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Video One
The overt content is about; Language as a filter, Using presuppositions in language and Logical levels.
The Covert Content for Video One Includes:
Various patterns to reframe or install beliefs including:
Before we start
Open loop metaphors
What I think you are telling me
Pace, Future Pace, Solution to bridge between
Video Two
The Overt Content includes:
How to keep relaxed and focused on your audience even in the worst conditions
How to see inside the mind of your audience
Getting the audience on your side
Presenting the benefits even when there appears to be none
The two questions that sets up your presentation to automatically reach your objectives
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Video Three
The Overt Content Continues with:
Using Perceptual Positions to get the best from your presentations
Rapport and authority building tactics
Exerting covert control using a good pause
Charisma Patterns to draw your audience in
Using the rule of three so your audience gets the message
Peripheral Vision to keep hold of your emotions regardless of what is going on in the room
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Video Four
The overt content includes:
Feedback Model giving yourself good feedback
How to pitch an elevator pitch
Demonstrating using language patterns to coach (facilitating Derek and the difficulty in
getting him to reflect)
Live coaching demos linguistic patterns with a purpose
How to memorise your notes and access them while presenting
Impromptu presentations using case studies
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Before We Start
Course Design
Here are some ideas about the design of this presentation skills course. As a preframe, consider a
presentation that you are likely to deliver and how you would use these design elements.
The Audience
I know that these six students have a mixed range of knowledge and experience within the
organisation, both of the company products and services and the number of presentations they have
given.
I know that they have all given presentations but none of them enjoy it and will avoid doing it if
possible. I also know that they all want to be better at delivering presentations. I had spoken to
several of these guys before designing the course.
Presenting Problems
At the beginning of the course the majority of their driver is "away from" thinking. It is not that they
want to be good at presentations; it is that they dont want to be bad. The implications for course
design are that part of the course needs to be about getting them to let go of the fear that drives the
away from behaviour and then to give them a structure to develop their skills.
How do they know that they have changed? With presentation skills this can be easily achieved by
filming some presentations at the beginning and then filming them again at the end. If the course
works then it is immediately obvious.
I like doing this for any course that I develop. I really want the students to know what success looks
like and notice that they have reached it by the end of the course. There is another advantage to
filming the students at the start. If we are going to deal with all their negative emotions around
presentations it is important that they have those emotions up and that they recognise them. Being
filmed is a source of anxiety for people that are not confident in their ability. By adding this in to the
mix I can make sure that they are out of their comfort zone. The obvious downside to filming though
is the amount of time it takes, hence only six delegates.
Objectives
By the end of the course the students will:
Obviously you can check how well I achieved these objectives by going through the video.
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Often what they are asking for and what I have designed for the course are similar but not exactly
the same. In those cases I will start reframing either the content or their perception of the content
until I get a good fit. Notice I am doing this sort of fiddling with their notions of confidence.
It happens rarely but if what they are asking for is completely outside of the scope of the course you
will need to tell them it is outside the scope and then start objections handling. My usual pitch is the
redefineI agree (insert their issue) is important and the issue isnt about the importance of that
but about how (insert major disaster) if we dont learn how to (insert most important skills). How
can you see this new skills helping you with (insert their issue)?
Obviously the last connection between what you are presenting and what they want to talk about I
would only use if I can already see a connection. But if you can then that would work perfectly.
I prefer working with small groups because I can get in the middle of them and be highly interactive.
Exactly as I am doing with these guys. As a rough rule of thumb the more people there are the less
interactive you can be. If there were 20 to 30 people in the room I may pose the questions and break
them into groups to discuss and give feedback to me. A larger group and I will still pose the
questions and perhaps take some answers from the floor. If we are talking 500+ sized group I am
likely to ask the questions rhetorically and look for an agreement frame for my answers.
0:11:30 to 0:13:11
I know Thomas is not the only one that wants to talk about confidence so here I am reframing the
whole confidence issue. What I have done to Thomas is put his big thing on the flipchart whilst
simultaneously giving him a different way of thinking about it. I have suggested that the state
doesnt exist and he doesnt need itbut lets keep it on the chart for the moment because we can
leverage off that.
Before he can ask what I mean by that I have moved on to someone else. To learn you have to step
outside the boundaries of your knowledge. That inevitably means some level of confusion before
you grasp the next thing. What I have done is I have taken their notion of confidence, left them with
an internal representation of it being completely different to their normal experience of it and then
moved on before they can fully explore it.
0:15:20 to 0:18:10
And we are back at confidence. I knew this was to be their biggest thing and I prefer to hit it in small
chunks. At this point I dont really want to make a big thing of dealing with itremember that from
their perspective they have not yet started the course.
This time we are exploring what gives them confidence. Sadly, there is a lot of road noise at this
point. But the gist of the discussion was that previously when I spoke to a couple of them they
mentioned that particular presentations, specifically when doing redundancy exercises (they are a
company specialising in distressed businesses), they are comfortable dealing with that.
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I was pointing out that most presenters would not have the confidence to deal with that situation
well, but these guys seem to be okay with it. So now I am contrasting back and forth between
different situations and pointing out confidence in some and not in others, as well as different
people reacting differently. I am covertly loosening their hold on what confidence actually is and
making sure they understand that confidence is
context dependent.
The last thing I do is show them the two coffee cup
sleeves. Before the cameras were on I showed
them the coffee cup holders. Grab two and hold
one above the other like I did on the video. You will
notice that the top one appears smaller.
This is just an optical illusion based on the shape.
The two sleeves are exactly the same size but the
bottom one looks a lot bigger. It is a great optical
illusion and you could use it as a visual metaphor
for whatever you want.
I usually use it for things like how pre-existing
beliefs and assumptions distort our view of what is
actually happening.
0:18:15 to 0:19:10
Antonia mentions her fear of looking stupid. Derek helpfully tells us that we all have it. The great
thing with this is it gives me the opportunity to let everyone know that everyone suffers from some
sort of fear and that there are a whole range of them. This serves me several purposes all in one go. I
am sort of building this upremember I want them to feel the fear before taking it away from them.
But I am also loosening this up so they can let go of it. I deliberately picked on the fear of having my
flies open (the zip in your trousers) to make light of the situation.
0:21:55 to 0:22:30
And here is me shutting the trap, So if we dealt with all of that in two days would that do it for
you?
You can seal the deal in lots of different ways. If needed you might ask for some commitment e.g.
Well to get through all of this we need to stay tightly on focus so you will have to (insert whatever
you want them to do) is that okay?
This is just a standard conditional close, I will deliver all of this great material so long as you agree
to stay focused, interact, do all the exercises etc.
But my favourite set up is slightly different and is what I do on the video. I am telling them we have
enough time to cover even more, so feel free to add a little more. If they think of things to add they
are following my presupposition that there is space for more. In essence my structure is to create
what looks like an impossibly large list of things to cover in the time and then tell them that it we can
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easily add a little more to it. If they add more stuff they are accepting that it is not that large, and by
implication, not a difficult task to get done in the time allocated.
Of course I have stacked the deck. I already know what they are going to say, I have already designed
the course to cover everything they want. As we have put things on the flip chart I have deliberately
chunked them in to more detail so it seems like a lot more, reframed all their points in to what I
want to speak about or taken them off the list for being out of scope of the course. The net result is
they have a seemingly amazing large list of things to cover and I have already fitted it into what I am
going to speak about.
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Another linguistic variation on this is the Feel Felt Found pattern. I know you are feeling a little odd
thinking through this pattern, many people felt the same before they found themselves laughing at
how easy it is to use.
Here is a typical sales variant:
I can understand how you might feel the product is expensive, many of our clients felt the same
before they stated using the product and then they found themselves getting a huge return on
investment.
And a training version:
You may not feel confident about trying this out yet. Many people felt the same way at the start of
learning a new skill. And obviously once people are successfully using the skill you will suddenly find
yourself thinking very differently as you think back on today as the day when you first started
developing this skill. (Sorry I just cant help myself. You can untangle the knot of patterns there for
yourself.)
The key to this structure is pacing existing problems and ending with current desires. In terms of this
course it is a very real situation where the students actually see the changes in themselves.
Ive heard of some coaches filming their clients talking about the problem and then showing them
the film when they have resolved the situation. I think this could be a great convincer.
There is a lot going on in this ten minutes, but most of it is pretty obvious. Here is another of my
favourite patterns for us to focus on that I use here, I have a lot of material. It is all useful but not
always relevant. If you want the best of me, you will need to keep me focused on what you want to
get from the course. So interact with me
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Debriefing Presentations
Originally I was going to cut out the whole presentations and the debriefing as it doesnt add much
value. I changed my mind as I watched the debriefings because there is much to see about language
patterns in this coaching and training environment.
0:33:00 to 0:35:20 - Derek
So my opening question How do you feel?
This is just to open him up, get him talking and make sure that he is not broken or damaged from the
experience. Notice that as quickly as I can, without making Derek feel unlistened to, I close him
down and move to my agenda - the next question.
The Second Question What would have made that even better for you?
Check what is presupposed in the question. Notice that Dereks immediate answer is something that
is outside of his control. Whilst it is a valid answer to the question it is not something that I could
use. So I just made the question more specific.
Dereks answer is feeling like he wasnt interacting with his audience. I use that to build it into a
bigger problem, reading scripts where you cant take your eyes off it in case you lose your place, not
being able to look at your audience and then sweep it away with thatWell we will deal with all
that. I am just making sure that Derek knows that we will be dealing with the problem.
I build up the importance of the next question and pre frame its importance. The question itself
(What would make it better for the audience?) is designed to covertly get Derek to sit in the heads of
his audience.
I am obviously taking Derek through a perceptual positions exercise. At this point it is very light
touch so we dont look at the third position. If we were going to look at third position, I would ask a
question that forced Derek to consider the experience from a systemic or process perspective.
Perhaps something like, What evidence can you supply for how well you hit your objectives? I have
not asked that question because at this point in time I am not entirely sure that the group will
understand objectives well enough in this context to give me a good answer.
0:35:20 to 0:36:40 - Alan
I started the debrief of Alan with an appeal for evidence from the audience. I had spoken to Alan a
number of times before the course and I knew one of his big things was not just about being nervous
but appearing nervous in front of the audience. An easy way of dealing with that was to get the
audience reaction, knowing full well that he looked far better than he felt.
I am asking the same two questions of everyone. I am engraining them into thinking about those two
questions, What would make it better for me? and, What would make it better for my audience?
Alans responses to the two questions are precise and dont need elaborating.
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transition in to the How. But we dont actually get to doing the How completely. A proper How
would be the students actually applying the model to something.
What I want to do to the students is leave them on something that makes them want to come back
for the afternoon. So I am very deliberately ending the session with a "these are all the great things
you can do with the model and we will look at that once you get back from lunch".
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Rapport Building
We will cover rapport building techniques in the next video and for the moment check out the fact
that I am demonstrating a structure that inevitably builds rapport. If you use nothing other than
structuring your presentation this way you will automatically be building rapport.
Remember, I started with two metaphors that highlighted the problem, told my audience that I was
like them but maintained my authority and then led them through an exercise of finding out what
they want so I can give it to them.
Trance
I havent mentioned the trance elicitations that i employed after about the first ten minutes. There
are several more. If you havent noticed them, run through the video again and notice where, when,
how and most importantly why.
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Remember that exercise at the end of the first video? Another version of it is to look at yourself in a
situation where you have the resources to get the results and then look at the difference with the
situation where you want the skills.
When designing this course I already knew they were good presenters in this context and my
experience at developing presenters meant I already knew the difference that made the difference.
It is simply that they had a process or structure to follow and the confidence to use it.
Conceptually one of the things I am doing here is rubbing their faces in the fact that they are good in
this one specific circumstance and the reasons why they are good. And then to get them to
generalise that for other types of presentations. If we got this right we wouldnt even need any
content.
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A sales student might look at how they sold an idea in a debating class.
A persuasion student might look at how they talked a lecturer in to giving an extension on an
assignment.
A managerial student might look at a time when they convinced their children to go to bed
on time.
Once you have this you just need to draw links and build bridges to applying the same skill set in the
context that you want it in. Obviously I am working a training room with a small audience that I can
interact with. If you are doing a presentation to several thousand, I will be looking for universal
experiences that I can use for the same thing.
For example have you ever been in a conversation and suddenly completely forgot what you
were about to say? I dont know about you but it happens to me all the time. The thing I
want to check with you is when it happened was anyone ever hurt, maimed or killed as a
result? They never have been with me.
The thing that usually happens is I think about the conversation so far and hopefully it jogs
my memory and I can pick up from where we left the conversation. Sometimes I cant even
remember the thread and so I have to start a new one to carry the conversation.
Interestingly it hasnt always been the same when I do presentations but I have noticed over
the years the more I do, the less I am concerned about what I will do when I lose track. I still
lose track a lotthere is a lot going on in my head and it is hard keeping track of all the
voices but still no one has been hurt, killed or even injured as a result. The plus point Ive
noticed is that the less bothered I am about it the easier I remember my track. And even
when I dont I can move on to the next topic.
I think the important point is that this will happen to you as part of everyday conversations
and it will happen to you as a presenter. Get on with it and move on because if you have the
structure right, a process to follow and some good content for your audience, the fact that
you stumble a few times makes you quaint, eccentric and a little different. And audiences
love that.
See, if you can get a universal experience you can even make it work in writing. Shared problems are
also great rapport builders as we discovered in the first video.
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confident and now I have given them even more structure that they have played with. All that is left
to do is make sure that they know they have changed.
I am surprised at how cool, calm and collected I look considering this is the total nub of the course. I
relax a little when Antonia really demonstrates that she has got it.
This is the beauty of starting with a question like, What is my audience saying or doing at the end
that they werent at the beginning? This shapes a perfect presentation outcome and it is
measurable.
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Over to You
As you can see I have a cupboard stacked full of metaphors in my mind. They are all neatly stacked
under different theme, points and purposes. And they are ready to pull out whenever I need them. I
think this is a great resource to have and would suggest that you start building that library.
If you have done the Advanced Persuasion Patterns Course (APP) go through the section on Incident
Point Benefit.
If you have not done the APP then start with a benefit you want to convey. Perhaps you are in sales
in an area where there are lots of cowboys and you want to convey an air of trust and mutual
cooperation. Look for a story from your experience that conveys that benefit. Perhaps you worked
with one customer and gave them a cheaper product because it better suited their needs.
Once you have the story then work it in to two, possibly three versions. One that is 30 second bare
bones. One that is your normal couple of minute telling version. And if appropriate a bigger one with
the emotions, the open loops and the rollercoaster of emotions. Obviously the third version is
reserved for stories that you might use in sequence like the ones I used at the beginning of the
course.
Once you have a few stories under your belt in this way do the exercise in reverse. Find a story that
you would be happy to tell. Then look for the point that it illustrates. Again you can then start
building it in to these two or three versions.
Within an hour or so you will have a great starting library of metaphors that are all filed and labelled
and ready to use.
But now the extra clever bit is start thinking of the sequence of internal representations that you are
taking the listener through. Think about the pre frames, the embedded commands and beliefs you
want to install. Then start to redesign those metaphors with those ideas in mind.
Pretty soon you will have a powerhouse of powerful and incredibly covert persuasion tools.
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Sadly the video finishes just before I open some loops over what they will do for the next day. They
may never find the body of the cameraman.
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Over to You
Now you are at the end of the first report this would be a good time to pause and reflect on what
you have got so far. Remember at the beginning of this report I asked you to list the things you want
to get from this course?
Well, how much have you got?
What are you saying and doing differently as a result of what you have learnt?
Would now be a good time to put together some action plans to integrate some of these new
insights, skills and intentions? If now is not the best time to do it then when is the best time to get it
done?
I suggest what you might do some of this down in to small skills that you can practice in live
conversations. Then set up a timetable where you can go out and deliberately start conversations to
practice with.
The most important thing is to relax, have fun and notice just how much you are improving your
skills.
Once you are ready Ill see you in the next report where we will get stuck in towell you know
exactly what I am doing here so just imagine I opened exactly the right loops to have you desperate
to start the next report right now.
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