OurGoal:

UCM @ UBC
Ourgoalisthateachstudentwouldbegrowingintheirrelationship
withJesusChristandbecomeChristlikethroughregular,intentional
1to1or1to2timestogether.
OnetoOneDiscipleship
Werecognizetherearemanythingswedoacampusministrythat
cancontributetoapersonsgrowthintheirrelationshipwithChrist
includingChristiancommunity,largegroupteachingandworship
AGuidetoHelpYouinYourDiscipleshipMeetings times,andactsofservice.OnetoOneDiscipleshipcanbeagreat
helptostudentsastheygrowintheirrelationshipwithJesus.We
recognizethatasacampusministrywehaveonlyafewyearswith
eachstudent,thereforeinour1to1discipleshipmeetingswewill
focusonhelpingstudentsinthefollowingfourareas:

1. GrowintheirpersonaldevotiontoGod
2. RecognizeGodsactiveworkintheirownlivesand
becomestorytellersofthiswork
3. Becomegospelsharers
4. Becomedisciplemakers
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Discipleship:
THEFIRSTMEETING
Setthegroundrules
Atthefirstmeetingtaketimetotalkabout:
1. When,where,andforhowlongyouwillmeet.
2. Whatthetimewilllooklike(perhapssketchoutaplanfor
thefirstcoupleofweeks)
3. Whattheyhopetogainfrommeetingtogether(i.e.their
hopes&expectations).Howcouldyouhelpthemintheir
walkwithChrist?(i.e.prayregularlyforthem,helpthem
developregulardevotions,beasoundingboardtotheir
questionsaboutfaith)
4. Invitethepersontosharehowtheycametofaith.Iftime
permitsshareyourtestimony.
5. Endeachdiscipleshipmeetingbyprayingforeachother
BIWEEKLY/WEEKLYMEETINGS:
OngoingDiscipleship
1. AskthegeneralHowareyoudoingthisweek?questions,
andcheckinaboutstudies,roommates,etc...thestuffof
dailylife.(e.g.Areyoulearninganythingnewandexciting?)
Youwanttogettoknowthepersonandcareforthem.You
alsowanttodiscoverwhatGodisdoingandsayinginand
throughtheirlife.
2. AskabouttheirpersonaltimeswithGod.Askiftheyhave
hadanymomentswithGodthisweekthathavebeen
special?HasGodopeneduptheireyestosomethingnew
aboutHischaracter;aboutsomeoneinneedaroundthem
thattheycanhelp;aboutsinintheirlife?Havetherebeen
anymomentstopraiseHimthisweek?OrquestionHim?
3. Beginteaching/modelingtothemhowtodiscernGods
workinandthroughtheirlife.Dothisbysharingwiththem
howyoudoyourdevotions.Youmaybejournaling.Show
themhowandwhyyoujournal.Explainwhereyouare
reading.ExplainhowyoureadtheBible(perhapsyouread
daily,sectionbysectionratherthanjumpingaroundthe
BibleresultinginnotreallyunderstandingtheBible).Share
whatGodhasbeensayingtoyouthroughyourdevotions,
prayertimes,Sundaysermons,TNT,Coreetc..Share
enoughtobeopenandhonestwiththembeauthentic
andreal.
 4. IfyouhavedecidedtoreadabookfromtheBibleora
Christianbooktogether,askthemaboutthereadings.What
stoodouttothem,why,andhowmightthatapplytotheir
life.Facilitatediscussionforthepurposeofprovoking
thoughtandgrowingknowledge.Letthemdiscoverinsights
aboutGod,life,andthemselves,buttakeanactiverolein
helpingtoguidethem.
5. Atsomepointinthetermchallengethemtomeetwith
anotherstudentandbegintomentoranddisciplethat
person.Oncetheytakethatstep,regularlycheckuponhow
itisgoingandofferhelporencouragementastheyneedit.
ContinuetoremindthemofChristscallingtomake
discipleswhereverwego(Matt.28:19).
6. Prayforthemduringtheweek.If,asaresultofprayer,you
sensethatGodisdoingsomethingspecificinthem,or
wantsto,thenyoumaywanttobringitupinyour
conversationswiththemtotestifwhatyousensedin
prayerwascorrect.
FOCUSEDQUESTIONSTOASK:
1. Whatisthemostimportantthinginlifeasyouheadinto
thisyear?(QuestionofCharacter)
2. Attheendofyourlife,whatdoyouwanttobeknownfor?
(QuestionofLegacy)
3. Atthisstageinyourjourney,whatdoyoufeelyouneedto
learnnext?(FocusonthePresent)
PRAYINGTOGETHER
Alwaystaketimetopraytogether,eitheratthebeginning,inthe
middle,orattheendofyourtimetogether.Thismaybetheonly
timetheyhaveforoneononeprayerduringtheweek,and/or,it
willhelptomodelforthemhowtheycanpraywithothers.
SPIRITUALSTORYTELLINGASSIGNMENT:
(AdaptedfromThirstyforGodbyBradleyP.Holt)
Attheendofthefirstmeeting,givethestudentthefollowing
assignment.(Note:Thisisnotthesameasatestimony.)
o Writeaboutyourlife.
o Drawalinethewidthofyourpaper,andputyourdateof
birthontheleftendofthelineandtodaysdateattheright
end.Markofftheyearsoftime.
o Thenmarktheturningpointsofyourlifeforexample,
whenyouenteredadifferentschool,moved,orchangedin
otherways.
o Givesimpletitlestothespacesbetweenthemarks,making
themthechaptersofyourlife.OR,makeamapofyourlife,
acurvingpathwithimportantchoicesormovesnoted.
o Then,considereachoftheseperiodsfromthepointofview
ofspiritualformations.WhowasGodforyouduringthat
time?Didyouhavespiritualexperiencesthen?Howdidyou
thinkofyourlife?Whowerethemostimportantpeopleto
you?Didtheyserveasspiritualmentorsorsupports?What
woundsorgriefsdidyousufferduringeachperiod?How
doyoulookatthemnow?
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Discipleship:
Ourdesireisthateachstudentwouldsetthefollowingpractical
goalsasaresultoftheirdiscipleshiprelationship:
o ConnectwithGodthroughthedisciplineofregular
devotionaltimewithHim.
o RecognizeGodatworkintheirlivesthroughthediscipline
ofpreparingandthensharingtheirowntestimonyand
testimonials.
o Areablewithconfidencetoexplainthegospelandshare
theirfaithwithothers
o Aremultipliersdiscipledsothattheyinturnareableto
discipleothers.
Belowareseveralpracticaltopicswithresourcesandgoalsthatyou
candiscussduringyourdiscipleshipmeetings:
I.CONNECTINGWITHGOD
Goal:Thateachstudentwillknowhowtheycanspendtimewith
God,andintentionallygetinthehabitofregularlysettingasidetime
alonetomeetwithHimandfeedthemselvesonHisword.Explain
whatadaily,intentional,timealonewithGodcanlooklike
Resource:UCMConnectingWithGodPrayerJournal.(Notethefirst
fewpagesintheJournalandgooverthemwiththeperson:
HowDoesGodSpeakToUs?
FourWaystoTestanImpression
StepstofollowintheuseofaPrayerJournal.
OtherResources:
24hourChristian,EarlPalmer
OutofSolitude,HenriNouwen
DailyDevotional
Sharehowyoumayjournalandtheninvitetheotherpersonto
journaltheirtimewithGodforoneweek.Youcouldhelpthem
followthepatterninConnectingWithGod.BesurethattheInsight
hasanapplicationparttoit.Asintoconfess,apromisetoholdon
to,anactiontofollow.(NB:Ifapersondoessomethingeveryday
for5weeksitbecomesahabit.Havingaregulardevotionaltime
alonewithGodisawonderfulhabittolearn.)

II.TESTIMONY
Goal:Thateachstudentwillbeabletosharewithothersabouttheir
journeywithGodandthateachstudentisabletoidentifywhatGod
isdoingandhasdoneinandaroundthem
Resource:UCMLeadersGuideA13SharingyourTestimony
Exercise:GoovertheUCMHandoutandwriteoutyourtestimony
andshareit.Askthepersonyouaremeetingwithtosharetheir
testimonywithyouusingtheformatfoundinthehandoutor
anothergoodresource.Onceyoufeeltheycanconfidentlyand
clearlyshare,invitethemtoarrangeoneThursdayNighttoshare
theirtestimonyataTNT.
III.SHARINGTHEGOSPEL
Goal:Thateachstudentwillbeabletoconfidentlysharethegospel
withpreChristians.
Resource:UCMSummitTrainingguide,CampusForChrist
Evangelistictools
LookattheUCMHandoutintheSummitTrainingguidetitled,One
VerseEvangelism.Bothofyoushouldbecomefamiliarenoughwith
ittouseitoranothertoolforevangelism.
RegularlypraytogetherforanopportunitytosharetheGoodNews
withatleastonepreChristianeachschoolterm.
VI.INDUCTIVEBIBLESTUDYMETHOD
Selectapassagetogether
Createobservation,interpretation&applicationquestions
forBiblestudypurposes
Identifywhatcouldusefurtherresearch
Familiarizewithtoolsandresources(eg.Bibledictionary;
lexicon)
Resources:UCMSummitTrainingGuide(StreamI&II),SICM
Binder.
V.TIMEMANAGEMENT
Goal:Thateachstudentwillbeabletocreatestrategiesfor
effectivetimemanagementandgoalsetting,andgetafirmgrasp
onhowtheyarespendingtheirtime.Helpthemmakesurethereis
timesetasidefordevotionswithGod,forthemselves,for
relationships,forstudies,forservice,forexercise,andforfun.
goalsetting(intentionalliving)
causesofwastedtime/ineffectiveuseoftime
strategiesforeffectiveuseoftime
Resources:UCMSummitTrainingGuide,ToolsForMentoring,The
PassionateChurchshapesoflivinghelps!
Exercise:Gooverweeklytimetableandidentifybusytimes/free
timesetc.Whataretheextraseachweekandwhatarethe
mandatorybits?Doatimeaccountabilitychartforoneweek.
VI.ACCOUNTABILITY VIII.SEXUALPURITY

Goal:Thateachstudentwillunderstandthereasonbehindseeking Goal:Thateachstudentwilltalkaboutandexplorewhatitmeans
accountabilityrelationships. tobeasexuallypurepersontoday.
accountability
reasonsforaccountability scripture
topicstocoverwithaccountabilitypartner articles
whotoseekoutforanaccountabilitypartner pornography,bodyimage,dresscode,lust,thoughtlife,
howfaristoofar?
Resource:ToolsForMentoring
Resources:
LaurenF.WinnerRealSex:TheNakedTruthabout
VII.SPIRITUALDISCIPLINES Chastity;
ArthurshandoutonWhySexBeforeMarriageisSin.
Goal:Thateachstudentwillgainanappreciationforthedifferent Sex&Dating(ToolsForMentoring)
disciplines: James&AmberstalkTerm2,2009

o Prayer
o Fasting
o Simplicity
o Celebration *Formoreideasonwhattocoverduring1to1discipleshiplookat
o Contemplation DisciplingObjectives,aresourceputtogetherbyUCMin
o Study,Etc Bellingham(copiesareintheoffice).

Resources:RichardFostersCelebrationofDiscipline,ToolsFor
Mentoring

Exercise:Pickoneofthedisciplinesandtryitoutthisweek.

 HopedforResultsfrom1to1 WhatContributestoMakinga
Discipleship: GoodDiscipleship

Itsimpossibletomeasurespiritualgrowth.Buthereafewhoped
Relationship?

forresultsforyouronetoonetimes:

OvertheyearsUCMleadershavesaidthatthesefactorsare
o MorelikelytoexpressthefruitoftheSpirit[Lovejoy,peace,
importantforthemin1to1Discipleship.
patience,kindness,gentleness,selfcontrol]


friendship
o HaveagreaterloveforGod
timecommitment

prayer
o Haveagreaterloveforpeople
encouragement

correction
o HaveagreatercommitmenttothebodyofChrist
honesty

authenticity
o Morelikelytoshareyourfaithwithothers
trust

mutualopenness
o Morelikelytodiscipleothers
freedomtoexpressdoubts
o HaveagreaterloveofGodsWord Biblestudy
teaching

goodmaterials
o HaveagreaterunderstandingoftheBible
regularmeetingtimes

internationality
o MorelikelytoobeyGodsWord