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Making Miracles Happen Challenge Day

The Vision: Creating a world where every child feels safe, loved and celebrated! Challenging You to Be the Change

The Gratitude Game


by Rich & Yvonne Dutra-St. John

A Monthly
Tag youre it!!! What schools, homes, families, lives, our relationships and
Newsletter are you grateful for? communities and in the our world be different?
world! Many of us spend
As 2005 comes to a close our lives feeling victim- What if Changing our
Published many people in our world ized by our circumstances, lives and our world could be
via E-mail by nd themselves gripped waiting for some great as simple as living our lives
by war, responding to politician, some knight in with an attitude of gratitude?
natural disasters, suffering shining armor or some
Challenge Day from oppression, poverty, superhero with a cape to Heres the game Our
depression, loss, even y in and change things. personal Challenge to you!
death. Still, regardless of This game has three steps:
January 2006 the circumstances, heroes What if we are all the
always arise. Heroes are heroes weve been wait- Step One Make a list of
human beings who rise up ing for? What if, simply at least 50 things you are
to the challenge, keep the by turning our focus away grateful for in your life.
faith and focus their atten- from the fear, negativity Be sure your list includes
Inside: tion on that which they can and doubt that can often the names of at least
control their own actions, ll our minds, instead we 30 people you love, re-
Teens Being the attitudes and behaviors. turn our intention toward spect, and /or appreciate
Change 2 that which lls our hearts, in some way. Notice how
Heros & Sheroes 2 Day after day we chal- starting with the people you feel making the list.
lenge young people and we love and the things
Volunteer of the adults to Be the Change we have to be grate- Step Two Choose one
Month 2 they wish to see in their ful for? How might our person from your list each
(Continued on page 3)
Coordinator
of the Month 4
Miracles Abound! 4 WOW! by Nola Joy Boyd
Calendar of Events 4 Family Reunion what an amazing program gotten into the habit of see-
Challenge Day this was. I also secretly ing each other through the
Circles of Change 5 hoped that the Challenge lters of these past hurts
Poetry Corner 6 Wahoo!! I was over the Days would be the begin- and comfortable with the
moon!! I was headed to ning of a healing process stories we created to justify
Circles of Change 7 Oahu, Hawaii to do Chal- that I so desperately these obstacles. The details
January Leader lenge Days at the very wanted to see among my of who did what to whom
Profile 7 same Intermediate (Jr. own family members. were not important, we held
High) school that my 3 onto them as if they were. I
How Can I Help? 8 younger sisters attended. Like most families, there was ready to change things
I couldnt wait!! I planned were rifts, scars and pain and wanted to be part of
to invite my sisters and from past conversations, the solution. I am a Chal-
other family members to events and misunder- lenge Day Leader, and in
attend the Challenge Days standings that had created my heart of hearts, I wanted
as adult facilitators so obstacles to closeness. my family to experience the
they could see rst-hand Over the years, we had closeness, love and connec-
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Teens Being the Change


I cant tell you how much people. I hope that when actually have been through
you have changed my I am old enough I can do a couple years of counsel-
life. I have recently just what you are doing. It is ing to help me learn to
had a break up with my such a wonderful feeling love myself. Since I went
boyfriend and I was down knowing that you made a to Challenge day I do love
in a big hole and I was difference in some ones myself. I cant believe that
having a really hard time life. I believe that is the I am saying that because
pulling myself back to the most powerful feeling I had a wall up for a long
girl I was. I know that I was ever made. I know that I time and now that wall is
Michigan Student meant to come and get to can nally hold my head down and I can be free!
Our January 2006
Teen Being The Change know my fellow students. high in school and not Student, MI
You are truly blessed be judged on my looks. I

Heroes & Sheroes


Gary Einhorns vision for happen themselves. They We met yesterday with
a Circle of Change has a did a school-wide appre- our school board super-
lot more to do with foster- ciation activity (complete intendent about getting

e
ing the spirit of challenge with owers!) for Thanks- a full-time paid school
day and bringing about giving, raised money for board staffer here in

B
Change
the
self-sufciency than simply
bringing more challenge
days to schools. He is
a teacher at Manzanita
a community activist, and
just held a Movie night at
school to raise money to
do school repairs. Like
Alachua County devoted
to assisting us with the
Be the Change Clubs
(which take a lot of sup-
Charter MS in Richmond, Yvonne says, they are the port) and the coordina-
Gary Einhorn CA and recently wrote: heroes theyve been wait- tion of our 30 Challenge
Our January 2006 Hero ing for. Yeah, GARY! You Days, and we think they
I am the facilitator for a are a HERO in our eyes! are going to do it! We are
Be the Change academy very excited about that.
at my school. There, our And from Alachua County, Yeah, Richard! You are a
kids are creating their own FL comes this email hero in so many ways!
visions of what they want from Richard Allen:
in the school and making it

Volunteer of the Month by Galaxy


We would like to honor Pat and two bathrooms. What
Dwyer as our volunteer of a transformation!
the month. Pat (husband of
our Client Relations Man- We are totally thrilled and
ager Jeri) not only got all have the most upscale
the hardwood materials do- kitchen and baths in the
nated for our new ofces, whole building! Bravo Pat,
he also donated his time to our Volunteer of the Month!
install them in our kitchen

Pat Dwyer
Our January 2006
Volunteer of the Month!
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The Gratitude Game continued from page 1


of the next 30 days. Then Step Three After 30 Day ofce restroom
act! Write them a card, days, take a moment to Youll Find What You Look
give them a call, look them
in the eyes, in some way
celebrate yourself and
reect on the experiences
For Choose Wisely.
What are you
communicate your feel-
ings as directly as pos-
youve had with those
you love and appreciate.
More suggestions on
gratitude Start an ap-
grateful for?
sible. Tell them how you Notice if the game made preciation journal, look
feel about them, the things a difference in your life. If for things to appreciate
you love, what you notice it did, we challenge you and write down what you Play the
and/or appreciate about to choose to start the see. Thank and appreci-
who they are and how they process all over again. ate people who serve you Gratitude
live their lives. Ask each
person you appreciate to Its been said that what-
in stores and restaurants.
Look for and celebrate Game!
join you in this game, to ever we focus on will grow. small miracles and acts
pay it forward by shar- To borrow a quote from of kindness and service.
ing this gift with others. the mirror in the Challenge

WOW! continued from page 1


tion that others experience a real Challenge Day As the day unfolded, the shared my ketchup soup
at every Challenge Day. experience. Then we did magic of this program and moldy crusts of bread.
Loud and Proud and by proved itself once more. They also shared the same
What actually happened the time Justin was do- We gently guided the fam- loneliness, neglect, and
was a miracle. On Novem- ing the I love my neigh- ily from one experience to hunger. They also had the
ber 27th, with Justin Trah- bor game, they were all another, from one activity same bruises and experi-
ant as my partner, I did a engaged and having fun. to another until they were enced the same shame. I
Challenge Day for my fam- gathered together for my also looked into the eyes
ily members. My brother, It had been a long time F-Word presentation. To of family members who
four sisters and their hus- since we played like chil- say that I was a little ner- never knew these things
bands, sons, daughters, dren and it was so exciting vous or feeling vulnerable happened. My heart lled
boyfriends and several to see my sisters, brother, would be an understate- with compassion for the
older cousins all gathered and brother-in laws, (all ment. I was going to lower little child in each of us who
for their rst Challenge 45+ years old, mind you) the waterline with those were present, and I knew
Day. It was everything I running full speed into a who meant the most to me that I needed to be the
had hoped for and so much chair across the circle. and who also had front row hero I was waiting for. I led
more. The day started out Even the younger genera- seats to the sadness and the way for deep sharing
like every other Challenge tion of nephews and nieces pain we all experienced. and Justin role-modeled
Day with me doing the had that family competitive We all had gone to great beautifully for the men by
Welcome. It was a little spirit and were poised to lengths to deal with our sharing just as deeply.
strange introducing myself grab a chair and defend it experiences in various
to people who used to from any other intruders ways, and now I was going Miracles continued
baby sit me as a toddler, or who might think to make it to talk about subjects we throughout the day and still
with whom I used to share their own. It was great to had quietly wished, hoped, are manifesting as of this
a bed (My four sisters watch and hearing all the or thought had gone away. writing. From their small
and I all slept in the same laughter coming from my group shares, to the Power
bed for several years.), family sounded so good to I looked into the eyes Shufe and into the Speak
but I wanted to give them my ears and to my heart. of the very people who Out, the wave of honest
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Making Miracles Happen

Coordinator of the Month by Amber Starre


Andrea Hillman coordinated Liberty High Schools rst Challenge Day in October of 2004.
Since then, Andrea has coordinated a total of seven Challenge Days and one Challenger
Program day, and has reached approximately 50% of the total student population!

After one of their Challenge Days last year, Andrea was asked, What would you tell a new
coordinator? She replied, Divvy out the jobs. Encourage others to make the recruiting
easier. The parents need to make it easier and Pay it Forward. Ask each Challenge Day
graduate to Pay it Forward and recruit one student to attend the next Challenge Day.

This year, Andrea coordinated four contiguous Challenge Days. She worked extremely hard
to recruit and organize all the details for the adult volunteers and participants for the four
Andrea Hillman days. The person who was supposed to co-coordinate the days ended up not being able
Liberty High School - Renton, WA to keep that commitment, and Andrea wound up doing a lot of the work herself. It was a
Our January 2006 difcult challenge, yet Andrea was successful in all her efforts. The Challenge Day Leaders
Coordinator of the Month!
said, Andrea did wonderful, fabulous work coordinating the whole weeks program days.

Andrea, we celebrate you for all of your love, your gifts, and your efforts to create a world
where every child feels safe, loved, and celebrated! And we are honored to acknowledge
you as Januarys Coordinator of the Month!

Miracles Abound! by Nola-Joy Boyd


Hello. I was a volunteer at from the beginning to the When my brother offered
the Challenge Day at end of the day. The lead- up the suggestion that
Orchard Lake Middle ers were wonderful and we ask our sister Nola to
School in West Bloomeld, inspirational. Thank you for put on the Challenge Day
Michigan on December your program and what you program for our family, I
16th. I just wanted to let do to make a difference. said, I love you. I know
you know that it was an Julie Rodecker Holly you love me. Do you really
amazing experience and need a program to know
stunning to see the trans- that I love you? I dont.
Friends are miracles! formation in the students I always prided myself
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Calendar of Events
SAVE THE DATE! Sat- this amazing event, please we have added an addition- February 17-19, 2006
urday, January 14, 2006 contact Rodrigo at al Next Step to Being the Concord, CA
Please join us for our Rodrigo@challengeday.org. Change Workshop February March 31-April 2, 2006
Annual Fundraising Event Our Table Host Rally is set 17 - 19, 2006. Spaces are Ukiah, CA
called Inspiring Con- for Saturday, January 14, already lling up quickly. If April 28-30, 2006
nections Safe Schools 2006. This is an event that you are interested in join- Concord, CA
Caring Communi- you dont want to miss. ing us for this workshop, May 5-7, 2006
ties on March 4, 2006 please click on https://www. New Jersey
at The Westin St. Francis Challenge Day & Beyond!!! regonline.com/87288 to
Hotel in San Francisco. If you liked Challenge Day, register or contact JoDee at Annual Challenge
youll love the Next Step to JoDee@challengeday.org. Day Fundraiser
If you are interested in Being the Change Work- Saturday March 4, 2006
being a Table Host or you shop. We have had such a Next Step to San Francisco, CA
would like to be on the rush of people wanting to Being the Change Contact Rodrigo at 925-
team to organize the join us for this workshop, January 20-22, 2006 957-0234 to register as a
actual production of we are excited to announce Concord, CA Table Host or Guest.
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Circles of Change by Jason Martini and Jeff Duperon


Leading the Change in Paul Plamondon spear- and Ohio, has seen over youth through the work
the Great Lakes Region headed efforts which led 25,000 teens and another of Challenge Day!!
to 79 Challenge Days over 5,000 adults dramatically
Several decades ago, the course of three years, impacted by the work of Michigan resident Chal-
Margaret Mead said, A impacting the lives of over Challenge Day well on lenge Day leaders Michael
small group of thought- 8,000 youth! It was through the way to changing the Allen and Jeff Gabrielson
ful people could change the dedicated efforts of so world as we know it! have shown tremendous
the world. Indeed, its the many passionate people support and mentorship
only thing that ever has. which laid the foundation for In addition, the 2005/2006 towards the Circles of
Today, a group of pas- another powerful Challenge school year has begun Change in both Michigan
sionate individuals and Day movement to occur. another three-year trend and Ohio! This partnership
circles in the Great Lakes Thanks to the leadership that, based on historical has had a tremendous
region are committed to of Janet Tillman, David data, will see the Great impact on spreading the
creating a world where and Ellen Abramson, Jean Lakes region hosting at Be the Change movement
every child feels safe, Ritok, Debra Cooperstock least 325 Challenge Days throughout the region and
loved, and celebrated! and the dedicated efforts of during this period! We are country! Thank you all
so many passionate educa- especially excited about for your dedicated ef-
One of the rst Challenge tors, parents, students, and the growth of the Be The forts in creating a world
Days in our region took community leaders that the Change Movement and where every child (and
place in Michigan dur- number of Challenge Days have been actively promot- our inner child) feels safe,
ing the 1999/2000 school more than doubled during ing it within our schools. loved, and celebrated!
year. A small group of the next three years! Over We realize that our Circles
thoughtful people, led the course of six years, of Change must be ex- Peace, love, and happi-
by Yvonne Pappas, Joe the Great Lakes region, panded in order to impact ness during the holiday
Kraut, Ed Saunders, and consisting of Michigan the maximum number of season and always.

Miracles ... continued from page 4


that our family could hold it together no mat- ily that day, it changed the outlook I have of them. No
ter what the conditions, but I went along with it. more is Nola the only link for me in the family chain.

Something beautiful happened to our family and your My sisters and brother and I, along with our families, have
program made a good family... better. Justin and Nola maintained the open sharing of ourselves. We plan to
started the program with What do you want to come out spend Christmas Day together sharing fabulous food and
of today? I wished for accountability. A long time ago, indulging our inner child with games and gifts. So, maybe
my siblings, (not Nola), wronged me and no one came I did need this program to know that my family loved me,
back to apologize. Over the years I would be civil and because I feel so much of that now. Thank you so much.
polite, but withdrawn. Nola and I kept in close communi-
cation and shed boost my spirits. She refused to have
me disconnect, emotionally or physically, from the family, Our family and a friend of ours were going to The Happi-
even if that made her my only connection. I had, uncon- est Place on Earth to celebrate two birthdays. Because
sciously, become indifferent and apathetic to the family. of the huge crowds that were expected at Disneyland,
I thought it would be easier to keep track of the whole
Throughout the Challenge Day, I was honest and giv- family if we all wore our Be the Change shirts. Imagine
ing, but still cautious and not overly generous, that was my surprise when a woman approached me and said,
until your Power Shufe activity. That activity got me Are you with Challenge Day? I coordinated a Challenge
my wish. My siblings took responsibility. I took respon- Day in the Spring and the kids are still talking about how
sibility. And all we had to do was cross over the line. amazing that day was. We spent a few more minutes
I got to know what happened to my family members, together talking about her school and her Challenge Day
including my children, nieces, nephews, and in-laws experience, then we enjoyed a really HUGE hug and
that would never have come up in casual conversation. went on our way. What a great way to start a day!!!
They got to know whats been going on with me. I also Nola Boyd
know, too, that whatever happened to me and my fam-
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Poetry Corner
If You Really Knew Me
Anthony Young - 12/05
If you really knew me, Im fairly sure youd know That even though I have a house
That right about now Im terried, afraid of letting go Its often not a home
You see, theres a circle of eyes upon me Do I tell you I cant measure up
Waiting for me to share To what my parents want me to be
About who I am, and why I am That no matter how many times Im there for others
And all the masks I wear I cant be there for me
But theres just so much I cannot say Do I tell you about my hopes and dreams
Things are already hard enough My loves, my goals and all those things
How could I show my face tomorrow That it could bring my heart to sing
If they really knew this stuff? If you really knew me
My defenses are there for a reason
They get me through the day If you really knew me
They hold inside the tears I hide Youd know itd be a relief
So that people wont run away To nd someone to help me heal
And now theyre telling me to let these go From all my pain and grief
To drop the water line Because even though Im doubtful
But dont they understand, this is all I know Im hoping that Im wrong
How Ive survived through all this time That someone here will lift me up
So here I sit frightened, trembling and weak When Im not feeling strong
Praying they just let me be But how will I ever know that
All these things and more youd see If I dont rst take a chance
If you really knew me No party would ever get started
If we all refused to dance
If you really knew me So I swallow, take a breath, and raise my hand
Everything would change Not knowing what Ill say
Youd know that Im not like you Life is rarely ever easy
Youd know my life is strange But this is a Challenge Day
Youd be aware that when I say Fine In all these faces I see a chance
Thats code for angry, hurt, or sad To allow myself to just be
And then I might have to tell you the truth All these things and more youd see
About my friends, my Mom and my Dad If you really knew me
I just wish my life could be perfect
I wish I could be more like you If you really knew me
I wish I could smile and have tons of real friends Youd know I need your love right now
The way I know you do I need your respect and your full attention
But thats not that way it is for me So that I may allow
Somewhere things got out of control My best to express, to confess all my stress
Its true, some days its all I can do And address with success all this mess I repress
To stay in this body and soul And yes, I am blessed
And I dont want to complain, because although its rough To assess my distress, to undress my BS
Some have my problems times three Get this weight off my chest
All these things and more youd see So I guess its a test
If you really knew me Regress or Progress

If you really knew me And the choice is mine


Youd know I cant believe this is real I say when I drop the line
That a bunch of total strangers I can keep it all hidden or let it shine
Could care about how I feel But its my design
I mean, people who say they love me If you really knew me
Dont give me the time of day Youd know Im scared
And now Im supposed to bare my soul But right now I choose not to let that impair
And trust that its OK This great opportunity to learn and to share
So excuse me if Im a little slow To heal these deep wounds, to nally repair
In opening up my heart
Understand, this is all quite new for me If you really knew me
Im not sure where to start Youd know Im ready to be free
Do I tell you that so many times All these things and more youd see
I feel like Im alone If you really knew me
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WOW! continued from page 3


sharing, attentive listening, you really knew me youd
forgiveness and gratitude know my favorite saying is,
just kept getting bigger When its odd.it must be
and bigger till it washed God Wouldnt you agree
over everyone present. that this is pretty odd?
Not one single person left
the gathering untouched or I hope 2006 is lled with
unchanged. EVERYONE odd moments for you
felt safe. EVERYONE felt and those you love.
loved. And EVERYONE
truly felt celebrated. And Mahalo Nui Loa Kakou
isnt that what were about? e Challenge Day
What a gift it was for me, to Na Ohana Lake- Mc-
be able to do this with and Garry-Boyd-Mili-
for my family. Wow!! There tante-Paty-Benitez
are truly no accidents. If
The Boyd family
Challenge Day veterans!

January Leader Prole Shereef Bishay


Shereef was born and Seattle,WA. His experience belief about all my ac- I sit regularly in the
raised in Cairo, Egypt, includes a ton of amateur complishments. Vipassana tradition.
in an upper-middle and professional theater,
class Coptic family. training in Non-Violent I have a younger brother Ive made it a priority in
He majored Commu- who inspires me and my life to serve God by
in Computer nication whom I love dearly. continually opening
Science, and being myself to love and ser-
minored in a media- My father is a simple vice. I rmly believe that
Theater, and tor for the man, kind, generous, to be on this path, I need
went on to King County and loving. He walks to start with myself, and
serve a man- Dispute humbly with God every to surround myself with a
datory year in Resolution day, and knows how to community of truth seek-
the Egyptian Center. He love well. He is my hero. ers. Nothing excites me
army. For the has stud- more than the prospect of
next 2 years, ied Gestalt My family means the work in which I grow every
Shereef co- Therapy at world to me. day as I hold a space for
founded and the Esalen truth to unfold. Challenge
ran Career- institute, I spent most of my life Day is this work for me.
MidEast.com, and is growing up without friends.
an online currently en- I do not always suc-
recruitment company, rolled in a year-long coun- In 2005, I met the love ceed on this path, but
that operated in 13 coun- seling training program. of my life. Jolana. I my commitment to
tries in the Middle East. never imagined I could it is unwavering.
If you really knew me be this happy. My heart
In 2001 he moved to the you would know that: and mind are constantly I really like oreos. Really.
US where he managed blown by this woman. I
a test team for Windows I feel very proud, and feel closer to God when
and Ofce at Microsoft in still slightly in dis- I look in her eyes.
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About our Organization


Challenge Day is a 501(c)(3) non-prot organization committed to creating a world where every child feels
safe, loved and celebrated. Our award-winning daylong experiential workshops and follow-up programs are
designed to tear down the walls of separation, inspiring participants to live, study and work in an environment
of compassion, accept-ance and respect, and to truly be the change they wish to see in the world. Overall, the
aim is to increase self-esteem, shift dangerous peer pressure to positive peer support, and eliminate the ac-
ceptability of teasing, oppression and all forms of violence. Programs include the daylong Challenge Day
Program, the ongoing peer Mentorship and Challenger Programs as well as the powerful new Circles of Change
Program. Based in Concord, CA, Challenge Day currently serves schools throughout the U. S. and parts of
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