thats all you need to know.
To discover what house a planet is in, look to the chart itself and find the
section of the chart the abbreviation for that planet is in. Then see what
number is there 1 through 12, going in a counter-clockwise direction.
Thats the house number.

House Numbers

Planets

Signs

Planetary rulerships...
One slightly more advanced thing youll need to know is what are called
Planetary Rulerships. Every sign has a planet thats given rulership or
lordship over that sign meaning it has influence over that sign, and it
lends its qualities to that sign.
The rulers of the signs are:
Aries Mars
Taurus Venus
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Moon
Leo Sun
Virgo Mercury
Libra Venus
Scorpio Mars
Sagittarius Jupiter
Capricorn Saturn
Aquarius Saturn
Pisces Jupiter
A significant thing to understand when reading charts is how different parts
of the chart (those houses again) connect to one another. This is done
through looking at the rulerships of the signs.
Lets do an example so you can follow along with the instructions below...
(This is as astrologically complicated as well get its easy with practice, so
dont get nervous...)
If I say, Check to see if the ruler of the 7th house is in the 8th house, OR the
ruler of the 8th house is in the 7th. Go to the chart. Find the 7th house by
looking for the section of the chart with #7 in it. See what sign is there. If its
Aquarius (Aq), notice that the ruler of Aquarius is Saturn (Sa). Thus, the
ruler of the 7th house is Saturn. Then, look for Saturn in the chart. If its not
in the 8th house (the section of the chart with #8 in it), then that chart does
not have this indicator. If it is in the 8th house, then it does.

Next, look at the 8th house of the same chart (the section of the chart with
#8). Since Aquarius was the sign in the 7th house (Aq), we see that Pisces
is the sign in the 8th house (Pi). From the list above, find that Pisces is
ruled by Jupiter. Look for Jupiter in the chart (Ju). If its not in the 7th
house (the section of the chart with #7 in it) the chart does not have this
particular indicator. If Jupiter IS in the 7th house, then this chart has a
connection between the 8th and 7th houses, so reflects the given description
of what that means.
Lets do another example:
If I say, Look to see if the ruler of the 1st house is in the 10th house, OR the
ruler of the 10th house is in the 1st, heres what you do.
Lets say the chart has Cancer rising (Cn in the house with #1 in it). We
see from the list of rulerships above that Cancer is ruled by the Moon
(Mo). We then look to see where the Moon is in the chart (finding the
number in the section of the chart that has Mo in it). If its not in Aries
(Ar), then its not in the 10th house (the section of the chart with #10 in
it), as thats the sign of the 10th house in a chart with Cancer as the rising
sign. If it is in Aries (Ar), then it is in the 10th house (the section of the
chart with #10 in it) and the description of what that means applies.
Then we look to see if theres a connection from the 10th house to the 1st. So
you look to the 10th house (the section of the chart with #10) Aries (Ar)
and you see that its ruled by Mars in the list above (Ma). Then you
check to see if Mars is in the 1st house of the chart (Ma in the box with #1
at the top and center of the chart). If its not, then this description does not
apply. If it is, then it does.
By the way, any time I say to check if two houses connect in these ways
from the 1st to the 10th OR the 10th to the 1st , or the 7th to the 8th OR the
8th to the 7th, for example you only need to have ONE of these apply for
the indicator to be valid. You dont need BOTH the ruler of the 1st house to
be found in the 10th house AND the ruler of the 10th to be in the 1st
though if that does occur it will make whatever is described seem even
stronger about the person.
Whew... still with me?

Good! Because heres the fun part...

Please read the explanations below carefully and then go to the
last pages of your workbook for a step-by-step guide to reading
your chart and determining your primary Astrological
Archetype.
1. The Lady In The Tower
The astrological indicators of introversion or enjoying time alone are as
follows:
Most or all of the planets being between the 1st and 4th house (other than
Rahu and Ketu). There are seven planets (the Sun and Moon are referred to
as planets in astrology even though theyre actually a star and a satellite).
When a person has most of their planetary positions between the 1st and
4th houses, it makes a person very independent and happy to be by
themselves. Though they may prefer a relationship they dont feel a big
need for one so often dont make much effort to have one. (See graphic 1.)

Most of the planets being between the 1st and 7th houses (other than Rahu
and Ketu) makes for introversion, though theyre not as independent as the
last example. (See graphic 2.)

Planets such as the Sun and/or Moon in the 12th house or 12th sign (Pisces)
makes the person need a lot of alone time. (See graphic 3.)

Also, if the ruler of the 1st house of the chart is in the 12th house, and/ or
if the ruler of the 12th house of the chart is in the 1st house, the person will
tend to isolate. (See rulership table above.) (See graphic 4.)

Saturn in the 1st house makes a person a late-bloomer in love (more likely
to marry in the thirties or beyond), and indicates that theyll tend to spend a
lot of time alone. (See graphic 5.)

Saturn in the same sign as the Sun or Moon also makes a person spend a lot
of time alone. (Check Planetary Details box on the page of the chart in
question to determine this.)

2. The Career Woman

The most ambitious signs are Aries, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aquarius.
People with the Sun, Moon or rising sign in these signs tend to be more
career-oriented especially if their Sun, Moon, and rising sign are ALL in
these signs.
The movable (a.k.a. cardinal) signs are driven to activity as well. Most of the
planets in the chart other than Rahu and Ketu falling into these signs
contribute to a person being a career person (if there are four planets or
more in these signs). These signs are Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn.
A person with the Sun or Mars in the 1st, 4th, 7th, or 10th houses will be
ambitious and have a lot of authority. This is especially true if one or both of
these is in the 10th house as its the house of career. (See graphic 6.)

If theres a connection between the 1st house and 10th house (the ruler of
the 1st house falls in the 10th house and/or the ruler of the 10th house
falls in the first house). (See sign rulership list above.) (See graphic 7.)

Most or all of the planets other than Rahu or Ketu between the 7th and 10th
house inclines a person to be constantly productive, efficient, and effective.
They can have a hard time relaxing and enjoying themselves, so socializing
or connecting in relationships can feel like an indulgent waste of time. Even
on days off they pack their schedule with a long to-do list. This
combination is very good for career success not as good for relationships.
(See graphic 8.)

The Masculine Woman

For this one you need to know which signs are masculine and which are
feminine. The masculine signs of the zodiac are the odd numbered signs
Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
The feminine signs of the zodiac are the even numbered signs Taurus,
Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Masculine
Signs:
Aries
Gemini
Leo
Libra
Sagittarius
Aquarius

Feminine
Signs:
Taurus
Cancer
Virgo
Scorpio
Capricorn
Pisces

All of the signs of the zodiac are classified as either masculine or feminine.
Count how many of the planets other than Rahu and Ketu fall into
masculine signs if more are masculine then the person will typically have
more masculine qualities and behaviors than feminine.
Check the Sun, Moon, and rising sign. If more of these are masculine than
feminine the person will be more masculine in their behavior.
In personal relationships, the thing to emphasize is the Moon sign. A
woman with a masculine Moon sign will often be more masculine in her
emotions, and relate to men in this way shell be positive, proactive, and a
woman of action more than a woman of feeling. Shell tend to have a fast
process and like to pursue men or make things happen in every area of her
life.
Conversely, a man with a feminine Moon sign will be more feminine with
his emotions hell be more negative, passive, and a man of feeling more
than a man of action. Hell tend to have a slower process, and can need a
nudge to get him to pursue a woman, or make things happen with her.

Mars and the Sun are the most aggressive, masculine influences. If either
one of these or both are in prominent houses (together or individually) a
woman can seem very masculine. The prominent houses are the 1st, 4th,
7th, and 10th houses. (See graphic 9.)

If the Sun or Moon is in the same sign as Mars, the emotional nature will be
Martial, or masculine.

4. The Highly Sensitive Woman

The same things that make a woman introverted will often make her
sensitive as well so the astrological indicators of this one are often the same
as for the Lady In The Tower, so check those again by looking to the Lady
In The Tower section above to determine high sensitivity.
(Interestingly, I find that the Highly Sensitive Woman often turns into
the Lady In The Tower by getting so hurt or disappointed in dating and
relationships that she then goes into her tower and doesnt come back out.)
But there are some other things that are astrologically unique to this
archetype as well.
Heightened sensitivity astrologically can be seen a few ways...

The water signs lead a person to be more feeling-centered, empathetic, and

spongy in their emotions. They are: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces.
Having a majority of planets other than Rahu and Ketu in Cancer, Scorpio,
and/or Pisces can make a woman highly sensitive.
The Sun, Moon and/or rising sign (also known as the Ascendant or first
house) in the water signs can also lead to a lot of sensitivity.
There are two eclipse points looked to in astrology. They are known as the
nodes of the Moon the North Node (called Rahu in Vedic astrology),
and the South Node (called Ketu). When Rahu and Ketu are prominent in
a chart, heightened sensitivity is often seen. (In fact, people with extra
sensory perception or E.S.P. in other words PSYHICS - often have Rahu
and Ketu taking center stage in their charts.) (See graphic 10.)

Rahu or Ketu in the same sign as the Sun or Moon. (See Planetary Details
on the page of the chart in question.)
Rahu or Ketu in the same sign as the ruling planet of the rising sign. (See
rulership table above and then check the Planetary Details on the page
of the chart in question.)

5. The Woman Who Believes Love Is Hard

Typically, people who work too hard for love or go for unavailable partners
or impossible relationships over and over had a lack of healthy parenting as
children, or had parents who didnt model a happy relationship for them, or
had some big disappointment in love at an early age that has made them
cast themselves as tragic heroines in their own love stories.
So the thing to check is the Sun and the Moon because in astrology the Sun
indicates the father and the Moon indicates the mother.
Check to see if the Sun and/or Moon are with Saturn, Rahu, or Ketu (See
Planetary Details on the page of the chart in question.)
If Saturn (the planet of loneliness and hardship) is in the 1st, 4th, 7th, 10th,
or 12th houses. (See graphic 11.)

If the Sun and/or Moon are in the 6th, 8th, or 12th houses. (See graphic 12.)

If the Moon is in the sign just before the Sun this is the most waning
phase of the Moon and indicates a lack of mothering. Or if the Moon is in
the same sign as the Sun (see Planetary Details on the page of the chart in
question).
The Moon in its weakest sign, its sign of debilitation Scorpio (see
Planetary Details.)
The Sun in its weakest sign, its sign of debilitation Libra. (See Planetary
Details.)
The strength of Venus, the planet of love and sex, has an impact on how
strong or weak the love life is. Venus is weakened in the chart by being in
the 6th or 8th house. (See graphic 13.)

If Venus is with Saturn, Mars, Rahu, and/or Ketu. (See Planetary

Details.)
If Venus is in its weakest sign, its sign of debilitation Virgo. (See
Planetary Details.) (Note: Venus with Mars, or Rahu or in the sign of
Virgo can make a person sexually addictive or impulsive, so they can have a
hard time resisting temptation and being deliberate and smart with their
heart.)
The ruler of the 7th house in the 8th house, and/or ruler of the 8th house in
the 7th. This forms a connection between the house of disappointment or
drama with the house of partnership. (See graphic 14.)

The ruler of the 7th house in the 6th, and/or the ruler of the 6th house in
the 7th. This forms a connection between the house of arguing, adversity,
and conflict with the house of partnership. This can also indicate partnering
with people with health challenges or financial problems. (See graphic 15.)

The ruler of the 12th house in the 7th house and/or the ruler of the 7th
house in the 12th. This forms a connection between the house of loss and
distance with the house of partnership. (See graphic 16.)

Timing is everything...
A last note about the archetypes... Sometimes theres nothing wrong with
you or what youre doing. Even if you relate to any of these archetypes and
have all of the astrological indicators for one, that may not be totally to
blame for your single status. Even if youre the lady in the tower or the
career woman or the masculine woman there could be another, equally
important reason youre still single.

Sometimes, its simply hasnt been your time yet for a full relationship to
come into your life and stick.
It hasnt been your fate to mate - yet.
(Even still, its valuable to know your archetype so that you can be at your
best when the time is right...)
I write in my eBook, Love Is in the Stars that at least half of the population
of the world are what I call, late bloomers in love much better off, and
much likelier to marry after the age of thirty-five (and suffering from
unfulfilling love lives up until that age). Their luck changes just when
theyre starting to freak out and be just sure theyre never going to be
anything but single! So this could be you.
Not only that, its critical that you be in good astrological timing for love and
that you not be in a love blocking cycle. These cycles can be so painful and
so challenging that no matter how much effort you make or how hard you
try, you wont find the one anyway...
These cycles are so powerful and so baffling that Ive created a report letting
you know just when youre being affected by them so you dont think youre
crazy or cursed. Its such a relief to understand whats going on when the
cycle began, when it will end, and what you can do to make the most of
things. Its a thirty-year report called, Cycles of Saturn Charting the Ups
and Downs of Your Life and How to Make the Most of Them.
I tell you this because this may be very important for you. Heres why
theres a woman in the seminar who stood up and said shed met 92 men in
the last twenty months and nothing had gone well with any of them! She
spoke to me after we finished filming and admitted that shed ordered her
Cycles of Saturn report and discovered she was in the middle of one of the
most isolating, lonely, youre not going to meet anyone worth your time
cycles of Saturn possible, and had been for the last year and a half exactly
the period in which shed met all those Mr. Wrongs... and that had
everything to do with why her efforts had been so frustrating.
As I said, sometimes its good to be focusing on yourself and your own goals
and not waste time on your love life. Knowing about these cycles can help
you to plan your time effectively, understand your own personal journey

better, and stay positive about the future. Thats the beauty of turning to the
wisdom of astrology in the first place.
(To learn more about the Cycles of Saturn report, or to order yours go to
www.loveisinthestars.com/cyclesofsaturn.)

And Now Find out your Archetype by

comparing the resulting ratios of each.
Questions:
The Lady In The Tower:
1.

Four or more planets (other than Rahu and Ketu) in houses #1 (a.k.a.
Ascendant), #2, #3 and/or #4:
YES

2.

Four or more planets (other than Rahu and Ketu) in houses #1, #2, #3, #4,
#5, #6 and/or #7:
YES

3.

NO

Saturn in #1 house:
YES

6.

NO

Houses #1 & #12 connected (see rulership table):

YES

5.

NO

The Sun and/or Moon in #12 house or in Pisces:

YES

4.

NO

NO

Saturn in the same house as the Sun and/or Moon:

YES

NO

Divide the number of times you checked YES by 6 (as there are
six astrological indicators in this archetype). Thats your ratio for
this archetype:

______/ 6 = ______
Number of times you
answered YES

Your Ratio on this

Archetype

The Career Woman:

1.

The Sun, Moon or house #1 (a.k.a. Ascendant) in one or more of these signs
- Aries, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius:
YES

2.

Four or more planets (other than Rahu and Ketu) in these signs -Aries,
Cancer, Libra and Capricorn:
YES

3.

NO

Houses #1 and #10 connected (see rulership table):

YES

5.

NO

The Sun and/or Mars in houses #1, #4, #7 and/or #10:

YES

4.

NO

NO

Four or more planets (other than Rahu and Ketu) in houses #7, #8, #9,
and/or #10:
YES

NO

Divide the number of times you checked YES by 5 (as there are
five astrological indicators in this archetype). Thats your ratio
for this archetype:

______/ 5 = ______

Number of times you

answered YES

Your Ratio on this

Archetype

The Masculine Woman:

** Masculine Signs: Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius
** Feminine Signs: Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces
1.

Four or more planets (other than Rahu and Ketu) in masculine signs:
YES

2.

Sun, Moon and house #1 (a.k.a. Ascendant) in masculine signs (if at least
two of them are, check YES):
YES

3.

NO

Mars and/or Sun in houses #1, #4, #7, and/or #10:

YES

5.

NO

Moon in a masculine sign:

YES

4.

NO

NO

Sun and/or Moon in the same house as Mars:

YES

NO

Divide the number of times you checked YES by 5 (as there are
five astrological indicators in this archetype). Thats your ratio
for this archetype:

______/ 5 = ______

Number of times you

answered YES

Your Ratio on this

Archetype

The Highly Sensitive Woman: (She can have the same

indicators as The Lady In The Tower, so check all of those again
for her before doing these others below...)
** Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces
1.

Four or more planets (other than Rahu and Ketu) in water signs:
YES

2.

Sun, Moon and/or house #1 (a.k.a. Ascendant) in water signs (if ANY of
them are, check YES):
YES

3.

NO

Rahu or Ketu in the same houses as Sun and/or Moon:

YES

5.

NO

Rahu or Ketu in houses #1, #4, #7, and/or #10:

YES

4.

NO

NO

Rahu or Ketu in the same sign as the ruling planet of house #1(see rulership
table):
YES

NO

Divide the number of times you checked YES by 11 (as there are
eleven astrological indicators in this archetype the six Lady In
The Tower indicators as well as the five listed above). Thats
your ratio for this archetype:

______/ 11 = ______
Number of times you
answered YES

Your Ratio on this

Archetype

The Woman Who Believes Love Is Hard:

** Water signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces
1.

Sun and/or Moon are with Saturn, Rahu or Ketu:

YES

2.

Saturn in houses #1 (a.k.a. Ascendant), #4, #7, #10, or #12:

YES

3.

NO

Venus with Saturn, Mars, Rahu, and/or Ketu:

YES

9.

NO

Venus in houses #6 or #8:

YES

8.

NO

Sun in Libra: :
YES

7.

NO

Moon in Scorpio:
YES

6.

NO

Moon in the sign just before the Sun (going counterclockwise) or the Moon
in the same sign as the Sun:
YES

5.

NO

Sun and/or Moon in houses #6, #8, or #12:

YES

4.

NO

NO

Venus in Virgo:
YES

NO

10. Houses #7 and #8 are connected (see rulership table):

YES

NO

11. Houses #7 and #6 are connected (see rulership table):

YES

NO

12. Houses #12 and #7 are connected (see rulership table):

YES

NO

Divide the number of times you checked YES by 12 (as there are
twelve astrological indicators in this archetype). Thats your ratio
for this archetype:

______/ 12 = ______
Number of times you
answered YES

Your Ratio on this

Archetype

RESULTS: Now all you have to do is compare all the ratios. The
biggest ratio will indicate the Archetype that fits you the best.
Remember, you might find that you have traits of all of them, but
this is the one that most influences you.

*********
Its my sincere hope that you have a greater idea of your core strengths and
weaknesses and how to make the most of them! For more information on
the Archetypes, and how to heal and support yourself to get everything you
want in life and love despite yours, be sure to check out my program about it
all called Single Syndrome The Five Astrological Archetypes Keeping You
Single and How to Overcome Them here:
www.soulmatestars.com/singlesyndrome.
Your glorious romantic destiny awaits!
Much love,
Carol Allen
www.loveisinthestars.com