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Others of you
might have be
en
broken up wit
h. You might
still
be reeling wit
h shock.
Why? How co
uld he give up
?
You are sad, lo
nely and mis
s
him and mis
s the us you
used
to be.
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Youve probably noticed this with your friends when they breakup. They will
either be calling him a bastard or a dreamboat. I saw this often in my
interviews,* with people either thinking back very fondly of their ex or
thinking that the man could do no right.
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My story
After finding out about my ex Rat Bastard Brian was cheating on me, I was
embarrassed. I was taken like a fool and I was tempted to fudge the story. I
told myself very strictly that there was nothing I needed to be ashamed about the facts needed to be aired to take away the secrecy that goes with affairs.
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Youre lucky
you found out
now
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You threw a vase at him? Maybe it seems easier just to forget that
part rather than be honest about it!
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You may find that your confidence takes a tumble after your breakup. Your
inner critic cranks up her dialogue in your mind. She likes to appear when you
are going through tough times, whispering I told you so, in your ear.
Youre already down, feeling hurt and rejected, so she takes this weak moment
and sneakily starts in on the critiquing.
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You are no longer only facing just your recent breakup, instead your inner
critic dredges up past relationship failures, linking them all together. You no
longer only say I wish I could have made this thing with Dan work, instead it
escalates to I am a loser at relationships.
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Get angry! Find a mantra and yell it (in your head you dont want to
appear to have lost it) when your critic starts up drown out that voice!
Pick a phrase and get ready to rumble next time the critic starts up:
Shut the f*ck up!
2.
Liar!
Find an affirmation to replace the critic with. You might not believe the
words you are saying right away but still have something positive to say
after youve yelled your critic into submission:
Im doing the best that I can right now.
I am a survivor.
I am worth something.
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Whats next?
I will send you regular updates and keep in contact to see
how you are doing. I would love to get some feedback
from you, please leave a message on the board here or
send me a message if there is anything else you would
like me to cover or with any feedback about the book. If
you have a story to tell, I would love to hear it, and can
keep you anonymous. And (of course!) take a look at my
blog: www.thebreakupbitch.com.
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3 Simple Steps
to Getting Over
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