11.

Sex to Samadhi (equal deep

meditation)
Sex is a very small part of your bio-energy. It is given by nature to all beings. No one trains you to feel
sexual. Yet you know it is there. What is required is to understand it and to face all the feelings that it
arouses, rather than resorting to the centuries-old habit of repression and suppression. It is a natural
instinct, which grows as the body grows. The hormonal and chemical changes bring forth the urge for
sex. Our rishis have never ever condemned it - no wonder that most of them led a married life.
Our ancestors never gave us this theory that celibacy is more pious and greater than indulgence. See
our temples from Khajuraho to Ajanta Ellora. Statues of men and women in intimate positions have
been carved right on the walls of these temples. Inside the temples, there is not even a single idol of
any god or goddess. The message is clear: body, mind and consciousness are all divine and interrelated
to one another. What happens in the mind affects the body, what happens in the mind affects
consciousness and vice versa? Sex has been generally condemned and never discussed. If sex had been
bad then God shouldnt had made it for nature and nature shouldnt had given it to us. Our very birth
has happened because of it, so how can one condemn ones very own existence. Firstly, sex has to be
understood as to what it is, only then can one transcend it. By hating it, hiding it; we will be stuck in it.
A child doesnt have it from day one; it comes at a certain age. So, as it comes, truly speaking, it
should go by certain age. But it is difficult to find those people who naturally have gone beyond it.
Mind remains obsessed with it even in old age. One finds it difficult even to talk about how to come
out of it. So whats left is that you hide the fact even from yourself and suppress it as strongly as you
can. This means that there is a continuous struggle with your very own nature. If indulgence is wrong,
so is repression. Many times people have come to me with this problem but have been ashamed to talk
about it. They live a sexual life and are guilty of still having sexual urges. For the benefit of all I bring
this out so that you know the facts. Let us try to understand the human body. Yoga says that your spine
is the most important organ in your body. It is the base of your body and mind; and the whole body is
rooted to it. You are young as long as your spine is young. You begin to get old when your spine
begins to get old. Regular pranayama, meditation, a right state of mind, correct food as well as
discipline can keep your spine young, and therefore, you can keep old age away. Everything depends
on your spine; if your spine is alive and energetic you will have a brilliant mind. If the spine is dull and
dead, you will have a sluggish, slow mind. Our spine has two ends - at the beginning is the sex center
and at the other end is Sahasrara, the seventh center which is at the top of the head. The beginning of
the spine is attached to the earth, i.e. your sex center. Sex is the most earthly thing in you. From the
very beginning of this center you are in touch with nature, you are in touch with Prakriti. From
Sahasrara, you are in touch with the divine. These are the two poles of your existence. If you are not
divine or if you are not bringing divinity into your life - you will be a sex-oriented person. A person
who carries sexuality in his mind, day in and out, is a worldly person. You can keep this faade of
being a religious person but a truly religious persons actions will not be sex-oriented. If sex is in your
mind all the time then you are established in your lowest center. This center is not energized, nor
awakened because the Muladhara chakra doesnt need your energy to function. Muladhara chakra takes
energy from nature. Either your energy is flowing all the time from the sex center to the earth or your
energy is getting released into the cosmos through Sahasrara. From Sahasrara you merge with Brahm,
into the absolute existence. From the sex center you flow down into the relative existence. These are
the two flows - one downward, the other upward. Unless your energy starts flowing upwards your
miseries will never end, your sexual cravings will never end, your fantasies will never end and your
greed will never end.
You must push your energy upwards. This is possible either with wisdom or with Yoga. Im not saying
that in Yoga you dont need wisdom but I would like to put it in another way. There are two kinds of
Yoga: Gyan Yoga and Ashtanga Yoga. Through Gyan Yoga you move your energies upwards and the
contemplative mind will begin to have glimpses of divinity. The more you are in these states of
stillness; the more will be your wish to move higher in this path. In Ashtanga Yoga there is discipline,
beginning with the body and moving to the mind with the help of Pratyahara and Dhyana. You
systematically energize your Muladhara chakra and with the power of your mind, you move this energy
from the lower centers to the upper ones. You may have glimpses of happiness - but they are
illusionary ones. It will be like that, in a fraction of minutes there will be this great joy. But it wont last
long. This one glimpse will be enough to push you ahead on this path with a greater zeal because this
glimpse has shown you your destination. When the energy starts moving upwards you start to

experience more of such glimpses and once this energy reaches the Sahasrara, it is released from there.
And then you will experience the absolute bliss, Paramananda. Then you become joy yourself. Yoga is
the method by which we learn to move our energy upwards through the spinal column, moving against
gravity. Sex is easy because it follows gravity; earth is pulling everything down back to itself - even
your sexual energy. This is something which astronauts experience when they are in space - they have
less sexuality. They move beyond earths gravity and in a way they move away from their sexuality.
When the body is in the state of weightlessness, sexuality diminishes. The earth is pulling your life
energy down and this is natural because life energy comes from earth. Through food we create life
energy in our body. Now, food comes from earth and earth is pulling it back. The more epicurean taste
you have, the spicier delicious food youll eat. And more food in your body means more sexuality. It
will change into bio-energy and this bio-energy will keep your sexual center active. When you eat
food, you create life energy in you. This energy comes from earth and earth pulls it back - thats how
gravity works. Everything goes back to its source - life energy going back again and again, and you are
moving in a circle. You will be going on and on for many lifetimes together - unless you take a jump
just like an astronaut does. Yoga, in a way, teaches us to take this jump from the body to the mind,
from unconsciousness to consciousness. The pattern of earths gravitational pull can be broken and
thats possible if you move your energy upwards. In Bhairav Tantra, Lord Shiva gives one technique to
Uma, his consort, which goes like this. Consider yourself as a light ray rising from the base center up
the spine. If you use this technique in a proper way then it will be easy for you to rise from sexuality to
divinity. This technique involves using the power of imagination. Lord Shiva is asking you to consider
yourself as light. Isnt this the same thing that Quran speaks? Quran says God is Light. Bible too says
God is Light and if God is Light, so are you. Concentrate on the sex center and then feel that light is
rising upwards to other chakras. Yoga speaks of seven charkas. The first is Muladhara, at the base of
the spine, close to the sexual center. The second is below the navel, called Swadisthan and there is
another center called Manipur. You move upwards and then there is one close to the heart. The one in
our throat is called Vishudi and in our forehead is Agya. The last center is in our head called the
Sahasrara. Some systems have divided these centers or charkas into nine, some three and others five. A
division is not very meaningful; you can make your own divisions also but as such the five centers
work in a much easier and a better way. However, we need these divisions to move from one center to
the next. It will be difficult to take this single jump from Muladhara to Sahasrara. Our mind can think
in bits and fragments easily. Feel this energy, these light rays rising up from the sex center to your
navel like a river. Soon, youll feel the warmth rising in you. Soon your navel will become hot; youll
feel the heat and others around you will also feel the heat. With your imagination, move these rays
from your navel up straight to the heart charka, which is called the Anahat chakra. And your heartbeat
will change, your breathing will become deeper and youll feel the warmth in your whole body. Dont
stop. Keep moving upwards. You will experience a great livingness, a great life in your whole body, an
inward light will keep rising up, and youll experience a great energy dawning upon you. Now, sex
energy has two parts: one is physical and the other psychic. In our body everything has two parts; the
same goes for the mind: one is material and the other is spiritual. When we say sex energy has a
material part then this material part is the semen. It cannot rise upwards; there is no passage for it to go
up. When we say that the sex energy is rising then we are talking about the spiritual part and this can
rise through the spinal passage. This spinal passage has these charkas, which have to be felt, to be
explored. Your sense, your feelings are dead; you hardly know about these centers. To bring these
feelings back, we need to use tools and to learn to be sensitive. Otherwise, you can go on thinking that
the energy is rising, but there wont be any feeling at all. When there is no feeling, the imagination
becomes impotent. Only a creative imagination can give you some result. Just sit and close your eyes
and listen to the sounds around you - the honking of a car, noise of the traffic or the lilting musical
score. Whatever you listen to, just connect. Dont use the mind, dont judge, dont say anything, just
feel. You will feel that for a few moments you have become a child. You dont need to think, just be in
that moment and feel the sound. Another tool is that when you take a bath, feel the bath. When you
pour the water on your body, feel the water touching your body. Feel the trickling down of water on
your body. When you rub the soap, feel the soapsuds, the lather. Enjoy the moment. Whatever you are
doing, feel it. When you are sitting idle, then feel the body which is sitting or bring your attention to
the breath and feel the breath which is going in and out, in and out, not failing even for once. We are
afraid of feeling our own body. Have you ever given attention to it? Do you love your body? Do you
respect your body? Actually, our mind is sick, so is the society. A child touches his body with respect
and love, and adults around him tell him not to. And then we pressurize this child to drop any kind of
contact with the body and then the child begins to treat his body as if it is some strangers body, which
he should not touch. I have given a method of meditation called Sparsh Dhyana; its the magic of touch
where you use your own hands to touch and feel your own body. Actually, its not the body you are

touching; its the divinity you are touching. You place your own hands on your head, on your toes, on
your stomach, on your back; each and every part is pure, divine, and naturally beautiful. Dont ever
think that this part is ugly and this part is not to be touched. But you are so scared; you think that if
youll keep on touching your body, your sexuality will get activated. The truth is even if thats the case
there is no harm because for once you will experience this sexuality, which will have a tinge of divinity
in it. You have always treated your body as material; you have always treated your body as something
filthy. You have always done the act with this dirty feeling in your mind. Afterwards, you feel ashamed
to talk about it. And thats the reason Tantra says sex is divine, it is beautiful but only when you
consider your body divine, when you consider yourself as divine. And when you consider your partner
as divine, only then can the intimacy between man and woman becomes as pure and as sacred as it was
when Shiva and Parvati were in union; union of body, mind and soul. We need sensitivity and a
creative imagination. These methods can be employed to help our energies to rise, to get our centers
activated. And each center, when activated, will give you a phenomenal experience of being light, of
being blissful. These glimpses will get clearer and clearer, deeper and deeper. As you will continue to
practice, when this energy will finally move to the Sahasrara, there will be no sensation at the sex
center. It will be totally still and silent. When the sex center is excited, it becomes hot, you can feel that
heat, it is physical. And when this energy will move upwards the sex center will become cool. And the
heat will all go to the head. You will feel that dizziness happening to you and you can feel nauseated
also. Because your body, your head is not ready to absorb this kind of heat. Dont be afraid if after
meditation you feel a little nausea or have a headache or feel dizzy. Your body is not yet prepared, just
not yet purified totally. It will happen when you start respecting your body. And then gradually, your
body will get acquainted with this energy and will be able to absorb it. Then this energy will get more
and more refreshing. When a lot of energy moves into the head, it has been seen that people can
become unconscious. But within an hour the energy will come back and the state of unconsciousness
will go. One cannot stay in this unconsciousness state for more than an hour. Actually, it can be less
than an hour - within half an hour to thirty-five minutes it will go away. This unconsciousness is not
exactly the unconsciousness we are familiar with; it is more like a sleep. We have a special name for it,
Yog Nidra. Its the deepest center and the head becomes hot - thats a good sign. And when this energy
gets released, your head will experience as if there is an opening of a lotus flower. This energy gets
released into the cosmos and you will feel the coolness in your entire body, right from the head to the
toe. Now as I have explained in the simplest way possible, what is needed is for you to put this into
practice. But before you start your practice, you need to understand that you must do it under the
guidance of a Guru. Your Guru can help you whenever you get stuck as there is every possibility of
your getting stuck because this whole path is so new and we need to tread on this path very gently. In
the presence of the master it will become easier. And it wont happen in just one day. Remember, there
are no short cuts; there are no easy ways. So, you need to persevere and be consistent. One day, youll
experience this wonderful state. We need to explore deeper in meditation to understand that God has
made us in such a way that if we use our wisdom we can turn even a negative thing into a positive one.
THOSE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED DIVINE LOVE CAN NEVER REMAIN TIED TO THE
BODY, CAN NEVER REMAIN SLAVE TO URGES OF BODY AND MIND. YOU ARE THE
DIVINE ONE TO YOUR CORE; NOTHING CAN CHANGE THAT, EVER!