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Everyone on Birthright gets a heightened sense of who they are, said Rabbi
Zalman Chein, one of the rabbis at the
Chabad at Binghamton University who
joined the Birthright group. The Birthright trip helps them become aware of
who they are.
If someone did not celebrate their bar
or bat mitzvah in the past, or if they were
not aware of their ( Jewish) responsibility,
and if I feel there is an interest, we offer a
bar or bat mitzvah, the rabbi said.
I explain to the participants that every
Jewish girl at 12, and every Jewish boy at 13
automatically becomes a bat or bar mitzvah, a daughter or son of mitzvah, he
said. The celebration marks arrival at this
milestone.
Becoming a bat mitzvah is a significant
step in a persons path, said Rabbi Chein.
Each person has their own journey.
If it was a surprise for Erika, it was a bigger surprise for her parents, Karen and
Robert Nathanson.
But a happy surprise at that.
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your part. Youll begin by following instructions, but to do your job right, youll also
need to understand the whys and the hows
behind those instructions . . . Youve picked
up quite a bit in your time here, but we have
guys whove been here all their adult lives
and are still learning. Anyway, congratulations and good luck. Ill be watching your
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After a conversation like that, would
you run home and throw a party to celebrate? My daughter did. This week, she
celebrated her bat mitzvah, the day that
she became twelve years old.
A bat mitzvah is not an oversized birthday party. Leahs had eleven of those
already. This is very different. What she
celebrated was the fact that on the eve
of her twelfth birthday she became bat
mitzvaha person who under Torah law is
commanded, obligated and responsible to
fulfill the mitzvot of the Torah.
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hopping for the bar or bat mitzvah is often a family affair. There
are many fashion emporiums that
cater to the customer, young and
old, or older. Or, put another way the
young, and still young-at-heart.
Often, a family will choose to shop in
a boutique that has a history in the community, or in their own family, or where
they can get the kind of attention that they
want in order to make sure that what they
are wearing to their bar and bat mitzvah
is special. The customers range from bar
mitzvah boy, father and grandfather, or
bat mitzvah girl, mother and grandmother.
Staff at the fashion boutiques who help
dress the generations for their simchas
enjoy the experience, and even feel after
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Diana Yomtobian said she recently outfitted an Israeli family that was bound for
Jerusalem to have the bar mitzvah at the
Western Wall. She dressed the bar mitzvah
boy in a solid, dark blue suit with two different shirts for Friday and Saturday; the
father was set up in a three-piece French
blue suit and the bar mitzvah boys 15-yearold brother was dressed in a navy blue suit
with a subtle red-pinstripe design.
It really was nice, said Ms. Yomtobian. They sort of color coordinated. Ive
known this family for two or three years,
having suited them up for the older sons
bar mitzvah. When I dress (customers
for a simcha), its like Im dressing my own
family. I put a lot of heart into it. And I
think that they sense that.
At Mishelynes Fashions in Teaneck,
owner Sara said that while the store does
not primarily cater to the bat mitzvah girl,
there are young women who fit into the
womens sizes there and who come to
shop at the store with their mothers. One
of the pluses of shopping at Mishelynes
Fashions is that special occasion dresses
can easily be customized to suit the taste
and modesty-factor of some customers.
Sara recalled selling dresses to four generations of women: a great-grandmother, who
Left, the racks are full of clothing for boys, fathers and grandfathers at Emporio in Teaneck. Right, suits galore at Vero
Uomo in Englewood.
was 90, and had been a customer of Mishelynes Fashions for 40 years (the store was
founded by Saras mother a half century
ago); the grandmother, mother and batmitzvah girl. Great-grandmother was outfitted in a beautiful, navy lace chiffon gown;
grandmother wore a silk taffeta charcoal
grey gown; mother bought a lace charcoal
gray gown; and the bat mitzvah girl wore an
ankle-length lace and silk taffeta navy dress.
The shopping experience was a bonding
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Two weeks: While meeting with caterer, son insists on
a dinner menu of corn dogs and pasta. Fortunately, few
13-year-old boys are on the South Beach Diet. Musician
nags me with repeat calls, urging me to hire his entire
orchestra. I repeatedly refuse, reminding him this is not a
presidential inauguration; its just a bar mitzvah.
One week and a half away: Son still practices speech
faster than a major league pitch. Consider speech printouts on each seat? Seven days away! Musician, magician,
and caterer all need deposits. Consider asking son for loan.
Six days: Should I get a new dress? I had planned to lose
10 pounds for the occasion, but failed to take necessary
actions. Decide to wear ivory colored spring suit, which
still fits. The fraud detection department of my credit card
company calls to warn me of an unusual amount of activity on my account.
Five days: Must get sons suit now. Even if he grows
another two inches this week, it will still fit. Son finds all
formal shirts in the store too scratchy. I snag a hand-medown shirt from the closet, worn at an older brothers bar
mitzvah. Finally, I save money!
Four days: Try to pre-arrange seating for family dinner.
No configuration seems likely to prevent Uncle Harold
from starting up with Cousin Norman aboutwhat was
that fight about, anyway? Pray that Aunt Shirley takes her
meds before arrival. Stock up on my supply of migraine
pills . . . just in case.
Three days: Call everyone who hasnt sent in response
card. Some remind me testily that they did send them in
and I must have lost them. I lose my house keys.
Two days: Caterer calls to report he cant get the petit
fours I had ordered, and a trucking strike on the East
Coast may mean we cant get the sorbet, either. Default to
bakery cookies. Photographer calls with an emergency,
and shell send her trainee instead. Will that be okay?
Day before: I supervise floral delivery to synagogue. Florist with heavy Italian accent assures me they will be stupendous, but doesnt warn me theyre nearly as big as
Mount Sinai and hardly fit through the door. At home, the
phone wont stop ringing. Everyone apologizes, since I must
be so busy, but what time is the party called for? Can they
bring a niece who unexpectedly flew into town? My keys
have not shown up yet, and I lose my spare set as well. Next
move: Climbing through the window to get into the house.
The Big Day: Get up early enough to put in contact
lenses and dress with care. While drinking a quick cup
of coffee in the kitchen, a crisis erupts! The dog rushes
in from the yard, ecstatic at seeing me after an absence
of seven minutes. He leaps up to greet me, festooning my
ivory suit with muddy paw prints! Ive got to leave for synagogue in three minutes, but have no plan B for another
outfit. I race to my room and throw on a dark blue suit
whose jacket wont button all the way.
Son chants his portion from the Torah beautifully. He
looks both adorable and handsome in his suit, straddling
that brief, shining moment between boyhood and manhood. Miraculously, he gives his speech slow enough for
most people to hear. Sometimes, nagging pays off! In his
speech, he thanks his father for taking him to Dodger
games; me for correcting his grammar. He is in his glory,
and I am in mine, even if my dress is too tight.
Four days later: The party goes smoothly. Some computer glitches make the music intermittent, and the silences
are hard to explain. Several people wander into the hall, fill
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plates with food, and leave. I have never seen these people
before in my life. The desserts are a big hit, especially the
brownies. I could have told them that. Keys still MIA.
Five days later: My sons 15 minutes of fame are over,
and he is returning to life as a mere mortal. And each day,
he continues his deployment into manhood, standing
a little taller, his face and body becoming ever thinner.
The next time I see his chubby cheeks, theyll be on my
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grandchildren. I am wildly happy that he is not embarrassed to say, I love you, Mom.
I am also nearly wildly happy that my keys finally turned
up in the up in the backyard. My symptoms of Post-Bar
Mitzvah Stress Disorder are dissipating at last. Mazal tov!
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Stacks of real books are artfully arranged
and wrapped in clear wrap, and are customized with balloons, or ribbons, and signage to fit the occasion, and serve as table
centerpieces. The centerpieces available
as table centerpieces and baskets for the
synagogue bimah can be rented for various occasions. They help to raise money
and at the same time raise awareness.
They are so great-looking, and they
promote such a wonderful program, Ms.
Selman said.
The Bergen Reads program enlists
about 160 volunteers who visit nine public elementary schools in Hackensack and
Teaneck and work with students who are
struggling with their reading skills. At
years end, the program presents brand
new books to the students, about 350
youngsters. The money raised by the book
centerpieces helps to purchase the new
books, said Beth Figman, director of Volunteer Services for the Jewish Federation
of Northern New Jersey.
The book centerpieces, as well as the
bimah baskets books arranged to sit on
the bimah are very often rented for bar
and bat mitzvahs, Ms. Figman said.
We have kids who have a passion for
reading and want to do community service, said Ms. Figman. So having the book
centerpieces and bimah baskets at their
events and parties makes perfect sense,
she said. They look great and they do good.
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Janice Preschel,
director of
Helping Hands
Food Pantry in
Teaneck, accepts
a basket of food
that adorned the
bimah at the bat
mitzvah of Harlee
Hayden.
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Mr. Winter said the organization is stepping up its training of individuals to do the floral arranging and is hoping
to one day have a full-scale flower business.
There is no price you can put on giving the individual
the opportunity to integrate in a non-segregated environment and become empowered through employment to
improve his or her quality of life, Mr. Winer said.
In addition to floral arrangements available for various
occasions, including bar and bat mitzvahs, Shabbat flowers are also available. They have sold at the JCC in Tenafly,
at a few day schools, and for special events, including a
recent dance recital at the JCC, Mr. Winer said.
Harlee Hayden of Hillsdale became a very familiar face
at the Helping Hands Food Pantry in Teaneck.
When she was wondering what to do for her bat mitzvah project, Harlee decided to mix together a little of this,
a little of that, and a lot of love. She took her love of baking; her desire to make a palatable difference in peoples
lives, the advice, and even a recipe from her familys
rabbi, Rabbi Debra Orenstein of Bnai Israel in Emerson,
and kneaded all the ingredients together.
The result had been delicious and beautiful freshly
baked challahs that Harlee had donated weekly to the
Helping Hands Food Pantry in Teaneck.
Harlee was delivering a dozen challahs at a time,
said Janice Preschel, director of the Helping Hands Food
Pantry. The challahs had been snapped up, and not just
by Jewish people. The smell of fresh baked challah is
amazing.
To cap the ongoing mitzvah of her bat mitzvah, Harlee
took it a step further in supporting the food pantry.
She decided to buy food items and assemble them into
two large decorative baskets that adorned the bimah at
her bat mitzvah, which took place recently.
She then donated the food-filled baskets to the Helping
Hands Food Pantry in Teaneck for families in need. The
pantry accepts such non-perishable food items such as
cereal, tuna fish and canned vegetables. Ms. Preschel said
the food pantry serves about 200 families.
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and his mother Alla Weisz.
Uncle Sam stood tall on stilts as he walked
around reminding everyone about U.S.
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Above, Candidates
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