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Answering Strangers'
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Adoption
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When we adopt a child who looks Q: Isnt she a lucky little girl? the peaches to the potatoes. If we are
different from us, we generally feel What wonderful people you are! trapped into a longer conversation in a
we can handle the stares and loss of A: Were the lucky ones, to have supermarket line or in a social situation
privacy that go with the territory. We such a wonderful child! (and the children are old enough to
may find, however, that the frequent understand what is said), we have
questions and comments of strangers Q. And do you also have children several options:
and relatives sometimes annoy and of your own? Give a constructive response, then
worry us. At the heart of our anger and
A: Just these two. (This affirms change the subject.
anxiety is the fear that our adopted child
adopted kids as our own.)
will be hurt by thoughtless questions, Answer with, Im glad youre interested
or that their older siblings, who look Q. Are they REAL brother and in adoption. Let me give you my phone
less exotic, will feel neglected, but this sister? number and we can talk later. Can you
need not happen. call me tonight?
A: They are NOW! (This clarifies
It is reassuring to realize that even that adoption makes us a real Give at oblique answer, rather than a
seemingly insensitive questions are family.) direct one, if it seems a direct answer
nearly always well intentioned, and that to a particular question would be
they actually provide AN EXCELLENT Q. How could the mother have awkward for us, the questioner, or the
OPPORTUNITY TO EXPRESS OUR given up such a lovely child? children:
DELIGHT AND PRIDE in our adopted A: It was very hard for the Q. Do you have any pictures of
children (as well as in their siblings birthmother, but she just couldnt his parents?
who were born to us). The attention take care of ANY baby. (This
that our children receive is generally reassures the child that there was A: Oh, yes, weve got albums of
very positive, even when the inquirers nothing wrong with him or her.) our whole family.
choice of words is not ideal.
Q. What do you know about the
Our answers to questions about a
foreign-born child should also include
real parents? In a pinch,
any bio-kids who are present: A: Well, were his real parents,
actually, since were bringing him
humor can
Q. Where did you get this dear up. save the day.
little one? Where is she from? Q. Oh, of course--I meant the
A: She was born in Korea, and her natural parents. Responses such as the above can
brother here was born in Albany. A: We dont know very much about gently educate others, especially if said
(Most people will pick up on your the birthparents. How have you with a smile. BUT WE ARE ANSWERING
inclusion of the older child and been? How was your summer? PRIMARILY FOR OUR CHILDRENS
start including him, too, if you EARS. In the few seconds that we have
furnish answers about both to In nearly all cases, the questions reflect
pleasure and delight in our families, to prepare our response, we need
EACH question asked about the to make a quick decision as to what
adopted child.) and they can generally be answered
very briefly and cheerfully, with a smile. words will best support our childs
We can start early to practice answers If you are out shopping, it is fairly easy self-esteem, protect the childs privacy
that will AFFIRM THE CHILDREN, to avoid prolonging the discussion by about his origins, and/or clarify that
preparing for the day when they will be saying, Bye, now! and moving from adoption builds real families with
old enough to understand: their own children. (The
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