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1. Here Nowing
There are three realms in which you can notice anything. There is the realm of whats outside of
you -- the external realm that includes everything you can sense with your sense organs. Theres
the internal realm -- everything that you can feel inside of your own physical body. And then
theres the real of your thoughts. So if you imagine three intersecting circles, those are the realms
in which you can be aware.
Here's a demonstration of what it's like to move through those realms without a specific plan or
direction: I see the heater vent in front of me. I notice a little nervousness in my chest. I can feel
my feet in my shoes. It felt good to just pause and take a breath. I notice my breath right now is a
little shallow. I feel the phone in my hand with the light reflecting and shadows on the wall. Im
feeling energized."
The key thing to recognize is that youre not supposed to move in any particular order or
proportion through the realms of the internal, the external, and thoughts. Youre just supposed to
go wherever your consciousness takes you. So you could be in just one of those realms for a
whole minute -- the suggested length of this practice -- or you might find yourself circulating
through two or all three of them. Theres no way to do it wrong. Youre just letting it unfold and
reporting it.
Some people who have a very easy time turning their experience into words, either silently
within or when practicing with a partner. They might say to me, Well, I can actually do that, but
if I have to talk about it, then I lose the flow. So please note that you dont have to speak in full
sentences. I could have said, Thinking, breathing and that would have been enough. So use
words only to the extent that it allows you to follow the flow in this exercise, and let them go if
they're going to cause you to tighten up and lose the freedom of your flowing consciousness.
One more thing to note: In the middle of this practice and you might say something like,
Thinking, feeling self-conscious. Nothing is really happening. This feels uncomfortable. I feel
stupid. I cant stand this. Now, if you got to a place like that, what I want you to do is Here Now
that as well so that it just becomes another thing thats happening and if you speak that, Feeling
self-conscious, wanting this to end, bookshelf suddenly youre right back into the flow of
your experience.
If you do this practice with a partner, that person is meant to be a fully-open vessel. He or she
takes in your experience with a big, Yes, I hear you, but absolutely in silence, with no words
necessary. After a minute is up, you and your partner switch roles and repeat.
could be an emotion that when it arises, you really instantly contract, pull away, resist, deny,
suppress because its too painful, or destruct as well; or it could be one that you dont even have
that experience about because you go to great lengths to not put yourself in a position where you
would even have to have that experience.
So for example, for me, Ive recognized that humiliation is one of the key emotions that I have
trouble feeling. So for instance, if I make a little mistake and I can make a joke about it, we can
all understand, Thats funny. Were all human. And then I kind of get back on top, thats fine.
But if I make some kind of mistake in which everyone knows it, sees it fully, and I can't make it
better, I get a wormy feeling inside of my belly which is one of the hardest things for me to feel.
Some of the most commonly difficult emotions to feel are: unworthiness-shame-not good
enough; anger-frustration; hurt-rejection-abandonment; failure-humiliation; fear; and loss.
Finally, there's also love. This may seem strange, since we all want and need to experience love.
But often there are people who had love come with other really much more difficult experiences.
For them love was messy, love was mixed.
3. Accepting Self Assessment
At this point you might have a persistent thought that you're not going to be able to do the course
right. The truth is, there's no way to do it wrong. But we all have a part of our brain that is
constantly assessing how were doing, and that is convinced there's a flaw to find.
If we let that assessing part of our brain glue itself to us, then well always be tense and not able
to relax fully into presence. So whenever that "I cant do it right" thought comes up, try
responding like this: Okaythere is that thought. Let me include it, allow it to be just one part
of this experience. I dont have to either agree with it, disagree with it, or fight against it in any
way."
Even though this self-assessment is hard-wired into our brains, it softens when you get proficient
at meeting it this way. Please don't take my word for it, but rather see for yourself. Give it about
a hundred tries or so, and then notice if any shift has taken place.