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The Woman Men Adore and Never Want To Leave by Bob Grant

What Guys Like. . . How Men View Women


and What They Really Notice

Bob Grant, LPC


~ Table of Contents ~

Introduction

Chapter One
First: He Notices How You Look

Chapter Two
Second: He Notices Your Type

Chapter Three
Third: Your Attitude Affects Your Type

Chapter Four
Fourth: If Women Only Understood this -
Men are Hard-Wired to Like Women
(they dont need to be perfect)

Chapter Five
Fifth: What Men Say vs What They Do
(in regards to the women they date and marry)

Letters & Notes from Women


Who Read This Book
~ INTRODUCTION ~

O ver the years, Ive written four books and a few articles. In
response to those writings, my staff and I have received
calls from some of the readers who want to speak with me
regarding their specific situation. It seems that the majority of
these women feel the need to convey to me that they are very
attractive or that they look much younger than their age.
What is interesting is that often, when someone feels the
need to emphasize something, they are usually a bit uncertain as
to their own belief in what they are saying. This phenomenon
can be seen from the man who has to tell everyone how smart
he is, to the teenage boy who feels compelled to brag about his
toughness.
Now this doesnt mean that those women who are saying
they are attractive arent. Rather, it tends to indicate that they
feel their physical appearance has to be close to perfection. Most
of this reasoning stems from the mistaken impression of how
men actually view women and what qualities men actually do
find attractive.
In fairness to women in general, its easy to understand why
they would think that men (perhaps all men) feel that the secret
to a great relationship is having an ultra-skinny, big-breasted,
beautiful woman, who forever looks like shes 27-years old. Its
difficult to dispute this viewpoint, when some of the most
popular magazines for men are www.askmen.com and
www.maxim.com.
Scroll through these sites and you will see that the women
they admire are very nice to look at. Nothing wrong with that
but what most women dont realize is that men notice more
about a woman than what you see in those pictures. Certainly
every man wants to marry someone he is attracted to, the same
as most women, given a choice, would choose a financially stable
man over one who is career challenged. The mens preference
doesnt mean that they hold such high standards for women
regarding their beauty that only a small number of women can
ever attain it.
In fact, Id like to take these next few minutes to show you
how men actually view women in regards to their looks, what
they think is attractive, and how it differs from some of the
information you are constantly being bombarded with in all
forms of the media and Internet.
~ CHAPTER ONE ~

First: He Notices How You Look

N ow it would be foolish to say that men dont notice


certain aspects of a woman more than others. Lets go
through the list of what he sees when hes glancing at you.
As mentioned before, men do notice your hair, particularly
its length. A mans biggest preference is almost always Long.
Dont just take my word for it. Patti Stanger, CEO and owner of
The Millionaires Club, says it even more forcefully, Men hate
short hair. I admit, thats a little blunt, but most women
realize that longer hair (as in shoulder length or longer) is the
preference of most men. This doesnt mean that short hair is a
turn off; rather, it just isnt as big of a turn on.

Yes and
Your Weight No
Will he notice how much you weigh? Yes. Is this all a man wants
someone skinny? No. As I mentioned above, men like the
shape of a woman, so having curves is actually appealing to
men. In fact, some cultures prefer a more full-figured woman
with extra weight, while others do not. Yes, some men will not
look at any woman who weighs more than 105 pounds, but that
is not the norm. What all men appreciate in relation to weight
is proportion.
The mythical ideal dimensions for a woman are 36-24-36, or
so we are told here and there. This is such a rigid measurement
that its a better guide for the fashion industry using precise
numbers, rather than the average Joe. What would stand out to
a man is a major deviation from those numbers. Such as a
woman whose measurements are 44-25-39 or 32-27-44.
The details I have just mentioned would be lost on most
men. Truthfully, they dont think about a womans weight
nearly as much as women do, unless she has a disproportionate
shape.

Yes
Your Clothes
The most obvious item that men notice/prefer is a dress or, more
specifically, a skirt, instead of pants. There are many situations
where wearing pants may be more appropriate or professional,
but you wont get noticed as much.

Nope
Your Shoes
Sorry but most men dont notice or care about this popular
female fetish. The only real thing a man notices in a womans
shoes is if she is wearing high heels.
Suffice it to say that the look is feminine. A good rule to
remember is the wider the bottom of the shoe, the less men like
it. Your comfy flip-flops that are twice the size of your foot
remind men of their mother cleaning the house. Just a thought.
~ CHAPTER TWO ~

Second: He Notices Your Type

I n describing your attitude, most women, in a mans


eyes, fall into one of three categories. From a mans
perspective, when evaluating a woman, he will try and
determine if Shes a Witch - Shes a Pleaser or Shes Expensive
Yes, men are that simplistic when it comes to evaluating a
romantic interest. Heres what they mean.

The Witch: Competitive...Over-inflated sense of herself...


Complains...Blames others when things go wrong, and, oh, did
I mention Competitive?

Now, you can tell from this list that these traits are very strong.
What men sense from this type of woman is that if they make
a misstep or do something to offend her, there will be hell to
pay. This is not the type of woman who easily forgives or takes
it lightly if shes being taken for granted. While these character-
istics are overall unappealing, there is something of a challenge
to this woman. She is hard to conquer. It often takes a supreme
effort of a man to persuade her to go along with what he desires;
and, surprisingly, to most women, men actually do enjoy a
challenge. The problem is that the challenge is usually nothing
more than trying to get the woman into bed. Once that has been
accomplished (perhaps a few times), the challenge is gone and
all that is left is the Witchy attitude.

Take Susan, for instance. She is tall, slender, and by


everyones measure, very attractive. When she walks
into a room, most men find themselves gazing over at
her. She is the essence of value. Men desire to see her,
meet her and ultimately seduce her.

Yet, with one look at her, most men realize that because
of her attractiveness, the competition to win her heart
will most likely be fierce. In spite of all these advantages,
Susan remains single and unmarried. Yes she dates
often, but while some relationships last years, none end
up in a marriage that she desperately wants. Susan, you
see, does not know how to be responsive to a man. She
has firm boundaries about what she likes to do and isnt
easily given to saying yes. If her boyfriend happens to
suggest something that she wants to do, she will
happily go along with it. But if not, she is unmoved.
From every boyfriends perspective, she is hard to
please, and yet she doesnt think so. In fact, she feels
she is quite easy to please so long as he does what she
wants.
The Pleaser: Easily Pleased...Prone toward self-doubt...Very
Giving...Accommodating...Rarely (if ever) complains...Blames
herself when things go wrong.

Men view this type of woman with a similar fondness they


might have for their favorite pet. Dependable and available
when you need her, but not very exciting. If they are upset, she
is most likely to say shes sorry for causing trouble. If he stops
pursuing her, she steps in with phone calls and gestures to
explain how much she cares for him. When he stops giving, she
gives even more. You can see the appeal of her. Shes often a
better mother to a man than his own mother was and, yet, its
too easy. Men want what they cant have and tend to despise
what comes easily. At least thats what James Dobson said over
25 years ago in Love Must Be Tough. Well, actually, we all want
that, but men, in particular, need to feel this way in regards to
the woman of their choice, especially to a woman like Allyson.

Allyson is, by most mens standards, neither striking nor


ugly. At five foot, four inches tall, she has an average
build with medium-length hair. If you were to ask any
of her ex-boyfriends or current friends to describe her,
you would hear such phrases as:

Shes very nice.

One of the kindest people I know.

She loves people.


Anyone who knows her soon realizes that she has a very
giving nature. Whenever she has a disagreement with
a boyfriend, she is the one who apologizes, for fear of
losing him. She is the one who bakes him cookies, rubs
his back, sends him emails and calls him. In some
regards, she is a better boyfriend than her boyfriend,
and in time every boyfriend ends up becoming bored
with her. Shes too giving, or put another way shes
too accommodating. While this characteristic is lovely,
in time, most men will not find it appealing. Her self-
lessness makes her appear less than confident, like she
has to be nice to prove shes desirable.

Expensive Woman: Sets limits with any man...Rarely raises


her voice to any man...Never allows the relationship to proceed
too quickly...Understands that Sex requires an investment...
Displays the Ability to be at Ease...Dresses in a manner that is
appealing to men not only women.

This woman is the essence of what men find fascinating. She


seems to have the best attributes of the Witch and the Pleaser.
She is rarely, if ever, sarcastic and seems to genuinely like men.
She doesnt have her guard up, because she trusts in her ability
to set any limit that is necessary. Thus, she doesnt take herself
too seriously. She is comfortable with her attributes, as well as
her perceived imperfections. When men see her, they often
describe her with this phrase, Theres something about her.
This phrase accompanies a woman like Becky. In college
she smiled at men effortlessly and almost always
appeared to be interested when they spoke to her. In
fact, she consistently treated both attractive and unat-
tractive men the same with kindness. The result of this
attitude was that nearly every guy on campus wanted
to go out with her, and most tried. If you polled most of
the men on campus as to what it was about Becky, they
would struggle to find a single word. Pretty would be
the most common phrase; but if you compared her to
other women her age, you wouldnt say she was the
most attractive. No, there was more to her than simply
her looks.

For some reason, Becky actually believed she was fun to


be around, and because of this belief, she was easy to
please. Even small gestures from men seemed to make
her happy. Men, it turned out, believed she was as
valuable as she believed she was. Because of this, if a
man ever took her for granted, he lost his chance with
her, as another man simply stepped in to take his place.

While no individual encompasses just one of these types, every


woman has a predominate type, one that dominates the other
two. It takes courage to become the Expensive woman but it is
well worth the effort. The Woman Men Adoreand Never
Want to Leave is a road map toward being Expensive forever.
~ CHAPTER THREE ~

Third: Your Attitude


Affects Your Type

H ave you ever wondered why office romances are so


powerful? So powerful, in fact, that many companies
have specific guidelines regarding romantic relationships
between fellow employees. From a mans perspective, the power
derives from the fact that often a woman he has noticed isnt
exactly what he would have chosen if given a choice. Yet what
often happens is a man begins to experience a female coworker
as he interacts with her. Perhaps she laughs at his jokes or seems
impressed with his ideas. She most likely dresses in outfits that
compliment her shape. In time, the idea of a relationship with
her begins to grow on him and he initiates a relationship that
has great professional risks to him. This is not to say that in
some instances a man does finds one of his coworkers extremely
attractive and wants to date her. It is to point out that that same
woman, who is gorgeous, can become repugnant in the same
mans eyes if she is a witch (or substitute another word). Yes,
your attitude does have more of an effect on a man than men
will let on.
What characteristics in your demeanor do men find
so attractive?
The answer is that the ability to be at ease is what men find most
attractive in a woman. In the classic book, A New Look on Love,
Elaine and G. William Walster reveal that when a woman is able
to act in such a manner that she would normally act around a
man she has no interest in whatsoever, this attitude is alluring.
This is one of the reasons the men you are not interested in are
so attracted to you. You dont care and it makes you appealing.
In fact, this aspect is one of the characteristics I describe in
my book, The Woman Men Adoreand Never Want to Leave.
Its the quality that some women have and some dont, with the
good news being that it is attainable for every woman.

What are other attitudes that stand out?


Well one that every man perceives as negative is how much a
woman complains. For many women, they feel that they are
simply processing or expressing themselves, but men often
find it nothing more than being negative. Men tend to view
complaining in this manner, Talking about something negative,
which you can control, and then not doing anything to remedy
the situation.
Please notice that the solution to this statement isnt for
women to simply be positive. Instead, if they are going to com-
plain about something, then they should do something about
it. Most men understand situations that are beyond your
control, such as the death of a loved one or a medical illness.
What is difficult for men is to be immersed in painful or
uncomfortable feelings and trying to cure them, since men dont
find as much emotional relief in discussing their feelings as do
women. When a woman is discussing her feelings and makes it
a point not to overwhelm a man with emotions, she is instantly
more attractive in his eyes. Its as though she understands men
and genuinely likes them, which is charming in most mens
eyes.
The effect of your attitude cannot be overstated. What many
women do not realize is that there is no such thing as inner
beauty or outer beautythere is only beauty. The thoughts you
think and the attitudes you embrace will always have an effect
on your physical appearance. It manifests in your skin, your
posture, and how often you smile. Medical doctors, who perform
Gastric Bypass Surgery, require the potential patient to undergo
a psychological assessment to determine if that person is an
acceptable candidate for having their stomach reduced. What
they know is that, often, those who are obese have a psycho-
logical reason for their excessive weight gain, even if there is a
physical contributor.
Yes, men do notice how much you like yourself. They cant
always describe it, but they can tell the difference after your first
sentence is uttered and this cant be faked. The quality I am
describing originates from your heart, not from memorizing
certain phrases. I have told many clients this phrase:

A man cant believe anything about you that you dont believe
yourself. If you think you arent pretty, then he wont be able to
convince you otherwise and, in time, hell stop trying.
~ CHAPTER FOUR ~

Fourth: If Women Only


Understood this
Men are Hard-Wired to Like Women
(they dont need to be perfect)

M any women feel men are so picky that unless they have
perfect bodies, flawless skin and, of course, huge
breasts, then a man isnt going to find them attractive. In all
fairness, considering what is displayed in magazines, on
television and on the Internet, its easy to see why so many
women especially those over 40 have this perception. The
truth is that men like women in general, not just the perfect
ones. Men have a natural predisposition toward the shape and
curves of a woman. This same characteristic is also what tends
to drive women crazy at times, All he does is look at my
breasts.
If you need proof, the next time you are at an airport and
have to wait for your flight (that shouldnt be too hard) notice
out of the corner of your eye the men near you. If you look long
enough, you will see that they are gazing at women. Not just
the ones most would say are stunning, but nearly every woman.
They may stare longer at one woman than they do at another,
but they stare, and its because they are visually stimulated. The
truth is that men are simply fascinated with a womans body.
They will do extraordinary things to gain access to it, some of
which are unsavory (as in telling whatever lie is necessary to
seduce a woman).
This is one reason why some men who are married to
beautiful women have affairs, and sometimes with women
who are arguably not as attractive as their own spouse.
Remember Hugh Grant cheating on Elizabeth Hurley?
Dont forget Jude Law cheating on Sienna Miller.
While these are but two examples, they reinforce the concept
that being a woman, alone, is more powerful and appealing to
men than most women realize.

Men have a natural


predisposition toward the shape
and curves of a woman.
~ CHAPTER FIVE ~

Fifth: What Men Say


vs What They Do
(in regards to the women they date and marry)

T he best evidence for all that you have read actually


comes from men themselves. For all the talk that men
do regarding what they think is pretty, it is important to
consider the individual man as opposed to all men. Some men
are so superficial that only a perfect woman is considered
pretty. These men are often considered narcissistic and shallow,
and their opinion isnt an accurate reflection of men in general.
If youve ever dated a man like this, you will know it by the
fact that when he is enthralled with you, his love seems over-
whelming. There appears to be no limit to the things he is
willing to do for you and his feelings seem so certain and strong.
Beware, though, because when he is not motivated, he becomes
detached and moody. He suddenly starts to notice any imper-
fection and the slightest annoyance causes him to lose interest
in you. This type of man is the wrong one for any woman to
take too seriously.
The men I am referring to are those who are not fragile and
self-centered. They may have their issues, but, in general, they
dont think women are perfect and they dont expect perfection
in their appearance. They enjoy how a woman looks and believe
that every woman can be beautiful. They really do just dont
ask them to say it. What is most notable about these men is the
difference between who they date and who they marry. While
they may pursue the woman who is thinner, blonder, or with
some other characteristic, in time they learn that when choosing
a life partner, pretty is more than what they see.
As one man put it, I dated this girl who was really pretty.
We were going out with some friends and I prayed that she
wouldnt open her mouth. It goes without saying that within a
week he ended the relationship. The more time he spent with
her and her negative attitude, the less attractive she became to
him.
Does all that youve read sound simple? Probably, but that
certainly wont make it easy. In fact, it is quite simple and very
easy to implement all of these insights. Some you might have
known, others may have been a surprise.

In my book, The Woman Men Adoreand Never Want


to Leave, I give readers an exercise that offers specific
instructions on how to practice becoming Expensive
women. Its fun, simple and, best of all, it will remind
you of how you should see yourself.
In Addition to learning how to
become Expensive, The Woman
Men Adoreand Never Want to
Leave also offers several additional
insights:

How to Listen to Your Heart


Your Secret Guide
What You Call Your partner, They Will Become
Why Working Harder Isn't the Answer
Why Men Dont Listen
The Only Reason Men Marry
Why Men Need to Experience Pain
The Stages of Forgiveness
What Men Crave the Most and How to Give It
to Them.

If youd like to discover all of these


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The Woman Men Adoreand Never Want to Leave


The Woman Men Adore: Preview of the Book

THE WOMAN MEN


ADORE

AND NEVER WANT


TO LEAVE

By Bob Grant, L.P.C.


Welcome to a preview for the e-book, The Woman Men Adoreand Never

Want to Leave. This book is the product of over 20 years of working with both

single and marred women of all types. Rather than continuing to work with

women one at a time; I wanted to share these insights with as many individuals

has possible.

My clients have told me what works and what does not. While these insights

have proven effective time after time, it is more than simply a book of insights. It

is a manual to practice. In time, what you read can change your life. I know

because every week I receive feedback from a client who tells me how different

her life is and how surprised she is that these insights have been helpful. So sit

back, relax and enjoy the first few pages of The Woman Men Adoreand Never

Want to Leave.
A Message from Bob Grant:

Have you ever looked at your relationships and wondered what was missing?

Perhaps you are like many of my single clients and have an active social life. You

date often and wonder why you cant seem to find that special someone. I also

work with married women who have found their life partner but realize they are in

a marriage where love seems to be lost. Well, I have great news for you. If you

would like to enhance your dating life, get married or spark the fire within your

marriage, this book was written for you.

During the past 20 years I have talked with thousands of women. Some of these

are excellent in interacting with men. They seem to have certain characteristics

that enable them to effortlessly cast a spell over the men in their life. From the

outside it appears to be magic. In the following pages I will describe to you what

it is they know and how you can act and think the same way as these women.

Some suggestions will be very practical while others will be more abstract.

Before you begin I have one request, as you begin applying these skills and

insights to your life, please be patient. It is going to take some time for you to feel

comfortable with implementing these new skills. In fact some of them will be

totally different than what you have previously believed about men and

relationships.

This book will present several PRINCIPLES which can apply to both single and

married people, and which can be used separately or in conjunction with one
another. In other words, you dont have to view the advice in this book as an all-

or-nothing type of plan. Simply read what I have to say, and when you find a

suggestion that seems to apply to your situation, try it.

Let me begin by stating something which will become very obvious as you read

this book; this book is for women. The suggestions, insights and the changes to

be made (at least at first) will need to be made by the women in the relationships.

This is by no means because I, as a man, believe that women are at fault for all

relationship problems. Nor do I feel that it should be the responsibility of the

woman to always fix the problems in a relationship. Its just that in my years of

practice as a therapist, I have noticed that women tend to be the ones who are

primarily interested in the development and improvement of their relationships. It

is far more common for me to see a woman in my office, asking for advice as to

how she should handle a particular relationship issue, than to see a man, or even

a couple. Women are simply more interested in the entire concept of relationship

development.

Most men view the relationship as, Fine, until there is a blow up. In a

relationship, the woman is typically the primary one who wants to improve,

develop and constantly grow closer. She is continually seeking new ways to

achieve this end, whether or not her chosen mate participates in her quest.
A man, on the other hand, often views a relationship as a race rather than as a

journey. For the typical male, a relationship has a beginning and an end, and

marriage is typically the end, or finish line. For men, the motto is, just get me

the girl, and Ill take it from there. Once marriage is achieved, your average Joe

will sit back and relax, assuming that he has won the race, earned his keep, and

achieved his goal. It will seldom, if ever, occur to him that he still has to work, or

that he might be expected to continue growing. For him, the hard part is over,

and its time to kick back and enjoy the fruits of his labor. Left to his own devices,

the typical man will never initiate couples counseling, because the typical man

rarely considers the need for it. Even if he does notice a NEED in the

relationship, he will probably be unable (or unwilling) to recognize what that need

might be.

Most of my clients are women but every once in awhile a man comes into my

office for relationship help. When guys ask for help in relationships, they usually

mean one of two things: either I end up talking to a single guy who wants to meet

someone (like joining a dating service), or Im dealing with a husband/boyfriend

who has made some poor (dumb) choices and needs to know the magic words

that will make everything okay again. Yes, ladies, Ive actually had male clients

come to me for that very reasonnot therapy or counseling (many dont realize

that there can be deeper issues)but some sort of catch phrase that will make a

woman melt. If youve seen the movie Roxanne, youll know exactly what Im

talking about. Believe it or not, that type of guy is far closer to the norm than you
may think. The fact is, I find that women have a greater interest and ability to

influence men than vice versa. My own clients back me in this belief, because

more than half of my married clients are women who come to me alone.

So, before you read any further, please be aware. As the woman in the

relationship, by following the ideas and suggestions in this book, you will be

asked to initiate the changes in your relationship. Whether your goal is to get out

of a rut, to repair a broken relationship or to simply find someone to share your

life with, you will find helpful advice in the following pages. After years of

experience this book is the net result of one thing, doing what works. By

improving yourself, you will be able to influence your mate or draw one into your

life. This is about positive changes you can make in yourself that will ultimately

result in positive changes in your relationship. These changes will lead to better

communication, more intimacy, and a better understanding of why problems

arise in the first place. That being said, lets begin!


HERE ARE SOME ADDITIONAL INSIGHTS YOU'LL LEARN
If the man is the head, then the woman is the heart
Listening to Your Heart.
Your secret guide.
What you call your partner, they will become.
Why working harder isn't the answer.
Why men dont listen.
Men marry for one reason, SHE MAKES HIM FEEL GOOD.
Why men need to experience pain.
Why receiving is for women and giving is for men.
The stages of forgiveness.
What men crave the most and how to give it to them.

Order your copy of The Woman Men Adoreand Never


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Next: Letters from Women who read this book


"Thank you so much!!!! I really enjoyed reading your book. I have been
separated for 7 months from a very angry man. We were married for 12 years. I
really want to do it better this time. I was searching for answers on how to do it
the right way and you have given me the answers in your book. I cannot tell you
how much I appreciate you. Thank you, I cannot tell you that enough. I have just
met someone and I am so excited to try out my new techniques. I plan to really
read your book over and over until I have it deep inside me and do it right. I will
let you know ... thanks again.... God Bless you..." Yvonne

"I came across the information about your book when I was looking for something
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