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Professor Radley
Interpersonal change journal
Today is the day that I talked to my old best friend. Things change as you
age, and relationships tension. Hes been incarcerated for 3 years now and I
didnt expect a call. Made me uneasy. Today my puppy had hidden a 100-
dollar sandal belonging to my mother. As she came home she made a big
upset which made me upset. I personally dont like tension or aggravation,
and like a snake I strike first. I attempted to use strategy (managing
emotions) asking myself why I was upset, therefore leading me to ask my
mother why shes upset. A chain reaction. Her answer was just but horribly
loud. And I lost my nerve. And left.
Today I noticed john kept stopping to get soda refills. I understand that work
can be tedious but I dont think its necessary to constantly get them. He has
a grill to run, and tickets are piling up making orders 10 minutes late. It
made me angry and I said something. I commented thats a lot of bathroom
breaks which I thought was snooty. I stopped to evaluate my emotional
frustration in johns drinking. Rather than saying something more severe as it
continued I evaluated my emotions. Rather than letting it sweep me like a
wave, I became aware that I am becoming angry, and emotional volatile.
Which helped me make a logical consensus on why I was feeling that way.
Because I care about customer service, and the satisfaction of others. In
which happens in receiving food. (Beebe Part 2, pg. 241)
February 13th
Today I broke the ice in discussing me moving out. My mother seemed a little
disheartened by it, and some frustration. I had to describe how I felt about
the current situation. Assessing myself and explaining my stance on leaving.
The conversation was brief but I thought id try the next time. Disclosing.
(Describe Beebe Chapter 6, pg. 181)
February 17 2017
I pulled myself over today. I got angry, and before it was too late I was
blaring my horn, and driving crazy. Bad day honestly. I assessed my behavior
a little late, and found myself on the side. Just to let those people pass and
get away. A wrong lane changes and almost collision led me to act out rather
than evaluate my behavior. I was scared, which made me upset. Next time
Ill work on overemotional reactions (Beebe pg. 134)
My mother addresses me like Im still 10 years old. Shes explained its just
being a mother but its getting too much. We had an altercation that was
never resolved. I should have listened more but the way she was addressing
me made ma upset. I understand my windows and doors need to be locked.
But thats something I do always. I understand the concern. Instead of fully
hearing her out I butted it in with what I was frustrated with. I should have
just listened all the way even if its something I know like the back of my
hand. Yes, safety is an issue. I will work on more listening skills (Beebe
Chapter 5, pg. 128)
Summary:
My progress so far has been good, and bad. I would for the most part say
good. I say this because I am becoming more consciously aware of how Im
acting, and I dont feel I was there before. Although Im conscious in how Im
acting, there are moments where I let it all go. Usually something thats little,
but major can have a real impact on me. Whether its something someone
says, their tone of saying it, saying something but meaning something else,
not being able to express myself, and getting frustrated with others if they
can express their self.
My goals for the remainder of the semester are too keep calm. Thats
number one. I will begin using the other-oriented strategy to help me be
more mindful. (Beebe Part 1, pg.34) (Beebe Pg.25). Also, I will be
implementing strategies in relation to anger management, and
understanding my anger. I would revise my communication error by saying I
have trouble with expression and anger management In the section part
2. (Beebe, Beebe & Redmond, pg. 240-245)
References:
Beebe, Beebe, & Redmond. (2008.) Interpersonal Communication: Relating to
others