Secrets of a Sissy

Boy
A GAY GRIMOIRE OF MODERN MAGICK FOR MEN WHO
LOVE MEN AND THE HAGS WHO WORSHIP THEM

Carolina Dean

Creole Moon Publications

PRESCOTT VALLEY, ARIZONA

Copyright 2016 by Carolina Dean.

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Contents
Introduction ........................................................................................ 1
The Power of Positive Sex ............................................................. 3
Chapter One: The Secret to Healing ................................................. 5
Self-Blessing .................................................................................... 7
Of Lovers and Labels .................................................................... 10
Life and Death, Death and Rebirth ............................................. 11
Rebirth Doll .................................................................................. 12
Retrain Your Brain ....................................................................... 12
A Honey Jar for Self Esteem ........................................................ 13
Sexual Healing: Restoring Lost Nature....................................... 15
Let Go and Let God ...................................................................... 16
To Assuage Grief over a Deceased Love .................................... 18
Spiritual Checkups ....................................................................... 18
How to Perform a Spiritual Checkup ......................................... 19
The Egg Roll: A Rite of Spiritual Cleansing............................... 20
Chapter Two: The Secret of the Ancestors .................................... 23
Gay Icons ....................................................................................... 24
The Ancestor Altar....................................................................... 26
Petitioning the Ancestors ............................................................ 30
The Ancestor Pot ......................................................................... 31
Using Your Ancestor Pot ............................................................. 32
Chapter Three: The Secret No One Talks About .......................... 34
A Ritual to Uplift the Spirits of Gay Suicides............................. 35
On Coming Out ............................................................................ 37
A Ritual to Mark the Occasion of Your Coming Out ............... 38
Chapter Four: The Secret to Love .................................................. 40
The Ethics of Love and Sex Magick ............................................ 42
Unblocking Love: The Seven Insights ........................................ 43
Hey, Dont Look Me Over ........................................................... 47
New Love Honey Jar .................................................................... 49

Adam and Steve Trio Mojo Hand for Love ............................. 52

Moving Candle Spell to Draw a Lover Closer............................ 55
Devotion Potion ........................................................................... 57
Aiguillette: The Love Knot .......................................................... 58
The Nation Sack............................................................................ 59
Follow Me Boy Spells ................................................................... 60
Chapter Five: The Secret to Sex ...................................................... 62
Louisiana Sex Magick ................................................................... 64
How to Be a Fisher of Men .......................................................... 66
Buddha Had Me Like .................................................................... 67
Hanky Panky: A Fetish for Fetishes ............................................ 68
To Stir Lust in a Man or the Boner Charm .......................... 72
Sex Magick, Sigils, & Social Media, Oh My! ............................... 74
Come to Me Candle Spell............................................................. 76
Stone Spell for Male Potency ....................................................... 79
Ganesha, Opener of the Way....................................................... 81
Chapter Six: The Secret to Prosperity ............................................. 84
The Money Prayer ........................................................................ 87
This Little Piggy Went to the Altar of Success and Prosperity 88
Securing Your Job ......................................................................... 91
For a Rent Boy to Draw Trade .................................................... 92
How to Get Your Sugar Daddy to Satisfy Your Sweet Tooth... 94
Fowl Magick for Money and Love .............................................. 94
Cross & Candle Spell .................................................................... 96
How to Cleanse Your Money ...................................................... 97
Chapter Seven: The Secret to Revenge ........................................... 99
Divine Retribution Spell ............................................................ 101
Curse of the Mirror Box............................................................. 103
Break Up Bottle ........................................................................... 105
A Cursing Container Spell ......................................................... 107
To Curse a Bully.......................................................................... 108
Pity that Penis Spell .................................................................... 110
Chapter Eight: The Secret to Protection....................................... 112

A Simple Protection Doll Baby Spell ........................................ 113

Anti-Candle Magick ................................................................... 114
Uncrossing: How to Lift a Hex, Jinx, or Curse ........................ 116
Reverse the Curse ....................................................................... 118
Box Fix Honey Jar ...................................................................... 119
For Protection While Sleeping ................................................. 121
All-Purpose Black-Candle Banishing Spell .............................. 122
For Protection from a Violent Lover ....................................... 123
Protecting Another from a Bully .............................................. 123
Chapter Nine: The Secret of Wisdom .......................................... 125
Wisdom of the Elders ................................................................ 125
Appendix A ..................................................................................... 128
Appendix B ..................................................................................... 130
Appendix C ..................................................................................... 131
Appendix D ..................................................................................... 132
Appendix E...................................................................................... 134
Appendix F...................................................................................... 135
Appendix G ..................................................................................... 137
Appendix H ..................................................................................... 138
Appendix I....................................................................................... 141
Appendix J....................................................................................... 151
Appendix K ..................................................................................... 152
Appendix L...................................................................................... 154
Bibliography.................................................................................... 157
Resources ........................................................................................ 158
About the Author ........................................................................... 162
To Our Readers .............................................................................. 163
Creole Moon Publications Titles .................................................. 164

Dont dream it, be it.

DR. FRANK N. FURTER

Introduction

agic has always been a part of my life, even before I

knew very much about it, how it works, or how to do
it. However, I credit the idea of, belief in, and practice
of magick with me being the person that I am today which is a far cry from whom I used to be. As hard as it may seem,
I was a shy, lonely boy who was different. I knew I was different,
but I never felt safe giving a name that described how I was different.
My peers knew I was different, too. Unfortunately, they didn't mind
giving a name to that thing that made me different from everyone
else. Sissy, faggot, homo...not a day went by that someone at some
point didn't feel the need to remind me how I was different from
the other boys.
My only reprieve was that there were other people in school who
were different, too (but different in a different way); so, when I
wasn't the target of bullying, someone else was. Nonetheless, those
times were few and far between. It made my life hell. As a freshman
in high school, when many teens are discovering themselves as
sexual beings, I became a regular target of the other boys for my
perceived homosexuality. Even though deep down inside I knew
they were right about me, I wasn't ready to admit it to myself, let
alone anyone else.

Having inherited my love of reading from my mother, I often

retreated from the harsh cruelties of the world into my own fantasy
world through books. Whereas my mother read romance novels, I
leaned toward fantasy fiction. As I grew older and my interest in the
occult became more prevalent, I began reading about ghosts,
witches, and vampires. I became intrigued with the idea of
becoming a vampire myself. I believed that if I were a vampire, then
I would have the power to make the bullies stop hurting me. I
believed I would have the power to hurt them and that I could make
the boys that I liked, like me in return. Later, I would turn to
witchcraft for the same reasons.
One particularly harsh month the bullying got worse than ever. I
felt like I couldn't turn to anyone. School officials either wouldn't
or couldn't do anything to help and my home life wasn't ideal
either. I began to realize that my fantasy of becoming a vampire
had very little chance of becoming a reality and that's when I began
to entertain thoughts of suicide. I just wanted everyone to leave me
alone, but it seemed like the more I tried to will it to stop, the worse
my situation became.
Then, one day at the library I was reading a book about vampires
and came across an entry about Elizabeth Bathory. I had heard of
Elizabeth Bathory before and read accounts of how she had
murdered virgins and bathed in their blood to stay young and
beautiful. This book mentioned the Countess' involvement with
witchcraft and mentioned a charm she carried for protection.
According to the story, Elizabeth carried a small leather pouch
which contained an incantation written on a piece of parchment
(although some accounts say it was the skin of an unbaptized baby).
And so, believing that if vampires couldn't save me, then perhaps
witchcraft could, I copied the incantation down precisely as it was
written in the book. When I got back home, I stole a little leather
pouch containing poker dice that my grandfather kept in a junk

drawer. I snuck a candle and some matches into my room for my

little ritual.
That night, I waited for everyone to go asleep, and then I lit the
candle. I read the incantation over and over several times asking
God to save me from my bullies and give me the strength not to
take my own life. Thinking that the spell needed something more,
and recalling the power of blood, I pricked my finger and drew a
pentagram over the prayer in my own blood and then folded up the
paper with a bit of my hair inside of it. I tucked the paper in the
little leather pouch and asked God to keep me safe at least until my
birthday which was just a few weeks away. Somehow, I believed
that if I could just stay alive until my birthday, everything would be
all right.
Even as I write these words, I cannot remember exactly what
occurred in the days after I made my little mojo bag (and I know
that technically it wasn't a real mojo bag). I don't recall if the
bullying eased up or I got stronger or perhaps a little of both. All I
know is that something changed for the better. This was one of my
earliest experiences practicing successful magick. It was this spell
that taught me that not only do words hurt, but they can also heal
and empower you as well. Perhaps this was one of the reasons that
I became less and less of a visual artist and more and more a
writerin order to harness the power of words.

The Power of Positive Sex

In later years, I would learn that I had another power inside me, a
power that would give me the ability to wrap those boys around my
finger, to make them nice to me and to like me. When I came out
of the closet and embraced my sexuality, I discovered the power of
sex and sexuality.

One of the first things I discovered was that by simply

acknowledging my homosexuality openly, I made other men
uncomfortable, it threw them off their game, and it gave me an
edge. I found that most straight men assume that all gay men
wanted them and so I used that belief to my advantage. When
conflicts arose, I simply flirted with them or outwitted them in our
verbal sparring, and they would go away - and that was a form of
protection. Words kept me safe.
One day I had a conflict with a man who identified as straight,
and so I deployed my usual weapon only to have that man express
interest in sexual experimentation. It was then that I learned that
when I give a man pleasure when he desires that pleasure from me
more than I desire him, then I have power over him. And so for a
long time, sex became something I used to make myself feel
powerful. Those same boys that used to call me a sissy, faggot and
homo were knocking on my door late at night with sweeter words
on their lips and fire in their loins that only my passion could
extinguish.
And so, with this book I will share with you, dear reader, some
of my most powerful secrets for seducing straight men, controlling
your lover, eliminating rivals, and when necessary, how to remove
a mans nature, and MORE!

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The Secret to Healing

hough many of my readers will surely skip ahead to the

chapters on The Secret to Love and The Secret to Sex, I
wanted to open this book with the topic of healing because
it is a very important aspect of conjure, and there is a great deal of
need for this type of work in the gay community. So, go on and look
at those love and sexual conquest spells, but come back here and

read this section too, because it is a very important section. Go on;

Ill wait.
Ready? OK. Many LGBT youths, myself included, grew up in
Christian households, or households that were loosely Christian
and where homosexuality was considered an abomination. We
heard our parents, our aunts, our uncles, our preachers, our
teachers, community leaders, politicians, schoolyard bullies, and
people who ought to just plain know better repeat the same old
arguments over and over again. God created Adam and Eve not
Adam and Steve, God Hates Fags, Marriage is between one man
and one woman, Homosexuality is a sin, and if a man lies with
another man as he lies with a woman, they will be put to death, etc.
Also, there seems to be a lot of misconceptions about gays that
have been spread in the form of generalities, lies, and gossip. Some
of these misconceptions include, but are not limited to, the
following:

Gay men are all sexual predators and pedophiles.

Gay men want to have sex with every man they see or meet,
regardless of that mans sexual orientation.
Gay male couples consist of one person who is the man
and one who is the woman.
Gay men are all effeminate, limp-wristed, and walk with a
swish.
Gay men enjoy dressing in drag and pretending to be
women OR all gay men want to be women.
You can tell if a man is gay by the way he looks or dresses.

When you grow up hearing these misconceptions over and over

again, you actually start to believe they are true. Its no wonder that
many LGBT youths grow up feeling that there is something wrong
with them, even though their desires and feelings are perfectly
natural. Internalizing these misconceptions has resulted in many of

our youths, gay and straight alike, being damaged in some way and
is an issue that our society as a whole has yet to address. By
damaged, I mean that many LGBT grow up self-loathing, fearful,
and (surprisingly) homophobic themselves! They believe that
because society has assigned certain characteristics to homosexuals,
that they possess those characteristics because they are homosexual.
In reality, gay culture is just as beautiful and varied as straight
culture (and just a little bit more fabulous).
When I was a boy in school, there was a graveyard across from
our Middle School. If you had a conflict with someone, you would
meet them in that graveyard after school and fight it out.
Sometimes you got your butt whooped, and sometimes you
whooped the other guy. Either way, you walked away from that
fight with the respect of your enemy for having stood up for
yourself. Many times, that enemy even became your friend.
Nonetheless, something changed in our society and bullied kids
started bringing guns to school and killing those who hurt them and
those who happened to be in the way and those who just happened
to be there, and just when you thought it couldnt get any worse,
bullied kids starting killing themselves.
These acts of violence are a cry for help, for compassion, and for
healing. Now, not every LGBT youth becomes violent or commits
murder or suicide. That said, even one is one too many. The sad
truth is the only thing wrong with them is that they think that there
is something wrong with them. Thus, the key to change, any
change, begins with our thoughts. Our thoughts then manifest
through our words and our deeds.

Self-Blessing
As spiritual practitioners, we are often called upon to bless our
clients in various ways, such as helping them to find love, engender

luck, assuage grief, restore health, and remove blockages, to name a

few. But, what does it mean to be blessed, and how are we blessed?
Bruce Wilkinson, the author of The Prayer of Jabez, defines
blessing as (asking) for or to impart supernatural favor. When we
perform rituals to bless others, we are calling upon God to confer
his favor upon them so that they may know Gods love and to enjoy
abundance in all things. To seek a blessing is to ask to become closer
to God and align ourselves with his will.
Below, I will share a ritual to assist you in moving closer to God
and receiving his spiritual blessings. To perform this ritual, you will
need the following:

Hyssop
Salt
White candle
Blessing Oil
Photo of yourself
Bible

Shortly before sunrise, prepare a spiritual bath which includes

Hyssop. Set two candles on either side of your shower or tub and
light them. Soak in the bath for at least ten minutes as you
contemplate that which you feel is separating you from God and
keeping you from the gifts that He has to offer you. You may wish
to read Psalm 51 as you meditate (see Appendix A).
When you are ready, begin pouring the water over your head as
you say, Cleanse me with Hyssop and I will be clean, wash me and
I will be whiter than snow. When you are done, stand up and step
backward out of the tub and pass between the two lit candles,
saying: In Jesus name, Amen.
Before allowing the water to run down the drain, save a cupful to
dispose of at a crossroads by throwing it towards the East over your
left shoulder and walking away without looking back.

At your altar, mark a white candle with your name and the word
Blessed. Dress the candle with Blessing Oil by putting the oil on
the tip of your finger and then stroking the candle over your name
towards yourself and say:
May the Lord bless me and keep me. May He make His face to
shine on me and be gracious to me. May the Lord turn His face to
me and give me peace. In Jesus name, Amen.
Place the candle in a holder on top of an overturned saucer, under
which you have placed the photograph of yourself. Hold your hands
a few inches over the candle, focus on your desire for blessings, and
pray The Lords Prayer (see Appendix B). In addition, you may wish
to personalize the prayer, saying something such as:
My Father, who art in heaven, hallowed by Thy name. Thy
kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give
me this day, my daily bread. Forgive me of my trespasses, and I
forgive those who trespass against me. Lead me not into
temptation but deliver me from evil, for Thine is the kingdom
and the power and the glory forever and ever. Amen.
Light the candle, then take out your Bible and turn to the Book
of Matthew. Read chapter 5:3-11 (see Appendix C).
When you are done, allow the candle to burn out. If any wax is
left behind, you may wish to inspect it for any signs of the work.
Then, gather the remains and ritually dispose of them by burying
them in your backyard. Take the photograph of yourself and press
it in the Bible at the Beatitudes as a remembrance of your blessings.

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Of Lovers and Labels

It has been an ongoing trend the past few years - but it is beginning
to sink into my consciousness - how the younger generation is
casting off labels. Like, somehow it is easier for a man to have sex
with another man if they don't put a name to it. In this respect, I
think black culture was ahead of its time with the whole "down low"
thing; but, that's another story that presents its own sort of
problems.
I look upon this trend as both a good thing and a bad thing. If that
is what it takes for these young people to accept themselves and
thereby each other, then more power to them! Through their eyes,
I can really see a day when gay people enjoy all the freedoms and
liberties of straight people. On the other hand, and this may be that
I am a product of my generation, I like labels. If not for labels, I
wouldn't know when to machine wash and when to tumble dry, or
I might eat poison instead of corn or peas. Yes, labels are used to
separate and divide folks. Its that whole "us and them" pattern of
thinking.
I, like many other gay men before me, grew up bullied and was
called names like faggot, sissy, cocksucker, homo, and so forth.
People used these words to break me down. Nevertheless, like black
folks who reclaimed the N-word, I was taught how to take these
words back and let them empower me. They are, after all, just
words. It never was the word that hurt me; it was the stigma that
was attached to it and the hate and ignorance from the person who
said it to me that caused me the most pain.
By the same token, labels can just as easily bring people together.
Putting a name to what you are is the first indication (especially for
those questioning their sexuality) that YOU ARE NOT A FREAK,
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. These words - the labels - are how we

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take our first steps along the journey of self-discovery. It is how we

find our tribe, our family, and ultimately, ourselves.
So, I say to the next generation, you be you and do you boo, but
don't forget the wisdom of your gay Elders and Ancestors. Our
labels give us strength, our labels empower us, our labels give us
visibility and power. Don't be so quick to abandon them.

Life and Death, Death and Rebirth

It is often said that before you can build a man up, you have to break
him down. That means before you can grow, change, and evolve,
you must let go of outdated thoughts and beliefs about yourself that
dont serve to lift you up.
Christine Jorgensen, the first trans person to become widely
known for having gender reassignment surgery, once told a story
about a dream she had the night before her surgery. In her dream,
she (as a female, her true self) attended a funeral. She didnt know
whose funeral it was, but when she approached the open casket, she
saw her male self there. It was then that any lingering doubt she had
about her surgery abandoned her and she was fully able to accept
herself for the woman that she was.
Many LGBT youths entertain thoughts of suicide or become
obsessed with the idea of death. If you or someone you know begins
talking about suicide or contemplating suicide, then seek
professional medical help immediately (see the Resources section at
the end of the book). That said, the following ritual draws upon the
imagery of death and funeral customs to lay to rest those negative
thoughts, beliefs, and ideas that have been ingrained in ones
consciousness and that need to be eliminated for healthy growth
and soul evolution.

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Rebirth Doll
You will begin by making a doll to represent yourself. This can be
done by taking two pieces of fabric in human shape, sewing them
together and stuffing it with bunting. If you are not handy with
needle and thread, you can purchase a toy doll, use a human-figure
candle, or cut a human-shaped figure out of a piece of construction
paper (you may want to glue a photo of your face to the doll and
write your name across the chest) to act as your doll. You will name
it after yourself, and it will represent you in every sense.
Next, you will write down all the negative thoughts, ideas, and
beliefs that you hold about yourself on a square of paper. When you
are done, you will attach this paper to your doll. When the moon is
waning (on the decrease) take your doll outside somewhere away
from your property. Dig a small hole and place the doll inside the
hole. Open a Bible that you have brought with you and turn to
Psalm 91 (see Appendix D). Pray the Psalm over the doll. When you
are done, cover the doll with the dirt, get up, and walk away without
looking back. As you walk away, repeat Psalm 23 (see Appendix E).
As the doll disintegrates in the ground, your negative thoughts,
beliefs, and ideas about yourself with likewise wane until they are
completely gone.

Retrain Your Brain

Write those negative thoughts on a square piece of paper, then
draw a large X from corner to corner of the paper. Burn the paper
in the flame of a white candle which has been dressed with Cast Off
Evil Oil.
Dress yourself with a bit of the oil, too, and resolve to think
positive thoughts. In fact, whenever you find yourself thinking
negatively, immediately stop and replace those thoughts with

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positive ones. Over time, you will get into the habit of thinking
positively.

A Honey Jar for Self Esteem

Self-esteem is a state of being in which you not only like yourself
and who you are, but you also respect yourself. When you respect
yourself, you respect others, and you demand to be respected in
return. The following spell is designed to help you nurture selfrespect and learn to like yourself. It makes use of a Honey Jar.
Honey Jars are a type of container spell that use sweeteners such
as honey, syrup, and molasses in conjunction with the burning of a
series of fixed candles for compelling an individual to favor your
petition in business, love, or court cases.
A typical Honey Jar is created using a small glass container that
has a metal lid, such as a baby food jar, and filling it with honey.
Depending on your specific intent, as well as what herbs, curios,
and personal concerns you have available, additional items may or
may not be placed inside the honey. At the very least, a written
petition should be placed inside the honey. The jar is then sealed,
and a prepared candle is affixed to the top of the lid.
The candle is lit as ones prayer, or petition is made, and then it
is allowed to burn itself out. The following day, and each successive
day for a total of seven days, a new fixed candle is burned on the
honey jar to heat up the situation and get movement on your issue.
After the first seven days, a new fixed candle is burned three times
a week on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.
To begin a Honey Jar for self-esteem, you will need:

Honey
Glass jar with a metal lid
Pink candle

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Photograph of yourself
Lemongrass
Master Root
Coriander seeds
Cast Off Evil Oil
Blessing Oil
Attraction Oil
Small lodestone
Magnetic sand
Bible

To begin, fill the glass jar of the way with honey and set it aside.
Next, take a photograph of yourself from a time in your life when
you were happy, smiling, and upbeat. Turn it over and write a list
of all the things that you like about yourself. When you are done,
turn the photograph over, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself
all the things that you like about yourself that you are valued and
that you are loved. Here is a sample script for you to try:
(Your Name), I am so glad that you were born. You are a special
person, with a great sense of humor. You are strong, intelligent,
creative, talented, and can achieve anything that you desire. You
are perfectly all right just the way you are, and I love you.
When you are done, place the lodestone on top of the picture,
sprinkle it with magnetic sand, and say:
As I feed you, so will you feed me and draw these qualities out in
me so that like this honey, I will shine with the light of the sun
and be as sweet to myself in thought, word, and deed, just as this
honey is sweet to my tongue. Amen.
Dip your finger in the honey and taste a bit of it, then fold the
photograph around the lodestone and place it inside the Honey Jar.

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Sprinkle in the coriander and lemon grass, and then place the
Master Root inside the Honey Jar. Pour three drops each of the
condition oils for a total of nine drops. Screw the lid on the jar.
Carve your name on a pink candle and anoint it with the Blessing
Oil. Affix the candle to the top of the Honey Jar. Place your hands a
few inches above the candle and spend a few moments visualizing
yourself happy, smiling, and upbeat. Focus your thoughts on the
things that you like about yourself.
When you are ready, light the candle, take out your Bible and read
Psalm 139 (see Appendix F). Allow the candle to burn out on its
own. Each day after that for a total of seven days burn a pink candle
on the Honey Jar and read Psalm 139 to set it working. After the
initial week, you will burn a dressed pink candle on the jar three
times a week on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. This should be
done every week for a total of seven weeks.

Sexual Healing: Restoring Lost Nature

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Nature is an old-timey word that is synonymous with sexuality or

sexual power. For example, you might hear someone say John
Brown aint got no nature for women (i.e. he is gay), or you might
hear that a man has lost his nature, meaning that he is either
incapable or disinterested in having sexual relations. Losing ones
nature can occur naturally as a man ages, or it can be taken from
him using conjure.
To restore a mans nature that was lost through natural means,
write his name on a fresh egg in red ink. Boil the egg and as it boils
say the following prayer, which is adapted from 1 Samuel 16:12:
And he sent, and brought him in. Now he was ruddy, and withal
of a beautiful countenance, and goodly to look to. And the LORD
said, Arise, anoint him: for this is he.
When the egg is hard-boiled, peel it and feed it to your man in a
loving way. You may wish to sit on his lap and feed him bits of the
egg (or several of them) at a time, kissing him between bites and
praising him for his strength and manliness. Save the water in
which you boiled the egg and when it cools have the man use it to
wash his genitals.

Let Go and Let God

Parting ways with someone to whom you were once intimately
connected can often be a difficult process. Many times, being able
to move on is hindered by a need for one or both parties to confront
the other. This is often done out of a desire to either show the
person how much they have hurt you and thereby get them to
understand why you wish to no longer be their friend or lover, or
to hurt the other person in return.
Such confrontations often consist of one or both parties
explaining what a burden the other person's friendship was, how

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lucky one person was to have the other, or how much one person
did for the other, for example. These conversations usually devolve
into personal attacks and judgments about things like an
individual's life choices and mistakes they have made, even though
before the end of the relationship, this person was perfectly
accepting and supportive of you.
The sense of hurt, loss, and betrayal can be overwhelming. Some
people need a little something extra to move on with their life. For
those people, the following ritual is recommended.
At your altar, butt or flip, a yellow candle and mark it with the
name of the person (written backwards) from whom you wish to
disconnect yourself. Anoint the candle with Cut and Clear Oil and
light it while saying:
With God's blessing, as this candle burns down to nothing may
any feelings I have for (N) or any connection I still have to
him/her now burn away until nothing remains. In Jesus name,
Amen.
Using a pen, write the name of the person you wish to completely
let go of on a fresh lemon. Holding it in your hands, spend a few
moments thinking about your desire to be free of any attachment
or connection to this person. Now, take that lemon and beginning
at the top of your head and working down to your feet, rub the
lemon away from your body. Take your time as you do this, and
pray the 54th Psalm (see Appendix G).
When you are done, place the lemon by the candle and let it
remain until the candle burns itself out. When the candle is spent,
place any remains in a paper bag along with the lemon and carry it
to the nearest crossroads and leave it there as an offering to the Lord
for delivering you. Alternately, you can bury the lemon in the earth
somewhere off of your property. As the lemon rots and wastes
away, so will your feelings and connection to the person.

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To Assuage Grief over a Deceased Love

In the summer of 2014, a story appeared on the news about a couple
who were married for 62 years and who died on the same day only
hours apart. While this is a beautiful story, what makes it so special
is the sad fact that couples who are lucky enough to be together over
a long period of time do not often die together. In addition to grief,
the person left behind may harbor feelings of guilt (called survivors
guilt) or even feelings of betrayal and abandonment for having been
left behind.
To assuage grief over a loved ones death, make a small packet of
herbs containing Marjoram, Thyme, and Rosemary. Tuck this
under your pillow and sleep with it for a total of seven nights. Each
night, light a red candle and read John, Chapter 14 (see Appendix
H). On the morning of the 8th day, dispose of the packet in running
water or at a crossroads and let it take your grief away. It is not
recommended that this rite is performed right away, but rather
when the individual is prepared to deal with his or her grief.

Spiritual Checkups
From time to time, we get so busy with our everyday lives that we
forget how important it is to take the time to care for ourselves.
Sure, we visit the doctor or dentist when something ails us, or we
are in pain, and some of you are even diligent when it comes to
getting your yearly checkups to make sure there aren't any
problems, and everything is working properly. But, how often do
you perform a spiritual checkup for yourself?
All too often people wait until something is wrong before they
take an active part in their own well-being. As magickal

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practitioners, we put up our protections, and if everything seems

okay, we assume that our magick is working. I have also seen many
people put a great deal of faith in their own magick while
discounting the power of others, which can be a huge mistake.
The protections we set in place don't always work, and
sometimes things get through. Evil might come all at once - like it
is breaking down your door and charging in like it owns the place or it might just seep into your life through a small crack that you
weren't even aware of. That's why it is important to perform a
spiritual checkup from time to time so that you can be aware that
something is amiss before it has the opportunity to fully get to you
and do the most damage.
For the average person, a spiritual checkup should probably be
performed once about every six months. Other times when it would
be wise to perform a spiritual checkup include your birthday, New
Year's Day, or anytime you feel that you need one. For one person
that could be once a month, for another, it might be four times a
year.

How to Perform a Spiritual Checkup

Begin by gathering several candles. They can be vigil candles or
regular offertory candles. Set them up on your altar and designate
each candle for a different area of your life. You can do this by
assigning a specific color to each area of your life, or if you only
have white candles, you can carve a keyword on each candle. If you
go the second route, be sure to slip a piece of paper under each
candle with its designation written on it or draw a little diagram for
yourself so that you know which candle corresponds to what area
of life it represents.
When your candles are ready, light them and pray Psalm 91 (see
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you. You will then observe the candles as they burn and take notice
of how they burn or any marks they leave behind.
For example, if the candle designated for Money burns down
clean, but the one designated Love burns dirty, it could be a sign that
someone is working against your relationship to break you up out
of jealousy for your happiness or to take your partner from you. If
you are single and do not wish to be, it could be a sign that someone
has cursed your love life so that you remain alone and lonely.
If this is the case, you should then think about how your
relationship has been going lately. Have you been having problems
out of the ordinary? Has your partner been distant? Have you been
fighting more often? If so, you might want to have a reading
performed on your behalf to look into the situation more in depth.
Even if you don't think anything out of the ordinary is wrong, it
would be wise to do some work to strengthen and protect your
relationship, as well as to cleanse yourself and your environment.
The same goes for any area of your life where negativity is
indicated.

The Egg Roll: A Rite of Spiritual Cleansing

Also known as a limpia or spiritual cleansing, the Egg Roll is a form
of healing in the Curanderismo tradition in which a fresh raw egg
is ritually passed over a person's body. In other cases, depending on
the worker and what he or she has on hand, a limpia may be
performed using smoke from a cigar, herbs, or branches from
certain trees. The purpose of the ritual is to remove curses and
blockages, take off negative spirits, and cure spiritual illnesses.
The Egg Roll can be performed by one individual for another, or
it can be performed for one's self. During the procedure, the egg
may or may not make physical contact with the individual's body.
The worker may also make the sign of the cross over the

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individual's body at certain points in the procedure. As the egg is

passed over the body, the worker and/or the individual will often
pray either out loud or silently. The prayer may be a traditional
prayer such as Psalm 23, The Apostle's Creed, or an
extemporaneous one.
After the Egg Roll has been performed, the egg is cracked, and its
contents dropped into a clear glass of water. The yolk is then
observed for signs of the outcome of the work. Common signs
include blood, discoloration, bubbles, and threads. A certain level
of experience is required to interpret the signs found in the yolk.
The Egg Roll may have to be repeated several times for full effect;
however, many people see relief with only one treatment.
Performing the Egg Roll
Begin by taking a fresh egg and facing East with the egg in your
dominant hand. Take a few deep, cleansing breaths and say a
benediction such as God before me, God behind me, God be with
Me.
Next, begin at the top of your head and work your way down the
body by rubbing the egg next to your skin moving downward and
away from your body. As you rub the egg on your body, you may
wish to say a heartfelt prayer such as Psalm 23 or, my favorite, The
Lords Prayer, either silently or aloud.
When you are done, the egg may be cracked open into a clear
glass of water and inspected for signs of the work done. Afterwards,
it may be flushed down the toilet. Alternately, the egg may be tossed
into the center of a crossroads where the negativity it now holds
will be dispersed to the four directions, or it may be thrown at the
base of a strong tree to be absorbed into nature and converted into
something positive.
An alternate rite for spiritual healing consists of placing a whole
egg in a clear glass of water which is placed under the bed. The egg
remains under the bed for one or three days, depending on the

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severity of the condition after which it may be disposed of as

described above.