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Scientists discover where Titus
breached Jerusalem walls
Wackiest bagel flavors of 2016

l Remember the rainbow bagel
craze that hit New York earlier this
year? Well, the story didnt stop
there. A proliferation of over-the-top
cereal- and cake-inspired bagels have
followed in its wake.
The goal, it seems, isnt to create
the most delicious bagel with cream
cheese, but to create the most photogenic and potentially viral one. The
more colors it has, the more impossible to eat it is, the better. Social media likes are transforming the humble
bagel and cream cheese into something just as indulgent as ice cream
sundaes and milkshakes.
But the Oreo bagel thats actually

stuffed with Oreos is venturing into
some uncharted bagel territory. I
am both terrified of and concerned
about what might come next.
Black and White Truffle

Burger Bagel
Bagel Store and Black Tap collaboration, Brooklyn
The black and white bagel, stacked
high with bacon, egg, cheese, and
a burger, and dripping with black
truffle oil, probably could come only
from Black Tap. On Sundays only,
at Williamsburgs Bagel Store, you
can brunch on this hardcore black
sesame and sea salt-sprinkled creation for $19. The bagel itself is probably the most goth one of the bunch.
(Clearly this ones not kosher!)
l It is a battle that is long remembered.

Now its battlefield has been located.
Archaeologists say they have found
where a Roman army breached the
walls of Jerusalem in the year 70 C.E.,
leading to the destruction of the city
and of the Second Temple.
The new finds were made during an
excavation in the Russian Compound
in the center of the modern Jerusalem,
where a new campus of the Bezalel
Academy of Arts and Design is to be
built.
The archaeologists say they discovered the remains of a tower jutting
from the ancient city wall. (Todays Old
City walls date to only 1537.) Opposite
the towers western facade they found
scores of formidable-looking round
stones, which they believe were fired
from Roman catapults toward the Jewish guards defending the wall. Pottery
discovered at the site suggests this
battlefield dates back to Roman times.
This is a fascinating testimony of the
intensive bombardment by the Roman army, led by Titus, on their way
to conquering the city and destroying

the Second Temple, archaeologists
Dr. Rina Avner and Kfir Arbib said in a
statement. The bombardment was intended to attack the sentries guarding
the wall and provide cover for the Roman forces so they could approach the
wall with battering rams and thereby
breach the citys defenses.
The Israel Antiquities Authority scientists say their discovery could end an
unresolved debate about the war. The
historian Josephus, an eyewitness to the
war, wrote about a Third Wall of Jerusalem, noting it was designed to protect
a neighborhood called Beit Zeita, which
was built outside the citys boundaries.
King Agrippa I of Judea is said to
have begun building the Third Wall.
Two decades later, the project, which
had been left unfinished until then, was
completed, on the eve of the Great Revolt against Rome.
Until now, no one has known either
how long the Third Wall stretched or
Jerusalems boundaries at the time.
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Its not a real potato pudding unless you

grate a couple of knuckles into it.
Shirley Jackson, author of The Lottery, writing about her
Jewish mother-in-laws kugel recipe, as quoted in Tablet
AT THE MOVIES:
American Pastoral
deserves a peek
American Pastoral, from the
PHILIP ROTH novel
of the same name, had
its opening date changed
to October 21 fairly
recently, so I didnt write
about last week. The bad
news is that it could be
out of theaters as you
read this. The qualified
good news is that
reviews were either bad
or mixed and its probably not worth spending
the extra money for a
theater viewing. Still, its
worth at least a rental
because of all the Jewish
plot content.
Ewan McGregor stars
as Seymour Swede Levov. In the mid-1940s, his
athletic skills make him a
hero to other Jewish high
school students, who
nickname him Swede
because of his Nordic
good looks. His charmed
life continues as he marries a non-Jewish beauty
queen (JENNIFER CONNELLY, 45) and becomes
a successful businessman. But things go terribly awry in the late 60s
when his daughter (Dakota Fanning) disappears
after being accused of
a Vietnam War-related
violent act.
An interesting sidelight: McGregor, who
also directed Pastoral,
recently spoke to the
San Francisco Chronicle
about his Jewish family
ties. He said that after
the interview he was returning to Los Angeles to
observe Yom Kippur with
his wife, designer EVE
MAVRAKIS, 40ish, and

their four Jewish daughters. He said he hasnt
converted It would be
a false move on my part
because I was never religious but he added,
he assisted with his girls
Sunday school and bat
mitzvahs. He concluded,
It is my childrens heritage. I go with my wife if
she is taking the kids to
synagogue. I enjoy the
discussion of the Torah
and the rules people are
to observe.
The coverage of
comedian AMY
SCHUMER, 35,
went into hyperdrive
recently when she made
a number of anti-Trump
jokes at a October 16
stand-up performance in
Tampa, Fla. A number of
audience members
walked out. Two days
later, Schumer issued a
fake apology letter to
those who felt offended.
(It dripped with sarcasm.)
Back in April, I wrote
about contacting a rabbi
who had written an article about Schumers
Hebrew school days and
presiding over her bat
mitzvah. I was confused
about reports that Amy
was half Jewish. As diplomatically as I could, I
asked him if Amys mother was a convert to Judaism. The rabbis brief
reply: Sandra Schumer
is Jewish.
Recently, I was referred to a long profile
of Schumer in the July
issue of Vogue magazine.
Phillip Roth
Jennifer Connelly
Eve Mavrakis
Amy Schumer
It included an in-depth
interview. The reporter
noted near the start of
the profile that Amys
mother had converted
to Judaism before marrying her first husband,
the father of Amys older
half-brother, JASON
STEIN, 40ish. By the way,
Sandra has been married
to (and divorced from)
three Jewish men: Jasons father, Amys father,
GORDON, and a Persian Jew. In her recent
memoir, The Girl with
the Lower Back Tattoo,
Schumer writes that her
mother was briefly married to a Persian Jew
long after her parents
marriage ended.
Variety is out with
its list of the annual
salaries (sometimes
estimated) of many TV
stars. Here are the
top-ten tribe members:

Judge JUDY SHEINDLIN,
73, 47M (million); MATT
LAUER, 58, 22-25M;
SIMON HELBERG, 35, of
Big Bang Theory, 18M
(24 episodes); ADAM
LEVINE, 37, of The
Voice, 13-15M; Netflix
talk show host CHELSEA
HANDLER, 41, 10M; JUDY
KAVNER, 66, voice of
Marge Simpson, The
Simpsons (22 episodes),
6.3M; JONAH HILL, 32,
3.5M for 10 episodes of
Maniac, an upcoming
Netflix series; JOEL
KINNAMAN, 36, 3.15M for
10 episodes of Altered
Carbon, an upcoming
Netflix series; JEFFREY
TAMBOR, 72, 2.75M for
Transparent (10
episodes); JEFF GARLIN,
54, of The Goldbergs,
2.1M (24 episodes).
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Reading Genesis
Scholar compiles views of Bibles
first book through many lenses
I found that first lecture amazing, Dr. KisComedian Aaron Freeman
sileff said. I remember what it was about,
likes to say that Judaism is
the things she quoted.
the worlds longest running
It was about Parashat
book club. Five books a year,
Pikudei. She quoted
year after year, century after
the novelist Milan Kuncentury.
dera. I thought it was
And always the same five
Dr. Beth Kissileff
amazing, someone who
books.
knows so much about
Count Dr. Beth Kissileff
Jewish texts and also modern knowledge.
among the eager readers and boosters
Three years later, Dr. Kissileff was back
of the club, which just celebrated finishing Deuteronomy and beginning Genesis.
in Jerusalem, taking courses at Hebrew
Again.
University in Bible and midrash. Some of
Last year Dr. Kissileff she earned a
them counted toward her graduate studies, then under way at the University of
Ph.D. in comparative literature published Reading Genesis, a collection
Pennsylvania. This time, she went to Dr.
of 22 essays examining the biblical book
Zornbergs classes twice a week.
She brings a variety of modern texts
from the perspectives of a variety of
to bear on Tanach, Dr. Kissilef said. I
fields. Theres Alan Dershowitz writing
feel that what Im doing is an outgrowth
about justice and Abraham, and Dr. Ruth
of that.
Westheimer writing about Adam and Eve,
That approach, however, turned out not
and novelist and literary critic Ilan Stavans
to be desired at the University of Pennsylwriting about the Tower of Babel. And also
vanias graduate program in Bible.
there are lesser known political scientists
I wrote a paper about Deuteronomy
and neuroscientists and anthropologists
chapter 21, the egla arufa the ritual of
bringing their expertise to bear on the biblical book that started it all.
killing a calf when a traveler is killed by an
Its so exciting to get to start and end
unknown murderer. The professor said
reading the Torah every year, Dr. Kissileff
my ideas are coming too much from elsewhere. I said thats really true. My interest
said. Theres always more to know. As
in the Bible is in how ideas from elsewhere
deeply as you can know it, you can always
come into the Bible and change how we
go deeper. And in going deeper, you can
view it and how we access it.
always learn more.
You can call my book Ideas About the
Dr. Kissileff will be speaking on the book
Bible From Elsewhere.
on Monday, October 31, in Teanecks Congregation Beth Sholom the congregation
She ended up getting her Ph.D. from
where she grew up and where her parents
the department of comparative literature,
are still members. (Her father, Harry Kiswriting her dissertation on how Protessileff, has a chapter in the book offering a
tant translations of the psalms affected the
A Neuropsychological Interpretation of
poetry of such writers as George Herbert
Adam and Eve.)
and John Milton.
She taught for a number of years at
Part of my motivation for the book is to
colleges including the University of Minshow intelligent intellectual engaged Jews
nesota. Now she writes and lives in Pittsthat theres a lot thats valuable in the Bible
burgh, with her husband and two of their
that they can learn from, she said.
three daughters; the oldest is in college.
If any one person shaped Dr. Kissileffs
Her first novel, Questioning Return,
understanding of how to read the Bible,
comes out next month. It is about a gradit would be Dr. Aviva Zornberg, whose
uate student studying baalei teshuva in
classes on the weekly Torah portion Dr.
Jerusalem.
Kissileff discovered while studying in Jerusalem, at the Conservative movements
The direct genesis of Reading Genesis
yeshiva, during her junior year of college.
came from a Rosh Hashanah dvar Torah
Youre an English major; youll like
from a fellow academic several years ago.
her, a fellow student told her. That was
I asked him what he said in the dvar
in 1988, when Dr. Zornberg was still a JeruTorah, she said. It wasnt particularly
salem word-of-mouth phenomenon, seven
interesting until he got to some of his political science ideas and how they shaped the
years before she won the National Jewish
Akeida, the story of the binding of Isaac.
Book Award for The Beginning of Desire:
SEE GENESIS PAGE 54
Reflections on Genesis.
LARRY YUDELSON
Praying for
the election
Temple Emanuel in Franklin Lakes
will blend U.S. history with Jewish
values during Friday night services
Rabbi Prouser is not
a historian by training
To understate, this has
but American history
been an unusually toxic
seems to be a magnet for his interest, a
election season.
recurrent theme in my
No matter what your
rabbinate, he said;
party or whom your candidate, the hurled insults
he frequently finds
and dripped scorn have
himself drawn to the
l e f t s c o rc h e d e a r t h
places where Jewish
behind. It cant possibly
and American values
end soon enough.
intersect.
Rabbi Joseph Prouser
That certainly will be
of Temple Emanuel of
true next Friday night.
Rabbi Joseph Prouser
Rabbi Prouser plans
North Jersey in Franklin
to structure the eveLakes isnt going to wait
ning as a traditional Friday night seruntil the election, on Tuesday, November 8, is over to start the necessary healvice, he said. A few lines from 10 presiing process. Instead, on the Friday night
dents Washington, Madison, Adams,
before thatll be November 4 he
Lincoln, among others will be read
plans to include prayers and quotes from
during Kabbalat Shabbat. Most of
American history, offering an opportuthe longer texts will come in place of
nity to step back and think deeply about
Bameh Madlikin, the Mishnah about
the steps that we are going to be taking,
the specifics of candle lighting that
he said.
many shuls most of them Orthodox
I specifically wanted to address the
read between the end of Kabbalat
issue in the context of prayer, rather
Shabbat and the beginning of Arvit; he
than debate or study or some other pubhopes that a discussion will follow.
lic forum, because I believe that Jewish
Those readings are the work of figures as diverse as Rabbi Stephen Wise,
prayer has three important elements,
Bob Dylan, and the Netherlands Queen
Rabbi Prouser, who is Conservative,
Juliana. There also is a quote from Marcontinued. In prayer, we aspire to our
garet Chase Smith, the Republican from
higher selves, we recognize that we have
Maine who was in Congress, first in the
a responsibility that goes beyond ourselves to a greater good, and this part
House and then in the Senate, for 30
I think is unique to Jewish prayer it
years, was the first woman to be a presidential candidate, and was such a powputs us in touch with our history as well
erful and articulate spokesperson for
as our hopes. So much of Jewish prayer
American governance and the Ameriis not petitionary or confessional, but
can dream, Rabbi Prouser said. She
immerses us in our past.
was the only woman member of ConI think that as Americans, heading
gress at the time, and the first member
into this election in particular, getting
in touch with our higher selves and feeling responsible for the history that is
What: Pre-Election Day Prayers
entrusted to us, that is in our temporary
Where: Temple Emanuel of North
safekeeping, is critical.
Jersey, 558 High Mountain Road,
And yes, he added, in this case, the
Franklin Lakes
history hes talking about is American
When: Friday, November 4, at 6:30
history.
p.m.
What are the values and ideals that
What else: Shabbat family dinner
animate the American experiment?
follows; registration required by
These are the historical ideas that people
Monday, October 31.
should be grappling with. What repreFor information or dinner
sents the best of our history? What repregistration: www.tenjfl.org or (201)
resents continuity with the vision of the
560-0200.
best of our history and our founders?
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of Congress to denounce Joe McCarthy.
She did so in a speech that was clear,
forceful, straightforward, and extraordinary. It took a great deal of courage,
he said. She was a Republican, but she
did not want to see her party come into
power on what she called the four horsemen of calumny fear, ignorance, bigotry
and smears.
I specifically
wanted to address
the issue in the
context of prayer,
rather than
debate or study
or some other
public forum.
Rabbi Prouser plans to conclude the service with the words of the Reverend Peter
Marshall, who was chaplain of the United
States Senate from 1947 to 1949. Im a real
Margaret Chase Smith
Abraham Lincoln
fan of his, Rabbi Prouser said.

Save our leaders, O God, from themselves and from their friends even as
Thou hast saved them from their enemies,
Rev. Marshall wrote, just a few years after
the end of World War II. Let no personal
ambition blind them to their opportunities, he continued, as he could have at any
time in the worlds history. Help them to

give battle to hypocrisy wherever they find
it. Give them divine common sense and a
selflessness that shall make them think of
service, not of gain.
Rabbi Prousers service will be not
only bipartisan but actively apolitical. He
advises people to leave all political buttons,
shirts, hats, and other regalia at home.

I hope that this service will be an event
where people from a variety of different
perspectives can participate in a cooperative and affirming manner, he said.
Everyone is welcome to the service, but
I specifically did not invite any public
figures, Rabbi Prouser said. It really is
intended as a focused exercise of prayer
in preparation for a consequential event
that requires prayer, and that requires us
to really think about who we are and what
stands we are required to take.
Or, as George Washington said, I now
make it my most earnest prayer, that
God would include our hearts to entertain a brotherly affection and love for
one another, for our fellow citizens of the
United States at large.
As James Monroe said, Let us by all
wise and constitutional measures promote intelligence among the people
as the best means of preserving our
liberties.
And as Abraham Lincoln said, Having chosen our course, without guile and
with pure purpose, let us renew our trust
in God, and go forward without fear.
All these quotes, and many more, will
be included in Rabbi Prousers service.
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Fifty Shades of Talmud

Novelist Maggie Anton comes to North Jersey to talk about her new book
JOANNE PALMER
ere all full of ideas and knowledge and

images that swirl together in our brains
all the time. Most of the time we dont pay
much attention to it, but the whirlpool
just plops something irresistible out at us.
And there it is, glistening at our feet, foam-covered,
waiting. In this case, its Fifty Shades of Talmud: What
the First Rabbis had to Say about You-Know-What, a
short book thats taking its author, Maggie Anton, on
a book tour that will include Jersey City and Fair Lawn
(see box).
Ms. Anton, the novelist who wrote the Rashis Daughters triloy and the more recent Rav Hisdas Daughter
(and who has a wide-ranging intellect she also is a clinical chemist and worked in that ield for three decades),
has been entranced by the Talmud since she irst encountered it 25 years ago. Shes studied it seriously ever since
in fact, and non-coincidentally, one of her teachers, irst in
class settings and then in chavruta, was Rabbi Aaron Katz,
at whose shul she will be speaking next week and used
much of what shes learned in her books.
The Talmud is huge, though; much of what shes
learned (and continues to learn) has been stored in her
brain. Swirling. Coming closer and closer to the surface
And here it is.
I was doing a massive book tour, and I was speaking
to a whole bunch of Hadassah branches, Ms. Anton said.
Typically, men dont come to these meetings. I was telling
them about some of the interesting things that Id learned.
A lot of it was what the rabbis said about sex. When youre
talking only to women, you can say a lot more than you
can if its mixed.
And then a lot of them said You really should write
about it. Even though the odds are that many of her readers will be men.
As she knew, the rabbis in the Talmud say a great deal
about a huge number of subjects. Sex is among them.
At irst, it was so surprising to me, how progressive the
rabbis were, Ms. Anton said. We are talking about guys
who lived more than 1,500 years ago, more or less. (The
Mishna, the Talmuds inner section, was compiled about
200 CE, and the Gemara, which surrounds, explicates,
and dances its ideas into wild intellectual and fanciful
flourishes, was compiled around 500 CE.)
So I thought that I really could write Fifty Shades of
Talmud, she said.
And the ideas came flying at her.
I immediately realized how I could do the cover, she
said. I will just substitute the tallit for the tie.

Someone later said that I really should have used teillin, she added. But I said, irst of all, many people wont
recognize teillin. Also, theyre black, and wouldnt show
up as well.
It was really easy, she said. I went to my synagogue
Beth Chayim Chadashim, a Reform congregation in Los
Angeles, where she lives borrowed a black-and-white
tallit, and used my husbands iPhone to take the picture.
And I had the cover!
Next, the content. I had done so much research for my
books that when I went back to my notes, I found more
than 90 sections on sex, Ms. Anton said. She picked 50;
although she has enough material for a sequel she has
no plans to use it. There is a good reason why most of it
didnt make its way into this book, she said.
There is so much material in the Talmud because it
is so vast, she said. It discusses everything. The rabbis had no idea that what they were saying was going
to become Jewish canon. And considering that the irst
commandment in the Bible is to be fruitful and multiply

that means that you are commanded to have sex.
Its interesting that even though the Torah is quite
clearly talking to both Adam and Eve, the rabbis used Talmudic inagling to make it apply to men only, Ms. Anton
continued. Only men are commanded to procreate.
I do not see that at all as misoyny, she added. It
allowed women to use birth control. Pregnancy and
childbirth always could be enormously dangerous; thats
true even now, and certainly was more true before the
development of modern medicine. Some women always
and most women at some time in their lives could not
carry babies to term without risking their own lives.
How could God have given us a commandment that
would have made so many women die? the rabbis wondered. So God excused women from the commandment,
which allowed them to use contraceptives. And the rabbis
expanded that even more, by making it almost obligatory
for a woman whose pregnancy would be dangerous to use
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When I started looking
through this stuff, I
realized that yes, it will
be fun, but there are a
lot of progressive
things in it. It puts
some of the rabbis in a
very good light.
contraception. Those women must use it, they said, and
other women may use it.
But contraception? They didnt have birth control pills.
What did they know? They had sterility potions, there
was a kind that was kind of permanent and another that
was temporary; you had to take it once a month. They
had something that youd insert after you smeared it
with spermicide. We actually have the recipe for some of
the spermicides, but they dont give the exact amounts.
Medical scholars have looked at them and said yeah,
they would have worked, but theres not much difference between a dose that would have been ineffective
and a dose that would have killed you. So it would have

had to have been someone very experienced, as a midwife or an herbalist, to have known exactly how much
each woman could take. And the thing the spermicide
was put on was the soft part of raw wool, the same
stuff theyd use for a babys swaddling. It was very soft
and absorbent.
Also the rabbis stressed that men are obligated to satisfy their wives sexually. Women only got to have one husband, although men could have more than one wife, so if
his wife didnt satisfy him he could get another one. But a
woman cant do that. So the rabbis said that the husband
was obligated.
They dont only tell you what to do, but how to do it.
And in some places, that part gets pretty clinical.
Some of the issues the rabbis touch on are current,
Ms. Anton said. Rape and consent are trending subjects
right now. The rabbis back then absolutely agreed that a
woman had to consent. Silence was not consent. And even
a wife had to consent.
When I started looking through this stuff, I realized
that yes, it will be fun, but there are a lot of progressive things in it. It puts some of the rabbis in a very
good light.
Now, when she tours to talk about this book, Im getting a lot more men in the audience, Ms. Anton said.
And I dedicate this book to Rashi, who said that a teacher
Who: Novelist Maggie Anton

What: Will talk about her new book, Fifty Shades of
Talmud
Where: At two local synagogues, open to the public
When: Saturday, November 5, 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m.
Havdalah party, 7-9 p.m.
Where: Congregation Bnai Jacob, 176 West Side Ave.,
Jersey City
Why: Ms. Anton is scholar-in-residence
For more information: RabbiAaron1@gmail.com,
bnaijacobjc.com
When: Monday, November 7, 8 p.m.
Where: Fair Lawn Jewish Center/Congregation Bnai
Israel, 10-10 Norma Ave., Fair Lawn
For more information: RFlanzman@aol.com
And also: The meeting is free; books are on sale for $10
should always start every class with a joke. In between

the jokes and the quips and the cartoons, there are serious things.
I hope that people will be able to hear what the Talmud
really says, and to understand that there are very worthwhile things in it, even for us today.
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Everyone has a story

Docyourstory tells some of them and mostly theyre Jewish
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN
Daniela Mendelsohns 101-year-old grandmother, Anne, says that Este Lauder is
her best friend.
Mind you, she never met the late cosmetics queen, but she refreshes her Este
Lauder lipstick after every cup of coffee and pampers her face with Re-Nutriv
cream every day.
Keren Greenbergs grandparents, Blu
and Yitz, recall that on their first date
it was in a horse-drawn buggy that took
them through Central Park in 1955 the
driver kept offering to take them to lovers
lane. He did not realize that the young couple who later became icons of American
modern Orthodoxy had no intention of
making out.
Such are the precious snippets of individuality immortalized on film by Ms.
Mendelsohn and Ms. Greenberg through
their joint business venture, docyourstory,
which began as the result of a casual conversation in June 2015.
We were chatting about our grandparents and the amazing lives they have
lived, Ms. Mendelsohn, 39, who has lived
in Englewood all her life, said. We were
recalling some of their favorite stories to
tell and the history behind them.
And so we thought, why not start to document these stories on film, told in their
own words, capturing the mannerisms and
trademarks that make them so unique to us?
What started with our own grandparents
has now turned into a thriving business,
where private families hire us to document
the story of a loved one. Our passion and
talent lie in capturing our featured stars in
their element, highlighting their personality
and bringing their stories to life.
Ms. Greenberg, 26, has a degree in
photography and video from the School
of Visual Arts. Ms. Mendelsohn recently
stepped down as founding director of ArtWorks: The Naomi Cohain Foundation,
established in 2002 to provide access to
creative and performing arts programs for
children and young adults battling chronic
and life-limiting illnesses, and their siblings.
One of the 11 docyourstory films commissioned so far is a 17-minute documentary about Dr. Michael Harris of
Englewood, co-director of the Childrens
Cancer Institute at Hackensack University
Medical Center. Dr. Harris cared for Ms.
Mendelsohns cousin Naomi Cohain, who
died of bone cancer when she was 15 and
became the inspiration for ArtWorks.
The documentary was a gift from the
family of another patient, who now is a
healthy teenager. I saw her parents at
an ArtWorks event and told them about
our film production company, Ms. Mendelsohn said. They said they wanted to
Docyourstory co-founders Keren Greenberg, left, and Daniela Mendelsohn are

behind the camera.
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do something for Dr. Harris as a thank-you,

and loved the idea of gifting him a film to
use as he wanted to.
Dr. Harris agreed, on the condition
that the documentary would focus on his
humanistic philosophy and approach to
medicine. That way, he could use it as an
educational tool. The medical center will
And so we
thought, why
not start to
document these
stories on film,
told in their own
words, capturing
the mannerisms
and trademarks
that make them
so unique to us?
premiere the film on November 1 and then
screen it at an upcoming management
meeting for hundreds of employees.
Though docyourstory isnt meant to
be a Jewish business, nearly all the commissions so far have been from Jewish
families. And some of the films have an
intensely personal aspect for Ms. Mendelsohn and Ms. Greenberg.
In addition to documenting their grandparents, the two women traveled to
Jerusalem to film Ms. Mendelsohns sister,

Liora Mendelsohn-Tannenbaum, discussing her decision to have a prophylactic
double mastectomy. Ms. Mendelsohn-Tannenbaum came to that decision because
she is a carrier of the BRCA gene that
greatly increases the chance of breast and
ovarian cancer.
The 15-minute film, From Fear to Freedom, was released online in February
and posted last month on the website of
Sharsheret, the Teaneck-based national
nonprofit organization supporting young
Jewish women facing breast and ovarian cancer. Its at www.sharsheret.org/
blog/9795/fear-freedom-sharing-my-journey-brca-carrier.
Liora wrote a summary of her experience and Sharsheret linked it to the film
and shared it through their social-media
channels, and the response has been overwhelming, Ms. Mendelsohn said.
A breast surgeon told my parents, You
dont know how many lives have been
changed by this film, and a hospital in
Israel is showing it and recommending it
to BRCA gene carriers. Liora has received
calls and emails from women all over the
world seeking guidance, comfort and support. When you put a face to a cause it
changes the conversation.
People can relate on a personal and
emotional level.
Docyourstorys founders did not invent
the concept of professional personal documentaries, of course. But they do try to
change up the style.
We were familiar with the format of
legacy videos, Ms. Greenberg said. My
family commissioned them for two of
my grandparents some years ago. Last

summer I came across the DVD in my
fathers house.
When I watched it, I saw my grandmother sitting in a chair and telling her
story in facts and dates, but her character
wasnt coming through. I wanted to document people in their world, doing their
favorite activities short documentaries
with a realistic budget that really capture
peoples essence, their humor and personality. The first six months of docyourstory
was spent figuring out if we could do that.
Ms. Mendelsohn added that their
approach is geared to millennials who find
long legacy videos boring.
We strive to create a film that is creative, dynamic, and leaves you remembering what you watched, she said. Before
filming, we sit with the family and ask
them what makes this person unique, and
we receive answers like Hes an amazing
dancer or She collects miniature clocks.
And then we make sure to capture those
moments on camera.
Depending on factors such as the number of production days and locations,
the films cost in the range of $5,000 to
$20,000. We go wherever the stories take
us, Ms. Mendelsohn said.
The co-founders, who bootstrapped the
company from their savings, sometimes
have to be resourceful in finding visuals.
Were doing a film on a woman who
came to New York from Shanghai after the
war and didnt have a lot of photos of her
youth, so we reached out to the U.S. Holocaust Museum for archival material, Ms.
Mendelsohn said.
I recently received a call from a woman
who is interested in having docyourstory
create a memoir of her father, she continued. His was the last Jewish family
to leave Afghanistan. He was sent away
to boarding school in Israel at age 8, was
one of 10 children, and has become an
incredibly successful businessman. He has
helped build shuls, community centers,
gifted sefer Torahs and siddurim to shuls,
schools, and the Israeli army, and supports families in need. Truth is, his story
is beyond description, and would merit a
feature film.
Everyone has a story, Ms. Mendelsohn
and Ms. Greenberg said. No matter
whether it is a 40-year-old community
activist, an 85-year-old grandparent, or a
young entrepreneur, theres a story.
Telling a story for the next generation is
a very strong value in the Jewish community, said Ms. Greenberg, who was born
and raised in Israel and now lives in Manhattan. It really speaks to us.
For more information, see www.
docyourstory.com or email talktous@
docyourstory.com.
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JFNNJ Mitzvah Day includes

blood drives and much more
Join more than 1,000 volunteers
across northern New Jersey and
participate in the Jewish Federation
of Northern New Jerseys annual
Mitzvah Day on Sunday, November
6. Volunteers, young and old, will
perform acts of kindness, charity,
and thoughtfulness at more than 40
sites. Sarita Gross and Laurie Ann
Weinstein are Mitzvah Day co-chairs.
Northern Valley Affairs at Temple
Emanu-El of Closter and Holy Name
Medical Center and Maadan, both in
Teaneck are co-sponsors.
American Red Cross Blood drives,
with appointments preferred and ID
required, will be at the JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth Tikvah, 304
E. Midland Ave., Paramus, from 8:30
a.m. to 1 p.m.; at the Glen Rock Jewish Center, 682 Harristown Road,
from 8:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m., and Temple Sinai of Bergen County in Tenafly,
working with Kehilat Kesher, both at

Temple Sinai, 1 Engle St., from 9 a.m.
to 1 p.m. Community Blood Services
holds a blood drive at Temple Israel
& JCC in Ridgewood, 475 Grove St.,
from 8:45 a.m. to 2 p.m.; and New Jersey Blood Services has one at Temple
Emanu-El in Closter, from 9 a.m. to
1:30 p.m. Blood donors can sign up in
advance. Go to www.redcrossblood.
org and then type the sponsor code
in the upper right corner: JCCparamus, mitzvahdayglenrock, and so on.
There will be collections and drives
for items including adult briefs, arts
and crafts supplies, animal shelter
needs, baby basics and clothing,
blankets and towels, Chanukah toys,
coats, flashlights, eyeglasses, musical
instruments, paper goods and cleaning supplies, books, socks, toiletries,
and toothbrushes.
Cleanup sites include the Historic
New Bridge Landing and Steuben

House in River Edge, Paterson Great
Falls National Historical Park in Paterson, Van Saun Mill Brook in Paramus, State Line Lookout in Alpine,
Lower Brett Park in Teaneck, and the
J-ADD group home in Washington
Township.
Activities include running a carnival for seniors at Daughters of Miriam, painting with Safely@Home (the
program that used to be called Bonim
Builders) in Hackensack; working on
art projects and gifts and cards for
patients at Holy Name Medical Center
and Englewood Hospital & Medical
Center; assembling packages for soldiers, helping with sports, art, music
with children with special needs, and
collecting for Shearit HaPlate.
For information, go to www.JFNNJ.
org/MitzvahDay, call (201) 820-3962,
or email JaneS@jfnnj.org.
Rabbi Arthur Weiner donated blood at last years

JFNNJ Mitzvah Day drive at the JCC Paramus/CBT.
He will do so again this year.
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Temple Beth Tikvah
to install Rabbi Simerly
Rabbi/Cantor Meeka Simerly
Rabbi/Cantor Meeka Simerly will be

installed during Shabbat services on Friday, November 4, at Temple Beth Tikvah
in Wayne. The evening begins with dinner
at 6 p.m. Rabbi Debbie Israel of Congregation Emeth in Morgan Hill, Calif., is the
guest speaker. The shul is at 950 Preakness
Ave. For reservations, call (973) 595-6565.
HARVEY HENDLER
JFS gala scheduled November 13

Jewish Family Service of Bergen and North
Hudson will honor Ellen and Lloyd Sokoloff along with Lisa Marcus Abramowitz and Steven Abramowitz on Sunday,
November 13, at 5:30 p.m. The glatt kosher
evening at the Woodcliff Lake Hilton
includes a strolling dinner and seated dessert reception.

For tickets, journal ads, or sponsorship
opportunities, call Jaymie Kerr at (201)
837-9090, jaymiek@jfsbergen.org, or go
to www.jfsbergen.org.
Honor planned for Yachad founder

This years New Jersey Yachad gala,
celebrating the organizations tenth
anniversary, is set for Saturday,
November 19, at 8 p.m., at the Pfeiffer home in Teaneck. Music will be
by Mordechai Shapiro.
The Melave Malke celebration will
honor Chani Herrmann, who is New
Jersey Yachads founder and director, and the director of Yachad at
Chani Herrmann
Devorah Stubin
Camp Mesorah. The gala also will
inaugurate a scholarship fund in
memory of Devorah Stubin of Passaic, who was 22 when she died in January; her car
was found submerged in the Passaic River.
For information, go to www.yachad.org/NJGALA.
Participants at last years J-ADD walk.
COURTESY J-ADD
Walk to support J-ADD this Sunday

The Jewish Association for Developmental Disabilities is holding its annual
walk on Sunday, October 30, at Van
Saun Park, Pavilion C, in Paramus. The
day includes a carnival, games, refreshments, and prizes.
The walk is the organizations largest annual fundraiser. Proceeds benefit
adults with developmental disabilities;
J-ADD provides kosher homes in Bergen

County to adults with developmental
and intellectual disabilities. The walk
also supports J-ADDs community programs, including Flowers By J-ADD,
respite, and community outreach.
For information, call (201) 457-0058,
email sshapiro@j-addorg, or go to www.JADD.org.
Women of Reform Judaism

hold biennial this week
teaneckfilmfestival.org - complete details - including films of Jewish interest

Women of Reform Judaisms Atlantic district hosts its annual convention at the
Wyndham Hamilton Park Hotel in Florham Park from November 3 to 6. The
biennial gathering will address challenges
facing the Jewish community in the 21st
century and advances in womens leadership. The district comprises New Jersey,
parts of Pennsylvania, and West Virginia.
Speakers include Maggie Anton,
author of Fifty Shades of Talmud and
Rashis Daughters, (see page 8); Fraidy
Reiss, founder/executive director of

Unchained At Last, and Lesley Sachs,
executive director of Women of the Wall.
Musicians Noah Aronson and Nefesh
Mountain will entertain.
There will be Shabbat services and
workshops, and the new board will be
installed. Funds raised at the WRJ YES
Fund (Youth, Education, and Special
Projects) Sunday brunch will benefit
Reform Jewish institutions and individuals worldwide.
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Project S.A.R.A.H. (Stop Abusive Relationships at Home)

Community Awareness Campaign 2016
We join together in saying we will not tolerate domestic violence and sexual abuse in the Jewish community.
Rabbi Joel N. Abraham, Temple Sholom of Scotch Plains/Fanwood,
Scotch Plains
Rabbi Moshe Abramowitz, Congregation Bais Yitzchok Chevra
Thilim, Elizabeth
Rabbi Yosef Adler, Congregation Rinat Yisrael, Teaneck
Rabbi Benjamin Adler, Adath Israel Congregation, Lawrenceville
Rabbi Ely Allen, Hillel of Northern New Jersey, Paramus
Rabbi David Bassous, Congregation Etz Ahaim, Highland Park
Rabbi Shalom Baum, Congregation Keter Torah, Teaneck
Rabbi Nathaniel Benjamin, Chavurah Beth Shalom, Tenafly
Rabbi Meir Berger, The New Synagogue of Fort Lee. Fort Lee
Rabbi Mark Biller, Congregation Beth Ahm, Verona
Rabbi Michael Bleicher, Elmora Hills Minyan, Union
Rabbi Akiva Block, Kehillat Kesher, Englewood
Rabbi David Bockman, Congregation Beth Shalom, Pompton Lakes
Rabbi Nasanayl Braun, Congregation Brothers of Israel, Elberon
Rabbi Josh Cantor, Temple Shalom of Sussex County, Franklin
Rabbi Yosef Carlebach, Chabad House Jewish Student Center,
New Brunswick
Rabbi Shmuel Choueka, Ohel Simha Congregation, Elberon
Rabbi Daniel Cohen, Temple Sharey Tefilo-Israel, South Orange
Rabbi Tanchum Cohen, Congregation Beth Abraham, Bergenfield
Rabbi Aaron Cohen, Tifereth Israel, Passaic
Rabbi Mark Cooper, Oheb Shalom, South Orange
Rabbi Benjamin David, Adath Emanu-El, Mt. Laurel
Rabbi Jerome David, Temple Emanuel, Cherry Hill
Rabbi Chaim Davis, Bais Medrash LTorah, Passaic
Rabbi Jeremy Donath, Congregation Darchei Noam, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Reuven Drucker, Agudath Israel of Edison, Highland Park
Rabbi Adam Dubin, Congregation Mount Sinai, Jersey City
Rabbi Dr. Andy Dubin, Jewish Center of Northwest Jersey, Washington
Rabbi Menashe East, Mt. Freedom Jewish Center, Randolph
Rabbi Renee Edelman, Temple Shaarey Shalom, Springfield
Rabbi Eric Eisenkramer, Temple Bnai Shalom, East Brunswick
Rabbi Ron Yitzchok Eisenman, Ahavas Israel, Passaic
Rabbi Fred Elias, Kol HaNeshama, Englewood
Rabbi Kenneth Emert, Temple Beth Rishon, Wyckoff
Rabbi Shammai Engelmayer, Temple Israel Community Center,
Cliffside Park
Rabbi Ephraim Epstein, Congregation Sons of Israel, Cherry Hill
Rabbi Noah Fabricant, Temple Beth Or, Washington Twp
Rabbi Susan Falk, Congregation Kehilat Shalom, Belle Mead
Rabbi Adam Feldman, The Jewish Center, Princeton
Rabbi Daniel Feldman, Congregation Ohr Saadya, Teaneck
Rabbi David J. Fine, Temple Israel & JCC, Ridgewood
Rabbi Steven Fineblum, Temple Sinai, Cinnaminson
Rabbi David Finkel, Pine Brook Jewish Center, Montville
Rabbi Joshua Finkelstein, East Brunswick Jewish Center, East Brunswick
Rabbi Ariel Fisher, OU JLIC - Princeton University, Princeton
Rabbi Joseph Forman, Or Chadash, Flemington
Rabbi Gerald Fox, Temple Beth Shalom, Brigantine
Rabbi Alex Freedman, Temple Emanu-El, Closter
Rabbi Jennifer Frenkel, Congregation Mkor Shalom, Cherry Hill
Rabbi Daniel Fridman, Teaneck Jewish Center, Teaneck
Rabbi Edward Friedman, Freehold Jewish Center, Freehold
Rabbi Gerald Friedman, Temple Beth Sholom of Pascack Valley, Park Ridge
Rabbi Marsha Friedman, String of Pearls, Princeton
Rabbi Elyse Frishman, Barnert Temple, Franklin Lakes
Rabbi Eli Garfinkel, Temple Beth El of Somerset, Somerset
Rabbi Gordon Geller, Temple Emeth Shalom, Margate
Rabbi Menachem Genack, Congregation Shomrei Emunah, Englewood
Rabbi Stuart Gershon, Temple Sinai, Summit
Rabbi Matthew Gewirtz, Congregation Bnai Jeshurun, Short Hills
Rabbi Yaakov Glasser, Young Israel of Passaic/Clifton, Passaic
Rabbi Arnold Gluck, Temple Beth-El, Hillsborough
Rabbi Zev Goldberg, Young Israel of Fort Lee, Fort Lee
Rabbi Shmuel Goldin, Congregation Ahavath Torah, Englewood
Rabbi Benjamin Goldstein, Temple Beth El Mekor Chayim, Cranford
Rabbi Andy Green, Congregation Beth El, Voorhees
Rabbi David Greenstein, Congregation Shomrei Emunah, Montclair
Rabbi Laurence Groffman, Temple Sholom of West Essex, Cedar Grove

Rabbi Nathaniel Helfgot, Congregation Netivot Shalom, Teaneck
Rabbi Joshua Hess, Congregation Anshe Chesed, Linden
Rabbi Dovid Hirsch, Kehilas Bais Yosef, Passaic
Rabbi Howard Jachter, Shaarei Orah, Teaneck
Rabbi Paul Jacobson, Avodat Shalom, River Edge
Rabbi Evan Jaffe, Flemington Jewish Community Center, Flemington
Rabbi Gedaliah Jaffe, Ahavas Yisrael, Edison
Rabbi Michael S. Jay, Jewish Community Center of LBI, Spray Beach
Rabbi Avraham Kanelsky, Congregation Shomrei Torah Ohel Yosef
Yitzchok, Hillside
Rabbi Mendel Kasowitz, Chabad of West Orange, West Orange
Rabbi Eliyahu Kaufman, Congregation Ohav Emeth, Highland Park Rabbi
Rabbi E. Samuel Klibanoff, Congregation Etz Chaim, Livingston
Rabbi Marc Kline, Monmouth Reform Temple, Tinton Falls
Rabbi Jay M. Kornsgold, Beth El Synagogue, East Windsor
Rabbi Jack Kramer, Congregation Knesseth Israel, Bound Brook
Rabbi Aaron Krauss, Beth El Synagogue, Margate
Rabbi Jonathan Kremer, Congregation Beth Judah, Margate
Rabbi Binyamin Krohn, Young Israel of Teaneck, Teaneck
Rabbi Aaron Krupnick, Congregation Beth El, Voorhees
Rabbi Clifford Kulwin, Temple Bnai Abraham, Livingston
Rabbi Steven C. Kushner, Temple Ner Tamid, Bloomfield
Rabbi Joshua Leighton, Jewish Congregation of Kinnelon, Pompton Lakes
Rabbi Yitzchak Lerman, Congregation Beth-El, Rutherford
Rabbi Daniel Levitt, Congregation Agudath Achim, Bradley Beach
Rabbi Benjamin Levy, Congregation Etz Chaim, Monroe Township
Rabbi David Levy, Temple Shalom, Succasunna
Rabbi Jacob Lieberman, Reconstructionist Temple Beth Israel, Maywood
Rabbi Steven C. Lindemann, Temple Beth Sholom, Cherry Hill
Rabbi Yaakov Luban, Congregation Ohr Torah, Edison
Rabbi Lisa Malik, Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael, Aberdeen
Rabbi Laurence Malinger, Temple Shalom, Matawan
Rabbi Jacob Malki, Flemington Jewish Community Center, Flemington
Rabbi Mark Mallach, Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael, Springfield
Rabbi Eliot Malomet, Highland Park Conservative Temple, Highland Park
Rabbi Chaim Marcus, Congregation Israel of Springfield, Springfield
Rabbi Bob Mark, Clifton Jewish Center, Clifton
Rabbi Randall Mark, Shomrei Torah Wayne, Wayne
Rabbi Andrew Markowitz, Congregation Shomrei Torah, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Bennett Miller, Anshe Emeth Memorial Temple, New Brunswick
Rabbi Ellie Miller, Temple Bnai Or, Morristown
Rabbi Steven L. Mills, Temple Beth Ahm, Parsippany
Rabbi Steven Miodownik, Congregation Ahavas Achim, Highland Park
Rabbi Eliezer Mischel, Synagogue of the Suburban Torah Center, Livingston
Rabbi Randi Musnitsky, Temple Har Shalom, Warren
Rabbi Avroham Mykoff, Congregation Poile Zedek, New Brunswick
Rabbi David Nesson, Morristown Jewish Center - Beit Yisrael, Morristown
Rabbi Levi Neubort, Anshei Lubavitch Fair Lawn, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Yaakov Neuburger, Congregation Beth Abraham, Bergenfield
Rabbi George Nudell, Congregation Beth Israel, Scotch Plains
Rabbi Jesse M. Olitzky, Congregation Beth El, South Orange
Rabbi Debra Orenstein, Congregation Bnai Israel, Emerson
Rabbi Yanky Orimland, Young Israel of Margate, Margate City
Rabbi Melinda F. Panken, Temple Shaari Emeth, Manalapan
Rabbi Micah Peltz, Temple Beth Sholom, Cherry Hill
Cantor Eli Perlman, Jewish Congregation Concordia/Monroe Township,
Monroe Township
Rabbi Robert Pilavin, Congregation Sons of Israel, Manalapan
Rabbi Joel Pitkowsky, Congregation Beth Shalom, Teaneck
Rabbi Stuart Pollack, Har Sinai Temple, Pennington
Rabbi Michael Pont, Marlboro Jewish Center, Marlboro
Rabbi Charlie Popky, White Meadow Temple, Rockaway
Rabbi Ethan Prosnit, Temple Emanu-El, Westfield
Rabbi Joseph H. Prouser, Temple Emanuel of North Jersey, Franklin Lakes
Rabbi Steven Pruzansky, Congregation Bnai Yeshurun, Teaneck
Rabbi Scott Roland, Temple Hatikvah, Flanders
Cantor Charles Romalis, Temple Beth Tikvah, Wayne
Rabbi Ronald Roth, Fair Lawn Jewish Center/Congregation Bnai Israel,
Fair Lawn
Rabbi Steve Roth, Congregation Eitz Chaim, Passaic

Rabbi Laurence Rothwachs, Congregation Beth Aaron, Teaneck
Rabbi Solomon Rybak, Adas Israel, Passaic
Rabbi Ari Saks, Congregation Beth Mordecai, Perth Amboy
Rabbi John Schechter, Congregation Bnai Israel, Basking Ridge
Rabbi Sheldon Schevelowitz, Perrineville Jewish Center, Perrineville
Rabbi Kenneth Schiowitz, Shaare Tefillah, Teaneck
Rabbi Jennifer Schlosberg, Glen Rock Jewish Center, Glen Rock
Rabbi Aaron Schonbrun, Congregation Torat El, Ocean
Rabbi Robert Schumeister, Temple Beth El, Hackensack
Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz, Congregation Adas Emuno, Leonia
Rabbi Dr. Jonathan Schwartz, Congregation Adath Israel, Elizabeth
Rabbi Dan Selsberg, Temple Sholom, Bridgewater
Rabbi Ely Shestack, Congregation Ahavat Achim, Fair Lawn
Rabbi Ephraim Simon, Lubavitch of Bergen County, Teaneck
Rabbi Shlomo Singer, Passaic Torah Institute, Passaic
Rabbi Steven Sirbu, Temple Emeth, Teaneck
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Two 18-year-olds one from Rockland, one from Bergen
win Diller awards for making real change possible
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN
Two local 18-year-olds Valerie
Weisler of New City, N.Y., and Zachary
Stier of Paramus went to San Francisco in August to accept a $36,000
national Diller Teen Tikkun Olam
award from the Helen Diller Family
Foundation in recognition of their
workable solutions to critical issues
facing society today.
Ms. Weisler founded the Validation
Project, an international nonprofit
organization that empowers teens to
gain self-confidence, overcome bullying and other personal obstacles,
and tap into their talents to work for
Valerie Weisler accepts her award at the JCF luncheon.
social justice.
Shes flanked by representatives of the Diller Foundation,
One-on-one tutoring is featured in YMath, the brainchild of
The idea grew out of an incident in
Adele Corvin, left, and Susan Epstein.
Diller winner Zachary Stier.
high school, when she came across
a student being bullied and
far, the tutors have invested 4,000 hours
which my great-grandparents felt a strong
heart: kindness, selflesssaid to him, You matter! His
ness, stepping out of your
helping more than 200 students, working
connection, he said.
response, that her words validated him, planted the seeds
comfort zone.
from personalized teaching plans tailored
Although I am more culturally than
for her mission, which has
She credits her mother,
to meet every students individual needs.
religiously observant, I feel proud of and
grown to encompass chapters
Bonnie Weisler, for our
More advanced students work with the
connected to my heritage, he continued.
in 105 countries.
talks at the kitchen table
tutor volunteers to discover new appliYMath embodies the spirit of Judaism and
cations for their skills and to prepare for
Participants in the Validation
brainstorming ideas, and
tikkun olam. It exemplifies that no matter
math leagues and competitions.
Project partner with mentors in
to her mentor, Jessica Abo,
how young or old we are, and no matter
In 2014, Mr. Stier was named Youth Voltheir field of interest and then
for being such a strong
what we perceive as our own skill set, we
unteer of the Year by the New Jersey YMCA
design campaigns to have a possupport system, personcan help other people and make a positive
itive impact on their communiZachary Stier
ally and professionally.
State Alliance. Now a freshman planning to
difference in someones life.
ties. The Validation Project also
The Diller award is going
major in math at Princeton University, he
He is using the Diller award toward
incorporates a kindness curriculum that
toward her education for now. Later on,
hopes to expand YMath to additional locatuition and toward materials for his tutortions throughout the country.
ing program.
has replaced government-led anti-bullying
I have some ideas up my sleeve for how
Running YMath is an important part of
In all, 14 young leaders from across
courses in nearly 1,000 schools across the
we will use it for The Validation Project,
my schedule, and it is a tremendously satthe nation were selected by committees
globe.
she added.
isfying part of each week, he said. The
of educators and community leaders to
So far, 6,000 teens have gone through
Ms. Weisler, who experienced bullying
feedback from the students and parents
receive 2016 Diller Teen Tikkun Olam
the program, 38,500 teens have joined
firsthand when she was a child, said that
makes running the program rewarding
Awards. The prizes were presented at
chapters, 3,000 adults have become menher friends are patient with her rants
tors, and $40,000 in goods and services
and I am excited to continue to see the
San Franciscos Four Seasons Hotel after
about social justice and allow her the
have been donated in support of the projprogram thrive and hopefully grow.
a weekend-long networking and mentorspace to be a kid as well as a CEO. Her mesect. The organizations operations are hansage to other teens is to listen to the peoing spree, during which teens exchanged
Mr. Stier notes his gratitude to the prindled by 1,500 people globally.
ple who tell you, You cant do that, and
cipal of the Bergen County Academies,
ideas with peers and got a chance to meet
Ms. Weisler, who is now a pre-law freshgo prove them wrong. Use their disbelief
Russell Davis, for offering to host the proDiller Teen Tikkun Olam Award alumni.
man majoring in international studies and
gram when the first location he found
in your abilities to go kick some butt and
The Diller Teen Tikkun Olam Awards
education at Muhlenberg College, has
became unavailable, and to Rob Avolio of
shake up the world.
program provides the opportunity to
been recognized by the White House, the
Avolio & Hanlon, who provides pro bono
Mr. Stiers initiative, YMath, stemmed
recognize and support the next generation of youth committed to making posiU.N., the State Department, the NFL, Sevlegal advice.
from his enjoyment of tutoring fellow
enteen magazine, and United Synagogue
tive changes in the world, Jackie Safier
Several teachers at BCA Dr. Judith
students in math when he was in middle
Youth. She recorded a Ted Talk to spread
said. Ms. Safier, the daughter of philanPinto, Mrs. Carol Zepatos, and Dr. Kenneth
school.
thropist Helen Diller, is president of the
her message of kindness and validation
Mayers believed in the program and proI was really amazed by the difference
vided invaluable support from day one,
Helen Diller Family Foundation, which has
even further.
that the individual attention made, he
he said. His brother, Ken, also is involved
awarded the prize since 2007.
Jewish values inform her work 100 persaid. When I got to high school, there was
cent, she said.
in YMath, and his parents, Stacy and
We are so pleased to be able to acknowlno program that offered this kind of help.
edge the leadership and passion of these
I was in USY for seven years, serving on
Mitchell, supervise the tutoring sessions.
There were plenty of private tutors, but
14 spectacular teens, she said. They are
its international social action/tikkun olam
Mr. Stier said that five years ago, for his
they were so expensive and not accessible to everyone. I decided to provide free
now part of the foundations growing netboard. I also am an alum of Camp Ramah
bar mitzvah project, he provided the items
work of 84 young change-makers.
tutoring to people who could not afford a
Nyack, and now I am a counselor for sixon the wish list of the math department
We all look forward to seeing what they
private tutor.
year-old girls there, she said. My orgaat a charter school in Newark. In addinization started because of how integral
tion, in lieu of flowers, I had plants as cendo next.
About 50 YMath tutors work one on one
terpieces, which we then donated to Hillel
tikkun olam was in my life from Ramah
Nominations for the 2017 Diller Teen
with students every Sunday at the Bergen County Academies Mr. Stiers alma
Academy in Passaic, a school my maternal
and USY. Everything we do is connected
Tikkun Olam Awards can be submitted
mater and at the Garfield YMCA. So
great-great-grandfather founded and with
to the Jewish values I hold close to my
online at www.dillerteenawards.org.
Rockland
Musical family services in New City
Temple Beth Sholom holds Rock My
Soul Shabbat musical family services
at 6:30 p.m., on the first Friday night of
the month.
Services continue November 4,
December 2, January 6, February 3,

March 3, April 7, May 5, and June 2.
The synagogue is at 228 New Hempstead Road in New City. For information,
call (845) 638-0770.
Book club looks at The Girl in Silk

The book club at the Nanuet Hebrew
Center in New City discusses The Girl
Who Wrote in Silk by Keli Estes on
Wednesday, November 2, at 12:30 p.m.
Cemetery in Warwick vandalized

Swastikas and other anti-Semitic graffiti
were spray-painted on the entrance of
Temple Beth Shaloms cemetery in Warwick on October 8. The crime was discovered the next morning, days before the
start of Yom Kippur.
Representatives from the Jewish Federation & Foundation of Rockland County
reached out to the Jewish Federation of
Greater Orange County, offering assistance
and support.
Steve Gold, chair of Rockland Federations Community Relations Council,
attended a solidarity ceremony with more
than 500 people at the entrance to the
cemetery.
There is a $10,000 reward for information leading to a conviction. To report a
tip, call the Warwick Police Department at
(845) 986-5000.
The shul is at 411 South Little Tor Road,

off Exit 10 of the Palisades Interstate
Parkway. Call (845) 708-9181 or go to
www.nanuethc.org.
Registration opens for a day of learning

The Global Day of Jewish Learning is
set for November 20. Register at the
Rockland Federation offices (Silverman
suite, second floor of the Rockland Jewish Community Campus). The $18 cost
includes two sessions, refreshments,

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Beth Am offers updated family service
Three books scheduled

for JCC discussions
The JCC of Rockland offers the Rockland Arts, Books, and
Culture series from November 1 to December 2; book discussions will open the series. The first, on November 1 at 7
p.m., is a discussion of The Curious Case of Kiryas Joel. In
his book, plaintiff Louis Grumet looks into the Satmar chassidic community and details the story of his fight for the
First Amendment.
On November 4 at 12:30 p.m., the discussion will focus
on the book Famous Nathan, which chronicles the story
of an immigrant who, looking for a better life for himself
and his family, founded Nathans Famous. Lloyd Handwerker, the founders grandson, wrote the book. Kosher
hotdogs will be served.
On November 20 at 4 p.m., the book Remains of Americas Jewish Vacationland, in which photographer Marisa
Scheinfeld has documented the dramatic decline of some
of the most famous Borscht Belt hotels and colonies, will
be the subject of discussion.
The JCC Rockland is at 450 West Nyack Road in West
Nyack. For information on these or other events, call (845)
362-4200 or go to jewishrockland.org.s
Beth Am Temple in Pearl River offers a popular shorter

monthly family service on the first Friday of each month
at 7:30 p.m. It is followed by an Oneg Shabbat.
The lively 45-minute service, updated last year,
emphasizes Jewish music, uses a song sheet instead of
prayer books, and includes a Torah reading. Upcoming
dates are November 4 and December 2. Synagogue

membership is not required.
The Reform shul draws its congregation from both
Rockland County and northern Bergen County. For
more information, go to www.bethamtemple.org or call
(845) 735-5858.
Reform rabbis teach course on Judaism

The rabbis of Rockland Countys three Reform synagogues are co-teaching an Introduction to Judaism
course on Thursdays at 7:30 p.m. The 16-week course
is designed for interfaith couples, people looking for to
learn and understand more about Judaism, and people
considering conversion to Judaism. The class is open to
the public; participants do not have to be Jewish or synagogue members.
The course, which offers a comprehensive look at
Jewish holidays, lifecycle events, traditions, and beliefs,
is co-sponsored by Beth Am Temple in Pearl River,
the Reform Temple of Rockland in Upper Nyack, and
Temple Beth Sholom in New City. Rabbi Daniel Pernick

will teach the first five two-hour sessions at Beth Am,
Rabbi Benjamin Sharff will teach the next five at the
Reform Temple, and Rabbi Brian Leiken will lead the
following five at Beth Sholom. All three rabbis will teach
the final class together.
Hebrew is not part of the curriculum and will be offered
separately at a later date. To register, get in touch with
the rabbis or their congregations: Beth Am Temple, www.
bethamtemple.org, (845) 735-5858; Temple Beth Sholom,
www.tbsrockland.org, (845) 638-0770; or the Reform
Temple of Rockland, www.rtrny.org, (845) 358-2248.
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its Sunday, December 4, brunch. The
brunch, at Rockleigh Country Club, 26
Paris Ave, Rockleigh, N.J., will honor
unsung heroes.
For more information, call Marissa
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The West Clarkstown Jewish Center hosts Mah Jongg

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refreshments, and prizes,
on Sunday, November 13,
at noon. The shul is at 195
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New City. For information,
call (845) 352-0017.
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Dont Let My Baby Do Rodeo

by boris fishman
Author Boris Fishman weaves the immigrant story

together with one about adoption, inheritance and
what exactly it means to belong. Fishman is a dynamic
speaker you wont want to miss, whether or not youve
read the book. Sponsored in part by The James H.
Grossmann Memorial Book Month Endowment Fund.
Thur, Nov 17, 7:30 pm, $10/$12.
the leonarD & syril rubin nursery school
Open House
Come see what were all about! Your little one can learn,
laugh, share and grow at the JCC with our innovative
programming that allows children to explore and
understand new concepts in a fun, dynamic way. Curriculum
includes cognitive learning and enrichment; fine and gross
motor skills; reading readiness skills; sensory experiences;
Judaic programming; art, music, dramatic play and cooking;
gym and swimming; and preparation for Kindergarten and
beyond. Options for toddlers through Kindergarten.
For more info, contact Elissa at 201.408.1436 or
eyurowitz@jccotp.org.
Nov 18, Dec 9, & Jan 13, 9:30-10:30 am
Israel Film Festival

Join us for the screenings of some of the most entertaining
and thought-provoking cinema that Israel has to offer.
Films brought to you by the Jewish Federation of Northern
New Jersey.
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Sun, Nov 13, 7:30 pm, $11/$13
iN SEARCH Of iSRAEli CUiSiNE
Sun, Nov 20, 7:30 pm, $11/$13
Visit jccotp.org/israeli-center-special-events
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Interested in becoming a babysitter? Want to learn how

to work with children with different types of abilities?
Then sign up for Project Cares! This is a great option
for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah project. Contact Shelley Levy
at 201.408.1489 or slevy@jccotp.org. This program is
made possible with the generous support of the EGL
Foundation.
Grades 6-8, 8 Tuesdays, Nov 1-Dec 20, 7-8:30 pm, and
3 Sunday volunteer sessions Nov 20, Dec 4 & 11, $50
The Oscar for best foreign film brings attention

to three great works that ordinarily might be
overlooked. Join Dr. Eric Goldman and delve
into the back story of how and why these films
were produced and what they tell us about the
countries where they were made.
Thur, Nov 17-Kolya (1996); Dec 1-Departures
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More than 430 members of the community
attended the Jewish Home Family gala on
Sunday, October 9. The theme for the evening was Shaping Our Next Century, as
the Jewish Home Family began its 101st year
serving the community. The evenings honorees were long-time supporters and board
members Myrna and Yale Block of Tenafly.
The crowd was entertained by the legendary folk singer Peter Yarrow.
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1. Honorees Myrna and Yale Block of Tenafly
2. Gala chairs Lisa Mactas and Ava Silverstein, Bruce Mactas, Steven Silverstein,
and Harley and board chair Eli Ungar
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Jewish World
With UNESCO vote, Palestinians bid

for attention generates pushback
CNAAN LIPHSHIZ
f the latest draft resolution at

UNESCO on Occupied Palestine
succeeded in the Palestinians aims
to reclaim the worlds attention,
then it was a Pyrrhic victory at best for
them and a setback at worst.
Part of an effort on Jerusalem initiated
by the Palestinian Authority at UNESCO in
2015, the October 12 vote saw a comfortable majority of states, including Russia
and China, pass language calling on Israel
to cease the persistent excavations and
works in East Jerusalem, particularly in and
around the Old City, as one clause reads.
Only six countries, the United States and
five European Union members, opposed
the resolution, and 26 abstained.
Yet the specific charges in the text were
largely eclipsed by the resolutions failure to refer to Judaisms holiest sites by
their Jewish names. The erasure of Jewish ties to Jerusalem ignited a diplomatic
dispute that is dividing UNESCO, embarrassing some of its member states, and
exposing the Palestinians to rebuke not
only by Israel, but even by passionate supporters of their cause who are angered by
what they perceive as an anti-Jewish bid to
rewrite history.
The UNESCO vote is part of a broader
push by the Palestinian Authority to inject
the Israeli-Palestinian conflict into international forums that are not designed to settle such disputes. And while the strategy is
alienating some supporters, observers of
Palestinian diplomacy say it is a discredited leaderships survival tactic, meant to
satisfy a disgruntled population and prevent the tragedy in Syria and the rise of
ISIS from eclipsing the plight of the Palestinians on the world stage.
Two days after the UNESCO vote, the
diplomatic fallout already was generating
significant dissent within the ranks of the
United Nations cultural agency. Its directorgeneral, Irina Bokova of Bulgaria, penned
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an unprecedented rebuke of the draft resolution passed by her own organization.

To deny, conceal or erase any of the
Jewish, Christian or Muslim traditions
undermines the integrity of the site, and
runs counter to the reasons that justified
its inscription on the UNESCO World Heritage list, she wrote.

The resolution refers to Jerusalems
Temple Mount site of the first and second Jewish Temples and a locus of Jewish
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veneration only by its Arabic name, AlHaram Al-Sharif. The Western Wall, a remnant of the biblical Temple compound built
by the Jewish King Herod and Judaisms holiest site, is referred to as Al-Buraq Plaza a
term the Simon Wiesenthal Center says was
lifted from Hamas literature with Western
Wall Plaza appearing only between quotation marks.
When divisions over such things carry
over into UNESCO, an organization dedicated to dialogue and peace, they prevent
us from carrying out our mission, added
Bokova, who according to Israeli diplomats has maintained a largely fair attitude
toward the Jewish state. Though UNESCO
has passed several texts in recent years seen
as erasing Jewish ties to holy sites, it was
the first time she has spoken out so clearly
against the trend.
Outraged, the Palestinian Authority essentially told Bokova to shut up about the draft
resolution, which was submitted by seven
Arab countries but is widely understood to
have been initiated as part of a Palestinian
push at UNESCO.
However, in the days that followed, the
Palestinians saw more pushback. Israel ridiculed the text and charged that it typified a
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accept the Jewish peoples claim on any
part of the Land of Israel.
Both U.S. presidential candidates
harshly condemned the resolution, and a
U.S. State Department spokesman called it
a cause for deep concern and one of several recurring, politicized resolutions
that he said should not pass. The draft
united Jewish groups across the spectrum
in outrage; even Americans for Peace Now,
which on October 15 condemned Israels
occupation of Palestinian lands during a
U.N. Security Council forum debate, criticized the UNESCO resolutions exclusionary and inflammatory language.
Traditional allies of the Palestinian
cause wavered as objections to the text
intensified. Mexico, which supported
the text, had a change of heart, initially
requesting a re-vote and then sufficing
with a statement blasting the text as offensive and biased against the Jewish people.
This was after it fired its ambassador to
UNESCO, Andre Roemer, who is Jewish,
for protesting his countrys yes vote. In
a personal protest, Roemer walked out of
last weeks vote in Paris, leaving his deputy to cast the vote for Mexico.
Dozens of Czech lawmakers wrote a
joint letter of protest to UNESCO over
the vote, as did various U.S. lawmakers
and several Christian groups, including
the World Council of Independent Christian Churches.
As discord continued to spread, even
Brazil, which voted in favor of the text
and whose Socialist government is
regarded by critics as blatantly hostile
toward Israel, expressed dissatisfaction
with the text it supported.
Tellingly, France was among 26 countries that abstained from the vote a
virage, or an about-face, from its customary role as a leading figure in the Arab-led
anti-Israel bloc, according to UN Watch,
an NGO that monitors anti-Israel activity
at the world body. The French abstention followed an internal dispute that
developed between the Foreign Ministry
and Prime Minister Manuel Valls over the
countrys support for a similar UNESCO
text in April. Valls said publicly after the
earlier vote that France should never have
voted as it did, in favor of the resolution.
India, which supported the UNESCO
resolution in April, also abstained, as did
Sweden, Spain, Argentina, and Slovenia.
Both resolutions were opposed by the
same six countries: the United States and
the five European countries, including
Britain, Germany and the Netherlands.
Palestinian leaders are aware of the
pushback but are pressing ahead anyway.
They are desperate to point to
achievements to a population that
is increasingly critical of Ramallahs
undemocratic rule, explained Daniel
Schwammenthal of the American Jewish
Committees Transatlantic Institute.
The decision to risk condemnation
could also have something to do with
their desire to prevent the de-prioritization of their issue in light of the far
greater humanitarian catastrophe in
Syria and the rest of the Middle East,
which has reduced international attention for the Palestinian-Israeli conflict,
he continued.
Officials from both Hamas and Fatah
celebrated the UNESCO vote as a major
diplomatic achievement and brushed off
criticism as owing to Israels influence
over the West, Khaled Abu Toameh, a
Palestinian journalist from Jerusalem
and critic of Hamas and Fatah, said.
Raphael Ahren, the Times of Israels
diplomatic correspondent, said that the
Palestinians moved ahead with the October 12 vote to flex their diplomatic muscle. The fallout, he added, was a genuine
rejection of the outrageousness of the
text passed.
Schwammenthal, though, called the
rebuke of the Palestinian gambit an
expression of growing resentment internationally of Palestinian attempts after
2011 the year Palestine was accepted
into UNESCO to abuse, hijack or disrupt the work of international forums
that have nothing to do with their conflict with Israel.
Schwammenthal pointed to a series of
reports, statements, and initiatives that
reflect an increasingly critical and perhaps impatient attitude in European capitals and institutions toward the Palestinian Authority, partly over this perceived
abuse. The list includes a 2013 report by
the European Court of Auditors accusing
P.A. officials of pocketing money from
the European Union, its largest donor.
Another blow came in the international Quartet report in July, which for
the first time blamed Palestinians for
incitement, violence, and a failure to get
Gaza under control. And another landed
this month, when the United Kingdom
froze millions of dollars in aid payments
to the Palestinian Authority amid claims
that the money is ending up in the hands
of terrorists. Even Norway, a longtime
supporter and major funder of the P.A.,
warned Ramallah for the first time this
year not to give aid money to terrorists.
At FIFA, the international soccer federation, the Palestinian delegations
attempts to have Israel kicked out for
political reasons is creating frustration
and leading critics to point out how
Palestinians have named soccer stadiums for terrorists, according to Shimon
Samuels, the Simon Wiesenthal Centers
director for international relations.
Ultimately, Schwammenthal said, it
wasnt Israel that got a black eye at the
UNESCO vote, but the United Nations,
whose reputation was once again
stained; the countries that supported an
outrageous lie, and primarily the Palestinians, who are using up international
support to deepen the distrust of the
only people who can give them a state,
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Manassehs African-American son was
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As she picked out her sons bar mitzvah suit, Manasseh couldnt shake the
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for their sons to be buried in.
Manasseh, a lifelong Chicagoan who
attended Jewish day school and is
studying now to be a rabbi, always has
been proud to be Jewish and black. But
gun violence, which has surrounded
the 38-year-old since she was a kid, has
accentuated both the tensions and the
connections between the two parts of
her identity. While most South Side
Jews lived in the relatively affluent
neighborhood of Hyde Park, she grew
up in nearby Englewood, an area that

she described as Afghanistan.
I was always taught that Jews were
survivors, Manasseh said. The Holocaust happened, and Jews survived
that, right? Black people were never
taught that we were survivors. If anything, were pretty much taught that we
were born to die. Being Jewish, I was
never able to look at things like that.
Manasseh a mother of two children, 18 and 20 years old has taken
it upon herself to stop gun violence
in Englewood. During the summer
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I felt like if I didnt do something,
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and studies for her ordination in her
spare time. So Im more afraid of
what happens if I dont get out there
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Manasseh, however, has found
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Manasseh said. Probably not.
All it took was people being there.
Some of these kids, theyve never had
anybody there looking out for them.
Manasseh grew up attending Beth
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Last year, Funnye was appointed head of the International Israelite Board of Rabbis, an African Hebrew
Israelite body. Although the Hebrew Israelite movement usually is considered outside the mainstream
by Judaisms main denominations, Funnye has
undergone a conversion by Conservative rabbis and
is a member of the Chicago Board of Rabbis.
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the Israelite Academy, the Hebrew Israelite rabbinical school, where shes been studying part-time for
seven years. Should she graduate next year, she will
be the first woman to receive ordination from the
academy. But though she was raised in the movement and is set to hold its rabbinic degree, she does
not identify as a Hebrew Israelite. She identifies as a
Jew full stop.
If you have to look a certain way to be a Jew, thats
a bad thing, she said. I think if you have to look
a certain way to be a Hebrew Israelite, thats a bad
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a Jew, thats a
bad thing.
MASK isnt explicitly Jewish, but it is infused with
Jewish themes and language. One of the groups
projects, which has planted 10 Crimson King maple
trees around Chicago in memory of gun victims, is
inspired by the Jewish arboreal holiday of Tu bShvat,
she said. The trees leaves are red to symbolize the
victims blood.
Last week, the group held a concluding service for
Yom Kippur that featured, along with traditional elements like the Amidah prayer and shofar blowing,
volunteers reading out names of shooting victims.
Manasseh isnt the only Jewish activist working to
fight gun violence. Last year, the Jewish Council on
Urban Affairs, a Chicago social justice group, joined
a campaign to persuade the University of Chicago
to build a trauma center on its medical campus to
better serve shooting victims. The university broke
ground on the center last month.
One of the ways we could add value was we had
access to people in positions of power, said Judy
Levey, JCUAs executive director. Were not there
to target the Jews by any stretch, but in some campaigns, there are Jews in positions of leadership, and
that helps.
In addition, Funnye is part of a coalition of faith
leaders that helps combat gun violence by engaging
with young men on the streets through local activist groups. While few black men on the South Side
are Jewish, Funnye who incidentally is a cousin of
Michelle Obama said his religion doesnt get in the
way of connecting with them.
Before they see me being a Jew, they see me as
being a black man, and they see me as being a black
man thats interested in them, and then they see that
Tamar Manasseh: I was always taught that Jews

were survivors. ... Black people were never taught
that we were survivors.
COURTESY TAMAR MANASSEH
Im a rabbi, Funnye said. This is an individual they

can interface with.
Funnye remembers Manasseh composing Jewish
songs as a 14-year-old in his congregation, and he
isnt surprised that she has applied her Jewish learning to community organizing.
Her pulpit is on the corner, Funnye said. She is
practicing her rabbinate. I think that she is sincere,
and I think the people she approaches on the block
feel the depths of her sincerity.
While more than two dozen Chicago Jewish clery
pledged to support the trauma center campaign,
and some have spoken out against gun violence or
attended events, Manasseh wants to see more of
them on the street with her.
Last week, she met with JTA at a chic Hyde Park
cafe surrounded by greenery, upscale shops, and
University of Chicago buildings. Its just four miles
from her intersection, but psychologically its a
world away. It felt like an incongruous place to talk
about gun violence in a poor neighborhood.
But if Manasseh also felt the conversation was out
of context, she wasnt bothered by it. She wore a Chicago Cubs hat and sweatshirt risky apparel on the
South Side, which is White Sox country and exuded
confidence and focus. After a lifetime of sticking out
first by virtue of being a black Jewish woman, and
then by becoming the first woman to try for ordination in her movement she feels other Jews could
benefit by leaving their comfort zone.
Its all smoke and mirrors, she said, referring to
some Jewish efforts against gun violence. There are
many Jewish social justice organizations that are able
to do as much as they can to make themselves look
good, but nothing that will have impact in the long
run. I want to see them be the Jews they claim they
are.
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For Democrats, its a replay of efforts
in 2012 to push back against inroads that
Republicans were making among Florida

Jews, albeit with a different centrist Jewish
hero to make the case for the candidate.
Then it was Ed Koch, the former New
York mayor who had excoriated President
Barack Obamas first-term Israel policies.
Koch appeared in a video e-blasted to Floridas Jews on the eve of that election, arguing that whatever disagreements he had
with Obama on Israel, the president met
the pro-Israel threshold and his re-election
was preferable because of his pledge to preserve entitlements.
Koch died months after the election.
Now, as in 2012, polling shows a tight race
in Florida, and both sides are reaching out
to Jews. This time, Democrats are bringing
Lieberman to bat.
Jews for Progress, a pro-Clinton super
PAC, is including Liebermans message on
a robocall aimed at 100,000 Jewish homes
in the state and a video also aimed at reaching 100,000 Florida Jews through email
and social media.
Lieberman made history in 2000 when
he became the first Jewish candidate to
place on a national party ticket: Democratic
presidential nominee Al Gore named him
his running mate.
That and the fact that he is Orthodox
means that he scores high in name recognition among Jewish voters of a certain
age. That age is prevalent on the circuit he
worked Thursday, including the Century
Village retirement community in West Palm
Beach and the Shul, a Chabad-Lubavitch
synagogue in Surfside, in Miami-Dade
County, among other stops.
Lieberman said he encountered skepticism during his rounds, some of it silly,
some of it substantive. In the former category, Lieberman said Jewish voters were
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still wondering about Clintons embrace

with Suha Arafat in 1999, after the Palestinian leaders wife delivered a speech in Arabic
accusing Israel of poisoning Palestinian girls.
(Clinton claims she did not pick up on the
accusation when she listened to the speech
through an interpreter.)
I explained, in the Arab world, [embraces]
are like shaking hands, he said.
More substantive, Lieberman said, was
Clintons support for the Iran nuclear deal
reached last year. It was evident that criticism
was harder to deflect, as Lieberman took a
lead role in opposing the deal, which traded
sanctions relief for a partial rollback in Irans
nuclear development.
Recounting the arguments he pitched to
skeptics, Lieberman cast Clinton as the bad
cop before and after the deal was made:
She shaped tough sanctions by joining initiatives Lieberman helped lead in the Senate
and then as secretary of state in Obamas first
term, and seeks to enforce the deal in the
post-Obama era.
I was disappointed in her support of the
agreement, Lieberman said, but added:
She helped build the climate of economic
stress in Iran that brought the Iranians to the
table. The Obama administration then basically made a bad deal and didnt get from the
Iranians what he could have gotten, which
was really an end to their nuclear program.
Now thats a fact, so I say: Before the
agreement, she was very strong on the sanctions, after the agreement shes been clear
shes going to monitor Irans compliance
with the agreement, and if they dont comply
shes not only going to lodge complaints, but
if necessary shell be prepared to use American military force to stop development of a
nuclear weapon by Iran.
Liebermans argument is a blunter version
of the subtle straddle Clinton has attempted
when it comes to Israel, and more broadly,
engagement in the Middle East. She wants
to tamp down tensions with Israels government, but does not want to suggest that
Obama stoked them. She wants a more
robust U.S. posture vis-a-vis Syria and Iran,
but does not want to suggest that Obama has
not been robust.
It is precisely Clintons advocacy for a more
potent U.S. profile overseas that underscores
Liebermans distaste for Trump, although,
as a consummate bridge builder, he prefers
throughout the interview to build up Clinton
and not attack the Republican nominee.
Lieberman outlined Clintons proIsrael record throughout her Senate
career and then as secretary of state.

You compare that to Donald Trump, who
because he hasnt been in public service he
doesnt have that kind of record, you couldnt
say with the same confidence what she will
do when she is president with regard to the
U.S.-Israel relationship, he said.
A few sentences later, he was tougher on
Trump, and registered the concerns that
have preoccupied some conservative Jewish
Republicans who have abandoned Trump
because of his isolationist tendencies.
Shes so much better prepared for the
Middle East alone to be the next president
as compared to Donald Trump, who has no
record in this regard and who sometimes
seems to be suggesting that we pull back
from a lot of parts of the world, including
the Middle East, which would be terrible for
Israel, he said.
Lieberman returned to how at home it
felt to be working with the Clintons, remembering her husband, former President Bill
Clinton, a fellow Yalie: stumping for him in
the 1970s, when Lieberman first ran for the
state Senate in Connecticut, and then his
endorsement in 1992, one of the first by a
Northern senator.
I was very proud that I did endorse Clinton, Lieberman said. I thought he was an
exceptional president.
Lieberman made history in 1998 when

he became the first Democrat on the Senate floor to denounce Clintons affair with
Monica Lewinsky. That foreshadowed a
slow, painful rupture with the party, accelerated by Liebermans backing of President George W. Bushs Iraq War, which led
to Lieberman losing the 2006 Democratic
primary for U.S. Senate. He went on to
win as an Independent and then quit politics in 2012, but not before endorsing his
old friend Senator John McCain (R-Ariz.)
in the 2008 presidential election. That
move seemed to be a permanent breach
with a party whose left wing he had identified with as a youth. (Bill Clinton backed
Lieberman against the establishment in
the 1970s, Lieberman fondly recalled.)
Or not so permanent a rupture. Despite
the unhappy Lewinsky episode, Lieberman said, Bill Clinton was ecstatic when
Gore named him his running mate, and
stumped for him during the 2006 primary.
And now hes returning the favor.
There are still some persuadables in
the general community and the Jewish
community, Lieberman said. I think this
community is moving in the direction of
Hillary Clinton and Im glad to be here to
make the case.

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The pictures of Polina Kudina, a 22-yearold retail management student from
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French Jews demanded the countrys
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grandfather was Jewish, the list of primary
candidates includes former Prime Minister Alain Juppe and Nathalie KosciuskoMorizet, a former Cabinet minister whose
ancestors were Polish Jews but who is not

Jewish herself.
With his revolting remarks, Jean Frdric Poisson has placed himself beyond
the margins of the primary of the right and
center bloc, Kalifat said of the Christian
Democratic candidate.
Some commentators believe Poisson
will endorse the far-right National Front
party of Marine Le Pen if he fails to win the
Republican nomination.
He has found his place alongside Alain
Soral or Dieudonn, who support his theories, Kalifat said.
Soral is a far-right activist and writer who
has several convictions for Holocaust denial
and incitement to racial hatred. In 2014, he
formed the now-inactive Anti-Zionist Party
with Dieudonne Mbala Mbala, an antiSemitic comedian of Cameroonian descent
who also has multiple convictions for the
same offenses.
CRIF asked the organizing committee of
the primaries the first open election in
the center blocs history to hit Poisson
with a sanction befitting the gravity of his
remarks.
In France, the term Zionist is often used
as a politically correct slur instead of Jew,
according to CRIF. Earlier this month, a
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Heidi Mae Bratt
n the iconic Fiddler on the Roof,

Tevye opens the play, which is
based on the story by Sholem
Aleichem, with a rousing musical
number that spells out one of the
themes of the 1964 musical. He
speaks about his way of life in the
little town of Anatevka. Tevye is a
poor Jewish milkman with five daughters
and he explains the customs of the Jews
in the Russian shtetl of Anatevka in 1905,
where their lives are as precarious as the
perch of a fiddler on a roof.
Tradition! he shouts, and does his signature shuckle (Yiddish for shake) as the
stage fills with his fellow villagers joining in
song and dance.
Tradition, indeed.
We may no longer be in an Anatevka. In
fact, we may never have been in Anatevka,

as you wouldnt exactly call the Grand
Concourse in the Bronx or Bensonhurst,
Brooklyn, a shtetl. Today, we live our
techno-savvy, comfortable lives, yet we
still long for tradition. Those traditions are
the ties that bind, whether they are ritual,
cultural, religious or otherwise.
And where else, but on the occasion of
our milestone events and celebrations,
whether it is a wedding, a bar or bat mitzvah, an anniversary celebration, or any
other party that gathers together the generations of family and friends, do we share
those traditions? The very making of a bar
or bat mitzvah where the young man or
woman has a keepsake from a relative
such as a tallit from a grandfather links
one generation to another.
For the creators and organizers of these
occasions, their service goes beyond just
making a great party. These professionals

help tailor the events to the families desires
and differences to make them memorable
with an eye on the present, and sometimes
a bow to the past. To tradition.
At Northern Valley Affairs at Temple
Emanu-El in Closter, owner Les Friedman
said that each event is tailored specifically
for the customs and tastes of the families
and that each affair is done accordingly,
be the family Orthodox, Conservative,
Reform, of Russian or Eastern European
descent or Middle Eastern descent. For
example, said Mr. Friedman, in a wedding
the Jewish Syrian community traditionally
has a cocktail hour, and following the ceremony, a grand buffet dinner instead of a
sit-down dinner, in keeping with tradition.
In fact, tradition is built into their walls,
or rather into their ceiling. The sanctuary of the catering hall is fashioned with
a grand, beautiful, stained-glass dome

that once graced the sanctuary of the now
defunct century-old Brooklyn Jewish Center. When Northern Valley Affairs was built
seven years ago, it acquired the stainedglass dome from the Brooklyn
synagogue and installed it in
its own sanctuary, where it is
now a glorious centerpiece of
history and art.
At a recent bar mitzvah, Mr.
Friedman said, the grandfather
of the bar mitzvah boy had been
the rabbi at that Brooklyn synagogue
years ago, and was going to attend his
grandsons bar mitzvah in Closter. The
mother of the bar mitzvah boy remembered that dome. When the grandfather
first came into the sanctuary, he just
couldnt believe it. He had no idea it was
there. It was amazing for him see the dome
again. The family had grown up under that

dome. He davened under that dome. The
whole family was in awe. That is tradition.
Ari Starkman, owner of The Elan Catering and Events in Lodi, said that another
way to feel the tradition is through cuisine.
One thing we do is we often make a great
effort to customize the menu, he said.
In fact, it was so customized at one wedding at The Elan, the brides Polish Jewish
grandmother came into their kitchen to
make her own pierogies. The bride insisted
on having her grandmothers potato and
cabbage pierogies served at her wedding,
so the chef took the grandmothers recipe
and allowed the grandmother to come in
and help them prepare the pierogies.
It was really a very nice touch, Mr.
Starkman said. It really added to the wedding. The bride remembered the pierogies
from her childhood and it meant a lot of

have them at her wedding. The grandmother was so sweet and so happy to
have the opportunity to do this for her
grandchildren.
The Manor in West Orange this year is
celebrating 60 years and because it has
been a destination for weddings for six
decades, it is not unusual for generations
of families to come to the same spot for
their nuptials to keep with the family tradition and for sentimental reasons, said Jennifer Cooper, director of sales and catering
for The Manor.
Recently, we met with a bride who
came in with her mother. Her father had

died, and the parents were to have been
married for 40 years, Ms. Cooper said.
The bride really wanted to be somewhere
where she felt she could share her wedding with part of her father. So she got
married in the same room that her parents
had. It was very moving.
Ms. Cooper said that the property itself
is imbued with its own history and tradition. While The Manor has kept up with
trends such as up lighting and indoor-outdoor spaces, it still retains its elegance of
an era gone by.
Noam Sokolow, the president and chief
executive officer of RAVE Catering & Event
Planning, said that he recently created a
kosher event, a wedding, at The Plaza
Hotel in New York, because of religious
tradition.
We just catered a wedding at the Plaza
Hotel because the grooms grandmother
kept kosher. The whole event was kosher
because of the grandmother.
Likewise, Mr. Sokolow said that his team
has created ethnic cuisine for the familys
tradition, and recalls one in which the
groom had converted to Judaism, but had
Greek roots. For their wedding, his staff
researched all the Greek dishes to serve at
the wedding and turned them into kosher
delights. It wasnt easy, said Mr. Sokolow.
Because many of the traditional Greek
dishes use dairy and there is no mixing
of dairy and meat in kosher cuisine.
The melding of two cultures, traditions
and religions took place recently at the
Teaneck Marriott at Glenpointe where the
bride, who is Indian and Hindu, married the groom, who is Jewish.
T h e e ve n t , re c a l l e d
Patrice Jungermann,
the senior catering manager at the

Teaneck Marriott at Glenpointe, was a daylong event that began with the Indian religious ceremony, replete with the groom
being brought by horse and greeted with
a flower garland and accompanying singing and dancing, to the two-hour religious
Hindu wedding ceremony, to a catered
Indian vegetarian lunch. The families,
who were dressed in traditional Indian
wedding clothing for the first affair, broke
after lunch. They returned dressed in
tuxedoes, a white wedding gown, and
Western dress clothes for a 6 p.m. Jewish
ceremony with a chuppah and more food.
Sure there were challenges in making that wedding, said Ms. Jungermann.
We wanted to make sure that each of
the families felt that both traditions were
respected and honored. It was really great
to see how both families came together,
the Jewish side and the Indian to make one
party. It showed how much they were supporting these kids.
For many others, making a traditional
simcha, such as a bar or bat mitzvah,
means getting on a plane and finding your
roots and your tradition in Israel, said
Robyn Morse-OKeefe, who co-owns with
her brother, Michael Morse, the Floridabased Margaret Morse Tours.
Many of the tours include bar and bat
mitzvah young men and women, who have
a service at Masada and a party where all
participants come to celebrate them.
We are instilling a deeper connection
(for our travelers) to their Jewish roots
and doing it in a beautiful way. It is not
in the classroom, not from a book, but
they are visiting Israel. They are forever
changed, and they have memories of a
lifetime because for so many, this is the
trip of a lifetime.
Tradition, indeed.
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FALL 2016
Autumns palate palette

Caterers go heartier, earthier with season
Heidi Mae Bratt
ull out that heartier fare.

Its fall going into winter and
pumpkins, gourds, squash and
and seasonal treats are whats
on the menu. Its an event and celebration and there is food. As the
guests don their sweaters and coats,
caterers follow suit, and warm up the
food to please the seasonal palate.
Ari Starkman, owner of The Elan
Catering and Events, said that the
heartier fare is what people want and
what they start to serve. Foods including short ribs, cranberries, roasted
squash are among the warmer, richer
foods of the season.
At Northern Valley Affairs at Temple
Emanu-El in Closter, fall is a fun time
at the catering hall with its beverages
as well, said Les Friedman, owner.
You can expect pumpkin martinis, smores martinis, hot apple cider
spiked or not, vanilla vodka drinks,
among other fall liquid treats. The
chef also makes full use of the tubers
and other vegetables and fruit in the
appetizers, side dishes and mains
as well. Sweet potato latkes, grilled
caramelized pears, purses of cashew
chicken, good stick-to-your-ribs fare.
Dont forget the parade of seasonal
pies in pumpkin, pecan and apple.
Anthony Sylvestri, general manager
of Factory 220, Element Food Art and
Great Falls Bistro in Passaic, agrees.
We use a lot of winter vegetables,
and everything is heartier.
At the Teaneck Marriott at Glenpointe, Patrice Jungermann, senior
catering manager, said that sauces get
a little heavier in the wintertime and
pastas may become appetizers instead
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We try to give the chef a lot of freedom, and we use what is seasonal.
Like at the end of summer when Jersey tomatoes are in season, we use
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are even some fish that are seasonal.
At The Manor in West Orange, the
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said Jennifer Cooper, director of sales
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Noam Sokolow, the president and
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they start crafting their dishes.
We get the forecast, and then we
see what we have and then we have a
play day, Mr. Sokolow said, where
we bounce ideas off of each other.
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hen the California-based software company Delphix wanted

to show its appreciation to several of its northern New Jersey
and Manhattan-based corporate customers recently, it got them helmeted up and
racing.
The group of about 20 clients of Delphix gathered for their corporate event
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racers who walk in for the ride, celebrants
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The mix of business there was a presentation to update clients in the breakout
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the racing, left a memorable mark on the
group, said Mr. Beedy.
Everybody loved it, said Mr. Beedy.
The racing even got some people into the
spirit of friendly competition.
In fact, said Karen Davis-Farage, president and co-owner of Pole Position Raceway, these corporate events, including
team building, employee appreciation
events, customer appreciation events,
sales meetings and the like, are very popular at the venue and are among its top target audiences.
We host many team building events,
employee appreciation events, customer
appreciation events, sales meetings, said
Ms. Davis-Farage. We really are a great
alternative to taking a group out to dinner
or bowling or out to golf. The experience
here is authentic, exhilarating and memorable. We try to create an environment
that is stimulating, motivating and fun.
For her part, Ms. Davis-Farage had spent
32 years in a leadership position, working for software technology corporations
and she herself understands the importance of building a spirit of camaraderie
and comfort among employees to foster
greater productivity and a better work
environment.
This immediately creates a bond, she
said. People are not used to this and they

now have a new experience. It brings the
group together and they leave the premises with something to talk about.
Team building or team bonding brings
people together by encouraging collaboration and teamwork. Unique and fun
activities, such as racing or rock climbing
or other activities, help people see each
other in a different light and allows them
to connect in a different setting
Corporate leaders hope that the team
building gets results. Through a series of
planned team bonding events that are
fun and motivational, teams build skills
like communication, planning, problem
solving and conflict resolution. Team
bonding ideas that work help facilitate
long term team building through fostering genuine connections, deeper discussions and processing.
Another plus is that the event offers an
opportunity for employees to connect on a
social level. Socializing and making friends
in the workplace is one of the best ways
to increase productivity in the office. Not
only does it increase morale, it also allows
for the office to work better solving everyday workplace issues.
Team bonding activities also improve
workplace projects that may involve teamwork. After completing team building
activities, employees better understand
each others strengths, weaknesses, and
interests. This understanding helps them
work even better together on future progress vital to a company.
In addition, competition has been
shown to increase production. So, by
channeling that increased production
into a fun, inclusive team building activity,
employees can bond in a way impossible
by other means.
After any sports team wins a major
championship, they celebrate and have
fun. This motivates them to want to win
even more.
People tend to have a larger imagination when they are around people they
are comfortable with. So, successful team
building events not only bring people
closer together but also lead to more successful and creative workplace ideas.
The best reason for team building is that
the activities actually work to accomplish
improved communication. A successful
team building activity will mean a more
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Climbing the corporate ladder, hand over hand.
Another sort of team building

can be accomplished through what
is being worn by a group that also
builds a bond or a shared mission.
That can be accomplished by wearing the same clothing or any apparel
that bears the logo or a brand of a
company or an organization.
Bruce Prince, owner of Embroideries Unlimited, said the company
does its apparel work for many synagogues, federations, organizations,
schools, as well as promotional
giveaways.
The items do create a connectedness by wearing the brand or the
logo. People know who they are and
then people respond to it.
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Gift giving gets creative wrap

After spending hours scouring stores for that perfect gift for
the perfect occasion, the last thing you want to do is bury
your thoughtful gesture in generic wrapping. Fortunately,
with the right tools and a little creativity, you can make
your gift boxes just as personal as the gifts they contain.
When you opt to create your own handmade gift labels,
the options are nearly endless. You may also try making labels with photos instead of names. Or for a more
crafty approach, look to one of these ideas from the crafting experts at Jo-Ann Fabric and Craft Stores, which will
make your presents so pretty it almost seems a shame to
open them.
DIY gift toppers
Crafting time: 1-2 hours Skill level: Beginner
Visit the
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Fiskars Banner Thick Materials Shape Punch
Wood veneer
Ribbon
Alphabet stickers
Fiskars Banner/Artisan Double Tag Maker with Built-in
Eyelet Setter
8-inch scissors
Rosette gift topper

Use paper trimmer to cut two 3-by-6-inch pieces of
cardstock. Fold each piece of cardstock accordion
style then fold in half to form fan. Adhere two pieces
together to create rosette, and secure at center with
twine. Using label maker punch, cut simple label. After
punching tag, punch hang hole using hole punch at
front of tool. Glue rosette to top of gift box and attach
simple label with twine.
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Wooden banner gift topper

Use the punch for thick materials to cut banner pieces
from wood veneer. Tie thick piece of ribbon around
gift box, and adhere wooden banner pieces to top.
Apply alphabet stickers to banner pieces to spell
a festive word or gift recipients name. Wrap twine
around ribbon and banner to complete.
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Gently roll two simple labels in half, avoiding putting
a crease in cardstock. Use scissors to trim flat end to
match angled end. Align simple label on top of two
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relatives and houseguests is a treasured tradition.

This season, entertaining reaches a new level with
distinctive recipes and decorating ideas featuring a
signature ingredient.
A familiar, yet unexpected, ingredient such as California
grapes can elevate a wide array of dishes in flavor, texture
and appearance to help make the holidays extra special.
While youll dedicate plenty of attention to the holiday feast, dont forget about serving up breakfast for the
guests who arrive early or stay past the festivities. A rich,
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1 can (14.5 ounces) vegetable broth
1/2 cup water
1/2 cup brown rice
1/2 cup wild rice
1/2 cup chopped onion
1/2 cup chopped celery
1/2 cup chopped apple
1 tablespoon butter or margarine
1 teaspoon minced fresh sage
1/4 teaspoon pepper
2 cups California seedless red grapes
salt, to taste
Heat oven to 350 F.
Bring broth and
water to boil; add
brown and wild rice.
Reduce heat, cover
and simmer 45-55
minutes, or until rice
is tender and liquid is
absorbed.
Saut onion,
celery and apple
in butter; add sage
and pepper. Add
prepared rice and
grapes; mix well.
Adjust seasoning
with salt, if necessary.
Place in 1-quart covered baking dish and bake 20
minutes, or until thoroughly heated.
Serving suggestion: Serve with
roasted poultry or meats.
Serves 4
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Golden Beet and Grape Salad

1/2 pound yellow beets (approximately 3 medium
beets), peeled
2 cups halved red California grapes
3 tablespoons orange juice
2 tablespoons minced shallots
1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil
1 tablespoon lemon juice
2 teaspoons chopped fresh tarragon
1 teaspoon honey
kosher salt
freshly ground black pepper
1 head purple endive or butter lettuce, leaves rinsed,
dried and separated, divided
Edible Accents for

Sweet Seasonal Decor
The beautifully vibrant colors of grapes, which can be
found in red, green and black varieties, add visual interest to recipes, but also make a delightful edible garnish or centerpiece. Grapes easy, natural beauty lends
grace to your homes holiday decor, while providing
your loved ones with a healthy snack option between
meals and events.
* Grapes make for lovely centerpieces when placed artfully in bowls, on platters or draped from a cake plate.
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* For an indulgent and attractive treat, dip grape clusters in liquid gelatin then roll in sugar, spices and finely
chopped nuts to make a frosted finger food.
* Use grapes, fresh or frosted, as a garnish to decorate cookie plates, cakes, puddings, mousses and
more.
* If youre the guest this time around, gift your hostess
with a pretty basket tied with ribbon and filled with
multi-colored grape clusters wrapped in tissue.
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In food processor fitted with shredding blade or by

hand, grate beets. Combine shredded beets with
grapes.
In small bowl, mix orange juice, shallots, oil, lemon
juice, tarragon and honey. Season with salt and
pepper, if desired.
Pour dressing over beet and grape mixture; mix well.
Line eight serving plates with endive or lettuce leaves,
divide salad among them and serve.
Serves 8
Peanut Grape Pancakes

2 cups complete pancake mix
5 tablespoons peanut butter powder
3 cups halved green or red California grapes
1/4 cup chopped peanuts, unsalted
3/4 cup warm maple syrup
Prepare pancake mix according to package instructions; gently stir in peanut butter powder.
Heat griddle or large skillet and brush lightly with
vegetable oil. Cook pancakes, 1/4 cup at a time, until
browned. Serve sprinkled with grapes, peanuts and
maple syrup.
Note: A complete pancake mix has everything in it but
water, which is added to form batter.
Serves 8
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Made in the shade

What colors should you wear this season?
Heidi Mae Bratt
and red. Its whats happening inside.

If you want to be fashion forward
this season, you must introduce a pop
of color into your wardrobe. Adding a
dash of color is the easiest way to update
your look without having to refresh your
wardrobe wholesale, or go crazy breaking the bank.
To that end, Pantone, the fashion industrys color authority, has released its color
trend report. So, drum roll please, here it is:
hen it comes to dressing for

any event or celebration, black
has always been the fashion
mavens color. Black is the background, foreground and middle ground
for the chic look. Black is serious. Black is
beautiful. Black, very importantly, makes
you look thin.
But for events and celebrations this season, black steps back.
Singing the blues
This season, those who want to be in the
No need to be sad. Be glad because this
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season to be blue means to be in style.
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With the military trend back in business,

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can find something in an earthy olive tone,
or if you want a bit more vibrancy, check
out Lush Meadow, which will be best
around the holiday season.
Better red than
The power color stays in super power

in Pantones report. Aurora Red is a top
choice, as is its more orange-red cousin,
Potters Clay.
Think pink
Who doesnt like pink? Its soft. Its pretty.

And it looks good on plenty of folks. If
you are a pink fan, the color this fall is not
just for little girls. It is a popular hue this
fall with two shades, Dusty Cedar, and
Bodacious.
Yellow fellow
Yellow is a bit of sunshine in the dead of

winter. Yellow is a big pick-me-up color.
You can try Spicy Mustard when youre
thinking about your accessories.
Always neutral
The Switzerland of the color chart, the two

main neutrals for the season are Sharkskin,
a shade of gray, and Warm Taupe. They are
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Pick a place. Where are you going

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You may have to do some asking
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You may also want to have a
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That way when it hits midnight,
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Determine a
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If its a birthday party, most people

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up with a theme that might get everyone

excited or intrigued.
Do something thats accessible, especially if the party is this weekend. An all
black party is easy; a 1940s party is not
(unless you give everyone adequate prep
time).
Do something thats not clothing related.
A sandwich party (where everyone brings
a different sandwich) could be quite the
hit. Not to mention the classic wine or
beer tasting party, too. Do something with
a broader theme, like a golf or owl
themed party. Or dont have a theme at all.
Sometimes its just nice for friends to get
together and enjoy each others company.
Plan your guest list
This will be partly determined by where

youre having the party how many people can the venue tolerate? Whats more,
who do you want there and who would
enjoy the party? Do you know anyone who
isnt free?
Not everyone wants to dance and not
everyone wants to listen to the music;
some people want to talk and relax. If your
party is one kind or the other, take that
into account with your guest list. However,

if you can, try to accommodate for different interests and levels of social comfort
with space planning if it is possible, and,
if applicable, account for different age
groups.
Also determine whether you want your
friends to bring friends or not. That could
seriously change how many heads you
have to plan for and mouths you have to
feed.
Decide on a budget
If this is your party, youll likely have to

front most of the cost. You may also have
to decorate even if you dont have it at
your home. How much are you willing to
spend? If its not a ton, ask a few friends if
they can chip in. They want to party too,
dont they?
A good way to deflect the costs of a
party is to have a potluck. This way everyone chips in and is a part of the fun and
you dont have to pay for all the food. You
could also specifically instruct certain people to bring drinks, ice, plates, napkins,
and cutlery.
Get the word out
No party will be a party if your guests

dont know to come. A good place to start
is a Facebook event, though you should
also be talking about it with them in person and via text. Aim to first start the talking about two weeks in advance so they
dont make plans, and remind them once
or twice before the party, too.
You could also make invitations or buy
them. Pass them out within a reasonable time frame of notice. If you plan on
instructing your invitees to bring friends,
dont send out the invitations too soon or
you could end up with a bigger party population than you can handle.
Setting up the party
Prepare and set out your food. Your food

choice packs a big punch in your party. If
you dont know what to get, ask around
to see what your future party-attendees
would like. Safe bets are finger foods, like
chips, veggies, cookies and cupcakes, mini
sandwiches, pretzels, popcorn, cheese
and crackers, and bites of fruit.
Do not neglect drinks, ice, cups,
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Youll also need some method of chilled
storage (like a large cooler) to keep the
drinks cold.
Always make sure that none of your
guests have allergies or serious diet restrictions; if they do, make sure there is food
for them to enjoy, too.
Make a party play list
Whats a party without music? Pick music

that you think will be most agreeable to the
spirit of your party and your guests. Its a
good idea to have an iTunes window open
on your computer so you can download
tunes or play videos that guests suggest.
If you dont have a lot of your own tunes,
ask your guests to bring their own. You
could also play an Internet radio station
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be kicked out or asked to never return.
Take pictures
Odds are youre going to want to remember this party and brag about it on Facebook, Twitter, and whatever other social
media platforms you use, in addition to
remembering it for years to come. So start
taking pictures. Whether theyre of the
table-full of macaroni n cheeses (at a mac
n cheese tasting, of course), you and your
friends all dressed up, or your sweet disco
ball, its all good. In fact, take pictures of
everything.
If youre going all out, set up a photo
booth an area of the room set up specifically for taking photos. Place a piece of
fabric on the backdrop, decorate it as you
see fit, and keep a basket of props handy
for people to use to take funny photos. Its
also a good activity for bored guests.
Have plans to address

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If the party is at your home, you may want

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coats in the bedroom, and the basement
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to be the link between them, bridging the
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group to group, introducing everyone and
diffusing the tension. When the fun really
gets started, youll see people making new
friends thanks to you.
The partys at your house and theres alcohol? Then your guests are your responsibility. Take their keys at the beginning of
the party, hide them all in a bowl somewhere, and only give them back if theyre
sober at the end of the night.
You could also designate someone as the
key keeper, so youre not dealing with all
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Clean as you go
Parties get messy and they get messy fast.

Whats more, people are notorious for
not being polite and clean in a party environment, especially when its not in their
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at a public venue, it may be up to you to
keep the area relatively neat and tidy. It
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Be sure to keep the trash and recycling
in an open area. If it gets full, people will
likely keep piling it up until its unmanageable, so get at it as soon as possible to avoid
it spilling everywhere later in the night.
A parting memento
As your guests leave, give them a token

from the party. Whether its leftover food,
a cupcake, or a party favor, its nice to have
something for your guests to leave the
party with and its less clutter for you
to worry about. That way everyone leaves
with a piece of the party, feeling like they
were involved and had a good time.
Make sure to tag everyone in all your
photos, too, when all is said and done.
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musings from the editor

I
was 12 when I saw my first Broadway play.

It was Tinas 12th birthday and
her gift was a night of theater, and I
was luckily Tinas plus one (we actually
were three, including Tinas mother.)
I remember that night vividly. It was a
special occasion so I dressed accordingly. I wore a long, plaid, pleated skirt
and a white, satin puffed-sleeve shirt
and my fancy shoes. We boarded an
express bus from our Brooklyn neighborhood into Manhattan to the Great
White Way. The play that we were going to see was Raisin, a musical adaption of Lorraine Hansberrys A Raisin
in the Sun, which was the story about
an African-American family in the 50s in
Chicago and their struggles.
We had great seats in the orchestra section. Our seats were so close
to the stage, I remember seeing the
sweat come off some of the actors.
The whole experience was
exhilarating.
Yehuda also was 12 when he saw
his first Broadway play.
Jeff, Shaina, and I were taking Yehuda out for his birthday. We headed
into Times Square with the ruse that
we were going to Dave & Busters (not
a place of choice for Yehuda). While
pretending to walk to the arcade, we
crossed the street and headed towards the Foxwoods Theatre.
Surprise!
We were going to see one of the
most spectacular, one of the most expensively produced and technically
complex shows ever on Broadway,
Spider-Man: Turn Off the Dark. It
was a perfect gift for Yehuda, who was
a major Spidey fan. The play, with its
many sequences of characters flying
MissionStatement
and engaging in aerial combat, had an

additional thrill factor. When the actors landed in the audience, they did
so right next to Yehudas seat.
After the show, in true fan form,
we waited at the backstage door for
the actors to leave the theater. One
by one, out they came, makeup wiped
off and clad in their jeans and street
clothes to greet the anxious aficionados who stood patiently for their autographs and to pose for pictures. There
was the actress who played Mary Jane
Watson, and others. But the biggest
kick was seeing Peter Parker/SpiderMan played by actor, Reeve Carney. He
even wished Yehuda a happy birthday.
The entire encounter will never
fade from memory.
There have been other Broadway
theater excursions, as well as other
off-Broadway experiences.
There was Cinderella with Shaina. (I bawled when hearing decades
after my childhood, the Rogers and
Hammerstein score.) There was Peter and the Starcatcher. There was
Pippin. And recently, there was Fiddler on the Roof.
Academics and social scientists
say that seeing live theater may be
particularly beneficial for youngsters.

It promotes tolerance, increases attention span and deepens their knowledge. They also say that it teaches
them to recognize the emotions of
others. Theater works best when actors can convey what they are thinking and feeling to an audience. The intensity of that experience may provide
the audience with practice in reading
the nuance of emotions, a skill that is
being blurred by social media and its
one-dimensionality.
Thats all good and well.
But whats even better is when I
hear Shaina humming Matchmaker,
Matchmaker or Yehuda telling how
he understood a particular scene days
after weve left the darkened theater.
When I see how the theater experience has touched them, its then that I
want to go back to the box office.
Cheers,
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Teaching Your Daughter

to Navigate the Social Roller Coaster
A D I N A S O C LO F
solve their own conflicts. We

dont want to give them the answers or try to solve their problems: Dont let Shana get to
you. When she doesnt let you
play with her jump rope, just
walk away!
Instead, we want to gently
empower girls to think of solutions themselves, by asking the
following questions:
What did you try?
How did it work?
What else can you try?
Asking these questions
gives girls the message that
they are not helpless; they can
manage the inevitable ups and
downs of friendships.
riendships are important for

everyone, and even more so
for girls. Part of friendships
is learning to be a good friend
and finding good friends. Sometimes that can take a lot of trial
and error and social conflict. It
seems to be a necessary but painful part of growing up.
Girls will often lose friends,
fight with friends, and get their
feelings hurt by their friends.
They might also be the ones doing the hurting. The social lives
of girls can be a roller coaster
ride and it is not easy to be the
ones watching from the sidelines. How can we help our girls
manage their social lives and
come out whole?
Be a Good Role Model

Our children learn so much
from how we act, our own behavior. We need to model appropriate social behavior, being friendly, making time for
friends a priority, and by acting
in a way that shows respect for
others. Refraining from gossip
and talking about friends behind their back is important.
We want to teach children the
basics of choosing good friends
and being a good friend.
People who know how to
choose good friends look for
steady confidantes, and people
who like you for who you really are. Good friends are those
that value you for yourself and
share common interests.
As adults, we also know that
its okay for friends to make some
mistakes but we also know that
if you are constantly feeling put
down or controlled then that
friendship should end.
When we want to get this
message to our children, in
addition to our modeling the
behavior, we can use talk out
loud technique. When our children are in earshot we can let
them over hear our conversations with our spouse or even
ourselves. The Shwartzs just
had a baby. I am going to bring
them over a lasagna. This
Making new friends

one friend that I have always
seems to criticize me, my hair,
my clothes. I know that people
who do that are insecure about
themselves. At any rate, I think
I need to say something to her.
Just listen
Social conflict can be painful at
all ages. Sometimes watching
our children go through difficulties with their friends can bring
us back to our own childhood.
It may stir up old hurts and social anxieties. We need to separate our own emotions from our
daughters. It doesnt help to rush
in and fix the problem. We need
to give our daughters the tools
that they need to independently
manage their social issues.
One way to do that is to
give girls a safe space to vent
their feelings. No advice, no
interventions, just listening.
Many times a conversation
with our daughter about their
friends goes like this:
Daughter: Molly didnt let
me sit next to her at lunch. She
is so mean!
Mom: I dont know why you
play with that girl. You are always
complaining that she is not nice
to you. You need to find someone
who is truly a good friend.
Daughter: There is no one
else to play with!
Mom: What about Kayla?
What about Shana? You never

play with Rachel, you used to
play with her a lot
This kind of conversation
can just exacerbate the situation. Although the mom is trying to be helpful, her underlying
message is, You dont know
how to be a friend or manage
friendships.
What our daughters need
most is for us to carry on a conversation that gently reflects
what they are saying:
Daughter: Molly didnt let
me sit next to her at lunch. She
is so mean!
Mom: That could be
upsetting..
Daughter: Yeah, she said
that she got a chocolate bar
from her uncle and she didnt
want to share it.
Mom: Oh, a chocolate bar
from her uncle
Daughter: Yeah, if I had a
chocolate bar, I would share it
with her.
Mom: You would feel comfortable sharing a chocolate
bar with a good friend.
Daughter:
She
never
brings candy to school, her
Mom only packs her healthy
stuff, she usually does share
Mom: She usually is able
to share her stuff
When we empathize with our
daughters and reflect back what
they are saying, they can hear

themselves think and they are
also more likely to come to their
own conclusions on how to manage their social situations. To further help them, we can also ask,
Do you want to vent or do you
want advice? When we empathize and take the time to listen,
we send our children the following message, This is not a bad
situation, you can handle this,
you can manage this friendship
and make good decisions about
your friends. Unless we know for
sure that there is overt bullying
going on, this is the best course
of action.
Teach girls to stand up

for themselves
We can teach girls to use I
statements to express and
stand up for themselves when
they feel like they are being
treated badly:
I dont like to be called
names. It hurts my feelings.
I feel left out when you
walk home with Sara
Similarly, we can also teach
them to apologize to their
friends if they were being hurtful: Im sorry, I didnt mean to
hurt your feelings
Let them be independent

thinkers
Girls need help learning to re-
If your child is moving to a

new class and does have trouble making new friends, it is
helpful to give her a brief tutorial in making friends.
In a quiet time, you can say,
Lets see you are moving into a
new class this year. That means
new friends. I just read this article about making friends. It
gave two simple ways to make
friends:
Make an effort. Dont sit
around and wait for someone
else to strike up a conversation
with you, you can smile, and
give a compliment like, I love
your yellow headband.
Find people who like the
same things that you do and
ask them to join you in that activity, like jump rope, crafts or
soccer.
Helping girls navigate their
social lives can be tough. However, being a good role model,
being a listening ear, teaching
girls to stand up for themselves
and asking them questions to
help them solve their own problems can help.
Adina Soclof, is the director of
Parent Outreach for A+ Solutions
facilitating How to Talk so Kids
will Listen and Listen so Kids will
Talk workshops and Siblings
Without Rivalry workshops, She
runs ParentingSimply.com. Visit
her at www.parentingsimply.com.
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on Childrens Theater for the Season
H E I D I M A E B RAT T
oost literacy? Stretch imagination? Cultivate curiosity? Extend attention span? Just lift the curtain on some live theater and make sure to bring
the children.
No one would argue the virtues of reading, writing
and arithmetic to build skills, but studies have shown
that consistent participation in the arts, such as theater, improves a childs academic performance. Facts
are facts, and a calculator or a hit of Google can yield
an answer. But teaching a childs mind to be flexible and
subtle, to think about nuance of character and themes,
takes more. Live theater jumpstarts a youngsters imagination, while sitting in a darkened theater and watching the story unravel can lengthen attention.
And our area is ripe with theater possibilitiesespecially this season.
At bergenPAC in Englewood, for example, the performing arts center dedicates about 20 percent of its
annual events to family-friendly performances, a commitment that is underscored by presenting two to three
Mutts Gone Nuts: Canine Cabaret
shows for youngsters and families each month.

In a time when the arts are continuously being
cut by schools due to lack of funding, making the arts
accessible to children is vital, said Dominic Roncace,
CEO and president of bergenPAC. The arts programs,
offered by bergenPAC, give children an outlet to explore
their creativity and learn outside of the usual class-
room setting.
bergenPAC works to be an educational resource
through our childrens and family programming at the
theater, and has made the arts accessible to over 3,500
children in 33 school districts this year alone as part of
the BeyondbergenPAC program.
On tap at bergenPAC in November are several
events, including Mutts Gone Nuts: Canine Cabaret,
a must-see comedy starring dogs. It plays Nov. 6.
The show caps a month-long fundraiser in support of
Save The Animals Rescue Team (START II), a volunteer
group based in Englewood, which supports the no-kill
animal shelter. On Nov. 19, as part of its Kidz Cabaret
Series, Turtle Dance Music, an interactive music and
movement concert for youngsters, which includes
youngsters with special needs. This movement-focused performance is designed to engage children with
movement, music, original stories, incredible visuals,
exciting play and interactive music technology, while
it promotes fitness, healthy eating and going to the library. On November 27, Odd Squad: Live!, based on the
PBS Kids series, brings its version of mystery solving
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 5, 2:00 P.M.*

Pinkalicious the Musical
Based on the book Pinkalicious by Elizabeth and Victoria Kann

Special gifts will be handed out at the end of the show from Arts and Creations
Pottery Studio. artscreationspotterystudio.com
*1:00 p.m. pre-show creative activities
THURSDAY, DECEMBER 8, 7:00 P.M.
The Moscow Ballet's The Great Russian Nutcracker

Performed to the original Tchaikovsky score.
Premium packages are available by calling the box office.
FALL 16 SPRING 17
SATURDAY, DECEMBER 17 2:00 P.M.*
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to timeless holiday hits by Nat King Cole, Mariah Carey, and Tchaikovsky.
1:00 p.m. pre-show activities
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Christmas from the Emerald Isle
Featuring the McLean Avenue Band and the Emerald Fire Dancers
Direct from Ireland, this ensemble performs dazzling Irish music, song, and
dance with a holiday flair.
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singers, The Maccabeats perform on December 14.
In January, the Kidz Cabaret series
features Story Pirates on January 14,
Pinkalicious, the Musical, will take place
on January 22, and the Hans Christian
Andersens classic, The Ugly Duckling,
gets a modern interpretation with Light
Wire Theater and Corbian Visual Arts
and Dance on January 31.
At the Berrie Center for Performing and Visual Arts at Ramapo College
in Mahwah, director Stephanie Chaiken, said that bringing a broad range of
beautiful art to the community, is part
of her mission. And because the theater has 338 seats, its a lovely place to
bring families because every seat in the
house is good.
Just in time for the holiday, the Berrie Center for Performing and Visual Arts
will stage Chanukkah, Festival of Light
on Dec. 10 featuring Yiddish singer Eleanor Reissa, and Grammy Award-winner
Frank London, who will be performing
with Londons Klezmer Brass Allstars.
On February 11, the New York Theatre Ballet presents three ballets that will
delight audiences young and old. Cinderella; There, And Back Again, a modern
tale on the beloved tale of Hansel and
Gretel; and Double Andante, which is set
to Beethovens Sonata in D.
In Wayne at the Shea Center for Performing Arts at William Paterson Uni-
versity, Pinkalicious the Musical will be

performed on November 5. In the play,
the protagonists penchant for pink, as
in eating too many pink cupcakes, lands
her in trouble. A delight for youngsters.
Also at the Shea Center, the Moscow
Ballet presents The Great Russian Nutcracker on December 8, which includes
40 top Russian dancers. The Shea Center
and the dance company have teamed up
with a local school, The Garden Street
School for Performing Arts in Hoboken,
to involve several youngsters who will
be participating in the production, said
Craig Woelpper, event-marketing coordinator for the Shea Center.
In December, for the 19th consecutive season, the Donetsk ballet company and Miss Pattis School of Dance
will present the music and magic of a
timeless dance tradition, Tchaikovskys
The Nutcracker. The performances
benefit pediatric cancer research care
and treatment. Accompanied with live
music by the award-winning Adelphi
Orchestra, three performances are
scheduled December 9 through December 11 at Paramus Catholic High
School in Paramus. The performances
are sponsored by JulieDance, a nonprofit arts organization founded in 1997
by Patti and Darryl Vigon, owners of
Miss Pattis School of Dance in Midland
Park, in memory of their daughter, Julie, a promising young dancer who died
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weeks positive changes were observed
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Q: What is ASD?
A: Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
is a disorder characterized, in varying
degrees, by difficulties in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication, and repetitive behaviors. Many
people have a specific picture of what
autism looks like and this picture is often extreme, with behaviors that include
arm flapping and head banging. However, ASD covers a wide spectrum of behavioral challenges, and many children
with this diagnosis are high-functioning
individuals. In fact, many of the children
that we serve are in mainstream schools
or integrated classes.
Q: Why is ABA (Applied Behavior
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A: While there are many alternative
treatments that claim to treat or even
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ABA by experts in the field
Q: What is ABA?
A: Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA)
is an evidence-based approach that has
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helping children and young adults with
ASD. It is a behavioral therapy, which
views each behavior in the context of
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the duration of the therapy to ensure that
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Q: What is Proud Moments Therapy?
A: We are a team of professionals,
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children and young adults with ASD. We
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or other settings. Services are covered
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and are in addition to any other services
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out-of-pocket charge to parents.

Q: What kind of strategies do you use?
A: Using ABA, children are taught
appropriate ways to behave, to develop
and strengthen communication skills,
and to enhance their social skills. ABA
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ensure a childs progress and growth.
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A: As they develop, most children
learn the social rules naturally. For
some, however, this doesnt come naturally and they need to be taught the
skills, just as children need to be taught
math and spelling. Our social skills program is designed to provide an engaging
curriculum based on the principles of
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that are organized in a progressively developmental order.
Devorah Weiss-Reichenberg is the clinical director at Proud Moments Therapy
in North Jersey (www.proudmomentsaba.
com). She has 15 years of experience working with children and young adults with an
ASD diagnosis and has specialized training in Natural Environment Teaching and
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Celebrity Kids Closes After 27 Stylish Years

Celebrity Kids, the fashionable childrens clothing and toy store in Tenafly
is closing its doors because its sistersin-law, owners are retiring. To mark the
occasion, the store is launching a major farewell sale on Nov. 1.
As they look forward to their next
stage, co-owners and sisters-in-law Rea
Epstein and Vikki Price reflect on the
memories of serving the Tenafly and
broader Bergen County communities
for the last 27 years.
We have been very connected
with our customers over the years, and
we cant thank them enough for their
support, Ms. Epstein says. Its been
an honor to have been such an integral
part of the communities in this area,
and we know that now is the right time
for us to end this amazing ride.
Ms. Price adds, Our customers
have been so devoted. It has been extremely gratifying to see the young
moms from the early years still coming
in today, with their grown children and
new grandchildren. We will miss our
customers and the wonderful women
who have worked with for so long.
In retirement, Ms. Price and Ms.
Epstein will travel and pursue other
leisure passions. Most of all, both are
looking forward to spending more time
with their own celebrity grandkids, Lucas, Zack and another soon-to-arrive
baby boy.
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With Young Learners,

Vision is More than Meets the Eye
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understanding especially
for
youngsters, says author Wendy
Rosen. Vision not just eyesight, but
vision is so critical to learning that it
impacts a childs academic success in
very significant ways. There are untold
numbers of youngsters struggling with
their learning because their visual skills
are not functioning properly. And too often, these youngsters are not diagnosed,
theyre misdiagnosed, or they are shunted to the side and labeled.
Ms. Rosen, a Highland Park resident
who grew up in Paramus, has authored
a groundbreaking, eye-opening book
about this little-known learning and behavioral problem. In The Hidden Link
Between Vision and Learning: Why Millions of Learning-Disabled Children Are
Misdiagnosed (Rowman & Littlefield)

Ms. Rosen takes a very complex subject
and clarifies it for the lay person, bringing to light the issue through her assiduous research and her own experience as
a mother to a youngster who overcame
vision-related learning problems. It is
her mission, Ms. Rosen says, to make
parents, educators, pediatricians, psychologists all those who deal with
children, more aware of this problem.
Ms. Rosen will be speaking on November
9 at 5 p.m. at the Bank Street Book Store,
2780 Broadway, Manhattan.
Here, Ms. Rosen shares her thoughts
with About Our Children.
About Our Children: What are vision-based learning problems?
Wendy Rosen: First, it is essential to understand that an accurate,
broad-based cultural understanding
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knowledge. We typically think of vision
as a 20/20 reading, or some variation of
this. But it is far beyond this measurement, which only represents acuity,
or eyesight, which is how well we see
at a certain distance. Vision actually
involves more than two dozen lesserknown skills that help us navigate our
way through life. They are critical to a
childs overall development. Some of
these lesser-known skills include: vergence, binocularity, focus accommodation, visual closure, figure ground, and
laterality and directionality.
When one or more of these skills are
not functioning optimally, our capabilities are compromised in ways we are often not aware of. When this occurs in a
child, they may have an unrecognized vision problem that can greatly affect their
ability to learn and succeed in school,
and in other areas of their lives.
Vision-related learning problems
affect 1 in 4 school-age children. Few
people are aware that a breakdown in
the visual system can be at the core of
a learning disability. Many symptoms
of vision-related learning problems can
mimic other conditions such as ADHD
and dyslexia. There are, consequently,

countless numbers of children who are
classified as special education students
or are medicated, or both, who may be
wrongly diagnosed and are not getting
the help they need. Vision-related learning problems can affect every child, from
those outwardly struggling the most to
those who may be at the top of the class.
There are signs and symptoms that
can clue us in to a potential problem.
Knowing what to look for could make all
the difference.
AOC: Why havent we heard about
this before?
Ms. Rosen: There are several explanations for this that I go into in depth in
the book. One reason is that vision problems are inherently difficult to recognize
given that they are most often hidden.
When a child exhibits a speech problem,
we can hear it. We have no way of knowing, however, what the world looks like
to a child, and they typically dont question what they are seeing. It is highly unusual for a child to articulate how they
see, let alone describe any symptoms
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present in 3/4 of the juvenile delinquent
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adults. When these problems go unrecognized and untreated, lives can unravel.
If after learning about this subject an
adult feels he or she may have struggled
with this as a child, it is never too late
to be evaluated by a behavioral optometrist. Vision therapy is an effective protocol for adults as well.
AOC: Why the controversy about vision therapy and its efficacy?
Ms. Rosen: There is, sadly, a modest
amount of misinformation and disparity
out there that inaccurately challenges
the efficacy of vision therapy and the integrity of this field. Valid research on the
merits of vision therapy dates back fiftyplus years. Documented studies over
these past five decades have shown the
effectiveness of vision therapy. There is
an abundance of research published in
refereed scientific journals backing this
field that illuminates the scientific basis
for the diagnosis and successful treatment of vision disorders.
There is, unfortunately, an absence

of progressive dialogue between sectors
of the eye care profession, which has resulted in a lack of genuine understanding of what this field and its treatment
protocols address. Slowly, this is starting to get attention. The controversy is
so important to understand Ive devoted
a whole chapter of the book to addressing the myths and hopefully clarifying any confusion that sometimes dissuades people from seeking evaluation
or treatment.
AOC: Anything else you would like
to add or share?
Ms. Rosen: With so many children
struggling with learning and behavior
issues, and so many schools struggling
to meet these needs and so often falling
short, The Hidden Link Between Vision
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Anxiety in Youngsters
ust like adults, children and teens

feel worried and anxious at times.
Throughout a childs life there will
be times when they feel anxiety. For instance, many feel anxious when going
to a new school or before tests. Some
may feel shy in social situations. But if
a childs anxiety starts to affect their
well being, they may need help to overcome it.
About Our Children consulted with
Dr. Kai-ping Wang, the Medical Director of Pediatric Psychiatry at the Valley
Medical Group, for his expertise.
About Our Children: Are we seeing
more anxiety in children and teens these
days than in the past, and what is causing so much anxiety?
Dr. Kai-ping Wang: Traditionally
anxiety has been vastly under recognized. Its often highly internalized
and thus causes fewer problems than
depressive or behavior disorders.
Previously only more severe manifestations, like panic attacks or school
refusal, merited attention. Thankfully,
there is a growing awareness of mental health and the impact of untreated
anxiety in childhood. There may be
some external factors, as well. While
we are lucky to not have the food
anxieties and safety worries of basic
needs of refugees or some strife-filled
countries suffer, we, as humans do always seem to find something to worry
about. The hyper-connectiveness of

social media is fertile ground for envy,
insecurity and self-judgment as we
compare ourselves to others. Media
is rife with fear-driven stories. The importance of testing in schools and increased academic expectations raise
the perceived stakes for getting into
the best college possible.
AOC: When does normal anxiety
such as taking tests or going to a new
school become more worrisome?
Dr. Wang: While anxiety is clearly
problematic if it affects behavior or function, such as in school refusal, physical
complaints, insomnia, moodiness, isola-
tion, etc., any anxiety that adversely affects experience/enjoyment of is worth

exploring. Even children with normal
anxiety benefit from learning how to
cope or deal with worry.
AOC: What can a parent do to help
their children experience less anxiety?
Dr. Wang: Parents need to tread
carefully, as there is danger in excessively protecting our children from harmful
experiences. We hate seeing our kids suffer, but part of parenting and childhood
is learning to deal with lifes adversities,
including anxiety and fears. This can
take the form of teaching a child how to
manage stress, understand the nature of
fear/anxiety, having coping strategies,

and building confidence.
AOC: Should a parent be on the
lookout for physical symptoms of anxiety, and what are they?
Dr. Wang: Yes, things like stomach
upset, headaches, tension, fatigue, sleep
issues, appetite changes, heart racing,
etc.
AOC: At what point should a parent
refer the child or teenager to a health
professional and if so who would be
best suited?
Dr. Wang: Level of severity and lack
of (or limited) progress in coping with
anxiety can be some guidelines in seeking an assessment. Most mild to moderate anxiety should be first addressed
with therapy, but a good psychiatric
assessment can also be of value if there
is suspicion of medical involvement
in anxiety.
AOC: Is there anything else you
would like to add?
Dr. Wang: Anxiety is not bad, nor to
be avoided. There are a lot of benefits
to anxiety. Often it helps drive performance, is protective, or helps us be more
connected. Excessive anxiety however,
can cause needless worry or effort and
stymie growth. Learning to recognize
and deal with anxiety appropriately is
a critical skill with far reaching benefits
into adulthood.
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Teaching Teens to Cope with Their Anxiety

eenagers face a plethora of

stresses that may lead to anxiety.
There are the social stresses
of trying to fit in. There are the stresses of doing well in school and academic performance. There are family
stresses, whether it is a challenging or
difficult relationship between parent
and child, siblings, or the dynamic between parents. And in some families,
there is also financial stress.
It is a lot of manage for an adolescent while he or she is trying to figure
out who they are now and who they

want to be. Add to the growing list of
stressors, the omnipresence and pressure of social media, and it seems that
teens carry a weighty load indeed.
Temima Danzig, a clinical social
worker who practices in Teaneck, says
the key to managing the inevitable
stresses is to learn effective coping
techniques. In her practice, which targets adolescents and adults, Ms. Danzig uses cognitive, behavioral therapy,
which focuses on thoughts, feelings
and behaviors. Cognitive behavioral
therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-
oriented psychotherapy treatment that

takes a hands-on, practical approach to
problem solving. Its goal is to change
patterns of thinking or behavior that
are behind peoples difficulties, and so
change the way they feel.
I try to teach coping skills on
how to handle the negative thinking,
so it doesnt lead to problematic behavior patterns and bad feelings, said
Ms. Danzig.
Through several different techniques, including visualization, mindfulness, and other techniques to stop
distracting lines of thinking, Ms. Dan-
zig says that teens can learn to ebb

their anxiety and better deal with the
stress that comes naturally with life as
an adolescent.
If problems bubble up during
these years, its a good idea, says Ms.
Danzig, to teach these youngsters
these skills. We want to be able to
teach adolescence how to deal with
their emotions and teach effective
coping skills, so they would have
them for the rest of their lives.
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When Enough Is Enough

S LOV I E JU N G R E I S - WO L F F
id you ever notice how so many

children today seem unhappy?
No matter how much they
have, no matter how hard you try to give
them more, they never seem content.
They should be the happiest children
who ever lived. They have traveled to islands, gone jeeping through the deserts
of Israel, swam with dolphins, but there
is a sense of discontent.
There are children who have
iPhones, iPads, wiis, Gameboys, American girl dolls, and basements filled with
toys. Summertime brings talk of sleep
away camp, shopping with long lists in
hand or planning trips to faraway places.
Even with the difficult economic situation, the reality is that we would rather
do without ourselves than have our children feel as if they are lacking.
A father called me recently. He said
that each summer he rents a home for
his family in beautiful surroundings. It is
a neighborhood where some people buy
lavish homes, others rent. Even though
he has always enjoyed their summer
place, his 13-year-old daughter made it
clear that she was unhappy.

At 2 a.m. she decided to have
a meltdown.
I am ashamed of the house we stay
in every summer, she cried. All my
friends have much better houses, why
cant we? If we take this same house as
always I dont want any of my friends
coming over. Dont even think about inviting them!
She stomped to her room and
slammed the door, leaving her father
hurt and perplexed.
I try so hard, he said to me. What
is she thinking? Doesnt she see how
much I sweat to make a buck?
How do we combat the unhappiness?
Of course there are many reasons
our children act miserably. You can say
it is awful chutzpah, too much stuff, absence of parental involvement, or deficient discipline. Others will say there is
not enough one on one time, children
who do not feel really accepted, a lack of
self-esteem or just plain arrogance.
We mistakenly believe that the more
we give, the happier theyll be. Wrong.
But at the root of the misery lies a
basic glaring lack of gratitude. When
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children are not cognizant of their blessings, they do not begin to recognize
how much they have. They overlook the
good, both the big and the small, and
they grow more entitled with each day.
We mistakenly believe that the more
we give, the happier they will be.
Wrong. Instead, it is the more they
appreciate, the happier they will grow.
I explained to this father that it is
time he sat down with his daughter
and introduce her to the concept of
dayenu. On Passover we recount all
of Gods many kindnesses. After each
kindness we pause and say: dayenu it
would have been enough for us! We are
encouraged to recognize each gracious
act of giving and realize that every deed
deserves thoughtful appreciation. We
dont take anything for granted. We stop
and contemplate the blessing of enough.
I received an incredibly long list that
had been drawn up for this 13 year old.
Heres part of the list:
We have a beautiful home.
We rent a lovely summerhouse in a
gorgeous neighborhood.
We have traveled to Israel.
We have traveled to Paris.
We have traveled to Italy.

We have gone skiing in Utah.
We eat in delicious restaurants.
We have gone to Miami every Hanukkah vacation since you were a baby.
We have celebrated your bat mitzvah with an amazing party.
We have sent you to sleep away
camp since fourth grade.
We have a loving family.
We have grandparents who cherish us.
We have good health.
After each line, the father wrote dayenu. And then he explained to this child
who had been blessed with more than
she had ever understood (and more
than most could ever imagine) that it
was time to appreciate the blessings of
that which we have, instead of focusing
on that which we think that we are missing in life.
There is one more missing link
herethe presence of parents who live
with the motto of dayenu in their own
lives. When children hear their mother
or father constantly commenting on oth-
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The Leonard and Syril Rubin Nursery School at the Kaplen JCC on the
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Jewish tradition, where children can
become confident, responsible and
successful learners. To showcase all
it offers, the school is holding three
open houses, on Nov. 18, Dec. 9, and
Jan. 13, where prospective families
can meet the director, learn about
the school and its curriculum, ask
questions, tour the facilities and
spend time in the classrooms.
I am looking forward to meeting new families and showcasing all
our school has to offer, says Devin
Zukofsky, early childhood director.
Our goal is to introduce our children to new interests in a warm,
fun and caring environment, where
they can gain a strong sense of self
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The school provides innovative
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The curriculum includes cognitive learning and enrichment; fine
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and full day sessions with extended
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week according to age. Our experienced, professional staff works
closely with each child to promote
his or her social, emotional and intellectual development.
Classes meet in attractive,
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Haworth Teen Honored by

National Award for Heroic Service Activity
Sabina London, 18, of Haworth has been
named a 2016 honoree by the Gloria Barron Prize for Young Heroes. Each year,
the Barron Prize celebrates 25 inspiring,
public-spirited young people15 winners and 10 honorees ho have made
a significant positive difference to people and our planet. This years Barron
Prize honorees are a diverse group of
outstanding young leaders chosen from
nearly four hundred applicants across
North America.
Sabina founded Girls Science Interactive, a non-profit that provides free
STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) summer camps for elementary and middle school girls. Her
camps, usually held for 25 students at
public libraries in mostly low-income
neighborhoods, are designed to spark
girls interest in science. They provide
hands-on exploration of topics such as
chemistry, global warming, neuroscience, and renewable energy, and demonstrate the real-world applications
of science.
In just two years, Sabina has grown
her program from a single camp in one
location to 13 camps at sites in Florida,
Kentucky, Louisiana, New Jersey, New
York, and Pennsylvania. She has recruited and trained a team of 17 high school
and college students
all of whom
share her passion for girls and STEM

to serve as regional directors. Sabinas
inspiration sprung from her work for the
past four years in a professional biomedical research lab and from her recognition that boys hugely outnumber girls in
her advanced science and math classes.
People shouldnt be afraid to try
something new, says Sabina. I think
everyone should strive to give back to
their communities in some way, even if
they start small.
The Barron Prize was founded in
2001 by author T.A. Barron and was
named for his mother, Gloria Barron.
Each years 25 Barron Prize young heroes are as diverse as their service projects. They are female and male, urban
and rural, and from many races and
backgrounds. Half of them have focused
on helping their communities and fellow
human beings; half have focused on protecting the environment.
Nothing is more inspiring than stories about heroic people who have truly
made a difference to the world, says Mr.
Barron. And we need our heroes today
more than ever. Not celebrities, but heroes people whose character can inspire us all. That is the purpose of the
Gloria Barron Prize: to shine the spotlight on these amazing young people so
that their stories will inspire others.
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amily is forever. When a family feels bonded, parents and children share life experiences on a different level. Difficult times are filled with moments
of strength, connection and encouragement. Happy
occasions become sweeter, brighter, and more joyous.
Are there daily choices we can make that would make a
difference in our homes? Can we implement behaviors
and attitudes that help our family grow stronger?
Here are some ways in which to strengthen your
family bond:
1. Loyalty
For families to thrive, there needs to be a sense of security. We create a home that is a haven by allowing
each child (and parent) to feel safe with one another.
Together time should never evoke sentiments of fear
or insecurity. No family member should feel the need to
withdraw within a shell to feel protected.
How can we build family loyalty?
Support each others dreams and stand up for
one another
Dont use verbal zingers, sarcasm, or derogatory
comments to strike each other down
Convey that family sacrifices for one another.
Sometimes it is physical, like sharing a crowded space
or cutting a favorite piece of cake in half. Other times it
is emotional, like giving time or a listening ear.
Parents model respect when disagreeing with
each other. They dont shame each other.
Create a tone in the home that does not cultivate
fear. This means that verbal abuse, yelling, screaming
at one another, or looking for someone to constantly
blame are all off limits. (Of course, physical abuse and
fighting is never allowed).
Siblings show concern when one is hurting, experiencing pain or disappointment.
While we cant fix the situation the least we can do
is care. Indifference shows a callousness of the heart.
2. Acceptance
We all need to feel that we belong. If a family member
feels alone, there is the danger that he or she will look
elsewhere for love. Acceptance means that I can lean
on you when I fall and you will encourage me when I fail.
If I make a mistake, I am not afraid to confide in you because you are approachable. You believe in me flaws
and all. This does not just apply to children. Husbands
and wives, too, need to feel accepted by their spouse.
This doesnt mean that we dont give consequences
or ignore misbehavior. Rather, there is an underlying
sentiment of being loved that allows the relationship to
flourish despite the discipline. Acceptance means that
we feel positively about our place in the family even if
we have caused disappointment.
How can we create an environment of acceptance?
Get to know your family. As children grow parents
realize that they are clueless and wonder where my
little guy or girl has gone. Here, too, it is crucial for
husbands and wives to continue to make time for one
another as years go.
Find your childs inner star. Some children natu-
rally shine and others need to have the light brought out.
Help reveal each childs inner gifts by showing interests in their likes, challenging their curiosity about
the world, and joining them in this quest of discovery.
Encourage uniqueness. We are all different, even
if we were born to the same parents. Dont try to raise
cookie cutter children. Allow for individual likes and
tastes.
Dont over schedule your child. Seeking exceptionality brings parents to over expect. Children are
made to feel as if they are inadequate if they do not invent a start-up, star on a team, score high on their ACT,
or play the violin. What about just being a human being
who is kind, sensitive and a pleasure to be with?
Never slam a door on a family member or do
something that creates the feeling that they are rejected
from the home. Be careful when upset not to say something that can be interpreted as being hateful. While we
can dislike the behavior, we must not allow a child or
spouse to feel discarded from the family.
3. Appreciation
The foundation of every home must be gratitude. Appreciation is the oxygen of marriage. Childrens gratitude towards their parents, life opportunities, natural
gifts and numerous physical blessings creates an environment of respect. We dont take our family or things
for granted. We speak thoughtfully. We take care of our
possessions. We dont allow our children to grow entitled. The entire atmosphere in the home is transformed.
How can we encourage an attitude of gratitude?
Parents model thankfulness to one another. This
means that acts that we take for granted, such as making dinner, driving carpool, family leisure time and
trips, buying clothing, are all recognized and voiced
with appreciation. Children should be taught to follow
in parents direction.
Dont over buy. We want to create happy homes
so many of us make the mistake of equating happiness
with things. We overindulge our children. We keep getting them the latest fads and cant deal with their tears
when we say no. Then we are surprised by their lack
of appreciation and shocked by their disrespect. Truth
is we are to blame. The cycle of great expectations has
been created. Somehow, it is never enough and theyve
never learned to be happy with what they have.
Stop texting while talking. When we look down at
our phones while communicating with our loved ones
who are standing in front of us, we are clearly showing that they are not important enough for us to even
look at. How can I value you if I cannot take the time to
see you? Checking emails when returning home from
work or when children (or a spouse) are trying to share
thoughts with you is plain disrespect. Family time becomes downgraded in childrens eyes.
Combined with the traits of loyalty, acceptance and
appreciation is the ability of parents to create an environment of spirituality that anchors the home. Strong
roots keep the family grounded.
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting and couples coach and
teacher. She is the author of Raising a Child With Soul, (St.
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1. Alan Moskin, a former WWII soldier

and concentration camp liberator, was
the featured speaker recently at The
Chabad Center of Passaic. More than
50 people listened to Mr. Moskin, who
serves on the Holocaust Museum
Board of Trustees, and shares his story
with school groups and adults, and has
been featured on PBS network.
2. Temple Emeth in Teaneck honored
its students entering the religious
school in a consecration ceremony as
part of its Sukkot service recently. From
left, second row, Cantor Ellen Tilem,
Religious School Director Dora Geld
Friedman and Rabbi Steven Sirbu.
3. Cantor Emeritus Mark Biddelman
teaches the children at the Early
Childhood Program at Temple Emanuel
in Woodlake Cliff songs for the holidays. I love teaching the 2, 3, and 4
year olds. They are so attentive and
they love singing along with me as I
play my guitar, he said.
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4. This year Chai4ever, an organization that offers
help to families where a parent is ill, debuted a
camp. More than 100 boys joined Camp4ever!
for a two-week tour of the Atlantic Coast, culminating in a Disney adventure. The campers
shared their unique challenges and the support
of specially trained staff.
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5. IAC Eitanim, a unique entrepreneurial program for high school students conceived by the
Israeli-American Council (IAC), is being offered
at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades in Tenafly.
The program includes 10 mandatory sessions
and an optional summer summit (at additional
cost), and is designed to allow students to connect, explore, and experience Israel while preparing for college and professional careers.
6. Temple Beth Tikvah, a Reform congregation in Wayne, led families in a fun, musical
Sukkot service. Rabbi Meeka Simerly and
Cantor Emeritus Charles Romalis presided
over the event that was capped by a pizza
dinner followed by dessert in the sukkah.
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Mutts Gone Nuts:

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It is Bah-loon! Pre-Parade Fun

On the day before Thanksgiving, the giant balloons for the Macys Thanksgiving Day Parade
come to life to the oohs and ahhhs of children and their parents. SpongeBob, Big Bird, Shrek,
Snoopy and many other iconic inflatables are filled with helium and then held down with giant
nets until they get released for the big Thanksgiving Day Parade. Watching the balloons fill
up the night before is an event second, if not first, to watching the parade itself. The balloonfilling event can be viewed on Nov. 23 from 3 to10 p.m. Located from 77 and 81 Streets,
between Central Park West and Columbus Avenues in Manhattan.
Expect the unexpected,

as canines and comedy
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Mutts Gone Nuts: Canine
Cabaret at bergenPAC.
The show is leaving audiences howling for more.
From shelters to showbiz,
these furry friends are
unleashing havoc and
hilarity in a breathtaking,
action-packed, comedy
dog spectacular, featuring
some of the worlds most
talented four-legged performers. The show follows
a month-long fundraising
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Sunday, Nov. 6 at1 p.m.
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Alix Mitnick Performs

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Emmy Award-winning childrens entertainer Alex Mitnick and his group of
fun-loving musicians of Alex & the
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families with their fresh approach to
music for over a decade. From pop
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musical journey in the show that is well
suited for youngsters ages 3 to 10.
Performance is on Sunday, Nov. 20,
11:30 to12:30 p.m. at the Scheuer
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Taking Action
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Test your sports skills in a new, high-tech training camp at the Liberty Science
Center. The Action Zone is a Liberty Science Center original. A state-of-the-art
simulator lets you pass a football, toss a dodge ball at zombies, boot a soccer
ball, and more. Visitors can also balance on a beam, give the broad jump their
best shot and scramble up a rotating climbing wall. Youll be so physically active,
youll forget youre inside a museum. Liberty Science Center, Liberty State
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To Our Readers: This calendar is a day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, its a good idea to call to
verify details before you go.
Sunday, October 30
Story Time in Paramus: Stories and crafts or

activities in the Childrens Department at Barnes
& Noble. 11 a.m. 765 Route 17 South, Paramus.
201-445-4589.
All Aboard: An original play, When Jessie

Came Across the Sea, based on the PJ Library
story at the Museum of Jewish Heritage. 10:30
a.m. Edmond J. Safra Plaza, 36 Battery Place,
Manhattan. 646-437-4202, www.mjhnyc.org.
Family Art Project: Papermaking in autumn
color. Join visiting artist and papermaking expert
Randy Brozen and learn how to make paper
using pulp. Use a simple process to fashion your
handmade paper into a leafy shape or add a
found leaf for decoration. 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Wave
Hill House, Wave Hill, 649 W 249 St., Bronx,
718-549-3200, www.wavehill.org.
Yellow Sneaker at Museum: Join the musical
group Yellow Sneaker and their puppet pals for a
program that nurtures family bonds and bridges
connections to Jewish life and traditions. 10:30
a.m. The Museum of Jewish Heritage, 36 Battery
Place in Lower Manhattan. www.mjhnyc.org/families, 646-437-4202.
Mutts Gone Nuts: Canine Cabaret at bergenPAC, 1 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 N. Van Brunt St.,
Englewood. 201-227-1030, www.bergenpac.org.
Super Sundays in Teaneck: Pink Flamingo
Puppets perform for children 4 and older. 2
p.m. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck, 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org.
Saturday, November 5
Wednesday, November 9
Hands-On Art: Bring the family for a hands-on

exploration of art. For children 1 to 7 years old.
There will be selected works from the Jerusalem
Biennale, which explores the intersection of
contemporary art and the Jewish world. 10 a.m.
to noon. JCC Manhattan, 334 Amsterdam Ave.,
Manhattan. 646-505-4444, www.jccmanhattan.
org.
Tuesday, November 1
Casting Call for Willy Wonka: The Wayne Ys
Rosen PAC, in partnership with Pushcart Players,
will hold casting calls from 1 to 4 p.m. for this
years annual youth show, Willie Wonka Jr. To register and sign up for an audition slot, 973-5950100. The Y is located at 1 Pike Drive, Wayne.
Toddler Time in Teaneck: Library fun for youngsters, walkers up to age 2. From 10 to 11 a.m.
Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Nature vs. Nurture: Lecture by psychologist, Steven Tobias, for the Adoptive Parents
Committee. 6 to 8 p.m. The Kinnelon Library, 132
Kinnelon Road, Kinnelon. 201-301-2816.
Sunday, November 6
Casting Call for Willy Wonka: The Wayne Ys
Rosen PAC, in partnership with Pushcart Players,
will hold casting calls from 1 to 4 p.m. for this
years annual youth show, Willie Wonka Jr. To register and sign up for an audition slot, 973-5950100. The Y is located at 1 Pike Drive, Wayne.

201-445-4589.
Wendy Rosen Speaks: Highland Park resident and author Wendy Rosen, who wrote the
eye-opening book, The Hidden Link Between
Vision and Learning: Why Millions of LearningDisabled Children Are Misdiagnosed discusses
her research and the book at Bank Street Book
Store at 5 p.m. 2780 Broadway, Manhattan. 212678-1654.
Thursday, November 10
Family Gaming in Teaneck: Children of all ages
are invited to play on Wii consoles. Families welcomed. From 1 to 2 p.m. Teaneck Public Library,
840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck, 201-837-4171,
www.teaneck.org.
Family Movies in Teaneck: Join in to watch a
movie on the big screen. No registration required.
Children 9 years and younger must be accompanied by a caregiver. 3 p.m. Teaneck Public Library,
840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck, 201-837-4171,
www.teaneck.org.
Saturday, November 12
Sports With Friendship Circle: The Friendship
Circle sports clinics for children with special
needs and their siblings will take place 6:30 to
8 p.m. Work on balance, team, playing and ball
sports of all kinds. Chabad Center of Passaic
County, 194 Ratzer Road, Wayne. 973-6946274, www.fcpassaiccounty.com
Sunday, November 13
When Jessie Came across the Sea, see

Sunday, November 6.
Rummage Sale at Temple Beth El: The

Sisterhood of Temple Beth El holds its semiannual Rummage Sale from 9 a.m. to noon and 1
to 3 p.m. Bargains galore on high-quality, gently
used clothing and coats for the entire family.
Other merchandise includes toys, books, baby
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accessories as well as many household items and
collectibles. 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter,
201-768-5112.
Tuesday, November 15
201-445-4589.
Thursday, November 17
Gumpert Teachers Workshop: The Resettlement
of Survivors of Genocide, Crimes Against
Humanity and Mass Atrocity: Past and Present.
9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Trustees Pavilion, Ramapo
College of New Jersey, 505 Ramapo Valley Road,
Mahwah.
Young Fantasy Reads: Join the Young Fantasy
Reads book group at 7:30 p.m. as they discuss
Lois Lowrys, The Giver. Barnes & Noble, 765
Route 17 South, Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Friday, November 18
Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth El: Rabbi David S.
Widzer, Rabbi Beth Kramer-Mazer, Cantor Rica
Timman and Music Lisa will lead the service
starting at 5:15 p.m. The theme is Helping
Others. Open to 2 to 5 year olds and their families. 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-7685112, www.tbenv.org.
Family Shabbat at Temple Beth El: Join a
Shabbat family service at 6:45 p.m. led by Rabbi
David S. Widzer, Rabbi Beth Kramer-Mazer and
Cantor Rica Timman. 221 Schraalenburgh Road,
Closter. 201-768-5112, www.tbenv.org.
Sunday, November 20
Family Concert at The Jewish Museum: Emmy
Award-winning childrens entertainer Alex
Mitnick and his group of musicians of Alex & the

Kaleidoscope perform from 11:30 a.m. to 12:30
p.m. at the Scheuer Auditorium in The Jewish
Museum. Show good for youngsters 3 to 10. 1109
Fifth Ave., Manhattan. 212-423-3200, www.thejewishmuseum.org.
Bookaneer Book Fair: An amazing selection of
books, find the latest and greatest books for your
children to treasure and get everyone excited
about reading. 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Crafts from 11
a.m. to noon. Special performance 2:30 to 3:30
p.m. Kaplen JCC on the Palisades, 411 E. Clinton
Ave., Tenafly. 201-569-7900, www.jccotp.org.
Alix Mitnick at The Jewish Museum: Emmy
Award-winning childrens entertainer Alex
Mitnick and his group of fun-loving musicians of
Alex & the Kaleidoscope perform 11:30 at the
Scheuer Auditorium, The Jewish Museum, 1109
Fifth Ave., Manhattan. 212-423-3200, www.
thejewishmuseum.org.
Monday, November 21
Bookaneer Book Fair: An amazing selection of
books, find the latest and greatest books for your
children to treasure and get everyone excited
about reading. 9 a.m. to 7 p.m. Kaplen JCC on the
Palisades, 411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenafly. 201-5697900, www.jccotp.org.
201-445-4589.
Balloon Blow Up: Watch the balloons that float
along the Macys Thanksgiving Day Parade come
to life from 3 to 10 p.m. between 77 and 81
Streets and Central Park West and Columbus
Avenues.
Tuesday, November 29
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Simchas
Birth
TAYLOR
MARIE CHANANIE
Taylor Marie Chananie was
born August 29, 2016 at 5:10
p.m., at Hackensack University
Medical Center to Arlene
and Joshua and Chananie of
Clifton. She weighed 7 pounds,
3 ounces, and was 20 3/4
inches long. She joins a sister,
Kylie Frances, 2.
Taylors grandparents are
Beth and Robert Chananie
of Paramus, and Suzanne
Kullman of Staten Island, N.Y.
CAM PHOTOGRAPHY, CLIFTON
Kylies great-grandparents are
Frances and the late Richard
Chananie of West Palm Beach, Fla., formerly of Englewood Cliffs, the late Wilbur F. Kullman of
Staten Island, and the late Ruth and Morris Janoff of Teaneck, formerly of Jersey City.
Proud aunts, uncles, and cousin are Rachel, Adam, and Rebecca Shara Jay of Springfield; and
Michael and Alyson Chananie of Fanwood.
B'nai Mitzvah
MAX GLUCK
Max Gluck, son of Hayley and
Jeff Gluck of Ridgewood, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on October 15 at Temple
Israel & Jewish Community
Center of Ridgewood.
Friendship Circle of Bergen County will

hold several mini-day camp sessions
for special needs students when public
schools are closed in November. Yedidainu is open to all special education students, ages 5 to 16 who receive services
in public school.
All activities, including music,
games, sports, art, baking and field trips
to local attractions, are closely supervised and modified to accommodate
each individual campers abilities. The
mini-camp follows the Teaneck school
district calendar and will be held this
year at the following locations and times:
Camp will be held Tuesday, Nov. 8
from 9:30 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Torah Academy of Bergen County, 1600 Queen Anne
Road in Teaneck. Thursday, Nov. 10 from
9:30 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Maayanot Yeshiva
High School, 1650 Palisade Avenue in

Teaneck. Friday, Nov. 11 from 9:30 a.m.
to 12:30 p.m. at The Moriah School, 53
South Woodland Street in Englewood.
This location is for students up to age 12.
In addition to the November dates,
Friendship Circle will also hold a winter
camp program from Tuesday, December
27 through Friday, December 30 at the
Frisch School, 120 West Century Road in
Paramus. The winter camp program, like
its summer counterpart, offers a range
of creative and recreational activities,
and field trips.
To register a child for the November
mini-camp days or the December winter
camp week, contact Zeesy Grossbaum
at 201-262-7172 or Zeesy@bcfriendship.
com. www.bcfriendship.com.
Cooking Up a Storm in the Kitchen

The Chabad Jewish Center in Franklin
Lakes is offering a new, innovative cooking program for children called Kids
in the Kitchen for youngsters in pre-K
through 3rd grade. The young chefs
learn valuable culinary skills while also
learning about Jewish culture and traditional foods.
The children participate in every
aspect of the preparation of real recipes,
peeling, cutting, mixing, rolling, tasting,
and even comparing different recipes of
the food they make, said Mimi Kaplan,
the educational director at Chabad.

Recipes change each session so
children are learning about a new
dish, ingredient or technique, and become more adventurous about food as
they progress.
The club meets monthly on Thursday from 4 to 5 p.m. and includes custom child-sized apron with full membership. Registration is limited. Annual club
membership is $100 or $20 per session.
For registration or information, www.
chabadplace.org/kitk.
PARTY
HAYDEN BLOCH
Hayden Bloch, son of Heather
and David Bloch of Park
Ridge, celebrated becoming
a bar mitzvah on October
15 at Temple Emanuel
of the Pascack Valley in
Woodcliff Lake.
Enough
Friendship Circle Mini-Camp
REBECCA COHEN
Rebecca Cohen, daughter of
Jodi and Douglas Cohen of
Woodcliff Lake and sister of
Josh, celebrated becoming a
bat mitzvah on October 22
at Temple Emanuel of the
Pascack Valley in Woodcliff
Lake.
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er peoples homes, enviously recounting

the way others vacation, or having conversations about the expensive clothing
and furniture that their friends seem to
have, we are implanting the ugly roots of
discontent and unhappiness in our childrens hearts.
How can we teach the blessing of
enough when are days are spent wanting more and more?
Unfortunately, these parents spent
many hours bickering. But it is not only
financially that we come up short in our
minds. Somehow, in every conflict, this
husband and wife each felt unappreciat-
ed. Both expressed frustration that their

spouse was not doing their share.
If I am always concentrating on what
my spouse does not do instead of recognizing the good that he does, I end
up destroying any potential for joy that
I may have. My life becomes filled with
negatives and I grow bitter and unhappy.
Let us take the lesson of dayenu to
heart. It is time for us all to contemplate
the blessing of enough.
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting and
couples coach and teacher. She is the
author of Raising a Child With Soul, (St.
Aish.com
Martins Press).
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Off ice party attendant
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Invitations for party guests
Pizza and soda
Personalized Carvel ice cream cake
Favors and candy
FREE skating pass for future use
Birthday child receives FREE Ice Vault T shirt
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Editorial
The Bronfman Youth
Fellowship in Israel
his year, as every year, I got

an email telling me that the
Bronfman Youth Fellowship in Israel program has
opened its applications for the coming year.
This year, as every year, I get mistyeyed as I think about what the fellowship did for my daughters, and then
I get excited and hopeful as I think
about the next crop of eleventh graders who can apply for the fellowship,
and about the 26 incredibly lucky
ones who will be chosen for it.
The Bronfman Youth Fellowship
program is a microcosm of what
North American Jewish life should
be. It takes 13 young women and 13
young men, all in their junior year of
high school. They have much in common, those 26 kids. Theyre all smart,
intellectually curious, most likely a bit
intellectually adversarial as well, at
least when theyre challenged. They
are all accomplished, some terrifyingly
so, some, thankfully, more approachably. Theyre all Jewish, although
theyre not all Jewish according to the
definition of all of the other students
in their cohort, but by their own communitys definition they are. And they
all are engaged with their Jewishness.
They also have much that divides
them. They come from across the
United States and Canada (although
a disproportionate number of them
come from this area, home to a disproportionate number of North
American Jews). Some are urban,
some suburban, some even are
rural (as hard a trick as that sounds,
because after all were talking about
Jews). They come from across the
religious spectrum, from Orthodox to
Reform, and some come from outside
that spectrum, as cultural, ethnic, or
tikkun-olam Jews.
The Bronfman Foundation takes
these 26 young people to Israel,
where they are treated to a serious
look at the country, its problems,
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and its glories. They learn to understand and even to accept each other.
They learn to work out their differences, how to realize when differences are irreconcilable, how to
work around those irreconcilable
differences, and how to like each
other nonetheless. Its a leadership
program that takes the time to teach
budding leaders how to pay attention to each other for real.
It is a useful trip in practical ways;
it is helpful practice for college applications, and it looks good on those
applications. That is not in any way a
reason to apply for this program, or
to accept the trip if it is offered, but it
bears saying nonetheless.
The trip is free. Parents dont have
to be able to pay for it. There arent
any hidden costs. And it weaves participants into a network that will
continue to hold them for as long as
they want to be held forever, if they
chose, as so many do.
The best part of it, though, is that
when your children come home from
their Bronfman summer, they come
home shiny. Their eyes gleam. Their
voices boom. (Okay, I shouldnt overstate that one. It does have downsides.) They have been intellectually,
spiritually, and emotionally challenged and supported as they face
and overcome the challenges. They
have seen many ways of being Jewish, understand more about why
their parents made their choices, and
are either strengthened in their own
ways of expressing Jewishness or pick
new ones. And, of course, they have
learned about Israel as they learn
about American Judaism.
I hope that everyone who has a
child in eleventh grade who might
benefit from the Bronfman Youth Fellowship in Israel at least talks to that
child about it. Information is available at bronfman.org. The application
deadline is January 4, and the trip is
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Joanne Palmer
Associate Editor
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About Our Children Editor
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TRUTH REGARDLESS OF CONSEQUENCES
Hillary, Wikileaks, and Israel
aim Saban is a media titan who is

find some reassurance knowing that a man
a staunch lover and supporter of
of your unquestionable dedication to Israel is
Israel. He has a close and influen- an important adviser to Hillary on the Jewish
tial relationship with leading Dem- state.
ocrats, including Hillary Clinton. Wikileaks
Thats why Im asking you to advise Hillary to repudiate her relationship with Sidney
just released a number of emails that show
Blumenthal and his son Max because of their
that he brought our ad against Sidney and
rabid and vitriolic attacks on Israel and efforts
Max Blumenthal, which appeared last March
in the New York Times, to Hillarys attention, to influence the Democratic nominee with
their ugly views.
informing her advisers that a response should
I am writing in part because of the email
be readied. The ad detailed the extensive communications on Israel between Hillary and the
you wrote to her campaign after reading the
Blumenthals, the younger of whom calls Israel
World Values Network ad we placed in March
a Nazi state and the IDF the SS.
asking Hillary to disavow the Blumenthals.
The following is my public appeal to a man
You were quoted as writing, Some unflattering points, that we better be aware of, just in
for whom I have a world of respect to use his
case Trump (or whoever) gets a
influence to have Hillary separate herself from the virulently
hold of this and uses it in states
anti-Israel Blumenthals, Sid and
like Florida where it would be
his son Max.
very damaging.
Dear Haim:
The emails also indicate campaign chair John Podesta also
I know you to be one of Israels
understands the danger of Clinfiercest supporters in the world.
tons association with BlumenFew can compare to you in terms
thal. He raised the controversy
of your willingness to speak out
stirred by Blumenthals advice to
on Israels behalf and generShmuley
ously contribute your time and
Clinton on Libya during congresBoteach
sional hearings on the deadly
resources to causes that enhance
2012 attack on the U.S. consulate
Israels security and welfare.
in Benghazi. Sid is the gift that
You and I first met at CNNs
keeps on giving, Podesta said. I thought his
Heroes awards gala in Los Angeles, where I
served as a judge. Anderson Cooper intro- troublemaking on Libya was plenty enough.
duced us. I was struck by your kindness,
Both you and Podesta correctly recognized
humility, and decency. We got to know each
the potential short-term political problem, but
other better at the Campus Maccabees event
my anxiety goes much deeper. What concerns
which you chaired with noted philanthropists
me is the large number of emails to Hillary
Sheldon and Miriam Adelson.
from Sidney, many of which encouraged her
I thank you for your love of Israel, which is
to read anti-Israel screeds by Max.
inspiring.
As you probably know, Sid was barred from
The Jerusalem Post recently rated you the
the Obama White House because of his reputation for leaks and dirty tricks against political
most influential Jew in the world, partially
due to your close relationship with Hillary. opponents. Perhaps out of a sense of loyalty,
Youre aware that many in the pro-Israel com- Hillary gave him a lucrative position at the
munity have doubts about Hillary on Israel, Clinton Foundation.
given her past contentious relationship with
While she was secretary of state, Sid sent
Prime Minister Netanyahu and, more impor- Hillary a steady stream of emails claiming that
tant, her claims of being the architect of the
Israel was acting contrary to U.S. interests, suggesting that Prime Minister Netanyahu was
Iran nuclear agreement. Those with concerns
Shmuley Boteach is the founder of The World Values Network and is the author of 30 books,
including Wrestling with the Divine and The Fed-Up Man of Faith, both of which deal with the
problem of human suffering. Follow him on Twitter @RabbiShmuley.
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plotting against the American government,
that Israelis steal water from Palestinians,
and that Israeli policy was endangering
U.S. troops in Afghanistan.
Sids attacks on Israel are tame, however, compared to the venomous writings
he passed on to the secretary from his son.
Max, a supporter of the anti-Semitic BDS
campaign, routinely compares Israelis to
Nazis. In his screed, Goliath, the younger
Blumenthal refers to Israels Nazi mentality, calls Israelis Judeo-Nazis, and labels
Israels military the Nazi SS.
Perhaps she was being polite; nevertheless, it was disturbing to read her
responses to some of Maxs work. On
one occasion she told Sid to congratulate
Max for another impressive piece. In
another email, she wrote, Your Max is
a mitzvah!
Youre Hillarys friend and you have
always elevated your friendship to benefit Israel. I heartily agree with the email
that you wrote to the campaign managers
on June 20, 2015, advising Clinton to differentiate herself from Obama on Israel to
recapture the large number of Jewish voters who abandoned him in the last election because of his tough policies on Israel.
I am gratified that either on her own
accord or together with your advice she
has reaffirmed the U.S. commitment to
Israels security. I expect that you and I,
and other lovers of Israel, will hold her
to this commitment should she win the
election.
I also hope that Hillary takes your advice
and speaks out strongly against anti-Semitism in general and, specifically, against
the anti-Semitic boycott, divestment and
sanctions (BDS) movement.
Who a candidate or president surrounds
themselves with says a lot about that individual. By and large, Hillary has assembled
a respectable group of advisers, especially
you. Why should her image in the Jewish
community be tarnished, or her views on
Israel negatively influenced, by continuing
to associate with haters of Israel like the
Blumenthals?
I thank you for your friendship and
leadership.
Happy and sweet new year to you and
your family.
Shmuley
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ews and vampires dont mix. Or at least they dont mix

charismatic. According to synopses of the book series online, when
easily.
his devout mother eventually learns of his conversion, she throws
As a kid growing up in the 60s, I remember picking up a
him out of their house. At a later point in the narrative, he thankfully
copy of a magazine, Famous Monsters of Filmland, and
is restored to human status.
reading all about Dracula and the other creature features produced
The narrative may be typical of young adult fiction, and the character somewhat stereotypical, but the way that Jewish characters are
by Universal Studios and their rivals. The original Dracula motion
inserted into the vampire narrative is both original and commendpicture was released in 1931, so it wasnt a movie I could see at the
able. It is no coincidence that the author of the bestselling series,
local cinema, but those of us who lived in the New York metropolitan area did have Chiller Theatre, hosted by Zacherley (The Cool
The Mortal Instruments, upon which Shadowhunters is based,
Ghoul) on Channel 11 WPIX.
Judith Rumelt, who uses the pen name Cassandra Clare, is Jewish.
When I learned that my father was born in Transylvania, which
When it comes to quality television, my award for best series in
meant that I was half-Transylvanian, I was delighted. It meant that
the horror genre goes to The Strain, now in its third season on
I was a bit cool myself. I asked my father if he knew Bela Lugosi,
FX. Created by respected Mexican film director Guillermo del Toro
the Hungarian actor who played Dracula in the original movies. My
and novelist Chuck Hogan, The Strain is set in New York City,
father was born before World War I, when Transylvania was a part
and one of the elements I appreciate about the series is that it takes
of Hungary, so it seemed altogether likely to me that he would know
place in neighborhoods all over the five boroughs and has a real
the famous film star. My father joked that he knew Bela Lugosi, but
New York sensibility. The plotline is reminiscent of contagion and
Lugosi didnt know him.
zombie apocalypse genres, combined with elements drawn from the
Having a connection to Transylvania gave me a bit of an edge,
Alien film series, and science fiction stories about doubles taking
but I was hardly the only kid who had fun imitating Dracula and
the place of their human counterparts, such as Invasion of the Body
the other monsters, on Halloween and all year round.
Snatchers. These elements meld together to form an
After all, we had comedy programs on TV like The
altogether original vampire narrative, one in which
Munsters, which included the character of Grandpa,
the supernatural elements are absent, and the strigoi
aka Sam Dracula, played by Al Lewis, aka Albert Meis(the Romanian word for vampire used in the series)
ter, not to mention The Addams Family, commerare the result of a parasitical worm that takes over and
cials for Count Chocula cereal, and Sesame Streets
transforms its host.
Count von Count. Humor, not horror, led us to imitate
The series features a small group of people who
an Eastern European accent and utter the immortal
fight what appears to be a losing battle against the
words, I vant to suck your blud.
strigoi as they take over New York and the rest of
The one bit of dissonance that I encountered in
the country, led to some extent by Professor AbraDr. Lance
ham Setrakian. Setrakian is identified as an Armereading about the powers and weaknesses of vamStrate
pires was the idea that they could be warded off by a
nian Jew in the series, conferring on him a double
crucifix or cross. Vampire lore fit into a Christian coscoding as the victim of genocide, and he is shown to
mology that Jews were not a part of. The 1979 comedy
be a concentration camp survivor who first saw the
film Love at First Bite, starring Richard Benjamin as psychiatrist
strigoi feeding on captives at Treblinka. He had been a professor
Jeffrey Rosenberg, plays on this problem in a scene where he tries to
of mythology and East European literature at the University of
combat Dracula by reaching for his necklace, resulting in a moment
Vienna, and after immigrating to the United States, became a New
of suspense as Dracula recoils in anticipation. But much to the vamYork pawnbroker. (This is an homage to the 1964 Sidney Lumet
pires relief, he pulls out a Star of David instead.
film The Pawnbroker.)
Indeed, in many ways I found it easier to identify with the vamThe leader of the strigoi is known as the Master (an allusion to
pire, given my aversion to Christian symbols. I grew up seeing
the Nazi reference to the Aryan master race), an ancient strigoi who can exert complete psychic control over his spawn. His
them as the symbols of people who for close to two millennia had
second in command, one of the few strigoi granted free will, is
oppressed and persecuted us, culminating in the pogroms and the
Thomas Eichhorst, who was the Nazi commandant at Treblinka,
Holocaust that both of my parents lived through. It helped that I was
and Setrakians torturer. It follows that The Strain can be undera bit of a night owl as well. This was long before the emergence of
stood as a metaphor for authoritarianism and fascism, and this
vampire subcultures, an offshoot of the Goth movement, inspired by
wouldnt be the first time del Toro used fantasy elements in conthe vampire novels of Ann Rice, and the Twilight young adult fiction and film series, featuring Bella Swan as the willing paramour
junction with this sort of political critique, as can be seen from his
of a handsome young vampire.
2006 film Pans Labyrinth.
These and other new takes on the vampire mythos tend to downAll of the heroes in The Strain are flawed characters, and Setraplay or eliminate its Christian-specific elements, and otherwise symkian is no exception. He is cranky and humorless, obsessed and
pathize with, sometimes glamorize, and otherwise normalize what
ruthless as a vampire hunter, but also intelligent, learned, and the
once was considered monstrous. The recently concluded HBO series
one who recognizes and understands the threat most clearly. The
True Blood also falls into this category, and while not featuring any
victim of great trauma, he is only occasionally show as deserving of
Jewish characters, introduced Lilith as the mother of all vampires in
our sympathy. This parallels the way that Jews, and Israel, are seen
a scene in which contemporary vampires took part in ritual drinkby many today, both in the United States and abroad.
ing of blood while chanting in Hebrew. This was more than a little
Dont get me wrong. I applaud the way in which del Toro has
disturbing, given the long history of the blood libel used as justificaallowed a Jewish character to take a leading role as a vampire hunter
tion for anti-Semitism.
in a vampire narrative. Having eliminated the supernatural themes
This summer, I caught up with the Shadowhunters series on the
from the vampire mythos, it is not surprising that Setrakians Jewish
Freeform cable channel. Like the Twilight movies, Shadowhuntidentity relates only to his ethnicity. But del Toro missed an opporers is a young adult novel adaptation. The main character, Clary,
tunity to transcend the stereotypical fully by including something
learns that she is one of a small number of people of mixed ancestry
of his religious tradition, by showing that the source of his strength
theyre part angel and they are called upon to battle demons as
is derived from his belief in the value of human life, the pursuit of
Shadowhunters. Her best friend, Simon Lewis, is Jewish, and as
justice, and a sense of spirituality.
played by the Alberto Rosende he comes across as a typical Jewish
Dr. Lance Strate of Palisades Park is a professor of communication
nebbish type, of the sort made famous by Woody Allen, neurotic,
and media studies at Fordham University in the Bronx, and the
fearful, and nursing his unrequited love for Clary. Until he is turned
president of his synagogue, Congregation Adas Emuno in Leonia.
into a vampire, at which point he becomes cool, competent, and
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Lessons from our sukkah
he festival of Sukinto our sukkah, and as we

kot always has
were welcomed by others,
been my favorite,
we lived the value of hachnaand this year has
sat orchim of creating a
been no exception.
welcoming, open, hospitable
We have enjoyed lots of
environment. Each night, we
great food, extended viswelcomed ushpizim Araits with family and friends,
maic for guests into our
and time off from work and
sukkah, linking us one night
Jeremy J.
school. We have tried hard
at a time to historical figures
Fingerman
to make this a zman simchafrom our biblical past. The
teinu, a time of our collective
kabbalists teach that these
happiness and joy. Despite
guests connect us to the
the dramatic swings in temperatures, from
seven divine attributes of lovingkindness,
the 80s to the 40s, and from glorious sunstrength, splendor, eternity, glory, foundashine to dreary rain, we were able to take
tion, and sovereignty. In our sukkah, we
full advantage of the holiday.
discussed what we can learn from each
The festival also imparted three lessons
guest and how we can incorporate their
that I hope we will keep top-of-mind as we
inspiration into our lives.
prepare to re-enter the full five-day work
For our Jewish community, this sense
and school weeks ahead.
of big tent hospitality reminds us to be
The first lesson I encourage us to model
inclusive of different backgrounds, opinmore in our lives is hospitality and incluions, perspectives, and experiences. To be
sivity. As we welcomed friends and family
truly open, like the sukkah, we recognize
For our Jewish community,

this sense of big tent
hospitality reminds us to
be inclusive of different
backgrounds, opinions,
perspectives, and experiences.
and include the broad diversity of our
community today. As we leave the sukkah
this week, I hope we will create a more
open, welcoming environment for all.
The second lesson derived from a message delivered by our associate rabbi,
Chaim Poupko. We build our sukkah each
year in the same way with the same material; it is not required to be new, he said.
Even the most critical part of the sukkah,
the shach, the temporary roof covering
in our case many, many bamboo poles
are reused year after year. While we
sometimes add a new decoration or two,

we basically beautify our sukkah in the
same way. In contrast, the lulav and etrog,
the four species we gather together and
wave in six directions, must be new and
fresh each year.
The immutable, unchanging nature of the
sukkah provides a strong foundation for our
observance. But to be complete, we must
bring the fresh new perspective of the lulav
and etrog. The combination, therefore, provides an important lesson for ourselves and
our communal institutions. We respect the
The Lady weeps

Considering immigration, then and now
he seeds for this article began while sitting

in a sukkah and realizing that every sukkah
has a dual message.
It represents safety and protection, but also vulnerability. Its a
temporary shelter a place for
gathering with friends and comDr. Mark
munity and sharing food but
Gold
also evidence that all of us are
vulnerable to the forces of the
world and dependent on the generosity and mercy of others.
A sukkah is literally a refuge.
How can we sit here and welcome ushpizin, honored guests,
without reflecting on the national
conversation about refugees that
is going on around us? This year
it feels particularly important for
us to say, Our ancestors were
Hiam
wanderers in the desert. We were
Simon
homeless wanderers for 2,000
years. We understand this experience. Our grandparents and
great-grandparents lived this experience. These families in
need are our communitys ushpizin, and we have an historical
responsibility to help them find a real, sturdy home.
America, the Land of the Free and Home of the Brave,
wasnt always so. The very American idea of liberty and freedom for all grew very slowly. The first settlers to this new
land, seeking religious freedom, were much more interested
in their religious freedom than in ensuring it for others. Quakers, Lutherans, Catholics, and Jews were expelled vigorously
from the Puritan colonies of New England.

Throughout the Spanish colonies of the New
World, the Inquisition actively persecuted
and executed conversos neo-Christians,
converted Jews who proclaimed Catholicism
but were suspected of secretly continuing the
practice of their Judaism.
Even the generally tolerant Dutch tried
to exclude all but members of the Dutch
Reformed Church from their American colonies. But it was the first Dutch Jews who settled in the capital, New Amsterdam, that had
much to do with altering the prevailing policy
of intolerance.
In 1654, 23 Jews men, women and children all refugees, fleeing from the former
Dutch colony of Recife in Brazil, landed in New
Amsterdam. These Brazilian Jews were the
descendants of perhaps 5,000 who had been
living in Recife, most of them secretly, since the
mid-1500s. When the Dutch captured portions
of Brazil from the Portuguese and eliminated
the laws of the Inquisition, some neo-Christians
reclaimed their Jewish identity. When Portugal
recaptured Brazil in 1654, these Jews feared the
re-introduction of the Inquisition and fled. On
their way back to Amsterdam, their ship was
attacked by Spanish pirates, who stripped them
of their valuables. A return to Europe now was
out of the question. The refugees then made a deal with
the ships captain. He would take them to New Amsterdam,
which they thought would be a hospitable destination.
When the ship landed in New Amsterdam, Peter Stuyvesant, the Dutch colonial governor whose anti-Semitism is well
documented, seized what meager possessions the Jews still
had and jailed two of them. Stuyvesant wrote to the Dutch

West India Company in Amsterdam, requesting the right to
expel all of them. Stuyvesant noted that the Jews would be
a burden on the community and told the company that he
deemed it useful to require them in a friendly way to depart.
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foundation that has come before us, and we
add to it our relevant new insights to enrich
our lives.
The third lesson of this holiday is the
constant need to be thankful for all that
we have and to maintain a positive outlook on life. The festival of Sukkot commemorates Gods protection of the Israelites as they wandered for 40 years in
the desert; we dwell in our temporary
structure with its open roof and flimsy
walls knowing God is watching over us.
By leaving the comforts of our home, the
sukkah reminds us that we have all that
we truly need. (Well, my teenagers would
have preferred a stronger Wi-Fi connection!) We have so much that fills us with
gratitude.
This week, our Englewood community
came together, young and old, Ashkenazic and Sephardic, members of different synagogues and minyanim, to spend
time together and share in each others
happy celebrations. One friend who had
survived her bout with cancer hosted a
moving expression of gratitude in her
sukkah and spoke powerfully of her faith,
trust, and belief. We were reminded as

individuals and as a community to be
grateful every day for our many blessings.
As we say farewell to the holiday season and to the sukkah for this year, I
hope our family will keep the positive
feeling of spending time together under
the sheltered protection of our sukkah.
I hope we will all keep in mind three lessons that can help us in the days ahead:
Be inclusive and welcoming of our rich
diversity; value that which has come
before us as well as that which is new;
and express gratitude each day.
May 5777 be filled with health, happiness, and joy for all of us.
Jeremy J. Fingerman is the CEO of the
Foundation for Jewish Camp. He lives
in Englewood with his family; he is vice
president of Congregation Ahavath
Torah there. Write to him at Jeremy@
jewishcamp.org
Jeremy Fingerman and his wife, Gail,

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In a letter now in the archives of the

American Jewish Historical Society, the
Jews of New Amsterdam wrote to their
fellow Jews in Holland asking for help.
The Dutch Jews petitioned the company
on behalf of the New Amsterdam Jews,
noting that Jews were allowed to live in
Holland and even to invest in the Dutch
West India Company. In April 1655, the
company granted Jews permission to emigrate to and live in the colony, so long as
they do not become a burden to the company or the community. Stuyvesant instituted several other restrictions to discourage Jewish settlement. When the English
captured New Amsterdam in 1664 and
renamed it New York, all the rights this
small minority of immigrants had won
from the Dutch were made into law under
the new British regime.
Just over 100 years later, on August
17, 1790, Moses Seixas, the warden of the
Hebrew Congregation of Newport, Rhode
Island, wrote an epistle to George Washington, welcoming the newly elected president
on his visit to that city. The Jews of Newport
looked to the new national government,
and particularly to the enlightened president of the United States, to remove the last
of the barriers to civil equality confronting
American Jews. The letter to Washington
welcomed him to Newport. While the rest
of world Jewry lived under the rule of monarchs, potentates, and despots, as American citizens the members of the congregation were part of a great experiment: a
government erected by the Majesty of the
People, to which they could look to ensure
their invaluable rights as free citizens.
Not surprisingly, it is Washingtons
response, rather than Seixass letter, that
is best remembered and most frequently
reprinted:
The Citizens of the United States of
America have a right to applaud themselves for giving to Mankind examples of an
enlarged and liberal policy: a policy worthy
of imitation. All possess alike liberty of conscience and immunities of citizenship. It is
now no more that toleration is spoken of,
as if it was by the indulgence of one class
of people that another enjoyed the exercise
of their inherent natural rights. For happily the Government of the United States,
which gives to bigotry no sanction, to persecution no assistance, requires only that
they who live under its protection, should
demean themselves as good citizens.
The letter, a foundation stone of American liberty, is signed, simply, G. Washington. Each year, Newports congregation,
now known as the Touro Synagogue, rereads Washingtons letter in a public ceremony. The words deserve repetition.
Drawn by opportunities and a growing
culture of tolerance unusual for its time,
the American Jewish population grew. It
was, however, the wave of Eastern European Jews fleeing poverty, oppression, and
vicious and often state-sanctioned antiSemitism in the late 19th and early 20th
centuries that transformed the numbers
and made the still small Jewish minority
here a presence. Many of them entered
through Ellis Island under the shadow of
the Statue of Liberty, at whose base we
read:
Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe
free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed,
to me:
I lift my lamp beside the golden door
These last five lines, taken from the poem
The New Colossus by Emma Lazarus,
stands for the spirit of America that should
greet every immigrant who comes through
our gates. Lazarus herself, a fourth-generation American Jew, recognized that her
own comfortable life was based on a foundation created by immigrants.
The life of immigrants then and still
today is filled with challenges and difficulties. In overcoming those hardships, the
newcomers transform themselves and in
doing so strengthen our country as well.
Immigrants have always brought with them
the very best of their homes, and added
those gifts to American society.
We used to talk about America being a
melting pot but the truth is that we are
more of an American quilt, with every
new immigrant wave and immigrant culture adding to the color and the vibrancy
of what we so proudly call American
exceptionalism.
Jewish immigration to the United States
slowed in the 1930s, at a time when permission to immigrate was so sorely needed to
rescue the endangered Jews of Europe. It
was fear of the other that turned the S.S. St.
Louis away from U.S. shores in 1939. The
S.S. St. Louis set sail from Hamburg, Germany, to Cuba, carrying 937 refugees seeking asylum from Nazi persecution. Prohibited from landing in Cuba, the ship circled
off the coast of Florida, hoping for permission to enter the United States. The U.S.
Secretary of State, Cordell Hull, advised
Roosevelt not to accept the Jews. Captain
Schroder considered running aground
along the coast to allow the refugees to
escape, but acting on Hulls instructions,
U.S. Coast Guard vessels shadowed the ship
and prevented such a move. These huddled
masses yearning to breathe free were not
welcome here.
The ship returned to Europe, docking
at Antwerp, Belgium, on June 17, 1939. It is
believed that almost a third of those refugees died at the hands of the Nazis.
The Great Depression spawned political
opportunists who fed off the desperation of
those hard times. The cheap tonic cure-all
of religious and ethnic hatred that they sold
then still is being hawked by haters selling
fear today. The fact that some immigrants
then did in fact become violent criminals
only helped fuel the rhetoric. Meyer Lansky, the Irish mob, and even the Mafia
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were the poison Skittles of the day but
they werent enough to make America shut
down immigration completely.
We take pride in our American immigrant experience but the welcome was not
always friendly. The U.S. was not immune
to anti-Jewish demagoguery then, just as
so many fear new immigrants today. The
intense provincialism and nativism that
tried to block immigration in general and
Jewish immigration in particular when Jews
were trying to escape Nazi Germany still
exists, leaving too many refugees in harms
way today.
While fewer Jews are immigrating to the
United States now, once again immigrants
have become a political punching bag. Vulnerable outsiders of a different race, or
religion, or ethnicity, are easy scapegoats;
a ready, though inaccurate, target to blame
for the real problems that too many people
in our country confront. Syrian refugees
are seen as a Muslim threat to our safety
and not the victims of a war-torn battlefield.
Some politicians again are screaming that
the enemy is at the gates and we must lock
them down tight.
It is important to note that more than
785,000 refugees have been resettled in the
United States successfully since 9/11, and
not one of those refugees has been responsible for a single terrorist act. On the other
hand, during that same time period, 28 acts
of violence have been defined as terror and
each and every one of them have been performed by U.S.-born citizens.
Seven hundred eighty-five thousand refugees, new souls living and working toward
the American dream, sounds like a good
beginning. No, not really a very poor halfhearted start would be a better description.
There are more than 65.5 million refugees
seeking a safe harbor and that number
grows by about 25 people a minute. The
United States has accepted about 1 percent
of those fathers, mothers and children and
we have closed our eyes and our hearts to
the rest.
It is true that the United States alone
cannot solve this global problem, but it can
lead by example and inspire others to join
as well.
The Other always has been a convenient target. Too often that other has
been us. Therefore, it is incumbent upon
us to be among the first to speak up. We
have been instructed on how to treat the
stranger. Leviticus 19:33-34 teaches us:
When a stranger resides with you in your
land, you shall not wrong him. The stranger
who resides with you shall be to you as one
of your citizens; you shall love him as yourself, for you were strangers in the land of
Egypt. This commandment is mentioned
36 times. Thats more than any other commandment or prohibition. No other commandment in the Torah not to love God,
and not to keep the Shabbat, not to circumcise our sons and not to refrain from eating non-kosher foods, not the prohibition
against lying or stealing is mentioned as
many times as the commandment to treat
While fewer Jews

are immigrating
to the United
States now, once
again immigrants
have become
a political
punching bag.
strangers with respect. We as the children
of Abraham must stand and welcome the
stranger as he did. We must build the sukkah for those who need. For us it is not an
option. It is our birthright.
We have a choice. In each generation
and in every place, there is a path and
a fork. Fortunately, we American Jews
have a wealth of history and experience
to guide us. Let us recall the words that
frame the foundation of the Statue of Liberty; the words written by an American
Jew reflecting both her tradition as a Jew
and her ancestors experience as American immigrants. Let us be strengthened
by the ideals that our first president shared
with our oldest Jewish congregation. Let us
be reminded in this season of our shelter
and its vulnerabilities and so inspired, let
us reach out and welcome others knowing
once we were strangers in a strange land.
We as a people are uniquely armed to
stand up for the stranger, to protect the
weak, and to defend the powerless. Therefore, it should surprise no one that these
same political forces that are fast to label
the victim as the enemy are harnessing
a nasty anti-Semitism. In their grasp for
power, they wrap their program behind an
appeal to hate. They accept the support of
white supremacists, as they try to wrap the
red white and blue around them as camouflage and they care not who they harm
or what they destroy in the process to gain
power.
The immigrant, the minority, the vulnerable are the targets.
Democracy, liberty and freedom are the
collateral damage.
The Statue of Liberty weeps.
Dr. Mark Gold of Teaneck holds a Ph.D. in
economics from NYU. He is on the executive
board of Partners for Progressive Israel,
a member organization of the American
Zionist Movement and an affiliate of the
World Union of Meretz.
Hiam Simon of Englewood is the
chief operating officer of Ameinu, the
leading progressive Zionist membership
organization in the United States. He lived in
Israel for many years, where he was the dean
of students for what is now the Alexander
Muss High School, and he was an artillery
sergeant in the IDF.
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34 Jewish standard OCtOBer 28, 2016
fter months of
States isnt going to take
dithering, the
the fight to Hezbollah,
Obama adminbecause Hezbollah is not
istration finally
plotting against us.
has taken some action
Given that Hezbollah
against the Lebanese
has remained faithful to
Islamist terror organization
the same Islamist ideolHezbollah.
ogy since its founding,
The U.S. Treasury Departand carried out shocking
Ben Cohen
ment has applied sanctions
acts of global terror like
on four Hezbollah operathe 1983 bombing of U.S.
tives reportedly planning
Marines in Beirut and the
terror attacks, as well as on a company,
Buenos Aires bombing of the AMIA JewAl-Inmaa Engineering and Contractish Center in 1994, I wonder what not
ing LLC, that is controlled by a senior
plotting against us means exactly.
Hezbollah financier. Meanwhile, the
Hezbollah, after all, exists only to plot
U.S. State Department has sanctioned
against us: Israel, the United States,
Hezbollah commander Haytham Ali
the Sunni Arab countries, Europe,
Tabatabai, also known as Abu Ali Alindeed, anyone who stands against the
Tabatabai, under U.S. counterterrorterror organization. Perhaps its Kerrys
ism rules. He has lead Hezbollah special
way of saying, Hezbollah isnt a priority
forces, operated in Syria, and reportedly
in the way that ISIS is, leaving us in the
was with Shiite rebels in Yemen, accordgrotesque position of enabling one lot of
ing to the State Department.
Islamist barbarians from the Shiite side,
These measures are small, but they
as we confront another lot of Islamist
are, at least, a reminder of destructive
barbarians from the Sunni side.
forces in the Middle East beyond ISIS.
Make no mistake, Hezbollah is barHezbollah, created by the Iranians as a
baric, and its current alignment with
proxy force to wage war on Israel, now
Vladimir Putins dictatorship in Rusis an integral element of the Russian-Irasia doesnt make it acceptable. Israelis
nian-Syrian regime axis that has successhave had decades of experience with its
fully exploited the emergence of ISIS to
goose-stepping fighters, most recently
establish itself as the current dominant
during the 2006 war in Lebanon, when
power bloc in the Middle East.
Hezbollah rained down hundreds of misAs the price of his flimsy deal with Iran
siles upon Haifa and other northern citover its nuclear ambitions, President
ies. This year, the beleaguered people of
Barack Obama has allowed this bloc to
Aleppo have been getting their own taste
rise unchallenged, and even downplayed
of the same.
the threat it represents. As Secretary of
Since at least February, Hezbollah
State John Kerry put it at the end of Sephas played a critical role on the ground
tember, speaking to a group of Syrians,
in northern Syria, fighting on behalf of
imploring for an end to the slaughter in
the tyrant President Bashar al Assad. As
the northern city of Aleppo, the United
the Wall Street Journal reported at the
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Temple Beth Sholom of Park Ridge, NJ

Please join us on
time, Hezbollah, along with members

of Irans powerful Revolutionary Guard
unit, and thousands of Iran-funded and
trained Shiite fighters from Afghanistan,
Iraq, Pakistan and elsewhere, are leading
the current ground assault in ... Aleppo.
The significance of holding Aleppo
was underlined in a bloodcurdling
speech back in June by Hezbollah leader
Sheikh Hasan Nasrallah, broadcast live
on the terror groups Al Manar television station. We are facing a new wave
... of projects of war against Syria, which
are being waged in northern Syria, particularly in the Aleppo region, Nasrallah asserted. The defense of Aleppo
is the defense of the rest of Syria, it is
the defense of Damascus, it is also the
defense of Lebanon, and of Iraq. We will
increase our presence in Aleppo. Retreat
is not permissible.
Nasrallah has made good on that
pledge. In August, Hezbollah deployed
its elite Radwan Forces, a special operations unit, to the Hamdaniyeh quarter
of Aleppo. As Russian and Syrian jets
have pummeled Aleppo from the air,
killing thousands of civilians, Hezbollah
has engaged in combat on the ground,
taking its own casualties in the process,
including most recently, one of its top
commanders, Hatem Hamadeh.
Since Hezbollah fighters provide
ground-level intelligence to continue
the Russian and Syrian blitz on Aleppo,
the killing of operatives, like Hamadeh,
is essential to pushing back on Assads
gains. Yet the sobering fact remains.
Assad and his allies are calling the shots.
Thats why Russia has been able to introduce a draft resolution on Aleppo to the
U.N. Security Council. With all the focus
on ISIS, there is nary a mention of the
war criminals that the Moscow regime is
supporting.
Samantha Power, U.S. Ambassador to
the U.N., countered the Russian draft by
pointing out that if we dont explicitly
name Russia as the main party behind

the unspeakable horrors we are witnessing, we thereby obscure responsibility. But that assessment is shared
half-heartedly, at best, by the administration she serves. If theres to be a fresh
approach to Islamist designs on the Middle East, that will be the task of the next
president.
Donald Trump certainly is not up to
that particular job. (That moment during the third presidential debate when
he grunted, with the faux empathy of
a reality TV show host, Aleppooo ...
soooo saaad, was one of the most skincrawling of the current cycle.) There is
reason to have a scintilla more faith in
Hillary Clinton, who, unlike her opponent, hasnt tried to obscure Russias role
in backing some of our worst enemies in
the region. Ironically, the latest dump
of WikiLeaks email revelations on this
score actually does Clinton some favors,
revealing that she has a much more cynical view of Iranian strategy than Obama
does. That cynicism extends to Russia
and Hezbollah as well.
If Hezbollah comes out of the Syrian
war with its prestige strengthened and
its threat level boosted, theres every
reason to fear the next target will be
Israel. A renewed war on this front will
be far more costly and destructive than
in 2006. Thats why we should prepare
ourselves for a visceral propaganda
assault on Israel, if it does end up doing
what should have been done long ago
cutting Hezbollah to size, and with it,
its Russian, Iranian and Syrian allies.
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A Jewish woman
making Jewish art
Miriam Stern of Teaneck explores aspects
of her identity with paint, pens, and prints
Joanne Palmer
ou wont find any dancing chasidim in Miriam
Sterns art.
No Jewish stars, no
candles, no challah,
no menorahs, no kiddish cups, no bearded
men staring beatifically at a text or a scroll
or a little boy. No Jewish kitsch.
But Ms. Sterns art is deeply Jewish,
down to its DNA and out through its last jots
and tittles. Her love of color and of shapes
and curves, her willingness to experiment
with different forms and styles, and her
unblinking desire to explore questions of
identity, religion, culture, and the intersection of those large issues with gender
and to do so as a Jewish woman make
her work both satisfying and challenging,
surprising and insightful.
Now, as she is about to turn 70, Ms.
Sterns art is being celebrated in a new retrospective book, called, logically enough,
Miriam Stern.
Ms. Stern, who primarily is a painter,
printmaker, and conceptual artist, has lived
in Teaneck since 1968, and has watched as
Jewish life in the town in particular and
Bergen County in general has changed radically. Before that, though, she began life
just on the other side of the George Washington Bridge, in Washington Heights.
Her parents, Bertha and Fred Stern,
escaped to the United States from Germany in 1939; although theyd met before,
they met again on the boat as it crossed the
Atlantic. Miriam Sterns mothers father,
about whom she knows very little, had
owned the only kosher restaurant in the
town of Fulda; her father, a student at the
yeshiva there, would eat there occasionally. My father was four years old than my
mother, so when my mother was a 12-yearold girl, shed notice a 16-year-old boy, but
that 16-year-old boy wouldnt notice that
12-year old girl, Ms. Stern said. On the
boat, though, the now 20-year-old Bertha
had no problems capturing the attention
of the 24-year-old Fred. The two married
soon after they landed. Fred became a
watchmaker meticulous work, meticulously done and Bertha, who I dont
Miriam Stern and her husband, Rabbi Dr. Michael Chernick, in Tel Aviv recently.
ever remember not working, her daughter said, did administrative work in various
small companies.
The Stern family Miriam was the
youngest of three children were among
the founding members of the Breuer
community, the famously, rigidly German Orthodox group that flourished in
northern Manhattan. The minyan was
in my parents living room even before
Rav Breuer came to the United States,
Ms. Stern said. Miriam, like her siblings,
went to a day school. (The school was in
the Bronx; that was a time when children
were able to take public transportation
by themselves, or accompanied only by

slightly older siblings. Taking a public bus
to school was not an issue, Ms. Stern said.)
But she always loved art; I was drawing since I was about 3 or 4, my mother
told me, she said. I was always drawing
and getting into trouble because of it at
school. When it was time for high school,
her parents wanted her to stay in a Jewish
school, but I had my first rebellion, Ms.
Stern said. I wanted to go to Music and
Art, the legendary public high school that
nurtured visual and performance artists,
once its highly selected admissions process winnowed out most applicants.
Her parents could have asserted their

authority, but instead they relented in the
face of her overwhelming desire. They let
her interview there.
I had no portfolio, Ms. Stern remembered. I was really pathetic. Other applicants had big leather portfolios filled with
luxurious stock; I had just a little manila
folder with drawings on flimsy paper. But
they were impressed that Id never had an
art class before.
She was asked to make a few drawings.
One was of a boy and girl, in a cabin, being
scared by a bear. I realized that I had no
idea how to draw a bear, so I made it into
a huge spider-like monster, and when the
interviewer asked me what it was I said its
a bear monster. I think that impressed her.
And so I got in.
Her parents arranged for me to have
classes in Jewish studies, she said, and
her immersion in Jewish life continued;
she rarely saw her school friends outside school but maintained her social life
within the community. Music and Art
was the best experience, she said. I had
wonderful teachers and mentors. I knew
that I wanted to be an artist, and I also
continued my life as an Orthodox girl, surrounded by friends and family.
After high school, she lived at home
and went to the City College of New
York. And then, soon after she started
college, Ms. Stern met Michael Chernick,
who soon was to become Rabbi and then
Rabbi Dr. Chernick, with a doctorate in
rabbinics, but then still was a student at
Yeshiva University.
Rabbi Chernick is a fascinating man (full
disclosure he is one of our op-ed columnists) and deserves a full story of his own.
Here, it is relevant to mention that he is an
Orthodox rabbi who recently retired from
the Reform movements Hebrew Union
College-Jewish Institute of Religion in New
York as the Deutsch Family Chair Emeritus
in Jewish Jurisprudence and Social Justice.
Which is a fancy way of saying that as a
firmly Orthodox rabbi with unassailable
credentials, he also is curious about other
streams of Judaism, and open to working with Jews across often hard-to-breach
barriers.
And so is Miriam Stern.
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When the couple moved to Teaneck, to the apartments
that have housed generations of young married Orthodox
couples, there were maybe three to five couples like us,
Ms. Stern said. They joined Bnai Yeshurun, which was
the only Orthodox shul in town. Within two years or so,
there were 40 couples like us, she said. How did it happen? I have no idea. I think that word just got out.
This drawing, done on a brown-paper book

cover, is from Miriam Sterns childhood.
This self-portrait is from 2011.
At Bnai Yeshurun, we were still praying in someones

house, she continued. We had a meeting. Should we
build a shul? How much money would it take? It was
a huge commitment. But someone said If you build it,
they will come. So they did build it, and they did come.
The other thing that we liked about Teaneck back then
was that it was a very integrated community, Ms. Stern
said. There were blacks and Jews, and many
different kids of Jews. Before we had children,
we would go to various synagogues around
town to see what they were like.
The rabbi whose sermons we really appreciate was Rabbi Sigel, she said. Rabbi Louis
Sigel, who headed the Reform Temple Emeth,
was an ardent advocate of integration.
Ms. Sterns interest in shuls unlike her own
started during summers she and her husband
spent as faculty members in Camp Kutz, run
by the Reform movement in upstate New
York. We were always inquisitive, and open
to seeing how other people practice their
Judaism, she said. At Camp Kutz, the first
time I went to a service, it was actually the
first time I had ever been to a prayer service
that was not Orthodox. I remember taking
a siddur, finding my place in it, turning the
page, and what I expected to be there wasnt
there. I walked across the room to get a new
siddur, and it was the same thing. I finally realized that the pages were going in the other
direction, like an English book. (More recent
Reform siddurim no longer are paginated in
the English direction; back then they were.)
I was completely turned around and
thrown off. My first reaction was to laugh
uncomfortably, and then to figure out what it
meant, and what it meant to me.
Ms. Sterns most significant conflict with her
Orthodoxy as it was exposed to the outside
world came through feminism. She had never
The line drawing and character study, from 1993,

is called Avraham.
Miriam Stern painted this self-portrait in 1980.

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been bothered by the position of women in
the Orthodox world, she said, but the art
world was different. I had teachers who
were women and feminist, role models,
but there was a separation for me between
that world and the observant world. Like
there was a mechitzah between them.
But all of a sudden this made me question
womens participation.
As a result of that questioning, Ms. Stern
joined a womens tefillah group in the
1980s. We started with a call for mothers
who were interested in having a bat mitzvah for their daughters, she said. They
might not have shown up for themselves,
but, we felt, for their daughters they
would. And it worked.
It wasnt necessary for her children. Ms.
Stern and Rabbi Chernick have two sons.
Both now live in Brooklyn, and both are
visual artists. Jeremy Chernick does special effects for Broadway productions, and
Saul is a fine artist. Both went to Yavneh
Academy and then to MTA.
But it was necessary for her.
The Stern/Chernick family belongs to
three Teaneck shuls Congregation Rinat
Yisrael, which is Askhenazi Orthodox;
the Sephardi Orthodox Shaarei Orah,
and Congregation Beth Sholom, which is
Conservative.
Now, if you ask me what am I Orthodox, Conservative, anything else I say I
am Reconservadox. Its a funny answer,
but in truth I dont want to align myself to
any particular camp. I feel a loose affinity
to several of them. I dont feel a conflict
when I am davening in an Orthodox shul.
I am okay being behind the mechitzah, as
long as I am not far away. And I am comfortable when I daven at Beth Sholom.
Very comfortable.
You can learn a lot from every movement. Unfortunately, there isnt much dialogue or learning between them. That is
very sad.
At the same time that she belonged to
the womens tefillah group, Ms. Stern also
belonged to an artists group. She was
active in both, but she kept them separate.
In a way, she led two lives, lives that came
together only in her work.
There are a lot of artists who are Jewish,
and who do what is called Jewish art, she
said. I think that Jewish art has to come
from knowledge and study. Approaching
your work from that place makes the art
better. Just as with any kind of research, in
literature or music or anything else, having
some experience is one thing, but being
steeped in it makes it richer and deeper.
I have always tried to do something on
a deeper level, something that is meaningful, that comes not only from the heart but
also from the kishkes.
There is a great deal of feminist content
in Ms. Sterns work, as well as a bone-deep
understanding of the community; often
there is a willingness to look but a reluctance to judge.
More than a few pieces of her work deal
with wigs. Her mother wore a sheitel,
In 2001s Carousel,
Miriam Sterns father,
at the end of his life,
is tossed by forces
he cannot control.
Above, 1995s 100% Natural Fiber. At right,

Shaytl Composition 1995.
In 2012, Ms. Stern

made a collage based
on objects at the
Israel Museum.
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although she does not. One of her earliest pieces is a face shed drawn on one of
her mothers wig stands. Another shows a
group of sheitels, on their backs, with their
interior webbing showing.
Another was created from a great feeling of discomfort. (Not coincidentally, Ms.
Stern says that any art that is worth anything makes the viewer question. If I dont
feel that conflict, it wouldnt be good art.)
When she wanted to paint a series about
sheitels, she sent away for brochures, and
soon learned that a commonly used selling
point was that it was made of 100 percent
human hair.
That really jolted me, she said. I
started thinking about women in the Holocaust, where their murderers cut off their
hair and saved it. I started thinking about
women who had to sell their hair. (Think
Jo in Little Women, or Della in O. Henrys The Gift of the Magi.) I was trying
to think of something that was 100 percent
not human, and I found this old fox collar and draped it around one of skeletallooking Styrofoam heads. The name of this
painting is 100 Percent Natural Fiber.
(Its here on page 39.)
Another painting about wigs shows a
progression of sheitels marking a womans
aging, as they go from bright red curls to
less exuberant waves. A third, also on page
39, shows sheitels from the inside.
Ms. Stern has created space chairs, a
table, and a window for ushpizot, the
female counterparts of the ushpitzim, the
ideal symbolic guests who are welcomed,
at least figuratively, in sukkot every year.
She worked on a project, called Ezrat
Nashim, that uses physical objects to show
the literal space between the center of a
religious service and the start of a womens
section, a distance that upsets her but not
too much to get in the way of her wit.
She uses many tools to create art she
owns a press, a gleaming chrome and black
object that is only a few decades old but
looks much older, Industrial-Revolution
age, because the technology is so basic.
She works with ghost images the wonderfully evocative name for the remnants
of ink that come out on some of the lovely
paper she uses paper that demands that
you touch it, just so that you can have the
pleasure of feeling it. She cuts up some of
her work to collage into other pieces. She
uses everything.
She does some work on her computer
as well.
In 2008, when her mother died, Ms.
Stern said Kaddish for her. I wanted to do
an installation, but it would be expensive,
and I couldnt find funding and I couldnt
find a venue, so someone suggested doing
it on the internet. Id reach more people
that way.
That project is no longer up, but it was
called BetheTenth.com. It asked you what
gender you were, and what kind of minyan
all men, all women, mixed you wanted
to make the tenth for. And after you picked
your minyan, youd press the button and
Ms. Stern measured the distance between the

beginning of the womens section at the bimah at
some historic Jerusalem shuls, and used creative
units of measure to show them.
Meet Miriam Stern

Why: At a signing for her new book, Miriam Stern.
Where: At HUC-JIR, 1 West 4th Street, in Manhattan
When: On Thursday, November 10, from 5 to 7 p.m.
What else: You need a photo ID to enter the building
Why: To see her art on display and to hear her talk
about it
Where: At the Transformations Gallery at the Old
Franklin Schoolhouse, 491 Middlesex Avenue, in
Metuchen.
When: On January 29 from 2 to 4 p.m.; her art is on
display there from now through January 29
What else: To schedule an appointment, call (862)
368-2202
recite the Kaddish, and hear it recited by

women, by men, or by mixed voices. So
you had the choice of being in any kind of
minyan you wanted to be in. The words
were there, in Hebrew, in English translation, and in English transliteration.
I was clear that it didnt count halachically, saying Kaddish there, but I did
want to give people the choice, she said.
I would still love to do it as an installation,
meaning that you would be surrounded
by a video. Its many years later, but I still
think that it would be very effective.
Ms. Stern had a studio in the basement
of her house ever since she moved there
Ms. Stern made chairs for ushpizot; this ones about the first foremother, Sarah.
from the apartments, decades ago. (Now,

with her sons long out of the house, her
studio has expanded from the basement
to bedrooms as well.) She also always had
practical work. I taught Hebrew school
at Temple Emanuel in Woodcliff Lake for
23 years, she said. I also started a business doing faux finishes and murals. I did
that for many years. And then in 2008 the
economy tanked, and Michael said to me,
Why are you still climbing on scaffolding?
So I decided to reinvent myself and start
a color consulting business. Its called
miriamsterncolorconsulting.com, she still
works actively at it, and if the colors in her
house and in her art are an example of her

color choices for clients, shes very good at
what she does.
At the same time, Ms. Stern also worked
to show her art in galleries. In good
places, she said. Its not easy. Artists
always have a very basic dilemma do you
make art, or do you market it? Both are
necessary, but both demand more time
than most people have. Still, she said,
And I have had some success.
Not all of Ms. Sterns art is overtly Jewish. I do everything from a Jewish perspective, because thats what I am, she
said. I am a Jewish woman.
Dvar Torah
Bereshit: The miracles of daily life
ur Torah begins with the

words In the beginning,
God created. We read of
how on each day God creates
something new and unique. Suddenly
out of nothing, darkness and unformed
void, there was a world, a well-ordered
system with day and night, animals and
human beings. The Torahs description
of the entirety of creation is summarized in 31 short verses. However, as the
Ramban notes, the process of creation
cannot be comprehended just from the
biblical text. The Torah thus begins by
teaching us that we should never think
that we can understand fully how the
world functions. Although scientists
and academics have tried to explain
the complex process of creation, there
still remains aspects of our world that
we cannot fully explain. The order and
functioning of the world we live in can
be described only as a miracle.
What exactly is a miracle? In todays
world, where medical technology can
keep people alive in situations in which
a generation ago there would have been
no hope, where we can create weapons
of mass destruction, or where Chicago
Cubs could play the Cleveland Indians
in the World Series, is it possible that
we have ceased to think of anything
as truly miraculous? The dictionary
something happens that

defines miracle as an
emphasizes the miracles of
event in the natural order
nature, of creation. Adam and
of the world, but out of its
Eve are expelled from the Garestablished order, possible
den of Eden. They are no lononly by the intervention of
ger part of an idyllic, perfect
divine power. However, it
world. Rather, they must sufalso claims that a miracle
fer, experience pain, and work
is any wonderful or amazing fact or event. Thus,
for their survival. Following
Rabbi Estelle
the order in our world,
their expulsion, they realize
Mills
the fact that the sun rises
the beauty, the sheer miracle
Education director,
each day or that our bodof the world.
Northern New
ies function as an intricate
Miracles certainly are not
Jersey Jewish
system, are daily reoccurlimited to the Bible. Neither
Academy,
Conservative
ring miracles recognized
are they necessarily actions
by our tradition by prayers
initiated by divine power
that daily and specifically thank God for
alone. Even in the Bible, miracles such as the
the continued pattern of nature and the
bringing forth of water from a rock depict
correct functioning of our bodies.
God and humankind as partners in the perA miracle, then, is really a matter of
formance of miracles.
perception, of appreciating all the truly
Within the past century, the world has
wondrous creations in the world, and recbeen witness to some truly astonishing
ognizing them as miraculous. For examfeats, which must be called miracles and yet
ple, in the Harry Potter books so many
were brought about by human action. There
fantastic things happen that very few
are countless stories of human survival in
things seem impossible. In such fantastimes when the odds said survival was an
tic literature, like in many of our favorite
childhood stories, miracles do not arouse
wonder. They are expected, and thus are
not miracles at all. Much in the same way,
many of us stop appreciating the miracles
of nature that are all around us.
In this weeks Torah portion, Bereshit,
impossibility. Today, doctors through the

power of modern medicine perform miracles on a daily basis procedures not
even imagined a generation ago. Although
creation occurred in six days, we have the
responsibility to continue Gods work and
to strive constantly to improve our world no
matter how difficult it may seem. We need to
always remember how miraculous our Godgiven power to innovate is!
A miracle is a miracle simply because it
is not wholly explainable. The tendency
in modern times is to regard an extraordinary event as a miracle because it appears
to diverge from the laws of nature. Miracles, however, also are present in the natural order of the world. They happen. We
should appreciate and be thankful for the
many miracles all around us, both the miracles of nature and the miracles that are a
divergence from nature. For as Emily Dickinson said: to hear an oriole sing may be
a common thing or may be divine. As we
celebrate the beginning of our Torah once
again, let us open our eyes to fully see all
the miracles that surround us.
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Lawmakers from 17 countries

denounce UNESCO resolution
Lawmakers from 17 countries signed a
declaration Thursday against last weeks
UNESCO resolution and called for international recognition of Jerusalem as the
undivided and eternal capital of Israel.
The UNESCO resolution rejects any Jewish link to the Temple Mount and Western
Wall in Jerusalem.
In the declaration, 19 MPs representing the 17 countries, said that the U.N.
resolution is disconnected from reality
and is incorrect. We will work toward
the international recognition of Jerusalem, as the undivided, eternal capital of
the state of Israel.
The parliamentarians presented the

declaration to Deputy Minister Michael
Oren, who delivered it to Prime Minister
Benjamin Netanyahu.
Oren called the UNESCO resolution
unacceptable. He said it must be fought
against every way possible. The signing of
the declaration by MPs from all over the
world against UNESCO is one of the steps
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after attending mayors Sukkot event
Palestinian Authority security forces released
four Palestinians arrested Thursday for
attending a holiday event at Efrat Mayor
Oded Revivis sukkah in Gush Etzion. The
prisoners were released after Maj. Gen. Yoav
Mordechai, coordinator of government activities in the territories, intervened.
Before their release, many in Israel spoke
out on the prisoners behalf.
A senior official in Palestinian Authority security services told Israel Hayom the
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arrests were in line with Palestinian Authority law, which classifies meetings with settlers
as fraternizing with the enemy. The law exists
to prevent them from being exposed to incitement, he said.
Addressing the issue, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said, I call on the international community to work to help free these
innocent Palestinians whose imprisonment is
yet further proof of the Palestinian refusal to
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Israeli civilian killed along Egypt border fence

An Israeli civilian was killed in a shooting incident along Israels border fence with Egypt
this week.
The civilian, who was carrying out maintenance work for the Defense Ministry, was
airlifted from the scene but was later pronounced dead upon arriving at the Soroka
Medical Center in Beersheva, the Jerusalem
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The Egyptian military has been carrying
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State-affiliated terrorist groups in the Sinai
Peninsula recently. On Sunday, the Egyptians
killed an estimated 70 terrorists in operations
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11. Peter Greens Fleetwood ___
14. Actress Feldshuh
15. Possible format for a Kellerman novel
16. Suffix with pay or schnozz
17. How Trump often speaks
19. Performance by Pink
20. Have a taiva
21. The Mary Tyler Moore Show
character
22. Cholent meat option
23. Buenos ___ (Shalom)
25. Goddess who gives advice to Logan
Lermans Percy Jackson
27. Ahava spot
30. Like Eliot Spitzer or Anthony Wiener,
as politicians
33. Some students to elderly rabbis
35. Moses and Joshua split them
36. Neil Diamonds ___ Believer
37. What goes before noraim or tovim
39. Paul Rudds Marvel insect
40. Cholent bean options
43. Total wives of Moses
44. Total daughters of Moses
46. Like Paskeszs Sour Sticks
47. Had the (Shabbat) leftovers
51. Currency worth less than the USD
52. He did a lot of miracles after Elijah
53. Do Borer on Shabbat
55. Anything ___? (Allen film)
56. Kirks Enterprise letters
59. They might be short term in
Jerusalem over Passover
63. Bvadai!
64. Personal struggles....or another
name for this puzzle
66. Nahariya to Karmiel dir.
67. Fixate on Michal Merons work
68. Where to work on a jewfro
69. Az Yashir Sea
70. Much more famous ski locale
than Hermon
71. Lock that could be used for a shaytl
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2. Former Mets and Yankees pitcher
with a Jewish sounding name
3. Gardner and Haddad
4. Like some Maccabi fans
5. Law that might not go over well
with Jews
6. Mouth
7. Help Mickey Cohen on a job
8. Gland that could get removed at Mt.
Sinai Hospital
9. Meir and others
10. Kiddush Lavana locale?
11. Six Day War hero
12. Ending prayer
13. Short Shabbat rest
18. Like Shayetet 13
22. Exodus
24. Schlock magazine content
26. Steal ___ Book (Hoffman)
27. ___ Goodbye to Hollywood (Joel)
28. Zadora who made her Broadway
debut in Fiddler on the Roof
29. Gave harsh mussar
31. Made like Isaacs eyes
32. Scott Feldmans baseball team
34. Gary on Carol Mendelsohns CSI:
NY
38. Airy tzitzit material
41. Actress Graynor
42. King David and King George: Abbr.
45. In days ___...
47. Bird seed feeder
48. Maltreat
49. Makes like those found in 17, 30, and
47-Across & 11 and 29-Down
50. Least bound (in Egypt)
54. Daughter of David
57. Shoot, like Annie Leibovitz
58. Like southern Israel
60. Naot part
61. Son of Seth
62. U.S. version of Israels Mispar Zehut
64. Book before Jer.
65. Solos son Kylo ___
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Arts & Culture
Not That Jewish Is Plenty Jewish

Miriam Rinn
hen she was a little girl in

the Bronx, Monica Piper
asked her mother, Do
I have a Jewish heart?
Of course, dear, her mother answered.
Were Democrats.
Thats one of the funny and sweet anecdotes that Piper shares in her one-woman
comic reminiscence, Not That Jewish,
now at New World Stages. Using a photo
display at the back of the stage to introduce
various family members, Piper recounts
the story of her life and career and her
adoption of her son within the frame of
that question she asked her mother when
she was a child.
A stand-up comic, comedy writer, and
motivational speaker since the 1980s,
Piper credits her show-biz father for her
natural wit. His religion was humor, she
recalls with genuine fondness, and he
could always make her mother laugh,

no matter how many times shed heard
the same story. One of the most likable
parts of this show is Pipers obvious love
for her parents, and her appreciation of
them as people. Its an affecting changeup from the typical neurotic Jewish parents. There are other people on the wall
too a rich aunt and uncle, a beloved
grandmother, her teenage son and all
of them are treated as individuals rather
than stereotypes.
Trading the Bronx for California, Piper
spent several years as an English teacher
before she decided to try her hand at comedy. She studied improv with Second City
in Chicago and attempted a solo act at the
Comedy Store. After performing stand-up
for a while and landing a comedy special
on Showtime, Piper began writing for
well-known TV sitcoms, including Roseanne, Mad About You, and Veronicas Closet. Eventually, she became the
showrunner for Rugrats, for which she

won an Emmy.
While she was building a show business
career, Piper also was trying to have a personal life. Her romantic travails make up
part of the show, and they are as poignant
as they are amusing. Her first marriage
broke up when her husband didnt understand he had to laugh at her stories, just
as her mother had, no matter how many
times he heard them. Another relationship ended because the guy loved cocaine
more than he loved her. Finally, Piper
decided that if she couldnt be a wife, she
could still be a mother, and she adopted
a baby boy and became a stay-at-hotel
mom. Once her son had to go to school,
Piper had to leave the road and settle
down. Thats when she began to work
with animated series for Nickelodeon,
Cartoon Network, and Disney .
Although shes not a household name,
Piper has an engaging manner and a
natural warmth, which makes her easy

to spend time with. The 90-minute show
was a success in the L.A. area, where
Piper lives now and where she is an artist-in-residence with the Jewish Womens
Theatre. In was in that venue that she
developed this show, which was nominated for best solo performance by the
L.A. Drama Critics Circle.
Its not all laughs. Piper was diagnosed
with breast cancer, and her mother spent
years with Alzheimers. One of the most
touching stories concerns her fathers
inability to attend her sons bar mitzvah
because of his own health issues. As he
becomes a teenager, Pipers son wants
to develop a relationship with his birth
mother, something that must concern any
adoptive parent. Though it all, Piper maintains her sense of humor.
Funny and sad, Not That Jewish contains a lifetime of experiences, entertainingly shared with the audience.
Calendar
food, music, and tours,
rain or shine, 1-4 p.m.
225 Pompton Road.
(973) 956-1220 or Carla@
CampVeritans.com.
Monday
October 31
Intro to Judaism in
Franklin Lakes: The
New Jersey Rabbinical
Assembly offers
a comprehensive
Introduction to Judaism
course at Temple
Emanuel of North
Jersey, led by Rabbi
Joseph H. Prouser,
7 p.m. Its for potential
Jews by choice and
their partners, non-Jews
raising Jewish children,
and Jews who wish to
learn more about their
heritage. Basic Hebrew
reading is included. 558
High Mountain Road.
(201) 560-0200 or www.
IntroJudaismNJ.com.
Genocide survivor: Eugenie Mukeshimana, a Rwandan genocide

survivor and founder of the Genocide Survivors Support
Network, gives an update on developments in her country and
neighboring Burundi at the Robert A. Scott Student Center at
Ramapo College in Mahwah on Friday, November 4, at 2 p.m. Sponsored by
Ramapos Gross Center for Holocaust and Genocide Studies. 505 Ramapo
Valley Road, Mahwah. (201) 684-7409.
NOV.
Friday
Saturday
October 28
October 29
study open house, 9 a.m.

56 Ridgewood Road.
(201) 664-7422.
Sunday
october 30
Walkathon: The
Rabbi Jonah Dov Pesner
Ann Arnold and Mark

Schonwetter
Shabbat in Teaneck:
Courtesy Emanu-El
Temple Emeth hosts a

festive kosher Shabbat
dinner at 6 p.m., followed
by services and the
annual Rabbi Joshua
Trachtenberg Memorial
lecture. Rabbi Jonah Dov
Pesner, director of the
Religious Action Center
of Reform Judaism,
will discuss Prophetic
Power and Politics:
How Reform Jews
Can Bring Healing and
Justice to Our World.
1666 Windsor Road.
Dinner reservations,
(201) 833-1322 or www.
emeth.org.
Shabbat in Closter:
Temple Emanu-El
welcomes father and
daughter scholars-inresidence, Holocaust
survivor Mark
Schonwetter and author
Ann Arnold. During
Shabbat morning
services at 9 a.m., the
pair will discuss her book
Together: A Journey
for Survival; a dessert
reception and informal
discussion follow.
180 Piermont Road.
(201) 750-9997 or www.
templeemanuel.com.
Shabbat in Washington
Township: Join Temple
Beth Ors Rabbi Noah
Fabricant for a Torah
Jewish Association
for Developmental
Disabilities holds its
annual walk, rain or
shine, at Van Saun
Park, Pavilion C, 10 a.m.
It includes a carnival,
games, refreshments,
and prizes. Proceeds
benefit adults with
developmental
disabilities; J-ADD
provides kosher homes in
Bergen County to adults
with developmental and
intellectual disabilities.
(201) 457-0058,
sshapiro@j-addorg, or
www.J-ADD.org.
War veterans meet in

Hackensack: Jewish War
Veterans Post 651 of Fair
Lawn meets for breakfast
at the Coach House
Restaurant, 10 a.m. Wives
and guests welcome.
The post is celebrating
its 70th anniversary.
Edward Rosenblatt,
(201) 797-3190.
Dan Pincus
Learn Jewish skills in

Woodcliff Lake: Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack
Valley has partnered
with Read Hebrew
America to teach adults
to follow synagogue
services, be involved in
their childrens Jewish
education, enhance
ties to Judaism, or
learn to read Hebrew.
Six free lessons
available for beginners
and intermediates.
Sessions through
December 4 at 10:15 a.m.
Wednesday evening
sessions at 4:45 p.m.,
beginning November
16. 87 Overlook Drive.
(201) 391-0801 or gail@
tepv.org.
Luxury senior residence

open house: The
Esplanade at Palisades in
Palisades, N.Y., hosts an
open house, 11 a.m.-1 p.m.
Model apartments will
be open for viewing.
640 Oak Tree Road.
(845) 359-7870 or www.
esplanadeatpalisades.
com.
Fall camp festival in

North Haledon: Camp
Veritans holds its annual
fall festival for new
camp families, with
hayrides, arts and crafts,
Mohammed Al Samawi
AJC leader and human
rights activist in
Teaneck: The adult
education committee
of Congregation Rinat
Yisrael presents The
Power of Partnership:
Escaping Yemen,
8 p.m. American Jewish
Committee leader
Dan Pincus will talk to
Mohammed Al Samawi,
a human rights activist
who recently escaped
the war in Yemen. 389
West Englewood Ave.
(201) 837-2795.
Tuesday
November 1
Origins of baseball
poem: Dumont historian
Dick Burnon talks about
the origins of the famous
1888 baseball poem,
Casey at the Bat, at
a meeting of REAP
(Retired Executives and
Active Professionals)
at the Kaplen JCC on
the Palisades in Tenafly,
10:45 a.m. Excerpts of

Ken Burns Baseball:
A Film will be shown.
411 E. Clinton Ave.
(201) 569-7900 or www.
jccotp.org.
School open house in

Paramus: Ben Porat
Yosef holds an open
house for parents of
prospective students,
7:45 p.m. Learn
about its innovative
educational approach
and programs in general
and Judaic studies, and
meet administrators,
faculty, and parents.
East 243 Frisch Court.
(201) 845-5007, ext. 16,
ruthR@benporatyosef.
org or www.
benporatyosef.org.
Wednesday
November 2
Intro to Judaism in
Hoboken: The New
Jersey Rabbinical
Assembly offers
a comprehensive
Introduction to Judaism
course at the United
Synagogue of Hoboken,
led by Rabbi Robert
Scheinberg, 7 p.m.
Its for potential Jews
by choice and their
partners, non-Jews
raising Jewish children,
and Jews who wish to
learn more about their
heritage. Basic Hebrew
reading is included.
www.IntroJudaismNJ.
com. 115 Park Ave.
(201) 659-4000 or www.
IntroJudaismNJ.com.
Open house in
Englewood: The
Moriah School invites
parents of prospective
students to an open
house, 7:30 p.m. Faculty
and administrators
will be on hand. 53
South Woodland St.
(201) 567-0208, ext.
322, admissions@
moriahschool.org, or
www.moriah.org.
Thursday
November 3
Morning movie in
Closter: Temple
Beth El screens
Above and Beyond,
10:15 a.m. and 6:30 p.m.
221 Schraalenburgh
Road. (201) 768-5112 or
www.tbenv.org.
School open house

in Paramus: Yavneh
Academy holds
an open house,
7:30 p.m. Judy Friedman,
(201) 262-8494, ext.
325, judy.friedman@
yavnehacademy.org, or
www.yavnehacademy.
Calendar
org.
Friday
November 4
Shabbat in Wayne:
Temple Beth Tikvah has
dinner, 6 p.m., followed
by the installation of
its new rabbi, Meeka
Simerly. 950 Preakness
Ave. Reservations,
(973) 595-6565.
Shabbat in Closter:
Temple Beth El invites
the community to hear
father and daughter
scholars-in-residence,
Holocaust survivor Mark
Schonwetter and author
Ann Arnold, 7:30 p.m.
Ms. Arnold, a TBE
congregant, will discuss
her book Together: A
Journey for Survival.
Books available in
the shul office. 221
Schraalenburgh Road.
(201) 768-5112 or www.
tbenv.org.
Saturday
november 5
Shabbat in Jersey City:
Author Maggie Anton,
scholar-in-residence
at Congregation Bnai
Jacob, will discuss her
newest book, Fifty
Shades of Talmud: What
the First Rabbis Had to
Say About You-KnowWhat, 11:30 a.m.-1 p.m.
176 West Side Ave.
info@bnaijacobjc.com.
Game night in
Paramus: The JCC of
Paramus/Congregation
Beth Tikvah offers an
adult game night with
mah jongg, canasta,
Rummikub, Scrabble,
and poker, 7:30 p.m.
Dairy refreshments.
East 304 Midland Ave.
(201) 262-7691 or www.
jccparamus.org.
Jazz and pasta in Fair

Lawn: Temple Beth
Sholom hosts Jazz
and Pasta Pizazz,
with music by the
West Hills Project
Jazz Ensemble (aka
Bnai Jazz), dancing,
and a buffet pasta
dinner, 8 p.m. BYOB
kosher only, set-ups
provided. 40-25 Fair
Lawn Ave. Reservations,
(201) 797-9321.
Sunday
November 6
Community Mitzvah
Day: Jewish Federation
of Northern New Jersey
holds Mitzvah Day, a
community-wide day
of volunteering, local
collections, and blood
drives, 9 a.m.-4 p.m.
Choose from more than
40 activities around
northern New Jersey.

Jane, (201) 820-3962 or
www.JFNNJ.org.
School open house in

Teaneck: Maayanot
Yeshiva High School
for Girls, has an open
house. Registration,
9 a.m.; program begins
at 9:30; academic fair
and lunch at noon. Nina
Bieler, (201) 833-4307,
ext. 255. 1650 Palisade
Ave. admissions@
maayanot.org or www.
maayanot.org.
School open house

in Teaneck: Torah
Academy of Bergen
County has an open
house. Registration,
9:15 a.m.; program,
10 a.m.-1 p.m. Donna
Hoenigh, (201) 837-7696,
ext. 107. 1650 Queen
Anne Road. www.TABC.
org.
School open house

in River Edge:
Rosenbaum Yeshiva
of North Jersey holds
an open house, 7 p.m.
666 Kinderkamack
Road. Tamar Kahn,
(201) 986-1414, ext. 338,
welcome@rynj.org, or
www.rynj.org.
Film in Ridgewood: The

Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jerseys
Israeli Film Festival
presents Rock In the
Red Zone, showing
life on the edge in
the war-torn city of
Sderot, at the Warner
Theater, 7:30 p.m. 190
East Ridgewood Ave.
(201) 820-3907 or www.
jfnnj.org/filmfestival.
Film in Teaneck:
The 11th Teaneck
International Film
Festival screens The
Last Laugh, a feature
documentary looking
at humor and the
Holocaust, at Temple
Emeth, 7:30 p.m. A
discussion featuring
director Ferne Pearlstein
and writer/producer
Alan Zweibel, who is
in the film, follows.
(201) 203-1723 or www.
teaneckfilmfestival.org.
Combatting Holocaust
distortion: Dr. Efraim
Zuroff, the chief Nazihunter of the Simon
Wiesenthal Center and
the founder/director
of its Israel office, and
Lithuanian author Ruta
Vanagaite, this years
Wiesenthal Centers
Woman of Valor award
recipient, discuss
Traveling With My
Enemy: Combating
Holocaust Distortion
in Eastern Europe, at
Congregation Rinat
Yisrael in Teaneck,
8 p.m. 389 West
Englewood Ave.
(201) 837-2795.
In New
York
Sunday
october 30
SAR open house: SAR
High School in Riverdale
holds an open house,
9:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m.
503 W. 259th St. Nancy
Lerea or Gila Kolb,
(718) 548-2727, ext.
1576, admissions@
sarhighschool.org.
Register at www.
sarhighschool.org/
hsopenhouse.
Sunday
October 31
Friday
November 4
Teaneck Shabbaton:
The Shidduch Project
hosts a Shabbaton for
modern Orthodox/
machmir singles, 21-38,
at Congregation Bnai
Yeshurun. Speakers
include Rabbi Steven
Pruzansky of Bnai
Yeshurun, Rabbi Michoel
Goldin of Chabad of
Teaneck, and Dr. Shani
Ratzker, author of
Finding Your Bashert
and the Survival Guide
to Shidduchim. Includes
all meals, oneg with
dating mentors, speed
dating, interactive
meals, and musical
Havdalah/kumsitz with
Jeremy Gasin. Hosted
by Rachel Ruchlamer
and Dr. Ratzker.
Shidduchprojects@
gmail.com or call
(201) 522-4776.
Singles Shabbaton
in Brooklyn: Sharon
Ganz & Friends hosts
a Shabbaton weekend
for Orthodox Jewish
singles, 30s-50s, at
Young Israel Avenue J;
includes three Shabbat
meals, oneg Shabbat,
singles mixers, group
discussions, tour of
Flatbush, Saturday night
party. Home hospitality
available. (721 Ave. J.
Sharon, (646) 529-8748
or (718) 575-3962.
Sunday
November 6
Seniors meet in West
Nyack: Singles 65+ meets
for a social bagels and
lox brunch at the JCC
Rockland, 11 a.m. All are
welcome, particularly if
you are from Hudson,
Passaic, Bergen, or
Rockland counties. 450
West Nyack Road. Gene
Arkin, (845) 356-5525.
Singles meet in Caldwell:

New Jersey Jewish Singles
45+ meet at Congregation
Agudath Israel, 2:30 p.m.
Group Trivial Pursuit,
dessert, prizes. 20
Academy Road. Sue,
(973) 226-3600, ext. 145,
or singles@agudath.org.
Celebrating Agnon:
The Yeshiva University
Center for Israel Studies
hosts a conference on
the works and influence
of Nobel Prize-winning
Israeli author S.Y. Agnon
in commemoration of
the 50th anniversary
of his award. The
conference, Agnons
Stories of the Land of
Israel: Celebrating the
50th Anniversary of S.Y.
Agnons Nobel Prize, is
on the universitys Wilf
Campus in Furst Hall,
Room 535, 500 West
185th St.. yu.edu/cis/
activities/conferences.
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Singles
Sunday
October 30
Meet & greet/network
in NYC: Eretz Young
Professionals, a
networking group
geared toward
marriage-minded
singles, 26-49, has
a meet and greet at
the Stanton Street
Synagogue, 3-5 p.m.
Participants will hear
about a Shabbat
program on December
23 at the international
Limmud Conference in
Birmingham, England.
Attendees wearing
something British
(like a Union Jack
shirt) will get a raffle
ticket. 180 Stanton
St. (646) 801-5419,
eretznyc@outlook.com,
or www.eretzyp.org.
Calendar
Cast members,
from left,
Darren Carfano
of Suffern;
Emily Bosco of
Closter; Allen
Pines of Fair
Lawn; Emma
Ruck of Tappan;
Janica Carpenter
of Old Tappan;
Mic McCormack
of Tenafly, and
Sharon Podsada
of Emerson.
Photo provided
Last Night of Ballyhoo in Oradell

The Bergen County Players presents
The Last Night of Ballyhoo, which
won the Tony Award for best play in
1997. The comedy-drama was written
by Alfred Uhry, who also wrote Driving Miss Daisy, and is directed by Carol
Fisher. Set in Atlanta in 1939, it is about
a German-Jewish family whose main

goal is to assimilate at any cost.
The play will run through November
12 at the Little Firehouse Theatre, 298
Kinderkamack Road in Oradell.
For tickets, call (201) 261-4200 or go to
www.bcplayers.org.
Tickets available for Fiddler

Join members of the JCC of Paramus/
Congregation Beth Tikvah on Wednesday, November 16 to see a matinee performance of Fiddler on the Roof on
Broadway. Transportation by luxury
coach is included in the $130 cost. Theater seats are in the orchestra. The reservation deadline is November 8. For information, call (201) 262-7691.
Judaica papercut artist featured

in Parsons alumni exhibition
A papercut by Nancy SchwartzKatz, a graduate of the Parsons
School of Design, will be featured at the Parsons Alumni
Exhibition. The artwork is
a six-layer papercut called
Homeland/Promised Land.
Ms. Schwartz-Katz was chosen
from more than 600 applicants
for a spot in the prestigious
showcase. This show features
Parsons alumni who are in the
top of their artistic fields. The
exhibition is open to the public
through October 31 at the Arnold
and Sheila Aronson Galleries in
Manhattan.
Homeland/Promised Land,
inspired by Ruth Calderons 2013
Knesset speech, represents the
hope that there might be mutual
Homeland/Promised Land by Nancy
understanding among all the
Schwartz-Katz
religious groups in Israel.
which Jewish folklore says is the number
In this intricate work, Ms. Schwartzof organs in the body.
Katz interprets Ms. Calderons telling
Ms. Schwartz-Katzs work is featured
of the story of Rabbi Rachamie, whose
at the Brooklyn Art Library and has been
name means womb. The word rachamim, a derivative of this word, means
commissioned by and featured in a variety of Jewish schools, community cenempathy. The root of the two words
ters, and national organizations.
is Ramah, corresponding with 248,
Breast health awareness brunch

Teaneck-based Holy Name Medical Centers new Breast Center hosts a womens
health event on Sunday, October 30, at
11 a.m. The new Breast Center, offering
appointments on Sundays, features personalized experience with nationally-recognized specialists, low-dose, high-resolution technology, including fully digital, 3D
mammography, patient-friendly amenities, and a peaceful environment.
Included is a buffet brunch with kosher
choices, free breast exams performed by
nurse practitioners, vendor and make-up
demos, chair massage, and free flu shots
to the first 100 guests. Valerie Smalldone
of 1010 WINS Radio, PBS host, and Broadway/television actress, is the guest speaker.
Valerie Smalldone
The event is at HNMCs Marian Hall, 718

Teaneck Road. To register, call (201) 8333336 or go to holyname.org/events.
Learn to sew with Belle Melle

at Kaplen JCC on the Palisades
Whether you have been sewing all of your
life, want to improve your skills, or have
never even sewn a button to a garment,
Belle Mell will help. She is teaching two
eight-week Speed Sewing classes at the
Kaplen JCC on the Palisades in Tenafly
that will allow students to sew quickly
with professional results. An evening class
will meet on Wednesdays, from November
2 to December 21, from 7 to 9 p.m. A day
class is on Thursdays, from November 3
to December, at 12:30. Students will make
two basic garments using knit fabric with
basic patterns that can easily be used to
make an entire wardrobe. Students will
also learn how to thread and operate a
sewing machine, novel ways to insert zippers and invisible zippers, hem with a twin
needle, and make a blind hemstitch.
For students interested in making things
for the home, Belle will teach simple ways
to make unique accents that incorporate
basic gathering techniques and custom piping at a fraction of the commercial cost. She
Belle Mell
Courtesy JCCOTP
also offers private sewing lessons for those

wanting to learn how to sew anything from
simple garments to tailored suits or couture
gowns on their own timetable at the JCC.
For information, call (201) 408-1457.
YU hosts hackathon and startup fair

Yeshiva University students will host their
third annual hackathon, beginning at 8:30
Saturday night, October 29, and ending at
8:30 p.m. on Sunday night, October 30.
Its set for the Heights Lounge on YUs Wilf
Campus, 515 West 185th St., Manhattan.
Hackathons 24-hour technological
innovation marathons are becoming
increasingly popular on college campuses
around the world as a way to encourage
creative thinking and partnerships. But
because they typically occur on Saturdays,
observant Jews cant participate. The YU
hackathon provides a unique forum for
those Jews to connect, brainstorm, and
work together to build anything from apps
to robots to self-driving cars.
This years hackathon features a special

focus on Israeli technology with an Israeli
Tech Startup Fair. Participants will be able
to meet with representatives from Israeli
companies, learn about the products they
create, and hear tech talks from professionals in a wide range of fields. These professionals also will be available throughout the day to mentor students and offer
insight or feedback on the projects theyre
working on.
The hackathon is organized by YU Hackers in collaboration with YU Tamid Group,
YU Israel Club, and YU Computer Science.
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n 1 Ben Porat Yosef sixth graders built a sukkah for the entire school so that students had
a place to eat during chol hamoed. The kindergarten provided the decorations. Students
enjoyed celebrating Sukkot together on October 19 and 20, with a spirited morning tefillah
with their teachers and friends. Courtesy BPY
n 3 Children and adults hung decorations at the

sukkah at the Jewish Center of Teaneck. The shuls
president, Isaac Student, left, front row, is with
Estee Mincis, Miriam-Leah Mincis, Asher Cooper, and Yonatan Cohen. Amir Cohen, Roberta
and David Stein, Ira Buckman, Jake Resnick, and
Avraham Cohen are in the back. Michael Laves
n 2 Nearly 50 seniors joined Rabbi Meeka Simerly,

shown here with Julie Rothenberg, in the sukkah
at Temple Beth Tikvah in Wayne. Cantor Charles
Romalis also participated. The event was organized
by Barbara Reiss and Beryl Paul. Courtesy TBT
n 4 Liz Schwarz of Fair Lawn helped at the

sukkah decorating party at Temple Beth
Sholom of Fair Lawn. Courtesy TBS
n 5 The social action committee of Temple Emeth

sponsored a food drive for the Center for Food Action in Englewood. Empty bags were distributed
after Rosh Hashanah services; they were brought
back full before Yom Kippur. Barbara Balkin
n 6 Students at the Howard and Joshua Herman Education Center at the Fair Lawn
Jewish Center/CBI, their teacher, Aliza
Shaltuper, and Rabbi Ronald Roth helped
decorate the sukkah. Courtesy FLJC/CBI
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Edith Bodnar
Edith Bodnar of Wyckoff, 96,

died October 21.
Born in Hungary, she came to
the U.S. in 1939. She was married
to John Bodnar in 1942 and was a
devoted sister to Zoltan Schultz,
violinist and conductor, who
perished in the Holocaust, and
whose memory she honored by
establishing a fund for musicians in
Israel through the American Israel
Cultural Foundation. She was
active in Cancer Care, Hadassah,
and her synagogues in Marco
Island, Fla., and Cliffside Park.
Predeceased by her husband,
John, she is survived by her
children, Peter (Robin Weiser),
Paul (Sally), Anita Skolnick
(Stuart); eight grandchildren,
and 10 great-grandchildren, Ella,
Charlotte, Brandon, Melora,
Spencer, Owen, Jack, Sam, Lila,
and Sydney.
Donations can be made to the U.S.
Holocaust Memorial Museum or
Cancer Care. Arrangements were by
Louis Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.
Shirley Buchwalter
Shirley Buchwalter, 89, of Fort

Lee died October 16.
Predeceased by her
siblings, Abe, Frank, and
Goldie, she is survived by
her sister-in-law, Marion

Buchwalter, nieces, nephews,
grandnieces, grandnephews,
great-grandnieces, and
great-grandnephews.
Donations can be sent to a
favorite charity.
Arrangements were by Robert
Schoems Menorah Chapel,
Paramus.
Natalie Effron
Natalie Effron, ne Heller of Park

Ridge, formerly of Woodcliff
Lake and Naples, Fla., died
October 17.
She was a real estate broker,
former owner of Brand Bar
and Beverages in Park Ridge, a
member of the Woodcliff Lake
Zoning Board, and owner of
Effron Town Center in Park
Ridge.
Predeceased by her husband of
60 years, Harold, she is survived
by daughters, Melissa Keenan
(Michael) of Ohio, Denise Hayes
(Bill) of Haworth, and Robin Malley
of Woodcliff Lake; a sister, Estelle
Hamburg, and grandchildren,
Jason Hoffman, Sarah and Jenna
Malley, and Samantha and Zachary
Keenan.
Contributions can be made
to the Valley Hospice, Paramus,
or the Park Ridge Volunteer
Firemens Association.
Arrangements were by
Gutterman & Musicant Jewish
Funeral Directors, Hackensack.
Marvin Feldman
Marvin P. Feldman, 85, of Fort

Lee, formerly of Closter, died
October 24.
He was the founder and
president of Emerson World of
Travel for over 30 years. He was
a past master of the Masonic
Temple, an active member of
the Closter Lions Club, and a
member of the Association of
Bergen County Police Chiefs.
He is survived by his wife of
59 years, Rochelle, ne Novitz,
children, Caren of Washington
Township, Eric (Sara) of
California, and grandchildren,
Joshua, David, Alyson, and Jenna.
Donations can be sent to
the Michael J. Fox Foundation
for Parkinsons Research.
Arrangements were by
Gutterman & Musicant Jewish
Funeral Directors, Hackensack.
Adina Levin
Adina Levin, 66, of Mahwah,

formerly of Tenafly, died
October 10.
She worked with her husband
in the familys art dealership.
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French, Dutch towns commemorate

Alfred Dreyfus and Holocaust survivor Jules Schelvis
A French municipality has honored the persecuted
Jewish soldier Alfred Dreyfus with a statue and a
Dutch town honored the Holocaust survivor and
writer Jules Schelvis with a street sign.
Dreyfus, a French army captain who was wrongfully convicted of spying for Germany in 1894, was
commemorated earlier this month in his native
city of Mulhouse in eastern France. On Oct. 9, the
day Dreyfus was born in 1859, one of his grandsons
unveiled a statue of him at a local park during a ceremony attended by the mayor, France 3 reported.
Paris, the city where his show trial was held and
where he eventually was exonerated in 1906, has
no street named after Dreyfus, who was exiled to a
French colony in South America for the false charges
brought against him.
On Wednesday, the municipality of Amstelveen,
south of Amsterdam, where several thousand Jews
live, inaugurated a street sign bearing the name of
Schelvis, who survived seven Nazi concentration and
death camps. He died earlier this year in Amstelveen.
The sign will be installed in 2018 in a neighborhood that is still being constructed, according to the
municipalitys official blog.

The University of Amsterdam gave Schelvis an honorary doctorate in 2008 for his research of the Sobibor death camp in Poland, which he survived. His
1993 book Extermination Camp Sobibor is considered one of the most detailed documents ever written on the death site, which fewer than 50 people are
believed to have escaped and which the Nazis largely
obliterated to cover up their atrocities.
An amateur historian who has researched the near
annihilation of Dutch Jewry during the Holocaust
warned last week that lacking documentation about
the victims could lead to spelling errors and other
mistakes in commemorative projects, including a
memorial wall planned to be unveiled in Amsterdam
in 2018 with 102,000 victims names.
Jim Terlingen said the Netherlands, which lost
approximately 75 percent of its Jews during the
Holocaust the highest percentage in Nazi-occupied Western Europe has only kept partial lists of
Holocaust victims. His op-ed published October 15 in
the Volkskrant daily was titled Check war victims
names before they are set in stone. JTA Wire Service
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She is survived by her husband,
Jehuda, children, Dana ( Jason),
Michael (Bernadette), and Ron;
a sister Tzipora of Israel, and
grandchildren, Gabriel and Leah.
Arrangements were by Louis
Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.
Bernadine Mechanic
Bernadine Jasper Mechanic, 92, died

October 22.
She was president of the Northern
New Jersey Region of Hadassah and
the local chapter in Paterson. She
also served on Hadassahs national
board. She founded Allendale
Automotive Enterprises in Ho-HoKus and was a founding member
of I.W.D.I., an independent buying
group in the automotive parts
aftermarket.
Predeceased by her husband, Dr.
Mayer, she is survived by children,
Louis, Leslie, and Jonathan, and
grandchildren, Max Stokes, Adam
Lind, Suzanne Manning, Karen
Mechanic, and Marc and Ross
Mechanic.
Schoems Menorah Chapel, Paramus.
Ronald Sherman
Ronald Sherman, 81, of Fair Lawn,

raised in Paterson, died October 18.
A Paterson State College graduate, he
was the principal of School 5 in Paterson.
Predeceased by his wife of over

50 years, Myra, he is survived by
children, Jeffrey, and Jennifer Cohen
(Mitchell), and grandchildren,
Brandon and Alec Sherman, Sydney,
Justin, and Zachary Cohen.
Schoems Menorah Chapel, Paramus.
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October 21.
She was soprano soloist for the
choir of Congregation Bnai Israel
of Irvington for over 25 years, sang
soprano with the chorus at Ocean
County College, and with the Garden
State Philharmonic Chorus. She was
a former member of the Greenbriar
Hadassah.
Predeceased by her husbands,
Sidney Freedman and Dr. Irving
J. Snyder, and siblings, Milton
and Sidney Zucker, both of New
Jersey, and Helen Zucker Cohen of
Massachusetts, she is survived by
sons, Harris Freedman (Carole),
and Robert Freedman (Marie);
stepson, Robert Snyder (Kelly); niece,
Susan Cohen of Massachusetts, and
nephew, Steven Fox (Theresa) of
Mississippi.
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Brothers arrested in 2014 Brooklyn
murder of charedi landlord and father of 7
Two brothers were arrested in connection with the 2014 kidnapping and murder of a Jewish landlord in Brooklyn.
Erskin Felix, 38, and his brother
Kendall, 28, were taken into custody
for their alleged roles in the killing of
Menachem Stark, the New York Daily
News reported, based on information
obtained from police sources.
Stark, a married father of seven, was
kidnapped outside his Williamsburg
office during a botched robbery in the
middle of a snowstorm on January 2,
2014. His burned body was discovered in
a dumpster beside a gas station in Great
Neck, N.Y.
Erskin Felix faces murder and kidnapping charges, and his brother was
charged with hindering prosecution
and tampering with physical evidence,
according to the report. Both were
intially being held at the New York Police
Departments 90th Precinct.
The arrests came approximately three

weeks after the brothers cousin, Kendel
Felix, 29, was convicted of kidnapping
and killing the 39-year-old Stark.
In a videotaped confession, Kendel
Felix, a carpenter who once worked
for Stark, said Erskin Felix was the mastermind of the scheme, the Daily News
reported.
Im scared sless because this wasnt
supposed to happen, Kendel Felix told
Kenneth Taub, chief of the Brooklyn district attorneys homicide bureau.
According to prosecutors, the Felix
brothers and their cousin dragged Stark
into a minivan after an intense tussle
on the street. Stark died of asphyxiation when one of the co-conspirators sat
on his chest in the back seat of the van,
prosecutors said.
Kendel Felix is slated to be sentenced
November 2 in Brooklyn Supreme Court.
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he board and staff of American Associates, Ben-Gurion University

of the Negev are deeply saddened by the passing of Kurt Kilstock,
a dear and loyal friend, a compassionate and dedicated leader, and a
true gentleman. Together with his late wife, Phyllis, Kurt was a steadfast
supporter of Ben-Gurion University of the Negev for more than 25 years.
He was devoted to providing scholarships for students from the former
Soviet Union. A supporter of desert research, he established the Phyllis
and Kurt Kilstock Chair in Environmental Physics of Arid Zones.
Kurt will be sorely missed. Our thoughts and prayers go out to his
family and to all who mourn his loss. May they be comforted among the
mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.
Toni Young, National President
Doron Krakow, Executive Vice President
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Brightview Paramus
prepares to open;
hosts sneak peek
In anticipation of the opening of Brightview Paramus, the community is hosting a
Sneak Peek for professionals on Thursday,
November 3, from 4 to 6 p.m.
Brightview Senior Living prides itself
on creating beautiful, inspirational communities, explained Stephen Nichols,
executive director at Brightview Paramus. But it is the people residents and
associates who live and work here, family
and friends who really bring the community to life.
The special pre-opening party will
showcase Brightview Paramus servicerich community. Raffle prizes will also
be available with all proceeds benefiting
Alzheimers NJ.
Brightview Paramus is proud of the work
JSA, Inc. architect; Wohlsen Construction
Company; and Brightviews development
group did together to create a senior living
like no other in the area.
Amenity spaces were carefully designed
and particular attention was paid to gathering spaces small, comfortable areas for
conversation and reading, larger seating

areas for groups, special rooms for concerts and educational programs, multiple
dining venues, a pub, and more.
Brightview Paramus is truly remarkable, said Nichols. And Brightview has
expanded into northern New Jersey and
has several other newly opened communities in the region including Brightview
Randolph and Brightview Tenafly, and just
opened Brightview Warren.
Featuring Independent Living apartment
homes, Assisted Living apartment homes
and a Wellspring Village neighborhood
dedicated to dementia and Alzheimers
care, Brightview Paramus will welcome its
first residents and families next month.
The community is located at 396 Forest
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To learn more about Brightview Paramus, please call Cindy Sansone or Gina
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Brightview Senior Living and its parent company, The Shelter Group, successfully create and manage innovative,
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political science ideas the resistance
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me that, he said, OK, thats one twelfth
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I said, youre not going to write this
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