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why
care?
Fractured relationships
Reduced decision quality
Loss of skilled employees
Sabotage of property,
theft, & reputation
Arm Exercise
Pair up with an
individual
Objective:
Get as many points
for yourself as you
can
Rules
No talking
Each participant
receives a point for
every touch of their
partners hand to
the table
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Alternative Mindsets
Win-lose strategy with problem between us
You
Problem
Other
Win-Win Strategy with side by side search for options to overcome problem
You
Other
Problem
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Win/Win
A Strategic Choice
Be Clear about goals
Develop Strategy congruent with goals
positive intent
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Resourceful State
Thoughts and feelings are in
balance
Non-resourceful State
Feelings dominate,
Miscommunication and
unclear thinking
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Essential Skills
Listening
Attending and Reflective Listening to get rapport and
capture interests
Assertion
To get needs met without infringing on other
Problem Solving/Negotiation
To create and agree on options that serve mutual
interests
Flexibility
in using the right skill at right time
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You Other
Listening
Assertion
Conflict Resolution
Problem Solving
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Agreement
Negotiation
Values
Values
Conflict
Reduction
Self
Preparation
Awareness
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Awareness
Negative emotional state
Perceived Differences
Barriers to getting needs met
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Awareness
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Self-Preparation
Knowledge of own style preference
Self-controlanchoring,venting,centering
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Conflict Reduction/Management
The ability to work constructively with the emotional
energy and negative attribution that fuels the conflict
The process to reduce the negative emotional energy so
disputants can listen, learn, and work to resolve their
dispute
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Problem Solving/Negotiation
A communication process in which the parties work
together to learn from and influence other
A search for mutually acceptable agreements to meet
the parties most important interests
Problem Solving/Negotiation
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Agreement
A Process in which the parties monitor, reinforce, and ensure
the implementation of the agreement
Agreements
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Listening is...
. following the thoughts
and feelings of others to
understand what they are
saying from their
perspective, frame of
reference, or point of view
. treating the speaker
with dignity and respect
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Components of Attending:
Contact (eye contact, physical closeness)
Posture
Gestures (physical activity or motion)
Environment (conducive for communication)
Interested Silence
Pacing and Matching (non-verbals & verbals)
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Reflective Listening
A special type of listening that
involves paying respectful attention
to the content and feelings of
anothers communication, hearing
and understanding, and then
letting the other know that he/she is
being heard and understood
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Listening:
Assertion:
Following Posture
Leading Posture
Focus is on Speaker
Focus is on You
You Respond
You Initiate
You go Public
Empathy
Strength
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Assertion Sequence
(Agreement Management)
Stage 1:
Agreement
Stage 3:
Confrontation
Meeting
Stage 2: Monitor
Reminder or
Affirmation
Stage 4:
Consequences
New information at
any stage may
warrant the
formation of a new
Stage 1 agreement.
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Tangible consequence on
you
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Problem Solving/Negotiation
Process :
Define the Problem in a Statement to capture critical interests
How to __________ ___________ .
action verb desired state
Identify options for possible solution and clarify as necessary (Brainstorm)
Evaluate options against standards (workable, acceptable, affordable,
impact on meeting interests)
Decide on an acceptable solution(s)
Develop an implementation/action plan (who will do what, by when,
where, how)
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Chunking
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Chunking
Chunking is shifting the conceptual or
logical level of thinking
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Chunking Questions
Chunking Up: use to identify interests
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Purpose of Chunking
To uncover your own and the others interests
To see if interests are similar, different, or incompatible
To ascertain legitimacy
need to keep chunking until the other
person cares about your interest
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Chunking Exercise
Person A
Think of something you want in a
negotiation situation.
State your position to person B
Person B
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Practical Application
What challenges are you facing today that require your
very best conflict resolution strategies and skills?
What have you learned in this workshop that will be
helpful in handling those challenges?
What might you use to help you deal with other
challenges that arise?
What kind of support might you need to ensure
application of this material?
What will you continue to work on?
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