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journal on my birthday. Well, the week sions. One thing I’ve noticed over these changing lives. They will surely be awesome job have left him little time to
before my birthday, I bought a new journal. thankful days: my mood is improving and paid by the multitudes in karma. commit fully to Women’s Press, so he’s
It sat on my desk awaiting my writings. I’m noticing little things in my life that have taken a leave of absence. He is sorely
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Evolutionary Consciousness
By Heather Mendel Life is mysterious and full of surprises. divorce. Publicly, the present Obama admin- egocentric world view. As we mature we pass
During the height of the apartheid years istration is demonstrating that attempting from an authoritarian model, to become to
Does evolution change consciousness or in South Africa, it was accepted that when to reach consensus is a worthy goal, despite community builders, who acknowledge that
does consciousness change evolution? Like the change would come, a bloody revolution some who attempt to thwart the process. responsibility is essential to corresponded
any spiritual conundrum, the answer to the was inevitable. A futurist I knew predicted New ways of debate and decision reaching with rights we claim, and ultimately hope to
dilemma is— yes! that ‘as went South Africa, so would go the are possible. The ongoing specious debate realize oneness, wholeness and cooperation.
world.’ Miraculously it seems, the change by pro-choice and anti-choice proponents We are all at different point on the journey,
Our inner and outer realities mirror each actually came peacefully. Nelson Mandela is being reframed. Just as no one is ‘anti- individually and communally, and when
other as part and parcel of one single was the right man for the moment, and his life,’ neither is anyone ‘pro-abortion.’ The hoping to assist others, can respectfully find
process. In the midst of the radical trans- efforts were strengthened by the efforts of issue is about a woman’s right to determine way to understand what they need in order
formation that is the present moment, it is some 10,000 individuals who helped forge her future and that of her family. A way to to find ways to work together to bring about
fascinating to see the reflection of inner and a new culture based on the principles of bring opposing sides together is to look at peaceful change.
outer worlds. We have at least two alterna- conflict resolution. Unseen and unknown to what values they share—in this case, neither
tives ways of responding to change. If our most, they worked their magic and the results group wants any unintended pregnancies With a rapidly changing reality influenced
inner reality is based on fear, we step back are incredible. If that futurist was correct, and so they can come together to focus by climate, technology, and access to infor-
and try to hold fast to the past that, like soft it is auspicious for the world community. attention and efforts on pregnancy preven- mation, natural evolution offers us the
dry sand, is slipping through our fingers. We tion or adoption advocacy. opportunity to awaken to the multilayered
want to retain the known and familiar. The In American public life, transforma- nature of reality and in so doing, assist the
‘tea-party’ movement is an excellent example tive change is happening too, despite the Don Beck’s teaching on spiral dynamics is evolution our own consciousness, finding
of this phenomenon. If, on the other hand, apparent polarized divisions. Conflict res- a wonderful basis to start seeing how we answers to the perennial questions of the
we are courageous, optimistic and believe olution offers an alternative and new way function in society. He shows how as indi- spiritual seeker: who am, why and I here,
in a positive future, we are willing to take of finding common ground in areas of viduals and communities we evolve, initially and where am I going?
a chance and leap into the unknown, with dispute. In the personal realm, mediation is aware only of our basic needs for survival,
faith that all will be well as a new reality becoming a valid alternative to the destruc- and then open to the developmental stages
is unfolding. tive nature of the power play that is part of of awareness of the magical, followed by an http://www.dancinginthefootstepsofeve.com
4 Body & Soul Women’s Press May & June 2010
What if “heaven” is exactly what we make it The study of near death experiences has a I encourage you to consider areas in your life Consciously send thanks and appreciation to
up to be? If that’s possible I’d like trees, warm common theme that people go to the light and that could be more fulfilling. Take the risk to military families, for they live with the fear of
springs, books, and magic. I’m an optimist there are familiar people or angels greeting the reach out to someone and patch up any dis- war and death daily. Most veterans that I know
and expect good things to happen. If I die person passing over. The NDE person gets sent agreements, rekindle your dreams, and let go of want peace more than anything. I intend to do
feeling good, then I may land in the oasis. If back, to complete a purpose here. Dannion situations that rob your happiness. If what we my part. Will you remember Memorial Day is
I die suddenly while angry, upset or in fear, it Brinkley was the first to reveal his story of a live here is a blueprint for what happens when about the freedom to choose how you believe?
would be very different. I may get stuck in that near death (he died 3 times) and he has helped we die, then make this the best it can be. Find
unpleasant space for a while. the world understand more about death with the way to have more peace and less stress in
Dr. Raymond Moody studies of him. your life so we can have it globally. MaryAine Curtis MRET Spiritual
Warriors, our military, first responders, all give Psychology Facilitator
their life for us. Sadly they may take memories A cord has been struck within me to understand This Memorial Day when you remember the www.return2joy.com
of their tragedies and Post Traumatic Stress more about what happens. It removes fear and men, women, and children that died helping
Women’s Press May & June 2010 Body & Soul 5
Li v i ng T he Mid-life…
By Ginny Conrow
Spirit
facade.
By Laura Hyde Spirit and refers to a powerful way to resolve that you notice around you. She wears a straightjacket,
any problem, accomplish any goal, and to • Prosperity – Bless all the signs of so very neatly hidden under a perfectly
As I write this article, I am settling back achieve any state of mind that you desire. prosperity in your environment, controlled, always acceptable facade.
into my daily routine after having spent including all the money you have and
ten relaxing days on the exquisitely beau- It doesn’t require living in, or even visiting what it can do as you circulate it. No one knows...no one ever guesses...and
tiful island of Maui. Even amidst the Hawaii to capture the essence of mana. • Success – Bless all signs of achieve- she would never admit...beneath her
business — and some resistance — of return- There are different ways to tune into this ment and completion and all signs of facade,
ing to my regular routine, I am grateful for power and one way is to bless everyone forward movement or persistence. all she wants to do is...
the spirit of “aloha” that still lingers within and everything that represents what you • Inner Strength – Bless all signs of
me. “Aloha” means much more than a truly want. And in the Aloha Spirit, to inner strength in people and animals; dance...create...and S O A R........!
common greeting and expression of farewell. bless something means to give recognition all signs of stability (like mountains
The idea of aloha is so important in Hawaii to a positive quality or condition with the and tall trees).
that the “Aloha Spirit” is part of State law. intent that what you recognize will increase • Love and Friendship – Bless all signs
The statute reads in part: or come into manifestation. This kind of of caring and nurturing, compassion Ginny Conrow has worked in healthcare for
intentional blessing is effective in changing and support; all harmonious rela- over 30 years. She empathizes with the “mid-
“‘Aloha Spirit’ is the coordination of mind your life for three reasons: tionships in nature; everything that lifers” who are caretaking, working and trying
and heart within each person. It brings is connected to or gently touching to understand life.
each person to the self. Each person must The positive focus of your mind ignites the something else; all signs of coopera-
think and emote good feelings to others. In positive, creative force of the Divine Power tion, and all signs of laughter and fun.
the contemplation and presence of the life of the Universe; • Inner Peace – Bless all signs of qui-
force, ‘Aloha,’ the following definition may etness, calmness, tranquility, and
be used: It moves your own energy outward, allowing serenity (such as quiet water or still
more of the Divine Power to flow through air); all distant views (horizons,
Akahai, kindness to be expressed you; stars, the moon); all signs of beauty
with tenderness; of sight, sound or touch; clear colors
Lokahi, unity, to be expressed When you bless for the benefit of others and shapes; the details of natural or
with harmony; instead of directly for yourself, you tend to made objects.
Oluolu, agreeable, to be expressed bypass the subconscious fears about what • Spiritual Growth – Bless all signs of
with pleasantness; you want for yourself. What is so beautiful growth, development and change in
Haahaa, humility, to be expressed about this process is that the blessing you do nature; the transitions of dawn and
with modesty; for others helps them as well as you. twilight; the movement of sun, moon,
Ahonui, patience, to be expressed planets and stars; the flight of birds in
with perseverance.” Here are some of the important life-force the sky; and the movement of wind
qualities that the Hawaiian culture blesses: and sea.
Notice your life; are you experiencing the
spirit of Aloha? • Health – Bless healthy people, animals, During these emotionally, financially and
nature, and everything that expresses spiritually challenging times, may you experi-
Living the Aloha Spirit isn’t some spiri- abundant energy. ence the Aloha Spirit in every area of your
tual gimmick, some airy-fairy concept; it’s • Happiness – Bless all that is good, life.
a way of living life so fully, so powerfully, or the good that is in all people and
that you are in tune with the Divine Power all things; all the signs of happiness Mahalo and Namaste.
that the Hawaiians call “mana.” Accessing that you see, hear or feel in people or Photo by Ove Tøpfer
mana is an essential aspect of the Aloha animals; and all potentials for happiness
6 Body & Soul Women’s Press May & June 2010
By Barbara Atkinson With women in particular, though not This sad anger is not a raging storm you need passionate, divine feminine rather than ego,
exclusively, an epidemic of low self-esteem to unleash to heal (although it’s the fear that this nurturing mother within helps us learn
In many spiritual treatises, mostly written and lack of worthiness festers within. I’m you would do so and be overwhelmed that to accept ourselves, to trust our inner voice
by men, the apex of the spiritual journey not talking about success and strength. keeps it hidden in the unconscious). Yet it and honor our needs, thereby ending ego’s
is being of service, i.e., giving. Although I We may be both successful and strong, a can and often projects itself onto judgment tyranny, and the reflexive emotional reactions
don’t deny the value of giving service, I’d mainstream conformist or non-conform- and victim-hood, never owning its source that served us in the past. The paradox is that
like to suggest the following. ist, perceived with a solid, if vulnerable, within. We may do various things to keep to access authentic power, we must surren-
strength. Nevertheless, lurking beneath this knowledge hidden, but it hungers to be der seeming power --the power of ego’s will;
In general, men approach their spiri- this “together,” maybe even happy-go- acknowledged and embraced. this is the sacrifice we are asked to make. It
tual journey from a different perspective lucky exterior is often the open wound of is rarely easy and always an act of humility.
than women. Men come from an egocen- insecurity: I am not enough – too this and Ego resides in time and has a vested interest With the help of redemptive grace, we allow
tric standpoint—their journey of expansion too that. This unhealed wound, out of fear in keeping this the status quo. Its incessant our true Self (inner Christ, Buddha, Goddess,
moves them to include the needs of others. of not being accepted and loved, too often thinking of past and future claim tyranny etc.) residing in the present moment, to
Visually you could see this as an inverted tries to keep others happy by conforming over the soul utilizing a variety of tools to emerge then unite with the outer Divine and
triangle (V) – the point on the bottom signi- and responding to what they want — an keep us in the dark: guilt, fear, inadequacy, lead. We identify with it rather than with ego.
fying the ego as it expands upward/outward aberration of the “good mother” ideal of imperfection, judgment, false pride and “Ego as an instrument of spirit rather than
to be inclusive. femininity. It remains unhealed by the niceties, and a god of retribution to name a spirit as a tool of ego.” (Michael Washburn)
inwardly turned anger of a child whose few. It fuels the thoughts that give voice to
Women, on the other hand, are already needs were not met, causing permeable, the inner “demons of negativity,” nagging at This inner struggle can go on for a number of
inclusive as mothers, the volunteer mainstay or for some, non-existent boundaries that us to give in to powerlessness (the mainstay years coming closer and closer to the surface
for non-profits, and in numerous other extend into adulthood. Unaware of how to of sad anger). So, when you are committed to (service) of consciousness. Our job is to trust
capacities. They are the universal givers. This express this seemingly inappropriate anger, awakening Spirit within, a struggle may ensue. Life and ourselves, and stay on the path of
giving of ourselves is, unfortunately, given unconsciously it is contained within and Afraid it will lose out if it lets go, ego strug- awareness heeding the signs and signals that
little more than lip service in terms of our festers as a deep, inner sadness of which gles to hold onto its supremacy; its old habits alert us when we stray off course. We are
value to society (otherwise universal child- we may or may not be aware. This sadness and fears may intensify now. Fearful ego guided again and again to the situations we
care and equal rights with equal pay and is also archetypal because victimization is is trying to keep us unaware of the creative need to resurrect the authentic power and love
so on would be a given). It is also why the based on the historical fear that we will power within: our Higher Self and its unlim- of the repressed feminine. As we give voice to
feminine aspect of God (usually depicted as be burned, staked, stoned, or otherwise ited potential. Power, ego is happy to remind her nurturing love, support, and trust, she
the giving earth mother, pregnant with new retaliated against (still occurring in some us, is often associated with its misuse, hierar- subdues and balances our overabundant mas-
life) struggles for recognition. For most of places) and because the feminine prin- chy, retaliation, lack of femininity, and being culine, and we are held in a cocoon of light
us in western society, being a woman means ciple in our world cultures has been clothed in the anger of Machiavellian-like Then these two poles of the psyche, mascu-
having to struggle with being undervalued, repressed for centuries. It’s been pro- manipulation. But, rather than a negative line and feminine, can integrate as one, reside
even by ourselves as we unconsciously incul- jected onto females as being “less than,” force projected outward, sad anger can be in present moment awareness, and awaken
cate societal norms. with a distorted and heightened respon- converted to the authentic power of positive the full potential of Self to Being: our indi-
sibility for the feelings and actions of feminine energy and used inwardly to fuel vidual, creative expression of All There Is.
Therefore our spiritual journey is more like others and what they want, and feeling and strengthen our love of Self. This happens
the basic triangle: we’re learning to channel victimized because we’re told it’s “our as we redirect our energy to challenge ego * The same can be said for boys and men with
our “giving to others” (the expansive bottom fault.” We have taken this distortion in by refusing to sacrifice ourselves to its nagging an active feminine who, if they express it, can
of the triangle) into giving ourselves value and made it our own, generation after voices, recriminating sadness, and failure to be considered soft or weak; often this weakness
through full appreciation and acceptance generation. As a result, we have learned not meet our needs. By continually identifying must be beaten down and drummed or bullied
(the apex of the triangle). Try this on for size: to trust ourselves.* with the love and forgiveness of the com- out for cultural and family acceptance.
Women’s Press May & June 2010 Body & Soul 7
Oneness
By Ruth Cherry, PhD
God to fit into our lives neatly. We want
God to keep us comfortable. The Old Brain Can Still Learn New Tricks
Most of the inmates at the state penitentiary When comfort is necessary, God gets
where I work were drug addicts—heroin, squeezed out. Unlimited power cannot be
marijuana, cocaine, LSD, whatever they controlled or fit into our little boxes and
could get. They speak about chasing their it doesn’t come on schedule on Sunday
first high, always remembering a more morning. We don’t dictate terms to God
intense experience than they’ve had since about what we will accept or won’t. We say,
and not being able to recreate it. They “Your will be done” and we watch. When we
didn’t abandon the chase until incarcera- surrender our lives, we don’t know what will
tion forced the end. happen. And if you need to be in control,
that’s not a “reasonable” choice.
In the meditation groups I ask if our medi-
tations are similar in any way to their drug So, if we accept the premise that experienc-
highs. The long time meditators say, “Yes, ing oneness with God is the basic human
but without coming down.” Longing for longing and if we acknowledge that losing Photo by Artem Chernyshevych
the experience of oneness may be the soul our boundaries terrifies us humans, then
of drug addiction. And isn’t that the core we find ourselves in a pickle of gigantic By Inglis Carre’-Dellard a group of students who were given some
human drive? We seek love, friendship, or proportions. For a few years or decades we quick instruction in how to meditate. Both
success but these diversions so often leave look for God under the street light, so to We have been told that advancing years groups performed a “nonreferential compas-
us dissatisfied. We achieve what we say we speak. We want God in small doses, easily are a time of ever fuzzier thinking and sion” meditation in which they concentrated
want and within minutes we want some- digested. We’re satisfied with our God-in- brain deterioration over which we have on feeling infinite generosity and love for
thing more. Why? a-box. And that’s the end of the story for no control. On the contrary, neuroscien- all living beings, while being connected
many folks. tists have discovered that even though the to an EEG machine. The EEG readouts
My suspicion is that on a cellular level we brain’s decreasing number of brain cells showed an increase in gamma brain waves
know we are missing something we need Some of us won’t let go of the search that causes it to lose between five and ten percent for all meditators. The monks experienced
to be whole. On an intellectual level we easily, however, and by mid-life we won’t of its weight by the time we are ninety, the thirty times higher gamma output than the
can’t identify what that is but we substi- engage in illegal activity or reckless risk- brain can build more connections that help students. A functional MRI showed that the
tute “definable” solutions. We long for peace taking. What are we to do? We need it to work better as it ages, and even grow brains of all the meditators showed more
inside but we focus on making money. That’s to experience our oneness with God new cells in certain areas. It turns out that activity in the brain area responsible for
something we can control. Who can force because without that we’re lost. Nothing aging can give us a better ability to replace positive emotion, and less in the area that
peace? We want happiness which we can’t else holds meaning. negative emotions with positive ones, the distinguished between self and others. The
make happen on cue so we enjoy chocolate resulting emotional stability forming the brain areas dealing with maternal love and
which we can buy any time. The inmates The vastness of our inner world and the basis of wisdom. This concept of “neuroplas- empathy reacted much more strongly in the
used drugs. What’s the difference? Control pervasiveness of our life experience when ticity” not only suggests that our brains can monks’ brains, where the happiness brain
of something finite substitutes for oneness we surrender and trust in meditation and grow and change throughout life, but also area totally overrode the brain area dealing
with the Infinite. For a minute. then throughout the day lead us to experi- suggests that we can cause positive changes with negative feelings. The brains of the
ence God minute by minute. And then we in our brain structure with our thoughts. students didn’t show this reaction.
I don’t know of one person who would don’t want to stop. Even when it’s scary or
say that what s/he seeks in life more than unpleasant or inconvenient. And I think A neuroscientist from Harvard, Alvaro It appears that training the mind can cause
anything else is oneness with God but I that’s what the drug addicted inmates Pascual-Leone, taught a group of non- brain changes that predispose us to more
suspect that that is the human condition. sought in their own unsavory way. They musician volunteers a simple piano exercise positive feelings such as empathy, compas-
We somehow know that there is more to are just being humans. On some level they that they practiced in the lab two hours a sion, and love. Isn’t it good to know that we
existence than meets the eye. We can’t place knew there is more. They detoured with day for five days. A week later, brain scans can teach ourselves to be happy?
it so we try to structure an experience that drugs but find some peace in meditation. were performed and showed that the part of
we can define. We must redefine God in They are acting like human beings, just like the brain that controlled finger movements
limited terms so our minds can be involved the rest of us. increased in area. Volunteers that practiced
in the act. Better to use our minds than to the finger exercises in their minds alone had Inglis Carre’-Dellard, M.F.A. is a Los
allow unlimited vulnerability. the same result. We can infer from these Osos artist and teacher whose teaching style
findings that our thoughts can affect our emphasizes individuality and self expression
But “allowing” and “vulnerability” are Ruth Cherry, PhD, is a clinical psychologist mental and physical health more than previ- in a nurturing environment. For informa-
what knowing God is about. We imprison in private practice in San Luis Obispo, CA. ously thought. tion on creativity classes, individual creativity
God when we say, “This (read: money, love, Her specialty is midlife when psychological and counseling, or to receive her creativity news-
power) will make me happy.” When we try spiritual dynamics merge. The power of the What happens when we consciously control letter, contact her at ingartist@yahoo.com or
to define God, we limit God. When we want unconscious at midlife to heal and to trans- our thoughts and always steer them in a 805.534.9693.
to assume an overlay of happiness without form is tapped in meditation. Besides writing positive direction? Richard Davidson, of
doing our undercover work, we shy away about meditation, Ruth leads guided medi- the University of Wisconsin, conducted a For more information regarding the latest sci-
from God. We hate not being in control and tation groups weekly. Her books and CD are study in which he compared the brains of entific brain discoveries and their relationship
when we are in control, we imprison God. available at midlifepsychology.com. eight Buddhist Monks who were very expe- to creativity, read ‘Embracing the Wide Sky,’
We want God not to threaten us. We want rienced with meditation, with the brains of by Daniel Tammet.
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Women’s Convergence by a convergence of all the various groups Paths, they hurl us on an Intergalactic
and agencies in SLO County that exist Voyage.”
but Gynergy – a term Mary Daly attri- to improve women’s lives. Think of the
By Angie King butes to her fellow philosopher, Emily energy in the room! In other words, I think, one has an “aha
Culpepper - the female energy which moment” and the paradigm shifts, so
After my answer to the last issue’s both comprehends and creates who we From Outercourse, page 4: “The Spiraling to speak, and so do one’s attitude and
question of what book has changed your are: woman-identified be-ing. Voyage of Outercourse is comprised of behavior, hopefully in a more beneficial,
life, about Mary Daly, I was moved to Metapolitical Moments, which make centered way, dare I say, Metapatriarchal
read her again. I was drawn to her auto- Of course we all see what we want to up Spiral galaxies. These are Moments/ way (Mary Daly does). Is this one?
biography, although she admits that’s see, and I want to see that there is this Movements of participation in Be-ing Wouldn’t you want to be part of a
a loosely defined term for what she has connection, and that the Women’s which carry Voyagers beyond foreground paradigm shift in SLO County?
written. But it is pure Mary Daly and I Convergence (that I hope will happen limitations.
loved it. It’s called Outercourse. There’s a toward the end of 2010) will be a Putting on such an event will take a
concept she describes in it, which threads Spiraling Event, in Mary Daly’s terms, Moments can be viewed as windows and lot of planning. I’m still talking to the
through the whole book, which also and the Be-ginning of a better future. doors through which we leap and race SLOCCF urging them to be the lead
struck me, coming as it did in my own Or maybe it is mere coincidence that into the Background. They influence us; organizer, but even so, we all need to
Re-membering (her orthography). I’m these things all came about in just the they are of great consequence, for they pitch in. Will you help? Call me at WCC
going to try to explain what I mean. Bear way they did. Either way I am excited point us in the direction of Elemental (544-9313).
with me. thinking about the momentum created Time/Tidal Time. Moving in Spiraling
The combination of all this collabo- Please join us for a celebration of expanding consciousness and love.
ration and gathering together creates
not just synergy (the combined
effort being greater than parts)
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Adrift on the Ocean of American Democracy nity for many years. They have a passion for process, the potential financial impact, the
women’s birth rights. importance of bonding, cesarean preven-
By Jennifer Stover as being involved in politics. It was just my tion, and postpartum depression prevention.
way of helping the women I knew have the We discussed and refined our goal, set a
Last summer I embarked on my maiden births that they wanted. Here was a chance timeline and divided the work. Researching We reached out to mothers in our com-
voyage into the turbulent waters of the dem- to do something locally and perhaps have an that day we suddenly realized that munity. Many of these busy women took
ocratic process. I had been contacted by impact nationally. Representative Capps was on the congres- the time to stop and write a letter about
the Mama Campaign, a grassroots organi- sional committee working on the health how their birth with a midwife affected
zation trying to make history. They were Intrigued but uncertain, I went to the legislation. For the first time it occurred their lives. Reading their poignant letters
lobbying for a woman’s right to birth either women of the Birth & Baby Resource to us that we might actually be able to do reminded me of why I first began champi-
in a hospital, birth center, or at home and Network and said, “I’d like to do something something that mattered. oning midwifery and out-of-hospital birth
with a doctor, certified nurse midwife or a about this. What do you think? Is this some- and gave me fresh incentive to keep forging
professional midwife. They were pushing thing we want to stand up for? Will I have Along the way more women came on
to include equal payment for all of these your backing if I lead a delegation to speak board. My intrepid crew of professionals Continued in Adrift, p. 22
options into the health care legislation. To to Lois Capps?” All the women immediately and community leaders
accomplish their goal they had launched a encouraged and supported me. also included: Miday
national effort to have women contact their Belden-Johnson, CNM;
local representatives and speak to them Buoyed by their enthusiasm, I reached into Stephanie Wilson, SLO- Clare Lowery L.Ac.
about the importance of women having our birth community for shipmates in my Child Abuse Prevention
birth choices. endeavor. Not surprisingly I was imme- Council specialist; Jessica Acupuncture & Herbal Medicine
diately joined by retired certified nurse Elliott, BBRN President; Licensed for 20 Years
As a doula and childbirth educator, I have midwife Linda Seeley; Edana Hall, licensed and Janet Murphy, Cal
been working one-on-one with women for midwife; Laurie Stern, a registered nurse Poly Child Development
Shirodhara oil treatment
many years supporting them in their birth certified in neonatal nursing; and Megan Specialist. Each one did
choices. On a community level, I had helped Bochum, former International Cesarean research that was added 805-541-6772
found the Birth & Baby Resource Network Awareness Network leader. These women to our presentation ClareLowery.com
to help inform women about their choices have been working with and for birthing packet covering issues
locally. But I never considered any of this women and their families in our commu- on safety, the licensing
12 Local Perspectives Women’s Press May & June 2010
Unsung Heroine
Donna Kean
Accepting Mystery
to Live More Fully
By Berta Parrish
At Seventy
After working two years as a medical social for themselves and go the course in spite of
worker at Twin Cities Community Hospital, fearing the unknown. It’s honorific in my
Mortality. Demise. The Grim Reaper. The Donna assumed the responsibilities of book!”
Final Passage. All these are euphemisms Executive Director of the Hospice of SLO
By Jeanie Greensfelder
for a concept that most Americans avoid at County supervising eight full-time staff A few months into retirement, Donna is
all costs. Contemplating death makes most members and over 100 volunteers. Hospice enjoying the increased time to cook, to read,
of us very sad and depressed. Therefore, of SLO County provides free in-home to meditate, and to spend time with family A trajectory of decades crossed like a comet,
consider my surprise when I met Donna assistance and companionship, grief coun- and friends. Additionally, she is beginning years falling like shuffled cards,
Kean, former Executive Director of the seling, group support, crisis intervention, to write a book, tentatively titled Mysteries now you see them, now you don’t.
Hospice of San Luis Obispo. Sixteen years and wellness education to those living with at the Threshold, that explores the extraor-
of helping others cope with end-of-life issues life-threatening or terminal illness, their dinary experiences of ordinary people Among memories, wisps of me:
has not diminished her natural enthusiasm, families, and the bereaved. Empathic vol- when grieving and/or dying. She believes hanging by my legs from a trapeze,
energy, and sense of humor. Her spar- unteer support programs include in-home that “consciousness survives. I don’t know pounding the sofa to see germs rise,
kling eyes, inquisitiveness, and contagious respite care; a bereavement program; a how that happens, but it does. Because of praying at age eight to wake up twenty-four,
laughter invite you into the joy of life rather supportive music program; community hospice, I have had experiences that affirm seeing my father in a coma before he died,
than into the anxiety of death, the ultimate education, training and resource center; a the continuity of spirit, of soul.” deciding to die at sixty and never grow old,
mystery. children’s program; and services in Spanish. leading the Pep Club, depressed, in tears,
Donna has indeed received many gifts from being eloped from college at eighteen,
In 1994 Donna arrived in Cambria from Los Reflecting on her 14-year tenure as Executive the people she has served, but she has also imagining my daughter’s third Christmas,
Angeles as a licensed clinical social worker Director, Donna considers program devel- bestowed many gifts on them, their families, waking at twenty-four, wanting to be eight,
with experience in the hospice field and in opment her most joyful moments. She was and our community. By acknowledging and hearing the rabbi bless my second marriage,
social services management. Her interest in instrumental in extending hospice volunteer accepting the natural life cycle that culmi- communing with a Luna moth in our
metaphysics and philosophy drew her to a training and services to California Men’s nates in the mystery of death, she models A-frame.
career that nourished spiritual and soulful Colony, to the North County, to skilled how to live more fully in the present. She
awareness. She recalls that a few personal nursing facilities, and to several hospitals definitely is not among those referred to in Moments polka dot my mind
losses helped her integrate the hospice phi- where volunteers provide respite care for the following refrain of the popular song as if I could drop into any one of them,
losophy: “It really helped to know that death fatigued family members. Moreover, she is “The Rose”: begin again, take seriously the words I
is okay. Even if it isn’t anticipated, there is grateful for all the wondrous learning expe- scoffed at
way to get through it. I was sold after that riences. “The families have transformed my “It’s the one who won’t be taken, when an old woman watched me hopscotch.
and wanted to help others see death through life. Their courage in confronting dying or who cannot seem to give, She said, “Count your blessings.”
a different lens.” grieving is inspiring. Truly, what a gift! I’ve and the soul afraid of dyin’
had the honor of seeing people stand up that never learns to live.”
Women’s Press May & June 2010 Local Perspectives 13
Signs of Life
By Kate Updike O’Connor “That swollen bud lasted so long,” I tell her. daughter of farmers and loves and trusts with perennials and the occasional annual.
“It tantalized me. I could barely wait to see the earth, if nothing else. When I was a She spent hours tending to that garden. I
“I can’t get over it,” my mother says on the it open.” young child, we lived in York, Pennsylvania have an image of her in stylish shorts bent
telephone. “All the beauty hidden in that where the winters are long. At the first hint over her work, one hand patiently weeding
bulb. You’ve got a winner.” Mom knows precisely what I mean. This is of spring, Mom would pull herself out of among the rocks, the other clutching weeds
how we connect – through the language of winter hibernation and depression to inspect already pulled. I doubt my mother knew
She refers to the showy blossoms my ama- buds and new growth. She had spent the last the yard for signs of new life. I, too, came to how much I watched her. I longed for the
ryllis has produced in the last few days. Four few weeks watching her own bulb sprout, look forward to the zealous sprouting of the kind of single-minded attention she gave her
is the most she’s ever heard of bursting from then bud, then flower. gangly forsythia bush outside the bathroom garden. Eventually, I realized that the best
the same bud. My plant has five gorgeous, window. The cold York winters nursed this I could hope for was to join her in her love
umbellate flowers with another yet to open. “Yours is finished?” I ask today. Hers had plant along, so that come spring, it burst of it.
Mom has given me an amaryllis bulb every gotten a head start and bloomed a week or forth in a fiery mass of yellow tendrils.
Christmas for as long as I can remember. She two before mine. Completely untamed, the bush served as Today my mother reminds me to rotate my
continues to send them to me even though I a colorful focal point in our springtime amaryllis so the long stem will continue to
live in California now and can enjoy flow- “Yes, sadly,” Mom says. She answers from backyard landscape. And together with the stand upright.
ering outdoor plants all year. She gives her home in New Jersey where her yard is tender pokes of the narcissus and daffodils,
herself one, too, to ease her through the cold blanketed with a foot of freshly fallen snow. it ushered in the warmer weather. “And be sure to take a picture of it for me,
eastern winter. As the bulbs start to sprout “But now I have a calla lily to watch. It’s will you?” she asks.
on our kitchen tables, they become the main really fascinating to observe the growth.” Mom did all the landscaping herself. A
topic of interest in our long-distance conver- small, nondescript hill that sloped to a gentle I promise that I will.
sations. I have always known this about my mother, rise about twenty feet from the back of the
her passion for growing things. She is the house became a rock garden interspersed
To Love Again
By Ashley Howard Beach was the coastal town that I felt drawn County, I embarked on the most rewarding As we already know, relationships end, new
to from the moment that I arrived. After hike of all time on the Cerro Alto trail and relationships begin, people change- and in
During the drive down to Sayulita, I found viewing several properties throughout the tasted some of the most sensational wine the end, life goes on---and we continue to
myself reflecting back on what a remarkable county during the first few days after my from countless wineries. live. So even though my relationship with
time I had in San Luis Obispo County. For arrival, I knew that Avila Beach was where Central California has now come to an
maybe the first time in my life, time did not I would reside. For the first 3 months, I I drank some of the most bold and beautiful end as I once knew it, my heart is secure in
fly by, nor stand still. Five months felt like five must admit that I lived in what I now refer coffee on the central coast, and this says a knowing that I’ll always have these memories
months, or at least what I imagine 5 months to as an ‘Avila Bubble.’ Sure, just minutes lot coming from a girl who just spent the last to reflect back on: memories of new friend-
should feel like outside of living within a rat north and south of me were other coastal five years living south of Seattle, also known ships flourishing, memories of a plethora of
race. My time on the Central Coast, was just towns worth becoming aquatinted with, but as the coffee capital! I consumed food that new and exciting experiences, memories of
that- my time. I lived in the moment. My because I lived in the canyon and worked at awaked my palate out of a dead sleep, and nourishing my body, mind, and soul in ways
moment. I had some of the most incredible the beach in breathtaking Avila, I naturally tasted wine that ultimately transformed me that I had only dreamed of.
experiences of my life thus far. was content with spending the majority of into a self proclaimed Zin bitch!
my days there. Great hiking trails, mineral The last time that I was in Sayulita was this
I traveled to the Central Coast as a freshly springs, an amazing beach, consistent blue Eating, drinking and enjoying the outdoors past summer and it is where I fell in love
single woman. I had spent the previous year skies, and one of the best coffee shops in was only part of this love affair, while devel- with the world again. Sayulita inspired me to
in a relationship with a man that to this day the county had me coming back time and oping an array of relationships was the other. live the life that I had envisioned. A life full
I adore. A one of a kind guy who I know is time again. I often asked myself, ‘what more Like minded people were in abundance, of passion and adventure where I have the
meant to be ‘one’ with another, as certainly could a girl ask for?’ which made the transition effortless. I went freedom to do what I love and love all that
as I know that when I left Washington, on so many first dates that if I never dated I do! As I travel there now, I have a concise
it was time for me to be ‘one’ with myself. Avila Beach is in fact my first true love; again, I would be perfectly content with vision as to what will come to fruition
Within months of us parting ways, he found however there were certain aspects of the that! I made many acquaintances, and some during this next segment of this journey.
the one for him...and I found me. He fell in surrounding areas that I also developed true friends that made my experience on the Ahhh to love again. How sweet it is!
love...and so did I. He fell in love with her,
feelings for. In Pismo Beach, I favored The Central Coast a time to remember. The inter-
and I fell in love with myself and the countyHoneymoon Cafe & Giuseppe’s. In Shell actions I had with people over the past five
of San Luis Obispo. Beach, The Cliffs Resort and Zoro’s. In months truly enriched my life and made a
San Luis Obispo, Novo & Granada Bistro lasting imprint on my heart. These newfound
One aspect of the Central Coast that I truly were two faves. In Morro Bay, hands down relationships will surely not be forgotten.
embraced was the versatility. Each coastal Shine Cafe and Taco Temple! And in North
town has something distinct to offer. Avila
Women’s Press May & June 2010 Local Perspectives 15
To Love Again
By Ashley Howard
During the drive down to Sayulita, I found Shine Cafe and Taco Temple! And in North
myself reflecting back on what a remark- County, I embarked on the most rewarding
able time I had in San Luis Obispo County. hike of all time on the Cerro Alto trail and
For maybe the first time in my life, time tasted some of the most sensational wine
did not fly by, nor stand still. Five months from countless wineries.
felt like five months, or at least what I
imagine 5 months should feel like outside I drank some of the most bold and beautiful
of living within a rat race. My time on the coffee on the central coast, and this says a
Central Coast, was just that- my time. I lot coming from a girl who just spent the last
lived in the moment. My moment. I had five years living south of Seattle, also known
some of the most incredible experiences of as the coffee capital! I consumed food that
my life thus far. awaked my palate out of a dead sleep, and
tasted wine that ultimately transformed me
I traveled to the Central Coast as a freshly into a self proclaimed Zin bitch!
single woman. I had spent the previous year
in a relationship with a man that to this day Eating, drinking and enjoying the
I adore. A one of a kind guy who I know is outdoors was only part of this love affair,
meant to be ‘one’ with another, as certainly while developing an array of relationships
as I know that when I left Washington, was the other. Like minded people were
it was time for me to be ‘one’ with myself. in abundance, which made the transition Photo by loleia
Within months of us parting ways, he found effortless. I went on so many first dates
the one for him...and I found me. He fell in that if I never dated again, I would be
love...and so did I. He fell in love with her, perfectly content with that! I made many
Milieu
and I fell in love with myself and the county acquaintances, and some true friends that By Kathy Bond behind the living room’s black wrought iron
of San Luis Obispo. made my experience on the Central Coast sculpture of a musical combo. They bright-
a time to remember. The interactions I ened the room on cold, cloudy winter days.
One aspect of the Central Coast that I truly had with people over the past five months As a baby, Angie would get a ‘Queen Angie hung pictures and sayings such as
embraced was the versatility. Each coastal truly enriched my life and made a lasting Victoria-I-am-not amused’ expression on her Live, Love, Laugh. She placed decorative tiles
town has something distinct to offer. Avila imprint on my heart. These newfound rela- face while sitting in her high chair when the around the fireplace. Christina wondered
Beach was the coastal town that I felt drawn tionships will surely not be forgotten. world didn’t please her. I have the photo to why her mother used her delicate, white,
to from the moment that I arrived. After prove it. At about age ten, her friend’s mis- gold-trimmed, lilac floral dishes. I thought
viewing several properties throughout the As we already know, relationships end, new matched tube socks pained her. As a teacher, Why not? We used the set’s large teapot on
county during the first few days after my relationships begin, people change- and in she enjoyed planning, arranging, and deco- at least two occasions.
arrival, I knew that Avila Beach was where the end, life goes on---and we continue to rating her classroom.
I would reside. For the first 3 months, I live. So even though my relationship with Jeremy, her father, hung a huge barn painting
must admit that I lived in what I now refer Central California has now come to an When the cancer spread to her lungs, Angie of cats next to the Duncan Phyfe table, a
to as an ‘Avila Bubble.’ Sure, just minutes end as I once knew it, my heart is secure in worked full-time but her house, and the family heirloom. Angie had used some of its
north and south of me were other coastal knowing that I’ll always have these memories landscaping and gardening around it, ran leaves the previous Thanksgiving, when her
towns worth becoming aquatinted with, but to reflect back on: memories of new friend- to seed. Nobody cleaned the rooms she’d sister, brother. and his family came.
because I lived in the canyon and worked at ships flourishing, memories of a plethora of painted and furnished. It looked and felt
the beach in breathtaking Avila, I naturally new and exciting experiences, memories of like a toxic-waste dump. She moved out. Finally, she needed curtains for her room.
was content with spending the majority of nourishing my body, mind, and soul in ways She had her brother install rods, and then
my days there. Great hiking trails, mineral that I had only dreamed of. Angie and her daughter Christina moved to she took her wedding gown, and removed
springs, an amazing beach, consistent blue a small, two-bedroom, two-bathroom apart- the sleeves and bodice. She cut the sheer
skies, and one of the best coffee shops in The last time that I was in Sayulita was this ment. organza panels and attached them to the
the county had me coming back time and past summer and it is where I fell in love rod with brass clips. The fabric shimmered
time again. I often asked myself, ‘what more with the world again. Sayulita inspired me to The new, small apartment proved easy to and lent a glow to the room, where we often
could a girl ask for?’ live the life that I had envisioned. A life full care for. It had white walls and a sunny read Compline from the Book of Common
of passion and adventure where I have the exposure. When Tim, her 14-year old son, Prayer.
Avila Beach is in fact my first true love; freedom to do what I love and love all that came on weekends, she had room for him.
however there were certain aspects of the I do! As I travel there now, I have a concise The location seemed ideal too, across from
She plied the Bereavement Counselor
surrounding areas that I also developed vision as to what will come to fruition a shopping center, and down the street from
with rice pudding, the Hospice nurse with
feelings for. In Pismo Beach, I favored The during this next segment of this journey. the new library and middle school, and near
hummus and veggies, and the Bahamian
Honeymoon Cafe & Giuseppe’s. In Shell Ahhh to love again. How sweet it is! Route 40. cable guy with iced tea. Other visitors
Beach, The Cliffs Resort and Zoro’s. In included her boss, family, and friends. She
San Luis Obispo, Novo & Granada Bistro I took the tiny white lights used for greeted everyone with a big smile, and didn’t
were two faves. In Morro Bay, hands down Christmas off the patio and draped them utter a word of complaint.
16 Local Perspectives Women’s Press May & June 2010
May I remind you? Have you forgotten? Who would have thought a tall blue
You are undeserving, you know. man with a wired tail could be so hot?
Others may deserve joy, but, after all, you are I am addicted to romantic adventures
not what you should be spiced with lively verbal dialogue. In the
and you know it. film Avatar, James Cameron has created
Just look at the rubble you’ve created, after all. a sweet love story in full kaleidoscope of
Remember the unmet goals, With new predictions colors encased under a huge tree canopy
unfinished projects,
unfulfilled expectations,
showing that by mid-year with heavy armory. This movie was
powerful to me because of the amazing
imperfect emotions... women will have surpassed imagination that the author had in
and you expect joy? creating this new world and characters
Really now, who are you kidding? men in the workforce, what for me to enjoy. I connected with the
After all, only the powerful, two young lovers and the challenges they
the driven, are your reactions? faced. It was a collaboration of skills,
the successful intellect, and instinct that helped the
deserve joy. Photo by Carl Dwyer two culturally diverse people overcome
Yes, yes, you have some noble attributes: Barbara Atkinson literally huge obstacles. I admire smart
intuitive compassion, men even if they work part-time, allow flex talking, confident, sassy women who
sensitivity, With the great gap that still exists between time and flex place when possible. Having can take care of themselves. I appreciate
empathy, the top level CEO’s and company employees, more of us in the workplace isn’t necessar- handsome, strong, and slightly bumbling
a passion for beauty. with the huge amount of conglomerates, and ily a statistic we can be proud of if we work men who step up to any challenge.
Nothing stellar, mere signposts on the road with the wage gap between men and women in an environment that does not respect and
to nowhere. still in effect, I suggest that more women in honor our being our children’s primary care- Weaving the current political and global
As for joy, you have to earn it! the workplace does not necessarily trans- giver and so offer flexibility and adequate environmental issues facing our world,
I...stop!!! Stop right here! Breathe. late into high-paying jobs or equality. More compensation. the story became even more acutely
Touching the silence in my soul, women in the workplace may also be reflect- meaningful to me. I thought it was a
the glowing core of my very being strengthens ing aspects of the difficult economic times Melanie Senn brilliant idea to send a message to the
with each breath. we are in. I am grateful for, and don’t deny, millions of people who will see this movie
The Past is enveloped by Present light. the progress that has been made, but there is Is this a boon for women’s lib or a consequence that we, as a nation, need to protect our
And, after all, still much to be done. of the tanked economy--or both? Or neither? natural resources and not let man’s greed-
my accuser does not have the final say. Hard to say. Women are working, in higher iness overwhelm us. I was humbled to
In the accuser’s silence, my soul allows God-words; Angie King numbers than men. Hmmmm. Are they still be reminded of the simple beauty of an
words of unconditional love, compassion earning $.75 on the dollar, these women? Are insect’s iridescent wings. We need to
and healing. Now, it would be nice if the women were men still contributing far less than women when remember that life is priceless. We need
Words whispered in spirit language pulse actually paid a wage equal to the men. April it comes to housework, cooking, and child care? to take care of each other regardless of
through my senses, 20th was equal pay day - that day in 2010 race, culture, religion, or politics. There
leaving healing in their wake. when women’s earnings finally reached the I support women working; I know I like to will be mistakes and casualties, but, hope-
I listen and I choose. same level of pay as men earned in 2009. work (I refuse to add the phrase “outside the fully, we will learn from them and move
I choose joy...after all. home”). In my case, I know that having a job forward again.
Angie King makes me a better person--and a better spouse
AND mother, but only because I really like As for the warrior couple, a battle of the
I don’t know if it changed my life, but it cer- my job. I hope the high numbers are women sexes has its merits and there is makeup
campfrench@aol.com tainly has had an impact, and that’s Mary Daly’s working because they want jobs, not because time afterwards to enjoy.
I have been a healthcare worker for over 30 years. Beyond God the Father: Toward a Philosophy they desperately need them.
I am empathetic to the many mid-life women of Women’s Liberation. published in 1973. The
who, like myself, are struggling to gain balance 70’s were a heady time in general, and she was Caroline Janney
in the midst of working, care-giving and a leader, acting on her principles and getting
coping with change. fired from Boston College in the process. She is/ I think it is wonderful that there are many
was (she just died this January) not afraid to say job opportunities for women. But it is not Next month our Voices
what we all felt. Check her out. so good that they have surpassed men in
the workforce just like they have surpassed around the Table question is:
Kathleen Deragon men in the Universities. Women would Where do you find the
like to find partners that are their equal. most peaceful place to visit
I’d be more interested in having statistics on Who wants a man without a job or without
how many of those jobs are family friendly: an education? This has been a problem for on the Central Coast?
part-time with benefits, allow job sharing, African American women for some time—
have child care onsite, pay women equal to they cannot find men who are their equals.
Women’s Press May & June 2010 Local Perspectives 17
Amazing Love
By Brooks Thoman able to raise funds to support the work or forward into marriage, we would only settle our list of “20 things that you do that make
have enough money to pay our own bills, for THE BEST, nothing less. And yet, I me feel loved” and planning our day off to
He sat across from me with sad, troubled or even about the work in China or Kenya had settled for far, far less…for myself, for really be a day off--together. Days float by
eyes, preoccupied with what? Was it worry, right now. What I really care about is what him, for us. Boldly I looked intently into into weeks and then into months and even
or loss, or maybe fear of what tomorrow is happening with us. I am frustrated about his big blue eyes and declared, “I’m sorry, years and all can be lost. In this moment,
might hold? I went ahead chattering on and our marriage. I really don’t know what else I’m so sad that I have caused you so much in this day, I’m so grateful that our love for
on about this and that hoping that with to do; you call it disconnection. I call it shut
pain. It wasn’t my intention. I didn’t mean each other has been found.
enough diversion I could somehow lighten off and separated. I miss you; I want you to hurt you or withdraw from you and our
his load and bring a smile to his face, but back and I’m at a complete loss as to what to marriage the way I have. I know I have been
no, the shadow still lingered there. I wished do about it.” mean and cruel at times and I’m sorry. It’s
just this once he wouldn’t carry that huge not what I want for you, for us, for our life Brooks Thoman is a wife and mom. She is
sack filled with such heavy burdens and we As I listened, I knew it was true. Emotions together. Please, please forgive me.” a missionary who has a passion for oppressed
could be young and light again, filled with began to swell within my inmost being and women, especially in Africa, where she has
carefree hearts only beating with love for my eyes filled with tears as I felt so sad at And, he did. He forgave. Then, we talked established a Women’s Vocational Training
each other and things above. the hurt I had caused the man I loved most about simplicity: simple tools we know that Center in Kenya.
in the whole wide world. Every word he was speak love into our marriage, like remaking
Eventually, I turned the subject to things saying and every word he wasn’t saying…all
that I thought might be of interest to him… true. I had become so self-focused, so self-
work about this and that and he half-heart- absorbed that all I had been thinking about
edly answered. Then he blurted out, “Yeah, was myself. He had tried to tell me before,
it’s all important, but none of it is as impor- but I hadn’t heard. I hadn’t wanted to hear.
tant to me as our relationship. What I Now I saw the depth of hurt I had caused.
really care about isn’t if we are going to be We had agreed some 15 years ago that to go
Coordinator’s Corner
an intense two days of discussion on the
By Angie King future of NOW, the future of women’s NOW Chapter # CA 565
rights, our place in the political arena, and PO Box 1306, SLO, CA 93406
The display at the SLO public library in a lot of laughter and camaraderie among SLONOW @ kcbx.net
March to commemorate Women’s History those attending. Here’s a picture of us at the http://groups.myspace.com/~slonow
Month got lots of attention for NOW conference (from L to R: Angie King, Pat General Meetings
and women. For those of you who didn’t Renshaw and Leslyn Keith).
get a chance to see it, here are a couple of 1060 Palm St., SLO
pictures. The Board of Supervisors issued a
proclamation in honor of Women’s History 3rd Tuesday of every month at 6:00 pm
Month as well, with a roomful of San Luis
Obispo County’s distinguished women in
the audience. It was quite a thrill!
NOW Goals
• Support reproductive choice
• Work to eliminate ALL violence against women
• Fight against sexual harassment
• Encourage tolerance and diversity
• Promote feminist issues
• Commemorate Roe v Wade (Jan 22)
There’s always more to do than time to do • Celebrate Women’s Equality Day (Aug 26)
it in! NOW needs you to help! Join us. Fill • Participate in Farmer’s Market
in the membership form in this paper, or • Support feminist politics
contact us at slonow@kcbx.net, or better yet
come to our meetings on the third Tuesday
You may have heard that the Cuesta College of the month, and be sure to come May 6 to
women’s tennis team got eliminated this the Ludwig Center for the Women’s Sports Get Involved — Join NOW!
year, as part of the budget cuts. That action program.
ran afoul of the requirement of federal law San Luis Obispo Chapter
that opportunities for participation in sports National Organization for Women
must be proportionate to the enrollment at
the school. Eliminating one women’s team
NOW Calendar Every woman doesn’t have to join NOW,
wholesale cuts that proportion below what • May 1: birthday of Mary Harris
is allowed. As a result, a Title IX federal (Mother Jones) labor activist, 1830 just the 142 million who are discriminated against!
complaint has been filed against Cuesta. • May 1: International Workers’ Day
The local chapter of NOW thinks this is an • May 6: International No Diet Day
important issue that merits more coverage • May 18: NOW regular meeting, 6 PM Name: _ ______________________________________________
than just one article in the paper and a Address: _____________________________________________
comment by the acting Cuesta College pres- • June 1: Equal Pay Act becomes law,
ident that they will not be having a public 1964 City/St/ZIP: __________________________________ _________
meeting about the issue. Well, if they won’t, • June 12: US Women’s Air force estab- Phone: ________________________________________________
NOW will! We have a public discussion lished, 1948
on this topic planned for May 6, although • June 15: NOW regular meeting, 6 PM Regular Dues ….$40, Sliding Scale…..$15-39
you may not get this issue of the newsletter • June 18: Sally Ride, first woman in
until after the event. Diane Milutinovich, a space, 1983
now retired athletic director of Fresno State • June 19: birthday of Aung San Suu Kyi, Send your check and this form to
University, filed the complaint and will (or Burmese activist, 1945
did) discuss it, along with California NOW • June 19: Juneteenth, anniversary of PO Box 1306
gender equity advisor, Linda Joplin. Emancipation Proclamation
• June 22: birthday of Dianne Feinstein,
SLO, CA 93406
The big event last month (April) was the 1933 Chapter # CA 565
California State NOW conference, with • June 22: Amelia Earhart files solo across slonow@kcbx.net Amount enclosed: _______
______
a chance to participate in a webinar of the Pacific Ocean, 1932
National NOW Board meeting. Three of • June 23: Title IX becomes law, 1972
us traveled to Irvine to participate. It was • June 27: birthday of Helen Keller, 1880
• June 28: NOW founded, 1966
20 NOW News Women’s Press May & June 2010
Reproductive Health News The obvious goal here is to present the Even in this charged debate, phony accusa-
Supreme Court with a new vehicle for tions of genocide should be out of bounds,
It has been three years since the Supreme - In Oklahoma, the Center for Reproductive further watering down Roe v. Wade. That is but political forces that oppose abortion
Court’s conservative majority abruptly Rights succeeded last week in blocking a troubling enough, but lately another tactic are pursuing a focused, often successful
departed from precedent to uphold a federal burdensome measure designed to discour- is being deployed to demonize abortion and campaign. Americans who support women’s
ban on a particular method of abortion. age abortions by requiring pre-procedure abortion providers and further polarize the reproductive rights need to make their
Emboldened, foes of reproductive freedom sonograms and exempting physicians from nation. Citing the disproportionately high voices heard. (from the NY Times)
are pressing new attacks on women’s rights liability for failing to disclose fetal abnor- number of African-American women who
and health. malities. But the ruling turned on a undergo abortions, for example, abortion And of course, the baseless attacks continue
technical flaw in the law, and its supporters foes are hurling baseless charges of genocide
about federal funding for abortions under
• In Utah, Gov. Gary Herbert, a Republican, are expected to try again. and racial discrimination. Since last year, the newly passed federal health care
has signed a bill that would criminalize a staff member of Georgia Right to Life (insurance) reform bill. While the Hyde
certain behavior by women that results in • An even more ominous assault on repro- has been traveling to black churches and amendment has prohibited the use of any
miscarriage. It was prompted by a sad and ductive freedom is looming in Nebraska. A colleges, spreading the lie that abortion federal money to pay for abortions for 35
strange case last year in which a teenager blatantly unconstitutional measure moving is the key to conspiracy to kill off blacks.years, the new bill makes it severely cumber-
who was seven months pregnant sought to through the State Legislature would ban Recently, the group posted dozens of bill- some to the point of near impossibility for
induce a miscarriage by hiring a man to beat abortions at 20 weeks’ gestation — before boards around Atlanta that proclaim, “Black a women with health insurance under the
her. The measure exempts lawful abortions, viability and earlier than constitution- children are an endangered species.” terms of the new bill, to obtain an abortion
and particularly worrisome language about ally allowed. Its narrow health exception even with her own money. It is high time,
“reckless” acts has been removed. But the excludes mental health. The bill prohib- In fact, of course, there is no conspiracy. says Patty Bellasalma, CA NOW state presi-
law still raises concern about zealous pros- its doctors from performing an abortion The real reason so many black women have dent, to work to repeal Hyde. NOW will be
ecutors using a woman’s difficult choices to to avoid a serious risk that the woman may abortions can be explained in four words: focusing on a campaign to do just that in
open an investigation. commit suicide. too many unwanted pregnancies. the coming months and year.
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