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There are few people who really know what theyre getting into when it
comes to getting married. We all have an idea of what marriage is all about. We
have hopes, dreams and expectations of what it will look like. We watch movies,
TV shows and even observe marriages in the world around us. But we dont really
know until were there, do we? (by Debra Fileta, Dec 3, 2013)
I am rushing to let you know that I am not married. So, I had
to gather these opinions that are worth mentioning. Basically,
people try to figure out, Why do people get married? Why is
marriage important?
At the beginning here are some people who will persuade
you by all means, to not marry and a short article from
eHarmony :
Bible says, Marriage is the right way for procreation. Lovers say,
We married because we were so in love". Parents say, You should marry
because you need someone who will take care of you when we are gone".
Some will even marry to split the bills, chores, a sense of security and
assurance. I feel majority get married because they are pressurized to and
are stigmatized if they aren't. Once the age 25 is crossed, parents and,
especially, nosy relatives, neighbors, and random acquaintances become
very interested to know when you are getting hitched. Society considers
marriage to be as one of the essential stages in the natural progression of
life: Birth > School > College > Job > Marriage (Felita Viegas Nov 7, 2015)
After having been married, I dont believe in it any more. Its
overrated and unnecessary. Happiness and security come from yourself and
the relationship with other people you work on, not on an external
construct (Allan Chin, native New Yorker, polyglot, librarian, foodie, Jul
29, 2014)
Statistically, marriages dont really work these days. I think its just
paperwork. Staying together and just being honest with each other, I think
that is good enough as it is. (Shem, 23)
A good marriage would be between a blind wife and deaf husband.
(Michel de Montaigne, philosopher of the French Renaissance)
When I was a teenager, I used to think that 23 was a reasonable age to get
married. As I got older, my perceptions about marriage changed and the
older I got, the older my age of acceptability got as well. I thought they were
just my own thoughts about marriage, but maybe it was something more
universal. From all the way around the world, marriage is changing and
becoming less important. But it looks different there than it does here. Here
are a few interesting research findings about marriage in Asia:
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If being happy is your sole motto, in life, then I woulds say, do not
marry. But I believe, that true joy comes in loving a person truly and
heartily and giving yourself up and being selfless for that person - only
something that comes within a marriage. It's a beautiful institution, and in
my eyes, the most beautiful institution between two humans. Marry
because it's beautiful, marry because it's a covenant. (Anonymous Mar 28,
2013)
It honestly makes me sad when people think marriage is jail. Youre
marrying your best friend. Waking up knowing someone loves you. If thats
so miserable to you, then youll never be happy.
I love being married. Its so great to find that one special person
you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, youll become happy; if
you get a bad one, youll become philosopher. (Socrates)
A girl must marry for love, and keep on marrying until she finds
it. (Zsa Zsa Gabor, actress who has been married 9 times).
Next, we are about to discuss things that should be taken into account before
getting married.
If you want to change the world, do it while youre single.
Once youre married you cant even change the TV
channel. Via 9gag.com
Research also suggests that the happiest couples are the ones
that focus on the positives. Instead of pointing out her husband's
growing gut or suggesting he go for a run, she might say, "Wow,
honey, thank you for going out of your way to make me relatively
thinner." These are couples who can find good in any
situation. "Yeah, it was devastating when we lost everything in
that fire,but it's kind of nice sleeping out here under the
stars, and it's a good thing you've got all that body fat to keep us
warm." (Jenna McCarthy, Feb 2012, TED Talk What you dont know about
marriage)
I found the best comparison ever for people who debate whether
the love marriage or arranged one is more advantageous.