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How to become fearless
There are billions of people in the world and most of them work hard to
achieve success. But sadly, the vast majority do not achieve it. This is
often because they are constrained by fear; either about what will happen
in the future or what other people think of them. Fear stops them
grasping the opportunities they need to succeed in commerce, art, social
life and romance.
• Extremely persuasive;
The great achievers of mankind have all been aware that you need this
mindset to reach the highest pinnacles of success. Dale Carnegie said
‘Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes the furthest is
generally the one who is willing to do and dare’. This motto of the elite
British special forces the SAS expresses a similar sentiment- ‘who dares
wins’!
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The fearless mindset tends to appeal more to those who already have a
more ‘never say die’ attitude than average. Let’s do a quick test. Just
imagine for a moment that you fully possess the characteristics described
above. It can be interesting to spend a few minutes indulging in this
bizarre daydream. Think how you would live your life and the fantastic
experiences and achievements you would enjoy. If you have an
adventurous streak, you should experience a thrill of excitement, or a
surge of euphoria. This is the sensation of freedom, a life without limits
and internal constraints where you are at liberty to do exactly as please.
• Boundless confidence;
• An absence of anxiety
But there is no point in having the right mindset if you don’t have the
right skills to back it up. The second half give you the technical abilities
needed to go with this attitude. This includes:
• An uncanny ability to read people and know what they are thinking;
You can see that what we are aiming at here goes way beyond what is
offered in your usual wishy washy self improvement; course. So, we
expect it will attract an entirely different type of person. If you are that
sort of person then join today to start experiencing the benefits. If you
would like more information, the ‘ Fearlessness Tools’ section of the
website give an overview of the theory and evidence behind our highly
effective technique.
B. Fearless tools
The internal tools create the correct lens through which to see the world
around you. This is about making your mental processes icily cool -so you
can respond to any situation with total calm. These are;
1) Physical Exercise
2) Psycho-nutrition
3) Brainwave Synchronisation
4) Meditation
5) Autosuggestion
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6) Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
The external tools are a series of social techniques which will give you
abnormal abilities to impress, attract, excite, persuade and influence
others. These are:
1) Social Psychology
2) Hypnotic Language
3) Reading People
4) Body Language
5) Social Tools
But, there are disadvantages to the response. It can make you blush or
go pale. This is why some people go red when they are doing something
wrong. It can also inhibit salivation, making your mouth go dry- you
might notice that people speaking in public often take frequent sips from
a glass of water. Because you become more alert to the situation, you can
often develop tunnel vision- you can only concentrate on the task in hand
and you often block out the sounds around you (auditory exclusion). In
short, you panic.
An analogy can help understand the process. Imagine that you have a
tuning fork which is tuned to have frequency of an E note. If you strike
the fork and place it next to a violin then you will notice that the E string
on the guitar will vibrate as well. In other words, the violin string has
been entrained to the same frequency as the tuning fork. So how does
this relate to the human brain?
The frequency is measured in Hertz (Hz). The higher the frequency, the
faster the brainwaves are. This is relevant because there is a strong
relationship between the speed of your brainwaves and your mood. For
example, if you are feeling very happy then this will be picked up in your
brainwaves. Similarly, if you are feeling anxious, analysis of your
brainwaves will pick that up as well.
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D2. Brainwaves fall into the following categories
13–40 Hz Beta waves- This is the state you are in when in normal
consciousness. Associated with active concentration and focus, cognition,
arousal and feeling busy or anxious. Too much of this state can result
intension and anxiety
Thoughts
Emotions /Physical sensations
Behaviours
These components interact with each other. Firstly, your thoughts about a
particular situation influence your emotions and behaviours. For example,
if when you are at a party ( situation) you think ( thoughts) that all
people of the opposite gender are superior to you then this will make you
feel nervous ( emotions) and will prevent you from asking people on
dates ( behaviour) .
But, if you changed the way you thought about the situation (for example
if you thought you were completely irresistible) then you would
experience different emotions (such as pleasure and anticipation) and you
would behave differently; e.g. you would approach people you liked
confidently. CBT helps change what you think about a situation to achieve
better outcomes. This element of the therapy is known as cognitive
restructuring.
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But, CBT also acknowledges that behaviour influences thoughts and
emotions. For example someone who is experienced at going to lots of
different parties and social occasions will have experience different
thoughts (confidence and belief in their social skills) and emotions
(relaxation) about that situation and display different behaviours (relaxed
and open body language) than a novice. It is likely that a novice will fear
the worst (thoughts) feel nervous (emotion) and act awkwardly
(behaviour). But, with practice, they too will feel relaxed. Changing
people’s behaviour by exposing them to a situation is known as
systematic desensitisation.
So how does this help us achieve the fearless mindset? Well, some people
may remain icily calm in situations which would reduce most people to a
nervous wreck because they have gradually increased their exposure to
risk over a period of time and see a high level of risk as normal. So, they
not experience the same intensity of apprehension and fear as a normal
person and correspondingly, will act more rationally.
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What do you think will happen if you ask out the most attractive person
in the club?
They are then asked to consider a more positive and helpful way of
thinking;
To become fearless, you have to have the right diet; fear and anxiety are
to a large extent physiologically determined and what you eat has a major
influence.
The fight or flight response occurs in situations where you are producing
too much adrenaline. So in other words caffeine makes every banal
situation seem like an emergency. But, conversely, the great leaders in
life make an emergency seem like a banal situation. Obviously avoiding
this substance is key to producing a fearless mindset.
There are two types of breathing. The first type is known as Thoracic
Breathing. This involves taking shallow and rapid breaths directly from the
chest and occurs when people are anxious. This is because when people
feel threatened, the flight or flight response increases adrenaline which
accelerates lung function.
So, anxiety causes breathing changes. But, the relationship works the
other way around as well. If you breathe from the chest it will actually
make you feel more anxious. This is because this type of breathing will
destabilizes the balance between carbon dioxide and oxygen in the body.
This causes your muscles to tense up and your heart to beat faster
because of insufficient oxygenation of your blood. These physical changes
make you think you are in a stressful situation which in turn causes more
panic.
To become fearless, you have to consistently give your brain the right
messages. Autosuggestion is a method of intentionally and systematically
programming your subconscious mind, the part of your mind that is
inaccessible to daily thought, to believe something or to hold certain
mental associations.
But, you need to know precisely what to say to yourself and what to
imagine to maximise the effectiveness of this process. We have designed
a specially tailored programme of autosuggestion based on scientifically
verified behaviour scales and hundreds of hours of research into
visualisation techniques.
It is easy to become fearless when you know you can persuade people to
do anything you want. And, persuading people is simply a matter of
understanding and systematically using the psychological drivers of social
influence.
Some people have better persuasive abilities than others. The most
sophisticated persuaders are professional salespeople such as lawyers,
politicians and con-artists.
But, the world is so complicated and fast moving that most decisions are
not made like that. Over the course of the day, you make hundreds if not
thousands of decisions; from what shirt you are wearing to whether to
take the stairs of the escalator at work. If you made each of those
decisions based on a careful appraisal of the costs and benefits of
alternatives you wouldn’t have time to actually do anything.
Excellent persuasion skills will make you fearless. But, your ability to
persuade doesn’t just depend on the words you use; it also depends on
your body language.
In ancient times, people used to live in small tribes of less than one
hundred people; so they had time to really get to know people. In this
situation, it would be clear who is trustworthy and who should be avoided,
who is a strong character and who is weak, because you could observe
them over a long period of time.
There are two main reasons why body language is important. First, it
allows you to control how other people see you. We all play various roles
in life- whether it is the ‘dedicated professional’ in the office or the
‘charming gentlemen’ when taking a girl out to a restaurant. We do this
because no single way of behaving is appropriate in all situations.
Some people are better at doing this than others- top Hollywood actors
make millions of pounds a year giving their audience the impression they
are actually a certain person. The reason that so many people enjoy
watching movies is that actors are highly skilled at doing this. So, it feels
to the audience that they are watching a story with real life characters.
But fortunately, you can bypass the gatekeeper of the conscious mind and
communicate directly with the unconscious by using hypnotic language.
Unlike the conscious mind, the unconscious mind accepts unconditionally;
making it much easier to persuade people through this route
Certain speech patterns can effectively and subtly guide other peoples'
thinking without them being aware of it. The main principle is using
language in large chunks (general use of language) rather than small
chunks (more specific use of language). More general use of language is
builds rapport in listeners. This is because there is less specific content for
the listener to disagree with. So, there is less chance that the
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communication will be rejected by their conscious mind. Instead, the
listener actually responds to the lack of content in your communication by
filling in the gaps with their own imagination.
But, when you use vague expressions in this way, people fill in the gaps;
using their imagination to generate their own ideas about the sort of
‘exciting experiences’ you are talking about. This will give them positive
feelings towards you (rapport) which would increase the chance of you
making a sale. If you started to get into specifics and describe particular
activities you would probably mention something they disagree with. This
would reduce rapport and reduce the chance of selling the apartment.
This course will teach you over forty highly effective hypnotic language
techniques and show you how to effectively put them into practice.
Improving your persuasive abilities will help you become fearless
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L. Cold reading
One reason that people can become fearless is that they have a particular
and unique talent -which is able to amaze and impress people whatever
the situation. So, they are always confident that they will make an
excellent impression.
Just imagine someone’s reactions if upon meeting them for the first time,
you were able to reveal their innermost secrets and fears and also provide
a detailed picture of how their future will map out. It would appear to
them as if you had psychic or supernatural abilities. This ability is known
as cold reading and is used by all mind readers, psychics and fortune
tellers.
‘Your sexual adjustment has presented some problems for you. While you
have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate
for them. You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not
turned to your advantage. You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.
You have a strong need for other people to like you and for them to
admire you’.
Evidence suggests that if people are told that this statement is a unique
reading of their personality, based on psychic intuition, they rate the
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accuracy of this statement of 4.3 out of 5. This clearly implies you can
make the same statements to everyone and they all think you have a
specific and sometimes frighteningly accurate insight into their own
personality.
This is one of many tricks and techniques used by cold readers including:
using shrewd observation about personal characteristics to make
‘educated guesses’ about personal circumstances; skilfully fishing for
details without people noticing and the artful use of vague language which
then allows people to mentally fill in the detail with what they want to
hear. Our course teaches you over a hundred of these techniques and
provides a detailed understanding of common ‘psychic’ frameworks-Palm
Reading and the Tarot Reading. We also provide free psychological insight
quizzes to impress more sceptical people.
The fearlessness programme gives you all the knowledge and techniques
you need to be an expert cold reader. The benefits to this type of
knowledge are obvious. First of all, it might be to your advantage to
actually pose as a ‘psychic’. But, you can also apply the inhuman insight
these techniques provide to amazing effect in almost all areas of life. Just
imagine how a potential date will be impressed if you give a detailed
description of her darkest secrets within minutes of meeting her. Also,
envisage the impression you would on company directors and other
business partners as make uncannily accurate predictions about the
future direction of their business.
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M. Core social skills
Have you noticed the most romantically and socially popular people tend
to excel at least one of these skills? The very most popular probably are
probably strong in at least two. So, if you can become great at all of them
it will have a massive impact on your life.
Sexual selection occurs when one sex within the species (females in the
case of humans) has to invest a greater cost in terms of time and effort
when parenting a baby than the other -men. A man can play his part in
the reproductive in a matter of minutes. So if a man is sexually attractive
enough he could potentially father hundreds or even thousands of
children. But, the female has to carry the baby through pregnancy,
breastfeed it etc which takes many years. This means women tend to be
more selective in terms of sexual partners-they need to choose quality
very carefully because they simply don’t have the time to produce a large
quantity of offspring.
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These gender differences mean that the less choosy gender (men) spend
time competing from attention from the more choosy –women. When
choosing partners, women observe potential indicators of genetic fitness
i.e.: the chance that mating together will produce successful offspring
who will stand a strong chance of passing on their genes. People who
possess these indicators will be more successful at passing on those
genes. People who don’t possess them will be less able to find a partner
and their genes are more likely to die out.
The most obvious way of competing with your rivals is fighting with them.
So the ability to handle oneself in a dangerous situation is imperative.
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Women are generally attracted to strong males because they have
greater capacity to protect offspring in their vulnerable early years. There
is also a stronger possibility that their children will inherit this strength.
So, despite the recent advancements in human civilisation, violence has
not gone out of fashion and is unlikely to soon.
The mechanism by which humour attracts mates is less obvious but you
can see by observing those around you that it is a powerful tool. One
academic theory is that it increases status relative to sexual rivals by
humorously belittling them. There is usually some trait which is easy to
mock in any competitor; be it attractiveness, wealth or intelligence. If you
are especially skilled using humour to subtly insult others, then other
rivals will be deterred from competing with you in case you use your
abilities to reduce their own status in the eyes of others; including
potential mates. Being funny allows you to be 'top dog' without resorting
to wealth or brute force.
M6. The core social skills also increase your social status
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We also mentioned that the three core social skills will make you socially
popular. The psychological principle of association explains why your
capacity to defend yourself in dangerous situations and your romantic
ability determines your popularity levels.
In this context, the law of association states that when you are in a
group, outside observers you see you as part of that group rather than as
an individual. If you want to be seen as a tough guy who is good with
girls then hang around with a group of people who have that reputation.
So, if you can handle yourself in the street and in the bedroom then other
people will make you popular- because they will want to bask in your
reflected glory.
For humour the process is slightly different. People like other people who
make them feel good about themselves and jokes, since they mock
outsiders (the out-group), strengthen the bond between the insiders (in-
group) giving them a pleasant sense of social camaraderie.. Increasing
social bonds have a huge impact on your career success as well. As the
saying goes, ‘it's not what you know it’s who you know’.
Our programme gives you the aptitudes and knowledge you need to
massively advance your skills in each of these three areas. This will
transform your life in a hugely enjoyable and productive way. We can
honestly say that every social situation will become highly exciting and
agreeable as your mastery of these skills increases. Fearless comes from
knowing exactly what you are doing in every situation
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