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ERWC; Period 1
Dear Community,
In this generation, gender is now an ever changing concept. Obviously, there will be
those who oppose the idea of identifying with gender norms that are not necessarily normal for
the gender they were born with, yet there is no reason to oppose with violence or hatred. Within
the different qualities of diverse gender norms in the community, it is important that everyone
feels safe and welcome. People of any age are pushed into these rules and expectations for their
gender from their lifestyle and actions to their education and logic. Yet this hard and strict
placement of appropriate gender norms for ones biological gender, as a society, can
negatively impact those who are identifying with different gender qualities at any specific age.
The minds of children are very malleable. They grow on a very monkey see monkey do
mentality. As seen in the community, you may understand the powerful influence that one alone
can have on children. This time period is very valuable in shaping who a child is. Because of
this, it is important we teach children to respect themselves and each other, no matter the gender.
In the documentary, The Mask You Live in, its said that the one thing a boy is taught not to do
by the age of 5, is to cry. This simple request can become very detrimental to any child, by
teaching them to bottle up their emotions, for if the cry they can damage this fragile idea of
masculinity at such a young age. What parents may not also understand is the power that the
education system has on children as they spend up to 30 hours at school every week. For
example in the article Honor Code by David Brooks, schooling fails to encourage those who
have difficulty staying focus to their education, and this tends to be young boys: The education
system had become culturally cohesive, rewarding and encouraging a certain sort of
person...many of the people who dont fit in are boys. This lack of encouragement will follow
the child through their education because the system fails to realize how detrimental it is to not
push all their students to be their best, specifically the boys who do have a harder time focusing
and staying dedicated to their school work. Some parents fail to realize how simple things like
this can affect the future of their child, and how they will grow to view or respect others.
Puberty for teens can be a time period of pure confusion. During this time they believe to
be finding who they are and what their place is in society. However this can be difficult to do
with the judgement of other teens who dont agree with the lifestyle of another. For example in a
video titled phylosophe with well-known author Judith Butler, she tells a story of a boy who
was murdered because of the femininity of his walk: ..[his] walk became more...dramatically
feminine, and they ended up throwing him over a bridge and they killed him. This unnecessary
burst of violence over something as a disapproval of a walk is simply inappropriate. This can
affect those who may struggle with gender norms, and make others feel uncomfortable to be
themselves. This is very important especially as teen who are struggle to find themselves as
people. Also seen in the documentary the Mask You Live in, teacher Ashanti Branch asks a
small group of males students to participate in an activity where they write on the front of a
mask, the qualities they show others at school, and on the back of the mask, the qualities that
people cant see. Many of the boys wrote on the front of their masks how they need to be seen as
masculine and always happy , and on the back of them, all wrote how they feel pain, fear, and
sadness. Society makes these boys feel like they shouldnt feel comfortable talking about their
feelings and as a result, they bottle it up and put a front. This often causes young teenage boys to
turn to violence and drugs to repress the sadness they feel. This idea of discriminating
uncommon gender norms like sensitivity to boys or masculinity in girls, has become second
important we limit the hate and disrespect in this age group as well. Women and men in
relationships are emotionally wrung through many trials, however we can take notice that some
of these things have started to become a bit gender specific. For example Deborah Tannen writes
in her article Cant We TalK?, that women are often too afraid to speak up in fear of creating
conflict. Now I understand why you may question how this is a gender conflict, however this
fear in women to speak p is the very thing that oppresses them as women. The lack of respect
women do receive when they try to speak their mind is the reason for their fear to do so. This
can not only negatively affect personal relationships, but also work related and public
relationships. Not only the idea of men versus women, but again the topic of sexuality according
to gender and masculinity. In a prelude to The Barbershop by Vershawn Shanti Young, Shelly
Eversley writes how in the barbershop, she feels as though her gender performance is judged
because, ... the barbershop is a masculine space, the performance of heterosexuality is the gold
standard. This meaning that in somewhere as common as the barbershop, men are in constant
competition to prove and validate their masculinity, and often homosexuality is anything BUT
masculine. Its quite discerning how a place to receive a haircut is also a place where one may
not feel welcome due to their sexual preference. Gender can be as different as an accessory one
decides to wear, and therefore can constantly change, but still needs to be respected others.
To conclude this letter, I would like to reiterate why it is important as a society to respect
everyone. Whether you are a parent, someone who struggles with gender norms, or simply an
advocate, we all need to focus on respecting others and approaching disagreements with the
courtesy of other peoples conduct. Not everyone in this community will agree with other
peoples lifestyles, but we are not a community without all aspects of diversity.