Are you in a toxic relationship?

By: Cathy S. Babao

One major point in this article is that one shouldnt really fall in love, but rather, fly in love.
I agree in this phrase because one shouldnt fall for it since it does have many consequence but to
fly for love to attain whats best for both of the parties. Flying in love is the ability to seek whats
best for the both of you and your surroundings; from how they can affect you and how you may
learn from it because you can see them through birds eye view which is a wide vision towards
the ground. Falling doesnt require effort which contradicts the essence of love which is making
effort or giving time to the one you truly love. Thats why flying through love is better because
you can endure everything rather than falling through the gravity without experiencing any.
Another point while reading this article is that the five kinds of toxic relationships; one of them
is free ride this type just like to chill with someone you like that expecting he or she will carry
you whenever you like and dont repay them. Love is a two-way street both parties should
benefit from it through their efforts because love should always be give and take not leashing
someone to the ground or hostaging them making them being worst. Love shouldnt complete
you because once youre being completed you wont seek further because it should be a
continous process also relationships should be a continous communication because the lack of it
will result into unhealty and terribly toxic for all parties involved. Begging time and attention
means that your relationship is toxic because we should always have time for our partners even if
were too busy as long as were giving them time for just a couple of minutes they value it and
its important to them just to feel your prescence. Finally, dont expect for a perfect relationship
because whats life if its perfect already? Like in relationship we also need to expect something
new to feel better that what makes a happy relationship because a real relationship takes a lot of
work.
In our country many have suffered from toxic relationship because they want to fall from it
rather than to fly with their partner they want a perfect and complete one rather than a
challenging that both of them should endure because that what makes a relationship, full of trials
and lessons. To maintain a stable relationship and not a toxic one both should talk through the
pain, and to remain to all the possibilities that life together can bring.

The wisdom of our emotions

By: Joel Villaseca

The main point of this article is the tought that We have been taught allowing emotions to
influence our thinking and decision-making is not a good idea. I disagree on this because
emotions are a huge factor in decision making since what we feel is just the same as what we
said. Saying happy while youre sad doesnt make sense at all because its what in our hearts
what the others will understand. Thats why every emotion had their wisdom because the reason
why we feel this way is because of the lesson that we learn from that particular situation .
Emotions also influence our attitudes and judgments, which in turn, influence the decisions we
make. Emotion is an independent, primary, and dominant influence of peoples responses to
social situations. However, it can have indirect effects on our behavior through implicitly
shaping our attitudes and judgments. In addition, emotion may have different effects depending
on the negative or positive valence of the emotion , or specific negative or positive emotions,
such as anger or fear, or happiness and pleasure .
Your emotions will drive the decisions you make today, and your success may depend upon your
ability to understand and interpret them. When an emotion is triggered in your brain, your
nervous systems responds by creating feelings in your and certain thoughts in your mind. A great
deal of your decisions are informed by your emotional responses because that is what emotions
are designed to do: to appraise and summarize an experience and inform your actions.
Your emotional system can give you an advantage in decision making if you make proper use of
it. Many people think of their emotions as something they have to manage or control rather than
something upon which they could capitalize. They are something to interpret and use rather than
an annoyance that you should ignore or control. Just like the thumb on your hand, emotions have
evolved to help you, even though at times they may seem to get in the way.

Why Filipinos have to learn mindful parenting

By: Alanah Torralba

One thing I can point out with this article is that As a culture we are not good at giving
consequences to wrongdoing I agree on this one because even I experienced it like my mom
will always cover up if I ever did wrong so that my father wont get angry at me. I understand that
thats not a good practice but also it depends on the situation.
Second point is the nation building. Family is considered the smallest unit of the society
therefore its a huge part of nation-building with that the nation depends on how members of the
family grow through the parenting thats been given to their childs.
Values are not taught but absorbed. I disagree on this because in my point of view values can be
learned if the person really wants to like you can be good even your parents are bad to you just
because you need to have a better future for you to surpass them. Although nobody thinks in that
way when theyre still young they will relate this happening in their midlife and change the way
they live.
Putting your childs needs before yours is not always a good idea. In the article the example
given was putting parents frustrations to the child in a way that they could hurt them from what
theyve experienced that day. I agree on this because in the sense of frustration we should not
face our child first because you can easily burnout from what theyre going to say especially if
the parents have high-blood and such stuff.
The most important part of this article is about the communication because it is what will mainly
build up your child throughout their life. Communication between the parent and their sons or
daughter will help both parties from what they need, what they want from of each and what they
want to change for them to become more respectful to each other. The opinions of the child is so
important so the parent can understand what life really is and the way parents understand their
children is what mindful and responsible parenting really is.

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