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Honorable Nr.Mr.Drs. Achmad Fadil M.si the english teacher of SMA N 7
SAMARINDA
And all my beloved friends....
I will explain about THE IMPACT OF PARENTAL DIVORCE ON THE LIVES OF
TEENS
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have its own view that he memiilki himself. Where teenagers began
much like the activities outside the home and into the wider world.
They find it orients itself
2. The struggle for emancipation (game rights). To achieve the
status of the young adult must reduce its dependence on parents.
They should prepare to accept and carry out the role of the adult.
The struggle towards equality is often full of conflict and anxiety
both for the young people themselves and their parents
3. If all goes well, they will occupy a position between adults of the
same age. at this stage the influence of adults has not been lost.
Many teens age teenager who rebelled against sika-views and
attitudes of adults. But at the age of two decades they embrace the
views and attitudes had to be right.
The interaction of parents and their teenage children
1. The objective aspect
Is the real state of events be occurring at the time of interaction
between children and parents took place.
2. The subjective aspect
Is the real state of perceived juvenile at the time of interaction with
parents take place.
Not infrequently teens tend to use subjective aspect when
interacting with their parents. For example, parents who act rather
hard on teenagers because for feeling worried and anxious about
her teenage son, was actually perceived by teens as a scold. In fact,
the real parents intend to protect.
Teen Relationships With Parents
Aspects to consider in building a good relationship with the family,
especially the parents regarding the role of adolescence as a child in
the family
1. The existence of mutual respect and the respect of rights and
obligations between family members, be it a child against a parent
and vice versa.
2. The involvement of adolescents as a child in discussing and
solving the problems faced by families
3. The existence of tolerance of children to their parents and vice
versa against dissent
4. Between children and parents should have the ability to provide a
plausible reason to an act or decision taken
5. The existence of openness and good communication between
DEVELOPMENT OF ADOLESCENTS
So what can we do as parents to teens to grow and develop
optimally, healthy emotions and not get involved in the association
are at risk? First and foremost are the parents must ensure that
families can fulfill its function optimally essence, as follows:
1. Availability of love and protection for children,
2. The existence of clear rules and consistent control of the child's
behavior
3. Knowledge and understanding of the physical and social world
4. The existence of interactions and relationships that have meaning
affective among family members
5. There is an opportunity for children to understand themselves.
A well-functioning family is characterized by a condition in which
each member of the family feels that they are bound to one another,
and have a mutual commitment to love each other in a positive way.
Children who experience emotional development is not healthy,
normally grows on families who are unable to meet the child's needs
for affection and protection, as well as the lack of rules and controls
are consistent and clear to the child's behavior. Children and teens is
what will be compelled to look for negative activities they think can
fulfill their needs are.
Often parents think that children's needs for affection can be
replaced with a provision of redundant material, and the rules and
control dispensed with the intention of avoiding a conflict with the
child. Though both of these aspects is the main essence of family
functions. If the child loses the warmth of family and the rules, then
he will lose the opportunity to develop positive emotions and
learning to control negative emotions at once. Two important things
are the basis for healthy emotional development in an individual.
Emotions are the foundation of all aspects that support the healthy
psychological development. Healthy emotion is also the underlying
ability of an individual to choose which ones are good and which are
not in his life, including in choosing the association. Replace the
expression of sincere love with the provision of redundant material,
other than self-deception, also deceive our children, and the worst
are the children know the difference between a really really loved
and bribed.
One of the brilliant child psychologist, Urie Bronfenbrenner, said that
every child needs an adult who "committed to death" on the child.
Emotional bond that makes children grow into teenagers and adults
psychologically healthy. If children feel really loved, they develop a
strong sense of security so they no longer too demanding to be
loved or be noticed by others, let alone look for and rushed to drug
use or promiscuous are at risk of contracting HIV / AIDS. Ultimately,
most teenagers emotional needs are those who are not receiving
enough love their parents when they were kids and teenager or his
parents' love less consistent and less sincere they feel. If the child
did not get the attention or affection from their parents or the
people around him, then they will seek compensation from his need,
so came the children or adults who deviant behavior, ranging from
attention-seeking and escape with activities -kegiatan negative and
risky, or behavioral disorders such as anorexia (eating disorder),
obsession, compulsions such as excessive shopping, store objects
that are not required to be trash, the deviation of sexual orientation,
taking drugs, free sex to be a crime ,
According to Patterson (Santrock, 2003) The deficiencies are
common in families that encourage children to have a negative risk
behaviors, including: