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Introduction
Asalamalaikum!
Were honoured to have you as part of our community! Teaching children to be righteous
and getting the balance right between deen and dunya is one of the most challenging
aspects of raising children.
Thats why weve created 7 Steps To Raising Righteous Kids. We believe wholeheartedly
that raising children begins with nurturing their soul.
This 7 Step guide is designed to give you the tools to confidently raise children who have
the spiritual and emotional intelligence to deal with everything life throws at them.
Giving children the right tarbiya is the right of children over their parents as stated in the
hadith:
It was narrated from Abd-Allaah RA, that the Messenger of Allah SAW said: Each of you is
a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The ruler who is in charge of people is a shepherd
and is responsible for them. The man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for
them. The woman is the shepherd of her husbands house and child and is responsible for
them. The slave is the shepherd of his masters wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is
a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.
[Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2416; Muslim, 1829]
The Quran is abundant with examples of the parent and child relationship and how the
Prophets of old raised their families to believe in Allah SWT and become the best people to
walk the face of this Earth.
In this short guide, we hope to inspire you to raise your kids with love, compassion,
firmness, discipline and above all to raise them knowing youve given them the best start in
life.
No matter what your background (parent, guardian, educator), youll be able to take the
principles in this guide and apply them to the children in your care.
Weve designed this guide to be practical and easy to. Well also be sending you more tips
to help you via email so make sure you look out for those InshaAllah.
To your success!
Muslim Kids TV
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Step 1:
It starts with you
The first step in raising righteous
children doesn t actually start with
your kids at all In fact, it starts
with YOU!
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Translation:
My Lord ! grant me (offspring) from the righteous'
2)
Translation:
O our Lord! grant us in our wives and our offspring the joy of our eyes and
make us guides to those who guard (against evil)
(Surah AL-Furqan ,V74)
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Translation:
O my Lord ! Make me one who establishes regular prayer and
(also) from my offspring , our Lord, accept my invocation
(Surah Ibrahim ,v40)
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Step 2:
Positive Discipline
Positive discipline means focusing
on TE ACHI NG kids through
learning opportunities when they
do something wrong.
We must actively look for ways to teach our children with love and understanding
so were encouraging MORE of the good behaviour.
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Never punish by spanking this only teaches kids that violence is a means to
an end. Rather, remove privileges such as removing play time or their favourite
activity and explain to them WHY they cant do it. This way, kids associate
that good behaviour means they can have fun, and bad behaviour means they
cant!
Specifically point out which behaviour you want your child to stop and tell
them WHY they need to stop so they understand the deeper reasons behind
your request
N
NO
EXCUSES!
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Step 3:
Cultivating Tarbiya
Tarbiyah refers to the general
upbringing and education of a child
and the manners and behaviour
they do which are pleasing to Allah
SWT.
The idea here is to raise children who have an awareness of Allah SWT in all of
their actions. In essence, your aim is to help your children build taqwa. Contrary to
Taqwa, when
coupled with
imaan makes for
a well-rounded
believer.
Taqwa, when coupled with imaan makes for a wellrounded believer. You simply cannot have taqwa
without imaan (faith in Allah). So how can you
cultivate this in your children?
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Of course, there are many, many things you can do to help a child gain the correct tarbiya
but dont be discouraged if it takes longer than you expected to see results. All learning
processes require a LOT of practice so keep at it and keep making dua for your kids!
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Step 4:
Enrichment
Enrichment is the idea of supporting
the development of a childs
brain with appropriate learning
experiences such as play and
educational activities.
This is an area thats actively pushed by child psychologists as being essential to the growth
and development of a child.
From an Islamic perspective, enrichment can be done in SO many ways. We have a beautifully
rich history full of examples from the Prophet SAW and the other Prophets of how they taught
their children.
A key area of enrichment is using the appropriate tools and materials to support daily learning.
UC Berkeley brain researcher Marian Diamond and author of "Magic Trees of the Mind: How
to Nurture Your Child's Intelligence, Creativity, and Healthy Emotions from Birth through
Adolescence" says that enrichment is essential in developing children's intelligence and
creativity.
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Childrens brains before they hit their teenage years are considered to be
whats known as plastic which means they are easily mouldable and very
easily influenced.
A child who has had a good variety of enrichment experiences
will blossom in their intelligence and a child given the right Islamic
enrichment will by Allahs will, lead to a more righteous child.
So how do we ensure that kids achieve the right kind of enrichment?
Heres our
top tips:
Use stories of the Prophets to support the development of morality
Use the environment around you to nurture a mind which is both curious and in awe of
Allah SWT go outside and teach your children about the weather, the seasons, the oceans,
animals, trees etc., so they learn to be grateful to Allah and to ponder Allahs existence
Find a good Islamic club or madrassa that has a mix of both deen and dunya so they see
religion as something that can improve their lives
Psychologists have found a positive correlation between children who excel in sport and
those who excel in every area of their life so get kids into sports!
Feed a curious mind with fun activities! Children learn through play, so make sure you have
the right materials to help support their mental, emotional and spiritual growth
Enrichment isnt JUST about what to GIVE your child to encourage their potential and their
growth.
Enrichment is ALSO about knowing what NOT to do to damage young, fragile minds that are easily
impressionable.
Dont allow your kids to have too much free time. There is a saying that an empty mind is the house
of Shaytaan. This is so true! Getting kids involved in activities instead of letting them veg out in front
of the TV or listening to music is going to raise kids who are motivated and hard-working, rather than
kids who are lazy and indifferent.
Limit childrens screen time and ensure that the screen time they have is appropriate. Provide your
children with Islamic games, videos and interactive media that are fun and support your childs
development. Well talk more about this in Step 7.
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Step 5:
The Islamic Home
The Islamic home is creating the
right environment in the home which
gears kids for success in both the
dunya and the akhirah.
Much of this comes back to YOU and your spouse and the processes you put in
place to ensure your family is unified for success.
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Step 6: Getting
The Balance Right
Getting the balance right between
deen and dunya is essential in
ensuring your kids are primed for
success and ready to take on the
world.
Parents fear that their children will get lost in the world and
abandon morality and deen.
There is also the fear that without correct religious
knowledge, children may fall victim to religious bigotry and
extremism.
Islam has always taught the middle road with the focus on
living a balanced moral and religious life. Let your kids have
fun within reason. Allow your kids downtime to chill out and
relax.
Never allow your kids to sacrifice their values though for
some worldly gain, because this is when problems occur.
One of the best way to get the balance right is to help your
kids have ambition that is geared towards a cause.
So if you want your kids to be wealthy, teach them that
their wealth cant be to fund an excessive lifestyle, rather, it
should be used to benefit mankind. This will ensure your kids
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Step 7:
Social influence
Social influence is one of the most important aspects of
raising righteous kids. This means ensuring children have
the right friends and influences. It also means controlled
screen time, use of social media and the Internet.
Teach your kids how to make good choices with friends and get to know who their friends are. Keep an
open line of communication with your kids so they feel comfortable sharing issues with you.
Social media such as Facebook and Snapchat are dangerous ground for young minds. These
environments allow bad behaviours to develop easily because of a perceived lack of consequences
allowing bullies and people that prey on others.
The basic advice is children under the age of 16 should not to be on ANY social media platforms.
Children must be taught how to use media. IT IS A LEARNED BEHAVIOUR and you cannot expect your
children to navigate dangerous environments on their own. That may be harsh, but in a world where
identities can be cloaked very easily, its just not worth taking the risk.
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One of the single biggest impacts on a childs behaviour outside of the immediate
family is media.
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Conclusion
We really hope this report has been valuable in helping you to understand what
it takes to raise righteous children.
Children need lots of love and compassion and need to be taught right from
wrong as soon as they are able to understand.
Its important to empower your kids for success in their everyday lives by
providing them with the right opportunities to support their mental, social,
emotional and above all, spiritual wellbeing.
Allah (swt) says in the Quran:
O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell)
whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and)
severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the commands they receive from
Allah, but do that which they are commanded.
[Quran, 66:6]
It is the right of a child that their parents raise them righteously and this is
a heavy responsibility to carrybut thankfully we live in a world where we
have so many resources to make our jobs as parents that little bit easier
-alhamdullilah!
So, have faith in your ability as a parent, be consistent with your kids and make a
LOT of dua for them. In time, youll reap the benefits of instilling good tarbiya in
your kids and the effort will truly have been worth it!
JazakAllah Khairan,
Brother Michael Milo
www.MuslimKids.Tv
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Recommendations
Muslim Kids TV is an amazing one-stop resource designed to educate, motivate,
inspire and engage young minds.
By teaching kids the deeper values of Islam in a really unique and fun way, the
programs and content serve to help expand a childs understanding of morality
as well as encouraging good character and behaviour.
Taking a membership in Muslim Kids TV is one of the best gifts you can give your
children. Our exciting programs are endorsed by mashaikh such as Sheikh Omar
Suleiman, Sheikh Navid Aziz, Dr Bilal Philips, Sheikh Alaa ElSayed and many
more!
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